This Is Too Much

Dismantling Perfectionism w/ Dr. Jen

February 06, 2023 Andrea Season 1 Episode 2
Dismantling Perfectionism w/ Dr. Jen
This Is Too Much
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This Is Too Much
Dismantling Perfectionism w/ Dr. Jen
Feb 06, 2023 Season 1 Episode 2
Andrea

Welcome to Episode2! 
Today we are dismantling and lifting the veil off perfectionism with the amazing Dr. Jen! Dr. Jen and Andrea both grew up self-identifying as perfectionists. The two bond quickly over their shared emotional experience and all that entails ! 
 
In this Episode we talk about:

  • What is perfectionism?
  • Can we pinpoint where perfectionism comes from? 
  • Intra-personal trauma and its impact
  • High functioning anxiety   
  • Why it's "easy" to internalizing low self worth
  • Trauma as an experience that ruptures a just-world belief
  • The pressures "children of immigrant's" face
  • Integrating “perfectionism as an identity” 
  • Perfectionism as a coping mechanism. 
  •  Maladaptive coping mechanisms
  • Why showing up as "too much" is not always our fault 
  • Self image obsession as a desire for connection 
  • Perfectionism getting in the way of connection 
  • Behavioral experiments that help you get better with your perfectionism 
  • Guilt and perfectionism 
  • Self-forgiveness 
  • Values based living 

Dr. Jen Douglas is a psychologist, coach and speaker on perfectionism in women. She helps individuals and organizations around the world break free from unhelpful personal narratives and societal expectations. Dr. Jen lives in the San Francisco Bay Area where she teaches and supervises fellows at Stanford University School of Medicine. Her online course Freedom from Perfectionism: How to Take Back Your Time and Live a More Authentic Life, can be found here:

drjenniferdouglas.com/courses

Find us on Instagram: 
@DrJenOfficial
@AndreaMLondo

Book excerpt is from "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" by Rick Rubin

Show Notes

Welcome to Episode2! 
Today we are dismantling and lifting the veil off perfectionism with the amazing Dr. Jen! Dr. Jen and Andrea both grew up self-identifying as perfectionists. The two bond quickly over their shared emotional experience and all that entails ! 
 
In this Episode we talk about:

  • What is perfectionism?
  • Can we pinpoint where perfectionism comes from? 
  • Intra-personal trauma and its impact
  • High functioning anxiety   
  • Why it's "easy" to internalizing low self worth
  • Trauma as an experience that ruptures a just-world belief
  • The pressures "children of immigrant's" face
  • Integrating “perfectionism as an identity” 
  • Perfectionism as a coping mechanism. 
  •  Maladaptive coping mechanisms
  • Why showing up as "too much" is not always our fault 
  • Self image obsession as a desire for connection 
  • Perfectionism getting in the way of connection 
  • Behavioral experiments that help you get better with your perfectionism 
  • Guilt and perfectionism 
  • Self-forgiveness 
  • Values based living 

Dr. Jen Douglas is a psychologist, coach and speaker on perfectionism in women. She helps individuals and organizations around the world break free from unhelpful personal narratives and societal expectations. Dr. Jen lives in the San Francisco Bay Area where she teaches and supervises fellows at Stanford University School of Medicine. Her online course Freedom from Perfectionism: How to Take Back Your Time and Live a More Authentic Life, can be found here:

drjenniferdouglas.com/courses

Find us on Instagram: 
@DrJenOfficial
@AndreaMLondo

Book excerpt is from "The Creative Act: A Way of Being" by Rick Rubin