42. From Scripts to Swaddles: Actress Emily Bolt's Take on Balancing life in Hollywood and Motherhood

Discover the multifaceted world of Emily Bolt—actress, mother, and podcast host—as she joins me to share her captivating journey from the Midwest to the spotlights of New York and Los Angeles. Emily's stories, offer a rare glimpse into the tenacity required to juggle auditions, gigs, and the tender joys of motherhood. Our conversation peels back the curtain on the actor's life, revealing the emotional weight of balancing career aspirations with the reality of raising a young family, and the serendipity behind meeting her creative partner and husband.

As we discuss navigating the landscape of the entertainment industry together, Emily and I delve into the topics of body image and postpartum expectations that many women face—challenges that are amplified under the glaring lights of showbiz. Our heartfelt momversation underscores the profound influence our children have on our perceptions of self-worth. Listeners will find solidarity in our shared experiences and the affirmation that maintaining personal and professional identities doesn't just require talent; it demands courage and a supportive community.

To lighten the mood, we wrap up with an engaging discussion about the quirks of parenting boys and the transformation of our homes in response to our growing families. From converting a nursery into a personal sanctuary to the simple, powerful love that fills a parent's heart when watching their child sleep, we celebrate the small victories and cherished moments that unite us as parents. Tune in for an episode that weaves together the threads of artistry, resilience, and the laughter that comes with raising a spirited brood.

(02:04 - 03:13) Following Passion in Acting and Swaps
(05:52 - 06:52) Couple's Podcast and Movie Experiences
(10:51 - 12:09) Pregnancy and Acting Opportunities
(15:51 - 16:49) Timing of Auditions for Acting Jobs
(19:51 - 21:27) Body Image and Motherhood
(25:25 - 26:43) Challenges of Parenting During Zoom Auditions
(35:22 - 36:17) Choosing Middle Schools and Parenting Perspectives


You can follow Emily on Instagram at @mommywoodpodcast or listen to her podcast Mommywood where ever you get your podcast. 

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Transcript

00:09 - Katie (Host)
Hello, hello and welcome back to the Burt Pancakes podcast. I am your host, katie Fenske, and, like always, I'm here to remind you that everyone burns their first pancake. On today's conversation, I am sitting down with Emily Bolt. She is an actress in film, tv and commercials and she's also the host of her own podcast, mommy Wood. She is the mom to one-year-old May and she is going to talk to us all about what it's like being in the industry and how becoming a mom has changed things and what it was like navigating being an actress as a mom. This is such a great conversation. I had so much fun chatting with her and I think you're going to love this mom conversation. Emily, welcome to the podcast. Thanks for having me. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. We've had this book for about a month and I've been so excited to talk to you because this is an area I have no idea. I don't know anything about acting, so I'm so excited to hear about this. Why don't you start off telling me just how you got started in the business? 

01:13 - Emily (Guest)
Well, I kind of just grew up in the arts. My mom was my high school drama teacher, my sisters did it. My parents actually met doing a musical in college. Oh my God, that's so cute. Yeah, I've been surrounded by it, but growing up in the Midwest I'm from St Louis originally, so it never really it seems like a hobby. I didn't have any people to look up to, to be like, oh, it's an actual job. Until my sister pursued it. She was on Broadway and I was like, oh okay, and she's six years older. I just never really wanted to do anything else. 

01:56
I just never really thought about it. I don't know if it's more delusional, but I love that. 

02:03 - Katie (Host)
I love that. You've just always known that that's like your passion. 

02:07 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, I'm so lucky that my parents were always so supportive. I was talking recently that I was like they were never, like this is going to be hard, or like you know what are you going to do for actual money? 

02:24 - Katie (Host)
Yes, oh, I do love that. 

02:26 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, so most people don't get that. So that was really nice. So I got my BFA in acting from Missouri State University and after I graduated I went on tour with a children's theater for like a year and then I moved to New York because it was either there or Los Angeles and my sister was in New York. So I was there for only about a year and a half and I ended up swapping apartments with a friend who lived in LA for like a month. So he took my apartment in New York and I took his in Los Angeles, and then we both essentially ended up staying in the other cities. Well, that worked out well. Yeah, yeah, I really did. There was a about 10 months in between where I moved home to save up to move out here. 

