Christian Dating Talk
Christian Dating Talk
SOOOO You want to take a vacation with your babe? LISTEN TO THIS FIRST!
Planning a romantic getaway? Before you book that flight, consider the biblical principles of dating and relationships. This podcast delves into the potential pitfalls of vacationing with a significant other, especially for Christians. We'll discuss the importance of establishing a strong foundation, the risks of physical intimacy outside of marriage, and the need for spiritual discernment. Tune in to gain valuable insights and make wise decisions as you navigate the complexities of modern relationships.
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Awesome, awesome, awesome. Hey y'all, now it's time to put a face to a name, or a name to a face. My name is Faye Marillion. If you don't know me, some of y'all have been listening to me for a whole year and your girl is finally here on YouTube, here in the space, just to really just connect and take our relationship, our friendship, our sisterhood, to the next level. Okay, and a brotherhood too, okay.
Speaker 1:And so today I want to talk about something that a lot of people feel some type of ways about it, and I'm just going to be truthful, and if you know me, you know I'm going to always be truthful. I'm going to always tell the truth. I don't care what you think, you can be mad at me, but if a person don't tell you the truth, they don't love you. If a person can't tell you the truth, they don't value you. And because I've dated so many different ways, I dated as an unbeliever and I was a train wreck. I dated as I was a believer, but I was still practicing culture principles in my dating, which led me to be a single mom living behind a hospital and having my daughter grow up in dysfunction, and there's no fault of hers, but it's just what it was. Because of my poor decisions, it directly impacted her life, where she'll never know what it's truly like to live with both her parents, both her biological parents. And, granted, my husband is absolutely amazing. Like he's absolutely incredible. He loves her but at the same time, in her little mind, she's always kind of tug of war man. Did they break up because of me? Like what happened? And so I'm doing this, I'm putting my life out here, hoping that somebody will listen and take the good and leave the bad and not make the same foolish decisions that I made. And so, if you are a person that you're dating and you want to do it God's way one, I just want to say congratulations. Two, I just want to say keep going. I know right now, in 2024, y'all got it bad, and so I am praying for you, I am rooting for you and I want you to know that the Lord's got you Okay, and so let's get right into it. So we're going to talk about this.
Speaker 1:Traveling together on a vacation, or even if you're going to like a wedding, or just traveling together on a vacation together, I think is terrible. I think it's a horrible idea and I'm going to be looking over here because I have my notes, but I just want to confront this because now we're getting upon the holiday season and we're making decisions on who's going to visit whose family and if y'all ain't trying to get married, y'all just booed up, just dating and stuff. These are dangerous times and dangerous moments that you can find yourself in the bed with a man who's not your husband or you, sir, can be in a bed with a woman who's not your wife, because it's easy to get all booed up and colored up when it's cold outside and start to make dumb decisions and you find yourself in a space where it ain't good, okay, and so let's hop right into it. It ain't good, okay, and so let's hop right into it. I want to share with y'all, like why I think this is a bad idea, what the Bible says about this, and I hear it all the time.
Speaker 1:All faith Christian dating in the Bible. Be quiet, because if you follow the principles of scripture, you will realize that a lot of stuff that we try to make a gray area is real black and white. Most times we just trying to push the line and go to the edge as much as possible and hope we don't fall off. If you are trying to see how close can you get, I'm telling you you are already too close. You about to find yourself in a space where you don't want to be and about to totally wreck the rest of your life. And, granted, god can restore, because God restored me. But I need you to hear me. Stop trying to figure out what a line. Stop and you try to figure out God. How can I pursue you more? Because it's in the pursuit of the Lord that you're going to get everything God wants for you. You're going to get that husband, you're going to find that wife, you're going to get exactly what God's promised, and it's only going to happen when you're trying to pursue him with all your heart and not trying to pursue a spouse or companionship or whatever it looks like, with all your heart. So let's get right into it.
Speaker 1:So let's talk about the purpose of Christian dating. Okay, the purpose of Christian dating is to honor God. And so if you're dating just to play with somebody, you're dating just because you don't want to be alone. You're dating because you're uncomfortable with yourself. You're dating because any other reason, then, man, man, I just really feel in my heart that I'm a spouse. I feel like God's called me to be a spouse, and if you don't have that feeling, go pray about it now. You're like faith really.
