Boujee Blondes
Boujee Blondes is presented by Melissa Clarke and Simone Grace.Join the ladies for girly chats full of fun and laughter - chatting about life, relationships and much more in a comfortable safe place. women empowerment and sisterhood is the sense of belonging that this podcast interprets. the atmosphere hopes to provide a safe place for everyone to go for advice whilst feeling accepted and understood. Melissa and Simone share their own life experiences which entails lots of blissful, loving and embarrassing moments but also mistakes throughout life. Speaking to diverse groups of people from different walks of life on various subjects. A weekly episode not to be missed - every Tuesday on all major podcast platforms. If you would like to contact the girls please email Boujeeblondespodcast@gmail.com
Boujee Blondes
Mummy nappies, new relationship ick's & Long distance friendships #60
The girls first episode in person! Join us this week on the Boujee Blondes Podcast as Melissa and Simone finally reunite in person after two years apart! We kick off our reunion with a hilarious recount of our recent night out, complete with tales of overconfidence fueled by a few too many drinks.
Then, they switch gears and tackle the gritty realities women face post-childbirth, peppered with our signature humor and honesty. From the surprising necessity of "mummy nappies" to a harrowing taxi experience Melissa had, we confront some serious topics with levity and empathy. Simone shares the grounding joy of returning to Ireland and the fresh perspective it brings, contrasting it with the often suffocating judgments that come from living in small towns and the impact of social media.
we tackle relationship dilemmas with practical, heartfelt advice. Whether it’s navigating a partner's car obsession or setting boundaries in friendships, we share our wisdom while reflecting on the importance of genuine connections. Join us for a heartfelt, humor-filled episode that captures the essence of true friendship and the vibrant dynamics that make our podcast something special.
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It's the Bougie Blondes podcast with Melissa and Simone, available on Spotify, Apple or wherever you get your podcasts. Now let's get bougie. Hi, I'm Melissa. Hi, I'm Simone. Our podcast is serving you.
Speaker 2:bestie vibes, we are just two country girls chatting about all the things we struggle with in daily life.
Speaker 1:And, of course, talking about certain issues that some people are afraid to speak about. We give it to you real, while having crack along the way. Remember, these are just our opinions, gals, so don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice. Welcome, we are here, we are together, together in person, and we want to cry. I can actually touch her. Weird, it's very weird. It is weird. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2:No, I love it and I think I'm loving it yeah it could get her home.
Speaker 1:Lads, it could get her home it could get me yeah, definitely.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I feel like something that I need to have a little think yes, are we gonna get this bougie simone home? Who knows, I could be on my rounds around the world many times you could back and forth every month. Imagine I actually would like to do it, though you know well, come back and forward.
Speaker 1:I wish I was in a position where I could just come and go as I please yeah, like I always thought that, like I'd love to be able to have the like freedom, the financial freedom.
Speaker 2:Just be like I'm going over to Dubai now to record a fucking podcast you know, you know what it's actually horrible, like I won't lie when I came home yeah and when I came to meet you, yeah, I was like, oh my god, no, I feel a little bit trapped now because I don't want to leave. I don't want to leave. And then I came here this morning. Why do I feel like I'm gonna cry?
Speaker 1:I know she's gonna cry. I feel like when I seen Simone, I think I mentally prepared myself to proceed. Yeah, we did. We did because the two of us are two emotional right, yeah yeah, starters, yeah, we are like, but when I seen her I was like she's real, because I haven't seen you in like two years. Yeah, like I've never seen you. We talk like every day, but like it's like, but you know what?
Speaker 2:what it is? It's like being on FaceTime when we do our podcast yeah, it is yeah, it's like that we're together but we're not when you're physically in contact with someone you're like yeah, but I don't know. Just something was telling me yeah that I need to come back a little more often because we're sat here now lads right and I just feel do you know what you get, that relationship with somebody?
Speaker 1:yeah like when you're sitting there and you just feel like this could work yes, I feel like we know it's working we know it's working the podcast for a very long time but something in my gut is just, yeah, a little bit different a little bit.
Speaker 2:You feel like a little bit more optimistic, like the romance is like romancing it's just blossoming even further but I have a very bad cold, so excuse the deep I actually do as well, we do think we picked up some sort of disease and you can't eat dinner night.
Speaker 1:Definitely a hundred percent yes, we definitely picked up some sort of fucking disease. And can you say dinner night?
Speaker 2:a hundred, but maybe we just had a little bit. Yeah, definitely, definitely, we celebrated a little bit yeah.
Speaker 1:I was like grand. And then I got really excited when I seen you. I was like drink.
Speaker 2:I was like come on, someone drink up.
Speaker 1:You know what I noticed, what we didn't even get a baby, no, someone giving me green shots and I don't know what they were. Green diesel, was it? Oh?
Speaker 2:I don't know what it was.
Speaker 1:I don't know if it was green diesel, I don't know what it was, but I definitely had like three or four of them, yeah it wasn't good.
Speaker 2:Well, what I'm after picking up, is that the drink. Here it's completely different. I don't know Really. Listen, when I met you, I had three drinks with she. Then I went to have Pepsi to meet the lads, or whatever. I went to outer space.
Speaker 1:Really, but you know what it is. I think that when you're traveling and you're tired, you get drunk quicker.
Speaker 2:It was a Saturday night, wasn't it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I didn't even have dinner that night, I just actually went out.
Speaker 2:Why are we like this? Why?
Speaker 1:And I'm like I swear I'm like a feral cat, like I'm either really fitness hon drinking my green tea, thinking I'm like so healthy, and then I just poison myself.
Speaker 2:I'm the same, so I'll throw my hands. Yeah, yeah, you know, I feel like when you drink, you turn into a completely different person. You do it's actually I just get very, I get very confident yeah.
Speaker 1:I feel like I'm a bit too much confident. I was nearly at the stage of doing like the spark dance on the nightclub dancer. Think you can get what you want.
Speaker 2:I just remember walking in and you were in there and I just saw Keith and I was only after getting dropped up, obviously yeah and I was bursting to go toilet and I just shouted across the room and I was like hi, keith, nice to meet you. Where is she tell her I'm going to the toilet? He was like Jesus, this one is a bit maybe she has diarrhea.
Speaker 1:She's gone, though she's gone because when I come back in, he's like Simone, there's a weird. It was like I was on like one of those treasure hunts. I was like where is Simone? Where is she leaving my bread crumbs?
Speaker 2:just following me along I was like there she is, she's real it was a weird, like yeah it was a very nice moment yeah, it was, and then I was like do I hug you or do I hug Becca? Because I just want to squeeze you because I'm like I haven't seen you in two years. And then it's Becca's engagement party, which she is unbelievable. You're very like I think so.
Speaker 1:Yeah, in person, yeah like do you know?
Speaker 2:when you're looking from the outside in, you're like, yeah, I can see the similarities, but when you're together, yeah it's like your personalities are quite the same A little bit.
