Erin: [00:00:00] Anything I've been doing with Zoe is singing the ABCs, but like it's all the [00:01:00] same bow and I just It's really fun to do. You go like this.
She loves it.
Josh: guys have a strange relationship. You know what?
Erin: She gets me.
Josh: This is me. Oh no.
Erin: A cricket in the light. Why does that make a... I stop flicking it, it's gonna come out!
Josh: Stink bug. It's
Erin: dead! Okay, at least it's not a cricket. I thought it was a cricket. I think it's
a stink
Josh: bug. Leaving its booty juice all over the
Erin: place.
Ew! Booty juice? Is that how it creates its stink?
Josh: I would imagine so. Where else does it come from? It's got to come out of something.
Erin: True. Stinky things usually do come out of the butt. Josh: I mean, people have bad breath.
Erin: That's true. Halitosis. It's a problem.
Smell is a funny thing because it's so dependent upon the smeller because like a. ratchet fart that comes from somebody else's butt, [00:02:00] especially if it's not a family member.
Yeah. Reeks. But it's if you know the person Do you think my farts smell Josh: good? You said especially, not
Erin: coming from a family member? Okay, but think about if somebody farts next to you on an airplane, and it's just Just as bad as yours. Really? It's like if I know the fart, it's less offensive. Like, If it's familiar to me like, your farts and Zoe farts, I, I know them.
They're like, What? Yeah. It's, for some reason, less Oh, I'm home. Less repulsive to me What a cozy stench. Than a stranger's fart. I don't know. You don't feel that way? I do not. Nope. Wow. Okay. And then there's like a whole nother category, so that's new. Haven't shared that with me before. A whole nother category of like your own fart, because that is almost like pleasant.
When you Yes. Rip a good one and you're like,
Josh: you like kind of wanna smell it. Yeah. I wonder what that one's gonna smell like.
Erin: Yeah. But why is it that's just 'cause I know where, I know for sure what booty hole that came out of. Then way it doesn't offend me. No way. But it smells not good.
Josh: I mean, it's like you, you almost said good with the light.
It's
Erin: She's smiling, smells [00:03:00] bad, but it doesn't register. Like I can still breathe and be well, if you fart next to me and it's trapped under the blanket and I'm breathing and I feel unwell. Yeah. And then if a stranger, I actually... That's how I deal with your farts. If a stranger farts next to me, I will like, perhaps pass away.
But why is it? They all smell bad. I don't know. Is there an evolutionary... Josh: We need a doctor on.
Erin: I'll find a guest. A fart doctor.
Josh: A fart integration specialist.
Is there a scientific word for farts? fLatulence. So it's a flat flatulent. Flat, flat flatulence, flatulent. Integration specialist. Alright. Fists. F I S.
Erin: Not sure where to go from here. Fists. Is that what your next fart's gonna sound like? Dude,
Josh: that, honestly, I could sit on that TikTok. I love it so much.
All day. Have you guys seen that? The people predicting other people's farts.
Guess my fart. And then it'll be like, and it'll be like,
Erin: oh! Nailed it! I wish that game was around when you and Connor were
young because you guys [00:04:00] would have really rocked it.
Josh: Here we are. Hi, everybody. What it do, baby boo.
Erin: Welcome to the very last episode of season one.
Josh: I can't believe literally a year ago, we started recording podcasts. We didn't release it until January, but a year ago in November.
Erin: That's exciting. What
Josh: do we got, like 34, 35 episodes? That's almost one a week. Yeah. That's
wild. Yeah.
Wow. I mean, take the holidays. Sure. Subtract those. It's practically 35 weeks.
Erin: This is feeling like girl math a little bit, because there are 52 weeks in a year, correct? Just giving
Josh: us, just giving us some padding, man. I know. Pad on the back. Good for us.
Erin: Wow.
Josh: wow. Yeah. Proud of us. Me too. Hopefully, you guys are proud of us too.
Erin: And I'm very excited for what's to come because I feel like we're about to actually, yeah, I feel like we're actually about to get good at it.
Josh: Yeah, we're not good at it yet. 35 episodes in clearly we didn't grow at all. Erin: We've come a long way, just recorded. The first episode of season two
and it's like leaps and bounds.[00:05:00] I
Josh: mean, it's awesome. We'll see. I got to edit it still, but not going to edit that till next year. Oh,
Erin: man. It's that time of year when we can start using that as a dumb joke. Yep. Oh, see
Josh: you next year. Nobody uses that joke, but I definitely say I'm going to punt that to next year on my emails and then never receive it.
Joke's on them. Multiple times the clients. So if any clients listen to this, and I said punt it to next year, It's not happening. Remind me next year.
Erin: You know how some people have really good podcasting laughs? Name one. Dax. Yeah. Also Monica, love her laugh.
Josh: Oh yeah, Monica's is great. You wanna know what we need to work on? Our podcasting voice. You kind of get sensual. Ooh, sultry. You talk with deep
Erin: exhales. It's cause I'm talking naughty to you.
No wait, not naughty, what is it? It's cause I'm talking nerdy to you.
