Christian Dating Talk
Christian Dating Talk
Masturbation is not harmless — it’s a hindrance.
Let’s talk about it. 👇🏾
Masturbation is one of those hidden battles the church doesn’t always address but silence has kept too many believers bound.
As Kingdom citizens, we’re not called to live by culture… we’re called to live by covenant.
Purity isn’t just about what you do in public it’s about what you practice in private. God is after your heart, your habits, and your holiness.
The truth? Self-pleasure is a counterfeit comfort. It feeds the flesh, but it starves the spirit. You were never meant to find fulfillment in secrecy, you were created for intimacy with God. Don’t let shame keep you silent. Freedom is possible. Holiness is still the standard. 💎
Hey, hey, hey, hey, how's it going? It is your girl Faye Marillion, y'all. I am just so thankful for each and every one of you beautiful people. I am so just overjoyed by the love, by the support, by you guys showing up and showing out at the Christian Dating Talk tour, first tour date, which was held in Hampton, Virginia. We will be in the city near you soon. So I want y'all to write in. I want you guys to let me know where city we're going to next. I just was so thankful to see God move in such a way where clarity was brought, um, truth was made known, people were set free, deliverance broke out, healing broke out. It was amazing to watch God move in that space. But also in that that just the tour and just being in a room with all those believers, it became very apparent to me that we have some conversations that's gotta be had, okay? And so let's get into it. If y'all know, you know, faith always comes out swinging, and I don't want to keep you long. I want you to know the truth, and I want you to be made free, and I want you to be able to move forth in power and do what God called you to do. And I don't want Christian dating and dating and love to hinder you because I've watched people go through dating, they're on fire for Jesus, and eventually their entire fire just dies off. No, no, no, no, no. We're not gonna allow the enemy to do that, and so this is why this podcast and this movement exists to keep your fire lit for Jesus while you're dating and to know how to date effectively, and as far as kingdom. We've taken too many Christian ideas into the body of Christ, and now it's time for hard stop. And so let's talk about it. A topic that came up a lot in on the first event date, and it was a great event. I'm so thankful. But it just kind of broke my heart to see so many believers that are compromised and they don't even think they're compromised. It really broke my heart to see so many people um that call themselves believers and they love Jesus and they are believers, but it's to see them still bound by sexual sin. And in particular, masturbation came up. Masturbation is not okay for the kingdom believer. If you are one of these cultural people who claim to be Christian and you are okay with masturbating, this episode will make you mad. But if you want to walk in freedom and you want to be all who God called you to be in this hour and be on fire with the anointing and not just be out here, you know, following the trend and following what's comfy, what's progressive, what's cultural. If you want to be like solid in kingdom, this episode's for you. And if you are bound by masturbation, any sexual immorality or sexual deviancies, I'm here to tell you right now that you can be free in Jesus' name. So let's be real. This conversation is needed, it's been needed, and I don't even know why it's taking me so long to talk about it, but here we go, okay? In a culture that glorifies pleasure and normalizes lust, the kingdom of God still calls his people to be holy. Holy is not a negotiable thing as far as Christian Christianity and your walk with Jesus. Like, holy holiness is not a suggestion. I don't know where we got off thinking holiness is a suggestion. Because I've heard some people say, Well, I'm not gonna have sex, but I'm just gonna masturbate. That's how I'm gonna get get through this single season. Aunt wrong. Because if you are masturbating, you are not celibate. Period. Okay, and I've heard people say, Well, I got divorced, so I'm gonna masturbate until God sent my next spouse and ain't wrong again. I've heard so many people that think masturbation is a gift for the believer. That that I even heard people say, like God was looking out for them. Like God gave me wet dreams, and God gave me the gift of masturbation to help me avoid sexual sin. Aunt wrong again. Let's let's go back to the Bible, let's go back to the drawing board. And I know I know y'all probably like say, what the world? Yes, just just just just roll with me, okay? But I need to be very clear right now because God has called his children to be holy. Yes, we cannot be perfect, but you should be striving to be blameless, you should be striving for holiness, you should not be in any type of iniquity or transgressing against the Lord Jesus, okay? What those two things mean is you know what you're doing and you're still doing it. So after this