Episode #5: Releasing Beliefs and their Illusions

Our beliefs can shape our existence in many ways, from our language and work to how we carry ourselves and the actions we take. These beliefs can be acquired through a multitude of experiences and interactions throughout our lives. In this episode, we explore the various ways in which limiting beliefs can be acquired and how they can impact our decision-making processes. However, we also discuss a way to release these beliefs and choose what we want to keep or let go of.

Around two years ago, I discovered a method for quickly releasing beliefs that is almost magical in its efficacy. While I will touch on this technique towards the end of the episode, the primary focus is on walking you through releasing a belief that may be holding you back, regardless of how it was acquired.

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Transcript

Hi everyone. Welcome to another episode of Lighten Your Load. This is Tanille, your host, and we are gonna get into some things today that have to do with our belief systems. So many people are trying to change their beliefs to stop believing something and start believing something else. And there aren't any tools to do that.

So I'm gonna show you a quick little tidbit of my new protocol that will help you release a belief today in this episode. Let's get started.

Today, I have a very cool way to look at belief systems for you, and I hope that they feel much lighter and not so overwhelming. The way that a belief system can affect us is a lot like a hologram. So if you right now imagine a hologram in front of you. Just let something form in front of you. Don't judge it.

Whatever's there is fine. Is it a picture? Is it a movie? If there was a hologram in front of you, what would it be?  now, let that hologram become the entire room that you are in. So it goes from a picture or something kind of in front of you, like on a screen to all of a sudden you are in it and it's everywhere around you.

And pay attention to how you feel. , do you feel really peaceful? Are you happy? Are you tense or are you a little bit nervous? Are you checking behind your back, wondering what's back there? Or are you just enjoying this kind of neutral hologram? Holograms are so much like our beliefs. One second. You believe that they're a hundred percent.

and then once the truth of the origin of where it comes from is revealed to you, like, oh, actually this is just a 3D hologram, right? Then instantly, You no longer believe that that is your reality, that you are living in this room. That is a hologram. It's all gone because it's exposed and it feels like an illusion or a misconception, right?

So the picture's still there. It's still probably feels kind of real. , but you know where it comes from, so there's like, oh, no, no, it's not real at all. Like I don't believe that. Like it's cool, but I don't really believe it. Right. Is it a real reality now that you wanna operate in? No, of course not, because you now know that it is an illusion that it is coming from a projector.

And that it's not at all truth, so you're not gonna walk around like it's true now. When before you might have, right? You might have until you really started to poke around a little bit. But if you sat where you were, you might have really thought that was real. . So to strengthen this perspective on beliefs being very similar with holograms, I wanna talk about where these beliefs come from.

Um, of course not all beliefs that we have are some form of an illusion or false. Some of them are really true to us. Some of them are very much in alignment with us, right? , but a lot of times we find ourselves with way more of the belief systems that are limiting or false or. We're never true anyway.

We're not really sure why we believed them. They just, they're just not true, right? We've just like reasoned through those things and realized that, oh my gosh, I can't believe I believed that for 10 years of my life. Some of that just has to do with how our little brain works and others. It's our environment and our inner talks.

So because we tell stories to ourselves.  when we're experiencing either a trauma or a situation that we like or don't like. . And then others agree with us, right? We tend to find other people who wanna talk about the things we wanna talk about, and then we kind of reiterate each other's stories, and then we reiterate each other's belief systems.

And then sometimes we get those just because someone just told us in the first place.  and we just took it for truth, like they stated it. We were like, oh my gosh, that's true. Right? And then we just strengthen its realness. So the more we talk about it to ourselves, to other people, and then when others speak it for some reason, that's enough for us to feel like that must be true.