Josh: We gotta fix that. Okay. editing you. I'm like, this bitch doesn't sound like this normally. What are you talking about? It's
Erin: like your mom's prayer voice. Yes. Love you, Nona. But you [00:06:00] do have a different voice when you pray. But we all do.
I mean, let's be real. Do you pray? Yes. Father, Son, Holy Spirit, Amen.
Josh: Yep, we gotta fix that. Okay,
Erin: okay. Wait, what other things in life do we have different voices for? Because this is probably a psychological
Josh: thing to do. Oh, definitely when you're talking to people. Not you in general. There's fake excitement. Like you're, you actually care about the conversation versus you don't, but you're pretending to care because the person is talking to you cares.
Okay. So mine's like, yes, totally. Oh my gosh. That's so interesting.
Erin: Incredible. Fantastic.
Josh: And in my mind, I'm like, this is fucking stupid. Stop talking to me.
Erin: So anyone out there, if you are having a conversation with Josh, I hear the words.
Josh: Interesting. It's interesting. Wow. That's so interesting. Cause I have nothing.
I don't know what, how to respond. Cause it's not. I don't care, but clearly you do. And it's about like how you put a rub on a steak or something. I'd be like, wow, that's so interesting. I never thought about that for a reason.[00:07:00] On
Erin: purpose. I never thought about that. Oh my gosh. Okay. What are other things that we have different voices for when we talk to babies?
There's nobody in that corner. I'm just, I'm zoning in.
Josh: Aaron just looked past me. I'm the one that sees entities. I have
Erin: a different voice when I talk to dead people. How about you? Do you? Do you
Josh: talk to dead people? I
Erin: wish. I really wish. I know. Tell us.
Josh: This morning, I talked a dead person. That's all you're gonna give us, Blatch?
Yeah.
Erin: You can't just drop that without any ancillary
Josh: details. My grandfather came to me. I was doing a sacral meditation. I was like deep into my sacral. I'm a sacral being, human design, 4'6 I have so
Erin: many things I want to say. Get deep into my sacrum. Josh: Sacral, not sacrum. Okay, it's fine.
Erin: I mean, that's,
Josh: it's the same word.
I know, but I was saying sacral. Sacrum sounds like... Rectum or something. I don't like it. grandfather came to me during my meditation and he gave me a few things. But it wasn't for me. And that was like [00:08:00] very known from the start. Okay. Something about an apple. Okay. I think there had a knife involved and palm trees, which I just assumed was Florida, but they were palm trees. he wanted to say that he was sorry and that's it. That's all I got. All right. I immediately texted my mom. I was like, does this mean anything to you? Who knows what my mom actually thinks about all this? Yeah, it's like Clue. Yeah. He's in the kitchen with the pencil. And yeah. She didn't really know.
I mean, they've been to Florida multiple times, but the apple was what was so predominant when he came to me. so any aunt, any aunt listening out there, does a red apple ring a bell, call me crazy cause I am. But what about that apple? He says that he's sorry. Not in a way that like I did something really bad and I'm wanting to apologize cause I never got to apologize.
It's almost like proof. That's what it like. Like Whoever he's talking to through this was like way to prove his presence to that person. Cool. And maybe see saying he's sorry, but that's not, I didn't feel it. Like, I am so sorry [00:09:00] for what I've done. Felt like, I'm sorry about that. This is information to prove my presence.
Interesting. But, maybe I interpreted it wrong, who knows. That's at least how it felt. You're still getting your Spidey senses? I'm just on a little bit of a training wheel right now. Get
Erin: those Spidey senses worked out.
Josh: So yeah, that was a fun morning. Wow, I Erin: can't wait till you get a message from me. Josh: Oh, that'd be so
Erin: cool.
Selfishly, I don't know why, I've always felt very connected in some way, shape, or form to the baby that my mom had between me and my brother, who was a stillborn baby. Yeah, Yeah. And I've like seen him in a breathwork session once, but I just... I would love to connect with him.
Josh: Maybe as I learn, we can intentionally tap into that. I'm saying. Yeah, that'd be cool. That'd be really
Erin: cool. I would pay you big bucks for that. Thanks. Big bucks that I'm earning. In sexual favors. Wow.
Josh: Whibby! If and when that does happen, would you be vulnerable enough to do it on a podcast? Hell yeah. Yeah,
Erin: that'd be a lot of fun. Yeah. I mean, I guess maybe I should just, double check with my mom first since it was
Josh: like [00:10:00] her child.
I just asked. She said it's fine. Oh. Like you asked her soul. Okay, cool. She
gave it a check. Yes, Juliet
Erin: could see how and why people are deeply skeptic of psychics because that shit probably does happen.
Josh: I'm skeptic I'm like psychics. I'm a skeptic of my own I told as soon as it happened and then we were talking afterwards.
I was like in my mind I'm like did that really just happen or is that just my brain like playing for loco or something? I'm just in that stage of it. Yeah. Things are like coming through and I'm like, I mean, maybe my imagination's better than a thought.
