Wellness In Every Season

Episode 143: Burnout Revenge

• Autumn Carter/ Suzanne Castle • Season 1 • Episode 143

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When life knocks you down, how do you find the courage to stand back up? In this episode of Wellness in Every Season, I sit down with Suzanne Castle, Chief Sparkler and founder of Suzanne Castle Consulting, whose story of falling—literally—on stage ended her career as a dancer and propelled her into a new path of resilience, decision-making, and guiding others through burnout.

Suzanne opens up about the pivotal moment that changed everything and how she chose healing, both physically and emotionally, without surgery. Together, we explore the lessons she’s learned on boundaries, self-care, and what it really means to pause before collapse. Suzanne shares how to recognize the signs of overwhelm, reclaim your right to rest, and use creative decision-making rooted in neuroscience to build a more sustainable life and career.

We also dive into her new book The Sparkle Effect, where 10 women share powerful stories of resilience and pivots that illuminate how to awaken your brilliance. Whether you’re an entrepreneur stretched too thin or someone seeking a healthier way to navigate life’s detours, this conversation will leave you with practical wisdom and inspiration to protect your energy and thrive.

You can learn more about Suzanne and access her free resources, including her self-care blueprint, at suzannecastle.com
. Connect with her on Facebook @suzannecastleconsulting, Instagram @suzannesparkle, and LinkedIn @suzannecastle.


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Episode 143: Burnout Revenge

[00:00:00] Introduction to Wellness In Every Season

[00:00:00] Autumn Carter: This is episode 143

[00:00:06] Welcome to Wellness In Every Season, the podcast where we explore the rich tapestry of wellness in all of its forms. I'm your host, autumn Carter, a certified life coach, turn wellness coach, as well as a certified parenting coach dedicated to empowering others to rediscover their identity in their current season of life.

[00:00:25] My goal is to help you thrive, both as an individual and as a parent.

[00:00:29] Suzanne Castle's Life-Altering Fall

[00:00:29] Autumn Carter: I have Suzanne Castle with me, and she has quite a story. She says that she was once a dancer and she fell literally and figuratively. In the middle of dancing on the stage, and it has created this huge life pivot, and it has led her on this journey to what she's going to be talking about today, which is burnout and decision making.

[00:00:58] She also has a [00:01:00] business called Suzanne Castle Consulting. And she is going to be talking about the professional world. I'm very excited for this conversation.

[00:01:10] She is going to get on in just a minute, but she has a lot of weather going on for her, so we'll see if her video can be on the whole time or not 

[00:01:19] suzanne, tell us your story. You fell on stage. I'm sure there's so many emotions going back to that. Like I feel the gasp just Yes. Going over that. So tell us there, and then your journey through that. 

[00:01:37] Suzanne Castle: It's been a long time, so if you had asked me decades ago it would be really raw and really real and yes, it would be very fresh, but had a long time since then.

[00:01:48] And yes, my sweet partner, I was in a lift. I was a ballerina at that point and in a lift, and he did his best, but slipped. On sweat or who knows what. And [00:02:00] I fell. He fell and I ripped most of the ligaments and tendons in my right ankle. And that was it. That was the end of my dancing career.

[00:02:08] Whether I had surgery or not, didn't matter. That was it. And so you have surgery and maybe you can dance again or you don't have surgery and you definitely don't dance again. 

[00:02:16] Healing and Career Pivot

[00:02:16] Suzanne Castle: I chose that I'm not having surgery route and let my body heal normally. I've had a couple of roles since then, but nothing arduous like I was doing, and my hopes of being on Broadway were dashed in that moment forever.

[00:02:28] And I think I came out of my mom's womb. Knowing I was going to be on Broadway and my dear sweet, very young parents did everything they could to make sure I was prepared to be on a stage and sing and dance and act. And so in that moment, having everything taken from you and all of your dreams dashed by the wayside, really was a wake up call because I didn't think that I needed a default plan.

[00:02:52] I didn't think about what it meant if that didn't work out, that just wasn't anything in my wheelhouse at all. There, there wasn't a plan BI. [00:03:00] And so from that, I really had to dig deep and think about, and of course, throw a really fabulous pity party along the way about what does life look like next?

[00:03:08] And how do I care for myself in the middle of a detour, pretty big detour and healing. And, I still heal. There's, moments now I'm almost 55. And there's moments now where days are hard to move. I'm pretty broken. Like I have really terrible knees, about the knees of an 80-year-old as of my last x-ray.