Speaker 1:Yes, fool, because if you don't begin to see God in every area of your life, getting married ain't gonna fix it, dating ain't gonna fix it, that boyfriend ain't gonna fix it, those kids definitely ain fix it, okay. And so you have to really see God. God, am I a wife Like? What does a wife look like? What does a husband look like? Am I willing to die to myself with Mormon? Because when you get married, I'm telling you right now, it's going to be a lot of death, a lot of giving up and deny yourself, a lot of self-sacrifice, which is beautiful, but it's costly, and most times when you're dating, you straight up forget, you know, about the cost of dating and the cost of marriage. But that's my point.
Speaker 1:The purpose of Christian dating is to honor God. Honor God, grow spiritually and to prepare for a possible future marriage. These are the purposes of Christian dating and I don't want to hear Faye, it's not in the scripture, faye, you know, there's no such thing as Christian dating. There's principles in the Bible that make it real clear what God has orchestrated and ordained for us in 2024, heading into 2025, which is pretty cool, okay. And so this scripture comes from 1 Corinthians 10, chapter 10, verse 31,. Okay, whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Whatever you do, baby, if that's cooking, if that's cleaning, if that's having a husband, if that's dating, whatever you do, it's almost like God kind of knew it was going to be tripping a little bit. God kind of knew it was going to try to. You know, see if we can, kind of you know, you know you try to be slick a little bit. Try to see what you can get away with. God said you know what. Put it in the scripture whatever you do, whatever covers everything. So the purpose of dating for those who don't know is to honor the Lord, honor God first, grow spiritually and to prepare for a possible future marriage. Most of us be already married mentally. We already be to jump the broom with the person we already down the street ready to have kids In our mind. You got to be careful with those fantasies, okay, and really put things in perspective. Let me just stay on target.
Speaker 1:I believe that traveling with a boyfriend or girlfriend is totally self-deception and also a huge distraction. What am I saying? Traveling together can pull couples away from their goals of you know being doing what God called you to do. In that moment they can pull you away. You take away their attention from your pursuit of the kingdom and focus more on fun rather than god-centered growth. You can skip the interview phase because when you date baby, you better be asking every single question you can ask, because that's the time to find out. It's not the time to find out that this person don't want kids once we say I do, uh, you tripping. It's not the time to find out how's this don't want kids? Once we say I do, you tripping. It's not the time to find out how is this person with their parents, bro? It's not the time to find out. Once y'all been married six months, it's not the time to find out all these things that are very key to a flourishing relationship in marriage.
Speaker 1:In the marriage, you need to be having these conversations and you need to be serving at your local church underneath leadership, with accountability and community, to make sure that you're on the right track, understand, so I'm going to keep going. I'm going to keep you out here too long, okay, so boundaries is another one. So the first one you need to understand the purpose. The second one we talk about boundaries protect your relationship. So another reason why I believe that traveling as a couple on a vacation, heading out, going to meet each other's families together, y'all all booed up in a hotel Some of y'all be lying. Y'all be like we're going to travel together, we're going to buy two hotels, but we going to still sleep in the same room with each other. You need to understand what my apostle be saying. I love it. I'm going to re-quote him. So go look up Apostle Tony Wade and Prophetess Felicia Wade. Okay, apostle Tony Wade, always drop.
Speaker 1:Ain't nobody. Hell, fine, I don't care. The deed ain't that good. Where you go, you know you playing with your eternity. You hear me, and so I don't care what temptation, I don't care, like how you feel. This is the truth. When you are in fornication, you are right, like, literally, you are in the mouth of a lion and if God so choose to cut you off right, then to allow you to die and die in that you will die in your sin and you will miss heaven. All because the deal was so good. And I know you're like dang Faye.
Speaker 1:Yes, I come bold, I come very aggressive, because I know what that deception and what this distraction can do. Like you ain't talking to somebody who ain't ain't had her fair share of dating dumb, and then the Lord having to pull me out. Tell me if I usually can sit on the sideline because, baby, you don't know how to pick a man, and everyone that you pick you end up sleeping with them or or some crazy, and so you just need to take a time out and just let me refine you, let me heal you, let me make you new. And I had to take that time. But I fell for that deception all of us as believers because the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak, baby, and so, with that weak old flesh, you better put some boundaries up, and boundaries are there to protect you. So let me get into it.