03:22 - Katie (Host)
LA is not cheap. 

03:23 - Emily (Guest)
La is not cheap, oh, ma'am, I think the only place more expensive might be New York. I think it all balances out, I guess. But yeah, so I've been out here now for, oh gosh, 11 and a half years, 12? Something like that yeah, so it's been a while. So, yeah, moving out here I just started the hustle and I was nannying and then I started teaching and Did you ever waitress? 

04:01 - Katie (Host)
They always say, actors waitress. 

04:03 - Emily (Guest)
I didn't, I was a hostess. I did that and while I was saving money in St Louis to move out here, I was hostessing, actually, at John Goodman's restaurant in St Louis and they were like, do you want to be a waitress? And I was like, I guess, because if I need to do it, if I move to LA, nobody's going to train. 

04:30 - Katie (Host)
I don't have my experience. 

04:32 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, so I was like I guess. So I was terrible. If I had more than two tables, forget it. I was like I can't take it. There was one point where I, like went up to one of my tables and I was like, huh, it's been a while and they don't have food yet and I was like, oh, I forgot to order it. 

04:51 - Katie (Host)
I didn't know, I would think you would have been good at like memorizing orders, though, because you're good at like memorizing lines. Were you the type that like wrote it down, or oh yeah, because I used to work at Olive Garden and I was like like, oh, you want an extra pack of sugar. 

05:06 - Emily (Guest)
Okay, I'm writing that down too, and I didn't have like the. 

05:08 - Katie (Host)
What is it called? Like the shorthand? It would be like extra pack of sugar. 

05:13 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, yeah, especially because I only did it for maybe a few weeks or a couple months even, I don't think very long, but I was like you better quit your day job. Yeah, I was like I can bring you to your seat and then I'm out, because I think it was just I knew I was like, I'm so not invested in this, and if you don't care about something and you're not in it for the long haul, then it's like yeah, done Okay. 

05:41 - Katie (Host)
Okay, so you're in LA. How long? Because I know you're married and have a child. Now, how long did you act or pursue acting before she arrived? 

05:52 - Emily (Guest)
Um well, I really lucked out and met Preston, my husband, like two months after I moved here. 

05:59 - Katie (Host)
No way. Yeah, I know I listened to your episode of I think you called it like moms versus dads oh, you guys are the cutest. I like keep begging my husband, like come on my podcast, Like, and I'm like I think I need you to listen to that one because they're really cute, Like can we sound like them? We also have a podcast together called I didn't know that I've only heard of mommy would, which is your podcast podcast together it's called what's your movie. 

06:28 - Emily (Guest)
And it's just we did this actually when we first started dating. We would put. Each of us would pick Like 10 movies that I really like, that he hasn't seen, or that he likes, that I haven't seen, and they're just because you're like what movie do you want to watch? So we just take it out of a hat and so now we pick it out of a hat, but if I haven't seen it, I have to guess what it's about. Oh, how cute, so embarrassing, because I'm so fun, so far off, and he Majored in film, so he like knows when did he go to school? Where did he go to college? He went to your UC Irvine. Oh, my god, that better be right, or I'm gonna be. 

07:12 - Katie (Host)
That's right in my neck of the woods, I'm right in down in orange, yeah. But my husband majored in film also, so he like when we see a movie I'm like, oh, that was good. And he's like, well, the way that this character developed is, and I'm like yeah only different than how I saw the movie. 

07:29 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, he's from Orange County. So when I got out here, a friend that I had trained with for that children's theater years before, she reached out and was like hey, do you want to be in this web series that I'm writing? And I was like, great, yeah. And then he was. He went to school with her and he was doing the, the cinematography for it. So we met on set and then the rest is history, and now you have a daughter. 

08:05
Yes, and then May was born. My daughter's name is Marion. After my grandma, we call her May, and she was born June 16th 2022, so she's still pretty new. 

08:20 - Katie (Host)
So she's just over a year, right? Yeah, she's a year and a half. Oh, you're in the thick of it. That I always felt, like when they started moving, until about. Well, my youngest is foreign, he's still hard. Yeah, so once they start moving, it's hard, but like you go to the park and you're on death watch because they, like, will just jump off of everything, mm-hmm. 

08:43 - Emily (Guest)
No fear, she starts like climbing on our couches. Now this chair that I'm on she gets. 