Speaker 1:A little bit, yeah, even though.
Speaker 2:I know you're like no, we're not.
Speaker 1:I'm a bit more wilder than Rebecca. She's the good child, she's the golden egg of the family. Well, I'm like the black sheep.
Speaker 2:You are not the black sheep oh.
Speaker 1:I see, absolutely not. Well, I'm like the black sheep.
Speaker 2:you are not the black sheep absolutely not a hundred percent yeah, but it was a good night. It was, yeah, it was very good. From what we don't remember, we won't speak about that.
Speaker 1:Actually, I was filling someone in on my taxi dilemma. Lads, you don't believe this, I actually. So basically, a taxi man robbed my 20 euro yes, you see, I can't like even cope with, because I wouldn't drop me home but robbed my 20 euro you'd only get in ireland. No, honestly like what man was going to leave a like little girl out me, oh silly old me silly old me like in the countryside, like in the middle of nowhere, like seriously.
Speaker 1:They ended up having to sleep between rec and Stephen like a sweat box, like like three sardines, did you not?
Speaker 2:top and tail, hmm top and tail.
Speaker 1:What's top and?
Speaker 2:tail, what's that? We used to do that when we were kids. Oh like, not sleep at, like what, but then you'd have becca and stephen's toes in your mouth no, I wouldn't that.
Speaker 1:That'd be a bad sight now, rebecca's toes in my mouth. Thank you very much.
Speaker 2:No, thanks, no see salty toes for breakfast.
Speaker 1:No, thank you very much. Don't have any salty toes for breakfast.
Speaker 2:No, thank you no wonder why we all had verrucas when we were younger yeah, remember the Verrucas.
Speaker 1:They used to be like did you used to have a Verruca lady? A Verruca lady? Yeah, like there used to be a girl in Bagnestown who used to specialise in just doing Verrucas is that not someone that what's?
Speaker 2:she was going to say in Arthedon I was going to say chiropodist.
Speaker 1:Is that the right word or is that for your back?
Speaker 2:no, chiropodist is that for your? Yeah, it is, I hope we're right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know like dumb asians here anyway. So yeah, I used to go out there and she used to like like scrape, like my verruca and like used to spray stuff on it, like, oh, I just remember lads, if anyone's from Bagn like maybe I was a little bit back in the day. There's a lady who's still the verruca is like maybe she just did all the feet as well, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Like on fungus infections, I don't know no, I just remember when you used to do. You know, when you were younger you went like swimming with school my mom used to get the I think it's called s-c-o-l-l. Oh school, yeah, something like that. Yeah, you spray it on your roof. Okay, it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, you're right it has like blue and yellow yeah, yes, yeah. I remember I got them like three times and they're just like you're not going to swim, I fucking hate rucas, I just have the ick anyway, of like, of like walking in, like like spas or swimming not spa, because spa is different, but like yeah like public, like I don't know, do you get like the ick of like walking on that water with like there's some.
Speaker 2:I don't know what it is, but just when I think back, when you're a child, you don't actually think through these things. No, just want to go swimming like whatever, but going into a public swimming pool.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's not the worst.
Speaker 1:I remember I had at one stage, 28 warts on my hand. Stop yeah.
Speaker 2:That's one thing I don't think I ever had. Yeah, they're disgusting.
Speaker 1:I just remember having them and my granddad told me to get a snail and rub a snail on them. Yeah, a snail. And then you had to, like, put a thorn through the snail and then when it died, the snail died, the wart died and it actually worked. Stop it. I swear to God. I know people are going to think I'm crazy now and I went like to doctors, got them frozen and everything.
Speaker 2:And did it work.
Speaker 1:It worked, it's mad how like those little holes yeah now. I don't know, maybe it's coincidences, I don't know, but it worked. That's what my granddad said. It's the same.
Speaker 2:when you get stung like a nettle sting, it's a dog leaf or something like that the dog leaves. Yeah, when you rub it in something and it does work.
Speaker 1:It's mad, though, and to say then as well, like you know, like if women are pregnant, like don't put cabbage leaves on their, like breasts when, or like after giving birth.
Speaker 2:I have never. Yeah, well, I'm telling you, if I give birth and someone puts cabbage leaves on, I'm like Mother Nature, yeah.
Speaker 1:Just walking around with cabbage leaves. Apparently it is like soothing.
Speaker 2:In Ireland. That's what we do instead of coconuts lads, just putting it out there. Yeah, I know what I mean. It's smell a cabbage off you.
Speaker 1:It's actually smell a cabbage off your nipples, nipply cabbage. What we would have to go through, though, for, like child wear lads, it's actually like I physically?
Speaker 2:don't think I'm even. We were speaking about it at home the other day because obviously, like I'm 26 or whatever it just comes up and I was like, respectfully, I don't think I can see, like obviously we want kids yeah.
Speaker 1:I just don't think I do a Kim K on it and get someone else to have a party like the things happen to you, like it's just abnormal, like how does this even happen with childbirth anyway, I don't know.
Speaker 2:As if we've experienced we just wonder, we just wonder, we just wonder. In our little brains it baffles my mind.
Speaker 1:Childbirth yeah, like the things like that happen, like people can like burst blood vessels in their head this is what I mean, it's terrifying, but it's exciting and it's beautiful.
Speaker 1:Is it beautiful, though, like I'm sure, the child is beautiful I'm just saying what my mother says yeah, but like I get it like the child is beautiful, but the whole childbirth thing can't be beautiful, like whoever says that has to be. Like yeah, like how is that beautiful? Like you're in chronic pain. Yeah, like those things been ripped from every angle. Like do you know what I mean? Like, come on, these things get ripped from every end. Then you have like cabbage leaves in your breasts. You have to wear a nappy. You know that? What do you mean? You have to wear a nappy. You have to wear a nappy after you get burnt. Shut up, melissa, I swear to god, because you're incontinent, just piss yourself. No one has ever, I swear to God. My friends are pregnant, so I know this.
Speaker 2:So what.
Speaker 1:When you give birth. Yeah, basically it takes like A couple of weeks For like your bladder To like Piss yourself. What, yeah, do you not know this? No, yeah, I didn't know you had to wear a nappy, like I didn't know. I just thought maybe a little bit of pee came out like, but I didn't think you'd like.
Speaker 2:They always say you need to wear like a it's not even a panty liner because you need a cushion down there, because I think what comes out is like horrendous disgusting yeah but you're a nappy like.
Speaker 1:Imagine that, like we're in a nappy.
Speaker 2:I just I think your dignity is gone yeah, isn't the woman's body like just amazing, oh unreal, when you actually genuinely think about it, though? Like the things that we go through, and men have a cold and it's like, oh my god, the world is ending, life is over.
Speaker 1:Life is over life is over, literally. Oh, they drive me mad. Men have no fucking clue. So any women out there that are mothers, these are fucking legends. Yeah, and let us know, did you wear?
