Holiday Havoc and Heartfelt Moments: Tales of Party Follies, Family Legacies, and Finding Joy in the Chaos

The holidays may be over but we can still reminisce! Our latest episode is an adventure through the festive season, where we share not only our personal mishaps but also invite you to join in the laughter. We kick things off with a dose of humor, discussing the subtle art of wine glass measurement lines and the familiar frenzy of preparing Santa's bounty. But it's not all chuckles and wine; we're cracking open the door to the more secretive, cringe-worthy office party moments that everyone has but few dare to recount.

Strap in as we take an emotional detour, navigating the complexities of family legacies and the choices that define us. We get real about the competitive spirit we've inherited and the resilience it's fostered, wrestling with the shadows of mental illness while celebrating the power of a positive outlook. 

Concluding our festive journey, we contrast the spectrum of holiday parties – from the subdued to the downright cinematic – and share tales that are just waiting to become legendary.  Join us as we celebrate the milestones of our podcast and look ahead to the stories that will shape our next episodes.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

sing.

Speaker 2: 0:02

We could sing, or we could say you're listening to Dumpster Diving with Janice and Jane and we are going to spare you all all the torture of us singing or music.

Speaker 1: 0:17

You know I have a melodic voice and you know how I know, Because I've told myself that many times and I don't lie.

Speaker 2: 0:24

You can keep telling yourself that so Many many Different opinions.

Speaker 1: 0:29

I've seen many voices in my head.

Speaker 2: 0:30

I've told me over and over again All the voices in my head Love them and there are a lot of them and they all took a vote and said I'm the best, so, but you know what?

Speaker 1: 0:41

That's okay, we'll spare our listeners this year. If they stick around long enough for next year, then maybe we'll sing to them. Next year We'll sing. It's Monday, by the way. You guys, let's set the stage. It's Monday evening, yes, and it's a week before Christmas. So we're way ahead of our recording in that we're getting this in a week before Christmas. Oh, my God. Well, christmas Eve, but hey, and it's Monday, a week before, and I have my wine, because it's going to be a week and it's already been a day. So, yeah, and you have. You have. That's what's happening. That's what's happening. Yeah, santa's got a lot of shit to wrap and I need to take my own advice in terms of the whole, like it doesn't all have to be perfect, it doesn't all have to be so. We have our to set the stage for our kids, because you've heard this, jane, we have all the stuff Not to set the stage for the kids to see. I see, I told you to set the stage for our listeners around the world.

Speaker 2: 1:39

Really getting out of control.

Speaker 1: 1:41

Right, let me tell you really quickly. So the wine glass I'm holding, if you're watching on YouTube you can't even really see it because it's blurred out. But it has three lines. The smallest line says good day. The second medium line highest line says bad day, and the highest highest line says don't even ask. And when I went to pour my wine it wouldn't go up Up to the Hollis line and so I felt really ripped off because that's what I want.

Speaker 2: 2:04

Well, now that you've drank down to the medium line, I mean, how are you feeling now about your day?

Speaker 1: 2:09

Fantastic.

Speaker 2: 2:10

No, fantastic.

Speaker 1: 2:11

Good Problem solved, but anyway. So the context is all of our kids. So Joe and I have six between us, of course, and our two grandkids will all be here between well, different times. They come in staggered between Christmas and New Year's. The first family starts coming this week, like Wednesday. My cousin arrives, thursday, oldest daughter family arrives and boom, boom, boom. Then we keep going from there.

Speaker 1: 2:32

So, yeah, santa's got stuff all over and stuff's got to get wrapped before they get here. And plus, my job wants me to work this week. I'm not really sure what that's about, but everything I am supposed to also be working. So fine too, they're stuff, man, they're stuff, they're stuff. But speaking of work, we figured we would entertain everybody today. We would. We would, right, yes, we would entertain all of our parties because we had our own experiences. We went online and did a little searching for no, really seriously, what's the worst? Office party stories? Right, we're sure you guys have yours and we'd love to hear them. But yeah, so that's where I am a week before Christmas. How are you doing a week before Christmas before we jump into our stories?