08:48 - Katie (Host)
I'm going on and being like yeah, and I'm like this is the age of like bonking their heads and having bruised shins and yeah, that's hard. 

08:56 - Emily (Guest)
Can you not like it's so Hard, and I do wish that when she was younger I would have. I mean, I Guess not because she never got sick until recently, but I wish, I kind of wish we would have like taken her more places, so easy, just having her in the car seat. Yes, I wish we would have eaten out more because they're impossible at that age. 

09:22 - Katie (Host)
Yeah, yeah, so now she's like that easier it does like my youngest can buckle his own seat belt now like oh yeah. Yeah, it's easier, but yeah, you're in the thick of it. Okay, so how was it like being in the industry and being pregnant? Like, did you have to pass up roles, did you? 

09:41 - Emily (Guest)
um, I didn't. I actually that was one of the reasons I started mommy would, because, you know, I just Always wanted to be a mom and I was like I guess I'll, I'll be a mom eventually. But the fear of being an actor and being a mom was so like Wait, am I gonna have to take off like two years? I'm like gonna have to Turn this down, like what am I gonna do? Like how am I gonna work? How am I gonna? All of these questions, which is why I started mommy would. But, um, but actually while I was pregnant and I told my reps and they were all Very supportive I mean, how can you not be? 

10:24 - Katie (Host)
California law, like they have to be. 

10:28 - Emily (Guest)
They were without that beating yes and and so I really just Kept auditioning for everything. There wasn't really anything I was going for. That being pregnant would have Like made it made a difference, like I'm not going out for like stunt stuff. 

10:51
Cycles yeah, yeah, and early on I didn't really have to say anything, but I started showing. Surprisingly, most people say they don't show their first pregnancy until like Six months, and I was like 12 weeks. I'm out of here, like you can tell, yeah, so so I had to like Make it known pretty early on. But I actually ended up getting my husband and I booked our first network co-stars together on young Okay yeah, because I was pregnant, which like in the Like the doctor's office and it was the two of us together and it was, and it was so fun, it's like really pregnant and everyone on set kind of realized like, oh, you're really pregnant. 

11:46
Oh, you two are really yes, I would love to like, keep that scene and show my daughter later like, oh, look it you were in this Great and it was so funny because, like anytime they would yell action, she would start like kicking around and I was like, oh, okay, that's one of my questions I was gonna save to the end. 

12:06 - Katie (Host)
Would you let me get into acting, you know? 

12:10 - Emily (Guest)
we're actually going through this right now with our reps because Of course, right now there's like a new Site for actors to put their stuff and submit themselves and I'm like, does there have to be another one setting up? We're setting up our profiles and we do get auditions for her and we've decided we told our reps we're like, well, I don't want anything really just for her right now, because she's not really making that choice. But I'm like I'm fine if we do something together as a family, as long as it's Union, like I don't want to put her on a non-union set just for, you know, safety and all that, and but I think for the time being I mean I understand both sides because we have put her, we've done like her little pictures and stuff like that. But you know, rejection is hard. She hasn't put it. So I mean it would be nice if like yeah, if she would, if she could book things and save money for her and have that, that's great. But I don't want to pursue it for her. 

13:36 - Katie (Host)
I see, I see your like mom gut, your mom instincts, kind of coming in Like if it does change, it changes. But yeah, and then this doesn't feel right right now. 

13:46 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, and then if she's older and like really starts asking for it, I mean then we could talk to our reps about it. But I don't, I mean until like she is really done, I know, but I would never say like don't do it I, because that was right. That's also one of the reasons we, you know, we've talked about. Of course it could be easier, for because my husband's also an actor and of course it'd be probably easier if one of us had, like you know, a nine to five or five benefits. 

14:28 - Katie (Host)
Like yeah, yeah. 

14:30 - Emily (Guest)
But we, like, I think it's so important to show her like this is what we want to do. It's hard, but we want to show her perseverance and, like, go after what you want. Unless it was going to become an actual issue of, like, you know, we can't pay our bills, you know, and we both still have other jobs for sure. But but yeah, I think it's important to show her that perseverance and, as long as you can, you know, keep your head above water and, you know, maintain whatever lifestyle or whatever home style, like whatever. However you want to live, then go for it, do. 