That belief can really get realistic, like a hologram can be, right? The 3D effects feel real, the things feel like they're really jumping out at us and so on. Like the correlation there is so strong because sometimes our belief systems make us believe that this situation or this situation looked like this when someone else who was there got a completely different perspective of that.

and that feels like either we're invalidated or they aren't acknowledging our emotions and how we really felt. But really it could just be that their belief systems.  created their perspective of that situation, and it looked completely different to them. So is it true that some people can just tell you that you're not feeling what you're feeling and just to completely invalidate you?

Of course that is a real personality trait that happens, right? We all know that that happens, but this is more of regular day-to-day life where we feel like we're not being heard or seen because our perspectives. We'll see a situation one way, and the person next to us will have a completely different list of beliefs and their perspective is completely different.

This particular belief, say we take the one from your hologram, it can feel so real that we shape.  all of our lives around it, depending on where it came from and the topic, right? Like where we go in life, what stores we go to, what countries we visit or don't visit, what family members we go visit or don't visit.

 Different vacation spots that we wanna be in or not be in. Ways that we categorize ourselves. That I'm not a beach person. I'm not a mountains person. I don't really care for this state or that state, or hot weather or cold weather. Now, some of that can be true, but sometimes that's just something that's said to you from one tiny little experience in your life, right?

One time you got to sunburnt and now you hate the beach, right? So they can be limiting from the smallest little thing. Or the biggest event that was really life shifting. Part of these beliefs can also shape who we talk to, what we read or what we watch online. It can determine how we interact with other people and even ourselves and what we say to ourselves.

So depending on what the belief is, it really can shape our reality because we are letting this hologram, if it's a limiting belief, especially. Tell us what is true and not true, and therefore we act from that. We all have so many of these, and I'm not saying that to like overwhelm you because I have them.

It's part of doing the work and healing ourselves, right? We're choosing what we don't want and what we do want as far as where we come from in life, what our subconscious is saying is true or not true. We get to choose that and so at the end, please hold on to the end. I wanna show you how to. Shift and change one of those so that you don't feel like these beliefs are just controlling you and you just had this flash that you have millions of them and you're picturing either your childhood or a traumatic phase in your life and you're just thinking, oh my gosh, you're really screwed.

No, not at all. So hang on till the end and we will get to how to release one of those. Where else can these beliefs come from? So like I mentioned, our childhood.  when our brains are just in this receiving mode, right? When you talk to a little and you tell them a story and they're like, really? Oh my goodness, really?

What else? You know, like if you have kids, they will just believe you blindly for so many years and it's so precious and it's amazing. And then there's a point right where they're like, are you sure that's. Who told you that? You know, they start questioning and reasoning because their brains are developing and they're not capable of doing that.

But for us, for you, your brain had a phase. Usually it's like what the womb to like seven or eight years old where you took things as truth, where everything was real. And a lot of times in that phase of life, Everything is your fault. So if something's happening really traumatic in your life at five or six, a lot of times your brain will say, it's your fault.

You were bad, you weren't good. That's the reason that happened, and that can be very, very traumatic because then it's all projected on you as a person. . So those primitive years really shape how we feel about ourselves, how we're spoken to things that are said around us about other people. We project that on ourselves, and so a lot of times our shaping of our.

Subconscious of belief systems doesn't really have anything to do with us as adults right this moment. It has a lot to do with how we were raised, and you still, if you're 30 or 45 or 62 or a hundred, you still have the ability to shift any of those that you want to, so you're not stuck with.  by any means, and you probably acquired a lot of really good ones.

So don't imagine all the bad things in your life and think that you just have this huge load, right? There probably are a lot of really good beliefs that you have. That you acquired by just being taken care of by being fed or kept warm by having a safe place to sleep by someone telling you good job, or getting an A in a class.

Like there's so many little things, right? If situations can make you feel like you have limiting beliefs, They also can provide really good things. Try not to focus on just the bad ones. I've done that and it's very overwhelming, but if you look at your life and look at the balance, you can view it from a perspective of just deciding that when the holograms become.

obvious when you just know, oh my God, is that really? Is that really what I thought? Oh my gosh. Then you just let that go and you just do it one at a time. You will focus on probably areas of your life at a time and really get into a few of 'em, and that's great, and you can really deconstruct and reconstruct those areas of your.