Speaker 1:You just got to understand the importance of those boundaries and you got to stop lying to yourself. A lot of times we lie to ourself. You ain't lying to nobody but yourself. But you got to understand that the Lord sees and he knows everything, every thought, every imagination. God sees and he knows, and you can't be claiming you want to live for the Lord and you want a kingdom marriage.
Speaker 1:But you over here having sex with little Jaquan and them, and y'all going out to Jamaica and all these places on vacations, and then you talking about, cause, some of y'all, some of y'all people who you know, y'all like Christians and stuff, and y'all like to try to pretend that you, you being holy, I'm talking to you. You going on a vacation, you taking a trip to a wedding together and you saying we're going to get two hotel rooms. I know what you're doing, bro. Y'all are both about to sleep in that same hotel room. You're about to be touching and kissing and doing all kinds of stuff. It don't matter if you're like, well, if they wouldn't penetrate, that don't matter.
Speaker 1:The fact is you are totally disrespecting the boundaries. You are totally playing with fire. You can't get mad when you become heartbroken. You end up pregnant, you end up in a situation where you, devastated, like you can't get mad at the consequences for sin because you refuse to put those boundaries up and walk in that accountability and walk in that community. And I know you're like dang Faye, you being so hard, bro, I'm telling you, sin will cost you way more than you want to pay. Sin will take you further than where you're trying to go.
Speaker 1:You're thinking y'all just want to make out and kiss. You're thinking y'all just want to cuddle with a little Netflix. I'm telling you you're about to have sex, you're about to be doing stuff you ain't supposed to be doing and you cannot be giving away marriage privileges when you just date and I personally believe that dating I mean traveling is a marriage privilege. I don't think you should be doing that. Like, you can tell me how you wanna. You can lie, you can say how you wanna say. Let me see it, let me put it like this, right here you can say whatever you wanna say. Like, faye, I'm strong enough. Faye, I got my guard up. Girl, ain't nobody getting this cookie? You're lying Like. Stop lying and just be real. You wouldn't be dating him. You wouldn't be entertaining his phone calls, you wouldn't be trying to get his attention if you didn't find him attractive. You too, sir Because I know I got some men who listen to me too you would not be going out of your way to whine and dime her, to just really show and lay out the red carpet for her if you didn't find her attractive. Let's be honest. And so when you're putting yourself in harm's way, y'all are number one going away from accountability. Because who's traveling with you? I'm away, your mama going to be there, the pastor going to be there? No, it's going to be you and him.
Speaker 1:And a lot of y'all be lying. You go and you go get. You say I'm going to get two hotel rooms and you won't really stay in your hotel room. Okay, okay, let me, let me. Let me, let me move on, cause I'm starting to get a little irritated.
Speaker 1:I get so sick and tired of kingdom people falling prey for themselves. It's almost like the enemy, like, at this point, I ain't even got to set a trap, because they're going to just trip their own little foolish self. And no, no, no, no, like. Stop lying to yourself. Let's just be honest. Be honest and say I don't, don't, don't like. Stop lying to yourself. Let's just be honest. Be honest and say I don't respect my boundaries.
Speaker 1:I want what I want when I want it, how I want it, and I'm willing to commit this action to get what I want. And if that's, you be real about it. That was me. I was with my boyfriend, not his dad, my oldest daughter's dad. I want what I wanted when I wanted it. I wanted a husband and I was willing to do anything it took to get a husband. And so that meant I'm about to cook, I'm about to clean, I'm about to, I'm about to do whatever the brother want me to do, because I want him and I want him to know how real I am about it. I want him to know I'm a wife. Hey, check me, I'm a wife, wife over here, wife over here.
Speaker 1:And when you're doing it, I'm telling you he ain't looking at you, bro, but he going to continue to take all that you've given him. He going to continue because you got to understand a lot of times men don't accept your good stuff. You know you're going to give it. Why not take it? I mean, he'll be dumb not to take it if it's good, especially if it's a fake Christian at that. A lot of times we'll be dating fake Christians and they don't have no fruit and no power, no anointing. They barely even said the sinner's prayer. Yesterday you already trying to marry him. Girl, sit down.