15:28 - Katie (Host)
I love that. It's like follow your passion, because I feel like so many people get stuck in there like nine to five job. I've been doing this Like I was a teacher for 17 years and I decided this is not bringing me joy and it was super hard to leave that. But yeah, like I just needed to like. Also, I don't want my kids to just be like I'm like I'm not going to leave this job, I'll just get this job and this will do till I retire, unless they love that you know. Yeah, Okay, question about audition. So how soon after you audition for something do you start a job? So like, let's say you're pregnant and you audition, Could it be like five months out when you're like I'm nine months pregnant now, or is it pretty quick after? 

16:08 - Emily (Guest)
So different. Usually commercials will be a real quick turnaround. They'll be like we're shooting next week or something. For film it's all. Or I mean sorry, for television it's also usually pretty quick. They'll be like within the week or okay. For film it can be kind. Yeah, it can. Probably wouldn't be like five months, but you never know, because funding or other or yeah, or other people's schedule. So with films it could definitely be different, but for for television and commercial it's usually pretty pretty quick. 

16:48 - Katie (Host)
Yeah yeah, that helps. 

16:50 - Emily (Guest)
And it's been nice to hear that so many women were working and acting while they were pregnant, and because it's like, yeah, as long as you're not in any physical danger, is like any of these characters could be pregnant. 

17:07 - Katie (Host)
Yeah, all women, like it doesn't really matter how was it like having the baby and then did you ever feel pressure to lose the weight to like fit a certain role? Or I mean personally, if I knew a camera was going to be on me right after I gave birth, I'm like like no thank you. Did you feel like I've got to lose the way, like you don't look the same for years after things? 

17:36 - Emily (Guest)
change. Yeah, honestly, I think my mentality of weight shifted so much, maybe even before I was pregnant, but I think, especially realizing I was having a girl and growing up in this industry and like as a woman in life in general, like everything is always like you know, bouncing back or looking good, and I think that culture is yeah. 

18:08 - Katie (Host)
Or like women in their 60s that look better than they did in their 20s, and you're like, oh my God, like okay. I was like, oh, this year I it's just there, it's never going to be wrinkled here. I didn't get much sleep last night, that's why that's here. 

18:26 - Emily (Guest)
I think, like I spent so much of sadly like so much of my life like in the gym and dieting and growing up with that, and like I was never going out for like the hot bikini girl or or like the superhero, so I really didn't need to be like in the best shape. That was all in my head and, and I think, when I think it was, who was it? I want to say Amy Adams, maybe it was somebody else, so, but they said something about like once they realize that like that's not what they are anyway, it puts it took off so much pressure and I was like, oh yeah, like what am I doing this for? And I'm wasting so much time? And also I'm, you know, at the gym every day for an hour or two hour and I'm like and I still don't look like a superhero. So really, what's? 

19:38 - Katie (Host)
And now that I have kids, like an hour at the gym. That's unheard of. Like no, it's a 20 minutes in the garage trying to squeeze in an exercise while they're coming in and interrupting me. That's the reality. 

19:51 - Emily (Guest)
Exactly, and also like knowing that I was having a girl and you know, I don't want to say that it's different for boys and girls, but I mean, I guess it kind of is but I just knew that I didn't want her to see me in any way be like I need to change my body. I think it's important and I'm so glad that I'm like finding figuring this out for myself Now, yes, close to like when I'm 60. Oh, who came like? Yes, we want to feel good, we want to be healthy, we want to be able to play with our kids and like, the vanity side of me, of course, is still like damn, I wish people would be like you've had a baby. 

20:45
No, I have had a baby. I look like I've had a baby and it's fine and like, but, um, you know, yes, there is still that side of me that's like I wish I looked a little bit better, I wish my pants fit a little bit better. But you know, as long as I'm healthy and feeling good, and that's really all that matters and it definitely hasn't, especially now I'm just coming into like I only not only, but pretty much only get like mom roles. 

21:24 - Katie (Host)
Well, that's what I was going to ask you. What is like your? Did you ever play a mom before becoming a mom? 

21:32 - Emily (Guest)
I did, I actually played. I played a mom in a couple commercials, which I was it must have been like before I was 30 and the kid was like nine and I was like I was gonna say because you'd look young. 

