Boujee Blondes
Boujee Blondes is presented by Melissa Clarke and Simone Grace.Join the ladies for girly chats full of fun and laughter - chatting about life, relationships and much more in a comfortable safe place. women empowerment and sisterhood is the sense of belonging that this podcast interprets. the atmosphere hopes to provide a safe place for everyone to go for advice whilst feeling accepted and understood. Melissa and Simone share their own life experiences which entails lots of blissful, loving and embarrassing moments but also mistakes throughout life. Speaking to diverse groups of people from different walks of life on various subjects. A weekly episode not to be missed - every Tuesday on all major podcast platforms. If you would like to contact the girls please email Boujeeblondespodcast@gmail.com
Boujee Blondes
Revisiting goals for 2024, making new friends and finding authenticity
On this weeks episode the girls reflect on the year and setting new intentions for the remaining months of the year, how to reset and go again. Chatting about the struggles of life and what to do when your year wasn't how you planned it to be.
Life’s journey isn’t always a straight path, and in this episode, we open up about our personal growth and the importance of setting, missing, and resetting goals. Sharing our their experiences, they delve into the mindset needed to stay motivated despite setbacks, appreciate life’s unpredictable journey, and focus on being present. They also explore the profound concept of authenticity, discussing how societal pressures shape our actions and the importance of striving to be our true selves.
Feeling isolated? You're not alone. We offer heartfelt advice on making new friends through shared interests, encouraging a listener to push beyond her comfort zone. From engaging in hobbies to joining communities, they share actionable tips on building a fulfilling social circle. Plus, they chat about their weekly shopping habits and food quirks, with a special shout-out to our favorite yogurt. Join us for an episode packed with laughter, real talk, and practical advice on navigating the rollercoaster of life.
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It's the Bougie Blondes podcast with Melissa and Simone, available on Spotify, apple or wherever you get your podcasts. Now let's get bougie. Hi, I'm Melissa. Hi, I'm Simone. Our podcast is serving you, bestie vibes, we are just two country girls chatting about all things we struggle with daily life.
Speaker 1:And, of course, talking about certain issues that some people are afraid to speak about. We give it to you real, while having crack along the way. Remember, these are just our opinions, gals, don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice. Welcome everyone to the Bougie Blondes. We're back in our usual seats.
Speaker 2:We're back in our usual seats and I don't think I like it. If I'm being honest, we're on a different side of the world.
Speaker 1:I don't like it either.
Speaker 2:It's sad. I know it actually is. Isn't it so weird, though, how fast time goes by. Like a couple of weeks ago, we were like super excited that we're going to be in the same room together, and here we are, back to square one yeah, and it just flew because I feel like it's just been a busy month.
Speaker 1:Busy month we had festival seasons and brides and had severe form about not going to EP. I'm not going to lie Totally regret selling my tickets, totally regret it.
Speaker 2:Oh, I can only imagine I literally every year, like last year, I said to myself maybe I'll come home for EP, and then I was kind of like I'm just just I don't know what it is with me, but the thoughts of camping feared the living daylights out of me yeah, but I don't camp.
Speaker 1:I'm too boozy for that shit.
Speaker 2:I just get lift up and back yeah, like I'm just like I can't do it, like because obviously it's far away and then I have to book a hotel and it's just a crazy event and I'm coming home to try my best to relax but that's not the way things go, because you have every Tom, dick and Harry to meet and so many things to catch up on that. You're just like, well, we need to plan to go next year.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So I did get tickets for next year. So yesterday morning I was out for my walk, got a message been like EP tickets on sale. I was like, fuck, I have like no money. I was like, but I'm not missing out. So I ended up buying EP tickets but also ended up buying wait for it a camper van pass. I don't have a camper van. Ended up buying wait for it a camper van pass. I don't have a camper van. So now, so now I should go find a camper van for EP 2025. I was like I'm gonna get a camper van, saying a camper van that would be like nice, yeah, yeah. So I have to go try find a camper van.
Speaker 2:So he was like well, I'm pretty sure you can hire one out somewhere but now Keith wants to buy a camper van.
Speaker 1:I was like, why are you buying a camper van? I said we only need it for a lecture picnic. He was like, yeah, but it'd be cool to like travel around. And I was like, would it?
