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Navigating Grief: Funerals, Family Drama, and Relationship Realities

• Bobby Frost • Season 2 • Episode 71

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Who really deserves a place in your life and heart when you're gone? Join Courtney Lynn and me, Bobby Frost, as we navigate the emotional labyrinth of back-to-school jitters, homecoming preparations, and the bitter-sweet relief of overcoming physical challenges. We also share our thoughts on the tragic overdose of Rich Homie, reflecting on the phenomenon of posthumous social media tributes and the importance of maintaining respect both in life and death. 


Ever wondered how to handle the unbearable burden of a partner’s infidelity, especially when attending their funeral? Listen as we unpack these heart-wrenching scenarios, sharing personal stories about the exhaustion that comes from constant grieving and the crucial role of friends as emotional anchors. We explore the delicate balance of relationship dynamics, the awkwardness of public grief in the age of social media, and the significance of being acknowledged in a partner’s final moments.

Family dynamics and financial drama can be a nightmare, especially during times of loss. Hear our candid discussions on estate planning, the emotional toll of navigating family affairs, and the complications that arise when dealing with uncooperative relatives. Through our personal anecdotes, we highlight the necessity of proactive financial planning to avoid unnecessary stress and conflict. This episode serves as a heartfelt reminder to maintain authenticity in relationships and prepare for the future, ensuring that love and respect prevail even in the toughest of times.

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Bobby Frost:

Yo yo yo, it's your boy, bobby Frost, and Bobby Frost Media presents Tri-Parency. I am with the beautiful lady Courtney Lynn I almost said just Misty, because I'm always saying hers first. Yeah, I swear I had to catch myself. I'm in my. That's why my eyes are closed. I'm like, oh shit, I almost fucked up. Yeah. But yeah, we just just me and Courtney holding it down. I ain't used to that, we and Courtney holding it down. I know y'all ain't used to that, but we just holding it down. Miss, you got a situation going on and I just say get with it.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, that's it. So what you been on, courtney, nothing really Just really getting in the routine of these kids going back to school, still buying school shit, still getting shit together. Gang started immediately Homecoming finna be next month, so what's grade he in now 11? Mm-hmm, so just I had to break it.

Bobby Frost:

So he one of them, kids that like to do everything like a social butterfly, yeah like me.

Courtney Lynn:

I went to every homecoming, every dance, sadie's, any fucking thing. I went to and I like it. I like it because most boys are not like that. They don't, and he has on. He ain't no boy to be like, I don't know. No, he know what suit he want, he know what he want to look like, he want flyers, he want everything. Yeah, I went to homecoming my 10th grade year and my 12th grade year. Yeah, oh yeah, he went 9th, 10th and this is 11, 11.

Bobby Frost:

Uh, you know I don't know, man, you know what I'm saying.

Courtney Lynn:

Like it, the last year I went because of senior yeah but before then just I went because I was just like but I feel like when people don't go, I met a lot of dudes who didn't go to prom, didn't go to shit, and be regretting it now it's too late.

Bobby Frost:

You don't got no memory I tell the little homies that all the time you know it's at the center, like listen, man, yo y'all don't understand what you're missing, because you're gonna have conversations about prom, homecoming, this and that, and when the conversations come up you just can't say shit unless you're going to lie, to kick it because you ain't get the experience. You only get it once. It's not like you get another prom. You got four shots at a homecoming. It's only one prom. So this is like, even just like if you talking to a chick and you might have been your first time, you know what I'm saying y'all getting together or just your first time.

Courtney Lynn:

Your parents might let you spend a night at the hotel room or something. Some kids don't even get the experience to wear a suit, an actual real suit and be like just sharp and everybody else, like not just Easter and that was when they was kids, but just a young, grown adult in a suit. Yeah, don't even know how to experience that Even a grown man be like. I ain't never worn no suit.

Courtney Lynn:

today, Only time they wear a suit is a funeral court and they be half-dressed in the court or some shit like that and funeral. But if one of their homeboys get married, they be so excited putting on a suit.

Bobby Frost:

You already have you know what, but you got to think about that. If you ain't, I like suits, but you got to have an occasion to wear it.

Courtney Lynn:

Wear it too, and that's the thing you should get the experience in your whole high school year Early, yeah, I ain't been on shit.

Bobby Frost:

I'm just happy, man, I'm finally out that funky-ass cast. I had three of them, was it three or four? I can't remember. It was either three or four of them. Now I'm in the boot and, to be honest, I'm not supposed to be driving with the boot or cash, but I'd rather stay in the cash driving because this boot, this bitch bulky as hell. It'd be hard just fuck the drive.

Bobby Frost:

I drive like I drive a stick shift I know how. So I'll use my left foot to brake and my other foot to accelerate. That's been it. And finishing off this uh college, and that's it back in class. You know I'm saying so. I went there, I just got took out when I got hurt. I couldn't finish my film class up.

Courtney Lynn:

So that was it.

Bobby Frost:

So yeah, man, we're gonna get into the topic. I'm gonna let you talk about the little rich homie. We're gonna touch on that real quick um which part just are dying, or dying and people coming out that's that's. That's the part I really don't know too much.

Courtney Lynn:

Okay, I'm talking funny because I got retainers at the top of my teeth, but For the most part, for the trial. He was just brought up, his name was just brought up in the trial With Woody and Thug or whatever, and Shit, he overdosed, like I don't know if it's a coincidence or somebody sold him some bad shit, but he overdosed, like I don't know if it's a coincidence or somebody sold him some bad shit, but yeah, he overdosed. Um, anywho, but which we all see in everybody's cities, not just ours but everybody else, when people die, all the hoes come out, all the pictures come out, all the text messages come out, all the I love you's and I'ma miss you's, all I love yous and I'ma miss yous. And I mean, I guess if he didn't have respect for his relationships, it's kind of like why should the chicks have respect for it? But it's like if you was a secret and didn't post pictures and didn't do nothing when he was alive, keep that same energy when he did, I get you, I get it, I get it, I get it.

Courtney Lynn:

Like now that he did, it was like, oh, y'all so in love and you posting pictures and granted, like I want to say, overshadowing his baby mama, but it's like she can't even grieve in peace.

Bobby Frost:

Cause here come one bitch, two bitches, three bitches, four bitches, Like yeah, that that's funny, man, that you say that, because I thought about that a while ago. I was just thinking like because I seen a meme about it and I'm like, so I'm going to ask you, how would you feel if your nigga you know what I'm saying nigga baby mama, or it could be a nigga. You could be his baby mama, you could be wife, whatever you could tell me each different?

Courtney Lynn:

if it's a difference was I had. I can say I was one of those chicks who my friend, um, I was talking to wayne. He died during the pandemic yeah me.

Courtney Lynn:

He was talking for a long time and I never post pictures of him and it wasn't because of him. He didn't care if I posted the pictures. It was for my whole safety, like it wasn't. I didn't want people to know who I was talking to. So it wasn't like he told me not to post pictures of a woman. He got a girl or whatever the case may be. It was none of that. But every time we took a picture together he thought it was already on social media. He would go straight to Snap looking like why you ain't post a picture.

