Christian Dating Talk
Christian Dating Talk
Don’t Let Valentine’s Day to Fool You…Embrace the Wait
Feeling the weight of singleness, especially during moments like Valentine's Day? Join me as I share my own journey through heartbreak and the seemingly endless wait for a life partner, and discover how redirecting focus onto your relationship with Jesus can bring hope and serenity. This episode promises insights into the concept of kingdom marriages, where partnerships are forged through divine alignment rather than mere personal choice. We explore the importance of seeking God's kingdom first, keeping faith alive even when prospects seem bleak, and the promise of an acceleration in these spiritually significant unions.
By aligning our hearts with God's purpose, we prepare for fulfilling and purposeful marriages that transcend worldly distractions. Emphasizing honesty and humility, I encourage you to set clear expectations for a future spouse while trusting in God's perfect timing. As Valentine's Day nears, remember that your struggles and prayers are seen, and many will find their partners by the end of 2025. Close your eyes and join me in a prayer for strength and blessings, as we express gratitude for the divine orchestration of upcoming kingdom marriages and commit ourselves to nurturing a deeper relationship with God.
Hello, hello, hello, hello. How y'all doing. I am literally in my secret place talking with the Lord. You guys and I've been here for about 30 minutes to 40 minutes, something like that and God literally just said Faye, give them this message. And so I wanted to hop on here real quick it won't be long and I want to encourage you. If your heart is breaking and you're just mourning in your singleness, I want to deposit strength and impart strength into you and help you refocus yourself, refocus on Jesus, center your heart on Jesus. And so in my prayer, I'm just praying over each and every one of you, beautiful people who follow this podcast and who are trying with all your might to walk in the things of God. I'm praying that you will endure to the end, that, no matter what happens, no matter if your spouse shows up or not, you will not lose heart. Not, you will not lose heart, but you will continue to grow and build and flourish in your intimacy and in your relationship with the King.
Speaker 1:I know Valentine's day is literally today, and I know some of you guys, your heart is breaking and you're like God, I'm 35. God, I'm 30. God, I'm 40. God, some of y'all even 50 and 60. God, I'm 20. I'm in my 20s. I thought I would be married by now, or at least dating God. But it's like a desert. It's like I'm in a dating valley where there's nobody there. And I know you look at the world and you're seeing people just out here living all type of craziness and they're getting married and they're having these beautiful weddings and they're doing all this stuff that your heart's desiring. But I'm here today just to really encourage you. I want to encourage you to know that you are doing a great job, you are doing amazing.
Speaker 1:Do not allow the distractions of Valentine's Day, of these weddings, of all this stuff that comes and it's beautiful, but it's painful to some of y'all. It was painful to me when I was single. I was like God when my turn, lord, like dang, when's my turn? And the Lord had to really help me. See, you already have me, faye, like you're constantly looking for this man or this woman from a men who follow me, um, to come and find you. But I am this, I am the source, I am the key. You're gonna find your spouse in me, and so I want to encourage you, man of god and woman of god, to seek you first the kingdom of god.
Speaker 1:And I know you, like fam, so sick of hearing that. I've been seeking god, I've been serving the lord, I've been doing everything I know, I know how to, and so what I'm going to tell you is get the chip off your shoulder and do not grow weary in well-doing. Get rid of the attitude, get rid of the frustration. Take it before the Lord, because the Lord understands our feelings. We keep it real with the Lord, so take that thing before the Lord and continue in what God calls you to do.
Speaker 1:Continue to serve, continue to hold the standard, hold the line, like this older lady said to me and I don't even really know her like that and one of my other God moms said to me the same thing. She said, faye, stay on the wall. And what is she saying? Stay locked into prayer, stay locked into your relationship with Jesus, stay in your word, stay low before the Lord. You continue to allow God to transform you, as he's making you into images that's clearer and closer to the living King Jesus, while he's also preparing you to be that spouse. And if he's already done preparing you, because some of y'all already know you're already wives, you're already a husband, as he's allowing you to go through this season of singleness until he brings you into your spouse.
