Adult Entertainment - How An Alternative Lifestyle Launched A Porn Star Career in the Adult Industry

Adult entertainment - How An Alternative Lifestyle Enhanced A Marriage and Launched A Porn Star Career in the Adult Industry

On this episode of Happening Next Door, we sit down with Ms. Amanda, an adult model, content creator, and longtime swinger, to explore what ethical non-monogamy looks like when a marriage is built on trust, friendship, and blunt communication.

We start with her entry into the lifestyle and why the early stages can feel intimidating. Ms. Amanda explains why meet-and-greets are a smart "training wheels" approach for new couples, how porn has warped expectations about swingers, and why seeing normal, everyday people can be the most freeing part of the community.

From there, we dive into the business of adult content creation. Ms. Amanda shares her path from stay-at-home mom to taking OnlyFans seriously, what changed in 2020, and why building an audience is work, not luck. We discuss platform strategy, teasing content ethically, and the mindset shift between casual swinging and professional adult scenes. She also opens up about separating sex from emotion and the powerful reconnection with her primary partner that keeps their relationship solid.

If you're curious about open marriage boundaries, sex positivity, OnlyFans tips, or what to expect at an adult convention like Exotica Chicago, this episode is packed with real talk. Subscribe, share with a curious friend, and leave a review.

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Transcript

Meet Miss Amanda

Nosy Neighbor. 0:12

My guest this episode is a lovely five-foot-tall Southern Midwest MILF slash Gilf. She's an adult model, content creator, swinger. Miss Amanda, thank you so much for joining us today. Thank you for having me on. So tell us a little bit about yourself, your upbringing, because you are a very sexual person that has really encompassed sexuality. A lot of women do, you know, OnlyFans, or a lot of women do this and that, but you kind of cover the spectrum of the adult industry. What was your upbringing like though?

Ms Amanda 0:47

You know, my upbringing was it wasn't anything spectacular, but my family didn't hide any type of sensual, sexual, any type behavior like that. My family's very open, not overly religious by any stretch. So it was you can be your own person type of thing. And you just had my mom was always like, if you got it, flaunt it. And I'm like, okay. But I didn't back then I didn't take it the way I do now. But I mean, it was a different kind of thing.

How Swinging Started For Them

Nosy Neighbor. 1:18

Was this always the lifestyle, the swinging lifestyle, the adult industry kind of stuff? Was that always on the reader, or was that something that you discovered later in life? How did that transition start?

Ms Amanda 1:31

It started later in life approximately 14, 15 years ago. We started. It was more of husband always hounding me about, hey, do you want to try swinging? And I'm like, no, not really. And he's like, Well, you know, would you like to at least try it once? And finally, I got a little I didn't get he didn't nag me, but it was more out of fun. And finally I go, you know what, you want to do it? If you can find somebody to fuck me, let's go. And he goes, serious? So he never really expected to happen. We've always been sexual with each other, we've always been happy with each other, but it was just something that we tried on a whim and haven't looked back since. It's just been open and exploring ever since then.

Nosy Neighbor. 2:15

For a lot of people that are in conventional relationships, the idea of swinging is just something that's unheard of. And there's a lot of judgment and a lot of bias. But everyone that I've talked to that is in the lifestyle says that that has embraced the lifestyle, it's enhanced their marriage. And to many, that might be surprising. Can you go a little bit into about the fine details, not necessarily in your marriage, but just the generalization of how that has improved your marriage, if it has?

Ms Amanda 2:48

Initially, when you start, you start okay. When we started initially, it was, you know, you meet you meet a couple online, you decide you want to chat, and it goes into like texting back and forth. I'm not good with flirting doing that way, but my husband is. So me and the guy, we just have general conversation. It's really kind of boring. And him and the girl, I mean, they're pretty much having sex on the phone. And then uh, you know, it gets to the point where that just brings a spark in with you, with the two of you, and it just makes it more sexy and more appealing, and it brings out a type of sexual excitement that brings you closer together. I mean, there's some people, it doesn't work, obviously, but then if you have the open communication with your spouse and you're able to talk to each other about anything and everything, feelings, fears, all that stuff, it can actually be a great addition to a relationship.