Erin: Yeah. But it seems quite random, but it's getting weird. Yeah.
Josh: The podcast. Yeah. This is our final episode. We are closing out season one like this, .
Erin: That's it. The And Josh: goodbye.
So this podcast, last episode of season one, going out with a bang season two. Woooooooooh!
I'm excited. Episode one is awesome! Yeah. We recorded with her like a week ago. Shit, y'all. I'm still thinking about it. Yeah. I think everyone's going to be thinking about it after this. You just blinked with only one eye. [00:11:00] What the fuck? You just glitched! You just looked at me and was like... Like a possessed doll. You just did it again! No! Swa Call back the video. I can only get one eye on the video camera. You need to face this more so I can see your eyes oh no Glitched. Is a dead person trying to speak to me right now? I'm living in the matrix. Oh, no. I think I'm real. Oh That was wild. You did it twice dude, and it was two separate eyes.
Oh Yikes. Anyways season one is gonna be Done now. Season two is epic. We're gonna be rebranding a little bit. Pickle Lane is going to sunset. Yeah,
Erin: it was getting a little confusing because I love pickles and a lot of the people that listen also love pickles and everyone was really thinking that the name of the podcast was Pickle Lane and so we're just scrapping that.
Josh: Do you want me to keep that in?
I don't. Now I'm going to, cause you regret it. You regret it. for starters, that's not why we're changing the [00:12:00] name. We're changing the name because we own a company called Ruti and it feels like we talk about Ruti all the time, but we also have this podcast called pick a lane, which doesn't make any sense because we own a company called Ruti.
So we might as well just call it the Ruti podcast. It was an oversight. Okay. People, this was a year ago. We've had a lot of growth. We've got a lot of
listeners now. We also have a lot of followers for Ruti. People are doing Ruti. Pump up the jams. Let's just call it the Ruti.
Pump up the
Erin: jams. We also just need to simplify our lives. Josh has like, way too many things on his plate right now. Losing one name is going to be helpful. At least. You won't lose the job, but you'll lose the name.
Josh: It actually causes me more work because I have to rebrand it slightly. Not a whole lot, it's just going to be the name.
All of our pals out there, now you just become... Roots. Rooties.
Erin: Wait. Wait, we do have to come up with a name. Ruti Booties.
Josh: Ruti. Shout out Bryony.
Anyways. Yeah. keep an eye out for that. Not a whole lot else is going to change, but we're going to rebrand.
The only other big thing that we're going to change is because we're, like, just going to own Ruti. And the growth that we've had this [00:13:00] year, hallelujahs. We are starting to make more connections in the wellness space. So because of that, we're going to be a lot more intentional about bringing on more people in the space to talk about things that they're professionals at.
We see a lot of things going on left and right in the wellness community and Aaron. The nerd she is can talk about a lot of it, but it's nice to have somebody on the podcast that dedicates their life to it and can talk about it on a little bit of a deeper level. So we're going to bring a lot of those guests in for season two and should be
Erin: a good ride.
I'm excited. Yeah. Episode one was a real You sounded so excited Josh: there. I'm so excited.
Oh my gosh the popsico Let me
Erin: see you popsico guys If you don't know Is it cuckoo? I don't know. I don't know. I didn't even know it was a song. It's two guys. That's I
Josh: don't know You okay there? Yeah, it feels like your brain just pops a code
Erin: Popsico I don't know her teacher introduced it to her and she came home and was like mom Look at these guys cuckoo or something and they tore like [00:14:00] they have the whole thing wild
Josh: I mean, it's two dudes my age Wearing
Erin: a gold fanny pack
Josh: and just yeah, like rapping for kids.
Wild. It's not a wrap. I don't know how you describe it. What that, that Turkey Erin: one. Okay. It's like pseudo wrap. It's like white
Josh: people rap. Yeah. . I, anyways, it was hysterical. Yeah. Made
Erin: me love her more. She was bopping it, in her new bond charge. Red
glasses. Yes. So she looked like a little LA child.
Shout out bond charge. I think I definitely danced like that when I was a child. I could definitely go into. Like stage mode, I would say,
Josh: I mean, she was feeling herself, her body language is like, yeah, moving. Yeah,
Erin: Okay. I really can't tell. I love my child regardless of who she turns into. But sometimes I'm slightly concerned, like socially. For her in middle school and high school do you think that's going to be an issue, or?
Josh: Issue, for what?
Erin: Just socially like, she, not be normal, I don't want her to be normal, that's
boring, but will she? Socially
Josh: awkward? Yeah. Do you think you're socially awkward? A hundred percent. Yeah. So do I.
Erin: And I do okay in the world. You do great. Okay. Okay. That makes me feel better.
Josh: Yeah. I don't feel like you were, I [00:15:00] don't, I didn't know you in high school, but I feel like you weren't socially awkward in high school.
I
Erin: had my quirks for sure, but I would say I was like popular kind of, which I didn't like the term popular. Like I kind of rejected meshed well with people. Yeah. I was a lab. I was a labradoodle. A labrador. I could befriend anyone. I was kind of friends with the band geeks, kind of friends with the theater kids, kind of friends with the popular really friends with the popular girls, and then...
