I specialize in conducting insightful qualitative research, facilitating highly effective meetings, and coaching teams and individuals to navigate challenges with less stress, fostering an environment of innovation and inclusivity.
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I specialize in conducting insightful qualitative research, facilitating highly effective meetings, and coaching teams and individuals to navigate challenges with less stress, fostering an environment of innovation and inclusivity.
To book a 30 minute consultation connect with me here: https://paularoseckyscheduling.as.me/30-minutes
Good morning, everyone. Hi, friends. So good to see you here. I'm always delighted when I see such wonderful, friendly faces. I appreciate you. And I also, it tells me something about you when you show up to these rooms depending on the topic, obviously it must be something on your mind. So my name is Paula Rosecky I am a longtime consumer market researcher and facilitator, and I also take on a small handful of coaching clients. That is partly why I do these rooms because they are topics that come up in my life, in my practice, and with some of my clients that I work with. So if there's something that seems like it would be, beneficial to others. I like to do these rooms. I do record them. So if you are interested in getting the recording, you can DM me and let me know. And I'm happy to get that out to you as well. today's topic is creating time. And I wanted to bring this up because it is something that I believe we actually do have a lot of power over. I very purposefully chose the title of creating time rather than managing time. Or reacting to time because it is something that although it is a great equalizer, right? None of us know exactly how much time we have on this earth. That container may be different for each and every one of us. However, if you look at a day or a week or a month, and you are a functioning human being who can get things done in your life. Then you want to consider how you are using this container of time. So I'm going to offer a few concepts here today. And then, as I mentioned, I would love for anyone who wanted to come up and talk about this topic and see what comes up for you. I'd love to have you in just a few minutes. So when we think about time, This is a finite thing and it is a construct that we have created. And one of the things that I like to imagine is a glass jar. I love the image of a glass jar because it is a container that has has constraints around it, right? Can't get in if you're, if you've got the lid on and you can't get out if you've got if you've got the lid on as well. So imagine that you had a variety of colored glass beads and each color represents an area of your life And each of those beads represents a block of time. And if you think about your life and what you're trying to accomplish, who you're trying to be, who you want to become, there are areas of your life that you are allotting time to, right? It's your career, maybe it's your family, rest, moving your body, and even having some special projects, things that you're holding dear or trying to move into. And I want to offer a few concepts here today that may not exactly be popular for everyone. But that is the idea of planning now at work. Sometimes we absolutely have to plan, but I find that in personal lives, people are not as willing to plan things. And I want to offer that when we think spontaneity is a spice of life, which it is for me. And I think this is why this topic really resonates because I like to think of myself as a highly spontaneous person. And I think that makes a free life. However, what I have noticed. Is that when I plan things that I really want to accomplish, it. calms down my brain because I have a very active part of my brain as probably many of you do too where we like to play and we like to stay away from discomfort and unfortunately when I plan things that I really want to accomplish this can be very uncomfortable because the first thing that happens is my brain wants to tell me oh you really want to get up and get a coffee or maybe I can do that after I take my walk or I think, Oh, maybe the cats actually need to eat something right now. So I can come up with all kinds of excuses for why I'm not going to do the thing that I planned. So number one is the planning, but number two is deciding how you're going to use that time ahead of time. So it's being very deliberate in that planning of time. You need to make your decisions very strongly on how you want to use that time. And sometimes when we don't have that plan and then we sit down to try to make it, that indecision is what can cause a lot of wasting of time and confusion. And so having that decision made ahead of time can really help. And one of the ways to do this that I would have you explore is writing things down like once a week. I love to do this on Sundays. Some people like to do this on Mondays, but taking a look at all the things that you need to accomplish for the week, make sure that you are including some of that play time because your brain is going to want to know that you have that planned. So if you have things that are personal to you and you feel strongly about, or you know that you have, you want to pick up your kids right at 3 30 in the afternoon, or you know that you really want to create a new presentation to present to your audience. You really have to look at how important is this thing to you in your life? What's important and what is not so important? Because later down the road, you may need to make some decisions about what to eliminate and what to delegate. And the more that you can have that plan on your calendar ahead of time, the better your brain is going to be able to handle that. Because the