Speaker 2:really would my cousin done it and thereafter down the whole thing up. It looks insane and they go absolutely everywhere in it, like, like, when you think about it, like you can go on the boat to England, then you can travel, like to France, like, definitely do it.
Speaker 1:Have you seen, like some of those TikToks or Instagrams where, like people actually make them look luxurious, like the strip out, like even vans, and make them into like a camper van? Do you ever see them?
Speaker 2:yeah, they're unbelievable. I know I think someone done it in COVID. I remember somebody doing it in COVID because obviously there was restrictions or whatever and they just had this idea to kind of do up a camper van and then they were like, when it's all over, we're just going to travel in it and they literally are living their best lives yeah, it's a good idea.
Speaker 1:So I have two ep tickets and a camper van pass with no fucking camper van. So let's manifest the camper van for 2025.
Speaker 2:We can do our bougie blondes podcast as a road show and travel yes, oh my god, that'd be so fucking cool I love it.
Speaker 1:I love it already keith, get the checkout and purchase your camper van. And what is she going for? Undone deal, check the old undone deal, no bargains. But I cannot believe. It's august. We've come to nearly the end of the year and we said we'd chat a little bit about reflection about how our year went like. Do you feel your year went the way you thought it was going to be?
Speaker 2:No, personally, mine didn't go exactly how it was supposed to be or what I planned in my head. Like every year, I know everybody sets like their January goals for their new year, like everybody does, and like, unfortunately, life just gets a little bit in the way, like it really does, and it's okay for things to go wrong. It's life. And I always say to myself what's meant for you will never pass you by, and things in your life always happen for a reason, like they're meant to happen, for a reason like our lives, I think, in my opinion, are kind of planned out for us a little bit. But then again it's up to you to turn the tables around, be like no, in the next two or three weeks, this is what my aim is and this is what it's going to be.
Speaker 2:But you know yourself, melissa, like you could plan something one week and then you could plan a day, even to meet up with someone on a Wednesday for a coffee, but like your machine breaks, like you literally can't get there. Like, but it's just everyday things with life, the way things go. And I feel like it's good to reflect back because we're halfway through the year, like there's what five months after Christmas? Yeah, like it's weird.
Speaker 1:I was. Actually, when we were chatting about, like discussing about this, I was kind of thinking to myself. I was like I feel like I'm actually at a very content place in my life where I feel like I've probably been the most happiest I've been, even though I'm not where I wanted or thought I would be this year. So, even though things haven't gone my way, I still feel very content. Do you know? Yeah, it's weird. It's a weird feeling, like I feel like I finally mastered the being in the present moment and being slowing down a bit, if that makes sense. Like, yeah, I don't know. I feel like I just don't really stress as much as I do anymore. I'm more like just, oh, something will happen, it's going to happen, kind of a thing I wish I was like that yeah, in some senses, but like even for a bit, we were talking about goals.
Speaker 1:Like sometimes I think goals are an amazing thing to do at the start of the year because it does get you focused and motivated, but sometimes, like what we're doing now, when you're like reflecting back, it can make you a bit depressed and like, oh, I haven't come as far as I've come. I didn't do that. I thought I would do this in my career. It didn't get there.
Speaker 1:It's not working out for me, it's not happening, but I think the universe pushes you another direction yeah yeah, like I feel like, even though, like I thought I'd be maybe further along, get more opportunities, I feel like I'm like after growing internally, more does that make? Sense, yeah, 100% yeah, spiritually and just and emotionally. Yeah, I'm just, I'm all. I'm in awareness, I'm in awareness. I'm like a butterfly just flying around looking at everything. Ready to blossom yeah?
Speaker 2:yeah, so like.
Speaker 1:I feel like a hint.
Speaker 2:It's the becoming, though. Yeah, it's the becoming like things don't happen overnight, and I always say, like sometimes obviously we said this before but you can look at other people, like in whatever industry that you may be in, and you need to look up to someone, like you need to have, like someone that you're influenced by, that motivates you to drive, and like don't get me wrong, be hard sometimes to kind of. You know you're kind of like oh my god, do I just not try anymore, do I just give up? And this comes down to every aspect doesn't have to necessarily be like social media. It can be like with anything, with any type of job, like everyone is trying to trying to climb a ladder in life. Yeah, and you'll always. Sometimes it might slip, you might fall down three steps, but you still have to get yourself back up and climb to reach the top, you know what I mean you're not gonna get the whole way back down to the first step and just think back and have to build it all up again.