Courtney Lynn:

So it was never like I couldn't post no picture of him because of him. It was because I didn't want my niggas to know who the fuck I was talking to, because I was single to everybody, but that was my nigga in my eyes. So when he died I did start posting pictures of him because I'm hurt. That was my nigga, but it wasn't to the fact like I couldn't post pictures of him. I just didn't because we both were single and I was still well. I really wasn't messing with nobody, but I was still talking to people and I ain't want people to know. People knew, but it was like I wasn't finna confirm it for them, but you weren't politicking yeah, like people saw us, we was everywhere.

Courtney Lynn:

People know we fucked with each other, but I did not post pictures because I couldn't. I just didn't. But for the people who do post pictures after a motherfucker die and they couldn't that's a different. I don't know. I don't know what to say about it. I don't have no words on it because I can't understand it. It's like be a secret, you as a secret, then be a secret now.

Bobby Frost:

So I don't know and for me, I'm like you know I was, I always wanted that, because that's, that's a toughie to me.

Courtney Lynn:

I'm like but I know I would be hurt if I'm the bitch that's crying.

Bobby Frost:

That's what that's that's why I asked you that, like if I was the bitch that's crying.

Courtney Lynn:

That's why I asked you that If I was the bitch that was crying everybody know this is my baby daddy, this is who I was with Granted, if I know our relationship be on rocky terms every other month, type shit or whatever the fuck like that but I'd be goddamn the day that he died, the day that he announces that they announced that he's dead. A bitch, come with text message. Bitches come with videos of kissing on her. They out everywhere or whatever like that. I'll just denounce my relationship with the nigga. I don't even got no kids with this nigga. I don't know him Because that shit is embarrassment. That is like secondhand embarrassment. I'm already probably knowing about this bitch, you know, knowing about her. But now this bitch all over the internet and her name is more seen in the internet than my name. Yeah, I don't even have no kids with this nigga.

Bobby Frost:

That's crazy that's embarrassing, I get it. It's funny, man, because I always thought about that. Like you know, I'm saying like damn, how would that go? I ain't never seen it happen, like where I've been a part of it. You know somebody close and it happened. You know I'm saying the closest I've seen with a situation like that.

Bobby Frost:

But I didn't go to funerals. That's why I'm saying I get to see it, because I, after my um, my granddad, died when I was in the um eighth grade. I didn't want to go to my funeral that literally by the time I turned 14 I had been to literally like 12 funerals. I got raised by my so a lot of their cousins and friends was, you know, dying of, you know, getting up at age, strokes and heart attacks, shit like that. So like every year I went to like at least one funeral, sometimes two times. I just got tired of going to funerals. Like you say, suits that's where my suits came from. I always had to get a new suit for a funeral Because I'm growing boy, I'm growing, so I'm growing out the suits. So I just didn't want to go, no more. I had just lost you know what I'm saying my granddad. On top of losing my granddad, my niece had passed and I'm like I don't want to go to no more funerals.

Bobby Frost:

And then, lo and behold, a couple years later, my mom died. So, but I remember. Rest in peace, my nigga Lenny. I just remember, you know what I'm saying. A couple of my older homies saying like yeah, he brought, he brought them out, he brought the females out yeah and I was just and I heard a couple things going on. I'm just, I'm sitting laughing because I didn't get to see nobody reaction. You get what I'm saying? So I could only imagine, because I didn't go to Like, when you sit up in that motherfucking.

Courtney Lynn:

You don't have no control over you, because you can't.

Bobby Frost:

So do you keep grieving at the funeral or do you just get mad and do you start some shit?

Courtney Lynn:

I just feel like the woman in that situation. If you know you dealing with a whore, your nigga's a whore, whether you done called him, seen shit in his phone, like that's always going to play in the back of a woman's mind. I don't know about nobody else's, but in mine, if my nigga died I'm waiting, like I am fucking waiting, like because if a bitch come forth I'm already waiting. That's it, that's what I'm asking.

Bobby Frost:

I know it's hard to say because you ain't going to have the emotion of you hypothetically talking about it, but that's what I'm saying. Like if it happened to you, do you keep mourning, do you fight with the chick, do you say she got to get the fuck out? Like how do you? Well, what's the protocol, etiquette for that?

Courtney Lynn:

But this is why I always double back with saying like I never want to date a nigga that long to where I'm being special guest in nobody's obituary. Because if I ain't this nigga wife like you, single for real, like if you not nobody's fucking wife, you're actually single, he, her, I mean she, his girlfriend, just as well as you. Now if I'm a wife and a bitch come through like I have every right to this funeral, every fucking right. I put this shit together. I'm the one who doing the insurance shit. I'm nah. I would have you got to get the fuck out.

Courtney Lynn:

Security friends, my friends will already know get this bitch, get this bitch out of here. But a girlfriend, what can you really do? You just his baby mama, you ain't do shit. His mama put the funeral together. Like what the fuck? Like you have no title to nothing for real, but a baby mama title. So if a girl do come in here crying and the family really fuck with you or whatever, like that, I mean, well, that's an argument, but if the family don't put her out or whatever, then what you—.

Bobby Frost:

So that's why I'm asking Do you stay there, do you leave?

Courtney Lynn:

I'm already embarrassed.

Bobby Frost:

So you just ride it out.

Courtney Lynn:

I guess Shit you laughing. I don't fucking know. I know I probably would have fought a bitch at a funeral. That's why I asked, because I know, chris, according to you, I've been to fight a bitch but my friends probably would have handled it for me.

Bobby Frost:

Because you're already in emotion, Because you're losing, you know that could be the love of your life.

Courtney Lynn:

My friends would have already seen it coming as soon as if I'm crying because a person at a funeral, your head is not even, you're not even thinking straight. You're just there For me when I lose somebody, I'm not even, I don't know what the fuck is going on around me. So it's, I would say, it's up to my, it's my friend's job to be peeping everything and see everything, because once the we girls, we know who the fuck motherfuckers say your nigga.

Bobby Frost:

that mess with that ain't even on the radar.

Courtney Lynn:

Okay, but when she doing too much crying at this motherfucking casket, they should already be like who the fuck is this bitch, and that's why I think you know, Go ahead and escort her to the left.

Bobby Frost:

I don't know nothing other than maybe not even a wedding. I don't know nothing, probably more sacred than you know, a funeral, this, a funeral. This the last time you're going to actually see this person's body. So you don't want nothing going crazy.

Courtney Lynn:

I just feel like the bitch should have gone to the, what you call that.

Bobby Frost:

The wake.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, take your ass to the wake. Where did you come to the funeral for? Do your mourning at the wake?

Bobby Frost:

Because I can say like I feel like if the roles were reversed, I'm with you. What you just said, roles were that Like if if let's say, uh, we just get, we got together and say we together for a couple of months and you pass, I'm hurt A couple months. No, I'm saying a couple months. What I'm saying like say we didn't move together yet. We could have been dating for a year. We ain't moved together. I feel like that. And then say six months to eight months, you got feelings at that time.

Courtney Lynn:

If you really been locking in and you feeling like building a future. But I feel like eight months or six months, bitches, is still lingering around, kind of like because y'all still really getting to know each other. Whether eight months sound like a long time.