Speaker 2:a nappy anyway, melissa, fill us in on your taxi journey. So back to my taxi journey. We obviously went, so basically the man dropped us home.
Speaker 1:He was very weird anyway and if I had his details I would be reporting him, but anyway I just forgot to do that. So man dropped us home, he was very weird anyway and if I had his details I would be reporting him, but anyway, I just forgot to do that. So he dropped us off, like at my sister's house, and then rebecca's partner fiancee it was like here's 20 euro to drop melissa home got down the road he was acting a bit strange, like a bit of an ache, like a bit of vibes. I was like he just stopped in the middle of the road. I was like, um, you're not dropping me home. And he was like, well, not answering me.
Speaker 1:And then I was like, right, here's my air code. And then he was like this is Carlo. I said yes, it says 12 minutes from my sister's house, and he just wouldn't answer me. And then I just got really bad vibe. And then I was like, well, I got out of the taxi and he said yeah, and I was like give back my 20 euro. And he's like no, you didn't give me 20 euro. I was like we did give you fucking 20 euro, like so fucking rude though, yeah, and then I had to ring Stephen to come down and be like you may sort this taxi man out, and he wouldn't give him back 20 euro like I just don't understand how a man can leave a woman out in the middle of the road.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like, how was that his job?
Speaker 1:I don't know. If I had his number or like his details, I would report him. It's so.
Speaker 2:I'm raised and I didn't take picture of it.
Speaker 1:You wonder why, even like when you were telling me that story all that was going through my head, if I'm being honest, was imagine he let you out and something actually happened yeah, now I know I was only down the road for my sister's house, but still, it's not the point. It's not the point. You didn't know that. Yeah, like, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:It's ridiculous, so weird. I I think you should find out the service, if I'm being honest.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and report, because if it was a young girl though, oh yeah, and it, and she was really drunk that's insane because, like, obviously, like it was a bit tipsy that night but I was completely in my awareness and, like you know what made I have my wits about me. Like it's not like, but imagine there was someone who was really out of it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like you know it's not good. It's not good, but you didn't get your 20 euro, fucking rob me 20 euro, no mcdonald's.
Speaker 1:No mcdonald's. Couldn't even afford chicken nuggets, because you robbed me 20 euro like he went off and had a fielding. Yeah, the fucker like got a mac flurry, got a mac flurry, got some like twisty fries, got the curry dip, curry dip menu. He got the whole spell. I hope they gave him like a good bit of red sauce. If we're stingy about it, the poor man, do you know what I mean? Bastard, I, there'll be jokes there'll be jokes on the chicken so what does it feel like to be home?
Speaker 2:it feels absolutely lovely to be at home when I came home at christmas. Obviously it's very rushed, it's rushed now a week is definitely way too short yeah, I've realized yes, it is, but I think the fresh air we're getting lovely weather. I missed Ireland so much. Like I said at Christmas, it's cold, it's raining. Yeah, like everyone is on the go. You're rushing, you're racing even though I still am rushing and racing, but it's like it's so clear yeah, fresh air do you feel like healthier in this weather.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I really do. I feel like sometimes you need to rejuvenate and like coming back makes you come back a little down to earth as well. I think so very trapped and sucked up into a completely another bubble and a completely different world.
Speaker 1:Right, your surroundings are different yeah, the people, your way are different yeah, you know what I mean, like you need to.
Speaker 2:It's mad to think about, because I remember my cousins and stuff like that moving abroad when I was younger and they were moving to Australia or New York or, but no one that I really knew moved to Dubai yeah and obviously it's.
Speaker 1:It's a new city yeah, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:it's very futuristic, it's very modern and like there's a lot of different things going on over there that you just wouldn't see in the normal day-to-day world and when you come back home you're like this. This is home yeah, do you? Feel like you think that over there it's, it's home. Yeah, yeah, I love it there. My job is, there are friends there, or whatever. But it's completely different feeling the feeling of love when I, when I arrived home. Yeah, it's a feeling that you just can't underestimate, like you just yeah it's, it's weird.
Speaker 2:It's like you can feel the vibrations in your body, I think Irish people as well.
Speaker 1:Like we're very like, we are very welcoming, yeah, to our own. Yeah, like we're very like, family oriented, even though sometimes we don't act like it. But we are, yeah, aren't we? Even with your friends.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, even with you like it's like, even though, like I didn't see you for two years, but it's like I never left you. Yeah, so weird. Do you get what I mean?
Speaker 2:yeah, it's like when you, when you hug someone, you're like oh my god, yeah, I believe you're here, you're real or whatever, but the feeling that you get when you come home is a different feeling from when I go back.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love being there but I don't get that feeling like that, like that like butterflies, that like inner love nearly yeah, it is mad, that is mad.
Speaker 2:There's like a few people were saying to me you know, do you ever think you come home? I never say never, because you just don't know what could happen. Yeah, like I could be over there for another 10 years. I could be over there for another two months.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I'm never gonna say I think you'll know when you know, though, yeah, yeah, yeah, once you're like see, I feel like it, like, do you feel like when you come back to Ireland, it's a lot more like humble very much so.
Speaker 2:Yeah, very much so, even though the people over there are really nice, like they are.
Speaker 1:They're lovely and they are well, it's just a different lifestyle, completely different lifestyle.
Speaker 2:Everyone has a different mindset. Yeah, like a completely different mindset, because you need to understand that over there, a lot of people move over there to make it yes, to get me.
Speaker 2:So they're all business oriented like success like constantly climbing a ladder, like the minute they they get to where they want to be, which is a good thing. Yeah, they want to go higher and they keep on to go higher and everyone wants to better everyone else because they're up high yeah, so I feel like in Ireland, sometimes, when someone is getting up another step above someone, they want to bring them back down until that is fucking true.
Speaker 2:I don't know why we do this I don't know why no we are different we are yeah, but like we haven't seen.
Speaker 1:That's like. I even see that like, even with just people I know in the industry and stuff, everyone's always trying to like bite someone in the back. Yeah, and I feel like with the industry as well, like I've noticed in the last little while, especially like in like the influencer industry, I feel like there's going to be a 360. I can see it happening. There's a lot of people that are now getting called out and things, yeah, who were climbing the ladder in the wrong way and trying to like yeah, I'm not even getting into it, but there is.
Speaker 1:I can see a 360 that people that are there, people are sick of it and they're like, they're calling people out on behaviors that they've did. And it is unfair to see people like and like getting success that, yeah, are not doing it for the right reasons, like there's a lot of genuine nice people out there doing for right reasons that are just not getting a look in because I don't know everyone's like in their clique as well, yeah, they are you know very much so in a yeah, and I feel like especially over here and because we're like from the country country girl, literally country girls.
Speaker 1:We have a lovely view today we do.
Speaker 2:We're looking now at blue skies green fields sheep, rabbits sheep, rabbits.
Speaker 1:Is there cows? There's cows somewhere there now, simone.
