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42: Catching Up with the Newlyweds: Faith and Leon's 1st Year Reflections
Before you dive into this episode, make sure to check out Faith's first interview from last year, where she shared about her journey just weeks before her wedding. You can listen to it here: Faith's journey
Join us for a heartfelt and insightful conversation with Faith and Leon as they celebrate their first year of marriage. In this special episode, "Catching Up with the Newlyweds: Faith and Leon's 1st Year Reflections," we dive into the highs, lows, and everything in between that comes with the first year of being newlyweds.
Faith and Leon share their personal experiences, lessons learned, and the growth they've experienced together. From managing expectations and communication to building a strong foundation, they offer valuable insights for singles and couples at any stage of their relationship.
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It is Kimberly Knight here with the Position Podcast. Welcome. I am here with Leon and Faith Collington. This was the very first couple that was married after Position for Love, which used to be Wife Life Academy. So this was our very, very first wedding and they are back after having just celebrated, just a few days ago, their first anniversary. We're going to give you some their first anniversary, so we're going to get all the newlywed tips, tricks, hacks. I'm going to ask some secrets, right, since we don't know, because we did not rehearse any answers, I did not tell them what I was going to ask right? We've yielded the floor to, to, uh, holy spirit. So, um, we are going to say that this may be or may not be one of those use your headphone episodes, govern yourself accordingly. All right, um, faith le Welcome.
:Thank you for having us.
:Okay, so they're answering in unison, y'all we already got the one flesh going on, Come on y'all, I ain't mad at you.
:How have you?
:been. It's been well. I mean, I've talked to y'all and we've kind of connected over the year. But how are y'all? You have a year under your belt. What was that like?
:Oh man.
:Wow, it's been a journey, oh yes, Deep end.
:Come on now. Yeah, yeah.
:God's been really working in us on camp. You know, just like you were saying, we had a marriage, the wedding last year, and God's been really moving. Our lives changed dramatically. You know, as you say too, honey, right.
:Yeah, absolutely, it's been wonderful. We've experienced a lot, even though it's only been a year.
:We've experienced a lot like you know, fun stuff first holidays together. It's a lot like you know, fun stuff first holidays together. You know we've been through some trials with you know, just going through different things at our jobs and stuff like that Of course, but overall it's been really wonderful. We've been having a lot of fun together and I'm just so grateful to like have him to go through life with because because, like he's just such a blessing to me like for real really truly answered prayer. But even like beyond what I prayed for, for real wow okay yeah and I'll say the same for my wife.
:Faith, you know, um, you know before me and her. Obviously you know we trust the lord in many things, but I feel like I faith was a gift to me from the lord. You know a lot of things that I thought I could do my own. I could have done without her being my life, you know, and god knew that I need her, so it's been a blessing oh, that's what I'm talking about.
:You better work that. Work, sir, things I could not have done without my wife. Yes, that's what we're talking about. I am loving it right. The Bible says that a prudent wife is from the Lord, so you're right she is absolutely a gift, and you got a good one there, so yes and amen yes and amen, I remember well, you know I've been there from the beginning.
:I was there from before you, right? And then I remember when you all met, and then I remember talking to your parents, faith, and I said, okay, do we like him? Do we like him? You know, I mean, he went through my program but I also knew you, you know, prior to the program. So it's kind of it's kind of interesting, because I was your coach but I was also your auntie, right. So I'm like, okay, I'm not sure if we're keeping him. So let me find out from the parents Is this a keeper? Yes, I'm so blessed.
:I will govern my prayers accordingly, right.
:Yeah.
:Amen.
:But in all seriousness, god be the glory we were talking before the interview and, and you know, family is very important to me the women that I get to work with are extremely important to me. The um and then I get to mentor extremely important and as we bring gentlemen into their lives, we want to make sure that they're the right kind and that they're the good fit, and I always say there's a lid to every pot.
:You are definitely the lid to her pot.
:Yes, you're equally matched, equally yoked, and that's important. So I know that you said that there were some things you experienced this year, right.
:Yes, oh yeah.
:And he's like oh yeah, what surprised you most about being married? Just in general, what surprised you most about being married? Oh, okay, that's a good question.
:Yeah, I know right.
:You want to go or you want me to.