other thing that you're going to notice is you have got to take action to get that thing done. So if it's very important that you're going to do it, you have it on your plan, then you actually have to do it, right? You need to immediately start doing it or know exactly when you're going to be doing that. And this is not the same as being busy. This is being very purposeful and intentional about the way that you're using these beads, these color beads of time. So activity takes time, but action towards a result that you're trying to create. That is what you are actually making time for. You are making your time. Now, the other thing that's going to happen is you, as you watch your brain, and your brain is not going to actually want to do what you've told yourself you want to do, you're going to have to spend some energy honoring your plan. Watching what your brain offers to you in terms of thoughts of what you're doing in the moment. You may want to procrastinate. You may want to do it later. You may want to tell yourself that you want to change what you're going to do. And just notice that, and then give yourself some grace. Don't judge those thoughts. Just know that they are going to come up, but make sure that you are committed to whatever it is that you want to plan for. And like I said, make sure you are also planning for enjoyment. And then you're going to want to, as you explore, because when you start doing this and you purposefully plan things, you're, then you're going to notice that you're not going to want to do it and you're going to need to constrain your paths. So I have found that there are some, if there is something that I'm trying to accomplish. I like to choose that one main area of focus, and that does not mean that I'm not doing other things as well. I just know that at this time, I am choosing one major thing to focus on. And if you have shown up in some of these audio rooms of mine before, you know that have, what I was, what I've been trying to do is create about 30 of these videos. audio room experiences. And that was a major focus of mine is understanding how I was going to plan for it, doing some research on it, actually doing it, and then create, creating the plan for producing the audio publicizing them, which I do in a private podcast. So those are a number of things that are going to be happening when you want to create a purposeful result. So I wonder for you, what is a result that you would like to aim for? And how are you going to plan to get that result done? Now it could be cleaning a closet. It could be working on a project or doing something very important at work that has a deadline. And sometimes I find it, yeah at work, it may be a little easier because you've got other people involved. You have to collaborate and make sure that everyone's looking at their timelines. So that can sometimes be easier because those constraints are built in and it can, I have found, To be a little harder when you are trying to accomplish something personal or something like self motivated. I mentioned that these audio rooms, the other thing that I have planned on doing very purposefully is moving my body more. It took me a number of months, but now I regularly swim. And so one of the things that I put on my calendar purposefully first is when I know I'm going to go to the pool and I do this three to five times a week. That goes on my calendar, and then all meetings, and to the extent that I have control over when those meetings happen, I plan around that thing, which is to move my body. Now, it has not been easy to create that plan, but it's very important to me, so I make sure that I work other things around that. What is a project or something that you are working on that you have, maybe you've created a plan for on purpose, or maybe you're in the process of doing that because there may be something in your identity that is where you where you see your attitude towards time. What are you telling yourself about time? Many of us say, I don't have enough time. I'm really busy. And when you think about your feeling after saying that, and it doesn't feel good, then that is something that you want to work on and take a look at because time, as I mentioned in the beginning, is our great equalizer. We all have the exact same amount of time and we get to choose how we use it. I'd love to hear from some of you. Hi. Good evening. Yeah. I was, I'm working on a project more what I can be able to create for sorry, to bridge this gap from what people prioritize in the sense that, okay, I am not disciplined enough because I don't prioritize these things. And I believe that whatever you don't prioritize, you really will not achieve them. So what I've noticed in about prioritizing your time and is whatever you don't prioritize, you don't know. Really going to discipline yourself to do it. Take for instance your swimming activities, right? You prioritize these things on your calendar and it makes you it prompts you, gives you the reminder that you need to do these things and you discipline yourself to follow up on these things. And then again most of the things we see online. Take for instance social media and everything. It's more of the good parts. They never really tell us that okay this is what is wrong or this is how my bad day went or this is how things are. So people don't really discipline themselves to understand that things just work out like that. They need to take action and they need to do these things themselves like DIY, do it yourself you know. So if they really can't put in these things in place, like they really cannot put these things it becomes a problem. I'm working on that project. