Episode 9 - The Power of Asking for Support

This week Kelly explores the emotional journey of planning a family trip to Germany and Paris—an adventure sparked by her son’s acceptance into a work-study program abroad. What began as an exciting opportunity quickly spiraled into stress as Kelly tried to plan the trip solo, while balancing a demanding work project.

Through her story, Kelly reveals the powerful lesson that sometimes, the biggest breakthrough comes when we ask for support. With a mix of humor, vulnerability, and inspiration, she shares how enlisting the help of close friends turned her overwhelmed anxiety into excitement and possibility.

Key Themes:

• How support often arrives in unexpected forms—what Kelly calls “gifts in strange wrapping paper.”
• The difference between help (doing it for someone) and support (coming alongside someone).
• Why many people struggle to ask for help, and how that mindset holds us back.
• Practical guidelines for seeking support effectively: Be specific, respect autonomy, express gratitude, and set clear parameters.

Quote to Remember:
“When we bring in support and teamwork—not to take over, but to walk alongside us—we not only move faster, but the journey becomes more joyful and fulfilling.”

Call to Action:
Kelly invites listeners to reflect on a personal goal or dream, and to dare to ask for the support needed to achieve it. She encourages sharing stories on her Facebook page about what it felt like to ask, who showed up, and how it changed the path forward.

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Transcript

00;00;01;25 - 00;00;36;09
Kelly Goetz
Welcome to today's broadcast, where we are going to delve into the transformative powers of support and teamwork towards achieving any goal or dream that you have. So often the assistance we receive comes in unexpected forms. What I like to call gifts and strange wrapping paper. We're going to explore how stepping out of our comfort zones to ask for support not only will propel all of us forward, but also enriches the lives of those who who offer to help.

00;00;36;11 - 00;01;09;18
Kelly Goetz
So the journey begins. Our family adventure. In November of 2023, our family had received an exhilarating news. Our son had been accepted into the gear program at Purdue University. What's that, you might ask? Well, it was a seven month work study program in the country of Germany. Sounds pretty exciting right now. My husband, his family actually has some German heritage, and my son had started studying German his freshman year in high school.

00;01;09;18 - 00;01;34;27
Kelly Goetz
In fact, he convinced me that it was better to switch from Spanish to German. So that's what he did. Now here we are years later, and he wants to connect to his German heritage on my husband's side. I had been wanting to travel to Europe myself, only I wanted to travel to Italy, Italy and France, which is where some of my heritage comes from.

00;01;34;29 - 00;02;03;07
Kelly Goetz
Anyways, in that month my son had a come up with an internship, get himself approved for the institute that he would ultimately doing his school work. And we thought as a family, how cool would it be to actually go visit him the following summer while he was still in Germany? The only problem with this is I tend to be the one to present all the family vacations.

00;02;03;10 - 00;02;37;05
Kelly Goetz
My husband, on the other hand, is just not real keen on planning vacations. It's not his pleasure, not his joy. Give him a bike and a whole road ahead of himself and he'll go 30, 50, 100 miles without a problem. But planning a vacation is like pulling teeth for him and for me. I find it kind of challenging to plan on a budget, which is what we've been doing since the start of our marriage so quickly.

00;02;37;07 - 00;03;10;24
Kelly Goetz
By December, I had managed to come up with enough miles to get myself, my husband and my daughter to Germany, and that's where the planning began, and that's where it ended. By January of 2024. What I hadn't predicted or foreseen was I was suddenly going to have a contract to develop a two day, live stream class that would be presented by myself and a colleague at the end of April.

00;03;10;26 - 00;03;38;09
Kelly Goetz
What I didn't realize in accepting that opportunity was it was going to be on the fast track, and it was going to consume a lot of my time and my energy. So now here we are planning to go to Germany at the end of May, beginning of June to visit our son. All we have are plane tickets, which is a good start and we know nothing else about Germany.

00;03;38;12 - 00;04;06;22
Kelly Goetz
And even though I have been to England and I've been to Fiji on several different occasions and all of those other cases, it was a destination. I was going to teach a class, I was going to take a class, I was going to volunteer. There was no traveling across the country or even, attempting to go visit another country while I was there.

00;04;06;24 - 00;04;28;02
Kelly Goetz
And we wanted to end up in Paris. And the reason why? Well, when our daughter was two, three, four, she started talking about two locations. One was Paris and one was Hawaii. I don't know where it came from, but she had talked about it since she was a little girl wanting to go to Paris or wanting to go to Hawaii.