:You can go ahead, because I feel like you already know what you're going to say.
:I would say on Kim being married yes, from the outside, looking in as a single person, you see a view of married life differently. But when you're married, you get a different experience. You know what I mean. And I'll say when you are with your wife or with your husband, right? So you have to really learn how to you know, as they say in the Bible, it's like less of me, more of the Lord, right? So now in that place, you have to serve your wife or husband as your servant to the Lord, right?
:Every day you wake up, every day you live your life. You're not living for yourself, no more. Now you live for Christ, but you're living for your spouse, right? So everything you do, just honoring God and honoring your spouse, even like there's things like oh, I would do this differently. I would now ask my wife say, hey, I'm thinking about doing this, do you agree with me? What do you think? And it's always having to make a decision together. I think that's something that you know, but then it's something that you still learn daily by day.
:I would say that's one thing, yeah, that is a big change. Right when you have to make those decisions and check in with somebody, it's like, oh, I can't just give you a response. I need to kind of consider how this is going to impact my spouse, nice. This is why we're keeping you. Yeah, amen. What about you? Faith, what surprised you most this year?
:Um, I would have to say the same thing. And also one thing that I feel like I'm still learning is like navigating family, because now I'm not just, you know, dealing with my family, not saying that when we were dating and engaged I didn't interact with his family. I definitely did. But now it's even more intentional, because now we're one flesh. So I'm my name changed, like we've talked. We talked about that earlier. I was Walton before and that's how I was growing up, but now I'm also. My last name is Collington now. So now I have to also be intentional about embracing his side of the family. So I think I'm still learning how to do that. But his family's been wonderful to me and I'm just so thankful because they're they're really great, like when I met them, and he has a big family too.
:Yeah, so that's another thing.
:There's a lot of like family events that we go to often just because he has, like, a lot of people, a lot of birthdays, a lot of you know stuff happening, but all good things and they've been very welcoming to me, so I'm grateful for that.
:But we don't always take into account.
:I've heard some couples mistakenly go into into marriage saying, well, this is about us and nobody else, and I'm like that's why it's so fast, right, will you?
:marry, really does determine how much time you spend with your family. If you spend time with your family, right, it all factors in. There's no way that you cannot take that under advisement and you don't take this lightly, right, because you know that you might have to incorporate them into your traditions and the way you celebrate and when you celebrate and if you celebrate. So that's really, really important.
:So, besides that, though, so that's really, really important. So besides that though in addition, I should say besides- that.
:In addition, what do you wish you had known before you got married?
:Why don't you go first?
:Me. Oh gosh, ok, give me a second. I think about this. Um, I should do before. If you have an answer, you could go ahead, because he's quick, the way she's just throwing him out.
:She's like here, here's the best I'm pushing.
:Better than that he processes like this me, I'm like so I'm like, but you could, if you got it, I would say I gotta think about it, honey, yeah, yeah yeah, I would say um on kim um.
:One thing I wish I knew before getting married is obviously I would say it's very important to be financially prepared, right you can still be working, right, you can be working high money job, but you know finances will change when you're married, not just on your taxes, but when you live together. You're supposed to be different because you could be living with your own, you could be living with family and you join together, especially like what my wife was saying about changing last name, stuff like that. That's going to be a process, right, but not even just that, just getting new bills in your name. So I think that is something, one thing I wish I could pay for more going into marriage. I would say that's so good.
:That is so good. Did you know and I've said this on my show before but did you know more couples break up over money issues than infidelity. That is scary, right. So when we start talking about money, you know people get really you know antsy when we start talking about money. You know people get really you know antsy when you start talking about money. But here's this person now that you're one flesh with, and it's not just talking about money, it's talking about us, our future, what we can and cannot do with our money and how we, how we move. So even being equally yoked in that area is really important. That was really good, leon, don't? I don't disagree with you at all about that because, again, it is one of the biggest issues that we see that breaks up couples. When I was writing divorces years ago, isn't this ironic that God would have me working with single ladies to get married, get married and stay married. By the way, years ago I was writing divorces.
:Go figure him out.