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. No one can do the work for us, right? We are the creators of, our time. So we are the ones who really have to pay attention to what we want to accomplish and then putting it on our calendar and watching what happens with our brain when that time comes up. Monica, good to see you. Hey Dan, come on up. All right. Let's hear from Monica and then we'll hear from Dan. How are you doing today, Monica? Hi, hello. I'll just speak briefly because I'm not in a place where I can speak for very long, but one of the things that comes to look into what you said as well as what Hope said is how do you deal with prioritization and something that needs to be done when there's a fear factor or there's a challenge involved? Do you have doubts or self confidence as to how to do that? And you have to push through those walls that don't have to do with the task, it has to do with your perception or attitude around the task. Yeah. So is your question around how do you move through that fear? Yes, that's correct. Yeah. I, this is where I like to get very specific on what is the fear exactly. So if you're able to share I'm welcome to hear it. Otherwise I'll speak in generalities. But feel free to jump in if you would like to get a little more specific. Yes, I've got some specific training and I've gone through the training, but I've had a bad experience on a difficult and long testing to get the certification in the past. Okay. And I have a fear factor that is transposing from a previous experience into this experience so I can complete the last phase of the training and get the certification. Okay. Okay. So your worry or your fear, I'll just use your words. So your fear is that, what is the fear exactly? That I won't do well enough on the test to get the certification. That I won't do well enough on the test to get the certification. So notice, I imagine, like you said, that probably makes you fearful, right? You feel scared. So is there something else that you can start believing or start thinking about that's receiving this certification or taking this test that moves you slightly away from fear? Is there any thought that we can come up with for you that would allow you to feel better in some way about taking this test? It would be a good building block on my credentials first. The second thing is I've been successful and following through educationally and in other ways with similar circumstances. Yeah. And failure in your, any failure in your life is just a stepping stone, not something that's permanent unless you allow it to be. Yeah. So notice how you were able to come up with basically three very powerful thoughts that are not grounded in fear. One thing you can do is write those sentences down. I know one of them was, it would be a good building block. And then you had a couple others. I would write those down and then keep practicing that. Practice those thoughts that feel better until you believe them. So that's the other key thing here is you want to make sure you believe the thought about the thing you're trying to accomplish. Is that helpful? Yes, thank you. I'll listen to everybody else and see if what else I can. Yeah. Yeah. Feel free to stay up here if you want to interject, but next we'll hear from Dan. Hi, Dan. Nice to see you. Great to be here. for hosting this. I have, A couple of thoughts that came to mind when you were speaking about planning and objectives. And it's a topic that I really enjoy planning and objectives. And I, part of that time creating that time is looking at the activities for me. If I have an activity what helps me remain motivated is putting in the context of what I'm hoping to achieve with that. And I understand that there's this balance of like you said, creating some freedom. But if I look at the objective, like you, you have referenced exercise and in your, in movement. So that's, for me, that, It feeds my goal around exercise and movement feeds to a higher purpose of creating more health span and to do activities later in life. So when I'm approaching something, I'm thinking of that overarching objective. Sometimes those activities that we engage in. Accomplish more than just that singular objective. For example, there might be a social aspect to whatever we're accomplishing. We're building relationships. Maybe we're exercising a skill or some knowledge that we have and we're less likely to lose that as we progress through things. And I think that. When I approach activities, sometimes there could be some value add benefits to each of those activities, and it almost feels like you're doing, you're accomplishing multiple things and creating, even like you said, creating time, but creating benefits in this case. Oh, I love that. Yeah. Sometimes we don't know what the unintended consequences are, right? And we're complex. So things that we do can impact other areas of our life, whether or not we're intending or conscious of that But if we look back and we just put a little bit of awareness on that and dive in and say That particular goal or result that I'm looking to create actually has many other benefits that I didn't even realize. And maybe sometimes we're intentional about that and maybe sometimes we're not, but I love that. That's something that you want to accomplish it in retrospect you're, you can see that it has many other benefits as well. Thank you for sharing that. I love the idea. Unintended consequences. Thanks much. Feel free to stay on up if you'd like. And I'm going to invite others if you'd like to come on up. And hi Jessica. How are you today? What's on your mind? I just wanted to make a comment too and I'm sorry I wasn't looking at my screen and I did not hear the person's name who was talking about fear. And feeling something and then going back and trying to take it again and do it again. I try to focus on what I got. from the failure. So in so you