That's
Josh: kind of how I feel Zoe would be like. Yeah. Erin: She's just following suit
Josh: with you, though, so if you're worried about her being socially awkward, you might want to work on yourself a little bit first. Well, you know... If you give a mouse a cookie, that's what that's reminding me of. He's probably going to ask for a glass of milk, and if he asks for a glass of milk,
Erin: just the voice remind you I definitely am not prepping her well for social because like often I will catch her making weird faces at herself in the mirror, which is something I
Josh: do.
Sometimes Zoe will throw a tantrum or start crying, especially when we're getting ready for school. I get Zoe ready for school. When we go into brush her teeth, she is past. The crying, but she sees herself in the mirror and she'll [00:16:00] cry in the mirror, fake cries, just to see her different faces of crying and over the course of brushing her teeth, we'll probably go through six to 10 different types of cries just for her to see the different faces.
And I was like, Zoe, there's not any tears, like you're fake crying.
Erin: It's just the theater in her. She loves to witness the theater. There's a lot of drama.
Josh: This is not an experiment here. We need to help her thrive.
Erin: You know what? Normal is boring. It is. I actually really want to read Dr. Gabor.
Josh: Dude, love
Erin: that man. His most recent book has to do with not being normal. I know. What's it called? It's on hold on my Libby app, but it won't be ready for 16 weeks.
Josh: Shout out the Libby app. Y'all, if you don't know about the Libby app, go get a library card. You most likely can get it online.
And then go down the Libby app.
Erin: The book is The Myth of Normal, so God love him. He's a really cool guy. So good. Talks about trauma. Addiction.
Josh: So good. Also, gonna get, first of all, Libby app. Sorry. And Canopy. Oh yeah, Canopy. Go [00:17:00] download the Canopy app on Apple TV, and with your library card, it's like Netflix for
Erin: free.
People really underestimate libraries. Like I've They're out there stunting. Didn't really think about the library until I had a child, but I missed out on a lot of things in my 20s that I could have gotten for free at the library. For free. Just go get a library card, damn
Josh: it. It's online too. It's not even like you have to go talk to somebody.
I know. Heaven forbid. Anyway, shout out Dr. Gabor. Go read that book. Put it on hold on the Libby app and you'll be behind Erin on the hold list. You can read it
Erin: in approximately 18 weeks.
Josh: So there's that. I thought it'd be fun to, since it's the last episode of the season, shout out season one of Pick a Lane.
Erin: Soon to be the Ruti Podcast. Did we mention
Josh: we did to talk a little bit about the things that excited us throughout the
season a little bit of reminiscing By the fire.
Erin: Oh, I wish we had a fire. That'd be nice little crackle. I could put it in
Josh: roast a mallow. Speaking of we just wow, we're all over we ran a race A 5k over the weekend called the hot chocolate [00:18:00] run.
Yep First of all, when we signed up for this, did not realize what we were signing up for. I thought it was like a
Erin: little local turkey trot. Like a little
Josh: turkey trot. Nope, this was like wake up at 5 30 a. m. To get there for the race start. We had to go get bibs at the convention center and there were thousands of people involved.
For a 5k. Wow. All the streets were shut down. But like shout out to us. We did come in the top. Like 10 of our age groups, so like, we still got to know about that because we were chasing a 12 year old.
Erin: Yes, 10 would recommend bringing along an adolescent to any athletic thing that you're doing because they really
Josh: Runs cross country and it's the daughter of a friend that we were running with and we were like, yeah, let's run with her we
Erin: hauled ass.
I'm very sore today. Second day sore? Yep.
Josh: all that said, when we were getting our bibs, they were dunking their mallows. Mallows. In chocolate. Yep. And then covering it with sprinkles. Yeah. Why don't everyone do
Erin: that? Why don't everyone do that?
Yeah. With their marshmallows. With their mallows. With their mallows. Babe, [00:19:00] we are free to dunk our mallows in sprinkles. I don't know why we don't.
Josh: everyone that doesn't know me well, I don't like chocolate. So the whole dunking of chocolate thing wasn't my vibe. But we could do white chocolate.
White chocolate. All about it. Sprinkles on a mellow. That
Erin: is. I mean, you've never experienced this before? It's not really that novel of
Josh: a thing. That didn't happen, but where I came from.
Erin: Wait. Back it up. High school. You and I were at the same high school, so I know that you know this because, do you remember on was it Tuesdays or Thursdays, they had the candy stand in the cafeteria and they would sell like handmade
Josh: candies?
I don't remember the handmade candies, but I remember the candy stand.
Erin: You don't? They would have dipped Oreos with sprinkles, dipped marshmallows with sprinkles. I don't remember that. Wow. You probably spent many a dollar there if I had to
Josh: guess. I mean like I'd get Swedish fish or something. Erin: From the vending machine though.
Josh: No, wasn't it like Banned or something? It was
Erin: a table. I don't know who sponsored it, but it was there. Or Josh: the Drama Club or
Erin: something. I don't know, but I always just would get chocolate covered pretzels every time.