:Right, go figure him out. But it gave me a lot of insight and information that I wish I would have been able to have at that point. But it helps me as I'm working with couples. And it also is helping me as I'm working with newlyweds now because, guess what? Y'all are getting married. I'm like, oh my gosh. And quiet as it's kept, it's not, maybe not so quiet, but recently I got a um, uh, a prophetic word that there were going to be more weddings.
:Amen and um, my husband told me, oh, there's going to be two. And I went back to the Lord and I prayed about it and I was like, oh my gosh, you're no respect of persons. If you can do two, you can do two dozen, right? He's like, of course, and I didn't feel like it was finished.
:And I guess I'm making this announcement now, y'all, because I've been holding on to this word for a little bit, like almost in my second month, holding on to this word that I didn't release publicly. But I was in prayer time and I felt like the reason I didn't release that word was because I didn't feel like I had a full grip on what it meant. So when I went back and I was like, oh my gosh, why am I limiting you to 24? Two dozen is 24. Couldn't we do 200? Couldn't we do 2000?
:He's like, yeah, Look at God I believe in him, god, all things are possible. You know what I mean. Amen, behold. This is the word that came to me.
:Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. There is nothing too hard for me.
:Amen, how could?
:something be too hard for him when y'all found each other on social media.
:Yes.
:Go right into those.
:DMs Amen, look at God, god yes amen, amen.
:Look at God. God works in you, absolutely. That's what I'm everywhere.
:I'm even on Facebook sliding into those DMs with you, you better be cute though, because I'm yes, oh, we did.
:Oh, yeah, we definitely did, we definitely did.
:Oh my gosh, same here it's gotta be you, lord, if it's not, I don't want it. Amen amen, same with me. Yeah, yeah, same with me.
:I know that's right. You know, one of the things getting to walk with the two of you through this is that sometimes it seems like it's going to take forever before you meet that right person. Right, yeah, how do you? You know? Come on, give our single sisters some support around here.
:How do you stay connected, encouraged, right? What can you do to keep that, that encouragement going and keep your heart clean and all those things? Because it's really easy to get bitter, especially as you see your friends getting married and things like that. How do you stay encouraged?
:Oh man, there's a lot of, I think, a lot of different aspects to that question. Definitely, one thing that I can say has kept me so encouraged was definitely Wife Life Academy. That was huge, especially because not only was I single, I was single in the pandemic. So people were intentionally running away from you if you got too close to them.
:Six feet, six feet yeah.
:So talk about like the ultimate form of being single, like you're not even trying to breathe in the same person's air, like it was that bad at the time and just feeling discouraged.
:But I just remember coming on to like our Zoom meetings and just hearing you edify us but also all the other sisters that were in the group share their story and the fact that we were able to relate to each other but also like encourage one another.
:That was what I needed, like some days, like the body of christ is so important, even in something like that as a pandemic where everybody's apart. You know, thank God for the virtual format, because I needed my sisters in Christ to encourage me. You know I needed your word to encourage me and there's sometimes, yes, you can encourage yourself in the, you know, in the quiet time with the Lord, but sometimes you, just you still need other people to edify and uplift you and that really has helped me a lot, especially in that time in that journey. And then also talking about the individual quiet time with the Lord, just when I first became single, when I left my previous relationship, I was very heartbroken, hurting. I did not want to be single at all, I hated it. I was like this is terrible. I felt like a punishment that's okay.
:But I was seeking the Lord and the Bible too, because I really was like, okay, god talks about being single, god talks about being married. Let me look in this word and see what it says being single, god talks about being married. Let me look in this word and see what it says. And it said that the Bible called singleness a gift. And I stopped and I was like, wait a minute. Yeah, I was like what kind? Of gift, is it?
:It's like that ugly sweater you get for Christmas that you don't really want, but it's like it actually keeps you warm and it actually makes more sense than getting something flashy that wouldn't really do anything Like. That's how I was looking at it. I was like this is a gift, really Okay. And after reading that and just processing that, I was like, okay, lord, if this is a gift, you got to show me how this is a gift, because I don't want this gift at all. But you know, through the process of just relinquishing that to the Lord and really being like God, help me to see this season the way you want me to see it, because right now I don't see it like that.
