Boujee Blondes
Boujee Blondes is presented by Melissa Clarke and Simone Grace.Join the ladies for girly chats full of fun and laughter - chatting about life, relationships and much more in a comfortable safe place. women empowerment and sisterhood is the sense of belonging that this podcast interprets. the atmosphere hopes to provide a safe place for everyone to go for advice whilst feeling accepted and understood. Melissa and Simone share their own life experiences which entails lots of blissful, loving and embarrassing moments but also mistakes throughout life. Speaking to diverse groups of people from different walks of life on various subjects. A weekly episode not to be missed - every Tuesday on all major podcast platforms. If you would like to contact the girls please email Boujeeblondespodcast@gmail.com
Boujee Blondes
Comparing yourself to others #57
The girls help with a dilemma about a girl who had a fling at a festival but he has slide into her DMs and would like to meet up with her. She found out he is recently out of a relationship and has a child she's worried if it's too soon and doesn't want any drama. Should she give it a go? Is the universe matching these two together?
all right, it's the bougie blondes podcast with melissa and simone, available on spotify, apple or wherever you get your podcasts now, let's get bougie. Hi, I'm melissa, hi, I'm simone. Our podcast is serving you, bestie vibes, we are just two country girls chatting about all things we struggle with daily life.
Speaker 1:And, of course, talking about certain issues that some people are afraid to speak about. We give it to you real, while having crack along the way. Remember, these are just our opinions, gals, so don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice opinions, girls, so don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice. Welcome back to the bougie blondes. How is everyone? Me and simone are back we're back again.
Speaker 2:We had a little break last week, oh lads life again what like we're just gonna be real.
Speaker 1:It's just, life has gotten the way. Just so many obstacles and just so.
Speaker 2:I mean, we both have full-time jobs yeah you know what I mean? Like, and then there's events, there's things that we need to go to, and yeah, it just happens. Unfortunately, it would be real yeah, just been real.
Speaker 1:Like it's like. I feel like this year though, it's just just so many obstacles, like it's just like oh, but anyway, we're here now. We're here to, we're glad to be sitting down chatting to you and it is, but you know what it is.
Speaker 2:It becomes a routine and then, when you miss a week, you feel like the whole world is crumbling, where we shouldn't feel like that because, like you know, yeah, that's it'll happen, when it'll happen it'll happen when it'll happen exactly, but we're into like festival season and everyone's like loving life, summer, summer vibes that's what I mean, like I actually genuinely you know at home when you're it's the summer and you're buzzing to get outdoors and go to festivals and stuff like that. I just feel like over here when you go to a beach club it just gives festival vibes anyway.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it does, doesn't it Like?
Speaker 2:even in the night, like I'm just like. I constantly feel like not even a festival, but you constantly feel like like there's always artists, like at beach clubs and stuff like that. But the one thing that I do miss is being at home getting like so excited and so done up and like picking your outfits to go to a festival because the vibes are just next level yeah, and the style is like different as well, isn't?
Speaker 1:it yeah, yeah, be absolutely off.
Speaker 1:Stress head like just trying to think of an outfit to put together yeah, I was meant to go to longitude on Sunday but I couldn't because I still wasn't like feeling great. So I was like, oh, I know, because I've been like working but still being sick, you know yourself been self-employed. I was like if I go to this festival, I'll end up in A&E on Monday morning. So it was like if I had so much FOMO looking at everyone at it like I was like, oh yeah, it was a great line up amazing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm fair play. I will put my hands up and say fair play to the Irish artists that are up and coming in the game because, like oh, my god, there's so many this year.
Speaker 1:What is going on? Yeah, unreal.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So congrats to you, because that's given that is given.
Speaker 1:I always wanted to be a singer when I was younger same.
Speaker 2:I think I always wanted to be Britney Spears.
Speaker 1:Yeah, thank god I used to like be like I wish I was like Britney and like used to have all her posters, and I'm like thank god that wish didn't come true because like, seriously like I would end up shaving my head.
Speaker 2:I imagine that, like the great length of great, great length, the great wall of china to my head, with the amount of hair I have on it at the minute, like the more extensions in my head the better, and every month, even even when the hairdresser goes to trim, like the ends of my extensions, like I actually panic, panic, I'm like no, don't do it yeah, I just, oh no, I was Britney obsessed now I was like, like she's, I still love Britney, but yeah, I feel like every girl was the same in that generation, though wasn't it like she was just the it girl?