[00:03:31] And it hurts. It hurts to move some days more than others. And ke is a constant thing from your brain to your soul, to your heart, to your body. And I love being able to be on your podcast. Thank you for hosting me. And, just talk about what wellness means for each individual person. 'cause I think it is an individual path and individual journey.

[00:03:51] Autumn Carter: Wow. First of all, let's start with your age. I thought you were like my age. I'm turning 40 later this year. Thank you. [00:04:00] That's wow. And so how was it healing naturally? Not going surgery route. Any regrets? 

[00:04:09] Suzanne Castle: No definitely no regrets. So I am a big I will say from the default, and I hope you don't get any nasty grams from this, but I, am a big believer in Eastern and Western Med coming together.

[00:04:22] I think that is the best possible route for humans. Why would you not use all of the wonderful technology and education that we have from Western Med? But I do believe that for thousands of years, Eastern alternative medication has helped humanity. So why wouldn't you bring them together? And so for me, that's what I did.

[00:04:40] And I'm happy with that because for me, that was the best path forward for me and has led to everything I'm doing now. And I believe everything that happens to us in the moment, it may be really dastardly right? And really terrible and the most horrific thing we could ever imagine.

[00:04:55] And for me, every little thing that I have. Suffered and [00:05:00] endured and triumphed over has led me to really an amazing life. And so at this point, and I know that I'm not a person that says, oh, everything happens for a reason. I think that's a little trite, but I think I have said everything has happened and I have turned those happenings into what I need them to be right now.

[00:05:19] Autumn Carter: I like that. I try to silver line things and I have to remember not to do that for my clients that I'm coaching. Let them do that for themselves. 

[00:05:27] Suzanne Castle: Oh, absolutely. 

[00:05:28] Autumn Carter: But just finding meaning out of what happened and learning from it, is very, important. 

[00:05:34] Suzanne Castle: Yes, for sure. And I just got back literally just got back.

[00:05:38] I've been home not even quite 24 hours from leading a self-care retreat for my VIP clients. And so if, my clients work with me for a year, they get to go on a treat called dazzle, and I lead them in different places, different themes, and this one was self-care retreat and the mountains of Utah. All of these are major boss babes, all kinds of different industries.

[00:05:58] And of course you can imagine these are [00:06:00] people who do not know how to take care of themselves because they are burning the candles at every end imaginable. 

[00:06:06] The Importance of Boundaries and Self-Care

[00:06:07] Suzanne Castle: And one of the things that we talked about is redefining and rebuilding boundaries. 'cause I feel like boundaries is part of self-care and wellness.

[00:06:12] And one of the things that we talked about a lot is the boundary and wellness that you needed five years ago is probably not the boundary and wellness plan that you need today. And so the, constant reminder up here that it's never too late to say things like, this is no longer working for me.

[00:06:31] Or even is what I'm doing sustainable? I think a lot of us don't pause and just simply ask that question or have the conversation with work or, your beloveds, is this sustainable? Or even to be able to say this, what is happening is not sustainable. And then being able to imagine what is sustainable for me and really the deeper question that I had them struggle with and they didn't love it but I think it was helpful in the moment is the question, [00:07:00] is this how I'm meant to live?

[00:07:02] If you can say yes with great passion, fantastic. And that's for today and every day. I think you have to struggle with that question. Is today how I'm meant to live? And if at the end of the day you can say yes, then celebrate that and the next day carry that forward. What can you continue to do to make sure you're meaning and making meaning and that life is worth living for?

[00:07:25] And everything else should wrap around that. But if you say no at the end of the day, or I didn't quite make my mark, then how can you pivot quickly and turn quickly the next day to make it a little closer to the vision of what you wanna be? And I know that's a lot of the work that you center her around autumn.

[00:07:36] Autumn Carter: So I'm not supposed to wallow in guilt and have a pity party that I didn't do it right. I'm just supposed to recalibrate for the next day. 

[00:07:44] Suzanne Castle: Here's what I'll say. I'm a big believer in pity parties, by the way. I don't think you should slough stuff under the rug. So I teach my clients, if you're going to have a pity party, give it a timeframe.