First Steps And Newbie Nerves

Nosy Neighbor. 3:53

The idea of swinging, I think a lot of what people get the the idea of is from porn and stuff like that. But it's a lot more casual, it's a lot more, it's a very friendly community. Uh, once you get to know the people that are you know active in it. For a young couple or an any age couple, the idea of swinging is very arousing or very, you know, it sounds great. The reality though gets a little bit more nerve-wracking, and ghosting is very common, I would say, among newbies and stuff like that. I think some of it is out of fear, some of it is, oh my gosh, what did we get ourselves into? And some of it's just that's the world we live in where people ghost people. What would you recommend is the the best approach for a couple that is interested in swinging, but without going into you know the the Super Bowl swinging events like a major, you know, party or something like that. How would you if you were to do it over, knowing the experience that you have, how would you suggest a couple dip their toes in? Is it going to a party? Is it finding another couple just for something more intimate? What is the best approach?

Ms Amanda 5:12

For us, starting off in the lifestyle or getting started in it, we didn't know about some of the major websites. We didn't know about, you know, that there was hotel takeovers or hotel parties or anything like that. So we started off just meeting couples online. Yeah, they can ghost you. And I know one couple that we met with, they were afraid that we were gonna ghost them. So they hooked up with a brought another couple in that they had met at a uh X-rated store and brought them along. So they ended up being three couples and we had just an absolutely amazing time. You know, ghosting, it happens, and I think a lot of people, it is out of fear. We went to one party and we sat outside going, do we go in? I don't know. And we sat outside nervous as all get out just to even walk into a party because you don't know anybody. But it ended up being a very good time. But what I usually suggest for people is going out to meet and greet, because nothing's expected sexually wise, because it's usually at a public, like a bar or some public establishment where you're not necessarily granted. If you find somebody you want to hook up with and say, hey, let's go here after this, then by all means, you know, continue on the fun, but at least it gets your toes wet into meeting people and to see who else is in this lifestyle community to be able to uh get a view and talk to other people and get their experiences and to broaden any type of knowledge you can get from it because you start off with zero knowledge.

Nosy Neighbor. 6:50

And I think those meeting greets are also important because you start to realize that there's not there's yeah, there's some perfect looking people off in there, but there's also just everyday regular people, flaws and all. And I think once you start seeing that hey, these people around me are just like me, that were not perfect, there seems to be not that you lower your expectation, but you realize that you are one of them versus I need to look like Barbie and Ken in order to become swingers, right?

Ms Amanda 7:22

And that's the misconception with porn going, okay, well, here's the swinger after party, you know, and just going, no, that's not normal people. You know, let's bring in the non-porn stars to show you what some normal people actually look like. And it and it does, it gives you a sense of seeing all the different varieties of people and looks and tastes because there's someone out there for everybody.

Nosy Neighbor. 7:49

So not only are you involved as a swinger, but then you got into adult modeling and content creating and doing things like OnlyFan. Was there a transition in doing that, or did it all kind of happen at the same time?

Ms Amanda 8:03

It was kind of a transition because initially I started off because I was I was a stay-at-home mom. And so while the kids were in school, why not do some camming? So I started off camming. That wasn't for me. I didn't have the patience for camming. I just got bored waiting for people. I'm like, come on, don't you want to watch me play? Let's go. But you have to tip me to do it. And I lost interest really quick. But then I had started an OnlyFans page and never really did anything with it. And I'm like, you know, how are you gonna get people if you don't do anything with it? So then I finally decided, you know what, let's let's just go for it. Let's do it, let's see what we can do. So it wasn't until I think 2020 that I actually really took it seriously and said, okay, let's let's move it up and let's let's keep this going.