Speaker 1:she was the it girl. She's like the Sabrina Carpenter of now. Like isn't she? Yeah?
Speaker 2:she really is. Yeah, but it's hot girl summer and it is hot girl summer. What are, what are your plans to have a hot girl summer?
Speaker 1:do you know what? Like I feel like I'm in, put on the spot now because I like. I feel like I'm only like sitting down to like refresh now because it's been such a busy week, hot girl summer. What is my plans? I think, my hot girl summer, I think I feel like I need to be a bit more chilled, like do you know? Like she's having a chilled girl summer yeah, like hot girl summer, but still like low-key kind of thing, you know.
Speaker 1:I mean, I feel like I need to like hot girl summer, like lying by the beach, rejuvenate, rejuvenating yeah, I think that's my hot girl summer. But like, yeah, I definitely think it is more like keeping on track with my health, my fitness, trying to have a bit more downtime, trying to look after, maybe my like mental health a bit better, do you know? Because I feel like, yeah, the rat race of neglecting all these things, especially when you're like go, go, go, go, like you will do your fitness and you'll do your workouts, but you're still not actually having like sit down and like having you time, do you know?
Speaker 2:yeah, 100%, and that's the thing and I think in, like this world that we're living in now, it's a Russian race constantly like in in all aspects, like we, it's a.
Speaker 2:It's a good thing because, like, we do want better ourselves, we want a better career, we want to better like our health, like our mindset or whatever. But sometimes, like when you're on the go that much, you just don't take accountability of how much of the downtime that you actually need. Yeah, because I'm like you as well, like I just I'm not the type of girl that can sit down and even watch a film, and I know that's really bad. I like get anxiety when I sit down, cause I feel like that I'm not doing something. You get me Like I just feel, feel like that I need to be constantly go, go, go. So I think, yeah, for both of us, we do need to have a little chill time, but you've been hectic with your shoots and stuff like that, so you definitely need to kind of sit back and chill yeah, and you know I think it is, though sometimes I'll go the opposite.
Speaker 1:You know where you get. Like you, you work yourself up that you have so much to do, but yet then you procrastinate and you don't do anything. Yeah, yeah, you don't do anything and then you're sitting there it gets so overwhelming yeah, doesn't it like?
Speaker 1:it's like you know what you need to do, but you're like I actually just can't mentally deal with that task right now. So then you, you get your anxiety worked up more of thinking that you should be doing it, but you feel guilty for not doing it, and then it's like a whole.
Speaker 2:Then it's like a whole ball game, like your brain is on fire even the little things, yeah, everyday things, like it becomes down to doing like a food shop. You're like I can't do that right now. Yeah, I'll do it later, where you should be doing it like three hours ago. Like honestly, I feel your pain.
Speaker 1:I feel your pain yeah it's just like I will either be like I think this is like my toxic trait I will either be so productive or so not fucking productive that I work myself no, in between, like I will stress myself out so much and my head will just like be flooded with all these ideas and thoughts of like what I need to do and need to do this, need to do that, and then I just get so overwhelmed I can't do anything yeah it's terrible.
Speaker 2:I had like such a big, big plans in January, right, because this is how I was going to have my hot girl summer. I was like I'm putting the head down in work, getting settled, la, la, la, whatever, and I'm going to go on four or five holidays this year. I want to travel, I want to see the world. We're now in July and I have absolutely nothing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I feel like when you get to like not 25, but in your 20s or whatever it may be from 25 up, I feel like it's very hard to plan your life because all your friends, everything around you, we all have our own lives. It's very hard to kind of have a full-on hockey in summer sometimes because everyone is so busy that it's hard to kind of get the dates right, get like you know, or it's just a nightmare. So for me, for now, I'm just staying focused on myself, on the gym, my health, my mental health and just yeah, I think I'm just going to have a chilled girl hot girl summer for now, but that can all change in the next month.
Speaker 1:I think it's it's hard like to like get time off work though as well, like, isn't it? Like it's it's hard to like get time off work because, like some people obviously don't don't get paid when they're not working, so like I don't know, like the months, just the weeks, just go into months, and then you're like they fly by.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think you really have to like, plan it like nearly fucking a year or two in advance yeah literally, you have to write it in the diary because life is just it's going too fast, like I feel like it's just a rat race at the moment, so like.