21:48 - Katie (Host)
So I'm like I wonder if she's ever played a mom. Oh, how fun. Yeah, I guess you played one since having me. Um. 

21:59 - Emily (Guest)
I don't. I've auditioned a lot, but I haven't no with. I mean especially with the strike and everything it's. It's been sick. 

22:07 - Katie (Host)
I feel like I before becoming a mom, and then, having been a mom, I think I would act it out a little bit differently. I'd be like oh, no, no, no, no, she doesn't have this much makeup on. No, like this is not accurate yeah. 

22:20 - Emily (Guest)
I think that now, when I watch things and I'm like the tele televised, she looked very rested. 

22:29
Yeah, yeah, and I also played. I was pregnant for a role too. I think I think it was another commercial, possibly, but I have a picture it was so long ago I think it was actually right when my sister was having her first son, so that must have been like nine years ago. And at some point I found I found the picture of me being like fake pregnant and then one me being pregnant, and I was like, yeah, one is real. And what is it? Oh, yeah, it was interesting where I'm like, oh, if I, if I only knew it's not, it doesn't just affect your belly. 

23:14 - Katie (Host)
Oh, no, no, your face. My feet grew a half size with each pregnancy and did not go back, so yeah, that was weird to me. 

23:24 - Emily (Guest)
Mine didn't grow until like the very end and then I like some of my shoes fit again and some of them don't, so I'm like yeah, and I would have thought like okay, I'm not pregnant anymore, Don't they like go? Back. 

23:41 - Katie (Host)
Like no, but I'm a half a size and a half bigger than I was before having kids. 

23:48 - Emily (Guest)
Wow. 

23:48 - Katie (Host)
Yeah, I tend to have shoes not so cute anymore. But then like, of course, like with your body, my boys go mom, why is your butt so big? I'm like, well, because I I had to have you inside my body. 

24:01 - Emily (Guest)
So, yes, that's my mom's butt so big. 

24:04 - Katie (Host)
Oh my God. So how has like the career changed since having kids? Cause you were saying you know I audition and I could have like a job next week, but like for me, when I was teaching, it was like childcare was every day. Like this time, with this, it's like do you have a nanny on call? Like what do you do? 

24:22 - Emily (Guest)
Like that's to me that sounds stressful. 

24:24 - Katie (Host)
Oh man, I you bring her with you, Like that's I do From being from being a nanny and knowing how much they charge. 

24:32 - Emily (Guest)
No, ma'am, I did not have a nanny. 

24:35 - Katie (Host)
I will watch other people's kids. 

24:37 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, yeah, I have. I do have a couple of friends that I'll. I'll ask if I, if I need someone and I will, I will offer to patient, do I? 

24:50 - Katie (Host)
hear her in the background. Is that her in the background? 

24:52 - Emily (Guest)
You do. Yeah, she's here. I think he's going to get her in a second. 

24:56 - Katie (Host)
But, totally understand, I guess. 

24:59 - Emily (Guest)
But that's part of the, the pro of having us both like in this industry and both like we're both home right now, yeah, and so if she's crying, he can he can, he can he can. 

25:15 - Katie (Host)
Or like yeah, have you ever had her do that? Like are your additions live or do you record them? 

25:22 - Emily (Guest)
They're usually they're usually self tape. Okay, Unfortunately, Preston has had both of the instances of of having to bring her to an audition once and having her for a live zoom audition or zoom callback. But you know, people are pretty understanding. 

25:47 - Katie (Host)
I feel like it feels worse for us, like I think, oh my God, I can't have my children like pop in. I mean, it's like this life, this that's normal. Like I'm a parent, it's going to happen. 

25:58 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, and one of the things that you realize also is that, like when other people's kids cry, it's not that annoying, no, or not? 

26:08 - Katie (Host)
annoying. I was thinking oh how sweet she's crying in background. Oh my God, like, please get her take her outside. 

26:15 - Emily (Guest)
I know when it's just like you. When it's your own, you get that like, oh, like that gut feeling inside your just body is like yeah you're like I have to do something, I have to do, I have to make a stop, yeah, so. 