Speaker 2: 3:15

Oh, I have lots going on. A week before Christmas it's a busy week for me. We are dark at my tech center and so dark meaning we don't have.

Speaker 1: 3:29

It doesn't mean the power's been turned off.

Speaker 2: 3:31

It means no, no no, no, we pay our bills. No, actually the power was out yesterday because there was a fire down the street. Oh yeah, yeah, big fire. So they got it out, though before before, or that was Saturday before the team left, and all that fun stuff, crazy stuff, but no dark, meaning we don't have any youth programming going on for the new events or what happened.

Speaker 1: 3:53

Yeah, yeah yeah.

Speaker 2: 3:54

So this is my time as the director of operations to get all the stuff done, the repairs this is broken, that's broken, this needs paint, blah, blah, blah. And I go through this about four times a year. Every time we have a session and we have a couple of dark weeks and then it's time to get stuff done. Nice. So it's been a busy week for me operationally just trying to get all that stuff done. Payroll, you know just, it's a busy week. Time to stop. The world does not stop because Christmas is among us.

Speaker 1: 4:22

Really, doesn't man?

Speaker 2: 4:23

Doesn't, it doesn't. And my kids I remember when the kids were little. They're like you don't get a summer break and I'm like I wish Christmas break, like all those things. Like I don't, I don't get you do kid. But and it's funny because when I was a kid I didn't understand it either I'm like, yeah, of course not.

Speaker 1: 4:40

Exactly.

Speaker 2: 4:41

Exactly, but but yeah, the speaking of the holiday parties, I mean I think we've all had our fair share of holiday parties, and even through COVID. You know, my very first holiday party with the company I work for was via zoom and it was a ugly Christmas sweater party. And yeah, and it was like a month into me working there and I ended up winning the contest. I wore a giant Christmas gift bag. I cut holes in it cut the bottom out of it, but my arms threw it.

Speaker 2: 5:15

I had tissue paper all stapled, so I had tissue paper up to my chin and I had lights in the tissue paper and I had a giant bow on top of my head. Oh my gosh, oh it was great. And everybody was like you've got to be kidding me. They're like obviously it's like, I love it. I'm like this is for you guys. I don't, I don't know so, but I always love the competition of decorating or any type of contest and stuff like that.

Speaker 2: 5:43

Because you know what's the name of the game I win, so I I don't know where I get that competitive.

Speaker 1: 5:52

You know, I got accused of being competitive and we had our all stack meeting last Friday, so and I don't even know what I did, and somebody was somebody made a joke about me being competitive and I'm like, okay, I don't know where this is coming from, but now that you've said it, I'm gonna lean into it. You think this is competitive?

Speaker 2: 6:15

And then I proceeded to lean into it, so yeah, I don't know, I'm not a spiteful person or anything like that, but when it comes to winning or something I I like to win.

Speaker 1: 6:26

I like to win and I feel like we probably get that from the boxy jeans. I mean, we definitely have a good feeling about our father.

Speaker 1: 6:32

This is a common thread with you and I, so it must be our father it must be our father, which, by the way, you know, what's great about having a father who I've never met and who has been long gone now is that we can say anything we want.

Speaker 1: 6:47

You know people aren't gonna run to his defense. And but funny little tangential story on the 23andme side of this saga of ours is that when I was growing up, I stuck out like a sore thumb for my family, right Like I was good in school, I was athletic, I was all the things. Right Like I was the first person in my family to graduate high school, to go to college as far as I know, I'm the only one who's ever gone to college like a four-year university, etc. And and I stuck out like a sore thumb. And so, even to this day, people will say to me, given what you went through and given what your family was like like, how did you turn out to be like a successful adult? And I used to, prior to a year and a half ago, say it must be my biological father. And listeners, if you don't know what that's funny, you need to go back to the very beginning.