Speaker 2:I do want to go to Ibiza this year, though. I want to go to the closing party, because I have never been 26. I've never been. I need to experience this yeah so you love it, I'm. I'm going to take plan of action because you're making me jealous with these ibiza trips. I won't lie and yeah, I need to get my ass there.
Speaker 1:I really do did you see that all is coming to dubai?
Speaker 2:yeah there's so many guys see, this is the thing, what I mean. If I was back at home okay, and I'll be real if I was back at home I would be on numerous holidays a year. I would, yeah, I just feel like here, even when I go to work. I'm really grateful for it, because you just feel like every day is a holiday.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like Monday to Friday. Obviously you're in an office or whatever, but it's you're still waking up to sunshine, the nice weather. It's easier to get up in the morning, like it's not depressing in that aspect at all. And then there's a new beach club open every week. There's no artists, so you constantly just feel like every weekend and everywhere it looks so different as well when you go places. So it's like you know, you just feel like it's given holiday all year round.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think like it is no-transcript, like like it's so much hardship in Ireland when it's raining and like you're trying to go in and out of rain to work and it's just fucking yeah, oh no, that's the thing. I get what you mean that like you don't like, you don't need to like, go to like other places, because you're getting everything you need there. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:yeah, but then again then you know it's just like you know, when you see the girls they're going to Marbella, like they have a place there, whatever, and they're going. I'm like I have to stay here and work. But then again I was kind of sitting back and reflecting, like last week or whatever, and I was like I need to start learning to obsess over myself and not other people, because you can get, like you know, so it's so nice to for them to be able to go there, like you know, if they replace whatever, like they work online, like it's easy but you need to like be grateful for where you are as an individual and the road that you want to go down, because even looking at social media, look at people going here, there and everywhere or whatever. Maybe you're just doing different things, but I feel like you need to learn to obsess a little about your own self and not what other people are doing, because 100% yeah, because everyone is different, everyone's take a different road in life.
Speaker 2:Like, and I feel like if I go off a track, like even when I go on holidays, my whole routine is up in the air. Yeah, like honestly it is. And like I just want to like I'm we're not getting any younger.
Speaker 2:I know it might sound a little bit boring, but I want to, like, dedicate this time to, like, you know, try and make myself a little bit more successful yeah instead of like constantly looking at what other people are doing and jumping to the conclusion that I need to do that and that I need to do exactly what everyone else is doing and it's the same with trends, like it's actually the exact same thing. Like you see something on Instagram and you're like I need to do that. Like, don't get me wrong, I'm obsessed with disciples. This is minor, right, but like I moved over here, there were such a thing like I love them. Now they're just huge. Everyone loves them, even if they don't like them. They just have to go.
Speaker 2:But it's just, it's even little things like that. It's like constantly having to like, follow and feel like that you need to be better than the next person, the next person, the next person don't get me wrong, you need to have that in your life like to look at other people and be in a circle. That like you need to learn from somebody else to get me or you want to be that person. But it's just. I feel like it's very hard to constantly like. There's so many influences out or whatever it might be, like they're following someone and like down to their meal plans or whatever and I'm getting a bit deep into this now, but they were basically giving women testosterone injections. Oh wow, yeah, and like that's obviously. I don't know I don't dig that deep into it or whatever, but I don't.
Speaker 1:I presume it's not very fucking healthy you know, what I mean, but like if you're it's, it's actually nuts, like it's crazy it actually it really is, and it's so scary like it really is because I feel like it's just given people who are looking at that think that that like they're never going to be like that, but looking at someone who's like that because they don't know why they're like that, you know, I mean and like I even feel, though myself like in the last, I don't know in the last two weeks, I fell back into that comparison game as well and I don't know if it's the fucking or what I feel like we're on the same wavelength oh every time like I got really like just like now I was doing my period this week, I have it right now.
Speaker 1:Not that you need to know that, but anyway, um well, I'm gonna put my hands up and say I am too oh my god, I swear we're sick babies so I don't know if it was my period or not, right, but like I just felt like I kept falling back into that comparison game and like you're looking at yourself and you've been like and like even the two of us, like you know, like you work so hard, you do so much to try to succeed, and then like you're seeing other people and I'm not taking away from them, but like you do see some people get it like easier than some people who you can see grafting really hard, and it can be like it's not fair.