Josh: Oh. I remember the chocolate covered pretzels,
Erin: you know? Yeah, yeah. They [00:20:00] had white chocolate, they had regular milk chocolate.
Did you see
Josh: something behind me? Something
Erin: behind you? Yeah, you just looked behind me. No, maybe I am psychic and my subconscious picks up on it. No, I don't know, I think I'm just shifty and darting my eyes everywhere. Uh
Josh: huh.
Can't look at me straight in the eyes because I look through your soul. Okay,
back to reminiscing.
What types of things did you appreciate in the season one?
Erin: Honestly, personal development. This was really good for us. Yeah. I think it forced us to sit down and have a conversation at least a few times a
Josh: month.
Highly encouraged, regardless if your podcast has one listener, you just pretend you have a podcast with your partner and take one hour On a mic, go get mics. You can go get 25 bucks on Amazon. Zero, it doesn't have to be plugged in.
Erin: Yeah. Record it so 80 year old selves can listen to it later.
But I think the formality around it kind of helps. It's okay, there's a microphone. There's like a fancy light. We have to like actually get dressed and look at each other in the eye. I don't
Josh: know. I'm fucking wearing a Santa hat right now. We take this super serious.
Erin: it just, allows for a safe space.
Safe ish [00:21:00] because we know it's public.
Josh: We just spent 15 minutes slightly going back and forth before we started this.
Erin: We did. We always fight before a
Josh: podcast. Yeah, it's gets our juices flowing, you know? Yeah. Erin: Mm.
Revs me up. Yeah.
Yeah, but it forces us to have some conversation around interesting and or potentially not controversial. But it makes us talk about things that maybe we wouldn't otherwise. Yeah.
Josh: And we're not talking about all of these things always at the dinner table. Sure. Because Zoe's there. Yeah, she'd be so bored.
Shut the fuck up, guys. But this allows us to have like dedicated space to talk about the things that we're learning about. So you're just along for the ride, y'all. Thanks for joining if you did. I am excited. I am excited to have a couple more guests on for season two more than we had in season one, but I also want to have these dedicated times together.
So I'm definitely going to prioritize that. Great. I'm excited for Zoe in like 15 to 20 years to listen to these episodes. Go back see our growth. Yeah. I was pulling some content for the podcast and I was going back into the archives of like one through 10.
We're like a totally different person,[00:22:00] So yeah, it's kind of fun to see that. I will say from like a data perspective, people really liked uh, what the fuck is bioenergetic part two. They liked part one, but then part two came out and we were a little better on it.
The lime one, everyone resonated with that. A couple of videos did really well with that,
Erin: which is telling to me because I feel like there's just a whole lot of people that are. Suffering out there, whether it's from Lyme or it doesn't even matter what you label it. It's just like people are having issues with their health.
Yeah.
Josh: I think a lot of people are really sick and they don't have answers and so they're definitely grasping for anything. Hopefully they listen to more than that podcast because we have a lot. That could help them with that. The other one that did really well was Kambo with Anastasia. Yes.
Erin: Cause people are curious about the plant and amphibian medicine.
So that
Josh: was really fun. Those kind of were also my favorites.
Obviously the bioenergetics one we're super passionate about because we own Ruti. It allowed us to kind of just like it all out.
Yeah. It also was really helpful because, I know we all, you and I, [00:23:00] and then the Ruti account, get DMs all the time kind of asking more about Bioenergetics. Super easy now to be like, check out episode 21 or whatever it is. It's all there. I think that helped a lot. Yeah. In the growth of Ruti. The Lyme one was really fun because, not fun, it allowed me to share my story On a deeper level, the couple episodes that we had about by energetics, obviously I shared a little bit of my journey, but the line one allowed me to identify.
The entire path and then if after that episode, we opened it up to everything that's been post healing but it's been fun to see our growth of what the hell we're talking about because when we started episode one, we weren't even like half of the shit wasn't even on our radar.
No,
Erin: all the soul spirit stuff. Definitely not Kambo. Definitely not
Josh: entities. Aliens. We knew we were going to talk about pooping out parasites. Yeah. Which I'm going to keep that in the intro because everyone loves when I say pooping out parasites.
Erin: the thing is, the older I get and the more curious I get, because that seems to be correlating with me, like the older I get, the more curious I get, the less interested I [00:24:00] am in like 3D stuff, which is weird to me. Like the body and physiology still really fascinates me. I'm always going to be learning about that, but it's like I keep getting sent on these other less.
Tangible rabbit trails, and I don't know what to do with it yet, because it's not as easy to, I don't know, express or... It's exciting for season two. Yeah, maybe we'll, I'll get even witchier.
Josh: I mean, imagine the growth that we had in season one, it's going to happen in season two as well. Yeah, If we put out another 35 episodes in 2024. Who knows where we're gonna be. Wow. This time next year we
Erin: might actually be visiting Mars we're sitting right here communicating. Yeah. Yeah. I think my favorite episodes, let's see. I mean, the combo one with Anastasia was really great. I loved that as well.