00;04;28;05 - 00;04;59;01
Kelly Goetz
So it seemed to entice her to get her excited on board. We had to end up in Paris. So now here we are and we are waiting for this trip to come together. I had fallen into this intense project. My husband wasn't really keen on looking for where we should go or what we should do, and I'm starting to have a tremendous amount of anxiety.

00;04;59;03 - 00;05;23;01
Kelly Goetz
So I thought, well, I know what I'll do. If there was ever a time to get a travel agent. This was the time I would hire a travel agent and pay whatever fees would be required to pay. Seems like a good plan. I'm going to pay for the support that I needed. Well, there was one little problem with that.

00;05;23;04 - 00;05;46;12
Kelly Goetz
The questions that she would ask of me were, where do you want to go? How long do you want to stay in this location? What type of pricing do you want for each place that you stay at? I had no clue. I had no idea where to stay, where to go visit, what to look for. And my son, having never been there before.

00;05;46;14 - 00;06;14;03
Kelly Goetz
He was as clueless as we were. More importantly, his focus was trying to line up the job, line up an apartment, and be flying somewhere by the first week in January. So he wasn't going to be looking at places to travel to quite yet. He had bigger priorities for himself. Now I'm getting nervous. I'm getting stressed. I don't know where we're staying.

00;06;14;05 - 00;06;50;14
Kelly Goetz
I don't know where to even begin, and I don't even know where my son is going to end up once he gets there. So I have no landmark to fly into, or even what's the best location to fly into? I quickly realized that although I loved the travel agent and would have loved to have worked with her, her first initial quote for what it would cost to take three and four that was already going to be in Germany to do visit Germany was going to cost $21,000 for the four of us.

00;06;50;17 - 00;07;35;03
Kelly Goetz
I realized pretty quickly, we do not have that kind of budget. As much as I would love to spend $21,000 on a two week trip to Germany and Paris. I just knew that was going to be well over our budget, and that was going to create a whole nother realm of stress for our family. So instead, I decided I would try to do it myself, and I would try to save money because I couldn't spend $21,000 only with my work project happening all at the same time that the planning for this trip was happening and the days were passing very quickly.

00;07;35;06 - 00;08;04;11
Kelly Goetz
My level of overwhelm and stress regarding this particular trace started to grow. Now, the one thing I didn't do was to think, to ask other friends where they had traveled to. I didn't think, just ask who else might be able to support me and building this trip or getting my my arms around this trip. I'm not a big social media person.

00;08;04;11 - 00;08;26;14
Kelly Goetz
I know there's plenty of different pages out there where you can find the best. So my husband and I did what many people might do. We started researching Germany through YouTube and we would look up different people talking about different places to go. And Germany seemed like a good plan only although they were telling us about the cities.

00;08;26;15 - 00;09;09;06
Kelly Goetz
We still didn't know where to stay and not having a place to lay my head at the end of the travel was something that I was a little concerned about. So finally, one of my dear friends, Lydia, said to me, I know how we can support you and we can help. This level of building stress that you have around this trip to Germany, we've been to Germany before, and although we have known our friends Lydia and Chris for years, we really didn't know all the places they had traveled with their kids prior to us becoming good friends.

00;09;09;08 - 00;09;39;09
Kelly Goetz
So when Lydia said, we've been to Germany before, what we're going to do and what I'm offering to do for you and Karl to remove some of the tension, to remove some of the stress. We are going to bring our laptops to your house on Sunday evening, and the four of us are going to sit in front of our laptops, and we are going to find what location you should visit and what what accommodations you should stay in.

00;09;39;12 - 00;10;10;08
Kelly Goetz
Now, my first thought to that was, oh my gosh, they want to give up their Sunday evening to help us plan our trip. My husband wasn't even wanting to give up a Sunday evening to plan the trip. It caused him major like shut down. But now Lydia, who I know to be very organized, kind of like spring time, where she's got that wood energy, that bursting forward energy.

00;10;10;08 - 00;10;42;04
Kelly Goetz
She gets organized quick. She gets things done. I knew we would most likely have a pretty good plan by the time that she left. And, oh, by the way, great news. A lot of where we were considering visiting that we knew nothing about, they had already traveled two years, years prior. So although there was a part of me that wanted to say, no, no, I can't burden you on a Sunday night to help us plan our trip.