Speaker 1:But back to what I'm saying. Boundaries are very important and if you're going to disrespect your boundaries, be prepared for consequences that will happen. There's no getting away from it. You cannot play with fire and not expect to get burned. Fires burn. That's why you have to leave them alone. You got to let that thing lay there. Leave it alone.
Speaker 1:And so what scripture am I coming from? Song of Solomon, verse eight and four says do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. And so you can say all you want to. We're going to just go on this little vacation. We're going to have a good time, it's going to be great, and thank you not for you, for letting us get away. You got to understand the flesh is the flesh is the flesh, and if the flesh get that feeling baby, it's real hard to shake you. I'm telling you right now, especially if you're somebody who you know fornication and being promiscuous and having sex with your boyfriend was a thing you did in the world you better keep yourself up out of there, okay. And also, while we're here, I just feel Holy Spirit leading me this way Some of y'all be sexting.
Speaker 1:Stop sending naked pictures to other people. Like, stop receiving naked pictures. If a man is sending you naked pictures, he ain't no Christian, he ain't no blood, blood wash, committed believer. That is not somebody you need to be leading you. That's not somebody you want to be leading you and your future children Understand me. And so we got to be honest.
Speaker 1:I think Christian dating forces you to really look at yourself, because when you got that desire, that fire, that passion that's burning inside of you, it's easy to say, like you know, I'm good, don't worry about I'm good. But, bro, you only lie to yourself and the worst deception is self-deception. Understand me, you ain't lying to nobody. We all see it. We see you coming in church, coming in church looking crazy. We see you when you don't pick up the phone for a couple days because you feel shame. We know, I know when my friends be off, I'll be like hold on. You can sit in the spirit when you're connecting to somebody. So stop it.
Speaker 1:And if you are a person who's trapped in this, there's help for you. You can get out of this. But you got to stop making way and making excuses for the flesh and go ahead and kill it. Go ahead and cancel that trip. I know he bought you a trip to Jamaica, to Barbados. He bought you this trip to Mexico. What you going out there for, I'm telling you, if that man's spending that much money on a ticket for you to fly your butt down there, you best believe he wants something. And it ain't no car, it ain't no. No, what I got up in here Ain't no earrings. He wants some of you, some of your body. Okay, I'm gonna move on, okay.
Speaker 1:And so the next reason I think this is dangerous is you need to avoid temptation, baby. The Bible tells us very clear avoid temptations. 2 Timothy 2 and 22 says flee the desires of youth and pursue righteousness. He said you gotta run, baby. The only verse that I really can remember now granted, I'm getting better in my scripture, but one verse I know for a fact that talks about a certain sin that you gotta run from. It is sexual sin, because that thing, babe. Let me tell you something if your body gets a physical type of weight at a certain point I call it the point of no return, ain't no returning god will grant the door for you to escape, but you gotta be willing to jump, you gotta be willing to escape. And if you ain't willing to escape, I'm sorry you, but you about to be messed up.
Speaker 1:And so when you are desiring to travel with your boyfriend, um, even a fiance, cause you ain't married till you married. When y'all traveling and stuff, stand at the same hotel, same Airbnb, sleeping next to each other, it all sounds all good. But I'm telling you, sin will creep in, it will knock and it will wait for an opportunity for you to be off guard. So I'm telling you, when you all head over heels and stuff, you ain't paying attention, you ain't focused. Most times when we get into a relationship we kind of lose a sense of our sharpness in the spirit. We kind of get so kind of caught off guard, kind of distracted by oh my God, what's going to happen. And there's nothing wrong with that per se, but it puts you in a space where you could be easily deceived by yourself and by your significant other. So you just want to be careful to avoid sexual sin.
Speaker 1:I kind of hit this on the last point. But sexual sin is a real thing and when you become one with a person it's real hard to shake them, real hard to shake them. I've literally watched several people. They were doing just fine. They went on a trip and I know they had sex because they got back they were a whole different person.
Speaker 1:You got to understand when you are like having sexual sin with somebody, y'all becoming one. You will be in a chokehold to that person and won't know how to get out. That's because you put yourself in a situation and you didn't flee, you didn't run, you didn't take the way of escape that God provided for you. You thought that you was the exempt one. See, when I became a single mom, I was totally distraught. Want to know why? Because I thought I was special. Most women who become single moms thought they would be the one, thought they would be different. No, honey, you got to understand. There's consequences for sin. The babies are the consequence, but the lifestyle you about to have is about to be a little rough. I'm going to be real with you, and so stop thinking you exempt. Stop thinking that you got more power over your flesh because you can't trust the flesh. I don't trust the flesh. I kill my flesh. God told you to kill it. Why are you trying to trust it and be friends with it when God said to kill it? Help me understand. Let's keep going.