episode, I don't want to hear that I don't know what I'm doing, okay? I don't want to hear it because it's it's for it's gonna be very apparent. And while we're here, I need to, I forgot y'all. I need to actually invite um our people on because I forgot. I'm so used to talking to my to y'all only, and so I get a lot of people saying, Well, Faye, where you been at, girl? I'm like, I'm like, y'all, I'm so sorry. I guess y'all do be waiting for me to go on, go live. And so I'm just gonna go into this because I really just feel like it's very needed. I feel like it's something that the body of Christ is really struggling with, and we gotta get past this. Like at some point, we gotta grow up, body of Christ, and you cannot think it's okay to be out here, you know, masturbating. And and I know you're like, well, Faye, it's hard. I get it, it's hard. I used to be single too. I had my moments where I fought and I fail, but baby, listen, no, this is not okay, and I'm gonna tell you why. I'm gonna make it very plain here. And so let's pray, Father, get in the name of Jesus. I thank you so much just for this time. I thank you so much just for what you're doing in this hour. I thank you, Lord, just for walking with us and talking to us and making these great areas, which I don't think is really great. I think it's just, you know, it's very black and white why you should not be doing this. But Lord, we ask you, God, just to help us, help us, Lord, just to be people who have ears to hear, be people who will say, Lord, I want to honor you no matter what, and that we will do it unto Jesus. And so, Father, we thank you just for this moment, we thank you just for this time, we thank you, Lord, just for what you're doing and for meeting us in this space. God, we thank you for all you say, amen. So let's let's do it, okay? And so, when I was single, and I was became a single mom, and y'all know my story, I became a single mom, and I was single and I was trying to figure out life, right? Trying to figure out life, trying to navigate. Now my lust is awakened in me. I like sex, think sex is great, and but now I know it's it's against Christ, it's against the body, right? And so, how in the heck was I gonna get through this? Because I was used to being able to do what I would do what I wanted to do, how I wanted to do it, and now as a believer, you can't do that, and so how in the world was I how how in the world am I now going to um be able to remain pure when everything and everyone around me is saying it's fine, and I'm like, I know what I'm doing is not right, but Lord help me. And so let's talk about it. How in the world was Faye able to navigate this season? Number one, I have to get real honest. I had to get real honest. Hey y'all, welcome to the um episode. We're talking about the M-word, okay? And I just wanted just to be really clear about where God where I believe God is, and I always tell people too, I don't know everything, but what I do know, I'll share with you and take it before the Lord. Get your scripture out and say, Lord, is if this is true, show me. And so let's get to it. God called his people to be blameless. And if you are on the YouTube episode, I'm at my mother-in-law's house, and that's her stuff, so just ignore that, okay? But um, God's called his people to be blameless, he calls people to be holy. Holiness is a non-negotiable. I'm not saying you're gonna be perfect, but I am saying that you need to be striving. And yes, this includes what you do when nobody's watching, okay. Holiness, it is I feel like it takes more, like it has more weight when no one's watching. When no one's watching, you see the content of your heart, you see what's in you. Masturbation is one of those hidden struggles, it's one of those hidden struggles um that many people don't talk about. Many people stay silent on it, but many are kept bound to this thing. And I saw this come out in in Hampton, Virginia, where a lot of people didn't even realize that masturbation is not biblical, it's it's not no, you you you you you messing up big time, and so I want you to understand that the world will tell you that this is normal, this is natural, this is even healthy. Okay, the world will tell you that, and you can buy that live if you want to, but I'm here to tell you that the word of God tells a different story as a kingdom citizen, and this is only for real kingdom citizens. Understand me, if you're one of them them them them weird cultural Christians, progressive type Christians, you ain't really got a backbone for kingdom, you don't really rock with Jesus like that, you're not completely sold out. This right here ain't for you. Lock off now, okay? Because the world will tell you this is fine, but kingdom says different because we live by covenant, we don't live by comfort, we don't live by convenience, we don't live especially by compromise. We live by covenant. Let's go to it, okay? So God calls us to purity, He called us a purity, not private compromise. Did you hear that? And so John Jesus said in Matthew 5, verse 27, 28. Let's get to it. You have heard it be said, you shall not