Speaker 2:Take a break, reset, unwind and you come back again stronger, like. But it is. It can be hard, like you you know yourself, melissa like when I came over here, like with my jobs and stuff, like that was fecking hard. Yeah, it's hard to like focus and stay driven and kind of push myself to to get up and get going. Like I thought when I came back from being at home at Christmas that everything was going to be happy as Larry had my job, whatever, and things just went. No, simone, this ain't happening for you, but things happen. To make you stronger and I always say that and make you realize what you actually want.
Speaker 1:I agree. I feel like I feel like as well, like we do put like, especially with like goals at the start of the year, do you think like, yeah, cause then, when it doesn't happen, you're like I'm doing something wrong. Like you get in this negative mindset, like, and I think you need to kind of set your goals, but let them go at the same time. So, as you said, like, work up the ladder. If you fall back, you fall back. You're falling back for a reason Like it's obviously not meant to be your direction or not meant to be for you at that time. Yeah Well, it is hard, isn't it, as a human being, to like look at yourself and be like, oh, I was meant to do this this year, but this happened, and like that life is kind of tough. Like things will come in your way, there'll be obstacles, you know, like it's just, it's kind of like a game, it's like a game of the Sims, it really is it is.
Speaker 2:It's one big, fat, horrible game at times, but it's also a very good game, because I always say to myself, like it's up to you, in in your own mind, to get rid of those negative thoughts. Like you know, if things don't work out that day that you planned, you say, okay, it's been a really bad five minutes, but it's up to me to change my mindset. That can happen tomorrow or it can happen next week, and if it takes you a year, you're still thriving, you're still trying to get there. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, I think it can be. Some people, I think, are just too much pressurized into getting it done now and have to having it done now and they stress themselves yeah to the pepsi max. Now.
Speaker 1:I can be a little bit like that I can be as well like I think I've like two, then I'm like chilled back, whatever, yeah you know be chilling, yeah, but I think I'm only recently gone that way, like I honestly think I've mastered it.
Speaker 1:I think I've mastered like, yeah, and that could change again because life obstacles can get in the way but I think I've gone to a place where I can like I'm able to go internally and like. It's been a journey. It has been a long journey of internal work, but I feel like now is where I'm just like at peace, awareness, chilling yeah, it's mad.
Speaker 2:I think it's the vibe that you give across to yourself and your circle, though I always say it like yeah, you know, if you're in a room with people that are like stressy sallies, you're going to be a stressy sally if you're in a room. Yeah, you are cool, calm, collective, but are motivated and driven and are deep in their own thoughts and their own goals and their own career.
Speaker 2:Then you're going to sit there and think about things you want to do, but it's the conversations that happen in a room and who you surround yourself with kind of make you and build you up to who you are.
Speaker 1:Yeah, 100 a little bit like I. It's like no anything. If you're in a room with like people with like bad energy, you're gonna feel it, so it's the same. I suppose, if you're around different personalities, is that you're going to pick up on their personalities, aren't you like?
Speaker 1:yeah, and I think that was one of my goals this year actually, just to kind of cut out the bullshit and I feel like definitely, that was yeah, like one of my goals was just to kind of cut out the bullshit and I feel like definitely that was yeah, like one of my goals was just to kind of live a zen life, cut out the bullshit, set boundaries, put myself first, not in a selfish way, but I think you have to put yourself like first, yeah, because you can't. You can't fill from an empty cup, you know. No, you cannot you cannot.
Speaker 2:No, but I feel like even me and you with our friendship or whatever, like, if there's, if we're having a bad day, we're there for each other, but we also yeah each other to say that no, you're smashing it, you're killing it, we're we always be positive to each other, like constantly, like there's no ever like.
Speaker 2:Remember the time when, like things went wrong with the podcast, like where we were like, oh, is it actually working? Is something was shutting down the, the internet isn't working, but we were like, no, we'll do it tomorrow, we'll do it next week. We stayed going and we stayed true to ourselves and true to our friendship and I think, even at that, like we don't make them goals at the beginning of a year to like speak positively to other people or friends or family members or whatever it may be, but I feel like going into next year from experience of like life and like things that can happen and like just, for example, like the podcast and our friendship, is something that we need to push a little bit more forward to motivate each other and our friendship yeah, our family and what truly matters in life, because that should be a goal to help others yeah, and it is like that, as I like, I feel like every year you're learning for me, like, so, like from year one of our podcasts this year, and the next year it'll probably level up again.