26:31
So if she cries when we're like on a zoom or something, it's like I know it's worse for me that it is for anybody else, but I tried to just like let it go. But yeah, but Preston's had to bring her in person because he had like a very last minute audition, so I was already at my, I was already out teaching and he had to bring her and it did not go very well. He didn't get that role. Well, it wasn't even, because it was like a situation where it was like just loud and she was little and so she got like was probably scared or something. And then, but then he had a live zoom callback for something and she was, it was like a war thing. So it was kind of okay that she was screaming and crying, but they couldn't. But I think at the end he was like sorry about that and they were like, oh, we can't, couldn't hear her. He was like oh, okay. 

27:33 - Katie (Host)
You couldn't. Oh my gosh, that's funny. What would be your like dream role If you can envision like you on what is your what? Would it be Television movie. 

27:46 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, I would love to do. I mean, sitcoms are so like far few and far between now, but I would love to be like a sitcom mom, like I mean it just sounds so fun and the schedule, just the schedule of it too. 

28:07 - Katie (Host)
What's a TV schedule? What is that like? 

28:09 - Emily (Guest)
For a sitcom. It's usually like they like do the reads at the beginning of the week and then they only film like one day, like on like Thursday or Friday. So they'll have so do the read and then rehearsals and then film it. But it's usually more of like more of kind of a nine to five, not even. 

28:41 - Katie (Host)
Yeah, a more predictable schedule too. 

28:43 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, so from what I've heard, or like most, you can like be back in time for like bedtime. So because they I think for television it's a lot more like time, efficient, okay, okay. So that would be nice, especially if you can be a Warner Brothers. I'm right here. 

29:06 - Katie (Host)
Like say it all. Okay, we're going to be looking for your face on TV on a sitcom. As a mom Love that. 

29:13
So what is it like? So you're in LA, what is it like raising a daughter there? Because we were actually in LA five years, so my son was almost two when we moved to Orange County. My husband got a different job, so we were up in Mid City. I don't know if you know that area. Yeah, we were there. He was born at Cedar Sinai and I, just every time we go back, I'm like, oh, it seems way harder you have kids up here than it is in Orange County. Now what, what is that? 

29:43 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, why do you think that is? 

29:48 - Katie (Host)
We had a cement little patch for our backyard More space. Yeah, I remember just taking him to Target, like I'm going to get out of the house, I'm going to target. It's literally from our house to. The target was maybe, maybe a mile, but it took us 45 minutes. Then you like Park in the parking structure. When we moved to Orange County I was like, oh my gosh, like you can park in a parking lot and just walk into the store. Everything felt hard to get to. And then, like a kid screaming in the car, I was like, oh my God, this is so hard. Or schools like school. I remember being pregnant and people talking about elementary school. 

30:26
Like they were also pregnant, not like for my older kids, but like hey, we're thinking about doing this charter and I was like he's not even born yet, he's not born yet. 

30:35 - Emily (Guest)
I know I'm, I'm nervous already. I'm like I feel like I should already have them like picked out and like have visited and already applied, because I hear that too. Or it's like you gotta do it like 10 years in advance, and I'm like, oh, before you conceive you need to get on the waitlist. 

30:54
I know that's what I hear. I think maybe it's different because we're in the valley so it does seem a bit it's definitely there's more space. We're like Studio City to Luca Lake area, so there's definitely like we love our neighborhood, like walking around, just walking around. 

31:17
I've met, like some of my best friends, just like walking in your neighborhood, which is great and there's parks nearby and being in this area is really good because nothing is like too far. It's kind of like 20, 20, 30 minutes to anywhere. That access to everything, yeah Far. I forget what your question is, is it? 

31:46 - Katie (Host)
much different than where you grew up. 

31:50 - Emily (Guest)
Honestly, Not really. I mean, obviously I'm in an apartment, so I grew up in a home which now, looking at, I would be like how did you afford this house? 

32:08 - Katie (Host)
But you know, when you get that sitcom gig, you're going to get yourself a beautiful yes, a manifest. 

32:15 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, yeah, and I mean we definitely have enough space to be fine, of course, like I want a home, I want a yard, but yeah, I think besides that it doesn't feel too different from growing up. I do. I do worry about like schooling and because it's like okay, well, I know especially from like nannying and teaching. I know of a lot of schools around, public and private. So I'm like okay, so, knowing about the prices of the private schools, I'm like they're college tuition, like more than college, like it's insane. But then, of course, like just being in America and schools is just everything is scary. I feel like as a mom and just like looking forward to things. That kind of you have to let go of control, which I don't know about you, but I know it's so hard and when it's your own kid, you start realizing, but I want the very best for him. 

