Christian Dating Talk
Christian Dating Talk
Breaking Free from Christian Situationships: Reclaiming Your Worth
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a relationship without labels, boundaries, or clear intentions? That undefined gray area where you're more than friends but less than committed partners? In this powerful episode, we tackle the dangerous world of "situationships" in Christian dating and why they're holding you back from God's best.
We're celebrating a major milestone—over 10,000 podcast subscribers!—and announcing our upcoming Christian Dating Talk tours kicking off in Virginia, with future stops in Huntsville and Nashville. This is your chance to get personalized dating advice and connect with like-minded believers.
The heart of this episode addresses why undefined relationships are spiritual poison. When we accept ambiguity instead of clarity, we're not just risking heartbreak—we're revealing a deeper issue: a lack of trust in God's provision. "A lot of times you're holding onto these relationships because you don't believe that God is good and the Lord can send you somebody who will be there for you."
I challenge you to recognize your worth and stop allowing people to string you along. If someone truly values you, they won't leave you guessing about where you stand. As I plainly state, "If a man really wants you, he will move a mountain to have you." The same goes for women interested in men—true interest doesn't play games.
Ready to break free from relationship limbo? I offer practical steps: define the relationship or end it, seek counsel from church leaders, consider therapy to understand your patterns, and most importantly, reconnect with your identity in Christ. You are "beautifully and wonderfully made," and it's time your relationships reflect that truth.
What relationship patterns are you accepting that fall short of God's design? Share your thoughts or questions with me on Instagram @FayeMarillion or @ChristianDaneTalkPod. Your breakthrough begins with recognizing your worth!
Hello, hello, hello, how y'all doing? I miss y'all so much. I have been praying for each and every one of you guys who have been following me for the last couple of years. I also just want to give a huge, just thank you for the support of the podcast and speak to a group of people who want to date God's way, and because of that, now we have bypassed 10,000 subscribers. Over 10,000 people have downloaded this podcast and lives have been transformed by the power of God, by truth from the Bible and just by our ability to be unapologetic in this hour and not compromise. And so thank you so much just for following me. Thank you so much for the love. Thank you much just for following me. Thank you so much for the love. Thank you so much for the support, thank you so much for the newsletters. Thank you so much just for everything. We're going to just keep it going, and I have some big announcements for you before we get into the juiciness of this next podcast. And so, number one we have started our Christian Dating Talk tours, and the first one kicks off next weekend. If you are in the Virginia area, you do not want to miss this. We are going to be at Bethel A&M Church and in this place will be the first Christian Dating Talk tour, where you can come and literally get all your questions asked and you can get answers from me, along with other panelists, and so I want to invite you to come out. The first one is actually free. This is your opportunity to take advantage of coming to sit amongst other believers, get an amazing Mixer Network experience and also get those questions answered before you make a life commitment. The next one will be in Huntsville. It'll be in October. The next one after that will be probably in Nashville, and so we are on our way with kicking off our tours and I'm so excited just for what God's been doing, and so just keep your ears out, and if you want more information, send me your email, reach out to me. You can find me on the Faye Marillion or Christian DaneTalkPod on IG, and so let's get into it.
Speaker 1:Today I just want to really speak to someone who you are in park and you've allowed somebody to put you on hold while they're trying to figure out what they want to do, and I'm just really fun to speak to this, because I feel like this is not only an issue for you, but it's also an issue outside of you, and so if you are someone whom you've allowed another person to play with you, what am I trying to say? You've allowed a person not to be clear about their intentions with you. You've allowed a lot of ambiguity, meaning a lot of. We don't know what we're doing. We're just going to stay with it until we find our way.
Speaker 1:That is a number one mistake a lot of Christian couples make. We take that, that blurring lines stuff, from the world and we pull it over into the church and you're wondering why divorce rates in the body of Christ is so high. It's because we don't understand what dating looks like. We don't understand what intentionality looks like. A lot of times us women, we get out of. We literally get out of I guess a good word for this. We get out of order because you know a man is not defining who y'all are, what y'all are doing, and because you want to be with him.
Speaker 1:So bad, you will lower your standards and you will begin to try to manipulate, to try to well, can we spend time praying together? Can we do this? You're trying your standards and you will begin to try to manipulate, to try to well, can we spend time praying together? Can we do this? You're trying to push and manipulate something that's not happening. And I want to tell you it's dangerous to be in an undefined place, because you could be thinking one thing, he could be thinking something else and therefore someone's going to leave hurt, someone's going to leave in a space where they're not going to be better off. For Christ's sake, in this relationship, they're supposed to actually help you grow and become what God's called you to be in this hour, and so we ain't got time to be playing. And so if you are in one of those relationships where there's no definition of title, there's no type of, we don't know where we're going, we don't have a timeline, we don't have a goal, we don't have anything, we're just kind of filling each other out, you are actually not in a relationship. You are in what people like to say a situation ship, a friendship.