Bobby Frost:

But even with that being said, like even with that, it's still the thing. If this a person that y'all didn't start, really you feeling like you really like them, not you still in this, can something else go wrong. You feeling like, yeah, it's going that way, and then you see somebody else hovering, crying hard, and you was like shit, you know by person three weeks into dating.

Courtney Lynn:

Who the fuck is this bitch?

Bobby Frost:

yeah, and that's what I'm saying. Like you gotta think, because I'm I can't put myself in emotions, but that's why I said hypothetically like you're losing the person you care about or love, and to you grieving like a motherfucker to see another motherfucker start grieving. She hurt, just like you and so do you have the composure to be like.

Courtney Lynn:

I don't.

Bobby Frost:

Ain't nothing wrong with that. That's what I'm saying.

Courtney Lynn:

I don't have the composure For me.

Bobby Frost:

I wouldn't escort nobody, even if you know what I'm saying husband to wife. I wouldn't escort nobody. What I am going to do is and that's just me I'm going to walk out.

Courtney Lynn:

I'm going to tell you, likefucker, that's what's going to make the no, because I feel like a bitch Bitches is known to try to play in a bitch's face. You're not going to be like, oh yeah, I went to that funeral and did my big one. She ain't say shit. I don't know. You're going to be telling this story like I shouldn't have went to that motherfucking funeral because she did me the fuck in. You're not going to come to the funeral. Come to the funeral and sit your ass in the back or the middle, whatever. Pay your respects and walk the fuck on. All that, crying all over the casket, making it known, taking pictures, all that shit. That shit can get your ass whooped.

Bobby Frost:

I'm going to ask you from that point, just saying, if you was talking to a guy and y'all hadn't got serious and you didn't know who or he was talking to, and all that shit like that, and then you realize like wait, this nigga was in a relationship well, if we were talking and it didn't get that serious, I probably wouldn't go to the funeral because it wasn't that serious.

Courtney Lynn:

Like oh damn, it's been a few niggas I didn't talk to out here and they didn't die and it's like, okay, I don't go to no wake or no funeral because it wasn't that deep. Like I don't wish death on nobody. But if we were cool, I'll go to the wake and that be that and I'm not going to no funeral. I'm not a funeral going, motherfucker, unless I fuck with you. Like I don't see how people hop funeral to funeral. Oh, I went to school with that nigga in fifth grade, ain't grade, ain't seen them. Then motherfuckers goes to funerals, I don't. So if I go to your funeral, I fuck with you.

Bobby Frost:

I literally fuck with you, but I'll go to the wake and I'm not finna, it ain't that deep. People just be wanting to be seen and like that's what I'm laughing about, because, like the other thing I'm thinking about, it's a couple things going on because of the topic. It's just a funny topic to me, not the death funny part, but just how shit can go. So, like what if, like I knew, a lot of older cats used to have secondary families?

Courtney Lynn:

that both families didn't know each other about, but they respect. It was the respecting.

Bobby Frost:

So, like in that situation, what if you know you think you fucking with a nigga, you not knowing that you think y'all together and you not knowing he got more history with this person that they've been together with and y'all don't know about each other?

Courtney Lynn:

Okay, I think before the funeral. That's when everybody started figuring out because, granted, if y'all not married, everybody is going to the mother house, granny house, whoever house that you gather at, so that's where motherfuckers would start meeting at before the funeral.

Bobby Frost:

So and then, like in that situation, like if it is a situation like that, how do you handle that? Like you thought y'all was in a relationship and you don't know, y'all my daughter's there's another one, my daughter's godmama just left the funeral.

Courtney Lynn:

I forgot the nigga name who just passed. He was kind of like a big nigga, I don't know. I think he had a heart attack or some shit. His bitch and the baby came His girl.

Bobby Frost:

His wife was there. Wait, a bitch and and a baby. No, it wasn't a baby, it was a teenager. Wait, you saying it was a wife there, then another chick and A teenager.

Courtney Lynn:

Okay, basically, like that's my daddy, they coming to pay, they fucking respects. Like I been going over To the mama house, like that's the baby mama and the child. I been going to the mama house. Like it wasn't the mama house Bitch, that was my house she was coming to. Like she wasn't there then or she was because her family in the tunnel. Like she did stop by, we just didn't tell you to keep you know I'm saying keep you down, keep the static down motherfuckers, motherfuckers, be popping the motherfuckers.

Courtney Lynn:

Be doing what the fuck they be doing like. Because I feel like if you did have a baby by somebody, what bringing a baby to me gonna do? He dead what you think I'm finna, take over.

Bobby Frost:

I was about to say that movie Fences you watch Fences, you never watch Fences. Yeah, it's a funny part of Fences man where a dog died and he found out that she kind of knew it was another chick on the side but didn't know the other chick on the side had a kid what you want me to do with this baby, and she brought the baby to her and she raised it.

Courtney Lynn:

The baby, the daddy, dead. Go on now what you think I'm going to do. If you kept this baby a secret from me this year, kept this child away from me for these many years, keep it a secret more years because he ain't here. Whatever agreement y'all had, that was y'all and it's dead. So I ain't taking no responsibility, because if you was a Not a spiteful bitch, you would've came to me, you and him. I got a baby. This is that Whatever, but y'all hid it from me, keep hiding it. He dead.

Bobby Frost:

You know Cause niggas, niggas get messy too, like I. Like I said, if I was messing with a chick and you know, side nigga, whatever, just say I. I like I said, if I was messing with a chick and you know, side nigga or whatever, just say I wasn't. I didn't know if I was a main nigga or not. I probably, like you said, depending on how deep we are, depending on if I go to the funeral and if we deep enough to go to the funeral again, like you said, if I'm over to the parents house and the family house, you know it gotta be deep, deep. You know what I'm saying. It's some chicks that I knew in the past that I wouldn't necessarily go over the house unless I get invited over, mm-hmm, and I would be like you know what I'm saying If I did. Hey, how y'all doing.

Courtney Lynn:

I'm not going nowhere, I'm not invited to. Yeah, that's why.

Bobby Frost:

I'm saying invited have never lost nobody except for my baby mom, and again, I didn't go to the funeral, so nobody else I knew that I fucked with died. You know, I'll say anybody ever fucked with.

Courtney Lynn:

I feel like the family almost got to kind of like lean on me type of shit, like that's how strong our relationship got to be, like everybody like running through court and like this, like everybody know, like this is my nigga, he was my, like I was his, he was mine, type of shit. But that goes to show I will never be a motherfucker bitch for years If I ain't on no will, no life insurance policy. I'm not doing years with no nigga to be special guest or another bitch get put on special guest on obituary.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, that's tough, I can't do it. You don't even want the obituary, no more.

Courtney Lynn:

Nope. So I just rather not even. I mean, you don't know when a motherfucker gonna die. Granted, you can be a year and a half in, you don't know this nigga gonna die. But I'm just saying for bitches who hang out for age. Now, if I was 20, no, I didn't want to get married then, but at this big age that we're at, I'm not giving a nigga six, seven years of my fucking life to be a special friend.

Bobby Frost:

And then you got the social media part about it too. I know that's embarrassing.

Courtney Lynn:

You're grieving again, and then you look up and such and such, talking about how they felt that they show on pictures, videos of this nigga just on you, like he, on you, like he kissing the bitch.