commit adultery, but I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman or man lustfully has already committed adultery with him or her in his heart, and so masturbation is rarely ever separate from lust. It ain't never separated from lust, baby. It is what it is. If you masturbate, you are stricken and ridden with lust, period. Okay, and so whether it's fueled by our imagination, by a fantasy, by what you look porn, it flows from the same spirit that drives sexual sin. The root. You gotta check the root. See, we always hopping on trends and hopping on what's comfortable, and we always thinking, oh, it's fine, you know, everyone's everyone's doing their doing it, they're doing it. But you gotta start being an inspector. You gotta inspect the trees. Where where's this fruit coming from? People telling you this is fine, it's not okay. Do you hear me? Masturbation is has never been okay, it will never be okay, and you need to repent and stop today, period. Okay, and so lust begins in your heart before it ever manifests in your body. Okay, and so your heart is the seat of what's in you, and a lot of times we see it manifest it, we'll see it come out, and when you're thinking masturbation is such it's fine, it's a it's a little white sin. What you saying? Then white sin send people to hell real quick. Come on now, and so God doesn't just want your public worship, He wants your private surrender, and this is Bible 2. First Thessalonian, first Thessalonians 4, 3 through 5 said, It is God's will that you shall be sanctified, that you should should avoid sexual immorality, that each of you should learn to control his or her own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passion, passionate lust, like the pagans who do not know God. And so if you are a masturbating, poor-watching Christian, you are just like the pagans. Yep, I said it. Get mad. I don't care because I love you enough to tell you the truth. Masturbation is not your friend. Masturbation is not a private escape card. Oh, I'm just gonna do this right here. It's gonna help me avoid sexual sin. You don't get to do this just because one you bought with a price, your body's not your own. What are you doing? Calm down, and I get it, I get it. You like, man, Faye, this is so hard. You don't understand. Oh, yes, I do. Okay, oh yes, I do. My favorite sin was fornication. My favorite chosen picked sin was fornication. I had a long line of people who was enslaved, the bloodline'cause curse over my family was lust and perversion. I became one of the statistics too. I I walked into sexual sin. I don't say like fell into it because you know you're lying. When you're having sex, you ain't falling, you walking right into it, okay? And I walked into it, I chose it. I thought this is what I wanted, and I went and went and went and I got it. Ended up with a baby homeless, looking crazy. And I understood when I really got up from that place, and I was like, I really want to be sold out for the king. My body fought me. Oh my god, I failed so many times, I struggled so many times, I cried so many tears. I used to literally sit in Micah 7 and cry those that that scripture out. I used to sit reading um Psalms 51, crying those scriptures out because I knew in my hearts of hearts what I'm doing is not biblical, it's not from the Lord, and I know I'm hurting him every time I do this. But I was in such slavery, I was in such a deep space where I was like, I feel like there was no way out. I feel like I literally had no way out. And I'm here today as a living testimony telling you there's a way out. Because there's a way that seems right, but in the end, it leads to death, hell. And so you gotta know that God always gives a way of escape. And I'm getting ahead of myself because let's get this. So let's let me get back on track. And so, if the world can control itself for pleasure, if the world can control itself for pleasure, that's what I'm trying to say. Surely the children of God can control themselves for purpose. Okay, and so you can control yourself, you needed to kill your flesh. Like I said, in like I said in Hampton, Virginia, a lot of times most believers are weak as water and can't withstand the fiery darts and all the things that's coming at them because they don't read their Bible. Your diet, your spiritual diet consists of YouTube videos, short clips, and you might pray every now and then. But I kept telling them, like, hey, if you're not a student of the word, you're not reading your Bible every single day. Guess what? You can't help but to be weak. Your flesh gonna always win because you feed that the most. You're not feeding your body, you're not feeding your spirit, and you're wondering why you keep you it keep making you tap out. Oh my god, Faith was so hard. I just had to do it. That's a problem, baby. And we gotta get to the get to the bottom of it and get free, get healed. So let's keep going. Number two, the reason why God ain't flood on masturbation is because it's a counterfeit comfort. This is a fake pseudo-comfort. You keep falling, falling for it. So let's talk about it. Masturbation is