Speaker 1:So you do have to pull yourself back, because the last thing I want to do is be a bitter person like I would never be bitter anyway, towards anyone. But when you start, you can, you can see yourself how people do get sucked into that deep, like if they keep going with it. So you kind of have to pull yourself back and, like what you said, be like grateful and look at right, well, I actually have achieved this, this and this. It's not my time yet. It will happen, but it's just not going to happen yet, it's not meant to happen yet, and you just really have to fucking trust the process, even though it's so hard to see sometimes, isn't it?
Speaker 2:and that's the thing like when it comes down to like this, what I'm saying if it's your job, your career, if it's, if it's the gym, whatever it might be. If it's a podcast, if it's, you know you, just, it could be anything. If it's Instagram, tiktok, whatever it might be. If it's a podcast, if it's, you know you, just, it could be anything. If it's instagram, tiktok, whatever it might be, you can't constantly compare yourself because we're all on different paths in life. And that's why I brought up the whole thing with the gym, because you're looking at people on instagram and obviously the personal trainer, or whatever it may be, was literally giving these women this juice, whatever.
Speaker 2:Maybe I'm just going to call it juice because I actually don't know what it is, and I don't want to put it out there because some people might have seen this story too and I don't want negative feedback, but like just to make her account look better that she was doing this for these women and getting them into shape this quickly in like four weeks or whatever, maybe and not taking the healthy route, because it's not. It's not going to be worth it in the end, like you have to go through all the waves in life to get where you want to be a hundred percent sometimes it can be a slower road, but you will get there and that's why you need to be grateful for where you are now yeah, and with this girl.
Speaker 1:Like, were these girls bodybuilders or just normal everyday people? No normal everyday girls it is quite common in like the like you, you know the competitions of women do take testosterone. Um like, like. I understand why they do it.
Speaker 2:I don't agree with it, but anyway, um you can see what, like I get, I get it in a way Me personally. I don't think it's right, but each to their own.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly Like well, that's fucking mad, like that's just like. That's not only that, but it's false advertising, because, like you're trying to promote a quick fix for fitness and you know yourself so well me and you are massively into the gym it takes yeah, your body fluctuates.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry it does like literally.
Speaker 1:It does like like obviously. When I did the shoot, yeah, I had abs. Now I have my period, I am bloated, I'm holding fluid. It's completely fucking normal. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:it's like it's while you still look 10, 10 and you're killing me because I will put my hands up and say you're my fucking inspiration. At the minute you're getting me to the gym. It's it's quarter to eight here now in the evening and I don't care if I'm going to the gym at 10, because I look at Melissa and I go on to her Instagram. I'm like okay, yeah, I need to get to the gym right now, like it is like that, like people like it.
Speaker 1:It takes years, like I always try to do. Compare my like, even career, to the gym. Right, because it is like that. Like you have to be consistent in the gym, you have to show up and even if you do a shit workout, you show up, okay, yeah, it takes. It takes months and months to like change or like adapt your body, like and I think it's the same with your like career or any other goal you have, like it's not a thing, that's just gonna happen in four weeks.
Speaker 1:It's like exactly the end game, isn't it like you?
Speaker 2:kind of have to. That's what it is. It's down to your dedication and your mindset of everything in life, from the minute you wake up in the morning, what food you put into your body, what you listen to, who you surround yourself with. We don't have to know me and melissa always just backlog on this when it comes down to the gym, because what can I say? We, it is who we are, so we always just put that up at this, up at the very top, just to make it clear. But it's it is.
Speaker 1:It's down to absolutely everything like it really is it and I I even feel like in the like last two days. Like I woke up the other morning I was like I'm fucking changing my life, like I don't know where this came out. But I was like, do you know where you're kind of like? You're sick of being in like certain areas of your life, like I'm not dealing with this more. This isn't my fucking reality. I'm changing it. I'm changing my fucking life. So I was like, right, I prioritize back to my affirmations today. Um, I literally took like 20 minutes on my lunch break. I was like, right, we're gonna listen to these affirmations, get the head, you know, trying to make myself aware if I'm thinking negatively, pull myself back. It is like you do have to like constantly be on it, like to get yourself out, don't you like?