[00:07:55] So I'm going to wallow for two hours. If you're gonna do that, do [00:08:00] whatever it is. So for me, eat all the ice cream frozen cookie dough. I know we're not supposed to, or all the hamburgers fix the steak. I'm in Texas, and all the sappy sad movies or whatever it is that makes do your thing and set your timer and feel all the feels and do what you do.

[00:08:16] And when that timer goes off. You go get physical 'cause that's the first thing you need to do. 'cause you need to rewire the brain. 'cause that's, my field of study is how, we rewire the brain to service to make decisions. So you do something completely opposite, get oxygen moving, and then you're like, okay, I'm done.

[00:08:32] And what, I have to do something different and I have to do it differently after I'm physical. And you're just done. Now, that doesn't mean it's not gonna feel better. It's still gonna be hard, and it doesn't mean that it all goes away either, but you've given that you're good, go, but you have to give it all.

[00:08:48] You don't just have a pity party. Like you're like, I did the pity party. I give it my best a hundred percent energy, right? But then the next day you're like, okay, what do we do now? How can I even be 1% [00:09:00] better if that's what it means, or 2% or 10% better? You don't have to be a hundred percent better.

[00:09:04] Your body is waiting for you to be like, okay, we're here. We wanna support you. Your muscles everything wants you to be healthy. I'm not at a place anymore where I believe that your body and your brain want to hijack you. I just don't think that's true.

[00:09:19] It's just that we don't really do the things to set up our body and our brain to support us in the best way possible. So it doesn't have to be a hundred percent, it might only be 1% today because it's just really hard today. That's okay. It's 1% better than it was yesterday. That's pretty great.

[00:09:35] Autumn Carter: Makes sense to me. 

[00:09:37] Suzanne Castle: I hope so. That's what I teach I think we make things way too hard. Just way too hard, 

[00:09:45] Autumn Carter: and I love that you're giving space to have that energy to feel it, and then the next day, for me, sleep has that power of just, especially dreaming where I can process [00:10:00] it a different way.

[00:10:01] So the next day I wake up with kind of that clear slate 'cause some things are residual. 

[00:10:07] Suzanne Castle: Oh, sure. 

[00:10:07] Autumn Carter: You know the choices I made. But it gives me that opportunity to really think through, okay, what do I wanna do differently? What do I wanna take from this? Because wow, I don't wanna experience that again.

[00:10:18] So how can I learn from this that I don't do it again? 'cause I don't want this happening again. And I really like giving yourself that space for each phase of recovery it's your own stages of grief. 

[00:10:35] Suzanne Castle: Yeah. 

[00:10:36] Autumn Carter: Through this. 

[00:10:39] Suzanne Castle: I am in a season in the last couple months where I have been really been on the go.

[00:10:45] I'm mostly a speaker by trade, and so I'm on a lot of stages right now. I've been on TV several times and lots of podcasts. Right now, my, fourth book just came out. It's just been, a flurry right now and, sometimes you don't get to decide the flurry. [00:11:00] You just have to show up 'cause it just happens.

[00:11:02] And then there will be a time when it's not. And so then I can deeply rest. But sometimes you just go, and that's right now, and a dear friend texted yesterday and was just like, Hey, how was the retreat? And I was just honest and I was like, I am on fumes. I led a self-care retreat on fumes. I came home on fumes.

[00:11:20] I had a couple hours sleep, had to get up at three 30 in the morning to go be on tv. Thank God for a friend who drove me, came home, no sleep. Just I'm just gonna be real and honest with you, right? And, she's wanted to invite me to this great thing on Friday night that I really wanted to go to.

[00:11:36] So this is real right now. And so I had a moment and I'm like, okay. I really wanna go to this thing. There's gonna be neat people at this thing. I should probably go to this thing like who knows who I might meet at this thing. We do this, right? Our brain wants to tell us the story. And so immediately my brain's you bet we should go to this thing.

[00:11:53] And my body's there's no way. Like you need your dogs like Prince Charming's gonna be gone this [00:12:00] weekend. I just need to be and not wear makeup and like whatever I need to do and not leave the house and DoorDash, whatever it is. Like I just need to be. We had a little battle for a little bit, and so I'd tell my friend no, and I don't need to justify my rest.

[00:12:16] All I said was, I've reached the limit. I appreciate the invitation, but this weekend's about me, and I'm not even leaving the house. And my friend didn't say, oh my gosh, are you okay? All she said was, Hey, let me know if you want me to drop anything by. I'm so glad you're choosing you. We like to tell ourselves a story.