That's what everyone calls, you know, doing the work, working on yourself. It's really cool, but it doesn't have to be this big, stressful, horrible thing. It can be just taking it one at a time. So yes, our childhood is a big part of what we believe. It's usually about core things about the world, about ourselves, about parenthood, about males and females and families, about money and jobs and things like.

Number two would be what has said to us around us or about us. So when people label you like, oh, you're the smart one, or he's the really athletic one, right? So some people say those things.  sometimes as a compliment. Like he really is athletic though. Like he really, really is. But what they don't realize is that a lot of times that comes with an exclusion of the other things.

So if I'm the smart one, what does that mean? Does that mean I'm not a good dancer cause I'm a dance too? Or if I'm the athletic one, does that mean that I'm not like my brother who's incredibly tech savvy, like I could do that kind of stuff too. , there's an exclusion there when you categorize someone so much over and over and over throughout their childhood that they would grow up believing that they're just not good at five or six other areas of life because no one categorize them as that.

So sometimes those things that are said to us matter a lot, and not to every personality. To most what's said to us about us or around us is so big whenever we're young. As we get a little older, I think that they still can matter. I mean, I could be my age and hear something about myself, and that could matter a lot.

But if I heard something around me or even to me, I probably would. Reason with it first, right? And even if someone said something about me, I probably would take time to reason with that. So it's a lot different than when we're younger, which is great cuz we now have the reasoning ability to decide what we wanna believe and what we don't wanna believe.

So number three would be what we read, what we watch, what we listen to. Typically, we just believe those things. Occasionally we might not, if we're looking at it. The whole reason to kind of analyze it or from an interested perspective, like, Hmm, I'm just interested in what this person has to say. Or, you know, some people like to be critics and so they may not just take everything as truth, but I think some personalities can just, whatever they read, watch, or listen is truth.

Number four would be what we are told by those who we respect or we feel are just in some sort of a. We generally just blindly believe these people. So they could be our parents, of course, older people. So just in general, anyone who's older than you, just assume they know better. Uh, we're really taught that aren't we,

We're taught as littles that I know better. , I've already lived more years than you. Therefore, in this subject I know more than you do. Which actually trains us to. Be in tune with ourselves and to let the little kid tune in and feel for themselves what's true, and then figure it out. That's really hard as a parent to do, but that's a whole nother thing, right?

Anyone in authority, whatever you personally view as an authority. So it could be someone in your religion that is an authority, a teacher, just anyone in your life. Generally what they say. You just think, oh, really? . Okay. And you can pull that in as a truth. Number five would be,  most things from the womb till seven or eight, like let's just make that a whole category.

Most of that is gonna be considered Truth number six would be things that we tell ourselves to support our other beliefs. Like we have one main hologram that we got from say, five or six. These are all the background ones that we have told ourselves to kind of keep ourselves really comfort.  and they just support this big one.

like supporting beliefs, coping mechanism for the most part, and it's how our brain will try to support this thing that we feel like is keeping us safe. These belief systems can just feel like safeguards, like last time this happened, last time I was in a relationship, I was cheated on, and therefore men cheat.

They just. , right? So if you have that belief, then you'll find other beliefs that you tell yourself when you're talking to people or when you hear things that you will pull in and say, yeah, that is true, so that you don't have to let go of the belief that makes you feel safe, which is that men cheat. So you might find some that they're selfish or that, um, they act like children or they can't control themselves, or you'll have all these other beliefs there that will help support.

That just comes from our own mind going on and on and on about things that are bothering us. Right? Number seven would be what we are taught. So anyone who teaches us things, our parents teach us things. Religious leaders, family members, our friends, older siblings or older people around us that we feel like know more than us.