Speaker 1:do you know what I mean? And it is like, just, I feel like everything just comes when it's meant to come, isn't it?
Speaker 2:A hundred percent. It really is. That's why it is so true what they say, though Like a millionaire can become a millionaire at 15. And then it could take someone at 55 to become a millionaire. Okay, but they could be trying and trying and trying, and then they could be someone in school that's doing really, really bad, someone who's got all A's, and the person who was failing could become the biggest millionaire of all time at the age of 15, and the person who went and done college or whatever, it could take him like 50 years to become the millionaire. So you never kind of judge anyone and you never kind of like even with your own goals, and you know you're whoever you may look up to. Like you can't. I always do it, and I know sometimes you do as well like everyone does it.
Speaker 2:But yeah, the outside looking in we all compare yeah, we all compare constantly, but you never know what that person had to go through in the background to get to where they want to be a hundred percent.
Speaker 1:Like you don't see people's journey, do you know? I mean? Like you don't see what they've did behind the graph before they've, like, either went viral or got famous. Like you're just seeing that moment. You're not seeing what it took to get them there. Do you mean, where I think a lot of people forget about as well, do you know? Yeah, I feel like. I feel like I know we're going to speak about this today, about like being authentic. I do feel that a lot of people who do kind of, when they get their time, it is when they truly show their authentic self. Yeah, and like, what does it take to be your authentic self? You know? Like, what's your? What do you feel is like a thing that makes someone authentic?
Speaker 2:I feel like just being themselves. Yeah, like being authentic is being yourself and, at the end of the day, none of us are the same. Like we may have like similar aspects or similar kind of things that we do together, say, or whatever it may be okay. Like we're all our own different person. Do you get me? I know we're like, we do social media or whatever it may be, but like we're, we're totally different, even though we're into fashion, we're into lifestyle, whatever it may be. Like we're complete. If you look, if you open up our instagrams, they're completely different. Yeah, no, this is down to social media. I'm not saying that being authentic has to be. I'm just giving an example. But like, just be yourself. There's no one else in the world that can be you, only you. So why not express your, your emotions, your true self, your creativity, what you bring to the table? Like I don't get why people out there are trying to be something that they're not even with their attitudes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like you know, I think the problem is Simone. I feel that like I feel like our authentic self was pushed down, like I think it can be pushed down from like when you were a child to, say, being a teenager yeah depending on your upbringing.
Speaker 1:But you know, when you're a child, you're very play like. You're like laughing and joking, and I actually seen a video about this and it was a child who was like trying to play with her father and their father was just like don't be stupid, don't play and don't be doing this don't. And then eventually you just see the child go so inwards that he's only afraid to show that child like, or their like, authentic self, as we call it. Yeah, and then I think it gets pushed down and then like you've like going into college and you're trying to create a personality, maybe to fit in with people. So I think what happens a lot of people is they actually don't know who their authentic self is and it's like a thing I feel like you have to like work to get back because, as you said, a lot of people I think put on a show and it's not real themselves. Do you know?
Speaker 2:definitely, and it's in school as well. Like I always say, there's always a group of girls in school that are the mean girls in in everyone's class. So there was a group of mean girls okay, or bullies, whatever you want to call them and it's from their own insecurities that they feel like that. They need to have a circle around them to make them feel special and a priority. Yeah, they don't even know who they. They are. They don't.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm saying they don't even know who their authentic self is and they're putting out this persona and then everyone thinks that they have put this persona to be liked because it's projected onto them. And I feel like as well, there's a lot of adults listening like obviously now, who probably are in the similar boat, where they're like either people pleasing other people, they're afraid of judgment by other people in a workplace, maybe environment where they're up to standards and they're trying to keep up the standards. It's not really them and like I feel like honestly, everyone has to kind of sometimes take a step back and like take time out to fight, try and find out who you actually are without external sources. So like work or people are just what people are expecting of you yeah I know we're getting deep now no, but 100, you're so right like it.
