Episode #10: Grief: A Session and Perspective for Any Stage of Grief

Grief being a fluid and everchanging emotion, we have what we have been taught and then the unknown that we dive into after experiencing loss. Each person experiences loss differently and can be at any stage, anytime. 

In today's episode, there is a healing tool for any of those stages. You can use it right in the podcast episode and anytime after to heal the feeling of loss and grief. 

Losing anyone in our lives is hard and jolts us into feelings we have never experienced before. I hope today's session inside the episode (at 29:54) can bring lightness to what you are going through and be a tool you can use anytime you feel swallowed up by grief. 

I believe there are ways to walk through it that do have lightness and ease. I share that here and believe it can help you, like it has helped me.


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• 29:54 Session Starts: Connect with a loved one

Transcript

 Hi, everyone. Welcome back to an episode of Lighten Your Load. I'm Tanille Bruce. I'm your host, and we are going to do something today that I have found a lot of people have been needing, and that is some healing around grief. So let's get into it.  So I want to talk about grief today in a way that hopefully  brings lightness. 

So the whole point of this podcast in the first place is not for you to feel heavy and exhausted  and frustrated, but it's for you to feel lighter. That is what I've experienced in all of the work that I've done. So when we're working through something like a relationship problem, money blocks, friendship issues, it's going to feel like a season, right?

And there's going to be heaviness and lightness there. So it's not all good lightness all the time.  But hopefully when you do a session, meaning you sit down to focus on that thing for a short time, that is a session. You want to say, what can I shift here to feel better, to help the situation and to get out of whatever I don't like here. 

So when we experience things we don't want, that is just contrast. That is the opposite of what we want to be experiencing. That is different than what we want or like. So it's just contrast. And sometimes contrast feels completely.  Overbearing, absolutely taking over our life, and I think grief can be one of those things. 

It's right up there with anxiety, with  like losing a job and you can't get a job for years and years. That can feel so heavy and it's like it is now in charge. It is in the driver's seat of your life.  And with grief,  it is this feeling of loss, like a loss that you cannot go back from.  And as I'm talking through this, I'm not at all trying to trigger your feelings.

I know with grief, you're fine one moment, you're not the next. And that is not what I'm doing here at all. What I want to offer you is a different perspective that can hopefully bring healing to what you've experienced that has resulted in grief.  So when we experience loss, loss that we can't go back from, you can't get that job back, that parent or child or friend has passed, and they're, they've passed, right?

They have transitioned on, and they're not here anymore. And so from a human perspective, that feels loss. Right.  It's very encompassing and trapping because you can't do anything about it. You can't go backwards, whether it was sudden or you knew it was coming. It doesn't really matter. It's like, it feels final. 

And I think that that is one of the biggest misconceptions about grief and losing someone especially that it is final. and that we are cut off from them.  So in my personal life,  I have seen a lot of people around me lose a lot of people. And I don't know if this is just me, you know, whenever you come from a small town and then you move, you have All of the places you've lived, especially on Facebook and social media, you've gathered all these friends and all these people that you've known.

And so you see when people pass and you see everyone from your hometown and everyone that you knew experiencing grief and loss. And then you have family loss. I just recently lost my grandfather. He transitioned. And so that was a really big thing for our family. And then a family friend and then another family friend, and it just feels like it was compounding.

And I don't know if anyone else is going through this or has had seasons like this. And then  you have people on social media posting about things. And then there's in the news, these famous people that we Don't even know or have any connection to, but it's just a feeling of loss. And sometimes it feels like, holy crap, is there loss everywhere?

Is everyone losing people? And it feels overwhelming.  I think number one, it's going to be that way. If you know everyone in your town, you're going to know all the things,  right? If you get really embedded into a new community, now you have two communities of people that, you know, a lot of people in, and you're going to know when they lose someone.

