You Don’t Have an Abundance Problem… You Have a Receiving Problem

You say you want more money, more clients, more love, more success…

But what if the real problem isn’t what you’re doing—
 it’s what you’re not allowing yourself to receive?

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest hidden blocks I see in entrepreneurs (and honestly, in life)… the inability to receive.

Because most of you have mastered giving.
 You overdeliver. You show up. You pour into everyone else.

But when it’s your turn to receive—
 support, money, love, attention, opportunities…

You tighten. You deflect. You question your worth.

And that right there? That’s the block.

We’re diving into what this actually looks like in real life—
 from your business and your bank account…
 to your relationships, your visibility, and even your ability to feel joy.

Because receiving isn’t passive.
 It’s powerful.
 And it requires you to feel worthy without having to earn it first.

✨ If you’re ready to stop hiding and start allowing yourself to be fully seen, supported, and paid…

Join my Courage to Be Seen 5-day audio experience below. 🔥👇

https://www.jenstillion.com/couragetobeseenchallenge

Transcript

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As entrepreneurs, we love to say we want more money, more clients, more opportunities. But most of you are energetically unavailable to receive any of it. What? Yes, because receiving requires something most people avoid: feeling worthy without having to earn it first. This is a big issue, my friends, and we're gonna get into it in this next episode. Here we go. You're listening to I Love Your Energy Bitch podcast. I'm Jen Stillion, a keynote speaker, an empowerment business coach, and a hypnotherapist, and I've spent the last decade helping clients stop living from who they had to be and start leading from who they actually are. Because here's what I know for sure. Your energy is the most valuable currency you have. It speaks before you do. Whether you realize it or not, it's the thing that makes them trust you without you. Because here's the thing. This is not some new time's guy concept. Everything is energy. It's how you show up, it's how you leave. And when it comes to your business and leadership and being seen, it was also coming out. So in this podcast, I'm gonna teach you how to live from the energy that's actually yours. So you can stop second-guessing your voice, stop churching at the edge of being seen, and start empowering yourself to become the business owner and leader you already are. Because being seen isn't about attention, it's about embodying your personal power. Make sure you subscribe and tune in weekly. Welcome, my friends, to I Love Your Energy Bitch podcast. So you may or may not even realize that you have a receiving issue. And I'm gonna really paint it very clearly because the laws of abundance, the laws of money, the laws of the universe is all about giving and receiving, giving and receiving. It's a flow. But what a lot of us do, and I'm gonna raise my hand because I've dealt with this as well, we have been trained to be really good givers in life. And a lot of us give to get. And you might be like, what? What do you mean? Meaning, especially with women, you know, we, I don't know about you, but I know I watched my mother go above and beyond and give and give and give and give and overgive and take care of everybody else and their mom before herself. I saw my grandmother do the same, her grandmother did the same. And it just was quote unquote selfish to make yourself a top priority and to receive. You had to give above and beyond and take care of the whole household, take care of the farm, like my great-grandmother, take care of everybody else's needs before your own, which basically was the message of you don't feel worthy to receive. You find your worth and validation giving and giving and giving. So, yes, it's the programming. Yes, it's you know, the that belief system running in our generational line. And I see this specifically with women when it comes to allowing ourselves and feeling safe and feeling unbelievably worthy that we can receive. And what I'm talking about is receiving without earning it, receiving without giving to get. Okay, and this receiving issue transpires in every area of your flipping life, okay? And a lot of you still feel like you only feel worthy and satisfied when you are doing and producing or achieving. Okay, for some of you, like resting feels uncomfortable, so you stay busy. Some of you don't let things be easy, you create unnecessary struggle. Okay, this is all receiving issues, you know. When it comes to your business, you know, you undercharge, even though you know your value, you feel uncomfortable when somebody compliments you and says that you're an amazing expert and you've helped them. And even though consciously you're like, oh, that's really nice, thank you, but you still hesitate. You still you're still hesitating and receiving compliments, even gifts. Okay, you feel awkward when somebody genuinely sees you. You're like, dang, Jen, okay, you're calling me