Christian Dating Talk
Christian Dating Talk
How to Prepare for Your Future Spouse
In today’s episode, I’m breaking down how to prepare for the God-ordained spouse you’ve been praying for. We’ll talk about deepening your relationship with God, healing from your past, and becoming the best version of YOU.
This isn’t about chasing perfection—it’s about positioning yourself for the purpose and promise God has for your life. Whether you’re single, dating, or in your waiting season, this episode will encourage you to trust God’s timing and do the work to become the partner you’re called to be. Let’s get into it!
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Hello, hello, hello, how y'all doing. Ooh, I miss y'all so much. Thank y'all so much, just for the love and just for following our podcast. It's been a little minute. I've just been getting my family and taking care of some transitions that are about to happen in my life, but I do miss you guys so much and I've been praying over each and every one of you. Happy New Year to you all. This is going to be an amazing year, so get ready for what God has in store for you. Okay, my family.
Speaker 1:Today we're going to just really just talk about how do you begin to prepare, like you've been praying. You've been praying for God to send you a spouse and you've been waiting. But how are you really prepared? How do you get your life ready, get your mind ready, just for a future spouse? And so we're going to hop right into it. First, let's pray.
Speaker 1:Father, god, in the name of Jesus, I just thank you just for my beautiful sisters and brothers that's following me on this podcast. God, thank you just for the desire you've given each of us to be a spouse. Lord, we surrender that over to you and Lord, we just thank you just for just for being with us, just for not forgetting about that, but about us, just for everything that you're doing in this season. Now, god, faith in our works is dead and we're going to believe you that you're going to give us our heart desires, and, whether it comes now or later, or even we don't get a chance to experience it, we're going to surrender it completely to you. But, lord, in our waiting, we will prepare. So, father, I ask you just to open up our hearts, allow them to hear the message today and amen, all right, my beautiful people.
Speaker 1:So, when preparing to be a spouse, remember when I was, um, got tired. I got so sick and tired uh, it was probably about 2015-2016. I got so sick and tired of the dating game. It just felt like a waste of time, a waste of energy and I was done with it. I was like, bump, all this, I'm done. And I remember sitting down with my brother, ryan Thomas and if you listen to this, bro, I really appreciate you and thank God for you, um. But yeah, I remember sitting down, talking with him and I was like, bro, I'm done. Bro, this is just so, so ghetto. I don't do this, no more. I'm just gonna be single. I'm gonna love my kids. I'm gonna make disciples and I'm gonna get my bag, and I just focused in on being a great mom, building my business and making disciples of Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1:And so I consecrated myself for like an entire year and in that consecration I still was taking my heart to the Lord. I got. I want to date. I would love somebody to love me. I would love to love someone. I'm just going to prepare, and so I begin to become that wife, and so I want to share with you all exactly what I did to become that wife.
Speaker 1:Ok, and so, number one, what I did was I begin to deepen my relationship with the Lord, I begin to be way more intentional with prayer, and I went to God and I just poured out my heart to him. I did not hold back. I told him everything I was feeling. I prioritized my prayer life, my worship time and my word time. And I know y'all probably tired of hearing that, but I'm telling you right now, if you don't have a strong prayer life as a single, but I'm telling you right now, if you don't have a strong prayer life as a single, you're going to suffer as a wife and as a husband for my men. So if you don't get this together your deepened relationship and intimacy with the father when you get married, it just don't get busier, it just don't get even crazier. You're going to be like, bro, how am I supposed to have time to pray when everything is breaking out of my life? And so, this time of your singleness, you need to take that time to really set these things in place. Set these goals in place A deeper, intimate relationship with the Lord. Because, yes, to have love is great.
Speaker 1:To be in marriage I know a lot of y'all. It's so amazing on this side. Don't believe the hype, y'all. To be married is a beautiful thing. God gave you the desire. Do not apologize for it, but begin to seek God and ask him what to do. And in the meanwhile, you prepare. And so this is number one start with a deeper relationship with the Lord. So begin to study your Bible. Begin to understand God's design for marriage. There's so many books out here. In fact, you can go grab my book today 10 Reasons why I Hate Christian Daddy. It's a great book. Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller is out there amazing book. There's so many resources. You can begin to understand what a marriage is. Most of us just prepare for the wedding. The wedding is literally just a little small part of what God's really trying to do. And so begin to become that wife and prepare, because when you get married, I want you to know they didn't be hates marriage. And so you're about to step into a war zone, baby, especially if you're doing a kingdom marriage. And so also when you're praying, when you're deepening your relationship with the Lord, you avoid, um, counterfeit relationships.