Speaker 2:Just, yeah, I don't know like, even like, I feel like growing up like I, I was so soft, like so soft. Someone could say boo to me and I would cry like genuinely, like I was bad, but I feel like I had to make myself strong. I had to make myself, not care about things I had to make myself and to get me, and I feel like everyone is kind of in the same position because you're recreating yourself yeah, it's like it does make sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you literally have to change your whole self to try and fit in or to try and build up a wall so you won't crumble and break, and it's like a transition of being a teenager and an adult yeah, I feel like you have to like, as you said, like you have to like find yourself again, build yourself back up to find who you actually really are without without society or pressures or expectations or values or maybe beliefs that have been put into you for all those years. You know, like I think my my top tips is trying to find your authentic self, and I feel like it comes easier to some people than others. But number one is, I think, separating yourself from people that you may feel are causing you a bit of like sadness in your life.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because I think when you step and break that bond away, you start to kind of rebuild and grow. You're not taking like number two, is it? Number two, don't take opinions from others. And number three, I think, follow your goal like. I think that is what I feel is like what's going to make you authentic, because once you start doing that, the rest will follow. Yeah, like you're gonna, you're gonna start doing things you enjoy. You're gonna start feeling happy again, you know. And yeah, what do you think?
Speaker 2:yeah, definitely, I wouldn't thousand percent agree with you on that one because, like, like I said, it's who you spend your time with, transform you into the person who you are. Yeah, you know that kind of way, like it really does. Yeah, make sure of your circle number one and just be true to yourself. Like, don't like just because someone thinks it's stupid or they think you're a delulu, as everyone says. Yeah, I mean, it is because you know in your gut what you're made for, and I always say it and it comes down to like I know you're saying like when you're a kid or if you're a teenager and you know someone is turning their nose up because you're you're doing something weird that you shouldn't be doing, because it's not okay to do it that way. Like I remember a girl in my class, someone she was into like designing clothes or you know, doing art and stuff like that, and everyone was like, oh my god, she's a weirdo. Like she's weird. And I was like, no, she's actually cool.
Speaker 2:You know that kind of yeah, the same girl has, like she had she's building her own clothing brand. Do you know what I mean? But she stopped for so many years, went on done teaching and I had a conversation with her and she was like this is actually giving me goosebumps because we're actually on the topic of it. But she was like I listened to people. She was like and I felt a little bit bullied to the fact that, like everyone thought it was weird because, like I just wanted to stay focused to art even the teachers were like you can't be, like you need to do something proper in life, something that's actually going to get you a job and get you a career. And now she's like do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:yeah, 100% you should listen and I always say it like you should not ever even your child growing up. You should never tell them who they are. They will become who they're supposed to be. Like. I don't know about you, but in school, where you're pressured into like, oh, you need to do, you need to be a teacher, you need to be a doctor, you need to be a nurse, like their proper jobs. That's what. That's what was said. Like. It was never like, oh, like.
Speaker 1:I just feel, yeah, I feel like our generation, like our generation, we were just never allowed not even like about jobs, but we were just never allowed fully have a voice or an opinion. No, like I feel like if you had a voice in our opinion, that you were trouble, or like you're a troublemaker, you're causing shit, you're causing this like you were never allowed question anything. No, but I don't think you can, though I think the gen z generation generation are going to be better.
Speaker 2:I feel like they're going to be a lot more confident. Yeah, yeah the kind of question.
Speaker 1:I think that's outside of the norm, like you know what I mean. It's like yo, why are you causing trouble? Why are you doing this? It's not everything people like, not everything you hear is facts, like they want you to believe it's facts and they want you to believe this is how things are done, but that's not always the case, like you know. I mean, you have to have your own mind of what's definitely. Do you know?
Speaker 1:So, for the end of our year, simone, what is our goals? What is our plans? Like I I need to. I don't know what my goals are for the end of the year. I think, maybe for me, I need to reevaluate on, like, say what I started, cause I think they've changed since the start of the year. So I think you have like. So I think, like I think everyone should do like a new list of what they want to get out of the rest of the year. So, whether that's, set the intentions you want to find a new partner. Set the intentions you want to get into fitness. Set the intention you want to get a new job, set the intentions, write it down and break it down. I think you have to break it down how you're going to do these things, yeah.
Speaker 2:I think you should have a goal for the end of each month.