Bobby Frost:

Like do you get mad at the nigga? They in public.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah. Even though he dead, I be going to see him like bitch, Wake the fuck up. We got some shit to talk about.

Bobby Frost:

Wake the fuck up that got to be tough too, you got to be.

Courtney Lynn:

you going to be all type of emotions. You going to be mad, mad as fuck. To be like fuck him. Then you're going to be crying because that's your kid's daddy or that was just the love of your life, that was your nigga, who you stay with, wake up with, do everything with.

Bobby Frost:

And it's like nigga, you done played in my face this whole time.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, that's tough man Then, like you said, because you feel embarrassed.

Bobby Frost:

Nope, I just deactivate my page.

Courtney Lynn:

That's the best way, I think, to handle you At this point. I haven't seen no blogs or pictures. I only saw one picture, two pictures of him, rich Army Quan and his baby mama Only two. But social media has flooded with the Erika Banks chick and all the other two chicks coming out. Who the fuck is Rich Army Quan's girlfriend? Because it's flooded with these bitches. It's news. Who is this bitch? This bitch, this bitch? So it's like she getting outshadowed.

Bobby Frost:

They say the dead don't know what the living doing. But that'd be crazy. You have to sit back and watch that shit, like boy. You see that shit going down there. Boy, I'm glad never heard niggas doing it, because you know niggas usually gonna try to hold theirs in. That's why I said like if I was in a situation like that and I seen a nigga doing too much, yeah, I'm gonna. Because again, now I know some niggas gonna. They gonna go ahead and flip them up over. They're gonna get the roll in that man. Me, on the other hand, I'm gonna walk out. You're gonna know how I feel. Everybody gonna. I ain't gonna disrupt it, but my I, you know my presence leaving gonna show you I'm disrupting it because I'm just gonna leave up like, yeah, that's it, you know but how I'm gonna be the bad person when the bitch is playing like doing the most to me, like y'all should already know like get hurt before I get mad because you know I'm saying not playing devil advocate.

Courtney Lynn:

That's why now I'm supposed to Right, because why? Who? Just literally like I have never been to a funeral and a motherfucker just hysterical crying oh, that's my baby, that's the but bitch. Come on now.

Bobby Frost:

And you know, like I said, the devil advocate, mr Uzi Player. But like you said on the end, you don't know how deep they connection was or how deep she thought her connection was and it probably was.

Courtney Lynn:

But just like I said, if it was a secret, then be a secret. Now I ain't telling you you can't come pay your respects. Let me not see you, like I been not seeing you, I been not feeling your presence. So now that he dead, you want to make yourself known Like you could have been in the back somewhere or in the front. I wouldn't have had no fucking clue. Yeah, who you was. Grieve like I am.

Bobby Frost:

You don't see me on top of the casket, taking me with you and shit I'm going to have to ask some more females that I know this question right, Because that's funny too. So when the funeral come, do females be looking to see if a motherfucker crying too hard.

Courtney Lynn:

I guess I ain't never been put in that situation, that's why you laughing?

Courtney Lynn:

I've never been put in that situation. Like I said, view his body, but it ain't had nothing to do with his baby mama because he wasn't with her for real or whatever. Like that Me and him was fucking with each other tough, but when he died we stopped fucking. We better stop fucking with each other before he died. But that was still my nigga. So it wasn't like he was. Oh, we were still fucking, we were still doing this. Me and him had been broke up or whatever you want to call it, months before the pandemic or whatever. So it was like that was still my nigga.

Courtney Lynn:

I was hurt, crying, like that was somebody. Like stay the night, wake up, take a shower, go to work, make this man lunch for work, cook for him. Like he did the same shit, like that was my nigga. But I just went to the awake Like I was hurt. I'm going to go to the funeral because I can't see nobody I love. I can't see nobody I love, like that. So that shit was hard for me. Like funerals ain't something I do unless I fuck with you and I couldn't see a nigga that I love dead. Yeah, like he was a good nigga and COVID took you out, like COVID.

Bobby Frost:

You know, I'm just thinking about it because, granddad, it was during the pandemic, you know what I'm saying. They passed around the same time. And just not thinking about laughing because my grandmother already passed, you know what I'm saying. But I'm just thinking like, damn, how would I have felt if I would have seen some old lady coming at a motherfucker during the month? I'd be like, hey man, who is you man? And I can't trip. See, that's the type of person I can't. If granddad had some shit on the side I ain't know nothing about, and some chick came in, this motherfucker With her son, they best not cry as far as.

Bobby Frost:

Can't get mad.

Courtney Lynn:

As far as kids, or being a daughter or a younger daughter or a kid, I would want to talk to the person, cause now I want to know the memories you had with them, like it's like like a never-ending story. I want to know my granddad or mom or dad. What was they like with you? Tell me some stories.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, saying that is crazy man, because speaking on that, not getting too sidetracked, my granddad passed and shit, long story short, just throwing it in there real quick. Granddad passed and whatnot. For a couple like a year I kept getting some from uh, fidelity investments yeah, it's a pension, yeah so peep game I'm the third, my son the fourth, my dad, for whatever reason, he's the second.

Bobby Frost:

I don't know why he said don't say junior. I never understood that, I never really asked about it, but I'm like what's the difference between a second and a junior? Is that just because they say the same thing?

Courtney Lynn:

I mean, is he a second? Yeah, A junior. Is he the same as that first, middle and last?

Bobby Frost:

Yes, His shit. Just say second, never say junior. Why?

Courtney Lynn:

I don't know. I mean it's the same thing, Same.

Bobby Frost:

You know what I'm hear her. So when the mail come in the crib, you know I'm saying on russell at the crib. You know I'm saying I would go check on the mail and shit. I my I know it's my mail because it's all my shit always got the suffix the third on there. I always write my shit like that. I thought it was cool when I was a kid writing that shit that had an roman. That was just me, you feel me. So I never checked the shit. You know I'm saying I'm thinking it's pop shit. You know I ain't checking this shit. You know what I'm saying. So then one day he told me like this can't be for me, this got to be for you okay so I read him like nah, nigga, this ain't for me.

Bobby Frost:

I don't have no pension, not the job I work at we don't have a pension. Like no, that's not. I got a 401k but I don't have a pen. So, long story short, never fuck with it, right, never touched it. So one day, you know, I'm saying talking to my lady, and I'm like I'm gonna check it out just to see what the fuck it is. You know, I don't know how what's in there, what's?

Courtney Lynn:

you know, I'm gonna check it out, you can roll it over so this is what happens.

Bobby Frost:

Even though I was raised like by my grandparents you know I what I'm saying my granddad and my grandmother you know what I'm saying but I was never under their custody, so, like when my grandmother passed, when I did the funeral, the fucked up part about it was my granddad just told me to do everything. I even had to make the decision of pulling the plug Like that shit was the hardest to this day. That's still the hardest I ever had to do. So that was my first time going through that shit, going through the parlors and all that shit. I was in a fucked up mind state. So people never tell you about wills and make sure all your shit together. You know what I'm saying and I ain't saying people, I'm saying like, if that's not what your environment grew up on or conditioned you on, you know program training you on. So when she he was on her insurance, you feel me, and so when she passed it was easy to go do what he do, but when he passed she was on for his beneficiary. There was no other beneficiary.