Speaker 2: 7:38

Yeah, you need to listen. You need to listen to all of that.

Speaker 1: 7:41

I'll listen to a few episodes.

Speaker 2: 7:43

Right, I used to say that too. I must get it from my dad, but you know he was fucked up, so I don't know. I think we hit the, you know with my mother and with your mother with the mental illness and stuff like that. I think it skipped us, you know, thankfully, thankfully, and you know, I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 1: 8:04

Skipped us and, honestly, who knows what it is about our genetic makeup that makes us more resilient and makes us, you know, have the ability to persevere and stuff like that. Unlike some of you know, I can speak for my siblings, that kind of stuff Like who knows. But in the end, I think what we've both done is proven that there's a lot in life that is about choice, right, right. And so, once you get to a certain age, right. And that's not to put a negative spin on anybody who's suffering or anybody who's still in it and trying to figure out the way out. Obviously, but you know I can speak for myself. I made a lot of hard choices along the way to be where I am today. Right, nothing was given to me, nothing was given to you.

Speaker 2: 8:44

Oh, and here's the thing too, we didn't make all the right choices Exactly. Oh my gosh, like I've made plenty of terrible choices. Yeah, and it wasn't until you know. I mean, I survived a lot of my early adulthood, my young adulthood, you know, I survived day to day and I figured it out every day and some days I still feel like I survived and I'm like how did I get through this day?

Speaker 2: 9:07

Like I just I don't know. Yep, but it's the aspect. I think it's the outlook. You know, outlook has such a huge factor in it and really where our energy resides. You know, I was talking to one of my youth clients today and he's such a sweet guy and we were talking and he was telling me about his perspective and stuff like that. And you know, I said, yeah, I get that and I know people that or it wasn't his perspective, it was somebody else's. And I said, you know, I could use my mother as an example, being in that. You know the coaching training that I went through. We talked about seven levels of energy, one being the lowest and seven being the highest. And I said, you know, my mother resides in level two energy, which is victim. Level one is I'm worth nothing. I don't see any value here, nothing. You know, I'm worthless. Whatever Level two is, my problems are every because of everybody else.

Speaker 1: 10:08

Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 10:10

And so and you hit level three and you start, you know, you're like, oh okay, I'm still kind of in the blame game, but I can sweep things under the rug and keep going. I can maintain a little bit and so on and so forth. But level two is that you know, I'm just pointing everywhere and saying it's all of your fault. And because he brought up the aspect of why do some people act so, so, like childish or whatever, and I said, well, you have to think about. I said I'll use my mom for an example. I said when my mother reacts to things, she acts like a 14, 15 year old child. And I said, and the reason for that is is because something happened and that point in her life that was either traumatic or obviously changed her perception to the to for her to think that that's the only way to do it.

Speaker 2: 11:04

She got stuck almost right, like she got, she got, she got, she got, she got Stunted at that age. In that, you know, I said so you have to think about the person, how they're behaving, if they're acting like a child, throwing a temper, tantrum, stomp the feet, doing all of those things. Think about what age is acquired, you know, like where that shows up and that's probably where they are mentally. In that moment they're stuck and I said and? And for people like me and you, where we can see beyond that and go, yeah, this sucks, but it's okay. Yeah, we have a different outlook, there's a there is no outlook, it is this is what it is. And so he was like, oh, wow, like I said, so don't always take it as they're just quote unquote, crazy or whatever you want to say. It's not that, it's just that that in that moment in time, that's, they got pulled right back to where they were. That's right, yeah, so you know, we, we have to remember that when we're dealing with other people and everything All the things.

Speaker 1: 12:06

No, I appreciate how you explain that and I can't already can't remember how I derailed us off into this.

Speaker 2: 12:12

But you know, hey, here we are.