Also, she is just. Recently getting back from her trip to the jungle where she got to see Kambo being harvested from the frog
also I really liked that perfection episode I think a lot of people did. Yeah, I'm still thinking about different aspects of that one.
Josh: Oh interesting Tell me more because we haven't talked about this [00:25:00] just the
Erin: the tree metaphor and like when the leaves let go Yeah, it's not because the leaves are bad or the tree is judging the leaves or anything Yeah, it's just a season of life like seasonality things ebb and flow and change and shift and the
Josh: trees are using it Exactly.
To grow.
Erin: Nothing's wasted. Yeah. Yeah. So I still think about that.
Josh: yeah, it was a
Erin: good episode. also so excited for season two because I just can't stop thinking about the one that we recorded.
I want to keep like talking about it, but I don't want to
Josh: spoil it. Episode one y'all. You're not gonna want to miss it. It's with Erin's hero. Yeah, I don't know how we got her on the podcast, but she said she'd do it
Erin: When I got that email, I think I did two backflips Josh: and then she's been high on that.
Yeah
Erin: sense. Yeah, it's a really good one it's because this person in my opinion perfect blend of 3d and Not, she knows so much about the body and the way that quantum biology impacts our physiology, et cetera, et cetera. But then she can get deep on the soul stuff and it
Josh: got deeper than I, I mean, I didn't [00:26:00] know her well. Yeah, I know you do, but I
Erin: know, I know of her work. I've never, we
Josh: now know her. Well, after that podcast, she got so deep. Yeah. Great. I'm really excited for everyone to hear that the couple episodes that I had listened to her on were so good. she is incredible, but I really enjoyed where the podcast with us
Erin: went.
Yeah, our conversation went in a cool direction that I was hoping it would just because. The day and age that we're in, but she spoke so beautifully and I'm going to listen to the last like 10 minutes of that podcast once a week just to revive my soul I
Josh: think. We asked her the question, what freedom looks like to you and it was perfect.
Yep. Nailed it. the first person that guesses, DM us, I'll give you 50 percent off a Ruti scan. Oh, 50. Why not? 5 0. Why not? Wow. I mean, it's the end of the year, I'm wearing a Santa hat, Christmas spirit, feeling full of joy.
Erin: Santa baby! Woop! Woop! Woop! Come at me. I hope somebody gets it.
I hope people already know this person she's wonderful if they don't you guys are missing out But [00:27:00] yeah, just we're just really leaving you guys on the edge of your seats here. Sorry It's
Josh: a perfect way to start. Yeah. Yeah. I don't even think she knew that it was gonna be the first episode of season 2 But it's primetime.
Erin: Primetime. Drop
Josh: top. I'm proud of us. This has been a good season.
Erin: I'm proud of us too. I was very hesitant to do this endeavor. I think I kind of went kicking and screaming there for the first few months. Still are sometimes. Some days I really don't want to do this, but. There's only been like three or four episodes that I actually regret, ah,
Josh: that's a win! Your batting average is so high! Yeah! That's
Erin: fantastic. I wouldn't say regret, I just, it's all been a learning curve.
Josh: All learning. Yeah. I think this has been good for us for Ruti as well. We've kind of gotten out of our training wheel stage. Ruti's growing, we've grown because of it.
But these conversations are kind of opening up into a new realm that's going to be really important for the growth of Ruti.
Also really appreciate you guys
Erin: We do appreciate you guys so very much. I feel connected to all the listeners in some way or another. from a quantum perspective, we are all actually connected. Yeah, you
Josh: listening to us makes [00:28:00] you connected to us. Exactly. Yeah, just admit it. You feel connected to us.
Erin: And I do just want to like check on you guys.
Like how are we doing before the holidays? Are we doing okay?
Josh: Holidays are nuts So I fucking love christmas. I know i'm literally in a santa hat right now. I am amped for christmas There's a lot around it, though, that is just fucked up.
Erin: I don't know if that's... Nope, that's
Josh: it. Okay. It kind of just unearths things that you're just like, Shit, Erin: y'all.
Yeah, it does kind of highlight for better and for worse. The good and the bad of humanity and of our, of our, you know, of our sticky of our families of the stickiness between us all. I don't know. Sometimes you can't like put a pin and exactly what it is.
Josh: All I can say about it is that we're all individually evolving.
Yes. And growing. No matter what, whether it's for the good or the bad. Yes. And when you have family that you're not with or all the time, coming together as new evolved humans can be really difficult.
Erin: Yes. Which is [00:29:00] great segue to what I was going to say is what if we come to the holidays with beginner's mindset, meaning.
I don't know if this is even possible, but when you're placed in a room with people that you feel like you should know or should know you, but like in reality,
Josh: stop shouldn't all
Erin: over yourself, stop shooting all over yourself, people know, but when you're in that sort of a scenario, which a lot of us are forced into during the holidays what if, I mean, obviously there's no way to make this happen on a grand scale, but what if we all just came together and kind of made a vow or a pact that like, we're gonna.