Speaker 2:I can bring you. I can bring you for a tour, if you want to see some cows go up the mountain.
Speaker 1:I haven't seen a cow lads in two years I may bring her to see a cow lads, I swear they're beautiful.
Speaker 2:I didn't realise how beautiful cows are, do you? Like cows. I think they're so cute.
Speaker 1:I feel sorry for them. They're very stupid. No, they are, they're the most really stupid animals Cows. Cows are so stupid. That's what a vet told me. Johnny down the road told you, johnny down the road, told me Vets are stupid. Vets are stupid. I was thinking how do?
Speaker 2:you get off the cows. I don't know, why does this always happen? I don't know we go off, we really do yeah but yes, I agree with you. Yeah, it is like it's it's really bad. I feel like, just because like we're kind of down a little bit in the country but not that we get kind of forgotten about or like how we do we get shoved under the other radar?
Speaker 1:now they think that we're all into tractors, and they do. They think we're buggers. Yeah, and I'm like, what are you on about? We're not fucking buggers. Well, maybe we are a bit, but like I'm sorry, country people are the best crack. Yeah, we are we are.
Speaker 2:We are some laugh we're not bigging ourselves up, but we are some laugh yeah we love a bit of crack and, to be fair, I feel like we're very humble.
Speaker 1:Yes, we are. There's no notions here. No, no notions of potions no notions of potions.
Speaker 2:I love it but do you know what pisses me off and I'm actually gonna say it on this, because it someone said it to me and it's actually driving me nuts- it's like a terrible session.
Speaker 1:I swear, I swear this is not okay.
Speaker 2:To judge someone on their social media, no, by a picture, no, right, and I'm putting it out there for everyone because at the end of the day, they're real and they're an image. Okay, they're not our 24 hours of the day, they're not our heart, our soul, our mindset. Yeah at all. It's a picture. Yeah, agree, don't try and say to someone that they're changing because they move to a different country to try and better their life that's how you're here to talk do not because I think it's so rude and so disrespectful the fact of the matter is, it's not just me.
Speaker 2:People move away, or people get a different job, or they're trying to, but no matter where they are in the world. Okay, when you don't see someone for months on end and your first word to them is hello yeah oh my god, you've forgotten where you come from, like excuse me, respectfully, who? The fuck said that it's, it's really bad, and you know what? Because I am the most emotional, like sobby little bitch that I am. It hurt me yeah and.
Speaker 2:I got very taken back by it because and then I kind of was like to myself why am I letting someone make me feel this way? Once my family and my friends yeah that I'm the same person, then that's I pass. I could pass a random person on the street and talk away to him you know what? I mean like I'm not that type of person.
Speaker 1:You are very humble like, and even like when Keaton and all that seen you, they were like oh my god, she's just so like down to earth, yeah, but it's, it's.
Speaker 2:I just don't understand.
Speaker 1:But see people do judge people, I think, by their social media. Like I've had like people say that to me and even like say, because obviously I do the makeup as well and then I do the social media. So people like have often said to me in the middle of doing makeup oh, you're a lot different than I expected, you're actually nice. Yeah, I said, why do I not fucking look nice in my pictures? Like literally, and you will get taken back by it like so you can't judge someone by a picture, do you know? I mean like you can't see the energy of that person. If you've never actually chatted to someone face to face, I don't think you can judge someone.
Speaker 2:But you know this person knows me my whole life. See, that could be a jealousy, though, and what I see, this is what I think is small town syndrome straight away, and it's a horrible thing to say, because I love where I come from.
Speaker 1:I love my little town yeah, do you know my surroundings like nothing against that, but I'm just like seriously see people get stuck, I feel in their like own little rush, yeah, and like it's like this thing where the brain can only comprehend once like safe safety. So like if they see someone else outside of doing something different, their brain actually triggers that as like, oh, that that's wrong or that's not normal, that's not safe. So their like main reaction then is to like be defensive towards it. The brain isn't amazing. It honestly like it's like it can manipulate people. Do you know what I mean? It can, yeah, I can be very downgrading though, yeah, it can.
Speaker 2:Yeah, in a way it's I'm not saying it's bullying, but like it's passive-aggressive and it's condescending, yeah, like do you know?
Speaker 1:I mean it is. It's rude, like why would you say that to someone?
Speaker 2:I don't understand it, you know like I would.
Speaker 1:It'd be different now, right, if you came in. I'm like, oh, my god lord, it's all and you're going around, but you'd like, excuse me, where is my servant? You know I mean, but like you're not like that at all, do you know?
Speaker 2:I mean, if I'm I'm like what you want. Do you want this, do you want that? Oh my god, will I get you this?
Speaker 1:yeah, I'm like the servant yeah, do you know, like you're a hundred percent, not like that like but the thing is, why they said it to me was because of the car I went to the airport in.
Speaker 1:It was a collaboration. Yes, well, I sure knew that I was like that's definitely a collaboration. Do you know what I mean? Like who wouldn't want to fucking go in that car? You're telling me that that person, anyone that's seen that would not want to go to the airport in that car. Fuck right off. And you know what I think.
Speaker 2:Maybe it was the way I moved maybe it's like the way I moved.
Speaker 1:Maybe it's the way I moved, but you know what I feel like some people will automatically just have hate towards you, no matter what you do. So even if you do everything right and try to like gain their affection, they just, no matter what you do, it's not gonna like make any difference if I arrived home in a tractor, in a john deere, I think, oh, that'd be acceptable.
Speaker 2:Oh, look at her, she's trying to be different.
Speaker 1:Like sorry yeah, I know you can't win, no, you can't win, you actually cannot win. You cannot make people happy in this world, no matter what you do no that's why you should just do what you want. Yeah, honestly, I swear that's today's lesson do the fuck you want actually I actually in.
Speaker 1:The girl on tiktok had up actually, um, I actually know her, like she's around, but she had up like she does, she has a business, but she's like put up that she wants to do like something different. Should she showcase her like personality and do like outside of her business, say like hobbies and stuff, and she's like, oh, I really want to do it, but I'm afraid of people who want to tink. She's obviously from a small town as well. Yeah, I was like fucking do it. I said we want to hate you anyway, do you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they're always going to have something to say yeah, no matter what. Yeah, like honestly, it's the worst, and I think Ireland in general is the worst. Yeah, like you see all these Americans, the minute they're like four years of age, they have the biggest boost of confidence.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, they're becoming president yeah, do you know what I mean? I admire the americans for that their sense of love is just fucking on fire. It's next level, yeah, and we're like we kind of take compliments well, I feel like it's.