Courtney Lynn:

Right.

Bobby Frost:

Mine is pandemic right, so you know everything fucked up in a pandemic courts are closed. When I tell you this shit gave me the flux trying to do his shit. You know what I'm saying. Right, and I wasn't trying to be, you know, rude or nothing.

Courtney Lynn:

It's the next of kin if nobody really is on the beneficiary and she's dead right. So it'd be like his brother or something like that.

Bobby Frost:

Nope, it'd go to your kids. But if you got multiple kids, see, it used to be back, the oldest got everything.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, the oldest.

Bobby Frost:

That's not how it works, no more.

Courtney Lynn:

It's both of y'all right.

Bobby Frost:

No, it goes to all of the kids. So you know, my granny had 11 kids.

Courtney Lynn:

Oh, okay, so they split it up between all 11 of them.

Bobby Frost:

So now you got to mind this pandemic, right, this northern pandemic. So now I'm trying to get people signatures. Mm-hmm, I had wouldn't send her signature, so everything got stopped because they wouldn't do it without the signature. So I fast forward all that shit and I have to pay out of pocket from a lot of the shit, especially with Graceland. I had to pay out the pocket all the way through. So go back to the pension situation. So I finally checked the pension out Again.

Bobby Frost:

My granddad raised me. So my granddad was you know, you always hear me say something to my granddad I had a homeboy. My homeboy quit Like man. You talking about your granddad man, you got to have high regard. So yeah, I just don't say it because it's a cliche Like he taught me a lot because he didn't sway shit. You could be his son. No-transcript, a fool at. I'm gonna call you out right in there. Let you know you fucking up, ain't nobody gonna fuck over you, but I'm gonna let you know right then, there, you fucking up, I ain't gonna you like most people. That's how they do, shit. They do shit. I'm going to ride or die with you. We'll talk about it later. My granddad's going to ride or die with you. But he's going to tell you right then and there too, no, you're fucking up. This is where you're making an ass out of yourself and me. I'm going to let you know.

Courtney Lynn:

So I checked the shit and I like well, yeah, you have to.

Bobby Frost:

It's a couple things you have to go get and I'm they like, yeah, you gotta go, not not like that's it's a death certificate, what's? It's a some you have to go from a gift from the irs. It's a number thing you have to go get and, of course, you have to know social security number so I would have to go through probate court now.

Bobby Frost:

Now I was assuming that my aunties and uncles would have been more so, like not knocking them or nothing like that. You know what I'm saying. Love them all, but they didn't really come around, my granddaddy heavy like, super heavy, like you would think they would. They didn't. Now, maybe that happened because you have your own life going on and shit like that. I get it.

Courtney Lynn:

So I said, just going to use the money to fix this house up? No, nobody even got to know you had the money, here go, my thing.

Bobby Frost:

I did have a family member saying if that was me, wouldn't nobody knew shit. I would have just forged that shit and went on about your business. I'm like, nah, man, I'm thinking like damn, if y'all ain't been fucking with me heavy before, like what? So man, do you know money again? Courtney thinking, thinking better of my family than when I oh man, yeah, it made me look at my, a couple of my aunties completely different when I say completely different, completely different.

Courtney Lynn:

He left it to me. That's mine.

Bobby Frost:

I'm like yo. I'm like y'all know, if it was like he wanted y'all to have that shit, he would have told y'all like y'all, y'all didn't. Did y'all anybody put some money for it when he was barony? Fuck, no, y'all did put the signatures on there so they can give us the chart. And what happened was the uh, the um funeral home knew how to do um, where they just took everybody percentage and the percentage of my auntie that didn't do it.

Bobby Frost:

That's just still in limbo Because she kind of offered rockers a little bit and her shit's still in limbo. But the rest of them, they paid for that, for the funeral, but the burial, everything I said Graceland, cemetery they're like no, if you don't got all seven in the right documentation, we're not doing that. So I had to pay, I had to pay out. So that's why I didn't think they was going to trip. I'm like, wait a minute, none of y'all gave me a dime on my granddaddy and that's why I thought about the burial. I thought that my grandma would pass. So when she passed I got a burial plot right next door. They can have their shit together. I'm like y'all didn't give me none of the casket, the clothes and nothing I'm like's crazy and you get to see like Wild shit when somebody die. You get to see other sides Of other people like Money changes everybody.

Bobby Frost:

Like, yeah, like, damn Like, and I'm, I'm in complete opposite. Like.

Courtney Lynn:

They wouldn't do a fuck thing. I got.

Bobby Frost:

My family member told me, like nigga you tripping, I wouldn't have told nobody. Shout out to Forrest them motherfucking sisters. That got that shit and went on about my business I wasn't, they wouldn't know a fucking thing and I'm like, damn, that's crazy that y'all would do that.

Bobby Frost:

And just now it's the sit still holding up, still still hold up, and I don't trip about it. But I'm like damn, it's crazy how you see it different when a motherfucker die. You know, I'm saying like, from all aspects, like I said like say me and you, you know I'm saying relationship cordon and we could have been kicking it for years. You get what I'm saying Year two, whatever, and you die. I'm not going to be in this bitch like, yeah, I feel like I should have the life insurance policy because she that's going to tell her kids, dog, whoever she got in the beneficiary, I don't want a piece of it. Like, no, you good, yeah, that's the kids.

Bobby Frost:

If we was married, I'm still going to be like you know what? Yeah, man, get this to the kids. You know what I'm saying. Now, if we've been together for, let's say, 20 years and shit like that, that might be a little different. I'm still going to look out for the kids, but it might be a little different. But like we've been together a couple years two, three, four years I'm like you get what I'm saying. Basically, most of the life insurance policy was paid before I got around. I'm not no money hungry type person.

Courtney Lynn:

I just my mama had always taught me her and my stepdad was. They was married twice. Damn that guy. That's real love. They divorced because she found out he had a baby when they took their taxes when they was married. I was the youngest, but he came in my life when I was two.

Bobby Frost:

How old was the baby? I don't know. I only asked because.

Courtney Lynn:

I want to know what's around your age. No, I don't know. I never asked that part of it.

Bobby Frost:

You ain't never met the baby.

Courtney Lynn:

Well, she's 30-something now. That's what I'm saying, girl. I mean I met her when I was late 20s.

Bobby Frost:

She cool.

Courtney Lynn:

She just she raised. I don't know she's a little weird, but she cool. She ain't have shit to do with what my stepdaddy did. She cool that's my sister. It wasn't when I was two, but he been in my life since I was two. I think I was a teenager when they got divorced, got back married again. I was still a teenager, divorced in my 20s, then broke up for a while. She moved to Finland. He moved back with her. So they wasn't married again. They just was companionship, just staying with each other.

Bobby Frost:

That's real love, though let me give a clap for that cause.

Courtney Lynn:

That's real love he never changed his, he never changed his beneficiary. He never did that. But my mama did, like me and my sisters was always like on her shit, or I was always like on her shit, or I was always the person on her. But, needless to say, my mama always told me to keep up with your shit, whether it's 10 years or something later. Like men don't do it either. Because my daddy didn't, like they don't think ahead. Like that, like, okay, this was your, because my daddy was still married to his wife. She was a crackhead, all type of shit. But you, with all these other different women, you ain't even put your kids to be your beneficiary. Because you don't even think ahead. Now you die dead. Now this crackhead get every fucking thing. Like don't give your kids shit, don't give not even her kids. Nothing Like nothing.