Speaker 1:But something else he wanted me just to say to you right now is there is about to be an acceleration in marriages, in kingdom marriages that will resound into eternity. God's raising up kingdom marriages where you won't just be together because he's so fine, because she's so cute, because I want kids, because your own personal reasons. You will be put together, placed together, because it's going to be a kingdom and a divine alignment. And so that's what I want you to hear me say today. Stop looking at everybody else, stop looking at what you don't have. You're so focused on your lack that you're missing the abundance right in front of you. The Lord is unleashing a acceleration in kingdom dating, in kingdom marriage.
Speaker 1:The Lord has heard our prayers. The Lord has heard and saw our hearts. The Lord saw the heartbreak, like God. What in the world is happening right now? It's like I'm getting older. There's no prospects, there's nothing. But I'm here to tell you, just like God did with me when I was dating. I wasn't dating, I was trying to date. I was open to it, but I kept on getting connected with these like dumb people. I'm like what the crap this is, this is, this is dumb. And I was like you know what I'm going to consecrate myself. In that consecration, I was so just like like kind of disappointed but still trusting God but at the same time, struggling not to give up, and I sense this where some of y'all are at. But I'm here to tell you Do not throw that hope away. Your hope is in the Lord. The Lord is literally.
Speaker 1:We're entering into a season of acceleration acceleration in every area for the believer. A lot of times, as believers, we spend so much of our time doubting and out of the will of God that we are so behind the eight ball and God's like you know what I got to help these folks catch up. Like we got to get some stuff done. So I'm going to help you accelerate this thing, okay. And so I just really sense in my spirit that some of y'all about to get married in 2025.
Speaker 1:And I need you to begin to decree and declare and thank God for your spirit, for your spouse, and be faithful to the Lord in this time. Like, put your head down, stop looking left, stop looking right and focus on Jesus and just begin to thank him, god, I thank you for my spouse, god, I thank you for that man of God or that woman of God that you're bringing me. God, help me to become that wife, help me to become that leader, that husband I need to be. And so I want you to change and shift your attitude, change and shift your heart, because when the Lord hits you with the acceleration, you can't move in it. When you got a terrible attitude, or you're disgruntled, or you're complaining, or you're mad, or you're frustrated with the Lord and I get, we all get to those moments of frustration.
Speaker 1:But it's time to repent and it's time to go in your secret place, because some of y'all been up out of their secret place, baby, and that's why you over there struggling with sexual sin, that's why some of y'all struggling with masturbation and pornography, because you, out of your secret place, repent, get back into your secret place every single day. Yes, it's gonna. It's gonna require you to get a new schedule, it's gonna require to require you to shift some things, but you got to make the priority the priority. And if me, a mom of five, a wife, a minister of the gospel, also an entrepreneur, if I can make time for my Lord, jesus, don't tell me what you can't do, and so get your butt back in your secret place. Get your butt back in your word. Begin to decree a thing. Begin to sit in your place as a king and priest, as a kingdom kid. Get back into your seat and begin to thank God. Lord, I thank you for my spouse. I thank you, lord, that I'm going to learn how to cook these different recipes for my spouse. Lord, I thank you. I'm going to stop this frivolous spending and begin to save for when I get married. Lord, I thank you. You see what I'm saying. Begin to position yourself, begin to get in a seat Some of y'all are in a seat of the scornful because you're so frustrated about not being married.
Speaker 1:I'm too old, I'm too this, I'm too that. Get out of that, repent and humble yourself and say, lord, my heart's to be married, god, and I'm going to trust you with the outcome. I'm not going to put all my faith and my hope and idolize being married Because, honestly, I can be real with you. Like some of y'all who idolize marriage going to be very. Some of y'all who idolize marriage going to be very, very disappointed. Okay, but when you have it in this proper place. It's beautifully done.
Speaker 1:See what I'm saying, and so I want to encourage you. I want to speak this word to you and let you know that God sees you. God's heard all the prayers. He's seen all the tears. He's seen you be happy for your friend and deep down, you're like man when is it my turn? He's seen you in all of that and he's kept every tear in a bottle, in a jar. He knows the hairs on your. He's numbered the hairs on your head so you know he knows you. He's close to the brokenhearted, because some of y'all have been brokenhearted in dating.
Speaker 1:But what I'm telling you to do is consecrate yourself. Fix your attitude. Get back in your secret place. Begin to thank God for your spouse and thank God for the acceleration in dating, the acceleration of kingdom marriages that's coming into the earth right now. God's accelerating this thing. It's time for kingdom couples to come together to do the kingdom wills that God put over these different families.