Is it natural to lose grandparents? Of course it is. It's natural for that time in life to happen. And people are going to experience losing a grandparent or a great grandparent, right? Depending on how old you are.  And so that in life is normal, but it doesn't make it easier.  And so  what I've noticed is a strong feeling of this permanent loss and a disconnect from these people that we love so much.

so much.  And when I've watched and heard on Facebook and listened to people talk, and then of course experiencing my grandfather's death,  it is such a hard thing to watch people and listen to people feel and talk about this separation. They are no longer here. They are gone. I will not have them for the rest of my life, like that type of feeling. 

And I do think that this has come from a lack of connection  and a lack of being taught that there are other possibilities. So I'm going to offer you a different perspective. Of course, take it or leave it. If you don't care for it, toss it to the side.  But this is something that I learned a few years back, and it definitely shocked me.

I wasn't really into, um,  this type of teaching.  way of thinking about people that had passed away. But ever since I opened myself up and just thought, huh, I do know what feels right and what doesn't feel right. So I number one can trust what is a yes for me and what's a no for me. I can trust what feels good and peaceful and what doesn't.

So I allowed myself to be open to some of the concepts of what it is like for people after they transition. And then for us here.  with those people. And when I started to be open to either a session or an idea or reading about it and not just being petrified or scared or closed off completely,  I was able to gauge in those readings and listenings of what felt true and what was like, I don't know about that.

Right. So I invite you to be that way today while I give you this perspective in a short way just to kind of open this up for you to allow it to heal you and let you have more ease.  So I learned about the concept of communicating with people who passed over, um, just from like TV, right? You hear of like a medium or they have people on TV that are famous that do it.

And that was really all I knew about mediums.  I wasn't really keen to it. I'd watch it and think, Oh my gosh, that's so interesting. Right. That is the craziest thing. I have no idea what that feels like to communicate with someone or are they thinking it? Are they hearing their voice? Like what's going on there?

Right. I just felt like it was so odd  and  I never  got into it, if that makes sense. I never, Was into mediums, never went to a medium, nothing like that.  In my separate healing journey of working on myself, I had a few things come up that were generational and they were from people who had already passed away in my family line. 

definitely had passed down traumas that they had not dealt with. They didn't even look at them. They had no idea how to heal trauma back then. And so they didn't. And it got passed down to me and I'm digging it up in myself through pain in my body and different situations that I was going through. And here all of a sudden I'm faced with this person that I hardly know that is an ancestor. 

And I had a few different people that I trusted and had tons of sessions with, tons of conversations and everything always felt fantastic and good.  And I was able to be open to this person coming through to that person during a session. So they didn't call themselves a medium. They were just an energetic practitioner.

They helped people heal their traumas and situations and pain and they cleared spaces for people. And, Everything we store in our body, like all these different protocols I knew, believed in, loved, some of them changed my life. So it wasn't scary. And when these people started to come into the sessions and speak to these friends of mine for me about the things going on in my life, it made me  very aware  that the line between them and us is a lot different than I thought it was. 

I know in society, we're taught that they're gone.  All of the ceremonies are  goodbye, everything is forever until we pass.  Every religion believes that they're in a different place or their spirit's in a different place.  Um, it feels so permanent when you have to bury someone or do all these physical things, but nobody is talking about the spiritual energetic. 

Awareness that you can have from here, from here, the ability that you have  to speak with, talk with and feel these people.  So this was a slow evolution for me. They started popping into my sessions and speaking to these people like, Hey, this person wants to come in and talk about this trauma they had. 

And they're sorry. They didn't know how to heal it and that they've passed it to you, but here are a few details and you can ship this for yourself.  So at first I was like, Okay. Well, thank you.  I would just do the work. I'd feel the shift. I knew what that felt like. I knew when something had shifted in my life  through a session, whether it was a stored emotion  pattern I was doing that was giving me hip pain or knee pain or whatever it was,  something I had like overwhelm.

Over housework that kind of stuff when I shifted it I knew what it felt like when it shifted so it just kept going on and these people would show up and I would shift things and I  Realized that it was working  But I still wasn't ready to just start going to mediums or anything like that  And I never really understood why I thought well, I grew up in Christianity.