:Over time, you know, I got healing in my heart from being heartbroken. I started to learn so much about myself that I didn't know, because I was so caught up in another person that I didn't take the time out to know who I was. And also, I was in such a good place with the Lord at the time because, you know, I didn't have anybody pulling me away from him at that time and I was just in such a content spirit with the Lord, not saying that the married desire went away. It didn't completely go away, it was there. But at the same time I was no longer in a desperate place and I wasn't in a bitter place where on one end I was like, oh, I want to get married, so bad, I'll just, you know, kind of settle for whoever. Or on the other end of the spectrum, where you're just so bitter and just hurt and you're like I don't ever want to get married, I don't want to ever see a man again, I don't want to. You know, I didn't have either one of those notions anymore.
:But I was also content with the Lord. I was like God, thank you for this gift. I ended up saying thank you for this gift and you know when it was the right time to like open myself up to possibly, you know meeting somebody. I told the Lord, I prayed beforehand and I was like God, I'm in such a great place with you. I don't want to risk this for anybody. I was like God, I'm in such a great place with you. I don't want to risk this for anybody. Somebody is not going to add to this. I don't want to.
:So going into dating with that mindset that, like God, is all I need to, whether I meet somebody on here or I don't, I'm going to be good Having that mindset really changed how I dated going forward. And then I'm like this guy. Now right away there was, I did. There was a journey getting to meeting him?
:Yeah, there was. Lord have mercy, but you know, yes, though we still.
:I was like I still kept that.
:You know, in my, that conviction that came with my, in my singleness. You know I was like this person. They're like this, no that's. You know, some people were Christian but their core beliefs were didn't match up with mine. So they believed in Jesus Like it wasn't, like I wasn't even. It wasn't like I was looking outside of my faith. You know, I was looking in my faith but even within that it's like asking those questions like, okay, what are your core beliefs? Do you believe in? You know, waiting until marriage? Do you believe in those things? And you know, what is your outlook on? Like, family, how do you want your family to look? Like? Asking like all of these questions to just see what this person is about? You know, versus like, oh, this person is cute, you know their fate's a little like this, but you know they got a lot of money or whatever you know, you're looking at like the more important things you know, and sometimes it was even like you know.
:Do we even get along Like if I'm talking to you?
:and you're getting on my nerves like this is not going to work.
:Damn Very important folks yeah yeah, that's real talk, you know you said several and it was funny for me.
:Funny like ironic, I'm listening to what you're saying. And there were some C words in there, like community, right, you talked about in our group, wife Life Academy is now positioned for love. And you talked about the community being so important, right, having a community of like-minded sisters where it was safe to say, yeah, I want to be married, because sometimes we say that in the body and it's taken as lust. It's not lust, it's a God given desire. Right, and then how we pursue that or how we act and govern ourselves, then, you know, makes a big difference. Right, but you had a community of like-minded sisters, a real sister, and we were tight. Right, you talked about keeping your convictions and not compromising, right. So some more C words and, and I think, also the place that you had gotten to with, if this is not God, I don't want it, right. Yeah, um, marriage is beautiful, it is wonderful. Like I say, believe the hype. Right, because marriage is great and there is nothing wrong with being single.
:I was single for a long oh my god, a long time my husband even longer.
:He was single double the time. I was right. But yeah, oh boy, oh boy, one day Cause, oh, lord Jesus, anyway, I listened to that and I say, without the community, without the conviction, without the willingness to wait on God, where would you have been? Here's the other thing that's really really interesting, cause and I say this all the time it's not that y'all can't get married, Single sisters, it's not that y'all can't get married, you can get married. Right, that's not the point.
:The point is, who are you marrying? Right, because you could, honestly, a lot of y'all could get married in the next two or three months, but that would be anybody right. But when you want to get married in a way that we can pray for you and not about you, to rewind this and listen to that again and ask holy ghost for interpretation, but where we can play pray for you, like I can pray for y'all, right, I don't have to pray about you. I know he's not going to come in and try to lead you into some cult or or what have you right? Um, the other thing that you did really well is let me, let me check you out in a natural, because sometimes we are so spiritually minded, we're no earthly good. So do you get my nerves like that's really big? Because, yes, with some couples where I'm like well, he was getting on your nerves before you got mad.
:Yes, can I give it.
:Can I give a specific example?