out right now. You avoid looking at your bank account when it grows. You hit an income level, and then you subconsciously sabotage it. Yes, all of this is under the umbrella of receiving. You downplay your results when somebody praises your work, right? You stay stuck at the same income level because it feels safe. All right, when it comes to love and relationships, okay. Maybe you're not receiving intimacy. You keep your emotional walls up. You feel guilty when somebody does something really, really nice for you. Okay. What's it like for you with you and your partner? What's it like when it comes to, um, I know this is TMI, but sexy time. Sexy time is about receiving. Are you allowing yourself to receive behind closed doors with your person? Are you always the giver? Because you want to make everybody happy. But what about you? Even with visibility and success, okay, you don't celebrate your wins, you avoid being fully seen and expressed, right? You you dim your light to make others feel uncomfortable. I can go on and on and on. When we allow ourselves to open our heart to receive from the universe and all the pleasures that it holds, right? What we are saying is I claim it and I am somebody who freaking deserves it. I am somebody who freaking freaking deserves it and allows it because I know my worth inside and out. Because it has to do with you knowing that you are enough. And I know where all this comes from, okay? But a lot of you block the abundance flow to you because you subconsciously you're you're like, who am I to receive this? We have to stop this. Like, I'm on a mission to stop it. Because you came to this planet already enough, already worthy, already abundant. But our upbringing and everything that we learned from our environment, from our caregivers, from you know, everybody and their mom growing up, school, society, all the things has taught us otherwise. So, where in your life are you not allowing yourself to fully receive? Why are you why do you have the walls up? Because that is blocking your success. And I see this over and over again with entrepreneurs, especially when they're trying to hit big goals. And this, this it comes in layers, okay? Even for me, like I I still we all still work, we still are working through this, but receiving is a capacity. The thing is, you are a phenomenal giver. You know how to give well, but you're getting something out of it. For some of you, you give so much. When I was a people pleaser, I was giving and I was over-delivering and going above and beyond because I didn't know it at the time. I was receiving love, attention. That's how I felt seen is to leave myself last and using my time and my energy to overdo, over-deliver, overgive because that's what I kind of learned growing up. And it's not cute. And just like you care and love the people in your life, and you would do anything for them. There's nothing wrong with that, and there's nothing wrong with giving. I'm not trying to say that, but sometimes we do have an intention behind it. Okay, you go above and beyond. But why aren't you allowing yourself to receive that for you? The extraordinary things that you have done for people showered them with unconditional love, helping them feel safe, helping them feel seen, helping them feel recognized and special. My friend, put up the mirror. This is what you need to do for yourself. You are the only person that can allow yourself to receive all that life has for you. You know, I am gonna share something vulnerable. The last couple years, so we're in 2026, so I would say probably from 2024, 2024, 2025, I was really in a funky place. And I know that my body's going through a lot of changes, and I did not feel like myself going through peramenopause. I had endometriosis, but I also had this state of mind where I was really in a bubble, and I felt isolated. I was, I don't deal with depression, but I was dealing up with depression in a different way during that time. I was working a lot from my bed. I was still working and showing up for clients and still doing speaking gigs, but I was still keeping myself stuck. I was still holding myself back. I was passing up opportunities. I was closing myself off. And when I started to do the work on myself, because the work that I do for others, I do it on me, uh, I realized I didn't feel safe to go bigger. I didn't feel safe to receive more. So I stayed small. And I'm wondering if you realize that each and every one of us, there's something inside of us that refuses to play small. Because as human beings, we are wired for desire. We are wired to have more without attachment, right? We're grateful where we are right now, but we all are wired for desire, and there's nothing wrong with wanting more. But it's gonna require you to open up your heart sometimes to be vulnerable. And I literally had to look at myself and I'm like, am I receiving all that life has to offer right now? And I'm not. And I know physically I wasn't it was a lot of different factors, but I really was giving my power away to my circumstance. And so when I finally snapped out of it, it wasn't more of a