So school teachers, mentors, a college professor, coaches of any kind, anyone that we're receiving, teaching from. Even someone you have a session with, right? A practitioner of some kind, a doctor or something like. Number eight would be ourselves. We make them up often these beliefs to keep ourselves comfortable and feeling safe.

And this can happen during a trauma, during a situation that is really stressful during situations that are good, like, oh, okay. Well, um, that person really wanted to hang out with me because it must have been this. , right. I was really outgoing that day, so I think it's because I was acting a little bit more extroverted.

So I think to make friends, I need to be extroverted. And so if I'm introverted, I'm probably not gonna make friends. I bet. Yeah, I bet. That's it. And then our brain just reasons, and now that's the truth, that we think extroverts make friends easier, or introverts can't make friends unless they have extroverted moments or.

would be your version of this belief. If you think about how we gather these beliefs, it gets really ginormous, right? They start to feel like.  grains of sand on a beach, like, oh my God, how am I gonna pick one out? How am I going to get a group of them? How am I gonna find them around this topic of my life, like of anxiety or trying not to be so controlling, like I know that I need to do it to feel comfortable, but like I would like to be more chill.

How do I go find. On the speech of tons of grains of sand or pebbles, how am I gonna go find them and pick 'em out and then choose them? I will show you. It will be good. I promise. Each of these that comes out of these sources, they can be holograms. And if we know this, we start to look at our physical mind.

As not this brilliant thing that just must be all knowing so many times. That's all that we listen to are our emotions and this mind, this physical mind that just goes on and on and on. The mind can be filled with a whole lot of holograms with no truth behind it. No actual evidence or truth behind. . So doesn't this make sense?

If for a second you think about, I don't know, look at someone else's life that you, not to judge them, but just look at someone else's life that you know, like your spouse or your children, um, a family member that you know, and you can't figure out from your perspective why they haven't just pulled things together, gotten out of a specific situation.

Maybe they struggle with the same.  and it's been lots and lots of years and you just don't get it cuz you're thinking, oh my gosh, you just do A, B, and C and you just keep going and then you'll be fine. But oftentimes that comes from belief within them that feels very real and that all of this that they're in is a hundred percent real and is not escap.

and that's why they stay. So if you pull that perspective into yourself, so pull it away from that person into yourself and think of your own life and what area seems unsolvable for you. Is there an area that it's been years or months, or even weeks is fine? Is there something big right now that you just wish that you could just move through?

Like can this just be solved? , can you see a hologram in it? So if you were to close your eyes, what hologram would pop up related to this? And a lot of times your subconscious will just produce it for you so you don't have to think about what might be false or true. Just let a hologram pop up. In relation to this area, or maybe it's the one that you thought of at the beginning of the episode because sometimes things work like that.

So maybe it's the same one or maybe it's a new one. And once you're looking at it, whether it's a picture or a movie, and you can be fully in it if you want. Once it's there, can you form it into words? Can you form it into a belief?  or just one singular belief. If you can't and you're having a hard time making it into a belief, that's okay.

You can also ask your subconscious like, what belief is this? What does this stand for? Um, it can be something like, I'll never lose this weight. It's part of having diabetes or, my lot in life is not to be a millionaire. I'm just a working class man. Like, that's who I.  or I can't live the ideal life that I crave cuz I have a family to feed and house and I have too many responsibilities.

Or my mom and dad, they never loved me and they thought only of themselves. Or this house that I'm in, it's a hell hole and I'm never gonna be able to get outta here.

I wish that I could live on a beach somewhere, but I was born in Texas, so I'm just a Texas girl. We don't choose these at the time, usually that they become beliefs. We typically believe them from a perspective that we think supports them. We don't really truly look at honoring ourselves and saying, okay, is this truth?

Is this just a fleeting comment right now from my subconscious. And it too will just pass. Sometimes we just let them roll in and just think that our physical brain is all knowing and we have this new belief to just add to the programming, add to the database. We think that that tank subconscious is just brilliant, right?

