Christian Dating Talk
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Can worldly success ever compensate for a lack of spiritual alignment in a marriage? In this heartfelt episode, we explore the profound importance of marrying a partner who shares a strong Christian faith. Through personal stories and genuine reflections, we highlight the challenges and potential spiritual conflicts that can arise when partners do not share the same religious foundation. You’ll hear about almost getting caught in a seemingly perfect relationship with someone who didn't share the same faith, underscoring the pivotal role of spiritual compatibility. We stress that aligning your relationship with God's will is key to building a Christ-centered union that can withstand the trials of life.
We also delve into the emotional and spiritual challenges of choosing a kingdom marriage over personal desires. It’s about prioritizing God's teachings and not getting upset with friends who stand by their faith. Through more personal anecdotes, we discuss the necessity of waiting for a God-ordained partner and the pitfalls of relationships with non-believers. Special emphasis is given to the struggles faced by devout women who marry men not aligned with their faith, leading to decades of spiritual conflict. Join us for an inspiring discussion on the value of patience, prayer, and trusting in God's divine plan for a blessed and purpose-driven marriage, culminating in a heartfelt prayer for guidance and strength.
Hello, hello, hello, hello. How's it going? I just wanted to take a second and shoot this quick just reminder to my fellow sisters who are on this dating journey and you may not know exactly what God has in store for you and you're just hoping and waiting and praying. And maybe you've met a guy that seems like he's the perfect person, right, and it's like everything looks like extremely perfect, like he has the money, he has the status, he has the reputation. Y'all have a past, you know his family, everything is about 99, but he don't know Jesus.
Speaker 1:I have seen this play out many, many times where we as women can get real caught up, and I know I'm just jumping right into this episode, y'all, but it's just really on my heart right now just to share this. I know we may get caught up. I even got caught up before um, like literally almost caught up into a relationship in between me, um, taking a pause from my daughter's dad and him leaving. Then I finally was ready to go back to the dating scene and I met this amazing guy who had everything y'all. I mean he looked good, smelled good, great status, great money, everything appeared to be awesome, but he was in new age and he would try to say it was similar to Christianity. But we know that's totally different. They are worshiping the universe, when the universe is a creation. Our creator is our god, and so, yeah, I almost got got to.
Speaker 1:And so I just want to encourage you to make sure that the foundation of whoever you're marrying, whoever you're thinking about dating, you need to ensure that they love Jesus. They gotta love Jesus. I don't care how much money they got, I don't care how much status they got, I don't care where they come from. I don't care about none of that. All that is secondary compared to do they love Jesus. You want to know why. This is why Because marriage is hard enough.
Speaker 1:Marriage is so hard y'all, and I am married to a beautiful husband and I love him with all my heart. I thank God for him daily. But marriage comes with its own set of struggles. Because the enemy hates marriage. Why does he hate marriage? Because God ordained it. The enemy hates anything that God ordains, and so if you're going to marry somebody that's not in the kingdom of God, you are setting yourself up to be totally stressed out with two different kingdoms under one house, and you're going to find yourself fighting over your bloodline. You're going to find yourself confused. You may even find yourself fighting with a demonic presence in your home, and I see this play out a lot with different ladies that I get a chance to walk with and they are cohabitating with their boyfriend and so it's like they are desensitized to Holy Spirit's instruction that cohabitation is not biblical. Y'all. I don't care what the world say.
Speaker 1:We have to stop adopting worldly views and culture views and trying to make it apply to Bible and biblical believing. Do you want to be a biblical Christian or do you want to be a cultural Christian? You got to choose and you cannot cherry pick from the word of god. You can't pick and choose which scripture you want to apply, like it's some type of genie or something. Our god is god, y'all. He is the most high god. He deserves our total surrender, our total obedience, and when you choose to literally disobey him, you choose the wrath that's going to come. You choose whatever consequences is going to come and there's no getting around it.
Speaker 1:And I understand we may be like we want it so bad because everything seems perfect. It seems like maybe I can just pray him into the kingdom, maybe I can just love him into the kingdom. Maybe I can just do what I'm willing to do, whatever it take. Maybe that's that. Maybe that's how you feel. You feel like you can do whatever it takes. You're willing to help this person get to know Jesus.
Speaker 1:I'm just here to tell you, when you decide that you're gonna date somebody and you know the word of God said no, but you decide anyways, you're gonna do it guess what? You've already let him know that you've placed him over your God. So why would he follow your God? Do you see what I'm saying? If you decide to, you want to date to get somebody saved. That's a recipe for the disaster. That's a total recipe for your life being in the balance.
Speaker 1:And one thing that I know for sure is that one of the number one things that can take down a mighty woman of God is a relationship that's not a biblical relationship. Somebody's not pushing you to Jesus. Y'all don't have the same foundation. Y'all don't have the same God. Two kingdoms under one household that's a kingdom divided, which shall fall household. There's a kingdom divided, which shall fall.
Speaker 1:And so I know that's not an easy conversation to have. I know your heart just want to love this person and you're thinking, oh, it's not that bad, we get along now. But I'm here to tell you, the person that you marry is not going to be the person that you dated. Do you hear me? The person that you are going to marry will not be the person that you are dating now. They're going to shift into that role of your husband and of your wife.