a temporary escape that promises release, but leaves you spiritually empty. Anything that's not real is a counterfeit. The only other being, entity in the world that operates in counterfeits is the devil. The enemy cannot do nothing of his own. Everything he does is a counterfeit, everything he does is fake, and we just keep falling forward. Let me keep going. And so it's uh it's the enemy's cheap substitute for intimacy, and so instead of you waiting on the Lord who provides all things, hopes all things, give you richly all things, because he ain't moving in your time. Oh, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna take it into my own hands, Lord. Forgive us, forgive us, Lord, because we know not what we do. And some of y'all need to stop right there and just repent and feel the weight of what I just said and repent and ask God to forgive me. I don't know what I'm doing, I don't know why I keep doing this. Lord, help me. And God, He's gonna help you, but that's a part that you gotta play, okay? So let's let's keep going. So sometimes something something God created to be shared in covenant, not secret. So you're literally settling for this cheap thing that God meant for marriage and covenant, not meant for your little dirty little secret little room back in the back, okay? Not meant for no little dirty little toy that you you try to play with in the back, okay. And so Genesis 2 24 says, Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. So notice it doesn't say one person. God's designed sexually sexual pleasure to be between two male and female, bound, bonded through covenant partnership. That that was the design, and he's the great designer, and so if the designer designs something, the designer knows what's good, what's bad for it, okay? So God did not design this for the sexual pleasure. God, it was not it was not designed for comfort in isolation, and so you are uh uh isolated soul, you you are lonely, you are feeling all these things, and and the only thing you can run to is is the masturbation or the porn. I'm telling you right now, you're losing, and every time you do that, it's eating away at your soul, it's eating away at your fire, it's eating away at what God's trying to do in your life, it's causing you to drift more and more because that isolation and and in the isolation of sexual sins, it produces condemnation. And if you're not running back to the Father, allowing him to cleanse you and make you free and make you whole, I know you're in spiritual drift. I know you are even probably second-guessing if I want to continue my walk with Jesus. I know you are very conflicted because you're like, Man, I love the Lord God, but I'm bound to this. Can I really actually be free? I know because I've been there, I've been right there. I understand what that's like. That's not a fun place to be. It's pretty horrible, to be honest, when your soul and your spirit are conflicted and your flesh in the mix, too. Oh, it's hard, hardcore. And so when you turn to self-pleasure, you teach your body to find satisfaction without covenant. And when you do this, I want you to know this ricochets into your future covenant. This is going to directly harm and try to destroy your covenant because when your spouse makes you mad, the first thing you're gonna do is be like, Well, I can do this on my own. I was doing it on my own for you got here. You see, you see, you see how this can go. You see how we can begin to to take the meaning out of stuff and make it and make it where it's like empty, and where I don't need this, I can get satisfaction without this covenant. It's the same thing like we we see the enemy do over and over and over and over. You can accomplish the knowledge from a tree of knowledge of good and evil. You can know all these things without him. It's always designed to get you to do something, fulfill your own needs without him. That's why it's so dangerous, okay? And so training your spirit to seek fulfillment without fellowship, and so you training your body and you training your spirit, you teaching it opposite. You basically telling God what you said is a lie, I got a better way. That's what you're saying, and so you gotta start feeding, you gotta start feeding fleshly desires, you gotta start feeding fleshly desires instead of um spirit spirit-led disciplines. So you gotta stop doing that because that's what you're doing. You give you feeding those fleshly desires. I desire intimacy, I desire to be known, I desire to feel a certain feeling, and so I'm gonna skip over what God said. I'm gonna I'm gonna just do this, and so you'll you're gonna continue to get weak spiritually, you're gonna continue to not be able to, you know, you're gonna continue to spiral, and this is gonna show up in your marriage, okay? And so, whatever you feed the most grows. So, what I did personally during that season of my life, when I had when I my body knew what sex was, and I but I knew I wanted to be holy, I knew I wanted to do it the right way. I never found myself in isolation. I was always with friends, I was always with some type of word or worship