Speaker 1:It's this weird gray area, and you are in one of these moments where you're in danger zone and it may feel nice and maybe like, well, I'm just happy that he gives me attention or I'm just happy that you know, I got somebody to talk to, and a lot of times you hold it on because you don't believe that God is good and the Lord can send you somebody. A lot of times you holding on to these relationships because you do not believe that our God is good and our God is kind and he can send you somebody who will be there for you, who will actually help you, who will actually do what men of God are supposed to do Court you openly, not have you hidden, but court you in front of their friends and their family, protect your purity and allow you to be soft and to engage and have fun in a safe environment where you don't have to compromise your walk with Jesus and you can figure out if this is a man you want to be with. And so what do you do when you are in this type of situation, when you are in a situationship and y'all supposed to be Christian Number one, you better get real serious and ask yourself the question how long am I going to allow somebody to string me along? How long, how long, woman and man of God, are you going to allow somebody to string you along and to play with you? They don't necessarily not like you, but they're not making no strides forth and now you barely get to go on dates, real dates, with them.
Speaker 1:Now it's just about hey, let's hang out. Hey, let's hang out. Hey, let's just casually go hang out. You gotta stop just casually dating as believers. What are we doing like? If you just want to casually date me, just be my friend, but don't allow somebody just to casually date you for years and years to come. And you just trying to be mispolite, not realizing that this person is playing with you and you can say all day well, faye, is not that deep, not that serious. Yes, it is that serious because, whether you want to admit it or not, your heart is being entangled, your body is being awakened in places it shouldn't, your mind is being consumed with. When are they going to actually do right by me? When are we going to actually become a couple? When you go, how you got all these questions and you are using up time and space and an energy with a person who don't even really like you.
Speaker 1:I'm just being honest. If I know one thing about men, men are very simple. Okay, and I can't even say this for women too. Women, we are a little bit more complicated than men, but if we like you, you ain't gonna have the second and third guess we're not gonna string you along. And so if a person really likes you, they are not gonna string you along and play with you. They are not gonna say always just casually dating. If a man really wants you, he will move a mountain to have you. Do you hear me? If a woman wants you for men who are following me too if a, if a lady really wants you, she will make it easy for you to be with her. And so I just want to really encourage you.
Speaker 1:If you are in one of these situations and you are casually being strung alone and you are trying to figure out what's next and what you're going to do, what you're going to do is break it off. You're going to have a conversation and you're going to shut it down and stop allowing people to play with you because you ain't no play toy. Did you hear me? You ain't no play toy. Say it after me. I'm not a play toy, so stop allowing people to play with you when you're not a play toy. And then, number three, you're going to go to the elders in your church and you're going to tell them what's happening.
Speaker 1:I have been in a sidebar relationship situation ship and I don't really know how to get myself out of this. So can you help me? Allow your body, allow the body to be your family and help you through this? And three you're going to go to therapy and you're going to figure out why is it I don't love myself. You're going to go to therapy and you're going to figure out why is it I don't love myself. Why is it I'm allowing and I'm so comfortable with someone else, putting me in a space where they put limits on how much we get to engage. They put me in a box where I'm just an option. If you're not a priority, baby, it's a wrap. Did you hear me? Stop allowing people to have fickle and and just disrespectful relationships with you.
Speaker 1:You are valuable and most times if you in a situation, it's because you don't know your value. You don't know who you are and you're hoping somebody will just stumble across your worth, because if I allow them to play with me, if I allow them to do what they want to do with me, maybe then they'll see. No, no, that's not how it works. How it works is if you know who you are and you walk in that confidence and that boldness in the name of Jesus, with your head held high, knowing who you are in the Lord, knowing that I don't care if you don't give me now ring and I'm from Memphis, y'all, so y'all bear with me. If I don't get a ring from you, if you don't ask me on another date, if you don't take me nowhere, if you don't pursue me, guess what? I am still the apple of God's eye. I am still beautifully and wonderfully made, and I would not allow nobody to lead me on, I would not allow anybody to play with me. And so you better get serious, woman of God.
Speaker 1:If you want to be a wife, stop settling for a side piece, stop walking in the path of a concubine. Why are you playing with yourself? You know the Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing, meaning she was a wife before he found her. But some of y'all, because you don't know who you are. You don't know who you are and you don't think nobody else will value you and you're too afraid to trust God completely that you'll settle for a piece of a man, and some of y'all, men too.
Speaker 1:You will settle just for anybody, because you find oh, I'm just going to cling on to this you need at least I, at least I know this. You don't even realize what you're doing. You are sabotaging the promise, and you about to accept the counterfeit of what God wanted to give you, and so I need you to hold your head up, I need you to be strong in the Lord and the power of his might, and I need for you to begin to get into scripture, begin to pray, begin to fast, cut these situation shifts off. Now Do you hear me? And so let me know how y'all feel. I want to hear from you. Text me, email me. I'm also going to get my butt on YouTube too, so we can see each other, and I'm going to eventually have you. We can call in and talk to me too, and so