Speaker 1:How many of y'all found yourself into a relationship because he was cute, you got with him and you ended up looking stupid. You ended up having sex. You know you're supposed to be sleeping with nobody. How many of us have fallen into that? I have. I'm gonna be real. I've fallen into that because I wanted to be with somebody so bad. I began to compromise and it's because I didn't have a deep, intimate relationship with the Lord. I wasn't casting all my cares on him. I was still trying to figure it out and fix it myself.
Speaker 1:When you're trying to walk kingdom, you got to give complete lordship over to the Lord for real. Like, let's not plan in 2025 and let's be for real. Be for real, honey. You. You can't be out there talking to a little baby christian with no, no deep roots. He just got saved yesterday and you want to date with him. What you mean, what are you doing? And so that lets me know you're not being intentional in your walk with the lord. And so that's the first step deepen your relationship with the lord.
Speaker 1:Two, you want to work on healing. You need to be whole before you get married to somebody. Not not that you'll be a hundred percent, because, honestly, your husband, um, and your spouse for um, if I know, I got men who listen to me too, so that's why I try to add them in there a little bit. But when you get married, especially as a woman, your husband a part of why you want to marry a man who loves jesus is because he's going to wash you in the word of the lord, meaning he's god's going to use his words and his actions and his love for you, his coverage of you, to heal wounds in you that you don't even know exists, bro, like it's going to be like a, like an ointment on your soul.
Speaker 1:It was so many deep wounds I had once that I didn't know was there to be real. I had suppressed them so deep and I had dealt with most of the stuff because I was so busy being a single mom, trying to travel, trying to enjoy my life. I wasn't trying to look at none of that dark stuff, to be real with you, but my husband as he loved me when we first we got married and we're still married now, going on six years he loved me so well and I'm like he began to love a lot of that pain, a lot of that hurt out of me. God used him to help me become whole in areas that I couldn't necessarily done it without him not saying you need a spouse to be whole. Don't hear that. Don't hear that, okay, because what you need to be whole is Jesus. But the lord will use your spouse to expose certain things and if it's the right kingdom spouse, it will actually help you heal. He my husband, gave me the courage to get counseling. He he like helped me in so many ways. He prayed over me. He helped me see that men can be trusted. He helped heal a lot of those wounds that I had and it just was such a blessing.
Speaker 1:But while you're single, you need to focus on addressing all that unresolved trauma, heartbreak and any strongholds, sex ties, soul ties. You need to be learning how to be in a healthy relationship. You need to be seeking counseling and mentorship. If necessary, it's necessary. That's why some of y'all need to look at joining me in the covenant crew this year. We'll be opening it up next week accepted members. It's literally 10 bucks a month. You come in and you get your questions answered. You get a community to support you and hold you up and you also get that mentorship. Someone who's been there, done, done that, someone ain't gonna hold back the nitty gritty, gonna get into it and let you know what's up. And some of y'all need that. It's not for everybody, so if it's not for you, it's not for you. But if you need that extra connection, I am opening up a membership. You can come in and just really be pulled into and help you really prepare to be that godly wife, to prepare to be that woman that loves God, owns her husband, loves her children and also can be a boss, understand, and so covenant crew is coming real soon.
Speaker 1:But you need to also cultivate virtues, like as a part of your development and becoming whole, you need to become that virtuous woman, meaning you got to have virtue. Meaning you got to develop the qualities like patience and kindness, humility and self-control. You gotta understand like during this time. I know it's such a temptation just to be ready to, just to jump into a relationship. I just want to be loved, I just want to be cuddled. I just want somebody to talk to you on, somebody to love me. That's all fine and dandy, but what you got to understand is marriage is so much deeper than that. If you ain't learning how to be a wife now, you ain't dealing with stuff that you should have been dealt with, it's going to come out like a double-headed monster in your marriage and for some of y'all it could cost you your marriage. I'm just going to be real.
Speaker 1:So you need to also practice self-care. Most of y'all don't even like yourself. How do I know? You can't even look yourself in the mirror. Some of y'all have a hard time going live because you hate your voice or you hate the way you look. It lets me know there's some self-hatred there that you need to go and work out. You need to go and deal with. Take it before the king and take it before a therapist, okay. And so you need to maintain your physical, emotional and mental health. You need a strong sense of self-assurance that will help you bring that wholeness. And once you are whole, you're going to bring wholeness into a relationship. It takes two whole people to make a whole relationship.