Am I freaked out by mediums? Am I weirded out? Like I just was never into it, but I had friends who occasionally leave Um, they just allowed themselves to channel whoever came through. So if it was a guide or an archangel or an ancestor, it didn't matter to them. And they were just a lot more open than I was. 

And over time, these sessions became so healing, so deeply healing because the generational change. Trauma that we carry  is so thick it's in our DNA. I don't know if you've ever read the book. It didn't start with you. It's, it's in us, right? That it stores energy in your body. And then those people have babies and then they have babies.

And then here we are walking around with grandma and great grandma and great, great grandma's trauma. You know, we don't mean to be, but that's, epigenetics is real and it is so strong and when you heal it, it's mind-blowing how you can shift so quick.  So,  I remember the very first time that this came through for me. 

I was on a walk and a lot of times I would start receiving guidance from the doctor. Just, I feel like it's like my guidance team is how I view them. They're, um, my guides have been with me my whole life. These divine guides that are just trying to help me through life. They're so supportive and kind. Um, they're never negative in any way.

Right. And then we have our angels that are always out there. Willing to help anytime we ask and I feel like I just am okay with these divine people who show up and I feel Very confident that I could feel something not divine. So I'm not worried about oh interesting That was so negative like, you know, I learned early on how to tell the difference So I kind of had gotten to a point where I was open to allow guidance to come in like hey I'm on a walk like I'm by myself. 

I'll take anything And my great grandpa came in and  I could hear him and I knew it was him. And  I was so shocked. Like, whoa, are you, or is this really you? Are you really trying to talk to me? And it was coming through like all the other guidance that I receive. It's very much quick talking, thoughts that are not mine, that are not from me.

Words I do not use. And it's to me, it's not, it's It's not taking over me, if that makes sense. It's just speaking to me.  And  I started to just say, why are you here? What do you want to say? I don't even know if I could really understand you that well. Like I'll try my best, but,  and over the course of the walk, I will never forget in my neighborhood where it started, a crow came at me  and I mean, like came at me where I ducked and it almost hit me and  Immediately I felt like it was him.

He was getting my attention and he didn't get close to hitting me, the actual crow. But I thought that is so bizarre. I was just walking in the one, do birds fly at your face in the middle of a neighborhood, you know, I live in the mountains, like.  Why, there's lots of space here. Why are you coming at me?

And I text my dad because I felt like it was him. And I text my dad and I'm like, do you, does any, a crow mean anything to you?  And, and it did. It, it kind of connected him a little bit to my great grandpa. I'm like, okay, I'm not losing it. Okay. I really feel like he's trying to talk to me. So I'm like, Hey, I think he wants, To talk to you.

Is that okay? And I felt so awkward cause I don't think my parents had ever had an ancestor speak to them from the other side in their entire lives. And here I'm like, Hey, I have a message for you. So I'm  doing my best to hear, to get it out. It was. You know, my great grandpa, I remember him a little bit, but I was young.

So it's just very precise and da da da da da da da da, just like talking, talking, talking, talking, and I'm trying to get it out. I'm just recording it. And I'm like, okay, I just want to say it the way I'm hearing it. And I didn't really know how else to do it.  And I  think my dad was just shocked. Like. Okay.

Thank you so much. If you, if you grew up in a small country town and you've never been around anything like that, the first time you get a message like that, I think you're just like,  Hey,  so of course I didn't blame him. I'm like, okay, well, I mean, it feels true. Like all the other things I've done and I've never done that before.

And if it doesn't feel good to you, that's totally fine. But here it is.  So that was a very interesting experience because it was  like, I was unsure about it. Then within about a half hour, I felt my grandma on my mom's side, like, well, I want to talk to you if you listen to people now. I mean, I just heard her straight clear and that is exactly how she was like, what about me?

What the crap?  So I call my mom at work and I'm like, mom, so I just channeled this message from my great grandpa and I just talked to dad and now your mom wants to talk to you.  And my parents are so cool, really from, we grew up, um, for generations and generations,  very, uh, in a, in a Christian like world.