always learn in life. And so reflecting on all the things you did learn. Even though you may not have passed the test, there's so much there that you probably was positive and learning versus just the test that didn't work out. So just a little insight there. And I wanted to just share that. Yeah, no, I so appreciate that. And had I, Allotted more time for my speaking, speaking part of this talk, I absolutely would have included failure because that is it's such an important part of when we're trying to accomplish something and watching ourselves. Let's move through getting to that result because and it gets to this idea of how many paths, there may be many paths, right? And as we're heading down one path, that may look like one thing, but then you realize, Ooh, maybe this isn't the exact right direction to go. Let me try another path. And we can call it failure. And I personally don't think there's anything wrong with that. I believe me, even in creating these audio rooms, I've had many little failures and I could have gone and cried Cried and crawled back in the hole and decided I'm not doing any more of these. But I was like, you know what? That's okay. It didn't record. I had to rerecord something or I was in a noisy spot or whatever. I really did learn something from that. So thank you for sharing that idea of failing and learning. Jessica. Hi Evie. How are you doing? What's on your mind? Okay. So I'm going to put voice to something that so I have this side business of billing that I've had for a long time. And I'm starting to realize that I don't have time anymore for a couple of my clients and I've had them for a long time. And when I actually sit down and do the work, I like it and I like the relationships, but I'm in that place of realizing I need to admit that I don't have time to do that piece of work. And I'm not even making time to write down and write that letter to them or to pick up the phone and admit that. So then I just keep getting in this cycle of, Oh, I'm always behind. I always feel ashamed that I'm not getting the work done for them in a timely way or a comprehensive way. So Any advice or, first of all, I just want to say congratulations on noticing and admitting to yourself that maybe this is not part of a result that you want to create anymore or a goal that you have for yourself. And we could go into are your values changing or just your result that you want? Is that changing? And that's okay. Like sometimes we can hold on to our something that we want for a while until we don't want that thing anymore. It's okay to not want that. So congratulations that you are admitting to yourself that you don't want that anymore. And now notice All the things that your brain is doing to avoid, you mentioned you're avoiding, right? You're avoiding letting them know. It sounds like that's what you want to do, but you're not doing that. Is that right? That is right. Yeah. So you might want to say, why why am I doing that? Why am I doing that to myself? It sounds like it sounds it feels awful. And then you're piling on some shame just for good measure. And and you, we don't need to do that to ourselves. So it may be uncomfortable. But sounds to me and you can, I'm, I never have to be right when I'm up on this stage. You guys are always the ones who are right. But do you what does it feel if you think about making some time you to get to decide how much time it would take to write this client that you no longer can work for them? You can just decide right now, put it on your calendar. That's what I need to do. Yeah. I need the, yeah. And this is where action do it, right? This is the moment where you just need to take that massive action and do it and not stop talking to your brain about it. You just need to stick it on the calendar. Do you think you can do that today? I can do that today. And I realized that's I'm not closing a door by doing that. I'm just admitting what's reality and I can trust that whatever is meant to happen will happen. Yeah. And I'm glad you said that because the next thing you want to do is have compassion for yourself that you've gone through this process, you've realized this thing about yourself and your goals, and now you need, you want to show kindness to the person that's on the receiving end of you making a decision. Yeah, thank you. Okay. We'll report back. All right. Great to hear you. Yeah, Edie. All right. Hi, Claudia. Thanks for coming on up. And what's on your mind today? All right. Can you hear me? Okay, I can. Thank you. I just want to say to Edie Bravo. I know that. I can talk people into things, but if I have to say no to somebody it is So hard. It's the hardest thing in the world. It's like I can go in and talk a store into giving me a refill when there's You know without paying but I can't say no I can't and so what happens to me Is you know, I was laid off. I had a whole year to I really dedicate my life to volunteering and now I have a job. And it's not a priority, right? The volunteering isn't a priority? Oh, the volunteering remains a priority, but I can't afford that. So I have to now give myself a way to allow this other priority and create what what was it Mr. Norton said about, what are my, what's my vision for working a job again, right? That's number one is, Figuring that out, trying to peel back the volunteering into maybe four hours a week and then allowing the business to grow in just in my motivation and excitement to grow a business. But the other side of it is distractions. So I live I used to be distracted by three teenage kids. And now, my distraction is when you're living aboard and you have a life threatening experience like the anchor's dragging or something, and it slows me, right? And then I have to like, settle down, recalibrate, and refocus. But what