Your Higher Self Already Knows, You’re Just Not Listening

You keep saying you’re waiting for clarity… but what if you already have it?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the real reason you feel stuck, second-guess yourself, or keep overthinking your next move in life and business. Spoiler: it’s not because you don’t know what to do.

Your higher self—the version of you that is clear, grounded, and fully aligned—already knows the answer. The problem? You keep overriding it.

We’re diving into the difference between your ego and your higher self, how fear disguises itself as “confusion,” and why self-trust is the missing piece in your growth, your visibility, and your income.

Plus, I’ll walk you through a simple but powerful exercise to start reconnecting with that inner knowing—so you can stop waiting and start moving.

✨ Join my Courage to Be Seen audios below and start activating the version of you who already knows.

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So you keep saying you're waiting for clarity and your life and your business. But my friend, what if you already have it? What if the real reason you feel stuck isn't because you don't know what to do, but because you don't trust the version of you that does? There is a part of you that already sees the next move in your life and your business and your leadership, and it's trying to get your freaking attention. The question is, are you actually listening? Okay. So this is all about your higher self. Because your higher self already knows you are just not listening. Let's get into it. You're listening to I Love Your Energy Bitch podcast. I'm Jen Stillion, a keynote speaker, an empowerment business coach, and a hypnotherapist, and I've spent the last decade helping clients stop living from who they had to be and start leading from who they actually are. Because here's what I know for sure. Your energy is the most valuable currency you have. It speaks before you do. And whether you realize it or not, it's the thing that will feel that makes them trust you without you. Because here's the thing: this is not some new high-in-the-sky concept. Everything is energy. It's how you show up, it's how you leave. And when it comes to your business and leadership and being seen, you will also become high harder. So in this podcast, I'm gonna teach you how to live from the energy that's actually yours. So you can stop second-guessing your voice, stop shrinking at the edge of being seen, and start empowering yourself to become the business owner and leader you already are. Because being seen isn't about attention, it's about embodying your personal power. Make sure you subscribe and tune in weekly. Welcome, my friends, to I Love Your Energy Bitch podcast. Alrighty, my friends, I hope you're having a good week. So I'm excited for this topic today. We're gonna talk about your higher self. Okay, now I see this all the time. People say they're confused, they're stuck, they're blocked, they're waiting for the right moment in their business. But what if confusion is not the freaking problem? What if what's really happening, what's really going on, is that you're overriding that voice that's trying to guide you. Now, I've talked about intuition before. And your intuition does speak that inner wisdom, but it's also connected to a version of you that already has everything you want. And you can call it your higher self, your future self. Okay. I'm gonna say your higher self, and I'll explain what that is, and it can be your own interpretation. But your higher self is a guide and it's not silent, okay? It's actually very, very clear. It doesn't sound chaotic, it doesn't overexplain, it doesn't panic, it just knows. Just like your intuition always knows and is always right, whether we choose to listen to it or not. And so today we're gonna break down the difference between that voice and the one that's been running your show in the background, which is your ego. And once you start to understand this, you're gonna stop waiting for permission and stop waiting and start moving forward in your business. And I know what it's like. I know being an entrepreneur for over 18 years, we can get into so much indecision, overthinking, you know, behind projects, behind things that we want to name our, you know, products or services. I know sometimes we can fall into that trap. So, and I'm gonna give you an exercise at the end of this episode as well. But we all have an ego, and you, I'm sure you know what that is. And that ego, if it is leading you, can drive you. Ego comes from fear, ego comes from insecurity, you know, ego really comes from abandonment. And when we lead with our ego, we're most likely wanting to feel seen, feel validated. We want attention, we want to be right, we want to be in control. And we all have this dance between between our ego, you know, but then there's another version of us, which people, a lot of people don't talk about. And this is not some woo-pie in the sky concept. Again, you can make it your own interpretation. It's it's your higher self, it's the version of you that lives without ego, it lives without fear, it's unlimited, it's pure, it's um, it's like, oh my God, I