or praying in the Holy Ghost, or I had I had the Lord with which girl all the time because Holy Spirit would never leave me or forsake me. He understands where I'm at physically as well as emotionally and mentally, and so I was always tapped in, always, and I would have those moments, and um it'd be hard, it'd be so hard, but accountability was key, community key dying to myself through fasting, not no little fruit-fruit, whip, little little social media fast, but we starving the body, we're not eating, we're not eating, we're not drinking because this flesh, you will you will submit, you will bow, you you will bow to the word of God in my life, and it was hard. I ain't gonna lie, it was hard, but you can do this because you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you, okay? And so let's keep going. The third reason why masturbation is not okay is that it's spiritually dangerous. Masturbation isn't a private act, you may think you're just doing it by yourself, but it's not a private act, it's actually a spiritual exchange, okay? It pulls you away from intimacy with God and into intimacy with yourself. That's number one, and it actually also opens the door for spirits like Incubus and Sucabus to come into your life and have dominion. And you wonder why you've probably been a person that's been masturbating for years, you can't never seem to keep a man, you can't never seem to keep nobody. Could it be you have a spiritual spouse? Because you've opened the door through masturbation into your life, and now that thing thinks it owns you because legally, spiritual law says you violate spiritual law, therefore, I have access to this house. This is my house, my spouse. That's what the spirit is saying, okay? Not the Holy Spirit, that that demonic spirit that you gave access to through your fingers, through your eye gates, okay? You gotta understand, you think it's just you and and yourself. It's not just you and yourself there, it's you and other things you allow it into the space, and even worse, the Holy Spirit will never leave you nor forsake you. So if you are a believer, guess who in the room with you? Guess who shared a body with you, and you doing this foul stuff, allowing other spirits to come and literally have opportunities to torment the very body that you ask the Holy Spirit to dwell in. Lord, forgive us. We know not what we do. Like, I need you to get the gravity of why this is so treacherous, why this is such a spiritual violation, not just to your body, but to the body and the temple of the Holy Spirit, which is this. Understand me, and I'm and I'm going hard because I need you to feel me. I need you to hear what I'm saying because we are so confused, body of Christ. When I saw so many people saying that that's what they do to get by as a Christian, as a blood bought, bloodwashed believer in Jesus, you telling me that it's okay to masturbate. I rebuke that lie, and I'm asking God to open your eyes now in the name of Jesus. Let's keep going. And so here is all the dangers of masturbation for you, woman, woman of God, and men of God, because y'all listen to me too. Thank y'all. Okay, number one is that it feeds your flesh, strengthening the very nature Christ died to crucify. This is this is literally coming out of Galatians chapter 5, verse 24. So when you're masturbating, you are literally an enemy of what God's done through his crucifixion. You literally are strengthening the very thing Jesus came to die for. All right now. I'm just a messenger, okay? Don't be mad at me. I'm just a messenger. Share this with a friend because we really got this thing twisted up. We gotta get this together, okay? Number two, it opens the door for shame and guilt. You ain't gonna tell me after you did that act, especially you believers, that you ain't feeling no shame or no guilt. Because if you are, that lets me know you have seared yourself. And the does you you basically told Holy Spirit, shut up talking to me. I don't want to hear this no more. And Holy Spirit at some point will be like, you know what? It do you, boo. And and you seared yourself in that area, so it's almost like it's no hope for you. You need to repent and say, God, help me to feel again. And so you are literally keeping that this masturbation is literally keeping you in a cycle of silence, secrecy, and self-condemnation. You want to stay there? How long you want to stay there, woman of God? Man of God? How long you want to stay there in that space of shame and guilt? Let's keep going. Masturbation numbs your spiritual sensitivity, numbs it, sears it, making it hard to hear the Holy Spirit voice clearly because you violating. Y'all, this thing goes deeper. It's not just a feeling. I'm telling you, it's not just a feeling. And we made this thing out to be something, oh, it's just masturbation, oh, it's just porn. No, no, no, no, no. It's a violation, and it comes with a consequence. But guess what? You can be saved, you can be healed, you can turn, you can break free in Jesus' name. Let's keep going. It distorts your design for love. You wonder why you can't seem to keep a relationship