Speaker 1:You don't want to come into a relationship codependent. You need him to make you happy. I'm telling you, happiness is fleeting, so you better know how to tap into that joy of the Lord which is your strength, because, even though marriage is amazing, marriage is hard. You gotta understand the devil hates marriage. He attacks kingdom marriages like crazy. You can have the best dating relationship, the best sweetest engagement and you get married and it's like all hell break loose for some people. It's because the enemy hates marriage. He attacks marriages, and so this is why, this single time, you need to be using it to really build yourself, to become that bride, to become that virtuous woman.
Speaker 1:Okay, the next thing you need to live out biblical principles of love. I don't know if you realize it, but if your patience, forgiveness and agape love ain't strong, marriage ain't probably for you. Most of y'all want to get married because y'all want to have sex. Let's be real, just talk about it and that's okay. Sex is great. God created sex, okay, so let's not get all weird about sex. Okay, sex is great God created it, it was God's idea. But we got to do weird about sex. Okay, sex is great God created it was God's idea. But we gotta do it in the parameters that God gave us, where it's safe, where you can be covered. And yes, I hear people say all the time people can cheat on you, bad stuff can still happen when you're married. Whatever, we're gonna still do it the way God said to do it, regardless what could happen. We don't live out of what could happen. We trust the Lord and we do things according to his will because he's going to protect us and cover us at the end of the day.
Speaker 1:Okay, that's for my people who want to be a little slick hater. And so you need to learn how to walk in and embrace love according to first Corinthians 13, meaning you need to be practicing patience, forgiveness and sacrificial love in your daily interactions. So what is your? What you're doing? In traffic? Somebody cross you over, somebody cut you off in traffic? Is you cussing them out? Are you honking your horn? Do you have a spanking attitude? How are you practicing patience and forgiveness and sacrificial love? And when you go to work and your boss giving your name, and you got to practice this daily because that's going to be required, especially as a wife. You got to learn to serve.
Speaker 1:Marriage requires selflessness, and most of us want to get married because we're selfish. We just want our bodies to get that fix. We want to be able to have sex and be cuddled and be touched on and loved on. Ain't nothing wrong with that. We want that without, like, the thoughts of condemnation. You want to be able to do that freely and that's that's great. But what you gotta understand is marriage is about serving like. I don't think we we teach that like we need to. Marriage is about serving baby, and so you gotta start practicing servanthood and you practice that in your family, in your church, in your community.
Speaker 1:But let me say this right here, okay, because I know people, I know I know how people operate, I know how this can get. So let me just be real clear. Um, you only got one husband and you ain't married till you married, and so your little boyfriend, the little man you think leading you, that ain't your spouse, and so you submit unto your spouse. Understand, you ain't married till you married. So until you say I do with a ring and a contract and a covenant and, for the lord, you're not married, so I don't need y'all doing too much. Remember, if you follow me for these last couple of years, I teach philosophy that I live by. That protected me. I'm not telling you it's, it's like the word of God. We know that's not the word of God, but this kept me safe. This kept me from overinvesting and finding myself in a situation where I was having sex, I was emotionally fornicating and I was totally out of order with the Lord.
Speaker 1:And so too much time, too much talk, too much touch. Watch it. What are you doing? You setting yourself up for emotional fornication which will ultimately lead to you in his bed. I'm just keeping it 100, keeping it real, and y'all know this how I am. I'm going to always be honest with you because I know how it get down. I know how it is when you're trying to be holy and you're trying to walk right, but you keep finding yourself trapped in sexual sin with a boyfriend. You cannot you always find yourself in a situation ship Like we done with that in 2025, we're going to officially trust God, no matter the outcome.
Speaker 1:We're going to trust him. We're going to hand him complete worship over our life, including our love life, okay. And so over investing all that cooking and cleaning and all that stuff you're doing for your little boyfriend. You need to cut that out. That is not your spouse understand. When you get married, you marry, you can cook, clean and all that, because what's so funny is a lot of girls that I see over investing when they're dating. Most of them get married and they'd be sucking as wives. Because you get married and you've got this image or this expectation about marriage and you don't realize that who you dating is not who you're going to marry. He's going to change your covering, is not your boyfriend, okay. And so you need to start practicing selflessness with your family.