can go on and on about your higher self. It literally knows everything you want, it knows the answers to all of your questions, it has the clarity. And again, you can say it's your future self, the person that you want to become a year from now or five years from now. She has, she or he has everything that you desire. And she's coming into this timeline and looking looking at you and be like, okay, okay, I see what's happening here. You're in your fear, you're in your shit. You're you're afraid to jump into this or to be in the unknown. And she's already been through it all. I'm just saying she for right now. She, he, they, whatever, whatever you want to use. And she has everything you need. Now, your higher self, I like to say, you know, it's a connection to uh source, to spirit. You can say it's a connection to God. You could say it's your holy spirit, you could say it's it's spirit, whatever word you want to use, I like to say it's our luminous body, the version of us that's kind of in a different realm, in a different dimension, that literally is looking at you, and it is you, okay, looking at you constantly and be like, hello, I'm right here. You can talk to me. And how they speak is they speak through our intuition. And I've talked about intuition before. And intuition is that power inside of you, your inner wisdom that can speak, but a lot of us don't pay attention and listen. And there's been many signs throughout your life where you've choose chosen to use your intuition or not. That little voice that says, no, no, no, no, don't do that, or don't go that way, or yes, go do that. And it always doesn't make any sense. It's not supposed to, because you learned how to trust it. So that intuition speaks very clearly within you. And I like to say it's connected to something bigger than us. You can say your creativity, you can say your inner power, inner wisdom, whatever language you want to use. But for right now, we're gonna say our higher selves. And so that version of you is literally has everything you desire. And imagine like what would be possible if you didn't have a past where it's running the show for you still, past imprints, past wounds of I'm not good enough, or I my energy is too big, so I'm gonna shrink myself, or you know, all the things that we get into, right? Your brain and your body is playing, is repeating, you know, past experiences over and over again to keep you safe, where your higher self does not have any of that. It doesn't have a past, it doesn't even have a future, it doesn't even have a presence. It's you in a powerful pure form. But it has all the wisdom that you're seeking, especially all the decisions you're making in your business. So, and I know this some of you might you might be like, whoa, this is a very woo concept, but really is it? Is it because look where you are right now in your life, where whatever wherever you are in your life, however old you are, and I want you to reflect back the past 10 years. 10 years ago, you dreamed of being the person you are right now. 10 years ago, you wanted all the things, the shifts, the transformation, everything that you desired, you most likely have some of those things right now. And if you can go back in time and talk to yourself 10 years ago, 20 years ago, what would you say to her? What would you say to him? What would you say to them? What would you say? Okay. So again, we have this version of us, and I'm getting a little bit more esoteric, okay, more spiritual base, where we have literally a version of us that we can have access to as one of our guides in life. Because most likely the stuff that you were into 10 years ago, the fears, the self-sabotage, the inner dialogue, whether you were beating yourself up or not, you know, if you're like me and you are investing in a growth mindset constantly and changing and evolving and growing. I know if I went back to myself 10 years ago, I would have things to say to her. I'd be like, you were doing such a good job. Stop it. Stop being hard on yourself. Like, stop doubting. You have everything inside of you. Like, what would you say? So I want you to pretend that there is this like angelic, beautiful, powerful, beyond measure version of you that's sitting right here with you. Okay. And all you gotta do is connect. And when you do that, my friends, you start getting clear answers. It is literally a source that nobody is really tapping into. And I'm gonna give you a couple exercises at the end to just lean into curiosity and to explore, to explore this. Okay. Because what we often do is we get so trapped inside our cage, inside our box. We have our own model of reality, which was constructed by the voices and the stories and the programming when we were kids, and we have our own interpretation of what life is, you know. And just imagine there's over 8 billion people on the planet, which means 8 billion people have their own model of reality, they have their own world that's constructed by the set of beliefs about who they are and what they expect from life. And when we stay into our own routine, sometimes we need to sh rattle it up and shake it up and get ourselves outside of our comfort zone. So when I feel stuck, when