This just must be brilliant, but in truth, it is simply just the database. It is an acquired. Batch of knowledge from our trauma, our situations, things we've heard, seen. And isn't this true? If you meet someone from a different country, even if they had similar situations to you, they could have a completely different set of beliefs because their experience was completely different than yours.

So doesn't that really prove this whole idea that truth can be different to everyone? . So the goal is not to find some meter of truth, and that meter tells me what is a limiting belief and what is not. The goal would be to find what feels really true. To you when you are connected to yourself. So not from a place of fear, not from a place of reasoning.

If this is a good idea, this is a bad idea. You know, if you've got anxiety or overwhelm and you're just, you can't really figure out if something is really good for you or not. If you are connected to yourself, to your divine higher self, that space will allow you to. , what is truth for you for your soul?

In the last episode, I talked about anxiety and being really overwhelmed and how you can come into connection with your higher self, and it's a quick little meditation towards probably the end. You could look at that and try that. So before you do this exercise, you might wanna connect to yourself, so you can go back to that episode and fast forward to the meditation part, and just allow yourself to connect to this divine part of yourself first, and then take a look at your belief systems.

So there you are, using this Divine Spirit mind, right? Not your physical database. I want to leave you with this because getting into more and more and more can just feel like a lot, but instead, I want you to focus on just one, just one belief. If it's the one that came up during the hologram at the beginning, or maybe when you asked for one to be shown to you, or maybe it's a limiting belief that you know you.

Like, I know I had either one of the ones, I said something similar to that, or there's something in my career right now that I just can't get past. I know I have a lot of knowledge, but I just cannot put myself out there, but I know that I'm really qualified. What is the limiting belief there? Is it that people won't accept you or people don't support you when you put yourself out there?

Like there can be so many with that, right? Let yourself attune to yourself.  and then ask yourself for a limiting belief. So find one of those holograms. One belief. So maybe your hologram is you living this life of like a nomad or something like that, and you are living wherever you wanna live. You're at the beach, it's beautiful.

It's where you wanna live for two or three weeks at a time, and you just feel like it's where I wanna. But I can't be there. Right? And maybe the belief tied to that is say, I can't live the ideal life I crave because I have a family to feed and I've gotta house them and I have too many responsibilities.

So you've got these two things that match, take the belief and just throw it into the hologram, and then reach over and turn the switch off to the projector. And if you need to take the projector and chunk it in the. , chunk it, the river, chunk it wherever it needs to go. Throw it in the trash, throw it in a black hole.

Let yourself turn off the illusion from that belief. And then I want you to tell yourself at whatever age that you think you chose, that does not have to be perfectly accurate, but maybe you believed this whole thing around an ideal.  not being able to really go chase after it. Maybe that came from like right when your first kid was born, like you looked in their eyes, they were born.

You're in the hospital and you're like, oh my God. All of my traveling days are over. It's over like we are planted for 18 years or whatever. I'm starting a family. This is what I'm doing now. Picture yourself at that age, whatever age that that is, and just tell yourself thank. Thank you for trying to protect me.

Thank you for picking up a belief that you thought was protecting me, that you thought was protecting us. I do understand how you believed that, and I'm gonna let that go because I don't need that for the rest of my life in this moment. You are. Supporting yourself, that's choosing the future, and you're also supporting that version of yourself that it really felt true at the moment.

So you're not mad at yourself, you're not telling yourself, that was crazy. Look how long we've believed that. You're just saying, I get it. That situation was hard and I understand why you believed that. Thank you for just trying to protect me right from future hurt. But I'm gonna look into the future now and we don't need that belief.

So doing this can be really simple. If the belief that came up for you was something that was just ready to go, something maybe you've been thinking about for a while and you're like, yes. Oh my gosh, I've been ready to be done with that. That was so easy. Thank you for the method done right. It can totally be that way.