Speaker 1:Number four we want to honor God. You want to honor God through every action. Like we said before, whatever you do, do it unto the Lord. The next one. There are alternate ways of traveling. Don't be acting like I ain't going on trips unless it's with him. Girl bye, tell that to somebody else, because you cannot look me in my face and tell me that, or we're going to have a problem. Okay, and so I used to travel all the time with my friends, with a group of ladies who love Jesus, who will make sure that I was accountable, that I was upholding the standard of the Bible, that I wouldn't be caught in a space of compromise. That's how I was able to travel.
Speaker 1:You can literally go into a wedding like like make sure you're if y'all gonna both go to the same wedding, not saying you can't go because you grown, gotta make a decision, but make sure you have parameters in place. Like go sleep at somebody else's house, like somebody. Somebody needs to be there. You need to have accountability and community In Christian dating. You cannot date without accountability, christian community and boundaries. It ain't going to work. Like you got to make sure it's all together okay and so conclusion I just want you to understand like you can't lie.
Speaker 1:You can lie to yourself, but you're just hurting yourself and you gotta remember in all things we're honoring god when you are traveling with your boo, when you traveling, going out of town and stuff y'all doing all this really cute stuff because you watch instagram. Stop allowing instagram to lie to you. Stop allowing these relationship doing all this really cute stuff because you watching Instagram. Stop allowing Instagram to lie to you. Stop allowing these relationship goals, all this right here, to lie to you. Most everybody going to post they wins and oh my God, it's so amazing, oh my God, it's so great. But ain't nobody telling you to work behind marriage, nobody telling you what the costs were for the most part.
Speaker 1:So what you need to understand is, while you're dating, date interview, get to know him. When you call yourself traveling with him, you open yourself up for some danger. You call yourself y'all going to jamaica. I know you're not wearing a grandma suit to the beach. So what you got on, what you're showing I know you're not modest. I'm yep, I'm up in here why? Because I need you to understand. It's time to be real. It's time to be real. It's time to be real and be honest. Either we are for Jesus or we're not. Pink, stop straddling the fence, stop thinking you slick because you're not. Either you are for Jesus or you're not. What are we going to do? And once you decide what you're going to do, be about it, and you probably won't be perfect, even though I think you should fight for perfection. But because we are in, you know we're still in the flow. Sometimes you may fall, but you need to be quick to repent.
Speaker 1:And I think if you intentionally booking these little vacations out of town with your little boo thing, you lining yourself up to be deceived, to be in sexual sin, to be in a space where you don't want to be biblically, why am I saying all this? It's because I want you to do better. It's because I want more for you. I want that kingdom marriage that God could give you. I want you to honor God in all things. Because one thing I realized, that is that when I started to honor God with my whole heart, when I got real about my walk with the king y'all, my life changed in the greatest way.
Speaker 1:I stopped running to these broken cisterns of relationship, only to be depleted, having everything taken from me and left feeling like I wasn't good enough. Left feeling like, oh my God, when will somebody ever want me? You got to stop doing that. You got to stop thinking these broken cisterns called relationships are going to fix you, and you got to stop lying to yourself and be very, very honest and real with oh my God, lord, there's a void in my heart where I feel the need that I need to travel with this guy, to be close, to be intimate. Wow, that's not your husband. What are you trying to prove? What are you doing? And, as your sister, I'm just here just to you know. Be honest with you. That's dangerous and you need to know it's not god honoring to be traveling with no accountability and no community. It's not good. You ain't telling me you ain't you going to jamaica on no trip? Or mexico on a trip in your boo thing and y'all not gonna be having sex and you wearing skimpy clothes and y'all do what you're not supposed to do.
Speaker 1:At that point, when you cross those lines, you will not see the red flags God's hoping you're going to see, and you will find yourself married to somebody that's not who he told you he was, or man, or brother in Christ. You will find yourself married to a woman who's not that Proverbs 31 woman and you'll be like oh my God, what happened? You happen, you happen. Lust is so powerful where it'll blind you, like people say love is blind. No, it's not. Love sees, but it still chooses to love unconditionally. Lust is blinding, though. Lust will drag you.