And so this is not something that's normal, or at least not in the Christianity that we grew up in. So for them to just be open and trust me was really awesome kind of them. They were like, okay, well, what do they have to say?  So they listened to me and I told her all the things that she wanted to tell her. 

And  I tried my best to beat what I was hearing. And what I feel like happens when they talk to us from that side  is, first of all, they have a little bit different of a perspective than they did on earth. So they're going to have their. tendencies, the way they talk, their personality. Oh yeah. That sounds just like her, you know, or they might give you clues so that you actually trust it.

Because imagine if you crossed over, imagine if you passed and you're somebody's mom, wouldn't you be dying to just talk to your daughter or your son and say, Hey, I'm here. Talk to me. It's okay. It's okay. Let's like, I'll be with you in the car on the way to work. It's okay. Or,  I know you're struggling. I know it's hard because you can't give me a hug, but let's chat every day on your way to work.

I'll sit right beside you and just talk to me.  And I think that practice would open up full conversation. I really do. And the reason I say this is because I was the most closed off person to this and I had no ability of channeling beings or guides or, I mean, even whenever I was a Christian, I could never hear very much. I would have feelings of good and bad, but I wasn't hearing,  Oh, I heard, you know, the sound of God giving me sentences and sentences. And I was never able to hear. I was so disconnected from myself with shame and guilt and all these things that I,  I wasn't able to be clear and just hear and not judge.

And so believe me, I understand that that feels maybe hard. If you're feeling such a strong feeling of loss.  But I want to offer to you the option to do this. So it can be very light and silly and you can just be like, look, this is for me, okay? I'm just going to chat with you.  And if you have something to say, cool, if you don't, that's okay.

Um, but I think that I can imagine myself, doesn't matter what age I pass away, I will be trying to talk to my children and my husband.  I don't care if it's 10 years from now and he has remarried, I'm going to be talking to these people that I love and saying, it's okay. You guys are good. I love you. Live life.

Have a blast. Like I'm fine. You know, all these things, you're going to want to speak to them or guide them or do all the things you did from here,  but in a different way.  So that was the beginning of my experience. My parents were super open, so kind. I'm not sure that they fully were like, yeah, that was a hundred percent accurate to nail.

I think I was just like, listen, I'm trying my best here. And when they speak to us, they have such a different perspective than their earthly selves,  because they're looking at life a little bit different. Like, man. From there, I couldn't apologize, but from here, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. So I think there are some things that can be healed from their perspective there, because sometimes our physical minds and all the things we stored, all of our beliefs have us in a place where we can't  do healing work, or we can't go there with that person.

Right.  And then we cross over and we look at our life and, All of a sudden we're like, dang,  I'm really sorry. I really wish that I would have  resolved that, healed that. I didn't want to leave those regrets there on earth. I really didn't. So  my translation of those people and they're talking to me, I think. 

I'm, I've learned, you know, like at the beginning I felt like, I think I know what they're saying, but I'm not sure I have the words to translate it. It almost felt a little bit like a different language. Like I was trying to translate it. And I've heard people say they just get pictures or  they try and talk to them with things that they relate. 

Um,  either pictures or ideas or things like that, but mine is basically like a conversation. So  over time I've realized with over and over experiences of talking to people who've crossed over and some of them were people I knew, some were people I didn't.  Sometimes I'd be in a session with someone and I remember when this first started happening, I was like, Oh no, I don't do this with clients.

I just do this. Rogue with my family and they start showing up with clients. I'm like, okay, I'm just going to give this to you if you're okay with it. Um, and then it ended up being okay. And what they said was helpful and true and good for that person. So then I relaxed a little bit more and then more and more.

I allowed myself to say, Look, if I was that person and I knew that my loved ones were struggling, they were completely engulfed in grief, they are struggling to function, they have anxiety or they're struggling with their friends, or even if you're a grandparent and you're seeing your college daughter be lonely away from her family, wouldn't you just want to be there for her?