Speaker 1:If you're a godless man to this and what you got to understand is, you can hardly honestly trust a kingdom husband or kingdom wife, because you never know what things are dealing with, because now that you're closer to them, you're able to see the entire picture, whereas when you were just dating them, you couldn't see the whole picture. You can just go off what they show you. But when you're living with somebody, you're going to see the good, the bad, the ugly, all of it. And when that person's getting on your nerve or being unfair or being disrespectful because that will happen sometimes, sometimes intentionally, sometimes not intentionally, but when that happens, when conflict comes, comes you'll be able to go to the king and say god, he tripping. Y'all know how many times I sent you my husband I'll be like god, this man tripping. I feel like I want to go and pop him in the head or something, and so I need for you to understand that when you don't marry a man or a woman, if you're if you are, um, a man listening to my podcast and I appreciate you for showing up because I know sometimes I may be like, hey, girl, but I get men who listen to me too and so if you are dating this person's not a believer and then you choose to marry them, you can't expect god's blessing on that marriage.
Speaker 1:You can't get mad at your friends for not wanting to like they. They want to love you through this, but you can't get mad at them for standing by the word of god. You can't get upset because you don't have total support from all your friends. Oh, they don't want to support me and you you start feeling sad because you're literally choosing to go against the word of god and us as believers. No matter who or what comes, we must stand by the word of god. We wouldn't be a true believer if we didn't stand on the word of god, and you should thank god for friends who are real believers. There's so many counterfeits out here y'all, and when you find a friend that's a real follower of jesus christ. You better thank god for them and you better thank god if they're willing to, even in the face of disappointing, you stand on what the word of God says, because that's a friend. The wounds are of a friend are far better than the compliments of some person who don't care if you walk with Jesus or not. I'd rather have somebody tell me the truth and hurt my feelings than to watch me walk into devastation, watch me walk into a place of torment, watch me walk underneath a curse. So I'm just here to tell you if you're dating somebody who's not a believer, you can choose. It's your freedom of choice.
Speaker 1:God's word doesn't change, and let me say this right here too, because I see this happens. I see this happening a lot. Y'all, this happens a lot. You may hear a baby screaming. I'm in Walmart so we just gonna roll with it, but I see people that get prophetic words and they'll try to place that prophetic word over the logos, over the written word of God. No prophetic word, listen to me no prophetic word will ever, ever, ever, ever go over or or usurp or have more authority over God's written word.
Speaker 1:Understand, and so when we are getting these prophetic words, these words are in part, because a prophet can only prophesy in part. Our Bible is what we live by. You cannot live off a prophetic word. You can't live off of that. You can't sustain off of that. You can't just sustain off a prophetic word or a little filler you get doing worship, or Sunday morning services or whatever. You get your daily dose of Jesus. No, you must eat the word, you must live the word, you must literally bask in the word, and so I don't care what prophetic If it ain't lining up with the Bible. Throw that thing out quickly, because it's about to have you in some trouble, in some hot water. And so I just want to encourage you just to one surrender Surrender to God.
Speaker 1:Even in this, yes, even in this, I want you to say God. I'm sorry for putting my desires before you, o King Lord, I'm sorry for making this about me and not about you, because these marriages that god are putting god's putting together in this season and in this time such as this, these are kingdom marriages that god are putting together. It's not just no random stuff, you see, and people come together. Me and my husband are literally together because of kingdom. That is the only reason we're together, and that word was spoken over and over us because we didn't even understand. We were like man. We are two different people. My husband's a Haitian American who's literally like a Caucasian man y'all I'm not even kidding and I'm a black girl from, uh, memphis to the sea, and it just didn't make sense. But we loved each other, like we can't help but love each other.
Speaker 1:And when a prophet came to our church and he just starts to really just speak over us and was saying it was God who put y'all together because this is a kingdom marriage, I want you all to know what a kingdom marriage looks like. It's one of the most beautiful things. God's ever gifted me with a kingdom marriage, and so right now I'm going to pray over here. I want you to bow your head and pray with me. Father, god, in the name of Jesus, we just come before you now, father, and we just lay down our rights. We lay down what we desire, lord. We get up on that cross and we die to our flesh.
Speaker 1:Father, forgive us for thinking we know what we need. Forgive us for thinking we know better than you know what we need. Forgive us, lord, for putting culture and feelings over you and what you called us to God. Lord, we surrender our futures, we surrender our life, we surrender our spouse, whoever that may be. God, we give that totally up to you, god, to write our love story. And, father, we pray all these things in Jesus' name, amen. So be encouraged and know that the Lord has you, he has your spouse, he see you, he see all the tears, he see all the frustration, he see all the disappointment.
Speaker 1:But just because you're in that feeling, lean not to your own understanding, but acknowledge Jesus. Acknowledge him because he's going to direct your path. And you got to seek first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness and you got to put to death your desires. If your desires are coming against the written word of God, you got to kill it. And I know it sucks. I know you might be like man Faye this is so hard, but I'm just here to tell you there's a whole lot worse than waiting for a spouse. There's something a whole lot worse than waiting for someone to love and someone to walk with for the rest of your life a life partner, right? What's someone to love and someone to walk with for the rest of your life? A life partner, right? What's worse is wishing you had waited. What's even worse than that is getting into a relationship with a person who don't know Jesus. You don't know when they're going to manifest. You're hoping and you're praying to get saved. I've seen this happen so many times.
Speaker 1:Mighty women of God marry a man that's not of Jesus, and for 20, 30, 40, sometimes even 50 years of torture and torment. Because there's two kingdoms and because you are a believer, you got to begin to become the chief intercessor of the household and deal with whatever that comes with. May that not be you. In Jesus name, may you wait on what God calls you to. May you wait on the sweet gift of an ordained and blessed marriage from God's perfect will for your life, and I pray this for you. I love you. Keep going, sis, you got this. Bye-bye.