Bobby Frost:

Y'all always asked that.

Courtney Lynn:

We ain't, yeah, get nothing, not a dime. So she would always tell me, like, make sure always be with your lawyer because she works for GM. So you know they got their GM lawyers, or whatever the case may be, stay close to them. Your will update them bitches every so often. And your insurance policy? Update your insurance policy.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, I learned all that shit. Those are very important.

Courtney Lynn:

So you won't have to go through getting 12 signatures from different people or some shit like that.

Bobby Frost:

Like, just update your shit frequently that's why I said, like you know me, my my view on marriage. Like people just get mad at me when I'll be on marriage like I, I know, marriage ain't nothing but to me but a paper or a piece of paper.

Courtney Lynn:

it's not, it's, it's security for real.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, because I'm like if I fuck with you heavy like that and we ain't got to go get a marriage, but I'm going to put you on all my listen girl, you on this, you on that, if it's somebody.

Courtney Lynn:

I trust and we building something like kids, first because right now Cordray is, which is too young, so it's like my aunt, and then Cordray, and then they get a certain piece of they get a certain percentages at certain different ages they're not gonna get the whole money. They're gonna get certain, you know, but people got to keep up on that shit. Besides keeping up on it, people got to get it because, like, please get life insurance yeah, please.

Bobby Frost:

Because, like you just said, like I figured that out, shit dealing with my grandmother and now I'm just feeling shit out dealing with my, with my granddad passing. This shit just happened this year, like it's like that. Well, last year it fucked me up, like seeing my couple of my aunties act like that. I'm like damn, they ain't think about you. I'm like, wow, you know what I'm saying. They want they shit. Yeah, like I could see if y'all was this motherfucker like you know really, so nothing got to you. No.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, because it's supposed to be his siblings.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, I mean yeah, his kids.

Courtney Lynn:

You know what I got raised by my granddad from two all the way up, because they probably just feel like you ain't even this kid.

Bobby Frost:

She said the shit. She said he, acting like it got back to me. He acting like he a kid.

Courtney Lynn:

I'm like he your kid, or you acting like yeah, I'm like now, this is the funny part.

Bobby Frost:

Like y'all already know how my grandma and my granny felt about me. I'm not saying this to be saying it. I was the only kid my granddad raised all the way up Cause him and my, my other, my grandmother that passed. They divorced, not divorced, but they separated and they stayed in Detroit. He stayed down here. You know what I'm saying. He got all my other grandmother, grandmother, I know, you know what I'm saying. So like yeah, like nudists and shit, I'm like damn. So when I got back to me I heard that shit, I'm like one of the kids. I'm like y'all didn't. Even now, I ain't saying all my, I ain't you know all of them, but it was a couple that did come check on him periodically. Then you know what I'm saying. I got, I got an auntie that come through, this bitch, you know, swing up in Flint and wouldn't check on my granddad. She come kick it. See, I hate those types.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, sure, what a passion you will pull up on your favorite.

Bobby Frost:

You know what I'm saying. Sibling or whatever, or some of your siblings, but she didn't't kick it with my dad or my mom's, like that. You get what I'm saying and they pass. I ain't looking for shit. I didn't fuck with you. You know what I'm saying. Like that's the shit that you know. Throw me off with the whole when they person die. Like don't come around just to leech or don't start causing chaos just to leech, causing chaos just to leech. If you didn't fuck with a motherfucker, you didn't fuck with a motherfucker.

Courtney Lynn:

That's how they, when my grand I'm not saying my granddad, my stepdad died. He died a year before my mama, 2002, 22. He, like I, said they wasn't married, but his shit was still the same from when they weren't married years ago. So he was in the hospital. He was getting sick. He was getting sick, so we put him in the hospital so he could get his shit together. Dave, my mama being my mama thinking she calling me because you are his mother still and you are his sister, Like he's sick, he's in the hospital, whatever. So I've been taking care of them since the pandemic because they had a stroke on the same day. So my mama dropped him off at the hospital. He had a stroke. By the time she went home, she had a stroke.

Courtney Lynn:

So I'm taking care of two people who fucking had a stroke During this pandemic and we got fucking COVID. So I'm still working, I'm trying to give them COVID and take care of these two motherfuckers. She ended up telling his mom and his sister, which is in, that don't fuck with him, don't call him, no, nothing, that he's in the hospital. So you know, then only two people can come see you Once two people is on the list to see you, that's it. So they came down here and visited him, took our name off the thing, pulled that I'm his sister, I'm his next of kin, I'm his mama. So we ain't got shit to say. Like, even though we take care of him, he stay with us. It's like that trumps over everything. So they took him, put him in a nursing home. My name was still on everything. I was his. What you call them people when you make decisions for their health or whatever. I forgot what that is, but I was on it as an advocate.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, health advocate or whatever. So they took him to the home and when he came to the hospital they automatically called me Because I didn't know what home they took him to. They wouldn't answer our calls, they wouldn't do nothing. So they tried to be spiteful to my mom on all these different types of shit. So, fast forward, he died. My mama and him had a burial plot At Flint Memorial. They didn't have this burial. Both of them had their burial plots Probably Since, since I don't know when they you know Old people they take care of that shit early they already got a plot, all that type of shit they bury him at Grace Line. They doing all this shit At Grace Line, trying to keep my mama Out the loop for everything. Now here's a snack. They can't even pay for it because my mom's insurance.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, you can't get through it.

Courtney Lynn:

She got to get the signature, she got to do everything. So now y'all got to come kiss my mom's ass because y'all thought y'all was going to get some money. He ain't got no fucking money, but the insurance from GM. So now y'all got to come find my mom and get the signatures for this and do that. I said I wouldn't sign shit for them. Your mom was a good person. So she signed it. They paid for the funeral and now he at Graceline. So now my mama Fast forward to my mama passing she at Flint Memorial With another burial plot.

Bobby Frost:

Plot next door. That's empty.

Courtney Lynn:

Like I can't stand All the people.

Bobby Frost:

It ain't just, it's just people like I got to it, fucked me up when people think there's money involved.

Courtney Lynn:

They do wow they want to put their hands on in and play I'm, this, is his mama, I'm his sister, I'm next to Ken and this is why I'm so like. I have never in my life been so like an advocate for marriage. I mean that sounds bad, cuz that's what you're supposed to do, that's what we grew up thinking supposed to get married. Blah, blah, blah. But shit. People always say it's a piece of paper. That piece of paper means so fucking much. That's what. When I say this, courtney, it holds so much weight, people don't even fucking know.

Bobby Frost:

No, when I say this, people think I be lying. When I say it's nothing but A business arrangement, yeah, that's what a marriage really is. It's a business arrangement, like that's what it is, but it will fuck you If you don't have it.

Courtney Lynn:

You cannot whether I, if me and you were married, say if I didn't fuck on my family at all, just whatever reasons it was, I've been with you and your family, like y'all are my fucking family, right, but we're not married. Now, here it is, I'm dead. They know I got money. Now here go my family talking about oh, that's my daughter, this is my sister, you, you, you, not nothing for real. Like everything she got goes to me. That's. That's like a slap in the face for you and your family who brought me in and took care of me and held me shit that's how I felt.