Get to know each other for whoever we are right now. I don't know. That sounds so
Josh: cheesy. 9 in you so much. Oh my gosh, that was like oozing Enneagram 9 ness.
Erin: Can we all just be peaceful and come together? Josh: Oozing, just for one day.
Erin: Just, no, I'm just saying. It's really easy to come to a family gathering and assume you know a person and you know exactly how they think, how they feel, how they act, how they vote.
Josh: Here's two things that I would say. One, go into it with curiosity. [00:30:00] Exactly. Ask a lot of questions. Pretend that you care. Interesting. Interesting. Another thing that I saw somebody recommend was when you go to the holidays with all of your extended family where you know like it's not going to go anywhere anyways and you know where all their views are and you're so far outside of that.
And they say something offensive that would be offensive to you, literally anything that goes against the grain of who you are. Your response should be, that's so interesting that you said that to me. And watch a grown man squirm. I hate that. I could never. Oh my gosh. Brilliant.
Erin: One, Josh: response.
That's so interesting that you would say that to me. Yeah, and then just pause just wait for the response gross.
Erin: I hate that feeling
Josh: dude. That is a savage move. That is a savage move and it just be your go
to.
Erin: Oh, wow. That
Josh: makes me squirm. It could be a drinking game. How many times you have to say you guys take a shot.
People are gonna be shit faced. Okay, then you won't even
Erin: remember the holidays. I want to say that I will use this but I know in my
heart of hearts. I would [00:31:00] never ever.
Josh: I Can't use it on my family now. Cause they're all listening to this podcast and they're like, Josh, shut up.
Erin: Oh man. That's hilarious. Another one that I like that is more so if somebody says something that you Perceive as like kind of intentionally hurtful, which is not something I anticipate for our holiday season, but I imagine probably does happen. Yeah. People's that what was your intention by telling me that?
Or what was your intention with that?
Josh: You think that's safer than what
Erin: I just said? No, I think it's the same level, but I
Josh: feel like intention cuts deep into character. I feel like that's
Erin: worse. It just kind of, it forces the issue a little bit. It's okay what was your intention with that?
Cause I want to make sure I know what you mean. And
Josh: there's Aaron's Enneagram eight flex.
Erin: Yeah. A little bit. A little bit. I've never used it
Josh: in practice. Zero out of zero times. You're going to use that. Yeah.
Erin: Usually I'm gonna pretend like I didn't hear the person, or I misheard them and redirected the conversation.
Did you say pass the potatoes? Oh, okay, here you go. families. I dare you to try it. Families are so complicated. So many dynamics.
you think it's like that in [00:32:00] other parts of the world? Josh: Who knows? I just know how it is here.
Erin: I do think our emphasis on individualism in the West is a part of it. and this is a blessing and a curse really, because I think it's beautiful that we're able to see our like uniqueness and the unique things that we can offer to the world.
yet it's really hard for us sometimes to see ourselves as a part of a whole particularly in a family, we end up just feeling like fractured and I
Josh: think we've also been like a generation of pendulum swinging. So we're on a pendulum swing of. We would call healing, but that causes some, friction with unrest.
Yeah. So then when you're doing all that work as an individual in an individualized society, and then you go back to a family. One, they like kind of don't know you, which is totally okay. But also some of the things that you've been working on still exist inside of that unit. So then you're going back to something that could be triggering or isn't something that you have to deal with on a daily basis.
And it's exhausting.
So there you go. Interesting that you would say that to me.
Okay enough with the dark shit[00:33:00] We got the happy holidays coming though. Ho ho Ho Archery is already up. Come at me. It's been up for weeks November cuz I choose joy you do I love Christmas It was just so interesting because growing up.
I mean Christmas was fine. Yeah I mean, there were some hard times, then there were some happy times. Not until I was an adult, but even before I was a dad. All of a sudden I started loving Christmas. It's like a hyped up season.
Erin: It feels a little bit like a coping mechanism, I'm just gonna say. Josh: Yeah, I've investigated that.
Thank you very much. Okay. Maybe my life's so boring that I just needed something to get hyped up about. Is that what you think? Is that what you think? I'm not saying that's it. That is a deep
Erin: marital wound that you just surfaced. I'm
Josh: just saying, there's so many joyful things around Christmas, with all this
other shit going on let's find some joy.
And that's one way we can do it. Statistically, literally, there was a study that was just done, people that have their Christmas tree up early are more joyful. I believe that. And you want to know something else? What? Christmas trees. The ambiance of a Christmas tree calms people [00:34:00] down. Yeah,
Erin: because it's more red light tones.
So there you go. Probably, unless you're using the LED bright white.
Josh: Okay. Don't do that. But I'm just saying. So there are like actual things. Yeah. And I love the color green. There's like green all over our house all of a sudden with garland and Christmas trees. So there's so many things that just make me happy I love also having a gigantuous tree in your house I know it's fake but having a gigantuous tree in your house, like who doesn't want that?