Nosy Neighbor. 8:50

2020, most people remember as the year of COVID, right? But in my mind, it's the year that a lot of women discovered their sexuality. I mean, OnlyFans really blew up, you know, around then, and women started realizing that they can be sexy and beautiful too, flaws and all. And we saw a lot of women that might not have been viewed as like porn stars or content creators uh doing that and kind of empowering themselves into you know finding their own sexuality and really revitalizing their marriage, revitalizing their opinions of themselves. It was very uh kind of a sex positive year, despite going through COVID. It was kind of one of those casualties of COVID was creating that kind of boom in everyday women finding and discovering themselves. Yeah. So you're not only creating content, but then you started doing more porn with like other people. Uh does that you you weren't canning, you're creating content, and now you're you're you're fucking people. What was that transition like as far as the the mindset? Because creating porn and swinging is a very different mindset, despite it kind of having the appearance of the same thing.

Ms Amanda 10:13

But I think it it somewhat helps play into it because if you're meeting a different couple or if you play separately, whatever the case may be, you know, you didn't necessarily have to know. Okay, some uh let me back up. Because there are some swingers that have to get to know somebody before they do anything with it. And then there's uh other swingers that are like, hey, you're interested, I'm gonna say, hey, let's go. And we were more of the if you're interested, we're interested, let's have sex type of couple. I think it helped play the role in you don't need that that mental stimulation or the type of bonding to be able to have sex with somebody, if that makes sense. Because you know, you can now when you go to an event to for uh to record a bunch of porn, it's a hi, here's your paperwork. Okay, fill out the paperwork. Okay, what kind of scene do you want to do? Let's go. So you don't have a whole lot of time of getting to know each other before you're just going at it. So I think for me anyway, I think it helps play a role into it to make it a little bit smoother process.

Nosy Neighbor. 11:26

A lot of people that might be listening or just thinking of swinging or starting an OnlyFans or stuff like that might worry about emotions. Sex to many is an emotional tool. We have sex because we're emotionally attached, we fall in love with someone, and an offset of that is sex. How do you separate the two and keep emotions out of that? Because I think a lot of couples might be worried that you know, if I bring my wife to a swingers club, she might fall for this guy. How is the approach that you take to kind of separate those two?

Ms Amanda 12:04

For me, for me, mentally, it's easy to disconnect the emotion from it. And I know a lot of people aren't like that, and it is a big fear amongst couples, especially if you're not overly secure in your relationship. But my relationship with my husband is something completely, entirely different. We grew up our whole adult lives together, we're best friends. That's our life, and we're that's an emotion that no one can ever touch. So to be with another guy and have emotional attachment isn't necessarily going to happen with me. Might I find some feelings like to care for them, maybe a little bit, but not as much as I do for my husband. So it's for me, it's easy to disconnect that. Yeah, maybe it's just me, I don't know.

Nosy Neighbor. 13:03

And so let's say you have an evening with another guy, okay, and then you go home with your husband. How is the sex between you know Miss Amanda the the swinger versus Miss Amanda the wife? Is there any difference in sexuality? Is there any difference in approaches? Is it all kind of the same thing, or is the way you do it with your husband a little bit different? Maybe that you put that emotion back in then. How is that different between the two?

Ms Amanda 13:33

When we go home and we we used to call it reclaiming, but it's not really reclaiming because it was never lost to begin with. But it was it was a a bond, like I can't even describe it. It's a very emotional, engaging sexual experience that it's just like okay, that made me horny as I'll get out to do that. Let's go home. And then it's it can carries on to the home, and it's it's just magical. It's it's over the top, really.

Nosy Neighbor. 14:10

That's one of the things that surprised me is because a lot of couples, as I mentioned earlier, they find that it does enhance their marriage, and the idea of it on paper sounds ridiculous. Like, I'm gonna go watch my husband fuck another woman, and that's gonna make my marriage better, right? How does that that two connect? And yet, couple after couple that are taking swinging seriously find that.