Speaker 1: 12:14

Hey, merry Christmas. We're a week away, so I, yeah, I do value like being able to think about, kind of, where we are and where we've come from and all the things. So we're not, we're not going to get all melancholy on you today, you guys, we're just going to. You know, we're just going to think about these. So you started talking about your context this week and before we go into story, so the part we had a different idea for this episode for that's going to air on Christmas Eve or maybe sooner, because what the hell, why not? It's not like anybody's checking a box and going they did not. Nobody's holding a scatable.

Speaker 1: 12:47

Nobody's holding a scatable, so with that in mind. So before we go there, I will say that Jane started to comment on my hair.

Speaker 2: 12:56

Let's rewind yeah, I went on blurry.

Speaker 1: 12:59

Hold on, there we go. Try it again, there we go. So I went to my guy who does my hair a week ago, yeah tell me what happened.

Speaker 1: 13:06

His name is Bruce and he's fantastic. He does hair out of his garage. It's not the fanciest place by any stretch, but he's really good at what he does. And so I just said to him let's go a little darker, right, because I've been kind of long you know, it was the summer and all this stuff and I said let's go a little darker.

Speaker 1: 13:22

And then literally I start reading on my phone Like I don't, I mean, he and I chat a little bit and then he goes back, which is part of why I like him, because I, you know, I'm not the person who's like going to sit in a salon and like talk for two hours to somebody who's doing my not that it ever takes them two hours, but I digress Anyway. And so I look up. I was like, when the dye was still in it, I was like that is really dark. And he was like, oh, it's not going to be that dark. And now it's really dark. And so it literally I swear to you, this is at least brown. When I came out there, I swear it looked black. Now, interestingly enough, it is really as close to the color of my roots as any hair I've had in a long time.

Speaker 1: 14:00

So my hair is getting darker the older I'm getting but and so it took me a couple of days to stop like not hyperventilating its hair I don't actually give a crap that much but to stop going, oh my God, it's like shot. Like I literally got home by the mirror and my in my, in my bathroom, and I scared myself, right, because if you're not watching on YouTube you need to go watch it in YouTube. So yeah, but darker, so you know it'll grow and it'll lighten up. But he did say he said you know, because it was so blonde we had, like you, the hair will hold the color like I had to go dark enough to, and I was like dude, I'm good, like I, I always trust Bruce, so I'm like I'm good, it's fine, it's all good, it's hair man You'd have just freaked him out and said shave it off right now.

Speaker 1: 14:47

I can't tolerate it. So. But the cool thing about him, though, honestly, is he had a couple of guys waiting for to go next, because otherwise I could have said to him, what can you do? And he would have done something right. Like he takes good care of people, so anybody needs somebody for their hair in San Diego. I highly recommend Bruce. Call me for his number.

Speaker 2: 15:03

Anywho.

Speaker 1: 15:04

I'm not sure where the hair came from, but we ended up deciding on this. I think everybody's following and close attention to this conversation, because you had your office party, like a week and a half ago ish, two weeks ago. Yeah, I were chatting afterwards and you were telling me some of the stories, some of which you can share, some of which you can't, I'm sure, and I was like, what the fuck? Because I'm an educator, right. So educator parties, first off, don't have alcohol. Now, in my post-public school education, when we've had holiday parties, yes, now there's alcohol, but as an educator, there's no alcohol at holiday parties, right. So to hear you tell this story, I was like, okay, we're doing an episode now about what you guys are worse, or whatever you want to call them.

Speaker 1: 15:49

I looked up a couple of we can share, but we got to hear your story and the highlights, right, the things that are the big ones, because, yeah, like I said, I'm sure there's some things you can share and some things you can't.

Speaker 2: 16:00

Yeah, yeah, I am.

Speaker 1: 16:02

And was naked at the end of the night. Keep going, just wanted to. Well, come on, why the boiler?

Speaker 2: 16:07

The boiler. Oh gee, can you imagine? Oh my God, that's all the story ends. Yeah, it's so funny because you spend time with people at work more than you do with your own family. And so our smaller group, my team that I'm on, we have about 24 people and so we're all really close knit.