Speaker 2:yeah, like that you can't, because I'll find when you sit there, okay and you put into your head down to everything like I went out the weekend. I won't lie, I was a little bit hungover going to work this morning, but I still had to go to work. I had to go. I had to. It's my job. So if you want something in life, if I don't go to work, I'm not getting paid. If I don't go to the gym, my body isn't going to change. If I don't focus on my career, that's not going to change. So why would you stop yourself from getting yourself to where you want to be by just sitting down, overthinking and obsessing over other people and where they are in their career and not focused on your end goal and just grounding yourself a little bit, because you will get there? Do you know what I mean? Like?
Speaker 1:and I think it's always hard and it can be very overwhelming with like I've tried to, though like even like you know, I've always tried to be like. Even if you do get a bit like, oh, I wish I was doing that, I always try to sit around and like, smile and be like do you know what? I'm so happy for them. They worked hard. We don't see their goal to where they are now, like we're only seeing the now we don't know what they went through to get there. So I honestly think when you put that energy towards someone, it does come back to you yeah, definitely do you know, I mean if you're celebrating other people's success.
Speaker 1:It will come back to you, do you know? Yeah, but it's hard. I mean, we all do it, we all compare, we all get a little bit jealous. Jealousy is like a good like. I think people think the jealousy like now it can be very negative. But you can use jealousy to your advantage, as in to motivate you, to inspire you, but still be happy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know definitely, and like I'd never, ever take that back off of someone like that, that's doing well and thriving and like. But obviously you're going to be like oh my god, like why I'm doing all this hard work and I don't need to be getting anywhere. But some people are probably looking at you and saying, oh my god, she has the easiest life ever yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Like how, how did she, how did she get that? Like, yeah, do you know? It's just, you just don't know what other people are thinking and what other people are feeling, because everyone is different in their fields yeah, and you don't know what other people are going through as well.
Speaker 1:Do you know what I mean? Because like, like, like what you said, like, do you know? I mean I'd work out like five times a week, but I really have to schedule that into my lifestyle, like, and some days I don't want to do this, but like, I'm showing up for my future self. You know that kind of way, like and like. I think that's how you have to look at it. You know it's it is. But, lads, it's hard. Like we're real on here, like me and simone. We even fall into the comparison game.
Speaker 2:We even fucking feel shit some days and we're women, like it's normal and as much as I try to be a positive Nelly constantly, I have them days I really do, I do and it's hard and I try, I try my best to block it out and say no, it's all in your head. It's all in your head Because when you think of something, I always say if you sit there and you're saying this is going to be a bad day, then it's going to be a fucking bad day.
Speaker 1:I agree it will.
Speaker 2:Because in your head it's like oh, something's gone wrong, the whole day is wrong. It's not like that, something's gone wrong, the whole day is wrong. It's not like that. It's your life, you can change it. You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean, I feel like when you start your day off being in that bad mood and it's going to be a bad day, your brain's like, okay, that's grand. And it starts to look for things that are going to be bad. So it nearly directs you into things that are gonna go wrong. Yeah, isn't it all.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I got. I swear you won't write this the other morning. I get up really early for work or whatever, because I'm not, unfortunately I. I just I don't know how I managed to sleep in an extra 20 minutes, but anyhow. But I have to wear full face makeup and curl my hair and do whatever going to work. It's my job. You have to look presentable, right? So I was like, okay, I was up to getting a bottle of foundation or whatever and I was opening it up Next minute the whole thing cracked all over the floor.
Speaker 1:All over the floor. The girl's worst nightmare.
Speaker 2:Oh no right, I was number one. I was late, number two, the makeup was going all over the floor. There was someone to come pick me up in 10 minutes. My hair was still wet. I was like, do you know what? This is the worst day ever. This is actually going to be the fucking worst day ever. Like, why is this after happening to me?
Speaker 2:like why the stress I actually, I swear to god, you could not write the day that I had. But then again I was like, do you know what? It's fine, I can do my makeup when I get there. I can do it in the car, I can do it. You me Like, I can clean the mess up when I come home from work. It's not that big of a deal. I had to because I actually thought I was going to cry. I was like I'm going to have to call in sick.