Speaker 1:Oh, I like that. So a monthly goal, monthly goal?
Speaker 2:yeah, because at the start of next year I'm going to jot down 12 goals, okay, right, and I am going to put a goal for each month and I've 30 days to reach that goal. Okay, I like that. And if that goal doesn't work out, so what I'll do then every week? Because I have I think everyone should journal anyway. But that's just my opinion, because good for the mindset.
Speaker 1:Yeah, good for the mindset.
Speaker 2:But I personally think that there's no point in jotting down together is because, like I get it, not everything works out, but stuff that you really want. You need to think right outside the box, like everyone in life wants to be happy, healthy, wealthy, successful, la la la. The list goes on things that you really, really, really want to achieve this year and important things, and then, like the little things should come on a weekly basis. Okay, like they should cut, like you should, you can jot them down a little bullet points that's what would your?
Speaker 1:would your monthly goal be like a small thing, or is it like a big thing? Is it like a small thing? Every month that leads up to your yearly big thing?
Speaker 2:yeah, okay, if that makes sense, yeah, that makes sense like say, for argument's sake, like you obviously want everybody does in the new year, they want a better body, they want to look better, they want to eat better. They should be your weekly tasks they shouldn't be your goals. They should be a task I get you.
Speaker 1:I like how you say that tasks are in goals. Yeah, that's, that's kind of good. It kind of like breaks it down in the mind because it's not too stressful then, because it's not too stressful.
Speaker 2:Then I looked back on my goals on my diary and I was like you're a psycho bitch.
Speaker 1:I need to. I need to do that now. I need to set a monthly goal from now. We'll start in September, because we're only at the end of August, but my monthly goal for September and then every week we're going to do a little task to try to get to that monthly goal yeah, yeah, I think it's a good way of doing it.
Speaker 1:I think so as well, because you know what keeps you in, like the moment as well, like the present moment of like being productive, what you're weak because, like I feel like they're just all mushing into one every single week. It's crazy, isn't it?
Speaker 2:like, but we need to learn how to breathe but yeah, no, I like that.
Speaker 1:So we have how to be authentic, reflecting on our year and setting goals for the last six months of the year. So if you do this, let us know, and let us know what your goals are actually for the end of the year. That'd be nice now to chat about next week's pod.
Speaker 2:Yeah, everyone's goals are put up a little question box and you can put them in. Yeah, help some people out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we'll do that. Simone can come up with her little tasks. Weekly advice on the podcast page to help you all out.
Speaker 2:I'm such a perfectionist at times when it comes to yeah.
Speaker 1:So Simone will sort us out on the stories for this one. Just breathe. Melissa and Simone are here to listen. So, on this week's juicy jummy Dodgers dilemma we have, and when I read this it kind of resonated with me that I feel like a lot of people are struggling with this one. So I think this will be, this will hit a lot of people. Hey, melissa, I'm looking for a vice. I'm 22 and I have no really good friends, only one. I have the Wolf Tones concert on the at the end of August and I have no one to go with, so I'm going to see the tickets I. So I'm going to sell the tickets. I just need advice on how I can make friends so I can go out, like going to concerts and parties. I just feel so alone at the moment. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks, girls.
Speaker 1:I found this really sad I feel like I'm actually it is sad because, yeah, but first of all, right it's, there is nothing wrong. I know you feel like you've no friends, but there's actually nothing wrong with having just a few friends one or two friends, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But it is hard when you're trying to go to social events and you're trying to get out and socialize, because you want to go to concerts and parties and you know you want to go to these things to have fun and meet new people. But then how do you go if one of your friends can't go with you? Gorgeous. So my advice is I feel like you need to get into like more so a community, whether it's a gym community, whether it's like a running community, whether it's like a hobby. Do you think so, simone?
Speaker 2:like I feel like when you get into like those, because you find your people in doing a hobby that you love. Yeah, do you know, you definitely find your people in a hobby that you do and you might have friends in school, like, say, teenage friends that you went to school with, or whatever it might be. But, like I said, we all change and it's okay and sometimes you just need to find yourself again and it's okay and sometimes you just need to find yourself again. So I think by going out there, getting a hobby that you actually love doing, you find your people because you're going to do something that you love doing, so you're going to find a group that has the same interests as you and you're going to get along. And I always say you meet most of your best friends in later years of your life. They don't necessarily have to be your childhood friends.