Speaker 1:Some of y'all need to go and heal those broken relationships with your dad, with your mom, with your siblings. Some of y'all need to go deal with that. Church hurt you, church hopping because you won't sit and deal. Some of y'all need to go and peel some of those friendships. A lot of times we idolize friendships, we. We get hurt by people and we don't want to go have those tough conversations. Go do that, because that's a part of servanthood. You know that, right? Yes, we are patient and we're we're forgiving. But to love someone is to tell them the truth and to do it in love and let them know. Hey, hey, we may have had our issues, but I'm fighting for this relationship. I want to heal it and so I need to start serving your family. I need to start loving your family and your friends. Let you start serving in your church.
Speaker 1:Some of y'all got church hurt and so you become a youtube. You go. You go to church youtube nomination. You be skipping from channel to channel, following itching ear. You want to itch and ear people. You're now a seeker. You. You got the itching ears the bible talks about. So that mean you're going to be easily deceived because you have a plant that's not rooted. You ever see a plant that's not rooted? It's really hard for that plant to grow because it has nowhere to put its roots, to begin to build that strong foundation. So this year I challenge you, man of God, woman of God, go, plant in a good church. Understand, okay, let's keep going.
Speaker 1:Four you need to set clear boundaries and standards. You got to establish scholarly boundaries right now. You got to establish godly boundaries right now. What are those non-negotiables in your faith in your character, in your values. You got to understand. You got to already have your ground and your boundaries set before you even enter a relationship, before you. I mean this even in friendship. This is in everything. What are those boundaries, and are they godly? If you don't know if they're godly, you can go read your bible.
Speaker 1:You also need to guard your heart and avoid becoming overly invested in dating relationships that don't align with god's perfect plan. That's why I'm so particular on are you over investing? Are you doing too much time, too much talk, too much touch? You're doing too much. You're about to find yourself up a creek without a paddle, okay. And so I just want y'all just to know that the Lord's got y'all okay. The Lord's got a plan. The Lord is sovereign and God see your heart. The Lord knew that I wanted to be married. God gave me the desire, and what I want you to hear is there's someone out there for you. There is someone out there praying for you. Don't compromise. He is on the way.
Speaker 1:When I tell y'all there was nobody in sight, like there was no bachelors around me, and the bachelors that were there, they weren't even black and black girls back in the day they did not like black women. Back in the day, boy and I know that may sound crazy to some of y'all, but I'm so for real they did not want to date black girls and so I literally was like bro, I guess I'm going to be single. But God sent me. God literally took me out of one little community and plopped me right in front of my husband. It was literally like an Eve and Adam moment, where Eve saw Adam I mean Adam saw Eve and Adam said bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh. It was almost the same for my husband.
Speaker 1:My husband was a virgin for over 30 years and he didn't have any prospects on his his head, although he was in his heart. He wanted a wife, but he was just afraid. He was like man one. I don't know if these women don't like me two, it's just so much, so much I've seen that I want to experience. He had a little commitment phobia going on and all of a sudden god takes me and puts me right in front of him and my husband looked at me and he was like how you doing? And we talked every single day and he pursued me in a way that only you see, like in a lifetime movie or like a hallmark movie or something. So I'm here to tell you that if you follow what I'm telling you I'm telling you right now you're gonna be safe, you're gonna be covered, and I can't promise you're going to get married, but you're going to be ready to be married, though. You're going to be submitted to the Lord so that, when God's ready for you to get married, you'll be ready, and that's what we're going to do, okay.
Speaker 1:So the next thing you want to do is build community and seek wise counsel. Surround yourself with godly people, honey. You can't be hanging out with people that want you going to clubs, smoking, drinking, all that foolishness. And you tell me you want a golly man, you want a golly woman. What are you doing? You're tripping, okay, and so I need for you to look at, look around and see who is your friends, who you got around you, and you also want to observe healthy marriages. Healthy marriages you want to learn from couples who model biblical marriage and ask them a thousand questions, and that might be like kind of uncomfortable for you. You might feel like, oh, I don't know about that, faye, but trust me, you want to. You know, almost like learn before you do it. You want to be able to extract different wisdom, what have, without having to learn by the fire, because a lot of couples I know they've had to learn a lot of things by the schools of hard knots. But if you can go and get it from somebody who already you know they haven't been there, done that, that's way easier on you and it costs you nothing but a conversation, and so I want to challenge you to do that.