happens is I'm off, right? And so how do I get back on? And I love what you said about swimming I do have things I do in the course of a day that are hard to keep choosing to do so I have that muscle, but when I am fully distracted, it's yeah, if you could speak to that, I would love that. Yes. So distractions come into the bucket of not important and not urgent. So if you've ever seen that construct of there are things that are important, not important, urgent, and not urgent. And when we allow ourselves to be distracted by things one thing is you can plan if these are distractions that are if they're not, if they're not helping you create a result, which it sounds like it's not, then how might you be able to eliminate those kinds of distractions? Do you think you have an answer to that, Claudia? How might you be able to eliminate the distractions? For distractions that are not important, I would have to Close out my, all my social media. Yeah, I think one thing like that's a distraction. It's not important. But when I press the button to open the computer They all come up and it's ah, just one second. I'll check that. And I know I have this Concern of an undiagnosed ADHD thing So I have to really feel bad put my headset on and listen to the Some focused music or something. Yeah, just get myself in the Yeah. Zone. Yeah you can be onto yourself, right? You can pay attention to how your brain works and. understand that this might be a way of being. So there's that. But then I love what you were saying earlier, like noticing, okay, I've turned my computer on and now all these notifications come up. So might there be some room for you to put on your calendar, Explore how to delete notifications or something related to those kinds of distractions. And just take a step, like a small step towards, wow, I noticed this thing. And congratulations to you for noticing that. And look all of us in today's. culture, of course, have some version of that. There are many, so many distractions. If we allow them, they're gonna just happen. So perhaps you can think about just exploring how might you eliminate those. Distractions and get them off. And maybe there are other things too. Does anything else come up for you when I say that? Yeah, I think too. It's like when I commit to the list and if it's not on the list, yeah, but I think it's important then I can add it at the end, right? You like, in other words, you can do that when you have the rest of your priorities done. Yeah. So before you do that, you, before you do LinkedIn, you're going to contact five or 10 new people today regarding your new job. Yes. And maybe I'll just do a yes. And on that, which is when putting on your calendar, The things that are more important and make sure you do that for I think if that works for you and you do that first, then that could possibly use some experimentation. And if that's worked for you before, great, then stick with it. We would have to take a little look at. Putting more stuff on your calendar later. I would have to understand a little bit more about what that's about. If you think it's important, then why would you not be putting it on your calendar already? That would be a question I would have for you just to push back a little bit. Yeah. Yeah. So it's a, I'm such a new ideas person that a lot of times any new idea It needs to be put in the back of the book. I see. Because it's me. Yeah. Yeah. And let me, I will tell you that I really relate to that, Claudio. I have a very like high idea mind. So one thing that I've experimented with and that works fairly well for me is I have a looking at it right now, it's the idea parking lot, and I will just write a sticky note and. I have a big white sheet and then I have a bunch of sticky notes and I put my ideas on the sticky notes up on the idea of parking lot. And so I don't lose them. They never go away. They don't just disappear to the extent that I remember to put them up there. I have the parking lot and I can go back to that at some point. When I but usually I don't have a problem generating new ideas. But that's, that could that's something you could consider as well. Awesome. Thank you for all those shares, everyone. That was amazing. Hope, Monica, Evie, Claudia, thanks for staying on up. If there's anyone else that would like to, if this sparked a thought or a question for you, Feel free to raise your hand. We still have a few more minutes here. I'm happy to discuss anything around planning, commitment to yourself, watching your brain do fun, funny things when we want to go off our plan. There are plenty of things that can happen when we are trying to accomplish a goal or a result. Hi Jackie. Thanks for coming on up. What's on your mind today? Oh, this is so fun. This is my first time on audio. So thank you, Paula. Fabulous. Thank you. I really needed this. I feel like it's a support group. And it's so fabulous to hear your voice. It really resonates. I love the parking lot of ideas. I want to implement that ASAP. I just want to bring up in the creation of time, because I love. Putting, blocking my time on calendar is like the, I, when I get to reclaim time, so I'm an over planner and I might over plan or double book too much in my day and then I get to look at it later on in that and like before I approach that day, like the night before the day before and reclaim some time, you know what, then I can assess my priorities. I don't need to do that errand that can wait until another time and kind of reassess it in that way. I create the time, I block it, I look a day or a few days ahead, and I sit and evaluate my priority. Because it changes, because I'm highly spontaneous as well, and I have, am a high idea brain. In that, I also block time to rest and reflect. