20 Minute Christian Counselor

Is My Spouse Toxic? And If So, What Can I Do About It?

March 16, 2024 Robb Oram Season 2 Episode 4
Is My Spouse Toxic? And If So, What Can I Do About It?
20 Minute Christian Counselor
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20 Minute Christian Counselor
Is My Spouse Toxic? And If So, What Can I Do About It?
Mar 16, 2024 Season 2 Episode 4
Robb Oram

Marriage is challenging for all of us, because no spouse is perfect. But, some spouses are extremely difficult- even to the point of being "toxic." In this episode, I describe characteristics of a toxic spouse, and I offer some practical strategies to implement to help you cope in a very difficult situation.

Some excerpts from the Bible describing God's plan for marriage:

“Love is patient and kind.
Love is
not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
It does not
demand its own way.
It is not
irritable,
and it keeps no
record of being wronged.”
(1 Cor. 13:4-5)

“wives…submit to your husbands as to the Lord…
husbands…
love your wives…as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…

husbands ought to love their wives 

as they love their own bodies

each man must love his wife as he loves himself

and the wife must respect her husband.” (Eph. 5:22-33)


“…husbands must give honor to your wives. 

Treat your wife with understanding as you live together…
Treat her as you
should so your prayers will not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)


If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.

Show Notes

Marriage is challenging for all of us, because no spouse is perfect. But, some spouses are extremely difficult- even to the point of being "toxic." In this episode, I describe characteristics of a toxic spouse, and I offer some practical strategies to implement to help you cope in a very difficult situation.

Some excerpts from the Bible describing God's plan for marriage:

“Love is patient and kind.
Love is
not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
It does not
demand its own way.
It is not
irritable,
and it keeps no
record of being wronged.”
(1 Cor. 13:4-5)

“wives…submit to your husbands as to the Lord…
husbands…
love your wives…as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…

husbands ought to love their wives 

as they love their own bodies

each man must love his wife as he loves himself

and the wife must respect her husband.” (Eph. 5:22-33)


“…husbands must give honor to your wives. 

Treat your wife with understanding as you live together…
Treat her as you
should so your prayers will not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)


If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoom), or to arrange a speaking engagement, reach out to me at my website at www.robboram.com, or text or call me at (805) 312-8715.