Speaker 2:It's not that, maybe like it's our upbringing and not that our parents, like, they always told us yeah brilliant, like they do. You know, yeah, irish people were not. Our parents are nasty, like yeah, but it's because their own parents, like they, were always kind of taught to make sure you don't think you're better than anyone else or make sure that you stay humble and grounded and remember where you come from, or whatever it may be. But then sometimes I'm like you need like I think we were brought to people pleasers.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I honestly do, yeah literally, I think, our whole lives especially like that generation were brought to people and I feel like we're having the repercussions now. Do you know? Yeah, and it's taking effect yeah, you have to reprogram the brain to get out of that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's mad how like the like, different like societies or different like countries can be so like in comparison to even Dubai. Yeah to hear yeah, kids, yeah, kids, kids in Dubai would not survive in Ireland, stop, no, they would not are they like?
Speaker 1:are they just like real snowflakes?
Speaker 2:Like they're. I don't know what it is, but they just wouldn't Like especially both.
Speaker 1:You know what it is. It's the delayed gratification, so like, if you think about it right and I even see this with Gen Z, gen Z generation that when we were brought up, we always had to like work towards something, for example, right, and this is like people, like younger people. I'm like, oh my gosh, so old. But, um, do you know, like, even like on a Friday night, like or sorry, you'd be looking forward to going to extra vision. So you didn't have Netflix, you didn't have your phone, you couldn't just look at the program when you wanted. So like your Friday night was like you're working all week, can't wait to go to like, drive over to exhibition, get my popcorn physically, get this dvd, drive back home with this dvd and put it on and you really thoroughly enjoy that film where now you see, everything's just so quick and easy to kids. And I think it's like the younger, younger kids like that are only like children.
Speaker 2:Now they're I just they, they just they want everything now, now, now now and when they get told no, they're gonna fucking crumble, freak, freak out like it's actually now that you'll say that, like I used to love you know what it is. It's the excitement of even going with your mama, your dad or your friend. Yeah to extra vision, yeah, to pick out the movie, yeah, to get your popcorn or get your sweets, like a family time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like, even like my first, are gonna eat like that was our date night, like do you know what I?
Speaker 1:mean, and it is even like that, like, and I think that's why a lot of people now and you've heard it here in the boozy blondes podcast don't stick a fitness because they can't deal with the delayed gratification, because you're not getting getting that constant like you're not seeing the results. Yeah, it takes like a year or two years. So it is that delayed gratification or it's like that right, I'm not going, so I'm going to stick, like with my food and then, like at the weekend, yeah, and then at the weekends I'll have my like cheat meal or whatever, and it's they just can't, they can't hold out for it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, 100% actually so right, yeah, it is really it's the same, like even when you're scrolling on something. Yeah, and I'll put my hands up and I will say it. I think it's the best thing since sliced pan lads in Dubai when I can get toothpaste delivered to my door and I don't even have to go to the shop that's bad. Yeah, I think that's actually bad.
Speaker 1:I love that, but still, I get what you mean. That's what I'm saying. It's coming everything's so accessible to now that no one has to like work towards it in certain aspects. I'm not saying like jobs and things like that, but like they're not going to because they're going to have all this on their doorstep. They won't know the graft of actually getting to where they want to be because they just expect it. Yeah, do you? Know, it's gonna be a scary generation.
Speaker 2:It's like even what I noticed as well as, like I was obviously working, I didn't get time to go to a tie shop over there or whatever, but like, within 15 minutes I was able to get a baby that I would deliver to my door. That's so cool, but know, like the experience, of being a child. And going instead of picking out something on your iPad.
Speaker 1:I know, Do you know what I used to do and saying I want that?
Speaker 2:Yeah To get me and it's delivered. Yeah, like when we were younger we'd go off and we'd go to the toy shop Ken Black's and like and pick out. Like it was Smiths or what was the other one World of Wonder.
Speaker 1:World of Wonder or I used to like we used to get the Ken Black book in both and I used to cut out all the Barbies I wanted and stick them on a white piece of paper and give that like that's what I want, it's like your little mood board. Yeah, I was like this is what I mean, but now, like that, it is like you're just like here, what do you want off the iPad? Yeah, and it was the excitement, like even like you might go to like Ken Black's or Smith's once a year for your birthday and you'd have like the money that you saved up and you went in like picking the Barbie, but you don't. I don't know. Did they get that experience now?
Speaker 2:Because it's just online.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like I know my sister, whatever yeah, you know, and I would too, but a lot of kids. I feel like their parents are working, yeah it's a scary world.
Speaker 2:Do you know what? I mean like, and then again I'm like bringing a child to a toy shop. I was a b-i-t-c-h yeah but I wasn't.
Speaker 2:I wasn't like spoiled, but I always wanted, remember brat dolls oh, I love rat dolls. I was obsessed. Yeah, I love them. My uncle's gonna come pick me up now shortly from here and he used to always brim me too, because they've no kids. He'd be like, okay, you can pick out a doll, but he'd know that I'd want to. Oh, I'd be too polite to say I wanted to, right, like um, I don't know which one I want yeah, and he's like I can get two.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're like yeah, you're like, oh, I don't know which one hopefully say bring home the two.
Speaker 2:Well, I feel like nowadays kids demand oh, they do, they demand, they do. They're not polite, no, they're.
Speaker 1:Oh god, they're off, they will tell you, yeah, you're really afraid of the kids. Now you're like, yeah, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:literally. And teenagers, I'm scared, we're scared, I'm terrified?
Speaker 1:yeah, no, they're they're. The only good thing I would say about that generation is they. They're confident, they're able to speak up for what? Is wrong and what was right where we didn't. We kind of went along even if something was wrong, we just I guess you said we were too polite to be like fight against it where they were like no, that's wrong. I'm not doing that. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, which is a good thing, but yeah, it's scary.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's a very, very weird generation it is sorry. I'm not gonna lie yeah. I don't know if I like it, yeah, but then again I think maybe when we were younger our parents were like, oh, there's no hope to get me like they're just because it changes it changes so quick as well.
Speaker 1:Like, do you know?
Speaker 2:what I mean it's. I remember nintendos and like my granddad or my mom was like, oh my god, these things are brilliant, yeah. And now you're looking at like what are them things that they put my, my brother has one of my sister you put on oh they, I get what you mean.
Speaker 1:The, what are they called? Right, the virtual kind of things?
Speaker 2:yeah, they're scary and you hold it my little five-year-old sister is putting it on her head going around with it and I'm like, oh my god, what is?
Speaker 1:yeah, I know that I actually seen a fitter. There's a netflix yeah, I forget what it's called. Actually it's really good but like that, like to have the headsets, but like people end up, like it's so real that people end up becoming obsessed with it.
Speaker 2:I think it's their real life. Yeah, which is mad. I tried it anyway and I played it and I don't know, not for you, not for you. You feel like you're in a cartoon, like no, no, it's just no, no, my thing, no it's not my thing, not my thing.
Speaker 1:Getting old yeah, we're getting old, right? So for this week's dilemma, this is our first dilemma in person, which is going to be fun, isn't it right? Just breathe. Melissa and and Simone are here to listen. So for this week's dilemma we have should I leave him?