Ms Amanda 14:34

Yeah, so it is very true, it's it's just an emotional reconnection type of thing. It's it's a it's a just on a whim when we decide, hey, you know, I'm in the mood, let's let's do it. You know, that's that's one feeling, but then when you come home after doing something like that, it's actually completely different, it's just a very emotional bonding moment, it's extremely intimate.

Nosy Neighbor. 15:04

And now you've been doing this, I believe you said what, 14 years about? Yeah. If you were to go back in time those 14 years, is there anything, not that you regret anything, but is there anything different that you might have done that you could advise another couple that's just starting out that says, if I was to change one little thing, this is something I might have tried, or this is something I might have done?

Ms Amanda 15:28

I'm not I no, I don't think so. Because in all reality, everybody has their own journey. And what's one person is comfortable with, another person might not be. So you have to take that journey as fast or as slow as you can. What's right for me may not be right for somebody else, but what's right for somebody else, I look and I go, Really? You did that? But that's just the difference between me and somebody else. So you have to take your journey how you take it, you have to take it step by step. And the biggest and most important step is communication.

Building A Public Brand Authentically

Nosy Neighbor. 16:07

Now, you do the swinging, you do the content creating. At what point did you realize that Miss Amanda wasn't just you, but it was almost like a um a creation. It was uh it's a personality, it's a it's an embodiment other than you in some ways, where I mean you have your own calendar. You can get your 2026 calendar available on your website, missamanda.net. You're you know, attending a booth at uh Exotica Chicago. You know, you're you're a personality, you're a kind of a I'm I'm not even sure what the word I want to use is, but you're something that's a little bit beyond your own self. At what point did you realize that this was bigger than kind of you, the the married wife? This was kind of a a business almost.

Ms Amanda 17:03

The first time is when you announce that you're going to these exoticas and you have somebody that goes, Oh my gosh, I can't wait to see you there. When the first time I went to Exotica, one guy goes, I'm sorry, I don't know who you are. I said, That's okay, you will someday. That's all I said to him. Because you know, you are a nobody. And then as you start to get known and people are excited to see you, it's just like, wow, okay. So it catches sometimes it still catches me off guard that somebody can't wait to see me or meet me. You know, it still catches me off guard when when a guy reaches out and goes, Hey, can we do a a private video? And I'm like, sure. I, you know, that to me is unexpected because somebody's reaching out and actually wants me. So sometimes I'm still in disbelief, but yes, it's getting more it's more exciting the more you hear it, if that makes sense.

Nosy Neighbor. 18:02

Is there any concern as a I mean, you're a lovely woman, you're married, you have your life outside of this. Is there any concern that the two blend together? How do you kind of protect yourself to to separate the the person from the the creation?

Ms Amanda 18:21

Outside of porn and swinging, I I would like to say I'm a different person, but really who you see is who you see. I don't pretend to be somebody else, but I'm I'm humble about it. I don't I don't change who I am to be a certain persona that everybody expects. I know some women turn into divas and I'm not that person. So in reality, the two they just kind of mix together. There isn't uh Miss Amanda here and a Miss Amanda there. It's we are the same person, and it's just at home, I might dress in a sweatshirt and and in porn I'm naked. That's that's about the extent of that one. It's not I'm not somebody somebody different. I'm just not.

Nosy Neighbor. 19:20

Does it ever get and then it sounds weird to say, like on your social media, you always have to be in lingerie or you always have to be topless. And does it ever get tired that you always have to kind of be on your your sexiest versus just I mean, you can't post a picture in a sweatshirt on your social media saying, Oh, I feel blah today. I'm just gonna sit and eat a you know container of ice cream. There always has to be you always have to be on. Is does that ever get tiresome that you the creation that you've created can't be have a lazy day? It always has to be at the top of your beauty.