[00:12:31] True friend. But we like to tell ourselves a story that the friend's gonna be like, oh, you know her. Oh, okay. You. Task ies everything. And my friend was like I'm glad we chose you. 'cause good friends will, right? They'll support that. But oh, we'd love to tell ourselves the story.

[00:12:45] And that's not true. Don't justify your rest. 

[00:12:47] Autumn Carter: And you know what makes me feel better is I'll say, invite me next time. Yeah, exactly. Invite me next time. Because then it's like they know that I cared and wanna be there with them. If I just do that little, invite me next time. Exactly. Exactly. [00:13:00] I feel that I've been that way too.

[00:13:03] So let's make this even more real. Okay. If you drop into yourself what do you need on your recovery? That you were teaching everybody else at this retreat? What are you gonna do to give yourself a mini retreat? 

[00:13:18] Balancing Energy and Setting Boundaries

[00:13:18] Suzanne Castle: One of the things that we talked about was how healthy boundaries are not built from exhaustion and I believe that boundaries, healthy boundaries are built from presence. So you have to notice before you need it, what capacity looks like for you. So, in other words, you're gonna need to know how to choose yourself before you collapse, right? And, so that's what I did in that moment was I knew I could push all week, I could go to this thing.

[00:13:49] Then I'm probably gonna collapse, and I have a big week next week. And that's not healthy for anybody. And when you're overwhelmed your boundaries really become the [00:14:00] first thing to erode. And you get sick. Everybody knows that because your body's just trying to survive, right?

[00:14:06] Like your throat gets a little itchy or you're like, man I rested, but I don't feel rested. Or you feel a little puffy. Like I probably have little bags. Let's be honest, you just don't feel right. Your body feels dehydrated even though you keep drinking. Like our body's constantly telling us, if we just listen, like something's off, Maybe you are holding water or you don't have enough water. Everybody has different cues and signals, right? And so if you're overwhelmed, you're like, oh, yes, oh yes. You just say yes too quickly or you avoid decisions altogether. Like these are signs of overwhelm. So you overcompensate, right?

[00:14:41] You overexplain you over promise thinking, oh, it'll get better. It'll get better, it'll get better. But when you've already set up your boundaries, when you're present, before you collapse, when you notice capacity and what that looks like for you, and I can't tell you what it looks like for you 'cause everybody's different, right?

[00:14:56] Then you notice that the real work is not, I have to be [00:15:00] tougher. The real work is I have to recognize, oh gosh, overload is happening again. So now I have to reclaim my right to say, Ooh, Suzanne, this is the sign. You've got to pause. Pause. Just pause. And in that pause, then you get to decide, whoa, I have to choose right now.

[00:15:20] Do I push a little bit? Maybe. Or do I need to, Ooh, pause. So, for me, it means my boundaries are here and I know what they are. And for me it's always an energy question. Is my energy enough to do the thing or is my energy probably not enough and I need to stop and, I always know the answer.

[00:15:39] I just have to. Pause to notice the answer if I'm being truthfully honest. And so, for me it means like I literally cleared everything off of my calendar that I could this week just 'cause I came home exhausted. And so I rescheduled every possible meeting I could. And so my calendar looks pretty light right now and 

[00:15:58] Autumn Carter: thank you for 

[00:15:58] Suzanne Castle: not 

[00:15:58] Autumn Carter: rescheduling.[00:16:00] 

[00:16:00] Suzanne Castle: I would not ask you that. And so I'm gonna order groceries. I can order groceries and swing by and pick 'em up. These are just little things and, they may feel like little but in the fact of energy management and wellness.

[00:16:12] They're big things. And so I can just create like little fluffy pillows that I can rest on by just simple choices that I'm gonna make this week that then set me up for success next week. 

[00:16:23] Understanding Capacity and Boundaries

[00:16:23] Suzanne Castle: So I get to rest in the decisions that I'm making with the boundaries that I already know. This is what capacity is for me.

[00:16:29] But you have to know that way before you need it. It's the worst thing ever to decide what your boundaries on when you're already tired, because then you swing the other way. And that's not helpful either. Let's be honest like going to the grocery store hungry, right? You never wanna go to the grocery store hungry.