Right? So I think that they  very much desire for us to be open to being with them in a new way.  And I know that may be hard because you don't want to be with them in a new way. You want to be with them in the old way.  You want to hug, you want to physically, you know, see them, touch them and those things, but the spirit that made that body them.

Wants to connect with you and they wanna have a conversation and support you and give you guidance. So many times the guidance that wants to come through for people are their family, are the people they loved, a mentor that they lost, or a best friend or a sister or a mom.  Who else would you want to guide besides those people that you love so much, right?

And absolutely, we have guides that show up that we don't have a lot of connection with, or we don't remember connecting with, and that's true too. But these people, they're invested with us. They care about us.  So I want to do something  that will allow you to be open to do this. And it is just a perspective. 

Some people try this for the first time and they're like, man, I didn't really like see anything or I didn't hear anything. I don't really know. And then other people,  they may not have put.  Conceptually all of this, you know, together and say, Hey, this is what I believe and do. And I know all this and I'm, this is true for me, but  they definitely can say this time, this time, and this time, I know that person was with me because of this.

So some people just  have something that's tied to those people.  And the last thing I want to say about that is if you have. A certain type of horse, say, or a dog, like they had a dog that was, you know, a chihuahua. And so when you see chihuahuas, you see that person or their favorite flower was a rose. So when you see roses, you think of them, or it's something in the physical world that makes you think of them. 

What I noticed is that some people, when they have those days, that they come in contact with that reminder, they then have a horrible day because they're thinking of that person, they were fine, they were doing life, they had gotten back into the swing of things, and then damn it, they saw that rose, and now they can't function all day, and they're having a hard time, and they can't stop crying, and it's, you know, It's like, man, I was doing so good.

And then I saw that reminder. Why did I see that?  I think it is them encouraging us. I don't think that you see that horse or those roses on accident. I don't think that you run into that one flower or that one color of butterfly, you know, falls almost over and it's freezing outside and that butterfly flies in front of your car.

I don't think that's an accident. I think that they're encouraging us like you're doing awesome. You're doing great. Like Good job. Good job. So I don't think that they're there to set you back. I don't think that they're there to remind you that you lost someone or remind you that there's grief. I think that they want to communicate with us and tell us that they love us.

They're proud of us. And sometimes they want to offer healing to us if there were unsettled things. So of course you can always,  Have sessions where someone helps you with this. But  the honest truth I feel about all of this is you don't have to be called a medium. You don't have to be,  um, some energetic practitioner that does sessions with people and learn how I learned. 

We are connected energetically with people around us.  We know when our kids don't feel good. We know when they're about to call us, you know, like you think of them, bam, they call, like we are always connected to people.  And  I think that no one on this planet  is incapable of connecting to their loved ones.

I really honestly believe that. Now, are people.  that call themselves mediums  more practiced. Absolutely. If they do this all day for people, then  they have a system down. They know how they communicate. They are very aware of how people like to communicate with them on the other side. So it feels very flowy and, Oh my gosh, she said all the right things.

Those are, that's exactly what that person had. That was a secret that only me and that person knew. They're just, Practiced in being in the space to listen. I honestly think that's it. There is no reason why you can't connect to your mom that's passed away.  Not one reason, unless you think you can't or you won't. 

Now, this is my perspective and I know some people may or may not care for this, but  if you allow yourself to be open of saying,  I just want to connect to my mom, nobody else. I miss her.  I really want to talk to her. If this is true and I can actually feel my mom next to me, I can really have a conversation with her.

I can really feel like my mom is here with me. It's different, but I talk to her all the time.  Or  I felt her when I was getting ready this morning and I was doing my hair and she was, I could feel her old ways of giggling about my hair or about my makeup or she said something funny and um, and it almost felt like she was here saying that to me.

I really felt. Uh, like her presence or whatever. If it's things like that, then the loss diminishes  or changes into a different energy. It's a different feeling.  So absolutely the physical loss is there, right? That is no longer.  There for you,  but I don't believe that you have to live your whole life Disconnected from those people not communicating with them not talking with them not feeling them.