00;10;42;06 - 00;11;34;24
Kelly Goetz
There was another part of me remembering a lesson I had learned 25 years before. And that lesson was there is no goal or dream that we can't accomplish. On our own. But when we bring in support and teamwork, when we invite other people into our dream or our goal and and use and leverage their expertise not to do it for us in a way that would be help where somebody enables you by doing it for you, but to have them support you by bringing some of their wisdom and their expertise alongside you so they don't do it all for you, they simply come alongside you.

00;11;35;02 - 00;12;05;25
Kelly Goetz
Either it could be support of encouragement. It could be the support of maybe they have a connection or a resource that you don't have that they can introduce you to. Maybe in this case, like Chris and Lydia, they had traveled to Germany before. They had already planned a trip once, already visited the country, and they had a sense of what they liked and what they didn't like, and they were somewhat like us.

00;12;05;27 - 00;12;30;02
Kelly Goetz
So although there was one part of me that wanted to turn down that Sunday evening, knowing that I had learned many years ago, and I had accomplished a lot of different things by creating support and teamwork, I knew that if I said yes, will you please come help me on that Sunday evening? Bring your laptops over. Let's see what we can create.

00;12;30;03 - 00;12;55;04
Kelly Goetz
Even though I was nervous about it and apprehensive that I was burdening them, bothering them, even though I had some of those reservations, I said, yes, let's do it. Well, sure enough, the four of us sat there with our laptops and Lydia was quick to show me the beautiful photo book they had created from their trip many years before.

00;12;55;04 - 00;13;30;12
Kelly Goetz
She talked about the different cities. Chris talked about the different cities with different locations. We talked about what the best scenario might be for traveling with the four of us and not knowing still, at this point, exactly where landing was going to be. We realized we could create a plan that would give us flexibility that regardless of when land and had his classes, we would be able to connect with him based on what we were looking at.

00;13;30;15 - 00;13;57;12
Kelly Goetz
So Lydia and I, really we got we dug in. I'm on Expedia. She said I would stay in this location, that location. So I'm like, oh, you like that place done. I'm happy to stay in the place that you stated. And I start booking. Now, I can't exactly tell you what my husband and my friend Chris were doing because Lydia was moving fast and I was right there with her moving just as fast.

00;13;57;15 - 00;14;22;05
Kelly Goetz
Well, by the end of the evening, sure enough, we had laid out how many days we were going to stay in each location and where we were going to travel to. And we had quickly discerned that although we were curious about popping over to, Switzerland, we realized the better scenario, the less expensive scenario was to check out Austria.

00;14;22;07 - 00;15;04;14
Kelly Goetz
So by the end of the night, by the end of those three four hours, with no hardship to our friends, we had a general plan and we had reservations of where we were going to stay in all these great places that we wanted to visit. Talk about having a load taken off my shoulders. I could go into the next week focusing on my work project, knowing I could sleep at ease and no longer feeling angry and frustrated that my husband doesn't like to plan vacations.

00;15;04;16 - 00;15;45;01
Kelly Goetz
And even better. I know our friends left having talked about their trip, having reminisced about the trip that they took with their kids, having shared all of the different details. I saw them light up. I saw the ease in which they shared that information. It ended up being a really fun night for all four of us, and the part of me that was concerned that I was going to be burdening them by having this support, having this help, really just fell way off.

00;15;45;04 - 00;16;21;06
Kelly Goetz
So often we as individuals, I want you to think about this. You need support around going after a new job. Perhaps you need support, around your relationship. Maybe you even need support to start dating, whatever it is. Or to lose weight. So often most people, particularly as adults, think we have to go it alone. I want watch my first mentor 25 years ago.

00;16;21;08 - 00;16;49;28
Kelly Goetz
He asked everybody in the room and there was at least 50 or 60 of us. He asked everyone one really profound question how many of you, when you have a friend or family member that calls you because they're stuck at the airport, or they need help with their kid because there's an emergency, or they're sick, or somebody is ill in the family and they need a meal.

00;16;50;00 - 00;17;21;02
Kelly Goetz
How many of you are quick to raise your hand and say, I've gotcha? I'm happy to help you. And most of the room raised their hand. He followed that question up with, how does it feel when you're the one helping somebody else, when they've got a need, or they have a concern or a problem that needs attention? How does it make you feel?