[00:16:43] You never wanna set your boundaries when you're really tired. Like it just doesn't work that way. 

[00:16:47] Autumn Carter: Because then people are like, is it her or is it me? That's how you damage things. 

[00:16:52] Suzanne Castle: Absolutely. Absolutely. 

[00:16:54] Autumn Carter: Yep. 

[00:16:54] Suzanne Castle: Very true. 

[00:16:55] Planning and Delegating Tasks

[00:16:55] Autumn Carter: What do you imagine next week to look like? I'm totally leading you. No, it's all 

[00:16:58] Suzanne Castle: no, 

[00:16:58] It's great. It's great. [00:17:00] Okay, so what I do is I sit down and go, where am I feeling crowded. And it might be life, it might be business, it might be friendships or relationships, whatever that is. And so next week now I look at my calendar, and I'll be honest, now it's a little crowded, like I had to move some things around, right?

[00:17:14] But when I look at it, it can look crowded, but also feel manageable. And so what it might also mean is because I moved things to next week, there are some things next week that either have to drop off or maybe I have to give them away to one of my staff members or assistants, or maybe I need to delegate them really hard to do, right?

[00:17:37] So I have to have that really hard conversation. Is this only mine to do? And can someone else do this? Probably, true. Does this really need to be done right now? There were things on my calendar next week that I was gonna work on that. Honestly, I think they don't need to be done until July.

[00:17:53] So I just moved 'em like, it's okay. And so it won't be as crowded, I won't have as much time to work on some projects. [00:18:00] That's okay. And so really it's just having a better sense of my time and my energy and what I wanna spend it on. What I tell my clients is don't cheat on yourself. A lot of us are pretty adulterous with our business goals and our life goals. Like we cheat on ourselves every day. We cheat on our goals every day, right?

[00:18:17] We're just adulterers running around all the time, right? We make these promises and then we don't hold up our end of the bargain, and I don't believe in that. So I'm like, if I've made a commitment, that's great, but then if I can move the commitment if I really need to, then I will. But it's like I still show up like here, right?

[00:18:34] It's okay I'm tired, but I'm here and there are some other things that I was able to move. So next week I have a lot of yoga time. I, will have healthy groceries. I will have my meal plan done so I don't have to think about it again.

[00:18:47] Setting myself up for success with some boundaries. I will have some fun friend time, have a wine night scheduled. So things I'm looking forward to, but I've got some big projects that I'm working on and I'm a keynote to deliver. And so those [00:19:00] things that needed to get moved, I'm constantly doing that.

[00:19:01] Like I do a daily evaluation, a weekly evaluation, and in those I'm able to see pretty quickly is this working? Do I need to move something? Something came up let's make sure that things get the proper time that they need. But I do believe that's part of wellness is really understanding how your calendar is supporting your goals.

[00:19:19] A lot of us get off track there because we don't give enough time to the things that are supporting our wellness. And that's hard to manage, but once you find your jam, it becomes easier and easier. 

[00:19:29] Maintaining Wellness and Creativity

[00:19:29] Autumn Carter: I find that I am a doer. Yeah. And I have a hard time resting.

[00:19:33] I'm still learning. And what I realized, if I give myself the space that when my body's like I am craving the space and I give it to my body. That I have these amazing. Just aha moments. My creativity is through the roof. Yes. And then I find that I'm in this cycle where then I have to hurry up and implement it.

[00:19:57] Like the ones that really make sense. At least start to implement 'em. [00:20:00] And then I realize I need a decent break after that. 'cause I have used a lot of mental energy. So then that's when I do, I actually have been adding in more yoga, so I smiled at that one. Yeah. So then I add more of that in, and I add more meditation and other things that I need.

[00:20:18] But I have noticed this own, my own cycle of I need rest, and then these big creativity moments happen and then I need more rest. And as I've been doing that in a coaching capacity when I'm helping other people if I make sure that it's not back to back appointments and there's plenty of space for me to decompress and to maybe just spend some time outside.

[00:20:43] The rain just stops. So it's, we're looking really nice outside when I spend some time outside and then I come back to help the next person, I am fully ready instead of them getting a lesser version of me. Correct. Yeah. 

[00:20:58] Suzanne Castle: Yeah. I like the way you said that [00:21:00] boundaries with ourselves and others, which is part of this wellness conversation.