Speaker 1:I remember being in a relationship where I just was like, oh, I gotta have him. Oh, my God, I just gotta have this. What's that driving you Like? Shouldn't nothing drive you like that? Love is a choice. We choose to love our spouse and, granted, I be loving him. I mean, I love my husband. Don't get me wrong, but it took me a minute to learn there's a big difference from lust and love. And when I was in those lustful relationships it was like, oh my God, I just really want him to see, I just want him to understand that I'm a great woman. I hope he chooses me. I choose me. Stop waiting for a man to choose you. And you choose you. You choose you. And then you choose to become a great mom, if you are, if you have babies. You choose to become a great entrepreneur, if you run a business. You choose to be a great daughter, a great, great friend, a great person, a great daughter of the king. You choose to do that. And then you choosing to do that and on your assignment that the Lord gave you.
Speaker 1:I promise you you will show up one day and God will be the totally switched your life up. You'd be like what is happening, like God. That don't even make sense. And God will totally position you for your Adam, your future spouse possible spouse, because it still is a process after that. But God will position you in a way where your future possible spouse could find you, but he ain't going to find you out of order. Possible spouse could find you, but he ain't going to find you out of order. I'm telling you some of y'all going to Dubai and Mexico and Jamaica with your boyfriend and your husband's here in the US trying to pray to God that his wife will be pure and will be holy and will be blameless and that God will allow him to find her. He ain't going to find you. If you all over there sleeping with Jaquan and Harrison and little David and all them, the husband ain't going to find you. If you're all over there sleeping with Jaquan and Harrison and little David and all them, the husband's not going to find you.
Speaker 1:You got to stop allowing yourself to be a snack when you a full entree. What are you doing which lets me know there are internal things that you need to deal with. You need to go to counseling, go to your pastor. You need to go do the hard work. You got time right now to heal up a lot of those wounds for being a little girl broken, for being a teenager broken, all those places that you experience brokenness. Your time when you're single is the time to be getting healed up on those. Because guess what, if you don't heal them up now, when you call yourself getting married, they're going to show up like a lion of getting married. They're going to show up like a lion. But I love y'all. I hope y'all enjoyed this.
Speaker 1:I want to encourage you all also to download my new book. Go ahead and buy it. It's going to totally change your life, full of good. It's going to give you practical tools. If you know me, you know I'm all about practicality. We want to break this down to how do we practically do this? Yes, I love the big philosophy and all that right there. I love a great mindset, like you know, massage but I need to know the application. This book is going to be heavy on the application. This book is going to really help you master and walk in what God called you to walk in as a kingdom, single.
Speaker 1:A lot of times in today's day, we are seduced by the things of the world and we become cultural in everything that we're doing. Oh, they're kissing, so we're kissing. Oh, they're going to Jamaica together, so we'll go together too. Oh, she's showing her little boobs, I'll show mine too. You see what I'm saying. A lot of times we begin to accept those cultural influences, not realizing there's a kingdom way, and so I want to encourage you download that book, buy it, read it.
Speaker 1:There's going to be other books coming out. It's going to be a girl's manual and a boy's manual coming out, and also an instructor's manual as well, because God has something to say about Christian dating. God cares about relationships. The first marriage was literally restored not restored, but produced by God. God was the one who ordained this. Why be acting like? He ain't the one who made sex and made all this stuff beautiful? Why be acting like, like God's surprised? Oh my God, what you gonna do? No, god got something to say about it, so let's let him speak from his word. Okay, so go and get the book.
Speaker 1:The book's already dropped. Go ahead and buy it. Share it with a friend who needs it and y'all let me know. If you need anything, okay, email me, hit me up, I'm here. I love y'all and pray us out. Father God, in the name of Jesus Lord, I thank you just for this towel. My beautiful sisters and brothers in Christ, god, I pray now that you just will send your angels just to begin to touch and heal and minister to your people. God, god, allow us not to be deceived by the enemy and don't be deceived by ourselves, oh God, but allow us to deny ourselves for your sake, god, and trust that you will write our love story. This in Jesus name. I pray, amen. I love y'all. Y'all take care. All right, let's go.