:that is quite funny now so I was talking to this person and, um, this person looked like not like my type at all, but I was like you know what? I'm gonna be open because they say they're christian. Let me just see what they're about, right. And so we're talking on the phone and almost everything I'm saying this person is disagreeing with. But here's the funniest part I try to change the subject because he's starting to get on my nerves. So I was like let me talk about something more neutral. So I was like what's your favorite animal?
:Damn.
:And I was like you know, what kind of animals do you like? He's like, oh, I like all creatures. I was like, oh, yeah, you know. I was just like rambling. And I was like you know, I hate bugs, though I can't do bugs. He was like no, you can't kill bugs, they're god's creatures.
:I was like no, no and if I see a bug, I'm killing it. I'm letting y'all know right now, don't write me, don't write me and I'm afraid of bugs.
:So I was like, no, I, that was something I prayed about.
:I was like god because I'm not good to it, but again, right, it seems like a small thing until you have a spider right, and then you kill the second spider and now it's an issue, right, yeah, and, and, and, and. It's a. This is a little example, and that was funny because something wrong with you.
:Yes, yes.
:Thank you for showing me who you are so I can yeah that stuff out. And being unequally yoked is not just about your faith.
:You talk about another C word. Right, core beliefs Are all core beliefs the same. I during my dating season and I wish I had kept a better journal because I had no idea I'd be doing this work. Right, but there was this this happened to me more than once where a man would find out that I was a minister and had a problem with female ministers. Well, that's a problem for you, because I'm just doing what he called me to do. Y'all have to work that out with Jesus on your own. Take that to him.
:Tell me to do.
:But if that's going to be an issue, then you're disqualified, right. And the first thing that my husband told me, the very first conversation we had within the first like 10 minutes, he said I'm called a ministry, are you OK with that? Well, I'm a female minister, are you OK with that? And his pastor was a woman. So he was good. Right, we don't check those things out or we say later oh, they'll work, we'll work around that. The first time somebody calls you at 10 o'clock with prayer emergency, now it's a problem, he'll roll over, he might not even hear the phone. I don't think so.
:He'll be like good night.
:When I was mentoring I had several mentoring groups and these girls I was single at the time, so I would get the 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock, midnight calls. I'm like, listen, go find your mamas. But at the time I was single, so it was okay.
:Now, I get those calls as much. I know how to work around it. But if somebody called me and sometimes they do they have an emergency. I know that if that phone is ringing, this is important. Let me pick it up, let me see what's going on and, yep, I might have to get out of the bed and start interceding. He doesn't complain about that, and when he gets up in the morning he might say what's going on? Everything good. Or if it's something really big, and I come back and I'm like, can you get up and come into agreement? He doesn't complain. Now has he lost sleep? Yes, is it inconvenient? Yes, but these are agreements that we had before we got married. He knew who I was and what I was called to do, and I will never ask you to step aside from what God?
:has called you to do. If you say it's God, that's what it's going to be, and I think to your credit, you have to work all that out. Can't be so enamored with having someone in your life that they don't fit with the other pieces Right, so that's great. So we get along, have a good time, and we will go see a show and he goes to church.
:But what I'm?
:called to do and who I'm called to be, he doesn't like. Or you end up with a wife who can't support you know what did you, what you do or how you look at life, or all those things, or she may not want to follow you to East Timbuktu. You're called to be a missionary and she wants to be a doctor's wife.
:Not so well so we have to look at all those things. I'm so glad you brought that into the space, because those are some of the practicalities that sometimes in the body of Christ we ignore. And then it kicks our butts later, right, so then I have people back in the office six months later going. I don't know why. I'm married.
:I don't even know.
:So the importance of community right is also when you're in the dating season. I call it waiting, dating and mating right. So when you're in waiting season, you're single, when you're dating, trying to figure out who you are and this, who this person is, and then mating when you're getting married, you need to have that community, you need to be accountable to somebody who can say I think we need to ask a few more questions around this. I think you need to pay attention to some of the answers you're getting and that kind of thing. So I don't disagree with you. I think that having that community, it's very unique right Because everyone there.
:it's okay to say I want to be married. It's okay to say, hey, is this a red flag? And you know we would have those. I have my red flag, she literally had a flag. I'm like get that full sentence out and we have a few black flags too. I want to talk to you after the meeting, because this is sweetie, is a this? Is starting to sound like a Lifetime movie of the week. We're not doing this.