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. We know our way of being, right? We all, in our essence, when we were born and as a child, there was some kind of natural way of being that we had. And. And we all have some way of being that adds value to the world. And the more that we can lean into our ways of being the better the world is. That is my personal view. So if you understand how you operate and you can see what you want to accomplish, a goal that you want to go for a result, then you're and you understand your way of being, then it's part of your job to figure out how you can watch your brain because your brain is still going to want to seek pleasure and avoid pain and discomfort. And as you are reaching towards a goal or a result, you are going to find these some things that are uncomfortable. I'm going to have a ton of ideas as I try to produce this result, then you want to find ways to deal with that. And that has been one thing that has been very helpful for me is the idea parking lot. Yeah. And and you can plan for spontaneity. Spontaneity can still be in your life. You just need to make sure you create time for that as well. So for me, like the weekends. There are some time, I have some blocks of time in my weekend where I usually write my newsletter, but everything else is just open free time because I love that just being able to decide what to do at spur of the moment. So that's a big chunk of time that is open. And my evenings are very similar to that, unless I have my swimming on my calendar. That's what I had to offer today. Thank you all for being here. Unless there's someone else who has a last minute question, I'm happy to take that. And please follow each other. Please connect. Obviously we all have something in common here today. Because we are interested in time and how we can best use it to our to our max. Again, I'm Paula Rosecki. I do, I am a consumer market researcher, but I also I'm also a coach. And that's what I choose to use these rooms for. In the hopes that it will help someone. And I do I do take on a small amount of one on one coaching clients. So if that is something that you want to consider, please DM me. And if you would like a recording of this conversation, please also DM me the word time and I will make sure you are on my list to receive it. All right. And with that, we are just at our time. I really appreciate you. I am going to applaud all of you here. Thank you so much for being here today. And I wish you all happy planning. so much. This is great. Thank you all. We'll see you next time. Take care. Jessica, are you able to unmute? Haha. I just figured I had to do that. Okay. I just wanted to make a comment too and I'm sorry I wasn't looking at my screen and I did not hear the person's name who was talking about fear. And feeling something and then going back and trying to take it again and do it again. I try to focus on what I got. from the failure. So in so you always learn in life. And so reflecting on all the things you did learn. Even though you may not have passed the test, there's so much there that you probably was positive and learning versus just the test that didn't work out. So just a little insight there. And I wanted to just share that. Yeah, no, I so appreciate that. And had I, Allotted more time for my speaking, speaking part of this talk, I absolutely would have included failure because that is it's such an important part of when we're trying to accomplish something and watching ourselves. Let's move through getting to that result because and it gets to this idea of how many paths, there may be many paths, right? And as we're heading down one path, that may look like one thing, but then you realize, Ooh, maybe this isn't the exact right direction to go. Let me try another path. And we can call it failure. And I personally don't think there's anything wrong with that. I believe me, even in creating these audio rooms, I've had many little failures and I could have gone and cried Cried and crawled back in the hole and decided I'm not doing any more of these. But I was like, you know what? That's okay. It didn't record. I had to rerecord something or I was in a noisy spot or whatever. I really did learn something from that. So thank you for sharing that idea of failing and learning. Jessica. Hi Evie. How are you doing? What's on your mind? Okay. So I'm going to put voice to something that so I have this side business of billing that I've had for a long time. And I'm starting to realize that I don't have time anymore for a couple of my clients and I've had them for a long time. And when I actually sit down and do the work, I like it and I like the relationships, but I'm in that place of realizing I need to admit that I don't have time to do that piece of work. And I'm not even making time to write down and write that letter to them or to pick up the phone and admit that. So then I just keep getting in this cycle of, Oh, I'm always behind. I always feel ashamed that I'm not getting the work done for them in a timely way or a comprehensive way. So Any advice or, first of all, I just want to say congratulations on noticing and admitting to yourself that maybe this is not part of a result that you want to create anymore or a goal that you have for yourself. And we could go into are your values changing or just your result that you want? Is that changing? And that's okay. Like sometimes we can hold on to our something that we want for a while until we don't want that thing anymore. It's okay to not want that. So congratulations that you are admitting to yourself that you don't want that anymore. And now notice All the things that your brain is doing to avoid, you mentioned you're avoiding, right? You're avoiding letting them know. It sounds like that's what you want to do, but you're not doing that. Is