Speaker 1:The next thing you want to do is pray for discernment in dating. Prayer has to be a pillar of your life as a believer. I don't think we really take into account how important prayer is, and so you got to pray for wisdom to recognize the right person when they come into your life. Some of y'all I can't even say this right here, because I know somebody who's doing this actively and I'm praying with her and she praying for herself, okay and so some people that I know they know who they're supposed to date, but they scared. They know who god has basically told them to prepare to be with, and or it's like they do one or two things. They know who God told them they're gonna marry, but they get scared and freeze up, or they think they know who God said to date and the person ain't even trying to check in for them, but they'd be weirdly going after them saying God said to my spouse I'm here to tell you that you need to give all that to the Lord. Whether you know it's what God said or you guessing that's what God said, turn it over to the Lord in 2025 and just take away all expectations and allow God to show you through the man's actions. Okay.
Speaker 1:And if you are a man, stop being weak about your pursuit. Pursuit. If you want to go get her, is that simple. Let her know I want, I got interest in you. These are my expectations and my intentions. Are you okay with that? Stop being passive and go out there and get her a woman. Like, like a hunter women. Let the man hunt. You stop going out there trying to hunt the man. Hey, do you want to marry me? What you look? We look like a fool, you look crazy. Okay, and so you need to just surrender all that to the lord.
Speaker 1:There is no premise in the bible that you'll be a wife, okay, there's no premise in the bible that you'll be a husband, man of god, but there is a promise that god's going to satisfy you. God can satisfy you far more than any spouse. And I know you're like oh, faye, whatever, I've heard that before no, listen to me, because some of y'all will get married. You're going to be in for a rude awakening because you listen to nothing. I just told you, or nothing no other man or woman of God's told you. And so you're going to learn in a school of hard knocks and I don't want that for you because that school is kind of ghetto and it's really painful.
Speaker 1:Okay, and so learn how to pray and ask God who is the person, and then allow God to lead the way. You stop trying to lead the way, either by controlling it, by trying to freeze yourself up by whatever you've relinquished. All control, okay, and trust God. That that's called true lordship, okay, and so you want to be intentional about dating with a purpose of marriage, while allowing God to God the process? Okay, and so you don't need to just be out there willy nilly, okay, like I always teach my girls with this high pull like, look at your hand, everybody, look at your hand right now While you're listening. Like, look at your hand, everybody, look at your hand right now, while you're listening to me. Look at your hand, just put your hand out there.
Speaker 1:Now I want you to tighten your fists up, real tight, like squeeze it, squeeze it, squeeze it, squeeze it. You cannot be closed off like this, like a tightened fist, nothing can get in and nothing can get out. Okay, now, relax your hand and let it just be all loosey goosey, just kind of let it just flop. You can't be like this either. All willy nilly. Now take your hand, extend your fingers, stretch them out, stretch them out. Stretch them out as far as I can go. Kind of hurt, don't it? Yeah, you feel that. You feel that tension.
Speaker 1:You must be willing to live in the tension. It's in the tension. You find God. You find him guiding the process. You find him opening your eyes and giving you discernment. You find him saying no, no, no, no, no, not the one, how about you go this way? No, no, no, no, don't want to date. You find God shepherding you into love, writing your love story. I want you to live in the tension, and I know it's uncertain. I know it's uncertain, I know it's frustrating Sometimes, I know it's overwhelming. I know you feel like giving up like I'm so done, you cannot be done. What you need to be done with is try to control the situation. What you need to be done with is stop listening to worldly people about dating, stop listening to people who ain't got what you want, and get in your word, find godly, wise counsel and begin to study to become that wife or that husband. Ok. The next and final thing you want to do is you want to trust God's timing. Avoid impatience and comparison. Trust that God knows the desires of your heart and he will fulfill them in perfect timing. I'm telling you right now.
Speaker 1:I was 30 years old. I thought it was all all she wrote. I thought it was over. I'm a single mom. Don't nobody want to be with your girl. Guess what? God had a plan for me. God had a plan for me. I let go of all my expectations and I said Lord, I trust you. And in my trusting and my waiting, I was still learning how to become a wife. I was learning how to cook. I can cook six recipes, y'all. That's it. Okay, it's a wrap after that. Don't ask me for nothing else. Okay, after that you're on your own. I learned how to save money. I learned how to keep a clean house. I learned how to. I have to be a great mother. I begin to learn the virtues to become that virtuous woman, okay, and so I began just to focus on my current season and what God was wanting to teach me right then. And at that moment God was trying to teach me that if he wanted me alone, I was going to be okay. He wanted me to learn that Faye gotta learn how to love yourself y'all.