I do not feel that's true I have felt the complete opposite.  I've even had some people try to communicate with me that were mentally like They were on their way to death. They were close to death. They were,  um, just transitioning slowly. And I feel like they were kind of, you know, they say you pop in and out, like you sleep a lot and you're popping in and out of transitioning.

And that's for different reasons, if you're ill or whatever. And I even felt those people were communicating with me, even though they were physically on earth still.  So there's lots of different perspectives on death and transition and where people are after.  But I offer this perspective to you so that you can feel connected. 

You can feel connected to yourself. You can feel connected to your loved ones. And I want to give you a really short practice.  It's kind of a visualization. So, um, you can do it while you're going for a walk or whatever you want to do. Um, you can even do it in the car if you want them to ride to work with you in the morning or something.

Um, but let's do a little practice and I'll walk you through how to do it in a very easy way. And then you can work with this any time you want or do it your own way because this is your person that you know and you know what they feel like, you know what they smell like, you know what they sound like, right? 

So you can take a few deep breaths and just relax.  And with each breath you're letting out any of the emotions that that just brought up. So, anything that came to you, any feelings that you had, if your chest is tight, if you're sick to your stomach or anything like that,  take a few breaths and let go  of all of those feelings or frustrations or  Even strong feelings of grief that maybe  came up for you. 

Just take a few breaths and relax your shoulders.  Now, if you're driving, you're just turning off the music and you're just relaxing. You're just listening to this. You can do it with your eyes open. Absolutely.  I do it all the time.  Or you can be in a quiet space.  In your room, no noise anywhere, no distractions.

It's completely up to you.  I love going for a walk because my body is busy and it's moving. And then my mind for some reason can receive so clearly. So on a walk, I could get a whole book out if I could get right at the same time as walking.  So take some breaths wherever you are.  Our intention is just to connect with this one person. 

that we miss, 

even if they're alive, right? Even if, um, you miss your mom back home or something like that. You just want to feel your mom, right? She's back home in your hometown and you're somewhere else, or you've moved away, or you're in a different country and your whole family's at the other country. You just want to feel them  or they've passed on. 

So take a deep breath  and think about this person.  And if you can smile, Oh my goodness. I love your face. I love your dimples. I love your laugh, all these things about you. I love you so much.  You're the best husband, you were the best mom,  you're the best friend I ever had. You're just looking at them like, I love you so much. 

Now in your mind, you might have that they are somewhere else. They're across the line. They are up in the sky. They are  in a different dimension. Like whatever you believe, you feel like they're somewhere else. 

And ask them to 

be as close to you as they can.  Hey, I miss you.  I wish I could be with you so much, but I'm choosing today to be with you like this. Can we talk? Can I feel you? Can we connect?  Now notice if anything has changed. Do you have a feeling? Um,  sometimes we get like a smell. I feel like this is one of the main ways I know someone's around me is I'll smell their perfume,  but they're the only ones that wore that perfume that I know and they've passed away and I'll get a smell of it, right?

So maybe you're in your car and you smell your dad's cologne or you feel like Oh, the seat next to me doesn't feel empty anymore, like maybe he's here.  Or maybe you know, like, oh, they're here. I can feel them. I know what I felt like when they were near me and I have that feeling.  Maybe you can see them if you have your eyes closed and you're visualizing and all of a sudden their face is there and you feel like they're sitting across from you. 

You're like, Hey, it's so good to see you. I'm so grateful you're here. Thank you for connecting with me. Of course, if it's like your husband or your mom, you know, you don't even have to do that. You're just like, Oh my gosh, hi.  Now, if you feel really comfortable receiving from them, like talking with them, do it. 

Hey, I've missed you. This is going on in life and I'm struggling and I wish you were here because I want to talk to you about this. And then have that conversation with them right now.  Hey, work is hard. This happened at work. I wish you could give me your advice. Do you have any advice? 