Speaker 1:I was like this is not my vibe right now You're like that's it, I'm done, just go back. But things like that do set you off though oh, like, and to someone that's minor, like.
Speaker 2:This is what I mean as well when you're saying stuff like this to a man yeah, they don't get it they do not get it. It's like, what's that? There's a realer tiktok, and it's like a woman's day versus a man's day, and the man asks the woman how her day was and she's like well, no, no, no, no this. And there's like a zigzag of how the day went, and then his is just like yeah, god was fine, yeah like literally, there never seems to be a drama in a man's life no and if it, is once in a while like it's not even.
Speaker 1:Do you think you know the way like we're talking about hot girl summer? Do you think that like we might top track a little bit? Do you think there's a lot of pressure on people to like live up to this expectation of like hot girl summer? Like do you know what I mean? Like they have to like be doing this activity or going here, like going on holidays, like we're kind of like we're just having like casual hot girls somewhere.
Speaker 2:We're just like, yeah, I do think yeah, there most definitely is, and it's because it I know it's a horrible thing to say, but it's to show people what you're doing are you actually doing it for yourself?
Speaker 1:this is why.
Speaker 2:I'm saying don't obsess for other people's life, because literally I feel like, yeah, obviously you want to go, you want to travel the world, you want to have a good time, whatever it may be. But like, who are you actually doing it? For? Who are you stressing yourself over? For? Do you actually want to do those, do those things, or do you just want to show the world and show?
Speaker 1:all that you're doing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do you know like, and I okay like, not that I like. Obviously, every time I'm on Instagram like I'll show off my life, do you know what I mean? But there's some things that I do keep very private, that I will not share on my social, because I just don't, I just don't see the see the need to do. You know what I mean but, like a lot of people, I think, just tend to follow a trend yeah, are they trying? To yeah are.
Speaker 1:They're trying to like outdo people instead of just doing what you want to do, like like for my hot girl somewhere, I literally just want to like, look at, like what I said, look at my like mental health, like prioritize maybe a bit more me time, have more fun. I want to have more live in the moment yeah, I just want to live in the moment.
Speaker 1:I want to like laugh and joke and just be silly, and like I literally just want to go back into like that inner child of like just being silly, like and just having the crack. And yeah, like I just I feel like I need more fun, like because I like what you said, like you just get caught up in like the masculine energy of work and work and work and work and doing this and doing this and doing this, and then, like you just really want to like not care about all and just like live life, oh, just have fun like girly dreams, just low-key vibes like movie nights, who knows?
Speaker 1:you know?
Speaker 2:exactly, but that's what I mean. Like I don't, I don't want anyone to take it up the wrong way, like listening or whatever. Like obviously everyone wants to have a hot girl somewhere. I want to have a hot girl somewhere, everyone does. But just don't fall like constantly follow, follow, follow a leader the whole time because you need to, like go back to an obsess over your own life. I love that.
Speaker 1:I think that's going to be my mantra for the month Obsess over your own life.
Speaker 2:You heard, it here first from Simone on the boozy band Amen, can I hear an amen?
Speaker 1:Amen, bitches, amen Obsess over your own life.
Speaker 2:Love it yeah, yeah, baby girl, we're gonna be obsessing about our own life.
Speaker 1:I love it. I'm just gonna take it every morning. I'm like obsess over my own life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, fairy tales and like woo and then I put my hands up and say, yeah, I'm not really, because I'm going on to Melissa's Instagram manifesting these abs and I'm going on to Simone's manifesting been living in Dubai, see manifesting Melissa's abs is what's on my notes today, and I'm there looking out and it's raining is what's on my notes today.
Speaker 1:And I'm there looking out and it's raining and it's cold like in the sun. I'm like oh. I wish I was there. We're never happy, though, are we like? We need to be grateful, like you know what I mean. But yes, that was a good little chat. I can't. I want to.
Speaker 2:I want to die. You want to eat. I can't I want to die.
Speaker 1:You want to eat a kinder bueno no, I ate a kinder bueno.
Speaker 2:The other day and I went down, you were after posting a picture and I went oh you're fucks sake, why did I eat that?
Speaker 1:no, you have to eat. Chocolate is good for your soul. Chocolate is, you just need it. Oh, I was out with Rebecca, but I overindulged.
Speaker 2:Oh, but this is what happens to me.