Speaker 1:For a season I couldn't even look myself in the mirror because I didn't like how I look. I didn't like my face. I didn't like my voice. I didn't. I didn't think I was worthy because of what I had gone through with my daughter's dad. I was like man. He walked off looking like I was nothing. Clearly I'm not that that beautiful or that important. You see, I had begun to let all the rejection really just sow lies and just low self-esteem into my heart and God had to do a work on me to uproot all that. God even had to deal with some of that man-hating stuff I had in me Because I had been damaged and hurt by my dad, by baby daddy, by other relationships that didn't work out.
Speaker 1:I began to look at men the way they weren't supposed to be looked at. I was looking at men like they can't be trusted. Now how are you saying you want a man but you're saying you can't trust them? That don't make sense, like. My question for a lot of women is how do you trust a man with your body but you can't trust him to lead you? Do you trust a man with your body but you can't trust him to lead you? I don't understand, because making a human being with a man, that's the ultimate trust, that's the ultimate decision. To make a human with somebody, but you can't trust him for you to submit to him. And if you got an issue with the word submission, you're not qualified to be a wife. Yeah, I said it. It I said it because it's true.
Speaker 1:We've been raised in this, this super western jezebelic culture and us believers, we've grown up in it and it's worked for us. But I'm telling you, trying to be a godly wife and take on that jezebelic culture into your marriage, you gonna die before you even get started. I'm going to be real. They got to die because you got to relearn what true submission look like. You got to learn like to be covered is a privilege, and you got to understand what a covering is. And that's why some of y'all need to join me in the covenant crew, because we're going to teach you what it is to be a wife. I'm not going to play with you, I'm not going to babysit you. I'm going to tell you the truth and I'm going to tell it in love, and I'm going to help you become a godly wife.
Speaker 1:Because some of y'all ain't ready and some of y'all who think y'all ready, you ain't ready. Neither baby, because when you get over here, it's a whole other situation, all right, but it's a whole nother situation, all right. But I love y'all. I'm so proud of y'all. I just want you just to focus on becoming the best version of yourself and stay aligned with God. Ask the Lord to prepare you for marriage, but ultimately prepare you to be Christ centered in all your relationships. That should be your prayer for 2025. Because if you could be a great wife, you could be a great friend, you could be a great sister, you could be a great aunt, you could be a great niece. You can be a great person.
Speaker 1:Some of y'all are trash people trying to be a spouse. You need to figure out. Why are you a trash human? Some of y'all don't even know how to deal with your damage. Like y'all, I literally had PTSD from trauma as a kid and was talking about I want to be a spouse. I wasn't ready, I would have damaged my husband and my kids, okay, and so that's literally the episode for today.
Speaker 1:I just want to encourage each of y'all to know God has a plan for you. Lord has a plan and a purpose for you. God's not plan for you. The Lord has a plan and a purpose for you. God's not forgotten about you. In this new year we're going to focus on becoming the best person you can be unto the Lord Jesus and as a friend, as a mother of your mom, as a future spouse. The Lord's going to send that spouse.
Speaker 1:But in the waiting, do not faint. You hold fast. You need to go get busy, go book some trips, go find some friends. That's not encouraging you to go sleep with that boy down the street. Get rid of them, little side, hot away men, okay, because some of y'all got some secret lovers that you got stashed away. You text them when you get a little down, a little sad feeling, to pick you up. Get rid of the tick, the little tinder app, all these little apps, little rumble, all this right here. Get rid of it and you focus on lord. Renew my mind, renew my heart. You got to make a decision that you're going all in for jesus, because how you gonna ask him for one of his men if you ain't all in for him, why would he trust you with one of his men when you keep snacking with all these other side dudes, when you keep allowing yourself to be used because you want a feeling? Some of y'all need to get rid of this instant gratification stuff. Learn how to live without sex. Some of y'all I mean we got work to do. Ladies and men, men, you too. Stop asking for nude pictures. Women, stop sending them, and so y'all.
Speaker 1:This year is going to be crazy. We're going to step into some stuff. We're going to talk about some stuff. We're going to deal with some stuff. We're going to have our first live summit. I'm going to do a tour this year, a Christian dating talk tour, and if you were part of the Covenant crew and the Covenant Collective, you're going to be able to come out and meet me in person and we're going to sit and talk about this stuff. We're going to invite in experts, we're going to bring in people who can help us become and heal and become all that God called us to be in this time. But I don't want you to give up on God. I don't want you to give up on your dream of being a wife, or a spouse or husband. Okay, the Lord hears your prayers. Keep praying. He got you, but I love y.