I feel not clear, I literally go to the higher part of me and I tap into her and I ask her specific questions to bring me the answers. Because I wonder if you realize that your subconscious mind, which I've talked about in previous episodes, your subconscious mind was created the moment you were born to eight years old. Again, I keep repeating myself, but it's all the beliefs that you have received from other people, from your caregivers, environment, society, patriarchy. Um, we we've just suddenly we were like kids who were like sponges, and we received all the set of beliefs that are running your life right now. Subconscious, your subconscious mind is 95% of the way you are right now. Five percent, you're only aware of it, you're only conscious. So you're in this space, you're listening to me because you want to become more aware so you can change and transform your life, right? The same kind of path that I took years ago because I knew there was more. Your subconscious mind is so powerful, it has a wisdom that's this, I feel like, is the same kind of energy and connection to the higher part of ourselves. It's connection to source and creativity and to God. And so when we're working with the subconscious mind and when we reprogram it to a new set of beliefs about who we want to become, you know, and the this the one-on-one work that I do with clients that, you know, being a hypnotherapist, you know, I give them create new audios for them to program their subconscious mind. And it's not stage hypnosis, it's not weird, I don't turn you into chickens. It's just empowering new beliefs, right? That's what it is. And we visualize and your subconscious mind can see and hear and feel what you want to create in your future and bringing that into a place right now. And so when we do that, we are connecting to that version of us who wants more freedom, wants more money, the version of us who is in a different identity shift. And when we are changing our identity, our subconscious mind, the near pathways in our brain start to form different pathways to support that new version of us. And so I always say then the higher I go, the more I'm gonna change, the more I'm gonna shift, the more I'm letting go of my older self, the closer I'm getting to that higher part of me that has everything we want. But here's the thing: you don't wait to become that higher version. Your higher version of you is constantly talking to you. You're just not paying attention. And she or he wants you to become her right now. That's the identity shift, is to act as if, you know, I don't know if you follow any manifestation experts. There's manifestation is all about like think about, you bring about in your life, your thoughts can create your new reality. And that is a small part of it for sure. But what nobody talks about is becoming that person right now. What habits, what behaviors and do you need to change to become that rich bitch part of you? You know, and there's certain things like you know, when you travel, upgrade, upgrade to Economy Plus or Business Class or First Class because you are rewiring your identity to become a rich person. So you're gonna have to take risks and you know, act as if you are that person right now and tap into that version of you. You know, throughout the day, hypnosis really is powerful. And one of the this is more of an advanced hypnosis. This is more an advanced technique just to program my mind. I'll just, I'll just sit for five minutes or even 10 minutes in the morning at night, and I act as if I'm already her, who has everything she wants, who is traveling the world, who is making multiple five figures as a high-paid sought-out speaker. Um, and I act as if, and I just I can see it and hear it and feel it, and I embody that every single day. I prime my mind, my subconscious mind, to become her. And when the closer I become her, I can feel my higher self saying, Yes, this is actually who you are, Jen. And it allows us to edge out fear and it allows us to edge out the voices that tell us less than. So, how do you connect with that higher part of you? Like, well, how do you start? What do you do, Jen? Okay. Well, first, here's a really powerful technique is journaling. And and I know this is like it's kind of weird. You're like, okay, like I start a dialogue and I and I say, higher self, I ask you to come in. The version of you, you could say higher self, future self, whatever words you want to use. I say, come in right now. I ask you to come in closer. And as I'm as I'm journaling, and you could even say, journal whatever your thoughts come in, be like, okay, this is weird. Jen, give me this assignment. I don't know what I'm doing. I'm just gonna try this out and just say, Well, apparently you are my higher self. You have everything that I desire, you have all the answers. Um, I know that you're connected to source or God or energy, and I know you're here with me right now as a guide. And I'm seeking your guidance right now. And so I'm just gonna try this out and let's have a conversation. So you want to start out asking yes or no questions. Make it simple. Be like, are you here right now? Are you really my higher self? And just notice how your body