Ms Amanda 19:59

Not that that's hard for you, but actually, actually, there's sometimes I post on social media reality. There was one time I was scooping snow as much as I hate it, but it is where I live, where I live. I was scooping snow and I took a picture of myself with covered in snow, wearing a coat with a snow shovel, and I said, I could get AI a sexy picture in the snow, but this is reality. And it's like, it is what it is, you know. Yesterday I posted um a picture of seeds because I spent the day outside planting seeds for a garden. So sometimes you get the real me. That's that's the real me. That'll be awesome. Do you get tired of it? Sometimes you do, and that's why you post the more reality, you know. I'm laying in my hammock, yes, I'm fully dressed, but I'm enjoying this.

Nosy Neighbor. 20:52

Now your husband is active too, as far as helping manage and and stuff like that. Has that the business side of things? Has that also been as entertaining, or is there times where he says, Honey, I think you should do this, and you're like, God, I don't want to. How does that kind of work with the marriage? It's one thing to be swinging, but now he's kind of a business partner to some extent, from what I understand. How does that work and how does that work with a relationship?

Ms Amanda 21:21

Uh, it's it's fine. We've always done well working together. So that's that's not an issue. Is there a time where he goes, you know, I really wish you would take a picture doing this? Okay, fine. You know, I might poutle at it about it a little bit, or hey, March Madness is coming up. You need to get a picture with basketball. I'm like, okay, I'm like, let me. I'm like, can I do this first? Yeah, you can. I mean, we compromise, so you know, we get along great when it comes to that. And he does, he does push me. He he helps push me a lot.

Nosy Neighbor. 21:55

A lot of women that I've talked to have said that this is that doing things like OnlyFans has been uh empowering for on a personal level. How has that been for you? I mean, you're a MILF, but you're also a guilf. How is that looking back at your sexuality, at how far you've come to Some self-discovery sexually. How has that been as far as just emotionally a boost for you?

Ms Amanda 22:19

Uh swinging alone has been an emotional boot boost for me because there was a period in my life, and I don't know why, but the truth, it's the truth. I always thought I was ugly. And I never thought I was a pretty person. And it took getting into swinging and getting self-confidence till now I look in the mirror and I go, you know what? You are pretty. You need to embrace it. So all of it's helped me a lot in terms of my self-confidence and building up who I am because that wasn't there when I was younger at all.

Nosy Neighbor. 22:59

Do you think that some of that answer has a lot to do with the creation of what porn makes us view people as? And has stuff like OnlyFans and stuff like the, you know, we talked about the pandemic really created the boom. Has that helped diminish some of that stigma and expectations of the perfect bodies? Because yeah, there's a lot of beautiful women on OnlyFans, but there's a lot of MILFs, there's a lot of gifts of real women saying, Here I am, I'm beautiful, whether you think so or not. And that helped kind of lower some of the expectations. I think for years we had a high expectation of to meeting porn, you had to be a busty blonde woman with perfect skin and stuff like that. And then when you see swinging videos, it's the busty blonde women that are having swing. And so the be a mom of three, having the idea that some you know young 30-something year old is gonna want to fuck you, you know, that has to be a scary thought. So has has the creation of OnlyFans helped other women realize that they can do this? Has that been a benefit?

Ms Amanda 24:10

I think it has, because you know, for a long time there has been a stigma about you have to have this perfect look, this perfect body. Now, do some of them make way more? Probably, but you know, as long as I'm comfortable, I don't care. I thought my age would really hurt me. Grant, I don't look my age, but I feel like technically does because it has me kind of in an area that I don't look old enough, but I don't look young enough. So I'm kind of in this mix. But you know, when you see all these other people on there that are just normal people, it does open up that avenue to make it to help you think, you know what, I can do this. I can, you know, we just need to put the effort into it, we can make this work. You know, if I get zero people, then you know what, maybe I need to reevaluate what I'm doing. But when you gain a following and you have, you know, so many thousands of people following you and watching you on these different platforms, that goes a long way in helping that confidence grow.

Nosy Neighbor. 25:22

Now, it's one thing to post content and having people chat and you know make comments and stuff like that. But when you go to something like Exotica Chicago, which you'll be at Booth 100 April 8th through 13th, I believe. What is your expectation and how would you because I've seen clips of stuff where guys come up and they feel like they can say anything because it's a porn star, and so I can call you whatever I want because you know you're this and that. How would you prefer fans to approach you?