:Yes, amen, and I was going to say also too like you know.
:Pray for the Lord too, because that's something I did before any phone call with anybody. I always pray. I say Lord, give me the ears to hear anything that doesn't sound right. Let them say it, you know.
:Amen amen.
:Like you know, I'm trying to honor you and glorify you. Give me the ears, you know, and let me not ignore or overlook or brush over anything that does not sound right. And literally every phone conversation I heard someone was like Nope.
:Okay, you know.
:And then this guy, I was listening and I was like okay.
:I remember you calling me about that. Like I don't know because I don't have any red flags. Is this okay? I'm like baby, stop looking for a problem. Do you remember this conversation? I'm like baby, stop looking for a problem, do you remember? This conversation. I remember this conversation. I was like there's no red flags. I'm like, are you all right? But here's the thing and we talked about this in the group that when we allow men to just be themselves, they will reveal who they are.
:Yes.
:Right, and if we're listening attentively and we let God help us to make our decisions, we'll hear, and then it's up to us not to ignore what we hear.
:If you talk to some of your friends who are not together now with their, with their mate, they will tell you a lot of times, more times than not, they heard these things prior but they let it go. So there, yeah, there's some wisdom in that, in in just making sure that you're really listening to understand yes, absolutely. And that you also give yourself enough time and space to process, and that I will always say we never date in a vacuum, right?
:Yes, absolutely Never date in a vacuum and there's a difference between privacy and isolation. Now I always say you do not put your relationship on Facebook and on social media until you are sure you're keeping them and until you have made up in your mind that this is the person for you. Because trust, nothing reveals a hidden hater quicker than an open blessing. And Okay, yeah, so until you're ready to to respond in the comments and like kind, then I say you don't post, everybody doesn't need to know. You make sure that there's someone who has authority over you, knows and it's tracking with you. Make sure that you have peers that know, know and that are tracking with you. You know and can tell you like you are right, cause your personality has not changed for the better since you've been with this person, right.
:They're going to check in with you, or girl, stop tripping. That man doesn't have any red flags. Go on and enjoy yourself. Oh my gosh. So we need that in our lives and I think that's one of the things that the group really provided. And you know, I mean we're talking a lot about the group and a lot about Faith's time with her sisters, but what did you think when you heard that she had been in this coaching program?
:I was happy that she had, like you know, a community that helped her, you know, along, you know you and Kim, you're one of the many great mentors in her life, you know, um, she had Aunt Adele, her mom, like even her dad, like a lot of people that was around her. Even her friends are really like good influences in her and I'm just so thankful that, you know, my wife had the influences in around her before meeting me, because now I know that now she was a woman that trusted the Lord because of faith, but she's a woman of character because of the people she surrounded herself with, you know. So I think it was a good thing that you had this like community, because not only you held each other accountable but you helped build each other up to find, you know, to help everyone to find the right person.
:Yeah, oh, look at her. Help everyone to find the right person. Yeah, oh, look at her.
:She's all googly-eyed. Oh, that's my baby.
:You know I'm thankful for that, because I think sometimes we get a little anxious about asking for this kind of help because it is unique, right, and sometimes the ladies don't feel comfortable with a gentleman knowing that they have been through the coaching program. But I'll tell you myself I went through a coaching program. I would not have been married. I didn't know what to do, I didn't know how to handle myself or what to ask, what to look for, and my husband and I talk about that all the time. And also I think that again, that community, like you said, leon, is so important, who you surround yourself with, because you can tell a lot by people's friends.
:Amen yeah, you can tell a lot by checking out their friends. Oh my gosh, All right, so I got this newlywed. I'm so. I'm loving this.
:Y'all had a whole entire year of marriage that went so incredibly like yeah, I blinked, I was like whoa, yeah, you know what's funny it?
:was. It was very weird because to me it felt fast but slow at the same time, because each month was like a learning experience of like whatever navigating like we were talking about navigating in-laws whose house we're going to for which holiday, and you know finances and you know moving. And even like little things, like you know where are we gonna, how are we gonna organize the kitchen or the bathroom or whatever?