00;17;21;04 - 00;17;59;26
Kelly Goetz
And as the audience started sharing, well, I feel really good about myself. I feel loving, I feel supportive. I feel proud that I was able to step in and help my friend with their problem. He then asked another question and it's a room of adults or young adults, teenagers, college kids. He then asked the next question, how many of you are really, really good at asking for support when you have a problem?

00;17;59;28 - 00;18;29;24
Kelly Goetz
And, you know, it was like crickets. Nobody was raising their hand. He followed that up with, well, how come? How come you're really, really good at offering support and help to somebody else in need? And that makes you feel really good about yourself, makes you feel proud. It makes you feel love. It makes you feel joy. It makes you just feel good about yourself.

00;18;29;27 - 00;18;46;01
Kelly Goetz
And yet when you need support or help, you're not quick to raise your own hand. In fact, you don't raise your own hand and you tend to do it all on your own.

00;18;46;03 - 00;19;09;01
Kelly Goetz
And why is that? And I want you to think about this. Do you ask for support and assistance when you need help? What level of stress do you need to be in? Do you wait until, like me, that the level of stress was so strong that I had become overwhelmed and I was starting to panic about the trip.

00;19;09;01 - 00;19;35;17
Kelly Goetz
I was starting to dread the trip. Or do you see that first sign that you really need help? And maybe if you contacted a neighbor and said, could you watch my kid? I have an emergency. I need to take care of. How many of you wait and sit back and try to go it alone?

00;19;35;19 - 00;20;02;01
Kelly Goetz
When my mentor Jeff asked the room, how come you don't ask for support when you need help? What are the reasons? And the reasons were quick to be. I don't want to seem needy. I don't want to bother anyone. I don't want to appear weak. That I can't handle my own problems.

00;20;02;03 - 00;20;32;06
Kelly Goetz
In all cases, the main reasons that young adults, older adults, don't ask for support unless they're in a work environment where there's that level of management or there's a job aspect involved. This is when it's personal. These are personal goals, personal dreams where people seem to hold back. They seem to hesitate.

00;20;32;09 - 00;21;01;28
Kelly Goetz
And the main reason is most adults feel they have to do it on their own. And when that happens, not only are you robbing your friends, your family, your acquaintances, the opportunity to feel like the hero, to feel good about themselves, to feel like they contributed to somebody else's life. To even feel important that they were able to step in and help you.

00;21;02;01 - 00;21;31;10
Kelly Goetz
You're literally when you don't raise your hand and say, I need support, and this is the support I need. Can you support me in this way? When you don't raise your hand and say, I need this and are specific on what you're asking for. You rob everybody else around you from having that sense of contribution to feeling good about themselves.

00;21;31;13 - 00;22;12;09
Kelly Goetz
Just like when you step in and help somebody else. When you step in and help somebody else. You feel good about yourself. I've noticed something as my kids are getting older. High school. It starts where there's this breakaway independence. You know, they're used to asking you for everything, whether it's money, time, support on homework support, getting to their practices, getting to and from school.

00;22;12;11 - 00;22;37;02
Kelly Goetz
And in high school, there's this shift of energy that starts to happen where the high schooler needs to start breaking away. And as a parent, you know you're getting ready to, you know, launch them into the world where they're going to have to, you know, go start a job or they're going to have to go to college and they're going to have to figure a few things out.

00;22;37;04 - 00;23;01;26
Kelly Goetz
So there's this bit of separation where at one time where we supported our children with everything or you, if you're never a parent or grandparent, you were supported by your parents for a period of time, or maybe your older siblings. And then there's a point where we have to create more independence and more separation.

00;23;01;29 - 00;23;16;26
Kelly Goetz
There's many studies that have shown that, that have shown that people don't ask for support because they don't want to seem needy.

00;23;16;28 - 00;23;43;08
Kelly Goetz
Just recently, I was talking to my son and he was saying, mom, I've got it. You know, I want I want you to know, I've got it, I've got this, I've got that. Whatever the whatever the thing he's working on. And I realized very quickly is that, you know what? I know you've got it. And I also want you to know that we are always going to be here.

00;23;43;10 - 00;24;14;13
Kelly Goetz
Whether it's emotional, physical, financial, we're always going to be here to support your progress forward in life. Certainly, you can always count on that encouragement and that belief in you. And even though you can do everything on your own and even know you've got all the tools and the resources to take care of whatever it is you want to accomplish.

