Let’s Talk About Words: The Power of Words

For generations, men have been raised to stay quiet about what we feel. We were taught to suppress our emotions, to push through pain, and to avoid expressing what we’re truly going through. As a result, many men today are limited in their emotional vocabulary — not because we lack depth, but because we were never given the words.

At the same time, language has evolved. Communication has become sharper, louder, and in many cases, more destructive. Words now build platforms — but they also break relationships. In homes, in dating, in marriages, and in our communities, the way we speak to one another is shaping the health of our connections.

In this episode of Inside Da Man, we unpack the power of words. We talk about the modern man and his struggle with expression. We talk about the modern woman and the impact of her language. And most importantly, we discuss how we can restore communication — bringing intentional, life-giving words back into our relationships, our communities, and our everyday living.

Because words don’t just describe our world — they create it.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:03

I want to talk about words. If you've been following Inside the Man podcast, I'm careful in the words that I use and that and the words that I say. Because I believe that life and death is in the power of the tongue. Life and death is in the power of your choice of words. The words that we speak will either give life or cause destruction. And in the world that we live in now, a lot of people are using the words to cause destruction. Our words are not given life anymore. It's destruction. Even when you are on social media, you're typing. That's words. So the words that we use are very important. How we use them, when we use them. You know, this is inside the mind. Women, I need you to understand that words affect men a lot. Now, words affect women, but I find that at a very young age, women are being taught to use their words, express themselves. If you don't like something, say you don't like it. So the women are being grown to use their words. And that's why you have a lot of women. Not all, but a lot of women are using their words to create chaos, to cause destruction. But you have a lot of women that are using their words to give life as well. So one side is causing destruction, and one side is giving life. But you need a balance. Whereas the man, men, boys were taught at a very young age, don't express ourselves, don't share your feelings, don't be vulnerable. There's a side of you that you need to lock up, there's a side of you that you don't express to the woman. Because if you express yourself, she will use it against you. In some cases, that's true, but in most cases, that is not true. So you have a lot of women that are married to men that are not expressing themselves. That is not opening up to the woman. He's not sharing his feelings, he's not being vulnerable. And so now when there's an argument, the woman is expressing herself. She wants to know what you're saying, she wants to know what you're thinking, she wants to know how you feel. But you remain silent, you're not saying anything. And so, because you're remained silent, men, she's now internalizing things, she's having conversations on her own, she's having conversations with her girlfriends, with her family. What is this man thinking? What is this man doing? He's not saying anything, and so now she's reading your emotions, she's reading your actions, she's reading your reactions, and so she's coming to her own conclusion because you're not talking, because you're not saying anything. It is not the fault of the woman, men, the reason that you are the way that you are. No, we were groomed this way, not to share our feelings. A man don't cry, a man don't open up to the woman. I've seen videos on social media of men that are married that are saying that he has not opened up to his wife. I've seen a video with Shaq, the basketball player, say, no, you don't open up to women. No, you don't share your feelings. If you're going through something as a man, you have to keep it inside. You have to keep it ball up. If you're going through hard times, difficult times, if you're having challenges, you don't open up about it. You don't share with your family, you don't share with your spouse. This is something that you have to deal with as a man. That's a lie. So, what is the purpose of the woman, men? To give you kids? Intimate time? Clean the house, take care of the kids? Is that your view of the woman? Is that the reason you ask her to leave her mother and her father to be with you? Believe it or not, a lot of men, that's what they're doing. They're asking the woman to leave her mother, her father, to join him, to have kids, to support the family. But when it comes to the most important things, what's inside the man, inside the man, you want to keep it to yourself. You don't want to share it with her. And but we are we are in an era now where men, where your silence is not good enough for the woman. She wants more than your silent. She wants to know what you're thinking, how you're feeling. If you're sad, talk about it. She wants to see you cry. Now, men, it's very important. I'll say this that you open up to the woman. But you have to ensure that the woman you open up to, she can handle everything that you will give her. She can handle your feelings, your emotions, your words, your expressions, your heart. I find a lot of men are opening up, but they have opened up to the wrong woman, or they open to the woman before it's time, before she can handle it, before she's mature enough to handle, to receive what you are given. And so I find a lot of men they open up to the wrong woman. And because they open up to the wrong woman, they have vowed that they will never open up to another woman again. And that's why you have men that are married now that is refusing to open up to their wives. And they are losing their wives, they are losing their family because they are because they have decided they have made a vow that they will never open up to another woman. Tell you the truth, man, a lot of women have realized this. A lot of women are walking away. You know, society and the world and the culture have made it made us to believe that the woman is leaving because of things. She's leaving because the man is not providing, is not making enough money. It's no. A lot of women are leaving because the man is not opening up. Because we were raised by men, by our fathers, our grandfathers, great-grandfathers, men that have been broken in the past. And because they have been broken, they are going on social media and saying these