Speaker 2: 16:30

We actually had like a little lunch holiday party last Friday and it was fun. We did karaoke and we had Italian food and I decorated the tables and it was fun and we were playing music and just having a good time. We did a white elephant gift exchange, which I got, a really cool electric heated throw blanket, which is a nice little throw blanket. It's not one of the big ones. Yeah, oh my gosh, it's so perfect and I got it on a steal from my boss. Hi, yeah, so, but yeah it was. You know that was fun and we ended up staying, you know, until eight o'clock at night, you know, just trying to clean up and do everything, but it was fun. But the holiday holiday party for the entire company, which we have over 200 employees now, was off the chain, like we know how to throw a party. Let me just say that. Let me just paint, paint the scene here.

Speaker 1: 17:29

Yes, yes.

Speaker 2: 17:31

Oh my gosh. So we have this I think it's 13,000 square foot building, right Dutted, it's just brick and mortar, big, you know, metal beams down the middle, and we've turned it into we call it the depot, but we've turned it into an event space, and so we actually have this giant LED, like I think it's 20 by 20 giant screen hanging from the ceiling. We have pipe and drape, you know, we have a stage, and then we actually have a loft, which we call the mezzanine, which has a speakeasy in it. There's a little bar, you know it's super cool, right? So, but it may.

Speaker 2: 18:06

Normally it's just this big, open, empty warehouse, but we know how to throw parties, like we take great pride in throwing these parties, and so this year's theme was holidays around the world. Oh well, we had these, these things printed out with like scenery from seven or eight different countries. They were 20 by 10 banners, and then they were zip tied in between the big metal beams, and so, and then each one so there was one for France had the Eiffel Tower. We had a mime on a ball rolling on a ball, juggling things as you take.

Speaker 2: 18:41

Oh, my gosh, I'm not kidding. Like we had passports and you had to go to each country and get your picture taken and then that was one raffle ticket into where you won, like a trip to Malibu weekend, like, um, we had Antarctica and we had a girl in like a beanie and mitten and we had all these animals and it was like you know, we it looked like Antarctica with all the animals. And then we had Africa, where we brought in these these freaking resin animals and it was like the Serengeti. And then it was like we had a. We had a lion, a zebra, a baby zebra and a giraffe.

Speaker 2: 19:16

And we got to see like it was so cool, right. And then France we had like little bistro tables and stuff like that. We had India, we had Mexico, and then we had um, morocco was upstairs in the speakeasy. Wow, we had pillows and lanterns everywhere and it's just really rad, right. Well, and then we had food from all over the world. We had Nigerian Indian food, like I mean just all the food. I mean a lot of resources went into this party.

Speaker 1: 19:46

I was going to say holy crap.

Speaker 2: 19:48

And I was part of setting it up and and getting stuff done and everything else and taking it down and all of that stuff. So a lot went into it. Well, there was an open bar, as always at our parties, you know, but we are used to having an open bar with like a hundred people. This was an open bar with like 300 people, you know, and so and there was a slight problem which became very apparent to me towards the end of the night was we weren't serving beer, we were serving wine and hard liquor all night open ball that is so weird.

Speaker 2: 20:26

Well, they forgot, like the. Something happened where we were supposed to have beer, so normal beer drinkers are now drinking hard alcohol all night.

Speaker 1: 20:35

Oh God.

Speaker 2: 20:37

There was puke, there was, I mean oh my God.

Speaker 2: 20:47

There was. So here's the thing Me and my two besties outside of work and inside of work besties, you know they're oh my gosh, we have such a good time together. We were talking about it and one of my friends, Tammy, she's like you don't do things that you don't do at home, out in public. And I was like, agreed, Now, some people get drunk and crazy at home, yes, and they usually go to the holiday party, probably not, because you know, there's a lot of other things going on, right. So, and I was like that is great advice, yeah, A lot of people don't know that philosophy, I think. And so it was like people it was.