:that, too, is another yeah, what food we're gonna eat like all these things like we were like learning along the way, but it did kind of sneak up on us at the same time. It's kind of weird to describe, because it it was like this, but then at the same time, it was like a gradual process too for me. What about you?
:it was kind of similar for me. Um, it was like uh, for me it felt like fast, like oh, I just blinked, it's 2024, now, summer, spring, but kind of like you know what my wife was saying. Like every month it was, I feel, like every day I learned something new, like we experienced something different and it helped us to grow as people and helped us to not only love each other more but to love the lord more too yeah, so I love that.
:And you know what I'm going to do when this interview is finished I'm going to go back and play it back, because I want to see how many times he said my wife I was.
:I am loving it. I am loving it. One of the things we talk about in group is, you know, never let a man hide you, right? If he's hiding you, something's going on. Either he's married, either he doesn't plan to stay, or he's embarrassed by you. So this, I'm loving this. My wife, I am absolutely loving that. I'm eating that up like gravy on a stick.
:Yes, my wife.
:I have branded her Mrs Collington. Never the twain shall part, and you say amen to that? Yes, loving that I am absolutely loving it, but you know, um, we we've talked about a lot of things. I want to know a lot of the things that you've experienced, right, what about what's next? So what's next for faith and le oh, man, oh man. Ooh, we're nosy, yeah, we're nosy.
:You want to go first, honey, or you want us to go, I guess.
:Well, yeah, we're going to be relocating to another place, so we're in the process of moving. So this is our first, I guess, move together, because when we were engaged he moved into where we live first and then after we got married, that's when I moved in. So this is our first move together, so it's kind of fun seeing him pack up. He's more organized than I am.
:I'll admit that. So he's very he's very organized and into packing, and so seeing that dynamic is fun, yeah, and right now we're enjoying the summer and we're both teachers.
:Yeah, we're both teachers.
:So we're going to start preparing for next year coming up in September.
:And to add to what my wife is saying, like, yes, we're moving, but also both being educated. So I'm transitioning to a new um job now I'm living in style, so I'm gonna be working styling um within the next month or so so, and my wife, she, also has another job opportunity in as a teacher in another school as well. So we're just um, you know, last year to this year. I can never imagine how the Lord, like you know, would move us. You know what I mean, like how the Lord is going to work in our lives, but both being in education, both like living in St Island together and just seeing how the Lord provides each and every day, you know, it's just been amazing, you know. So I'm just very fortunate and I'm very definitely looking forward to many more years, many more anniversaries with my wife, with your wife With your wife.
:With your wife I love it.
:So new digs, new jobs, new opportunities, right, it's just. It seems like when you marry the right person and you really give it to God, there's a blossoming, there's a growing, there's a blooming and you can expect, you can ask for and expect the blessing of the Lord on it.
:Amen yes.
:And, if it's okay, on Kim, I want to add to that too, like, really, um, if you, when you like, he finds why it finds a good thing, right? So before meeting, you know, my wife, faith, you know I was working in a different um, what's it called? What's the one with the four different job, different type of job, right? So my first year me and my wife were dating, you know, in a relationship. I was looking different, you know, job field, and then somehow the lord just had an opportunity, education open and then the like, that opportunity let's not opportunity and let's not opportunity. So, and also, I can, I was never was without, and neither was my wife, because as soon as we commit to each other and commit to what the lord wants you to do, he always is going to provide. But you're single when you're married, as long as we commit to each other and commit to what the Lord wants you to do, he always is going to provide, Whether you're single, whether you're married, as long as you trust him, you're good, you know.
:Amen to that. Amen to that. So I was getting ready to wrap up. However, I think Proverbs 18, 22, he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. So I think a lot of times people have misinterpreted this scripture. It's one of my pet peeves, right, because they take it for women should be passive and just sit around on the couch and I say this all the time waiting for the husband's stork to drop a man through the ceiling Right, and that is not what that scripture means.
:Going back to your point, one of the things that we look for and I say this to women all the time you're walking favor for this man. If he is really, if he, when you get married, you can tap into that favor. Say, father, I want to take care of this woman. You have given me this wife. I need to be able to bring finances into the household. Give me a better job to be able to bring finances into the household. Give me a better job. Father's going to honor that right. This is her father. It's your father too, but this is her dad.