[00:21:04] For sure. Just like you talked about, I need creative flow, so the boundary is I need to have more time between clients and I know I'm better when I get some outside time. And I don't think that boundaries are about making others comfortable.

[00:21:19] I think boundaries are about making yourself whole. Like you said, the boundary for you is having time in between makes you whole, right? Makes you better, makes you more present. And so when we do that, when we notice that how, your calendar supports that you're not abandoning others.

[00:21:36] You are refusing to abandon yourself. And so if you really want to be well and present and show up in the world in the best way that you can you don't negotiate for your own peace. You don't apologize for protecting your energy. And I really will stand on the hill and say, and die on the premise that the people who truly value you will adjust and the [00:22:00] people who don't, we're benefiting from your exhaustion.

[00:22:05] Creating space for yourself is never selfish. It's sacred work. It's self-respect and action. And when you're working with clients, you need to be modeling that. It never does me any good. If I show up to clients and I am a complete soup sandwich.

[00:22:20] If I am, a wreck in action, why would anybody hire me? 

[00:22:24] Autumn Carter: For one thing, they're paying you for them to coach you. Boom. I've been in appointments like that where I had a therapist that it was that way and I'm like, okay, we're done now. 'cause I'm coaching you. 

[00:22:35] Suzanne Castle: I'm teaching women entrepreneurs really how to be more productive in a faster way, make more effective decisions, and really use systems and data and brain things to get after their goals. To make it more sustainable. And if my own business in life isn't sustainable, why would they work with me?

[00:22:55] And so I have to manage my energy, I have to make sure I'm well, I have to do my [00:23:00] boundaries. And there have been times when I have reached out to a client and I'm like, here's the deal. I have a mess going. Or I didn't get enough sleep. I'm not at my best. I wanna serve you in the best possible fashion I can.

[00:23:10] Can I move our appointment by X, Y, Z amount of time? Never have I had a client go, nope, you can't do that. I want half the version of you. Never. They're always like, sure, no problem. Because I do the same for them. There are times when they have a migraine and I'm like, oh gosh, don't, please don't show up for this call.

[00:23:26] You're not at your best. Nothing I say will land. It's just give and receive, right? And so I want people to be able to give and receive for their own selves as well. 

[00:23:35] Autumn Carter: That's amazing. 

[00:23:36] The Sparkle Effect Book

[00:23:36] Autumn Carter: So the book that you mentioned, you have a fourth book out. How does it relate to this? I'm sure it does in some way.

[00:23:42] Suzanne Castle: And what a terrible promoter I am. It's called a sparkle effect. 

[00:23:47] Autumn Carter: The Sparkle 

[00:23:47] Suzanne Castle: Effect. Okay. Tell us more about it. It's called a Sparkle Effect. So 10 stories that I compiled from 10 different business women. I'm one. And they're all in different industries.

[00:23:58] And it's all [00:24:00] about really pivoting, making a different kind of decision in a different way. So they have had either a snafu happen or they really had to come at world differently because of a life circumstance. And they are teaching you the concept of what they did to awaken their brilliance. 

[00:24:21] Old records that the order of the songs also told a story. So each song was a story, but if you listen to the record front to back, it also told a story. Same thing with the book. So you can pick up each chapter and it's a fabulous story. Or if you read the book front to back, there is also a story. So my particular chapter is all about decision making and I give our little decision voices names when they show up.

[00:24:47] And I tell a story about having a meltdown at the grocery store, trying to choose a pasta sauce and just these real life things that happen to us when we are in decision overwhelm and what you can actually do to get beyond that. And then every chapter [00:25:00] deals with a certain thing. There's a, woman in there that managed wartime hospitals for Doctor Without Borders.

[00:25:06] Now runs an HVAC company. There is the president of the International Association of Women who is in this book. There is a woman who is a nonprofit director who is teaching blended families how to manage money so again, all different kinds of voices and people that are coming at this way of being in the world differently.

[00:25:30] And it's truly a remarkable piece of work. Hit bestseller like within. Seconds. Which is very unusual and five categories or something. It's, because it's different and, we want you to read it and mark it up. We want you to dog gear it we want you to underline things and play with it.

[00:25:48] It's a business book, but it's also a lifestyle book. There are things to do in the book. There's questions to ask. You could journal and there was someone today on LinkedIn that read it. Then said, I read the book and it was, and then I went and gave it to my [00:26:00] 18-year-old daughter and she read the book and she's I wanna take this to college, and I think my friends need to read this book.