are the things you should not do because the woman that I entrust my heart to has hurt me. But they're not telling you that the woman that they opened their heart to, she was not ready. And because she was not ready to receive what I am given to her, she has abused it, misused it, and refuse it. Because she was not ready as yet. He's not saying that on social media, but he's saying that the woman has heard him, the woman has refused him, the woman has rejected him, the woman has taken everything that he has. But he's not telling you why. I'm not here to blame anyone. I'm saying that men, the way that we've been raised to not talk, to not express ourselves, to not share emotions, to keep it inside. Do you know what happens when you keep it inside? Do you know what happens when you keep hurt inside? Offense? Unresolved hurt? Unresolved trauma? The best way to put it is like a cancer. There's no treatment for it. But the doctors can give you drugs to manage it for a certain period of time. Until the cancer explodes. The cure is to talk about it. Here's the disclaimer ensure that the woman, she's at the level to receive you. She's mature enough to receive you. See, she's mature enough to take what you've given her. And not say to herself, he's talking about me. And not take it and reuse it and weaponize it. You, as the man, you have the power to determine if the woman that you're with, she can handle it. She will protect you, she'll create that peace. You know, a lot of men on social media saying, I'm looking for peace. I want peace. I want peace. They don't know how to create an environment to receive peace. Or better yet, they don't know what peace looks like. What is peace? Peace comes when you, as the man, open up. Open your heart, open your mind, be vulnerable. Because in the process of you opening up, the woman will see this guy has opened up to me. Now, what do I do with the things that he has given me? If she is mature enough, she will take that, she will protect it, she'll give you the peace that you need and desire. But if she's not mature enough, she'll take it, she will weaponize it, she will reject you, she'll belittle you, she'll take advantage of you. You, as the man, you have the power. You have the power, you determine what the woman does. Now, in a lot of cases, men, you will find a woman that's still going through her healing. And because she's going through her healing, you have to use wisdom and how much information that you give her. But in the process of opening up, especially if she was hurt by another man, then you, as the man, has the opportunity to create an environment where she can heal. But in the process of creating an environment, you have to open up. You have to, especially if it's in the area of trust, you have to open up so so that she can determine if she will trust you again. Talking about words. So, men, words are important to us. But we have to find ways to express ourselves, to release those words. And in the process of opening up, then we will heal. You have a lot of men that are broken. They have, and men, we we are so we are so intelligent that we can seal the hurt. Because of our intelligence, we can seal the hurt, we can hide it, we can mask it. There are men that are great, but internally they're broken. Internally, a woman have never seen the inside of him because he was hurt in the past, because he was hurt when he was 13, because he was rejected when he was 12. And so that rejection has been passed on. When he's 30, when he's 40, when he's 60. His children, the boys in his family, the men, his child, his son, he will pass it on to him. And his son will pass it on to his son. That's three generations of hurt. So you women, you have a lot of men now. They have been hurt three generations ago, and so layers and layers. So, men, the longer you'll take to deal with your trauma, with your hurt, rejection, the more likely you will pass it on to your children, to your sons, to your daughters. And they will pass it on to their children. Generational trauma, generational hurt, generational rejection. Men, we are the key. We are the key, we are the source. So for every problem, we have a key. For every situation, we have a key. For every trauma, there's a key. For every rejection, there's a key. For every love, there's a key. We are the key. If the woman is traumatized, we have a key for it. If the woman has been hurt, if the woman finds it difficult to trust again, we have the key. If the woman has been abused by men, you have the key. We are the key. We are the key men. And that's why I've said this numerous times. My spiritual father, he said, if the marriage collapse is because of the man. If there's issues in the marriage, in the family, with the kids, it starts with the man. The man is the leader, the man is the key. So men, any woman that you determine is difficult in your eyes, you have the key. Chances are she's the way that she is because she was hurt by another man. You are the key. Remove the word provider and replace it with the key. Society have said that you're a provider. But once you provide, you're realizing the woman is still hurt. The woman is still traumatized. The woman still does not trust you. But I'm providing, I'm taking care of the home, I'm working three, four jobs. So the question is, is she really looking for a provider? Now, most women will tell you she's looking for a provider because that's what she was told. It has been imprinted in her mind that she's looking for a provider. You need a provider. You need a man that can provide, that can take care of you, that can pay for your nails, manicure, pedicure, that can take you shopping, that can take you on trips. It has been imprinted in her. But here's the truth, man. But a lot of women will not tell you. Or we are realizing there's a lot of women that have all of those things, but they're still unhappy, they're still hurt, they're still broken, there's still rejection, there's still trauma. Because it's not about providing. And because now we're realizing the woman can provide for herself. You have a lot of women that have the cars, have the houses, have the businesses, are making millions. But a lot of them are unhappy. The things that society told her that a man should provide for her, she's providing those things as well. But she's realizing that she's not being fulfilled. So there's something wrong with the man. Then there's something wrong with me. Because I'm not being fulfilled. It's been imprinted in the man. You have to provide. So the man is confused. Now I'm providing, I'm doing those things, but she's still unhappy. Men, it's not about provision. You are the key. Our duty as men is to unlock the woman.