Sometimes it's hard because what comes up is a belief that we know we should let go of, but it feels so true that we're not sure if it's true or not, and we're scared to let it. . So in this instant, if you had a really hard time turning the switch off, just tell yourself, if this is not truth, if this is not for my absolute best, then it can stay.

And if not, I'm gonna turn the switch off and it can go. And you're really trusting your higher self at this point to pick what is truth and what is for you, what is good for you. And this can take practice, but. Just be proud of yourself. You made the effort. You went there, you let it come. , right? You looked at it, and maybe you can't switch the light off till next week.

Maybe I need to think about it. . Maybe you need to really go back to that last episode and align with yourself and feel really connected to your divine inner self, and then you'll be able to do it. That's okay, but at least you know now if something comes up and you're thinking, I'm not sure if this is true or not, you can always use this little exercise to try and let it go.

And I realize that not every belief that we have is gonna be able to. Be let go of in this manner. This is a little tidbit that was shown to me. I had a lot of holograms around being a victim, and when I realized it about two, two or three years ago maybe, I was so overwhelmed at. , all of the sessions that I was probably gonna have to do with other practitioners or on myself to get rid of all of these things around being a victim, like a mom and a sister and a daughter, and, a woman and a business person.

Oh my goodness. They're just, it went everywhere. And so I got so overwhelmed. Of course. Within this victim hologram, I spent about two weeks just being overwhelmed about it and crying and just feeling like a victim, right? And then I remember sitting in meditation and just getting really quiet and asking, there's gotta be a better way.

what is a better way that I can release this without doing hundreds of hours of work on myself over the rest of my life? Right? I don't want this energy anymore. I'm done with it. I see that it doesn't serve me in any area of my life. How can I get rid of this? And.  over the course of the next few weeks I was shown.

Every time I sat down I was shown like more and more of it how we can release beliefs in seconds. It isn't actually through this hologram method at all. When I sat down to record this episode, this entire way just kind of showed up this other way that I was shown was, um, incredibly powerful. It. From believing like outta 10, zero outta 10, absolutely a 10 in all these beliefs that I knew I had to just in one second, just like that.

It was a zero. I do not believe that anymore, and it was so exciting to experience for myself. And then I started using it with clients and really trying to get deeper. , and it's taken me a while to see what it can be like for different people. So this is a little piece that you can use anytime. You can go here, anytime that you're able to see a belief.

Right? Starting in June, I'm going to be releasing a. Podcast membership where we are going to every month have sessions where we just release beliefs and they're gonna be around all kinds of different areas of our life. So starting in June, we're gonna focus on how we can choose to let those go.  in a really comfortable and safe space.

And really quick. So within the membership, you'll have private podcast episodes you can listen to. We're gonna have lots of different tools that are kind of in the works right now. So it's not all here for me to tell you about, but it will be a way that we can work through different areas each month.

And whenever you join, you can have access to all of the episodes all at once. So you can work through whatever you want to. But it is revealing this way that has been shown to me That is so beautiful and so easy and quick to just poof, let those beliefs be on so you no longer have to feel like you have this sea of beliefs that.

Are determining your days. Instead, you can look at them, you can choose and then move on with ease. So much ease, so I can't wait to share it. I'm even thinking about doing a beta group maybe in April. Just to help me kind of fine tune a few things around the group. So if you're interested, I'll have more information coming soon about that so that if you are interested in being a part of a beta group, then you can do that.

And then we might get into all of the things starting June 1st.  I hope that this episode was able to help you release something today, or at least be able to go back to it at some point.  if you need a little bit more time and release anything that is holding you back from being connected to yourself, from feeling like you can do something that you really wanna do, or just letting go of old things.

Old things that you no longer need, that people have told you are true or you are taught and you just, you didn't know how to let go of it, but you were. I hope that you feel so much better, and we will see you next week.