Bobby Frost:

That's why, you know, I felt to this day about when my granddad I'm like I remember, and my granddad a prideful person like he wouldn't let me even fix certain shit in the house because he just wouldn't do it if he had the money to do it. I I can't do it. But I seen him as he got older in his last year, before that COVID shit hit. You know like what's he call that shit man? Is it glaucoma?

Courtney Lynn:

What in your eyes? Yeah, yeah, glaucoma.

Bobby Frost:

So he used to fuck around so much man, a strong dude, so a lot hurt on me. And then I'd go over there and try to check on him.

Bobby Frost:

he'd laugh at me like there wasn't nothing wrong with me so I didn't know he was really how blind he was getting. I used to think he was giving my son the letters and shit to read because my son was reading. Yeah, no, he couldn't read, he really couldn't see it. So when I finally he was scared to get his eyes operated. He started. I remember Dr Sainz said like he going to see better as soon as we cut it and then he's got to heal up and get in a little big ass glasses.

Bobby Frost:

He was like boy, I can see, I can see better. So his spirits went up.

Courtney Lynn:

You feel what I'm saying, but I remember, men and older men, especially older men, are scared to go to the doctor.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, and I know why. Because now you feel like it's going to be something so bad that you know.

Courtney Lynn:

But you waited so long, so long, to where it's always going to be so bad because of the weight.

Bobby Frost:

That's what happened to my granddad Because, like when he had the stroke, he had a stroke when I was in eighth grade, going to ninth grade and that's when I got in the streets. That's neither here nor there, but you know he was bedridden, mouth was twisted. He really worked hard to get his shit back right. He wanted people that came back from that stroke and you couldn't tell his mouth was twisted, took him a minute, but he worked hard through physical therapy. After he came out of physical therapy he still was doing the same shit and he got back. You know, decent. But with all that being said, he then he has kidneys, had problem. He always got to dialysis, so me and my grandma was always taking them t-splots, and then my grandma died, did all this.

Bobby Frost:

My granddaddy didn't drive. I ain't never seen my granddaddy drive a car Damn Never. You know what I'm saying. So like that's what hit me the most. I'm like, damn, like, where was y'all at then? Like some of you, you know what I'm saying. He kind of broke down to me, not crying, but just broke down to me when I was taking him to go get the surgery done. He told me, like that's what the goddamn saying. I got all these grown ass kids and you got to call off and work to come take me. I, jones, was serious like shit. I'm glad I didn't. I had a reason to tell these motherfuckers.

Courtney Lynn:

I had to go to work. That's how I was when my stepdad. They stayed in Finland, but since then my mama took him to Hurley. All his doctor's appointments was in Flint. When she had a stroke, my sister called the ambulance and took her to Genesis. So all his doctors and neurologists were out in Flint, hers is in Grand Blanc. So, and neurology out in Flint, hers is in Grand Blanc. So I'm trying to work, take them to the doctor's appointments, his in Flint, hers in Grand Blanc or Flint.

Bobby Frost:

He's trying to figure it out.

Courtney Lynn:

And my whole life consisted of that for a whole fucking year, trying to get them back to health. My mama got back right. He never got back right. So it was like he ended up having a catheter just started declining, declining, declining and that led to his death. But it was like that shit is fucking tough. And his family wasn't around. My mama called basically like what is we going to do? Because she's older too, she can't take care of no grown man. That's stubborn.

Bobby Frost:

That's the thing about old men.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, something go wrong, i'm'm all right, I can do it and this, this and that. So it's like she don't want to call me because she know I'm gonna make him go to the hospital or whatever. So she doing what he say, like don't call me, so he will pull his catheter out, his catheter out will probably be out for days, or whatever the case, they don't want to call me because I'll make his ass go to the hospital he don't want to go to the hospital.

Courtney Lynn:

Go for baby girl so it's like where was everybody at?

Bobby Frost:

yeah, man, that's. That's why I said, like that funeral when somebody died, it's crazy, man, like that, really, like to this day I can say it, don't? You know? I'm saying an episode, like I said, like one of my aunties I had in high regards you know what I'm saying and just fucked me up like damn, like really, and that's about that's why I went back.

Bobby Frost:

What I said, like you talking, and we just got together and then you passed, even if we married we've been married for two years and we've been together for three why would I not feel like I'm going to take the majority of the money when you've been paying for this life insurance shit with your kids? They get it. You know what I'm saying. They can get it. You know what I'm saying. I'm a man, i'ma hold a house down or all that shit without it. You know what I'm saying. That's just me thinking. You know, for me being me, I'm not into no money type shit. So it was just crazy, man. It's like when my mama died To this, I don't know what my mama got, what she had, what happened with her If she had insurance she didn't have. I didn't go to the funeral, oh damn. So you know what? Because my mom didn't raise me, so it was like I had a nice relationship with my mom.

Courtney Lynn:

It could have been way better, but you know what I'm saying how can you be so entitled to something like I don't even fuck with people. Like it goes to show I know this is off topic like you know, like certain people, birthdays come around, people throw stuff, they go out of town or some shit fuck with you like that. Why would I be mad you didn't invite me to go on any of these trips or go to your birthday dinner or something. Like some people really do be feeling entitled like damn bitch. You could have invited me and it's like why would she invite me? I don't fuck with her. Like I barely call her like I don't even fuck with her kids. Like why would somebody call like why do people feel like they entitled or something when you don't fuck with me?

Bobby Frost:

that's my thing. That's why I'm saying, like you know, mary, we separate it. Won't, won't, won't, and say we never get a divorce. Well, if she get to fucking with somebody else and she end up passing, I'm not looking to get none of that shit. Even though we didn't like say we don't get a divorce, I could I've seen that happen.

Courtney Lynn:

No, that's how. What happened with my daddy? That's what I'm saying.

Bobby Frost:

I'm saying't seen that happen before. I'm not the type of person that's going to be like well, my name on this bitch. I'm about to no.

Courtney Lynn:

Well, I feel like that's where the communication from, because if me, knowing the type of person I am not, as soon as we break up or whatever the fuck the case, maybe I'm going out there changing and shit, but it's like, of course, we've been married for so many years, you're my kid's father, whether I start talking to somebody or not, and obviously I didn't marry them. I would have that connection to be like you're still on my beneficiary.

Bobby Frost:

I know you're going to take care of the kids. That's all that matters.

Courtney Lynn:

So that's why you're still on my shit. But just losing sight like losing sight to change it and do this type of shit is like that's madly insane and people do it like before we got married.

Bobby Frost:

You know I said I said that's it because you know I'm like we talked about it because my grandmother had passed. You feel me, I'm like if you would have ended up dying before we got married, the money would have went to the kids. That's what I would have seen it. They would have split. Now of course I would have. They wouldn't have been old enough to do nothing with it yet.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, I would have put it in place for them, but I wouldn't ask for a cent, even though we have been together for years speaking of that, um tracy braxton divorced her um tony braxton sister well, not divorced, she um died, left all her fucking money to her son, all of it, all of it. So I've been married to you all these years. You done played in my face so many years. You done did all this type of shit, but I still had the last laugh at the end because when I died you thought you was gonna get something. Nope, all my money and um whatever she had went to her fucking son.