Speaker 1:I went out to Rebecca's to mind her doggies because obviously she's on holidays and I couldn't. Every time I go to Rebecca's house they call me like they just hate me coming into the house anyway. Well, obviously they weren't there now this time, but anytime I come into her house I just fucking raid her press. I like Gwen, I'll be like I'll like get like three bars, I'll eat them, then I'll go back to the press and get Chris, then I'll go back again because she just has all the the doggies and I was got my chipper and I literally ate her house out of it and then I fell asleep on the couch like an old man.
Speaker 1:I loved it, it was brilliant sometimes you need days like that, though you really do you do like those days are so normal and especially when you're on your period, you fucking need them like you need all that food you just need all that good fats in your body.
Speaker 1:Well, not good fats are probably bad fats. Who cares? Just breathe. Melissa and simone are here to listen. So on this week's dilemma, we have this little girly who messaged me. She's like.
Speaker 1:I went to a festival festival recently with all my friends. I was so excited as I haven't been away in so long. On day two we started chatting to a group of guys. We ended up hanging around with them for the evening. I got chatting to one boy and he got on and we got on so well and there was an instant connection. He was very, very hot. We did end up kissing that night. It was a brilliant end to an evening.
Speaker 1:I honestly I honestly thought it was a little bit of a festival fling, which I was okay with. But he did reach out to me a week later with a DM asked me did we want to meet up? I filled my sister in on all the antics and she looked at his profile and said I know him. It's one of my friend's sister's exes, who apparently is only separated and it's a big ongoing breakup and he also has a child. Should I run from this drama or should I give this a chance. I do like him, but I don't want any issue from the ex either, especially when she probably will find out help.
Speaker 2:If it's a pressure of a relationship I'm sometimes I can give a red flag yeah um, but and if they have a child together, like, obviously they have proper feels. You're always going to have feels for the mother, your child, like you will.
Speaker 2:But like at the end of the day, like I can see it from both sides, I can see it from the woman who is after splitting up with him or whatever, and has the child with him. It is horrible, it's a hard feeling, but he obviously met for a reason. I always say if people come into your life for a reason, if it's just for a short period of time to show you something, they're meant to come into your life. So maybe give it a go, meet up with them, like you could go on a date to see how it is. I wouldn't just drop it with a hat because at the end of the day, it's your life as well and you'll have to do what makes you happy. And plus, if they're not together, it obviously didn't work out for a reason.
Speaker 1:I take meeting for like a coffee and like find out more details. Like you need to know how long they're actually broke up because you don't want to like him going on a date we're on a family property either yeah, and like if they're only broke up like a month, like I think people have to be respectful of breakups as well, like you do have to give it a certain amount of time for like people to heal.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would mean for a coffee, like and like, even just have chats with that and find out more information for yourself and then, if you get a good vibe from that, then go on to a third date, but I think a coffee is like casual, because you don't have to be like doing anything like hanky-panky or anything.
Speaker 2:Do you know what I mean? Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:Can just be a chat like do you know, yeah.
Speaker 2:I definitely go down that road because I just don't think, and especially like if your sister knows them as well.
Speaker 1:It's just a little bit it's kind of going to get a little bit messy yeah, you don't want like town drama, like I presume they're like. I presume they're like obviously around the same area if, like, they know someone who knows the one. But, yeah, like I think, as you said, everyone does come into your life for a reason. I would be like get to know them a bit better, be open-minded but also be aware of any like red flags, and especially since there is a child involved as well, you really want to stay away from that side of it. Like the family drama like you don't want. Yeah, yeah, it's complicated, but I will give it a go. I think you're right, simone. I think if someone comes into your life for a reason, you better, but might as well like see how it goes just see how it goes, see how it flows.
Speaker 2:You don't have to jump straight into anything, you can just be friends and see how it goes from there and if you vibe, you vibe, if you get along, um, but just be aware of, like melissa said, the red flags and you have to think about your own feelings as well, because at the end of the day, there is a child involved. So you know, sometimes it can be a little bit harder when, when there's a child in the picture as well, because you know that you need to prioritize the child. You know you're taking on on that role as well.
Speaker 1:Like I'm not saying you are right now, yeah, just in the future and you want to make, and you want to make sure that he's having a little technical difficulties um, you want to make sure he's prioritizing the child, because I'll be a massive like yeah, red flag if he wasn't seeing his child. Do you know?