that right? That is right. Yeah. So you might want to say, why why am I doing that? Why am I doing that to myself? It sounds like it sounds it feels awful. And then you're piling on some shame just for good measure. And and you, we don't need to do that to ourselves. So it may be uncomfortable. But sounds to me and you can, I'm, I never have to be right when I'm up on this stage. You guys are always the ones who are right. But do you what does it feel if you think about making some time you to get to decide how much time it would take to write this client that you no longer can work for them? Like how, yeah. Yeah. You can just decide right now, put it on your calendar. That's what I need to do. Yeah. I need the, yeah. And this is where action do it, right? This is the moment where you just need to take that massive action and do it and not stop talking to your brain about it. You just need to stick it on the calendar. Do you think you can do that today? I can do that today. And I realized that's I'm not closing a door by doing that. I'm just admitting what's reality and I can trust that whatever is meant to happen will happen. Yeah. And I'm glad you said that because the next thing you want to do is have compassion for yourself that you've gone through this process, you've realized this thing about yourself and your goals, and now you need, you want to show kindness to the person that's on the receiving end of you making a decision. Yeah. Thank you. Okay. We'll report back. I will. That's how it went. All right. Great to hear you. Yeah. Edie. All right. Hi, Claudia. Thanks for coming on up. And what's on your mind today? All right. Can you hear me okay? I can. Thank you. Awesome. Awesome. I just want to say to Edie bravo. I know that. I can talk people into things, but if I have to say no to somebody it is So hard. It's the hardest thing in the world. It's like I can go in and talk a store into giving me a refill when there's You know without paying but I can't say no I can't and so what happens to me Is you know, I was laid off. I had a whole year to I really dedicate my life to volunteering and now I have a job. And it's not a priority, right? The volunteering isn't a priority? Oh, the volunteering remains a priority, but I can't afford that. So I have to now give myself a way to allow this other priority and create what what was it Mr. Norton said about, what are my, what's my vision for working a job again, right? So it's and it's, and then here's, so that's number one is, Figuring that out, trying to peel back the volunteering into maybe four hours a week and then allowing the business to grow in just in my motivation and excitement to grow a business. But the other side of it is distractions. So I live I used to be distracted by three teenage kids. And now, my distraction is when you're living aboard and you have a life threatening experience like the anchor's dragging or something, and it slows me, right? And then I have to like, settle down, recalibrate, and refocus. But what happens is I'm off, right? And so how do I get back on? And I love what you said about swimming because I feel as if you just make it, I do have things I do in the course of a day that are hard to keep choosing to do so I have that muscle, but when I am fully distracted, it's yeah, if you could speak to that, I would love that. Yes. So distractions come into the bucket of not important and not urgent. So if you've ever seen that construct of there are things that are important, not important, urgent, and not urgent. And when we allow ourselves to be distracted by things one thing is you can plan if these are distractions that are if they're not, if they're not helping you create a result, which it sounds like it's not, then how might you be able to eliminate those kinds of distractions? Do you think you have an answer to that, Claudia? How might you be able to eliminate the distractions? For distractions that are not important, I would have to Close out my, all my social media. Yeah, I think one thing like that's a distraction. It's not important. But when I press the button to open the computer They all come up and it's ah, just one second. I'll check that. And I know I have this Concern of an undiagnosed ADHD thing So I have to really feel bad put my headset on and listen to the Some focused music or something. Yeah, just get myself in the Yeah. Zone. Yeah I think it's you can be onto yourself, right? You can pay attention to how your brain works and. understand that this might be a way of being. So there's that. But then I love what you were saying earlier, like noticing, okay, I've turned my computer on and now all these notifications come up. So might there be some room for you to put on your calendar, Explore how to delete notifications or something related to those kinds of distractions. And just take a step, like a small step towards, wow, I noticed this thing. And congratulations to you for noticing that. And look all of us in today's. culture, of course, have some version of that. There are many, so many distractions. If we allow them, they're gonna just happen. So perhaps you can think about just exploring how might you eliminate those. Distractions and get them off. And maybe there are other things too. Does anything else come up for you when I say that? Yeah, I think too. It's like when I commit to the list and if it's not on the list, yeah, but I think it's important then I can add it at the end, right? You like, in other words, you can do that when you have the rest of your priorities done. Yeah. So before you do that, you, before you do LinkedIn, you're going to contact five or 10 new people today regarding your new job. Yes. And maybe I'll just do a yes. And on that, which is when putting on your calendar, The things that are