00;24;14;16 - 00;24;55;06
Kelly Goetz
Do not forget to ask for support, whether it's from your friends, your professors, your family. Because when we create support around ourselves, the journey towards whatever that dream is, whatever that goal is, that journey to success is far more fulfilling. Not only that, it will happen in a much easier, quicker way. I often tell my clients that the closer you get to a dream or goal, that's when the knees start shaking.

00;24;55;08 - 00;25;30;29
Kelly Goetz
The nerves start breaking up, and that fight flight freeze response starts telling us every reason why we are not meant to go. Very similar to that little voice that started saying, I can't afford this trip. It's too hard to plan. I'm doing it by myself. I've got too many other things going on. What am I thinking? All the little negative ways that my fight flight freeze response jumped in and was ready to cancel the trip before it ever started.

00;25;31;01 - 00;25;59;22
Kelly Goetz
When I watch my clients getting closer and closer to their dream or their goal, that same little squeaky voice gets louder and louder, saying, this is not meant for you, and I want you to think about it. Think about something you've really wanted to go after. How many of you have that project, or that trip on your bucket list that you've had there for years and years?

00;25;59;22 - 00;26;28;03
Kelly Goetz
And yet still have not accomplished it, still have not gone after it? I want to invite you with that very same thing, to speak it out loud to somebody that's encouraging. And for some of you, it might be a total stranger. Talk about what that dream or goal is. Say it out loud.

00;26;28;05 - 00;27;26;17
Kelly Goetz
And then I want you to start looking for different people that you can ask for support, whether they're an acquaintance or their, a family member or a really good friend. Now, I think it's essential to distinguish the difference between support and help. Support means it's having the assistance that empowers you to achieve your goal, while maintaining autonomy. Meaning, while you can ask somebody to knock something off your to do list, it's not about asking for help, someone else taking over the task, potentially just diminishing your involvement and your growth.

00;27;26;19 - 00;27;55;28
Kelly Goetz
Oftentimes when we help others and we take the burden off their shoulders, they don't really get that same sense of feeling empowered. It's almost like an enabling. And think about it. When your kids were learning to tie their shoes, or if you've ever watched a youngster and being helped and maybe they're taking longer than normal or taking longer than you would like, or a friend.

00;27;56;00 - 00;28;24;08
Kelly Goetz
For example, just recently I was trying to figure out a lock on a bike lock on vacation, and I asked a simple question and the person I was with was quick to say, oh, let me just do it. They were impatient. Let me just do it. Well, I didn't want them to do it for them. All I wanted for support was them to remind me how the code needed to line up.

00;28;24;14 - 00;28;56;23
Kelly Goetz
That's all I wanted so that I could, number one, learn. And number two, I could do it myself. So that ultimately, number three, I could feel empowered and good about using that particular lock. So you want to walk that fine line between asking for support or asking for help? Help is more of a enabling where support is somebody coming alongside you.

00;28;56;26 - 00;29;30;09
Kelly Goetz
So you can maintain the autonomy and you can keep moving towards your dream and goal. So here are some guidelines for seeking support when you reach out for support, I want you to consider these principles. Number one, I'm going to give you four principles. Number one, be specific. Clearly articulate what assistance you need. It could be perhaps you're looking for a job.

00;29;30;11 - 00;30;00;20
Kelly Goetz
It could be. Could you introduce me to this person that works at that company, so I can have a personal connection and build a relationship and rapport and get to know about the company. I'm interested in working at. That doesn't mean they go do the research. They go meet their friend. They get all the research, they promote you over here could be.

00;30;00;22 - 00;30;21;28
Kelly Goetz
And then they come back and they give you the information. That's not going to be really that helpful. What you really need is the introduction so that you can create the connection and the rapport and determine and discern whether or not that's a company you want to work for. So be specific. What kind of support are you looking for?

00;30;22;00 - 00;30;53;23
Kelly Goetz
Two. Respect. Autonomy. You want to allow the person to say yes or no without pressure. And you want to respect whatever the answer is. It is better to have a clear yes or a clear no versus somebody waffling in the middle. Well, maybe I could do that. Maybe I can't do that. I don't know when I might be able to do that.