It's true We've got plants everywhere all over our house. Might as well add a six and a half foot one it's got sparkly lights on it and fun memories of ornaments Those are all great things. They are. And Christmas movies. Yeah. from January to October, everyone's like, what the fuck are we gonna watch tonight?
Never happens, November and December. And
Erin: then even when we pick like the most cringe awful Hallmark movie, it's still aww. You're still not pissed. But it was
Josh: a Christmas movie. It's a happy ending. there's no scariness. Like even Home Alone, I'm literally crying, laughing so hard every single year.
Erin: I love, [00:35:00] Josh will sometimes watch Home Alone by himself. And I will hear him cackling across the house. Hysterical.
Josh: Or like Christmas Vacation. Come on. Yeah, that one's my favorite. Elf. Come on. Every Santa Claus movie. Come
Erin: on.
Josh: Yeah, like you watch all these movies, there's like a slight nostalgia from childhood because it's like just good that you're remembering, but then all these just feel goods and that's what we need every now and then, especially coming into holidays that may be stressful with family members and events and responsibilities.
Yeah, I have that all throughout the year. Anyways, if I could just watch Christmas movies if every movie just was like a Christmas movie Let's go. I
had no comment. Aaron has nothing to say about this.
Erin: I Love your jolliness is what I have to say. Thank you. Yeah, you're Josh: so jolly. I don't think it's coping. I just think it's Optimism glimmers of
hope. Okay. Erin: Wow seven
Josh: Give me a buffet of joy. That's what I call a sack lunch. You know, That's from
Erin: a movie.
Oh, wedding crashers. Yikes. One time I was a teenager. This was. [00:36:00] Not capital T trauma, but lowercase T trauma. It was like, I think when it came out, when did it come out? I don't know. I picked it for like family movie night.
Josh: You all got to see boobies
Erin: together. All four of us on the
Josh: couch. That one scene comes out of nowhere.
The first time you see it. I was sitting right next to my father. Yeah, you don't know what's coming either. No, it comes out of nowhere. All of a sudden it's just boobies. Boobies everywhere. Multiple times. You're like, oh, there's boobies. Oh, there's another,
Erin: another, Another. And like at the time, there was like Remote control or something, like old school TV situation.
We couldn't find it. There's still boobies. Wait, the Josh: new TVs don't have remotes I hope they do. Erin: It's just you
Josh: can what is what is so wait?
Erin: Wait, you can use your phone too now, so I wouldn't have been looking
Josh: so hard Is that so if you were in a stressful situation tonight? Huh. Would you even remotely think that you could connect your phone to the Apple TV?
No
Erin: technology is hard regardless of my age. All I'm
Josh: saying is there's not a whole lot that's changed in your situation with a remote for
Erin: a TV. I'm just saying it was prolonged. The boobie scene was on for [00:37:00] longer than any of us wanted it to be on. I was very
Josh: uncomfortable.
Have you guys made it through this podcast? Because if you have your true pals
that are turning into Ruti booties.
Erin: No, we need a better name.
Josh: Anyways, find some joy, do something selfish, go to a spa, slide down a
Erin: hill. On your dime? Thanks, Patch.
Josh: Absolutely not.
Erin: aLso, this is another hint for the guest for next season, but maybe do some coherence building activities before and or during Christmas.
I'm actually going to give that a try because it's contagious. Yeah, concept of coherence. And so if you're doing it, I mean, she was
Josh: so incoherent. It was wild careful Erin: because that sounded like incoherent. Josh: She was so in coherence.
Erin: Yeah, she was in a state of coherence. It's like Kegel exercises like you can do it and nobody knows that you're doing it except that kegels aren't contagious So like when I'm doing kegels, it's not making you do kegels
Josh: What if like why am I? And somebody in the room is like honed in on me. Does anyone
Erin: else feel their pelvic floor?
No, but coherence [00:38:00] like when you're practicing it when you're getting that Heart and brain in lock. It can be contagious. And so everyone at the table might just turn real Zen
Josh: Maybe we start doing that at the beginning of the podcasts for our intros Oh, that's a good idea. Everyone that listens has to get into a state of coherence.
Oh,
Erin: I fucking love that Also, I'm gonna do that before Thanksgiving dinner, and I don't care who is gonna be there. I got aunts and uncles coming who may not be on this train. It's let's pray
Josh: before our meal, but let's get into coherence together. Yeah, that's what I'm going to do. Yeah. I'm going to do it.
It's just a different type. I know, I'm excited. I'm excited for you. Great. Maybe I'll show up.
Erin: All right I think that's a wrap. What do you say Blatch? I love you guys. A wrap on
Josh: season one. You guys are special to me. You too, babe, but the listeners. Thanks. I'm excited for season two. I hope you'll stick around to listen to it.
Yes.
Erin: Stay open,
Josh: guys. We'll be back in a couple weeks, but I got some joyful, jolly, skippity Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer jobs to do.
Happy holidays. Happy holidays. Or just happy November and December. If you don't celebrate holidays. Yeah. If you're like, just enjoy the rest of the year, find your freedom. Go find it.
Erin: [00:39:00] Go find it. Love you. Stay open. Bye!