And as you're driving and maybe you feel like they're in the seat next to you,  or maybe for somebody they're in the backseat for some reason, maybe that's where they always rode. I don't know. Maybe you always chauffeur them around  and they start talking and you feel like, Whoa, that sounds like the words they used.

Listen and receive anything you can, even if it's just a feeling, even if it's just you sitting here knowing that you're with them, you're connecting to them, you're feeling their love.  Receive anything that you can now, 

and feel free to talk back. Feel free to just have a conversation.  Oh, that's amazing advice. Thank you so much.  This is so new, and I do wish that I had you the other way. I do wish that you were saying this to me in person, but  this is so nice. Thank you so much.  You know, maybe talk about something else.

Did you know, you know, this and this is going on, and then I don't really know what to do about it. Do you have anything? that you can tell me about that. 

For some people it might  be helpful if you actually picture them having a phone and you have a phone and you can see them, right? They're maybe far away or they look like they're across the river from you or something, but you have a phone and you can see them, but you're talking to them through a phone.

For some people that feels a little bit more representative of them being on another side of something. So if you're having a hard time, try that.  Picture their face on a phone and you're on a phone and what do they want to say?  And don't judge anything that comes in. If you just get a feeling,  or maybe you just feel calmer,  or maybe right now you're having a full conversation with them. 

Don't judge what you're getting. Allow yourself to receive. Knowing that they just want the best for you. 

When you feel like you've received something, you can say, thank you so much. It was so nice to talk to you. How  am I going to know when you want to talk to me next?  And see what they say. Maybe you'll be surprised. 

Maybe every time you hear a fan, I'm going to be talking to you.  Um, when you walk into that room and that fan is on, I'll be there. Or  maybe whenever you go into your office  or when you go for your walks every morning. I'll be there, I'll walk with you,  or on your commute,  or I think I'd like to go with you to pick up the kids a few times, so if you feel me, I'm just there.

I love you guys, and I'm just walking with you.  Whatever it is,  receive their way of communicating with you, 

and you can say thank you, you  can open your eyes, I'll  take a few breaths.  I hope you feel better. I hope you feel lighter and more connected to that person,  no matter where they are in the world or  the universe. I hope you feel connected to them. 

It's okay to come back and listen to this piece again, and maybe you don't receive, um, a high or a feeling. Maybe they want to talk to you about something else.  And I don't think you need this recording to connect to them at all. I think anytime you want, if you're able to not be distracted and to focus, you can ask them to come be with you  to give you guidance,  to chat about something in life that you guys didn't settle,  to give you a feeling of support, like, I really just need to feel that you're there. 

Maybe your dad always put his arm around you or on your leg and patted you when you were upset. I just need you to help me feel that feeling of supported that you used to give me something very small, but I just want to feel you.  So you can do it really quick in the car before you go pick your kids up from school on that 10 minute drive, or you can go have a full conversation, healing moment in the morning. 

First thing, when you wake up with your coffee, you can do this any way you want, any time you want.  And it does take a little bit of practice to have a conversation if you're new to this. I remember feeling that way, like, Am I making this up? You know, but more and more, you really start to feel that authentic connection that you remember, you know, them, you know, what you felt like when you were with them and you know what they felt like to you.

And nobody is going to tell you what that's like, or if it's there or not, only you.  So trust yourself, trust your feelings, trust what feels true to you.  And I hope that you feel connected to these people that you were told by the world that you lost  and that you are disconnected from.  And I hope that now you feel like you have them with you anytime you want. 

You can talk to them. You can heal with them still. You can talk about all the things you've ever wanted to tell them. You can let loose on them. You can tell them how mad you are. You can do anything you want  and feel connected with them and have conversations.  And, Live through loss and grief a lot different than we were taught. 

I hope this helps everyone.  If you feel like you need a little bit more work with grief, feel free to contact me. If you want a personal session, I know some people really care for that guidance,  but if not, I hope that this helps you. And I hope that this creates a connection for you that you have on this earth with that person.

You guys have a wonderful week and I'll see you next week.