Ms Amanda 25:58

You know, if the if they come up and talk to me, then okay, don't come up to me and call me profanity or anything like that. But you know, I don't, it's not a preference thing, and I haven't had anybody come up to me and say anything negative by any stretch or say anything out of line for that matter. You know, so it's yeah, but I just a hi. It's really good. So it but I haven't had anybody come up and just usually from what I have experienced, people are more nervous coming up to you to say anything, so they're not really gonna know what to say, and you have to be the one to initiate saying hi to them because they're like, Oh my gosh, she's talking to me. Yes, I'm talking to you, you know. Hi, how are you? You know, can you want a picture? You know, how can I help you? So it's you know, maybe some other people have had some bad experiences, but I have not.

Nosy Neighbor. 27:00

I think a lot of what I've seen in just people posting clips is just inappropriate of talking about you know how much they get off to someone right off the bat. Like, you know, I masturbate to you, you know, all the time, and it was like, that's how you say hi, you know, get to say hi to me first and get to know me, or you know, a lot of porn you hear, you know, you're my dirty cum slut. Well, that's usually not the best way to like say hi, you know, meeting greeting someone. And so that's kind of where I was going, not inappropriate, but oh okay.

Ms Amanda 27:33

But if you think about it, that kind of a statement, it's I'd almost see it as a compliment, and I'd almost go, I am, am I? That could because they've obviously watched it. If they've watched it, then I'm making money off of it. So I guess it it might depend on how you view it that way. I've I've seriously have never had anybody come up and say that. My husband's joked around and called me that. So it doesn't, you know, it doesn't phase me, and I might take it more as a smart elect comment than anything else. You know, uh if a guy tells me he jacks off to me, rock on. I love it.

Casba Inc Events And Community Charity

Ms Amanda' 28:12

All right.

Nosy Neighbor. 28:13

Well, if you're in Chicago on April 8th through 13th, uh you heard it first. So now, not only are you a calendar girl, you're an OnlyFans girl, you're a porn star, you guys have created Casbah Inc., which is the company that surrounds your business. Tell us a little bit about what created that.

Ms Amanda 28:34

That actually started off around 10 years, well, probably more like seven years ago, where it's more it started up more off as uh swinging and doing hotel takeovers and stuff because we actually host one a year for a hotel takeover, which is in Kansas City in the winter. We call it Crazy Winter Nights, and it's a very nice time. It's a gala. That's how Casba Inc. started because we were always known as Casbah. So everything is, you know, Crazy Casba, you know, Miss Amanda Casbah, Casba Inc., you know. So we just blanket everything underneath Casba Inc., where we have a studio that we started for porn and all kinds of different things. So it got started off as that, and then it's just expanded ever since then to everything else that we've put into our lives.

Nosy Neighbor. 29:34

Now, a lot of people would not think swingers and charity, but part of the Casba Inc. business has been creating Casba cares. What brought that about?

Ms Amanda 29:46

We saw people in our in our Casba community, uh, which is over 140,000 people struggling. Some didn't have enough money to pay bills, some, you know, they needed groceries, they needed coats, you know, for family members, you know, things like that. And we would help raise money to help them pay these, to pay their bills. It's been very rewarding to be able to help people in their in our community. But, you know, we had somebody who's electric, they didn't get their electric bill paid in time. And by the time they realized it was, you know, the they get home from work and the lights are cut off, and they're like, okay, I need to get a hotel room. Would you cover a hotel room and so I have electricity? And we're like, yes, we'll cover a hotel room for you. You stay with your kids for the night, and then, you know, tomorrow pay your electric bill so you can get your lights back on. But it's it's just when people need something and by the time they get to us, they're extremely desperate. Then we like to help and give a helping hand to uh not stress them out more than they need to be.