[00:26:05] And this woman said, and I'm buying a copy for all of my coworkers. She is a vice president of a bank. She said They need this book. And so it's interesting, this kind of life that this book has now had. 

[00:26:15] Autumn Carter: Amazing. And it was just so fun the more you were talking, just seeing you light up more and more about it, that this is your baby.

[00:26:21] So great. Like I love it. Yeah. You created this, but you're also part of this. Yeah. It was just fun to see that. Thank you for that, Paula. Appreciate it. 

[00:26:29] Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts

[00:26:29] Autumn Carter: So out all this, to sum it up, what would you want the listeners' key takeaways to be from what we talked about? 

[00:26:38] Suzanne Castle: I think if there's one thing that you could do today is to pause and reflect, and we didn't talk about this, but I think it will help people, is maybe list one, two, or three areas that you feel resentment in your life or business.

[00:26:53] And then think about what is the missing boundary about that resentment, because I think sometimes that's [00:27:00] the easiest way to figure out where a boundary might be missing. Are you resentful that your kid, your beloved didn't unload the dishwasher? Okay, then what's the boundary around that?

[00:27:13] Is there a conversation that needs to be happening about your expectation on who does that or when they do it? 'cause that can happen, like you think it should be done first thing in the morning before people go to work. This person's I'm gonna do it as soon as I get home from work, or I'm gonna do it while you're making dinner.

[00:27:28] I mean it again, it's just making sure that everyone is participating and understanding what the boundary is. So a lot of times it's a communication issue that's a boundary understanding that you need it done because it helps clear your mental energy. And so really understand where, is an area of resentment, and identify what that boundary is, what that means for you, so you can clear it up pretty quickly.

[00:27:50] It doesn't have to be as hard 

[00:27:51] Autumn Carter: but that made me think of, I saw it on social media, saying no is saying yes to yourself. And sometimes that resentment is, I should have said no to this thing. [00:28:00] And realizing that oftentimes you can still go back and say no after the fact.

[00:28:04] That's right. 

[00:28:06] Suzanne Castle: Absolutely. And it doesn't have to be. So hard, like boundaries aren't something we should be better at. They're just something that we awaken to like little by little oh, I noticed this. I should ask a question of myself.

[00:28:19] Maybe I need to do this thing. So don't be, oh, I should have done this. No, You're like, oh, this got crossed. Let's clean that up. So just notice that today for yourself, one simple thing, and then clean it up. That's the way to really simply notice without judgment and clean it up.

[00:28:37] Autumn Carter: We're allowed to have our boundaries change and sometimes we have a boundary about something and we didn't realize we had one until it's starting to be crossed. That's right. That's our moment to be like, hold on. To yourself and to whoever, whatever may be crossing it. So I really love that. Yep.

[00:28:54] Connecting with Suzanne Castle

[00:28:54] Autumn Carter: So for people who are interested, tell us how to get into your world. 

[00:28:58] Suzanne Castle: Oh, thanks. [00:29:00] My name Suzanne Castle, and Castle is like a princess that is my real last name. So Suzanne castle.com is the best way because all of my social handles are there. There's freebies there. In fact, I think right now there's a self-care blueprint up there that'll walk you through really some questions to ask yourself.

[00:29:17] And I think it's 30 pages that really gives you, some journaling activities some ideas to try on to see what works for you. So go get, it's totally free right now. I put different freebies up there. There's my podcast is up there. There's all different ways to interact with there, so just go there.

[00:29:32] That's just the easiest place to send people. 

[00:29:34] Autumn Carter: And it sounds like women entrepreneurs are your people. 

[00:29:38] Suzanne Castle: Yes, I do work with companies. I also work with cities. I am like an executive coach for cities. But, my favorite people on the planet are women entrepreneurs for sure.

[00:29:49] Wow, so you're a 

[00:29:50] Autumn Carter: little everywhere 

[00:29:51] Suzanne Castle: I am all the time. 

[00:29:53] Autumn Carter: Thank you for being on and for making the time when your life became really chaotic. And I know [00:30:00] there was some weather, so extra thank yous. Thank you for posting. I'm delightful to be here. You too. All right. I will catch you next time. Okay. Thank you.

[00:30:09] Bye.

[00:30:10] Conclusion and Resources

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