Bobby Frost:

See me and you, Corey. We on the same page with this. This is why I'm taking out the episode and I hope the viewers get it too. Fuck with me the same way you fuck with me before I hit the ground.

Courtney Lynn:

Yep.

Bobby Frost:

There's no reason for you to change up anything once I hit the ground. I'm going to keep it the same way. Like I ain't paid enough to say like if we had issues, real issues or something like we didn't talk. You can't come try to say your piece and fix it while I'm in the grave or in the cast. That's cool, I don't have an issue with that. But all that acting like we was this and we wasn't that go for females, friends, family members who don't don't not keep it the same way.

Courtney Lynn:

No, it definitely had to be the same. Yeah, keep it the same way the memories I did have with you, I mean them, the memories. I can't shake those, don't don't. I'm not finna knock on nobody else's parade though.

Bobby Frost:

No, if I said, if I'm fucking with a chick man you know I was a side nigga she hadn't anybody else more special I'm not about to act a fool at this fucking wedding I mean funeral. No, why, why would I do that? I'm not about to do that.

Courtney Lynn:

I won't even go. Like I said, when I said me and Wayne was talking being together, we were done talking to each other for months. I'm not finna go to that man's funeral. He probably talking to somebody else. I was talking to somebody.

Bobby Frost:

Yeah, I'm not showing up.

Courtney Lynn:

unless I get invited, I'm not going to show up acting a fool or whatever like that, like I could have Granted. I don't like funerals. That was the only reason why I didn't go, because I don't like funerals. And to see a nigga I love in a casket but went to the weight showed my respect. That was that everybody knew like who I was, but he could be talking to somebody else and that the bitch could be feeling in love.

Bobby Frost:

So I'm not finna be on that bitch like, oh my god no, if I'm invited and it's not by a messy family member like if the mom messy or you know what I'm saying, I know they on some shit because they don't like the other person, you ain't gonna put me in the middle of that. But if y'all you know what I'm saying, it's actually genuine, like yeah, we know you could like, if one of my baby mamas pass, I'm not automatically going to the funeral. That's just me. You know what I'm saying. I got one. I ain't going, period.

Courtney Lynn:

Why wouldn't you go out with your kids?

Bobby Frost:

That's neither here nor there. I ain't going regardless. You know what?

Courtney Lynn:

I'm saying Not her. I'm saying why wouldn't you show your kids?

Bobby Frost:

period, because this is my thing again, you know what I'm saying. So like I'm not going to show up, just to show up, you know that's me that's not just a show up.

Courtney Lynn:

This is my kid's mother.

Bobby Frost:

You know what I'm saying? Listen, this is me. If I'm invited, I'm invited. Now, if my daughter invite me and say, Dad, I want you to come, that's completely different. And she say, Dad, I need you there.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, I don't want to see nobody like that, but I'll go to the family house. I'm not going to wait to be invited to the family house. We have kids.

Bobby Frost:

That's it. That's what I'm saying. I'm going to go to the family house bring flowers. I'm going to bring food.

Courtney Lynn:

do whatever I got to do Because, like you said, if she married or whatever the case may be, it's still love with the dude. You Granted we did spend some time with each other. I got memories with this person. Whether I hate this motherfucker in real life or not, I still got to do my part for my kid, regardless. My kid can't send food, my kid can't go get flowers, my kid can't do shit. I do it for my kid.

Bobby Frost:

That's why I said that's different.

Courtney Lynn:

To show my kids how to do shit, because if they don't see a role model doing that shit, your kid going to always show up to people's houses, whether they dead or alive, with nothing in their hand.

Bobby Frost:

And listen, I'm going to sound about this dude. They can call me petty or not. I got to be in my motherfucking die. My daughter ain't know what time it is. Hey, she's not allowed. I'll have to cover that motherfucker. I'll hop off this casket.

Courtney Lynn:

I mean, that's the relationship that I have. That's the relationship. Don't bring your ass in this bitch.

Bobby Frost:

I'm coming out the casket. You're going to see some shit like Thriller.

Courtney Lynn:

Yeah, but I try to teach my kids shit like when his. We only went to one kid funeral, which it was my friend's son funeral, so that was the only reason why I let him go and I went. But so many kids is dying like they getting immune to this shit so like they don't know like they're supposed to show up to somebody.

Bobby Frost:

House with shit yeah if it ain't nothing like a little cake or something right, like something you show up to somebody house with something tissue, water, something and it's really just etiquette. That's the proper etiquette for it.

Courtney Lynn:

But if they don't never see it because you don't do it, it's like they don't know.

Bobby Frost:

You just knocked it, they don't know. So yeah, that's what I took from. This is where we at However you fuck with somebody, however your relationship was, your terms was while they was living. That's exactly how you should carry on.

Courtney Lynn:

Carry it out.

Bobby Frost:

Carry it out. Ain't no reason to be trying to change up now, making no big scenes. Ain't no reason to be trying to get entitled to no money. Stay off social media Grieve. Grieve on your own. Grieve with the people who knew who y'all was. Grieve with them. Ain't nothing wrong with that. You know what I'm saying. I'm with it 100%. So we wrapping up what you been listening to Court.

Courtney Lynn:

Um, what have I been listening to? Um, boston Richie, I don't know why.

Bobby Frost:

That's crazy. You said that.

Courtney Lynn:

I um I ain't gonna say I don't know why. Um put it on Pandora and just listen to Boston Richie. I don't know if I like his voice, his sound or what it is the song sounded like.

Bobby Frost:

The only reason why I said it's crazy is because I wasn't going to say I was bumping. But I was at my dog crib the other last weekend and we was just chilling and the music was playing and I'm like, yeah, somebody was like, yeah, that nigga a rat. And I'm like I don't really listen to his music so I didn't know anything about it. You know what I'm saying? Like music sound cool. You know what I'm saying? Average hood trap shit. You know what I'm saying? Going on drill trap music type shit. And I'm like I don't really listen to him, I don't know.

Courtney Lynn:

But I'm like, yeah, but I don't really not like him, neither so I'm like cool.

Bobby Frost:

I'm like alright, a couple songs I had. They was cool. I listened to them with Currency. He got this, probably one of his best. Like I tell people all the time I don't smoke weed, but that's my favorite rapper all the time and people are like how, you don't smoke weed. I just said I just been fucking with this nigga for years. You know what I'm saying. He just dropped the Tonight Show. It's a sequel, that shit nice, like again it roll out and vibe. You can just sit back and vibe to it. You know and say shit like that.

Courtney Lynn:

So that's been it, so where can?

Bobby Frost:

they catch you at.

Courtney Lynn:

Kourt Kourtney Dixon Facebook. Kourtney Milano. Ig Kourtney1, k-o-r-t-n-e-e on Snapchat and Kourtney Dixon 10 on TikTok.

Bobby Frost:

And you can catch me media on all social media and rob or dot 87 on ig. And again, man, listen, support. I love all the support you've been getting, so it's always a call to action saying call to action hey, drop them comments. You know I'm saying drop them supports, them, likes, all that and I appreciate it all. Y'all gonna catch us next time we out yeah.

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