33:41 - Katie (Host)
Yes, because, like in our area, we were able to do open enrollment in our district so you can like it's like a lottery system to get into other schools. So for us it was like, well, our local schools not that great, or we heard things about it. So it was just like, okay, we're just going to like, hope for the best and it all worked out. Yeah, you know it's great. But it got to the point where everyone's like why don't we all send our kids to the, our kids to the neighborhood school? Because no one on our on our street goes there, no one in our neighborhood. But it's like but I don't want to be the first one to do it and not have you know. But it was like but it's my kid now, like I could say that five years ago. But when it's my kid, I'm like but I want the best for him. 

34:26 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, I know there's a school near that's like walking distance to us right now and one of my good friends whose kids are older. She was like oh, I actually moved from this zip code to this zip code so I could go to this different school, not the one walking distance. And I was like, oh, I'm in the walking distance. She was like no, it's a fine school, and I'm like, but you move. 

34:56 - Katie (Host)
That's the same with us, like we could walk to our neighborhood school and drive 15 minutes every morning. But it was just like one person said something about the school that I was like, oh, and she was a teacher and I was like, oh, I don't know. 

35:07 - Emily (Guest)
So yeah, exactly, my friend said this one thing about like well, we moved to go to this other school and I was like, yeah, we'll forget that. 

35:17 - Katie (Host)
Yeah, but like here, now we look back at kindergarten, we were like, oh, everything worked out, it's gonna be great. Well, now my nine, almost 10 year old, has two years left and then it's middle school and we're like, oh shoot, we have to do this again. We got to figure out where he's going to go to middle school. Enjoy those baby years, enjoy them. 

35:34 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, because I went to a school like I forget that it's like oh, and then there's middle school and then this, because I went from like first to eighth grade and then you know, can't you all just go to the same school the whole time. Keep them all at elementary, like sending them like but then there are those schools that go from like K to 12, you're like well, they aren't you kind of in a bubble and it's like a million dollars a year, so hard. 

36:06 - Katie (Host)
Well, we're all just doing the best we can. We are, we are, oh well. Okay, this was fascinating because I don't know much about the industry, so I was excited to hear about auditions and so much. Will you tell us how you started? Well, you kind of told us about the mommy would podcast. Can you tell us where we can find that, where we can find you and connect to you? 

36:31 - Emily (Guest)
I am all over the place. Listen to mommy would. Anywhere you get your podcasts you know Apple, spotify. I don't know where else people listen to them, but those are the two that I know like. 

36:45 - Katie (Host)
When I like send it off to the directories, I'm like, sure I'll send it off to the directories, but I'm like Apple and Spotify. Those are the only two. Those are the ones that are great yeah. 

36:54 - Emily (Guest)
And then on Instagram and tiktok, just at, mommy would podcast. 

36:59 - Katie (Host)
Awesome. Oh well, thank you so much for coming on. This was so fun, thank you, and I love your background. Thank you, it's actually my sons, so this was like the nursery. When he moved out, I was like this is becoming my girly room because I have three boys. Some space, that's like early. So this is like the gross closet. It was like beige walls and I'm like I'm just going to put a bunch of pictures behind me that are like it looks awesome. 

37:28 - Emily (Guest)
I love it. Yeah, my favorite. 

37:32 - Katie (Host)
Hello girly zone. 

37:34 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, yeah, you're thinking that three boys, oh boy. 

37:39 - Katie (Host)
I'm going to cry for me, pray for me. 

37:44 - Emily (Guest)
They are. 

37:46 - Katie (Host)
When they're sleeping, I'm like they're in each one. Like the other night I went and took pictures of them and I'm like how can they be like, how can I be so frustrated with them? And then at night I'm like I just love you so much, like you're so huge. 

38:00 - Emily (Guest)
Yeah, as soon as they go to sleep, and then you watch them on videos and yeah please, for the love of God, do not wake up. 

38:07 - Katie (Host)
Don't, but just let me look at all these pictures I took of you today. Yeah, yeah, it's crazy, it's fun, it's fun. Well, thank you for coming on. This was so fun, of course thank you for having me.