Speaker 2:yeah, definitely, because I, if I was seeing somebody that had a child and if they didn't make time for the child, then he's, he's given a black flag, black flag, gonzo gonzo in the bin, the general waste bin yeah, general waste bin gone into the dump.
Speaker 1:Anyway, give it a go, girl. Treat it like an interview, right? So like bring him for a coffee and interview the fucking shit out of him and then see, does he pass the interview? And then you can go on to a proper official date. That's my advice, yeah 100.
Speaker 1:We're on the interview, vibe yeah, okay, so we have our little big hat. Why can't I speak today? Big hat of mystery, and we just have a little quick minute segment on what our question is this week. Okay, do you believe in life after death, simone? That is the question in our hat.
Speaker 2:This week um yes.
Speaker 1:I believe in. I believe in reincarnation, reincarnation yeah.
Speaker 2:I do because I'm after hearing stories and I'm after watching documentaries and kids don't lie kids do not lie.
Speaker 1:I've seen a girl on TikTok where the mother was convinced that it was her child, was her grandmother reincarnated and she so. She showed her child a picture of her grandmother when, like back in the 60s, the grandmother was only like, obviously very young at the time, like teenager or maybe 20s, 30s, whatever and she showed the pictures to the child and the child was looked at it and like, was like I started rubbing her hair and was like that's me, that's me. And then started like looking at the back of the photograph but like, obviously on the back of the photograph the mother or the grandmother like wrote down things on it and like she kept because I have shivers, yeah, and she was in awe, like this girl was.
Speaker 1:This little girl was only about two and a half three, I say and she kept like rubbing her and like that's me, that's me. And then someone said on TikTok, show him a picture of you when you're a child. And the mother showed her a picture of her when she was a child and she didn't have the same like all of it. She was just kind of like she's like you do you know? Oh, it was so weird.
Speaker 2:No, that is actually so scary, like that's what I mean, like there's definitely some some truth in it like I do think, everyone does you know, even when you go somewhere and you get deja vu, like you were here before you know what deja vu actually is.
Speaker 1:It's actually when all it's actually not something that's happened before. It's when all the parallel universes all are in the same timeline, at the same time so weird it actually freaks me out, I swear. I don't even want to get deep into this now because my brain goes west I did read a thing that apparently everyone that's in your life right now was in your past life but could have been a different, like form of connection. Do you know we?
Speaker 2:need. Okay, we're having a topic on this.
Speaker 1:We could have been sisters in like a past life.
Speaker 2:You never know I feel like, I feel like we were I really do.
Speaker 1:I feel like I know in my whole life yeah's mad though it is like when you meet certain people, you just have an instant connection with them and it's like that you just know him your whole life, and then with some people you don't. So I do think there's some truth in it. There has to be 100%, I do.
Speaker 2:We're going to have a topic on this? Yeah, we will, because it's getting too deep now. This is only a mystery hat quick.
Speaker 1:We will, because it's getting too deep now.
Speaker 2:This is only a mystery hat quick so our affirmation of the week is success is not final, failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts like that.
Speaker 1:I think we needed that this week. Well, I needed that this week. I feel like this episode was like a therapy session.
Speaker 2:It was good yeah it actually kind of was, wasn't it?
Speaker 1:yeah, therapy for me it's yeah we needed to.
Speaker 2:We just needed to chat to each other to support system.
Speaker 1:I hope our listeners felt like it was a bit you a therapy session. I hope our listeners felt like it was a bit of a therapy session for them as well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I hope so too. We need to have therapy sessions Tuesdays with Simone and Melissa yeah, we do.
Speaker 1:We can have our own show. If anyone wants to hire us, get in touch. We're very good at it.
Speaker 2:Therapy session tuesdays therapy session tuesdays.
Speaker 1:We should actually do like um like, uh, like instagram live therapy session tuesdays.
Speaker 2:That'd be funny yeah, it actually would, wouldn't it?
Speaker 1:we need to have a look into this yeah, watch this space universe is is bringing all the intuition to us now, so it obviously worked. But thank you everyone for tuning. Make sure you follow us on spotify and apple and on our instagrams as well, at the podcast, and we hope you have a beautiful and lovely week and we will see you next.