Nosy Neighbor. 31:00

And has that been embraced by the community, or is it kind of something that's known more to the swinging community that you guys are out? I mean, are you more public? Would you do public events that raise money for the community, or is it kind of down low?

Ms Amanda 31:17

Well, we've always just centered it around swinging people because we just, you know, that's usually who we help out. You know, if somebody comes to us that aren't swinger related, we're gonna we're going, okay, so you want to borrow money from a swinging community to, you know, it it's like, well, how do you explain where that money came from? So we keep it with helping just our community of swingers. We haven't gone public about it. Granted, it's on our website, so we don't hide it from anybody, but you know, we wouldn't turn down money if they donated to it.

Nosy Neighbor. 31:58

Now, Casper Inc. isn't just about Miss Amanda. You host other podcasts, you talk, you know, you encourage other people. Do you ever see yourself taking even more of an active role of not being in front of the camera as much and finding more and more Miss Amanda's out there to kind of create a an army of Miss Amanda types to promote and encourage, or do you always enjoy being in front of the camera and for as long as you can?

Ms Amanda 32:28

Well, I enjoy it, so I want to do it as long as I can. I know the reality that there's a time limit on it. You know, and unless somebody likes the old rink, you know, I know that some GILFs, when they're, you know, gray hair and wrinkles all over and in their 70s is sought after. I can't say that, you know, you're always gonna be wanted. So we'll play it by ear, but I as long as I can do it, I will.

Nosy Neighbor. 32:59

The money is nice, the attention is nice. What are kind of the rewarding things that you find about doing this personally, professionally? What has been kind of what is your enjoyment other than the sex itself?

Ms Amanda 33:16

Well, it's a community of its own. So meeting people that you do content with that you not necessarily have done content with, but it's meeting people and getting to know different people in the industry because everybody has a different view of a role or everybody has different ways that they do things. And it's so it's nice to learn from other people what you can get. It's great as far as fans go because people want to meet you. So that's that to me is is a part of the joy of it is to get to meet people that have seen me and go, ooh, you're Miss Amanda. Yeah, I am. To me, it still catches me off guard. But I embrace it because, you know, it won't last forever. So I want, you know, I'm gonna enjoy as much of it as I can and you know, enjoy the people I meet, enjoy the scenes that I do. And, you know, it's it's good to have a scene where you're just laughing because, you know, I'm like, oh, I have an idea to do this, let's do this scene, and then you're laughing because really the the dynamic in my head didn't work out like I thought it would, and we're all just laughing and having a good time. And and if it's fun, you keep doing it. Once it becomes fun no more, maybe you look at expanding elsewhere.

Nosy Neighbor. 34:48

Is there a typical like what is your if you had to pick a scene or if you had to pick a type of scene, what's the quintessential Miss Amanda scene or like a clip? What is the environment? What is what is the context of something like that?

Ms Amanda 35:07

I'm like, I don't have a favorite.

Nosy Neighbor. 35:09

Like if I was to you know if someone just to say, you know, what kind of porn star is she, what would be a clip, you know, you don't have to name an exact clip, but what would be something that this is quintessential, Miss Amanda?

Ms Amanda 35:22

Let's see. At the end of each clip, I make a I make whoever I'm working with say they just rode the five foot firecracker. I do that. But there isn't anything else they do that stands out that's like, ooh, that's different. That's a that's just a strictly her move type of thing, or gosh, that had to have been Miss Amanda if she was doing that. You know, that's I just have a little catchphrase at the end.

Nosy Neighbor. 35:50

You mentioned that you went to a convention once and the guy said, I don't know who you are. You said you will someday. As you're growing with being more and more well known, is there anything, anyone that you're excited to hopefully work with someday that you haven't?

Ms Amanda 36:05

Like, uh, not particularly. I think it's more because I know I'm not everybody's cup of tea. There's been some people I go, ooh, I'd like to work with them and and have been shot down. I'm like, oh, okay, great. So I'm just happy to get to work with whoever, whoever I get the opportunity to work with. There isn't one person that I go, oh my gosh, I really want to work with, you know, I don't know, who Jenna Jameson, you know, because that's you know, an old one. You know, there isn't anybody like that. You know, you just take what you get along the route and enjoy the the path that you're taking.