Speaker 1:My boyfriend is a fine piece of stuff and I'm madly attracted to him. We are not with each other that long, but recently I'm getting the ick. Well, let me rephrase this His car is giving me the ick. He has a citroen picasso. I don't know what our citroen castle looks like. Google, google it there and see what it looks like, so I can get an image of this citroen picasso, and it looks like a spaceship. It's all kitted out with a loud exhaust and I'm absolutely mortified to be seen in it. I know I sound like a brat, but he is totally obsessed with his car. He spends every night meeting up with the lads standing around looking at each other's cars. How many times can one boy look at the same cars? They all lift up the bonnets looking into these engines, as if they're going to find a Ferrari in there. Do we have a picture of the Zitro? Oh my god, it's like a. It's kind of like a family car isn't it?
Speaker 2:there's no judgment on anyone. And that drives once. It gets you from A to.
Speaker 1:B. Yeah, but right, he like. Imagine that. Cut it out, though, like they probably have big allies and stuff on that. Fucking Jesus Christ. Wherever I am now, I wish we could spend time with each other doing things, but it seems to be the same place every time we meet up chatting to the boys about cars, I feel like we don't have anything in common and he doesn't see my needs and values. Should he go to the bin? I don't know I I see where she's coming from. It does look like a spaceship.
Speaker 2:See my problem is right that, yeah right, it's nice to have like nice cars. It's nice to. I see I feel bad for him. I'm not gonna lie, like things like this actually really hurt me. Why? Because because I feel actually like he could be unbelievable, he could be so nice to her, but then again I'm like, yeah, around him, yeah, nice. But I'm like once the car gets you from A to B I know I think she's like.
Speaker 1:It seems that she's more, though. Like they're just standing all around looking at these fucking cars. Every night I've actually seen, like when I go to McDonald's, the boys like the boy racers and the dude just linger around Like they just sit there all night, like in the cars.
Speaker 1:Like garish is coming, she's probably bored, do you know? Well, he could be a lovely guy. He just has a bad car, like a bad kitted out car. Wheels on wheels actually looks like something. Now. Like, do you know what? He'd be better off not kitting it out and just driving it, yeah like when he kitted it out.
Speaker 2:It just ruins it. No, it's. You know, what's probably given me the ick and what's probably given her the ick is the fact that he wants to kit it out. Yeah, do you get me like the fact that he?
Speaker 1:wants to like, and I, I was a girl racer. Yeah, I had like Playboy on my visor. I feel like we all went through stages like that though.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I had that was a little Peugeot 106 and it was a death drop, Like if you went around a bend it literally went up in one wheel, stop it. Yeah, it was lethal, lethal, absolutely lethal, like. And I had like pink fluffy was it black, was black? Yeah, pink fluffy seat covers. And then I got a golf and then I kitted that out. I was a little bit of a girl racer myself.
Speaker 2:I give myself the ick do you know? That was the thing back then, like that was the go to like, and if you drive one of them cars and if you kitted your car, out like that like unbelievable yeah, but I think that's gone now yeah, it's very, it's gone very vanilla, it's vanilla, yeah. And then I got an Audi and that was just.
Speaker 1:Everyone was so jealous because it was so savage, it was an.
Speaker 1:S line one yeah, and it was like. It was like mapped up as well and it was just really fast. I'm going to do that now because you get coughs and breathing, but like it is gone, very vanilla, I think it's gone out now. I think, like I've seen now with the boy racers, it's like they're taking their mommy's cars and they're like fecking 2024 cars we had, like you know, it was like old cars that we were. Now they're able to afford these, like old cars that we kicked out where now they're able to afford these like expensive cars my little brother is a little shit.
Speaker 2:I know, yeah, is he a boy racer? Not a boy racer, but oh my god, like he's 18 and I'm like you are really it drives you nuts.
Speaker 1:I'm jealous. I think that's boys, though. Boys are just the getaway with things, less you and their mommies. Anyway back to. Should she dump him? What should she?
Speaker 2:do. Back to the dilemma. She should dump him, but I feel like she should have the conversation with him. To the fact of the matter is that like she gets that he's into his car or whatever it may be, but maybe wait and save your money. She could do it in a nice way, you know. She could be like why don't you save your money for like a, like a nicer car, or just keep saving for a bit, instead of like investing your money into making this car like a big hot deal?
Speaker 1:yeah, that's a good, that's good advice actually not going to be so much of a deal and you're going to put so much money into it yeah instead of getting like a little bit of a better, nicer car yeah, I think she needs to suggest then again, would you tell keith, yeah, would you?
Speaker 2:yeah, like that's rotten yeah, but if you're only starting to see him, would you, I don't know, like, if you really like them?
Speaker 1:it's hard, I don't know. I don't agree, like trying to change someone either do you know what I mean. Yeah, like if it's that, if that's what he's hobby and what's into, you can't change someone's hobby. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:but now I'd be like Keith, that's septic, yeah, but like at the start, no, because you can't like because then you're trying to change him into something that he's actually not, and what's going to happen is there's going to be arguments, because he is not that person so I think she needs to say to him look, can we spend time maybe outside of being with the boys and the cars and then start that way and then maybe like suggest, oh, why don't you save up, like you know, and get like a new car, a nice car, but you can't change someone, like because you wouldn't like someone to change you. Like like say, the rules are reversed, that she was into something and he was like saying, should I dump her because she's a hobby?
Speaker 2:she wouldn't be happy yeah, and I always think that, like, do you know when you're younger? Or if you're only starting out in a job and, yeah, you know you need your car to get to work, yeah, and actually afford to get yeah like a nice car, but then again.
Speaker 1:I'm thinking he must fucking like this car you know, yeah, but maybe, like that he can't afford to get in her car. Yeah, that's what's upsetting me. Yeah, it makes me sad, you know what I mean like it actually makes me yeah, she's gonna cry, but comfy though, like, because not everyone fucking has the money to be buying expensive. Maybe, oh my god, maybe he's actually like he feels insecure because he obviously, maybe the boys, have like more expensive cars and he's just trying to get out to look kind of like to fit in with them. Oh god, the poor chap, poor chap, poor chap, like, yeah, now we feel sorry for him. I think he needs, I think I don't know he needs to like.
Speaker 1:See this is bad I felt sorry for him when I looked at the car yeah, I know, but like what do you think that? Maybe it was like like he bought off his parents or something like? It looks like something about his parents. It was like it's like he's a family of five and he bought it off his parents, or like they gave it to him or something. Yeah, now we feel sorry for him.
Speaker 1:I don't think you should dump him. No, don't dump him, just give him another chance. He could be a really nice shop. Maybe he's more insecure, like because the boys have like nicer cars. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:He might have the money worst case scenario if you don't want to get in the car and you're going like you may get a bike she may get a bike.
Speaker 1:She may get a bike. Scooter score you know what I mean like if you're getting a lift somewhere, you just may put up with exactly you're not going to say no no, exactly. So yeah, no, we don't think you should give him a chance. We feel sorry for him now. Citron, citron, picasso, we love you you little rebel so we, as simone, me and simone have did long distance friendships, we think what do you think like? Do you think that it works for everyone, or do you feel that like it's only you just know?