because masturbation is creating a false expectation in the marriage, or it's making singleness feels unbearable. No, masturbation, a lot of you. It lots of you make you think if I get married, I won't do this. It's way different, y'all. It's way different. Let's keep going. And so Romans chapter 6, verse 12 and 13 says, Do not let sin control the the control the way you live. There we go. So do not let sin control the way you live, do not give in to your sinful desires. Do not let any part of your body become an instrument of evil to serve sin. Instead, give yourself completely to God. This is the NLT version. So fire. I love it. How it breaks down. And so when you become, when you belong to the kingdom and you are a true citizen and daughter of the living God, your body's not your own, it's his temple. Okay, and this is seen in First Corinthians 6:19 through 20. Do not do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God. You were bought at a price, the price of the precious blood of Jesus Christ was the price. Okay, therefore, only guys with your bodies, okay. Let's keep going. Number four, the fourth reason why masturbation is not cool with the Lord, it is not just about what you do, it's about what you worship. Okay, let me break this down. So the truth is many believers turn to masturbation not just for pleasure, but for comfort. And so now it's just a habit. It's like putting on clothes, it's just a habit, just what we do because we do it so much. Lord, forgive us for we know not what we do. God forgive us when you're lonely, when you're stressed, when you feel rejected, when the enemy whispers, this will make you feel better. But that's how idolatry begins. You don't even realize it, you think it is just something so simple, not realizing the spiritual weight of what you're doing and the idolatry that you are walking in, okay? And so every time you run to pleasure instead of presence, his presence, you are building an altar to self. Cold with it, ain't it? Oh let it let it breathe. I know y'all, I know it's heavy, it's heavy. Just keep going. We're gonna break you free, okay? And so Romans chapter 12, verse 1 says this NLT version, my favorite version of scripture, the new living translation is amazing. Offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God. This is your true and proper worship. Holiness is worship, discipline is worship. Saying no to your flesh when it's screaming, yes, that's worship. And we're sitting there thinking, oh, I just want to put my hands up, Lord. Touch me, Lord. I just want a little fruit fruit, a little a little goosebumps. I just want to go and cry. And don't get me wrong now. I like a good cry on the altar. Don't get your girl wrong. I love a good corporate prayer, cry. But true worship, true worship is discipline, true worship is is literally holiness, true worship. Something else, true worship. It goes go way past them tears. True worship. Okay. And so number five, God isn't trying to shame you. Okay. So this whole episode I'm doing is not to shame you. Like, that's no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. He the Lord's actually trying to heal you and using me as an instrument to call to you and give you an opportunity to repent and be healed and be made whole. So, so what am I saying? What I'm saying is, if you are struggling in this area, God actually isn't mad at you. He's calling you higher. He's calling you higher. You can't be free from what you keep hiding. Okay, the moment you expose it to light, grace goes to work. Thank you, Lord, for your grace. Thank you, Lord, for the grace. And so, 1 John 1 9, this NIV version says, and we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive. Use our sins and to purify us of all unrighteousness, all unrighteousness. Okay, so you're not too dirty to be delivered, and you're not too far gone to be free. Because that's the case, baby. I would not be talking to you. The Lord, ooh, the Lord had to reach way, way, way, way down to get your girl. And I'm not lying. You talking about just total depravity, just lost. Lord, I thank you. Thank you, Lord, that your grace knows no bounds. And your grace will meet us wherever we are. As long as we are open. So I'm calling you, mighty woman and mighty man of God, surrender. You don't have to keep falling. Okay? It can be masturbation, it could be pornography, it can be sexual sin. Stop falling. Because there is power in the blood of Jesus to break every cycle of sin, to break every lustful addiction, to break it in the name of Jesus. Okay. And so John 8 36 says, So if the Son sets you free, you are free indeed. And so the next thing is that you gotta start to step forward towards freedom and wholeness. What does this look like? This looks like number one, renouncing the spirit behind it. Call out what the sin is, okay. Don't remain you can't say this part of self-care. I've heard this ridiculous delusional stuff too. This is part of my self-care. What are you saying? Okay, and so you gotta repent. Hey Zoe, you gotta repent and break the agreement with lust and perversion. Stay up for every