:You're literally going to her dad and asking her dad to help you take care of her. He's really going to turn you down? Does that even make sense, knowing what we know about a loving God? So, looking at that, there's so much wisdom in that there is so much wisdom. I really do believe, I am convinced, and I don't think anyone can convince me otherwise, so don't email me. There are things that will happen for you as a couple that won't happen as a single. And it's not to say that your single years are not blessed and if you never get married, that you're not going to accomplish great things. That's a lie from the pit to hell. I did a lot when I was single, and the things that I do now with my husband. The word says that two have a better return for their work.
:So it sounds like you're getting a different return for your work now and he has progressively moved you forward because you're taking good care of his daughter, so he says let's entrust him with even more. Let me give him a better job. Let me put it closer to their home. Right, let's move them to a better apartment. So it sounds like I'm hearing that you have found this good thing and the favor of the Lord is on it and we love that. Oh my gosh. Okay, I'm all in my feels. I'm in my feels.
:I'm in my feels we've had a greeting card moment. We done, got all saw if you say your wife one more again, okay. My wife babe my, wife babe my wife, my wife babe. Everybody should have my wife, right? Yes, I love that Listen that's what that man's supposed to do, right.
:Amen, yes.
:Absolutely Not a question that right yeah, but we love it. We love it. Leon, I'm teasing you, but I I absolutely love it. I'm glad you're taking care of our girl. She is incredibly happy. Every time I hear from her she's like I'm so happy that program. Oh my gosh. It's so beautiful being married Right and.
:I love hearing that. We absolutely love hearing that, and it has been a blessing to walk this journey and to catch up with you guys. Oh my gosh, thank you so much for coming in for this interview and we will be following your progress because we'll be checking in again.
:interview and we will be following your progress, because we'll be checking in again yes, yes, yes.
:Now I am going to um. I know faith.
:You have some new music out when I said about you, didn't mention that.
:But that's okay, because I'm going to put that in the show notes so you can check out faith's music yes, we want to check out his wife's very talented my wife is very talented, so do check out my wife's music we'll be leaving that a link in the show notes so that you can check her music out. Download it, listen y'all, don't steal it. Download it download support, support support
:support rightly okay, it download it. Yes, Download support, support, Support support Rightly okay. Yes.
:That will be in the show notes, as well as a link to our Position for Love program, which Faith did go through. And oh, faith, I didn't tell you. I got a new program, oh, okay.
:We have Love.
:Labs. Now, love Labs are brand spanking new. They just came out this summer and those Love Labs are going to be ongoing support for women who want to be married. They're dating, mating, waiting right. They want to be positioned for love that position for love that you went through, which was Wife Life Academy at the time. It is now an intensive 12-week program and then this is maintenance dose, so you can come into Love Labs at any time, whether you've been in position for love or not, and every month we have a different topic. Awesome, oh, that's great. A different topic every month Like how do you date online? How do you know if he's the one? That's a biggie, right, because I remember having that conversation with you. Oh my gosh.
:Like.
:I don't know. Is he the one? Like there's no red flags and I don't know what to do?
:Say yes when he asks.
:That's what we're going to do. I say yes when he asks that's what we're going to do. Here's the thing If we're not being intentional about that, we can miss, because sometimes things are so good that this can't possibly be. I've prayed. We had times of fasting, we had prayer. That was fire. We had corporate prayer by the way, we had reinstated corporate prayer Awesome.
:Amen.
:We had corporate prayer that was just fire, pro words and yes and all that kind of stuff. And then when we do all this work and then you get this guy who says my wife, I'm going back.
:Who says my wife?
:And loves you and your families get along and it's just a blessing to everyone who knows you. If we're not mindful, we can, so self-sabotage yeah absolutely Right.
:So, being in that community, I want to create that for your sisters who are single and ready to stop embracing that singleness and positioning themselves for love. So I will be doing that every single month. The information for that is going to be in the show notes as well. And again, leon and Faith, we will be following up with you because we're going to ask about all the tea over the next few years. I want to collect some big stuff out of y'all.
:Yes, amen, we're looking forward to it Looking forward to it too.
:That's wonderful y'all. Thank you so much for this interview and we will see you next time on the Position Podcast.
:Thank, you for having us on Kim. Thank you for having us.
:We love it Thank you.