Speaker 2:I don't know. I feel like when you click with someone, like when we clicked, when we met each other for the first time. Like we just clicked, yeah, and I feel like that's with relationships, yeah, like you can click with people sometimes, but you actually don't, if you like, with us yeah, we kind of have the a little bit of the same mindset like we do and we get each other.
Speaker 2:Yeah, even though we are a little bit different yes, in our own way yeah but we get each other and we get our boundaries, even though, like, we do the podcast together, like you have stuff going on, I have stuff going on, yeah, but it's not that it gets deeper beyond that yeah, because it's like, I feel your emotions and you feel my emotions yeah, it's like we're connected, it's like we're soldiers, yeah, yeah it is, and sometimes I feel like it might not be the friends that you're friends with for 20
Speaker 2:or 25 years yeah, it's the ones that come like three or four years down the line.
Speaker 1:That are your lifelong friends, forever even though you still have them friends. Yeah, sometimes you can lose a little bit of a connection. Yeah, I think as well, like you just have to stay, like like you said, like I think we respect each other's boundaries and lifestyles because they're like different, but we're still both busy, do you know?
Speaker 1:I mean, um, and I feel like you do have to make an effort, though, like with each other, like even for long distance, like, even if it's like just checking in with each other once a week or do you know, I mean and I feel like that when you see someone, though, like, but it can't go for it's not a one-way street of friendship, no account or any relationship.
Speaker 2:It's not and sometimes I feel like I've tried with people and then it comes to a stage where you can't keep going anymore, because you're just like yeah what's the point? And then you feel bad. But they're making you feel bad because you're not trying, because yeah, it's changed, you've changed.
Speaker 1:Yeah, does that make sense? But you know what? It's not even that like. I think when people say you changed, like it's they haven't leveled up to where you're at. Do you know what I mean? So I think people use that you've changed as a bad thing. But it's just you're not the same person as you were. You're not supposed to. You're not supposed to. You're supposed to evolve.
Speaker 2:You're so simple, like, but like I think if I was the same person when I was 12, then I am now I'd be crying everywhere. I'd be a roly-poly pudding with my hair scraped back like a little boy. Yeah, like do you know what I mean? Like you're not supposed to stay the same person and I feel like sometimes and I do get that- it's hard.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like people work. Yeah, you have kids. Yeah you grow up.
Speaker 2:You have boyfriends, you have a house, you have yeah, go home and cook the dinner yeah, like everyone's busy, like we're not saying that like even with us. We do the podcast once a week, but we'll still send each other a meme yeah, or we'll send each other something, or we'll comment on something we know we're there we're there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's it. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2:yeah, no, it makes sense where some people like don't even make an effort to message to say like I hope you're keeping well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or this reminded me of you today yeah, like and I have friends where, like, I just send them memes yeah, do you know what I mean? Yeah, like and I think you always have that like one of my friends would just send me her cat memes yeah, I found hilarious.
Speaker 2:Yeah it's brilliant. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:even though there's no conversation, it's just yeah, first and think of like, oh, I'll send that to her. Do you know what I mean? Like yeah, like you might even be chatting every day because, like, obviously you're busy, but you'll send it to her memes. And then, when you do meet up, it's just like the same do you know?
Speaker 2:but what I don't get is, the fact of the matter is like they'll have. How will I explain this in a nice way? You'll see people looking at your story and they could be like a friend, they could be one of your best friends or whatever it may be right, but they won't even message or like or comment on anything. Yeah, makes no sense.
Speaker 2:We're not saying I'm not chasing cloud, by the way I'm just saying right, I'm just saying right, I'm just saying and I'm being real that because it happened the other day, but we won't get into that story for another time, sorry for the podcast. They'll say I didn't see that, yeah, or they won't congratulate yeah. It makes no sense to me.
Speaker 1:I get it. It makes no sense. Yeah, it makes no sense to me. I get it makes. No, it makes no sense to me either, like, yeah, I'm like sorry, yeah, so why would you like this?
Speaker 2:what I mean with a one-way street? Because we're on about friendships and making friendships work okay. Yeah, why should one person have to put in the effort religiously? You? Get tired of it. You do, you actually do you do like and like for the two of us that we?
Speaker 1:I know you're soft yeah, I am, but you're hard, but you're soft. I'm hard but I'm soft. I'm like an onion an onion hard, but it gets squishier as you go in. You pull back the layers. You know, yeah, I'm just like a squishy strawberry. It is like I. I see that like, and especially like, if I see any of like my friends have a massive achievement, and it doesn't even have to be my friends, to be honest.
Speaker 1:It can be just people that I know I follow or like people that are inclined to mine or whatever, I would always say congratulations, that looks amazing, blah, blah, blah, hype them up, but then you just see if it doesn't always be returned. When you do something that you've like achieved a goal, yeah, that there's not like well done on that, no. But yeah, I've kind of learned though over the years to like because I'm the type of person that would, just because I do something for someone, you think that you need to get a return sometimes. But someday, like, I'm like why didn't it? Why can't they think the way I do? Yeah, so I have to get out of that mindset now, because not everyone's going to think the way you do. Everyone's going to be kind and everyone's going to be nice.
Speaker 2:They're not. No, and I know, do you know what's really hard for us as humans? Everyone thinks that they're good.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no one's ever gonna sit there and say I'm a bitch yeah, I'm actually a bitch, because they don't think no, because I think sometimes people do have a little bit of problem. But a little bit of a problem they do yeah, they do realistically.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and this is why I always say don't take anything personal. Yeah, it's a truth, though you can't, and it's something that I had to learn to live with because, like you said, you'll go above and beyond for people.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like, and you do sometimes yeah, you do and like, and it is hard when it does, it's hurtful when it is not reciprocated back, because you're that type of person that likes to give. But you kind of have to, you kind of have to assess who you want to give that energy to do, you know and what I always say is never fall out with people, always be kind and never change your personality for someone else, that's true but know your boundaries yeah and know who to go to when you need someone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, know who to go to when you need a shoulder to cry on, or do you?
Speaker 1:just want to know a nice little conversation, early conversation, because you have true friends, then you have acquaintances, yeah, and you need to know the difference between them 100%, and there's nothing wrong with acquaintances we all need them we all need acquaintances in our life because it can be in business or a certain area of your job, like and that's perfectly fine, because you can learn and grow from acquaintances as well. Yeah, but there's a difference between who you let into your soul, because people can people can use that as an advantage to get in for the wrong reasons.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I think that's sometimes where you don't actually, when you're young and you're a little bit naive and it can. It can be in adulthood yeah, it can? Yeah, because, like sometimes, you can think that someone is a nice person yeah but they're actually just yeah, and I've often got used like we all have.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's really hard that's why I'm like an onion. Now you have to slightly peel me open. You don't get in there easy. No, no, not with me and melissa anymore. I may be soft, yeah, but I'm very aware of my surroundings, yeah, and the people who I let sit on my table yeah, yeah, and if they don't want me to sit on, their table. Make your own. Yeah, make your own fucking table. Now we sound like I could be a bitch sometimes.