snap, it was it was I had to ask for help. So I got into therapy, I started to tell people about what I was going through. And you have to understand, like, I'm being the oldest of four kids, I've shared this before in previous podcasts. If you're the oldest, you know, you got you had to be responsible for everybody and their needs. You put others before first. And I've learned in my adult life, it has been difficult for me to ask for help. I can do it, you know, I can do it myself. I got this, you know, and not feeling supported because I wasn't asking for support. I wasn't receiving support. And I've always been an advocate for support. Yes, I've had coaches, yes, I've been in programs, yes, I've received support for my business. But I was like, holy crap, I need support. And so I got a therapist, I went to acupuncture, I did everything for my body. I started advocating for myself because it's what I deserved, you know, and in even when I was growing this mass in my uterus, okay. I know that's TMI there, and they were like, oh, you we have to give you a full hysterectomy, which I knew a full hysterectomy was gonna come anyway because of what I was going through. They were like, We you may have cancer in that mass. And cancer, the word cancer was going around, and I was like, I knew in my soul that I was not gonna give my power away to the fear of that. And I decided to receive my power in that moment. I decided in my brain that every moment of the day, I'm like, I told myself every cell in my body is clean and clear. And everyone around me was scared, and there's a lot of fear, and I just didn't give my power away to fear. And see, I'm what I'm trying to tell you is that choice, I choose to receive something for me in a different way. I didn't give my power, I didn't leak my energy to fear. I stayed in my power. And then lo behold, yeah, they took out the mass. There was cancer in it, clear cell, clear, uh, clear cell carcinoma. But they tested every lift note, they tested every aspect of my body, no cancer, it was gone. It was just in that mask they took out. And now it's been a year, and I've been through scans and all the things, nothing. Because I already knew and I already decided receiving comes in so many different forms. Are you receiving fear? Are you are or are you receiving your own power, your own wisdom, your own light, your own magic? And of course, this transpires with money. Everything is connected. How we do one thing is how we do everything. Are you allowing yourself to receive money in your life? Are you allowing that water flow to you? It's reciprocity, my friends. When you show up to give, expect for it to come back to you times ten. And a lot of us don't believe it can really happen. So the flow comes in in every aspect of your life. That's how it works. So once again, as I've been talking, where is your brain going? Where in your life are you not allowing yourself to receive from you? Because inside of you, you have all the answers. Are you giving yourself away to external circumstances in your life? Are you trying to seek everything outside of you rather than receiving from you? And everything that led you up to this point, your experiences, your story, everything that you have nobody has. And if you're still hiding like I was, I was blocking the receiving flow. So this episode kind of hit home for me because I it came up with a couple clients this week. I'm like, God, receiving is such a big thing for a lot of people. And I've been revisiting my own receiving capacity, and I'm like, where else am I not receiving from that I need to allow myself to? And again, this is not about forcing. This is not about you doing more. This is literally just being you is enough, and that's how you're going to receive more. It's very simple, but yet we keep fighting it, you know? So I'm gonna leave you with this. Okay, I'm gonna leave you that you have a capacity to give and give and give, and you've shown that over and over in your life. But the same with giving, you have the capacity to receive above and beyond everything you dreamed of. So it's time to open up your heart, it's time to tell yourself over and over again, I feel safe to receive. I feel worthy to receive. And you can even do this with your hands wide open and say, universe, God, whatever language you want to use, I am worthy to receive. And if it feels icky, that's a sign that your body and brain does not recognize you as a receiving person. That's a sign that you've been resisting this for so long. Start programming your mind and body to receive now. And say this over and over again. Because you are. All right, my friends. Thanks for listening to this episode, and I will see you next week. Bye. Well, thank you for listening to I Love Your Energy, bitch. If this episode spoke to you, hit subscribe, leave a review, and share it with somebody who needs this message today. And if you're ready to take your visibility and confidence to the next level, grab my free five day challenge, The Courage to Be Seen, and you'll find the link in the show notes below. I'll see you in the next episode.