SPEAKER_00 16:28

She's hurt, she will lock up.

SPEAKER_01 16:30

If a man breaks a heart, her father breaks a heart, she will lock it up. If there's trauma, childhood trauma, relationship trauma, physical trauma, physical abuse, she will lock it up and move on. The woman was designed to lock up things. If you open up to a man and he hurts you, lock it up, move on. He's not worth it. Do you so she was programmed to lock up as well. So men, we are the key. As she locks things up, your responsibility, your duty as the man is to find that key to unlock it. She's been rejected in the past. How do I what key can I use to unlock it? Now, here's one key that you that that will never fail you, men. Love. Because we are instructed to love the woman as you love her. That's a key to unlock. Okay, she's been hurt in the past. How do I love her? Because love will give you different forms of keys. There's no one key to love. Love has multiple keys. She's been rejected. What type of love can I use to unlock it? She's been hurt. What type of love can I use to unlock it? She has been abused by men, men in her life. What key, what love can I use to unlock it? She has been rejected. What key can I use to unlock it? She's been hurt. What key can I use to unlock? So one of the keys is love.

SPEAKER_00 18:34

Because men, we are the key.

SPEAKER_01 18:37

But society is telling us there's something wrong with the woman. You can't please the woman. There's nothing you can do to satisfy her. That's a lie. We are the key. If the marriage fails, it's because of the man, because the man is the key. Let me break it down for you. We were told that, and a lot of men say this. A lot of men, especially men that have been divorced, that are married, has been saying this one thing. I am the head of the home. I am the leader of the home. I am the man of the home. What do you think that means, men? When you declare that you are the head of the home, when you declare that you are the head of the home, when you declare that you are the man of the home, when you declare that you are the provider, what you're saying is, I am the leader. I am the leader of the home. I am the leader of the family, I am the leader. What do leaders do? Leaders lead.

SPEAKER_00 19:45

If you're going to war and there's no leader, the men, the soldiers, will go astray.

SPEAKER_01 19:57

The soldiers will run. The soldiers will not fight. If there's a leader, even if the leader is weak, the men will follow that leader. Now, if the leader is weak, there's only so far they can go. But if you have a strong leader, the soldiers will die for that leader. Because we are leaders, because you are the leader. If the marriage fails, it falls on the leader. You're declaring that you're the leader.

SPEAKER_00 20:30

If the children are always in problems, it falls on the leader. If the woman cannot fulfill her dreams, it falls on the leader.

SPEAKER_01 20:44

If the family is being tormented by the enemy, it falls on the leader. You declare that you're the man of the home. You are the provider. You are the leader. If the leader is weak, the family is weak. If the leader is weak, the marriage is weak. If the leader is weak, the children are weak, it falls on the leader. If you go to war as a leader and you're not present when the soldiers are fighting, you will lose the war. Because it's the leader that determines if you will win the war or not. It's the leader. Now there are some wars that you will lose. That means you'll face a leader that is stronger than you, that has more tactic, that has more vision, that has more clarity. So that leader will always win. So that means that you, as the leader, you need to get stronger. You need to expand your vision, expand your outlook, expand your words. You are the leader. So men. Stop blaming the woman. I don't care how difficult she is, there's a key for it. And that's why I admire men that love difficult women because they understand if I can break those walls, if I can tear down those walls, I can get through to her. If I can use the right key, I can get through to her. But you have a lot of weak men that want strong women, but they don't know how to lead. They don't know the keys. They don't know how to open her up. They don't know how to soften her. Those are weak men. And so the onus is on the woman as well. Because women, you know, you know when a weak man is approaching you. Why give him the time? Because he looks good, he dressed good, he has the money. Wolves and sheep's clothing. So, women, do your due diligence. I also say the woman has to confirm the man, and the man has to confirm the woman.