Speaker 2:I like being a bitch.
Speaker 1:Sometimes make you so hard and tough yeah, it's horrible, but sometimes you have to be a bitch. Yeah, you do like when you're standing up for yourself, you have to be yeah like I remember, like showing your younger or whatever, and like I said, like people are like oh, you change, you change.
Speaker 2:And I, I just was like no, I just got wiser yeah, like people grow and evolve, like you know and I'm not gonna let you stand over me and sit here like a little bit yeah, I'm not gonna be your little bitch.
Speaker 1:It's the truth, though you're not the same person as you were in school like you grow like, so maybe some people just stay in that mindset though as well.
Speaker 2:Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:yeah, let them, let them yeah yeah, like make it make sense. Yeah, that's what I always say make it, make sense. Yeah, and I just I think you know you're known, it's right as well.
Speaker 2:I mean, you know friendship is right yeah but I just feel like sometimes people can get so wrapped up in their own little bubble and like and it's not even in a bad way, like I see it as well, like you know, they've their own lives, yeah, or whatever, and sometimes they forget yeah, sometimes, but you don't, sometimes you don't need to talk to somebody every week no, you don't, you don't like and I feel like, as your life gets busy, like that, you do like you just sometimes like I might call my friend every day, and then we could go like three weeks.
Speaker 1:I'm like shit, what happened you?
Speaker 2:know me because we both got busy like we understand.
Speaker 1:We understand like we're still like besties, you know, I mean like there was a time there where I got sick and then you got sick after yeah even though we didn't go on the podcast but we were like yeah do you know what I mean? Do you get me? We talk outside the podcast guys we actually are friends, we're only here for the clouds no, see this is wrong.
Speaker 2:This is what I mean, yeah, you hear so many stories of these people and this would tell you how fake social media is as well.
Speaker 1:With the podcasts, people doing podcasts, and they don't like each other. I know what the fuck. How could you sit there with someone though people above an RT? I don't get it. I don't get it. It'd be hard. I'm the type of person you probably know me as well. If I don't like someone, it's just like. I'm the type of person that you probably know me as well. If I don't like someone, that's just like. I'm very like. We're very like that.
Speaker 2:It's not that.
Speaker 1:I like, I just I can't give someone energy If I just don't have that connection.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Like I do get that and do you know what? I hate and what I can't stand. We're nice. We are Like we're not bitches and I can put my hands up.
Speaker 1:We're not.
Speaker 2:I'm not a bitch.
Speaker 1:Sometimes I can be a bitch, but only to probably like my sister or something. There'd be a reason for it. You get me.
Speaker 2:But these people that are so fake where you can feel their energy being like, oh my god, like you don't like me. Yeah, stop licking my bum, holy hell. Yes.
Speaker 1:Seriously, they don't like it, but they're like. I'm like. Why are you trying to be so nice to me?
Speaker 2:then I don't get it, it's so bad it's really awkward, like, I feel like this is like an episode of the girl's bathroom. Yeah, like isn't that. Do you know? When you're sitting, you're in a girl's bathroom yeah and, like you're, you know there's someone in there and they probably were a friend like a few years ago whatever and they've bitched about you so much and cut the back off you and you know this yeah they don't know that. You know this. Yes, they're like oh my god, how are you, oh my god, like, and I'm just looking at.
Speaker 1:I'm like smile and wave, boys, smile and wave yeah it's nuts.
Speaker 2:It's nuts like if I I'll pass someone and I'll say, hi, I'll be polite, yeah, but I'm not going to sit there and have a full-blown conversation you're not going to lick their arse if you don't like them.
Speaker 1:No, do you know what I mean? And it's a normal thing not to like everyone. Do you know what?
Speaker 2:I mean we're not going to get on with everyone's life.
Speaker 1:It is yeah. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:anyway, our friendship, I think, is after lasting, and through even starting the podcast through oceans and deserts.
Speaker 1:I know literally and through technology.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like we survived that first year of the podcast, like that was fucking tough, like it was mentally tough on two, but it's like just technology and then, oh, it was hard, and it was more so, I think, harder for you at the beginning because you had, like, all the stuff to deal with yeah, where like I should be a fucking producer.
Speaker 1:I'm like a quite should have a certificate. Now I've been a producer, you should yeah, and I put my hands up. Yeah, melissa, yeah is a little rt I'm available come at me, bro, come at me, rt. But yeah, no, like I do think a true friendship will outstand the test of time. Yeah, 100, if both people are willing to make an effort but it needs to be on an emotional level as well.
Speaker 2:100, like it does yeah, it does sometimes. People can easily forget like that, like I said, you're busy or you have things going on and if you don't understand that, yeah, you don't get it. Yeah, if you don't get another person's life yeah it's not gonna work no, it's not gonna work. It's the same as like any relationship.
Speaker 1:If it's a family member, if it's your, your partner, yeah, sometimes you just need to block people out, but keep the good ones yeah I think you have to understand people's perspective as well, you know. I mean like their life is not the same as yours. We have to understand it and be supportive. Yeah, honestly, yeah, in all relationships, not just like friendships, all like across the board you know, yeah, you know what can be very hard as well, like is that when you're in friend groups and they could be one, there's always one.
Speaker 2:Every friend group kind of has the one person yeah, yeah, picture whatever, but they're funny and yeah, ever.
Speaker 1:But sometimes you need to like forget it a little bit like, don't fall out with these people either, because they're your friends they are your friends and like I feel like you're like, even if you kind of grow apart from some people, you did have a connection at some point in your life, so like that's always going to be there. Do you know what I mean? But I think as you grow you get new friends, but you still have your childhood friends. Do you know what I mean? You're always going to have a connection, your childhood friends like. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:There's always going to be that bond.
Speaker 2:A hundred percent 100% yeah, do you know? I do think with us as well, that we're like making it through the podcast or whatever it may be oh so fun, we did it, we done it yeah, we did yeah, and we're here, and we're here, we're here and we're actually doing it yeah, this needs to be a thing. I just feel the vibes love our own little studio.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's all right, we need to, uh, we need our own little studio. We need to, uh, we need to get like sponsored by someone to know feel like something's coming something's coming, so I can feel it.
Speaker 2:I can feel in the air so, on this week's affirmation we have, my sensitivity is beautiful and my feelings and emotions are valid. That's nice.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's nice it is. It's pretty deep we love it well. Thank you for tuning guys for our first in-person podcast yeah, we did let us know what you think. Did you love it as much as we did? And don't forget to send us in some questions or dilemmas or any problems to your agony answer. We're glad to help we're always here we're always here to help and we will chat to you in the next episode. Bye.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