Speaker 2: 21:26

It was crazy Like I had one drink, and you know me, I don't really drink. I had one drink. I got like sweaty because my body's not using alcohol anymore and I'm like I need to go outside. But then we had like a pizza truck outside where they had brick oven pizza and they're feeding. I look over and there's this young man who you know I can't remember what department he works in A puddle of puke underneath him.

Speaker 2: 21:49

He's off the side of the chair. One of my employees is like patting him on the back, like, oh, it's okay. I'm like, what are you doing? He has no idea. You're there, right, you're fine. He needs to handle this. We have security in case anybody needs to get an Uber, whatever. So later on I'm walking out of one building into the building where we have Christmas party going on, and I look over and there and we had oh, we had Japan, where we had like the paper dividers and lanterns hanging from the ceiling couch, we had bonsai trees. I mean it was crazy. We took one of our couches out of my tech center and there's this kid again laying down with another puddle of puke on my, oh, my God.

Speaker 2: 22:34

And my other friend today was like Jane, we need to. I was like, no, we're not. No, this is not a problem, we can't. I was like, let's security handle it. So finally, like, and then he comes outside, they turn on one of those heaters and I hear some commotion. I turn around. He's laying on the heater, like leaned up on the heater. I'm like, oh my God, he's working himself, so I pull him off of the heater. I'm like this is when. Did this turn into babysitting?

Speaker 1: 22:58

I don't know Exactly.

Speaker 2: 23:00

I mean, is this kid going home? Please go home. But there were other things. The dance floor was packed, there was a lot of questionable things. I had somebody that's very much so in a relationship tell me that they were single for the night. Oh, and he was like, wow, oh, okay. And then a couple of people were getting a little feisty, like in the way of like almost fighting, because they're just drunk and aggro, and I mean it was, I mean everybody's fine. Right, it was a good time, everybody had a great time, everybody's alive, everybody's fine. But oh my gosh, I was like this is a lot of people to maintain, you know.

Speaker 1: 23:44

So yeah, In the moment, right. What's crazy about that is, like I love Tammy's advice about don't do stuff outside of your house that you wouldn't do inside of your house. The next step of that is, and you know, when my girls were younger and going through high school and into college, and you know, knowing that they're going to be drinking and stuff, the way we actually one of our expressions is don't be that girl, right, and we use it for a lot of reasons. For those of you who are really sensitive about gender definitions, I get it. I'm just saying, in this case, space and time, that was the, that's the expression we use and the idea is like in this case it was don't be that girl who's not aware of what she can and can't drink out of gathering and everybody else has to take care of you, and they've.

Speaker 1: 24:24

And since then, of course, they all had to take care of that girl and they're they only had to take care of that girl one time and they were like mom, you're so right, like that sucks to be the people who now we're not actually enjoying ourselves because we got to take care of you, because you couldn't manage your own, you know fun or whatever. So, yes, having to be like it's full on adults, right, who work for a company, it just like astonishes me, because I'm just like I can't imagine doing that in front of people I work with, right, like you said, like if you have your bestie who's at home and at like, that's a different story. Yeah, yeah, that's like. If you're there, like I, just that's insane.

Speaker 2: 24:59

Yeah, no, it was, it was. It was very entertaining, to say the least, you know. And but I've had other Christmas or like not Christmas, but holiday parties, or like celebration parties where, like employees end up in the fountain you know, of the hotel that we're at. I mean, I remember one. Well, this is. This is actually a funny story. This is my very first day at work.

Speaker 2: 25:21

I worked for a I don't want to say the company name, but I worked for in the tattoo industry and we had a certain rock star that was part owner of the company I worked for and he came to the party and this is at the time before he was no longer drinking or doing other things and early 2000s, and he was so drunk and there were so many drunk people and, mind you, it's a bunch of tattoo artists too. So, you know, it's just like let's party. So, and I got invited to the holiday party my day before I went to work, and so I go to the holiday party. Everybody smashed crazy, all this stuff. I have to be at work the next day at like nine. My boss is working with me, my brand new boss. She's puking in the bathroom half the day, you know, like totally hung over and stuff like that, and she's like I'm so sorry, I'm like it's okay, but they had. You know, it was a great time and it was a good day.