Speaker 1:See what I'm saying. It's bigger than I want to have sex. It's bigger than I want somebody to lay up with. It's bigger than companionship, although all that's beautiful. But what it's really about is a kingdom strategy in the earth. Think about it. The first Like organization God built, god formed, was the kingdom marriage, adam and Eve. And we've gotten so off track with that that I feel like God's literally having to almost like, like, turn everything. Do like a 360 or 180, like, turn this thing all the way around.
Speaker 1:And so, if you want to be married, stop being ashamed of saying I want to be married, stop lying to yourself. Be honest. You got an attitude right now with the Lord because you still ain't got your boo thing yet. Go repent, lord. Forgive me for my attitude, forgive me for my heart getting out of alignment. God, help me get into alignment because I'm telling y'all, some of y'all will be married.
Speaker 1:I'm speaking to you February 14th, valentine's Day of 2025. I know it's at least a hundred of y'all going to be married, like this year, and there's several thousand of y'all who follow this podcast. I'm speaking because I can sense it. I can feel it, but you can't continue to move in this like little attitude, if you understand what I'm saying. Like, have this little chip on your, on your, on your checks or whatever. You got to get that off of you. You got to get out of anger, get out of frustration, get out of disappointment, get out of all those states and begin to humble yourself and thank God for what's to come. Lord, I thank you for my spouse. Lord, I thank you that I'm going to walk in purity and wait for my spouse to find me.
Speaker 1:I'm going to stop talking to all these different people all at the same time. I'm going to consecrate myself. I'm going to stop talking to all these different people all at the same time. I'm going to consecrate myself. I'm going to get myself ready for my spouse to come, because some of y'all been out there snacking. You've been snacking. What am I saying? You've been talking to this person, entertaining that person in these little group chats, in these little snacking, getting a little attention from here, flirting a little over here, doing a little flattery over there, and that's not. That's out of order. If you want God's best, you got to be in alignment. You can't be saying I want this, that and that and that in the middle and then you ain't none of that. That don't even make sense. So get in alignment.
Speaker 1:I want some of y'all from this podcast go sit your butt down, pray, get your heart right and write out your 10 negotiables, or five non-negotiables and five negotiables, but your list of 10 of what you want in your spouse. And be real, because I want my man to be cute to me. He ain't have to be cute to nobody else but me, okay. And so I want to encourage you on this beautiful Valentine's Day. Do not lose heart, for the Lord is with you. The Lord has heard you, and some of y'all will be married by the end of 2025.
Speaker 1:And when it happens, I need you to go. Send me an email, drop me something so I can know what's up. Send me a little invitation, honey, because I would love to come to your wedding, okay, and celebrate you, but I love y'all. Y'all stay encouraged and know that the Lord is with you. The Lord is for you. The Lord has not forsaken you. So I'm going to pray right now, father, in the name of Jesus.
Speaker 1:We come before you, lord, and we lay our hearts broken, frustrated, irritated, mad, whatever's on our heart. We lay it before you now, o King, and we trust you, lord, with our hearts. We trust you, lord, to write our love stories. We lean not to our own understanding, but in all of our ways, we acknowledge you, o King. So, father, help us. Help us, lord, we need you, lord. We can't do this without you. O God, help us, lord. We need you. Lord, we can't do this without you.
Speaker 1:O God, we thank you for our kingdom spouse. We thank you for bringing that spouse in acceleration. We thank you for the accelerated timeline. We thank you, lord, for answering our prayers. And, lord, we'll wait for you. We will not lose heart. We will not grow weary in well-doing. O God and Lord, we will continue to build an intimate and stronger relationship with you, oh Lord, because that's what it's all about. At the end of the day, we will commit our ways to you, oh God, despite the outcomes of our dating life. Lord, we trust you, we depend on you, we lean in on you. But, lord, we thank you for this divine acceleration in kingdom marriages that's about to sweep through the earth. And, lord, I thank you, lord, for each of these couples. I anoint them, I impart strength into each and every one of them who listen to my voice. It is in your name we pray Amen. I love y'all. I'll talk to y'all very soon. Take care.