says yes or no. And you can have a dialogue as you're writing, okay? I know, I know this is a little bit outside of the maybe your comfort zone, but you can just say, hey, how are you, higher self? And then you can feel kind of an answer come through and just go with it. Just trust yourself, okay? Even if you think this is weird. And then you can say, Well, this is where my business is. You know, I'm doing content, I'm doing this, and I'm actually thinking about doing YouTube. You can even be specific like that and just say, how is YouTube something that is aligned with me? And you'll hear a yes or no. Um, if you're thinking about naming something, ask about the name. If you're not clear in your messaging, start journaling and be like, this is my messaging, this is what I'm thinking about, I just don't know. If you are my higher self and have all the answers, what would you tell me right now? And most likely you'll probably hear stop, like just stop it. Like, stop getting over to overthinking, trust yourself. You might hear that wisdom coming through. So, in a way, you are having a dialogue with yourself back and forth, but if you stay with it, I'm telling you some wisdom, some inner knowing, some truths are going to come through it. Okay, you just got to trust the process. Sometimes when I'm walking, like if I'm walking on my walking pad, my treadmill, because I'm connecting to my body, sometimes I'll speak out loud to my higher self and be like, what am I not seeing right now? What why am I not clear? And then sometimes I'll get an answer. So I want you to try this. Okay, lean in and try it. Okay. If you are getting frustrated with yourself and you're like, Jen, I don't know what you're talking about, because you're allowing your ego to get into the way, get in the way. Your ego is probably like, this is stupid. What are you doing? Stop it. Just get quiet and keep journaling. Okay. Another tip is at night, before you go to bed, before you go to bed, I want you to say this subconscious mind, source, spirit, God. I say my subconscious mind always. Tell me tomorrow, tell me in the morning, I am seeking this answer to this question. Ask your question. Be like, I don't know what this is supposed to be called, or I don't know what to do next in my business, but be more specific. Like, I don't know. Should I do a workshop? Should I like I don't know? Bring me the answers tomorrow. Or should I have a conversation with this person? I am feeling this way and I'm not clear. Bring me the answers tomorrow. I'm telling you this, this is like magic. It works every freaking time. But here's the thing you have to let it go and allow it to come through the next day. And it will come through in different ways and different signs. Okay, you gotta pay attention. Sometimes it the answer comes through a friend. You're just talking to a friend, all of a sudden you're like, oh my God. It came through. Sometimes you're journaling, it will come through. You can't force this. Sometimes you'll hear it through a song. You'll hear it through you're just listening to somebody on a podcast, and the answer comes through. Sometimes it's through an email. Just don't attach. Allow the answers to come through. Sometimes it takes a couple days, but I'm telling you, it works every single freaking time. When I am not getting clear, I go to the source. And the source is my connection to something higher and bigger than me. My higher self, my spirit guides, God, angels, spirit. Okay. They are there to support you always. And we don't tap into this enough. And I've used this for my business so many times, like, oh my gosh, I have received names of my program. I have received names of my podcast. I literally have received genius ideas through my connection to source. And it's, and I just trust it fully. And it is a strategy I use in my business over and over again. So lean into this, lean in with curiosity, even if you're skeptical. Try it for a week, journal, have a conversation with your higher self. But the most important thing, you have to listen. And listening is receiving. And you may receive, you may get a sensation in your body. You might hear something in your in your mind, a different voice. You may feel it through music, through inspiration. Just be open. How the universe, how spirit is going to deliver you this information, you gotta let go of that and just trust the freaking process. So, my intention was for you to receive something a little bit out of the box today to help you get the clarity that you need, especially if you're stuck. I've used this for years. So I'm curious to know and come back and tell me and share with me through an email or share with me on these notes. Um, let me know how this is gonna work for you. Other than that, my friends, I will see you next week. Bye. Well, thank you for listening to I Love Your Energy Bitch. If this episode spoke to you, hit subscribe, leave a review, and share it with somebody who would need this message today. And if you're ready to take your visibility and confidence to the next level, grab my free five day challenge, The Courage to Be Seen, and you'll find the link in the show notes below. I'll see you in the next episode.