Speaker 2: 26:20

But it was crazy and they were getting wasted and that and they were. It was raining really bad outside and they were like running around and throwing, like pushing people in the rain and like it was nuts and I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to be working with all of these people.

Speaker 1: 26:33

This is oh my gosh, that is insane. I will say like, oh yeah. So after they, after you were telling me your story, since then we've had we had Joe's holiday party and I will say one of the things I love about how they do it is like it's a basically everybody gets two drink tickets, right, so there are two drinks on the house. After that you pay for them and I do think there's something beneficial in terms of people are likely to can keep track of what they're drinking, right when they're actually buying it. So I thought that was a really nice balance. And his, the guy who owns this company, was really diligent a couple of different times during the night, right Of like just saying out loud to people like we're paying for the Ubers, you know, like there's no excuse to overindulge in drive, there's no excuse to whatever. But yeah, comparatively it was rather sedate in terms of that right, like everybody was, you know, drinking and having a great time. They do. They throw a really great party. There's a casino, there's games, there's nice big prizes at the end, all that fun stuff. So they do a really good job. But but fairly sedate in terms of like the amount I guess that people were drinking and stuff.

Speaker 1: 27:38

But I will say you mentioned, like, the hotel and you made me flash back to when Joe and I first Well, not even first, we've probably been dating a year or two and he was in the Navy still at the time and he was stationed down in the Virginia Beach area on the East Coast and they had their squadron holiday party and at the time he was a part of a ship's crew, right, so 3,000 people on this ship, right? So it was huge, right, it was at a hotel. It was you know multiple floors, you know different like kind of like you like they had a, you know a DJ in one room, they had a live band in another room, they had you know all kinds of different like Latino music in a different room, like they all kinds of stuff.

Speaker 1: 28:21

But the Vivid memory I have because at the time I was a high school principal and so you know we're going to this, he's an officer, so he's in his full whatever I'm in like an evening dress kind of a thing, right, all the way to the floor and we walk into this, the lobby of this big party, and I look around myself and I look at him and I said we are fucking at prom because so many of the young sailors and their girlfriends and they're all like you know they're they're covering as little as possible, which that's fine, like from a fashion perspective. If that makes you happy, do you? That's all fine. But I guess I expected it to be a little bit different, because it was you know, and it wasn't at all.

Speaker 1: 29:03

I was like you didn't tell me we were shaper running prom. I do that already. I didn't eat it.

Speaker 2: 29:09

You're like you're quiet.

Speaker 1: 29:11

But everybody had a great time. It was just. But what was sweet about it in retrospect even though in that moment I was like, oh my god, these people are like as old as the kids I who go to my school what was sweet about it is it was like watching a bunch of young kids play adult. You know what I mean like play grown-up, and so that part was actually really sweet. Right, as they navigated, what you knew was probably their first like Adult feel thing, real thing, you know. So that part was actually really sweet.

Speaker 1: 29:38

So so yeah, yeah yeah, from good lord man and to your point on the dance floor, like you know, as a principal, when you shaper own dances, right, like I used to, for me I was very like I had a good rapport with kids, right. So like I would walk up to two kids on the dance floor who were practically having sex and be like we're not making babies tonight, like that's what I would say, right, like we're not making babies tonight. Like, and they'd be like sorry, mrs K, and then they back up from each other and then as soon as I walked away, they go right back to it, right, but, um, but there was plenty of that that night on the dance floor too, and I was like, not my problem, like you said.

Speaker 2: 30:14

This is not our problem. I'm like we we coordinated a lot of stuff. You know we assisted in many different ways, but that we are not assisting with not, not exactly All right.