more important and make sure you do that for I think if that works for you and you do that first, then that could possibly use some experimentation. And if that's worked for you before, great, then stick with it. If you but I would, I'd have to, we would have to take a little look at. Putting more stuff on your calendar later. I would have to understand a little bit more about what that's about. If you think it's important, then why would you not be putting it on your calendar already? That would be a question I would have for you just to push back a little bit. Yeah. Yeah. So it's a, I'm such a new ideas person that a lot of times any new idea It needs to be put in the back of the book. I see. Because it's me. Yeah. Yeah. And let me, I will tell you that I really relate to that, Claudio. I have a very like high idea mind. So one thing that I've experimented with and that works fairly well for me is I have a looking at it right now, it's the idea parking lot, and I will just write a sticky note and. I have a big white sheet and then I have a bunch of sticky notes and I put my ideas on the sticky notes up on the idea of parking lot. And so I don't lose them. They never go away. They don't just disappear to the extent that I remember to put them up there. I have the parking lot and I can go back to that at some point. When I but usually I don't have a problem generating new ideas. But that's, that could that's something you could consider as well. Awesome. Thank you for all those shares, everyone. That was amazing. Hope, Monica, Evie, Claudia, thanks for staying on up. If there's anyone else that would like to, if this sparked a thought or a question for you, Feel free to raise your hand. We still have a few more minutes here. I'm happy to discuss anything around planning, commitment to yourself, watching your brain do fun, funny things when we want to go off our plan. So there are plenty of things that can happen when we are trying to accomplish a goal or a result. Hi Jackie. Thanks for coming on up. What's on your mind today? Oh, this is so fun. This is my first time on audio. So thank you, Paula. Fabulous. Thank you. I really needed this. I feel like it's a support group. And it's so fabulous to hear your voice. It really resonates. I love the parking lot of ideas. I want to implement that ASAP. I just want to bring up in the creation of time, because I love. Putting, blocking my time on calendar is like the, I, when I get to reclaim time, so I'm an over planner and I might over plan or double book too much in my day and then I get to look at it later on in that and like before I approach that day, like the night before the day before and reclaim some time, you know what, then I can assess my priorities. I don't need to do that errand that can wait until another time and kind of reassess it in that way. I create the time, I block it, I look a day or a few days ahead, and I sit and evaluate my priority. Because it changes, because I'm highly spontaneous as well, and I have, am a high idea brain. In that, I also block time to rest and reflect. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. This is where we get to dissent. We know our way of being, right? We all, in our essence, when we were born and as a child, there was some kind of natural way of being that we had. And. And we all have some way of being that adds value to the world. And the more that we can lean into our ways of being the better the world is. That is my personal view. So if you understand how you operate and you can see what you want to accomplish, a goal that you want to go for a result, then you're and you understand your way of being, then it's part of your job to figure out how you can watch your brain because your brain is still going to want to seek pleasure and avoid pain and discomfort. And as you are reaching towards a goal or a result, you are going to find these some things that are uncomfortable. And if Oh my gosh, I'm going to have a ton of ideas as I try to produce this result, then you want to find ways to deal with that. And that has been one thing that has been very helpful for me is the idea parking lot. Yeah. And and you can plan for spontaneity. Spontaneity can still be in your life. You just need to make sure you create time for that as well. So for me, like the weekends. There are some time, I have some blocks of time in my weekend where I usually write my newsletter, but everything else is just open free time because I love that just being able to decide what to do at spur of the moment. So that's a big chunk of time that is open. And my evenings are very similar to that, unless I have my swimming on my calendar. Those are usually in the mornings. That is, yeah, that's what I had to offer today. Thank you all for being here. Unless there's someone else who has a last minute question, I'm happy to take that. And please follow each other. Please connect. Obviously we all have something in common here today. Because we are interested in time and how we can best use it to our to our max. So feel free to connect with each other. Again, I'm Paula Rosecki. I do, I am a consumer market researcher, but I and also I'm also a coach and that's what I choose to use these rooms for. In the hopes that it will help someone. And I do I do take on a small amount of one on one coaching clients. So if that is something that you want to consider, please DM me. And if you would like a recording of this conversation, please also DM me the word time and I will make sure you are on my list to receive it. All right. And with that, we are just at our time. I really appreciate you. I am going to applaud all of you here. Thank you so much for being here today. And I wish you all happy planning. This is great. Thank you all. We'll see you next time. Take care.