00;30;53;25 - 00;31;20;12
Kelly Goetz
The last thing you want is to be in that waffling, maybe place, because guess what? When you're stuck moving your goal forward and you're in that fight flight freeze of this is not something I'm worthy of having. You're already waffling. You're already in the maybe zone. So respect autonomy. If you get a no, you say, thank you so much for your honesty.

00;31;20;15 - 00;31;38;17
Kelly Goetz
And then you move to the next person. And sometimes that might mean you are ten people deep until you find your clear. Yes. Of the person that can actually support you with what you're asking for.

00;31;38;20 - 00;31;57;10
Kelly Goetz
I have a great person. I can't wait to interview that does this so well. The third thing is, like I already said, expressing your gratitude. So regardless of the response, thank them for their honesty and their time. I already said that.

00;31;57;12 - 00;32;24;19
Kelly Goetz
Before. You want to set clear parameters if they agree, define the scope, the timing, the nature of the support. Let them know what you truly need and when you really need it done. By or when you need that introduction. And likewise, they can let you know, hey, coming back to that work introduction. Yep, I know that person. He's on vacation.

00;32;24;24 - 00;32;50;20
Kelly Goetz
It's probably going to take me about three weeks, but I can send an email right now and then we can close the loop in about three weeks. Perfect. You know exactly what's going to happen and when it's going to happen. So when you reach out for support and I'm going to challenge you, and I'm going to invite you to think about something you might be struggling with, who can support you.

00;32;50;22 - 00;33;27;27
Kelly Goetz
Is it a coach? Is it a cheerleader? Is it encouragement that you need? Is it an introduction? Is it somebody looking at your resume? Is it learning a new skill? Who already has that skill that you need? Can they. Can they coach you? Can they teach you? So your invitation is to act. The only way that you're going to grow that muscle of feeling more supported in your life is to actually ask specifically for the support that you need.

00;33;27;29 - 00;34;10;23
Kelly Goetz
I want you to reflect on your own goals, your own dreams, and then and then start reaching out. I dare you to ask for support and keep in mind the distinction between seeking assistance and relinquishing control. Notice how does it feel to articulate your needs when you do this? Observe the reactions of those you approach. Often you might find that people may not be willing or able to support you in the timing that you need.

00;34;10;26 - 00;34;37;15
Kelly Goetz
And it's better to know that they are bogged down with their own goals, and they can't help you right now. Get excited when they say no and then say next. Who else might be able to support me with that need and move on with no judgment to the next person?

00;34;37;18 - 00;35;21;16
Kelly Goetz
I invite you to find your yeses, and the only way you're going to do that is if you keep asking for what you need. Big and small. Start off with the small requests. And keep asking. You will be surprised that when you do find the person that can support you with your goal, your need, you will find that not only does it light them up to help you, to support you, you will also find how much faster you move towards your dream or goal.

00;35;21;18 - 00;35;48;10
Kelly Goetz
So I invite you to jump on to my Facebook business page, Kelly Getz and I want to hear about your experiences. How did it go seeking for support? What was it like when you asked? Did you ask? Did you have to ask more than one person? And if you did, good for you. That means you are stretching your muscle a lot quicker.

00;35;48;13 - 00;36;17;06
Kelly Goetz
I want to hear your stories because quite honestly, so often as adults we're in a little bubble thinking we got to do it all ourselves. And the truth is that when you find people to support you on your dreams and goals, everybody wins. They feel good because they've supported you. And it's a win for them because usually when they say yes, the timing's right.

00;36;17;09 - 00;36;45;11
Kelly Goetz
And what you're asking is something they can actually contribute with. Secondly, you're going to notice that when you start asking specifically and you start breaking down the steps of your goals into little bite size goals, breaking it down to small goals, and you start finding people to support you. All of a sudden the right people are going to just start showing up.

00;36;45;13 - 00;37;21;20
Kelly Goetz
You won't even have to articulate what it is you're looking for, because all of a sudden you'll be sitting in a room. Perhaps you want to write a book. And guess what? There's an editor in the room, a publisher in the room, and you didn't even have to go looking. They just started showing up. So share with me on my Facebook page what it is that you are creating support around, and what you learned about yourself and what you learned about others.

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Kelly Goetz
When you got really, really clear about what you desired. I look forward to hearing your stories. Remember that when we create support and teamwork in our lives, and we create it in the lives of others. Everybody wins. Have a great day.