Speaker 1: 30:28

So I'm looking at the time and I feel like I mean we could read a couple of these other awful stories, but I don't even know that we need to. I feel like right now it's like. I would love, though, in all seriousness, like when the 25,000 people who listen to this episode right away, because it's pretty big, right, the downloads right out of the, get pretty big. I would love for a few of you, like in the comments of the YouTube, of the YouTube. I sounded like I was a hundred, you know, on the YouTube, on the internet, you know, I mean Google machine, on the Google machine.

Speaker 1: 30:57

Oh, if you have a story that we just have to hear, put it in the comments of the youtube channel, because, um, we will share it at the top of our next episode, because, why the hell? Not right so, but uh, but just so fun, and you know we are staring down the face of Christmas. You guys, you heard us at the top of the episode. I am like in that super stress because there's so much to do, but it is honestly happy stress, right, like I am.

Speaker 2: 31:22

You know, I'm excited.

Speaker 1: 31:24

I love doing all the things. I am reminding myself, though, that I need to, like, let go of Perfect and I'm actually pretty good about that but there are times where I get so caught up in the details that I realize I'm doing it right. I'm like sliding into that, oh, but if I just do an extra little thing, it'll be this. That's stupid, right? Nobody cares, our kids are just happy to come here and hang out and be, and so, um, I'm gonna keep reminding myself of my mantra this week, heading up to it.

Speaker 2: 31:48

How about you? Yeah, I um, I'm kind of in that mode too and and I'm just finishing up some of the shopping for um, my older kids, emily and taylor, and um doing that kind of stuff. And taylor had a special request he wanted some real printed out pictures, you know, and stuff. I love that. I gotta get that done this week, um, so I'm just trying to pace myself and get that stuff done and not too stressed out about it too much. I have next week off the whole week, so I'm Me too.

Speaker 2: 32:18

Yeah, oh, my god, I'm gonna get some quality time with, um, jenny, jenny, and, uh, chase is gonna be in arizona, so she leaves friday. But my friend jenny, her birthday is next week and um, um, I'm not gonna be able to to hang out with her for her birthday. So we're going out this friday night, so I'm excited about that. That'll be. Yeah, we're going to this cool place in burbank and and it gets, and do something else afterwards. So, yeah, it'll be good, I'm excited for it.

Speaker 1: 32:46

So we know that, um, this is. We think this is our last episode before the new year, so we will see everybody In 2024, unless we decided to do something different, which we could who knows, you never know with us. Um, but this is our first christmas episode. How exciting is that?

Speaker 2: 33:04

first, Our very first episode was on January 1st of 2023, that's right. Oh, we, we may have to do like maybe, uh, uh, you know, quick close up a little, just maybe a little snid bit, just Congratulating yourselves on one year of.

Speaker 1: 33:25

Like I'm congratulating ourselves.

Speaker 2: 33:28

This is hard work all all year. You guys, you know we, we, we're nuts, I, we really are. We do so many things and we were able to crank out It'll be 30 29.

Speaker 1: 33:41

I think, I think this is, this might be 29.

Speaker 2: 33:45

Yeah, I think we should do a 30th episode. I think we need to commit to that.

Speaker 1: 33:50

I'm just okay, I love that idea. We should totally do that.

Speaker 2: 33:59

Everything about google and correct your attitude. This is gonna be a problem nice round, number 30.

Speaker 1: 34:05

Okay, all right, 30, all right 30, 30, 30.

Speaker 2: 34:07

I like it 30 minutes on the 30th, like it doesn't matter, look at you. You're so smart 30 minutes. 30th episode on the 30th. What do you think about them?

Speaker 1: 34:17

You're so smart, I love it 30, 30, 30 just text me I won't remember. All right guys. Happy holidays, no matter what you celebrate. Thanks for listening and we will see you on the 30th, evidently for 30 minutes.

Speaker 2: 34:35

Peace out episode. Bye.