Nosy Neighbor. 36:47

Is there anyone that you won't work with? I've talked to some, you know, milk porn stars that say, like, I have kids in their 20s, so I don't want some 18-year-old. Is there anything that you won't go into that territory?

Ms Amanda 37:01

Not anymore. You know, initially you don't want to do somebody younger than your kids, so I get that. But one of the first paid sheets I had was was somebody that was 24, and I'm like, okay, well, this will be interesting. But I was getting paid, so it didn't matter. So that broke me of that, and I haven't I haven't thought back about it. But as far as anything else, no, no, I'm pretty, I'm pretty open.

Nosy Neighbor. 37:27

And is there anything on the the bucket list of things that you want to try? Or, you know, you you said that you've come up with ideas and stuff before. Is there anything on the horizon you're like, I would love to do this or that, or a certain type of scene that that's something you're eagerly trying to put together or wish you could?

Ms Amanda 37:47

Right now, probably uh bucket list is sex scenes outside. I've done one. I I my biggest lookup on porn when I'm horny and I want to get off is looking at uh outdoor sex, public sex. That's my my go-to. And I want to do that. I've done one scene in the rain outside, and it was started raining so hard it kind of ruined that. So I want to go back and I want to do it again, not necessarily in the rain, but outside. And it's pretty limited on where you can do that and have people around that can perform that with you when you're doing it. So I've got some ideas in mind for the horizon. So we'll see if I can incorporate that in there.

Nosy Neighbor. 38:38

And finally, you know, looking back, you've done a lot of amazing things for someone that wants to be the Miss Amanda next, what advice would you give that person, just looking to start off with something like OnlyFans, not necessarily swinging, uh, but possibly, but someone that's looking at what you've done and the confidence that it's given you, what advice would you give to that person to kind of take that leap? Where should they start? Should they start just with an OnlyFans?

Ms Amanda 39:10

You can start with OnlyFans, but OnlyFans really isn't that easy. Everybody was like, you know, it's so easy, but for me it wasn't. But you have to build up a clientele and get people to you where there's some of the other platforms, you know, Pornhub, X Hamster, Fab House, stuff like that, people can stumble upon you and see your stuff. So, you know, I'd probably start off there before I start off with OnlyFans. OnlyFans is getting trickier as they go along to unless you do solo content. If you go do solo content, you're good. But to me, you know, it's kind of losing its luster, so to so to speak. So some of the other platforms have been more beneficial.

Nosy Neighbor. 39:58

I think some of it is because OnlyFans, you don't know what you're getting until you pay to get in. Yeah. So it's very hard to kind of stumble upon and go, wow, she's beautiful. I want to see more of her, versus so you're suggesting post some clips on Pornhub and that links to your OnlyFans, and that's how you're getting a lot of your clients initially, or well, a lot of when I started off on OnlyFans, a lot of my clients were swingers because they already knew me.

Ms Amanda 40:28

You still have to advertise out there on whatever platform you're on, whether it's Instagram or X or whatever the like, you have to advertise on there to draw people in and give them like little snippets of what they can see to get that. When you have many vids and X videos and X hamster and Fab House, they can stumble upon your stuff just off of tags. So that might be a little bit easier and more beneficial to start off that way. But the thing is, is that you get on as many platforms as you can because different people use different platforms.

Exotica Chicago And Final Plugs

Nosy Neighbor. 41:06

True. Well, Miss Amanda, thank you so much for coming on. I sincerely appreciate it and talking to your husband. You're gonna be at Exotica Chicago booth 100, April 8th through 13th. Your calendar is available, your 2026 calendar is available on missamanda.net. I'll include links to your OnlyFans and other sites and uh wish you all the luck and thank you.

Ms Amanda 41:31

Thanks for having me on.