boy. Hey, you gotta repent, okay? And my baby right here, okay? And number two, you have to replace the habit with his presence. All right, yes, baby girl. No, no, no. Go back with sissy, okay? I'll come get you, okay? I love you, and my baby. So you gotta replace this habit with his presence, okay? And so with temptation rises, worship, pray in the spirit, go for a walk, get an exercise in fast, baby. That fast and a kill it. I'm telling you right now, when you out of breath from work from running and you starving, you ain't thinking about that. Period. Simple, okay? Period. I'm just being honest, all right? And so get in the word, you cannot cast out the flesh, you must crucify it daily. We be trying to be friends with the flesh. What you doing? What you doing? You can't be friends with something trying to kill you, okay? Stop trying to be friends with something trying to kill you. Your flesh is trying to kill you, crucify it, okay. Number three, you gotta find accountability. So, so because freedom doesn't grow in isolation. Get connected to someone mature who can prep who can pray with you, who can check in with you consistently. You can join my Bible study, it's called Crown, Crown Ministry, baby. And we train up women who love the Lord Jesus for real, who know how to operate in a supernatural, who know how to honor their husbands and respect their husbands, who know how to raise beautiful children, who knows how to hear the voice of the Lord. Join Crown, join the communities, stop being in isolation. Number four, guard the gates, your eyes and your ears. Guard the gates, baby, because your eyes and your ears and your emotions are gates. Some of y'all wide open, some of y'all will watch anything, you will listen to anything, you're going to all these little weird concerts, and you're wondering why you still twisted. What are you allowing through the gates? And so, stop entertaining shows, songs, and scrolling that awakens lust. Okay, number the final thing you can do is walk in purpose. You're you gotta get out of idol, and when you're idling, temptation increases. So, when you're not in purpose, when you're not doing what God calls you to do, you're idling, you're not in purpose, you're about to probably get messed up, okay? And so fill your time with assignment, all right. So begin to serve, study, build, create, create for crying out loud because God made you a creator because you're very creative, and you're just afraid to put it out there because you're afraid of what people are gonna say, you're afraid of failure. But I'm telling you, if you get on purpose, you will stop this habit of masturbation, all right? And so you gotta also keep your hands busy for the kingdom when you always around people who are on fire or more fiery than you, it's gonna help you walk in freedom. And so, my final words of freedom to you, woman of God and man of God, is masturbation is not harmless as you think, it's actually a hindrance, and it's robbing you of your spiritual authority, and it's dulling you of your sensitivity to God's voice. But, but listen, hub, listen, listen, listen. Okay, freedom is possible, and it's actually a premise. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead lives in you, according to Romans 8:11. Okay, this means you have the power to overcome it, but you gotta do the work. You have to do the work. You can't just sit and say, God, take this from me. No, you got a part to play, you gotta put off this stuff, and so your purity isn't punishment, it's actually powerful. Your obedience is not oppression, it's actually your oil, anointing. Okay, you are called to be holy, healed, and whole in Jesus' name, and so stop trading the glory of intimacy with God for a temporary gratification with your flesh. You were made for way more, okay. And so, Father, in the name of Jesus, I just come now with these beautiful people, and Lord, we repent, we repent for for our agreement and our the deliberate walking in the sin of lust and perversion through masturbation, Lord. We repent, God, and we turn. And God, you say you are faithful and just to forgive us if we repent. And Father, we close the door, we renounce lust in the name of Jesus, we renounce perversion in the name of Jesus, we've renounced confusion in the name of Jesus, and Father, we surrender and recommit our lives to you in Jesus' name. So, Lord, I ask that you just would touch each and every one of will be impacted by this message, Lord. I pray, Lord, you are a great deliverer. I pray that you're going to set them free. I pray, Lord, that you are going to allow them to be holy and be have a covenant relationship in the future in your time, and they will not continue to fall for broken six sterns of masturbation and pornography and lust, Lord. They will look and wait on you, O King. Now, Lord, I thank you for this day. And so your mighty name we pray. We seal this prayer in Jesus' name. Amen. Thank y'all so much for your time. I will be in touch. We are coming to another city near y'all real soon. Keep your ears out. Continue to follow your girl, and I will be back very soon. I love y'all.