Speaker 1:I was just about to say that, because she's only 22,. I feel like she's in that cusp of like coming out of college and school to college, right. So it's like, and then you're probably finished college, you're probably in the working environment. Can I just say, though, though, that like it's the same thing with childhood friends. You, yeah, you will always be friends, but everyone is busy.
Speaker 1:Me and Simone have often said this everyone is busy, everyone goes into the direction that they're meant to go on on their path, whether they're away up the country working, if they're focusing on their goals. So it is normal that people kind of separate, but it's like me and Simone like we met later on. Do you know what I mean? It's not like we know each other, since we're children or teenagers, so you are very most likely going to meet someone later on. It doesn't have to be your childhood friends or your college friends. Like there is opportunities for you to meet some of the bestest friends later on in your life, do you know what I mean? And I think you can still be friends with them and your childhood friends, but I do think you just I think she has the fear, though, like it is hard it is very comfortable.
Speaker 2:I know sometimes you might feel a little bit awkward, but this is what I always say to myself you need to pretend to not care or just have this in your head I'm confident like, I can go out, I can socialize, I can talk to people. Because sometimes, like confidence doesn't come naturally. You have to tell yourself that you're confident. You need to build yourself up and it's down to confidence and meeting new friends. It is all down to confidence and mindset. Get yourself out there, like just be like. Okay, I can do this, I got this. Even like it's it's easier said than done, do you?
Speaker 1:know what I mean, like it is easier said than done, but I feel like the first step you need to take is right.
Speaker 1:I think you need to write down a list of things that you like canoeing like, write down every single thing that you like, and then from that you can look up like groups in your area and see is there any like classes and things like that? And then I think if you start going to them, you're going to connect, get connected, number one, with people who have the same interest in you and, number two, you have opportunities to start building connections with these people and you know, get their number, maybe send each other a couple of DMs and then that could grow into going out for dinner, eventually going to concerts together, or they might have a friend of a friend. You just never know. I think you just need to set the intention for by the end of the year listen to me and Simone's now by the end of the year goals by the end of the year you are going to make two new friends and that's it. You put it out to the universe and it's going to happen 100, 100 percent.
Speaker 2:Like, yeah, you just need to get yourself out there, girl, and I know it's fecking hard, it's not easy, like, believe me, I moved to the other side of the world. It's it's very, it's very hard, but you just need to build yourself up, tell yourself that you need to get out there, get into doing what you love doing, and you will meet your people along the way.
Speaker 1:I feel bad that she's going to sell her tickets, though, for the Wholesomes. Do you know what though? 31st of?
Speaker 2:August. Well, you know what I always say it's a push because you won't let it happen again yeah so maybe I don't know, though I think if it were me I would looking back. I don't know. It's kind of hard, like to say, oh, I'll get a relative to come with me, or whatever, maybe because people are busy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, should she take the risk and go on her own?
Speaker 2:See, I would.
Speaker 1:I would when I was 22, but I wish I could go back and tell myself to go on my own so yeah, definitely I would like it could be a thing that maybe it might push her out of her comfort zone to chat to people at the concert she could find the bestest of friends of all time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do you know what I mean? Like you know, there's times, melissa, when there was events on, and like I met you at an event, you know what I mean yeah, like, like that's it.
Speaker 1:Like me and Simone yeah, me and Simone both met by like going to events on their own, on our own, and I suppose around that time as well, like I knew no one really in the industry Like, and it was so.
Speaker 1:It was so like nerve wracking, like, especially when you're like a country girl going up to all the dubs, you know, kind of like an outcast, but I used to like there used to be moments where I would like have to prep, talk myself driving up to these events. I sit in the car like oh, will I just go home? And I'm like, no, come on, let's, you're going in and I have to push myself out of my comfort zone to do that. So you just have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable and that is a success for growth and I think once you put the intention and take action, your life will be so much different by the end of the year. Definitely, you got this. You got this. You do, but give us an update and in six months time, if you take our advice on board and let us know, has anything changed? Because we like to keep updated with people's stories.
Speaker 1:It makes us feel happy, it does it makes us feel very happy we always like to stay connected with you all, so, yeah, make sure you keep us posted yes, and for any of your dilemmas you can dm me and simone, or you can d me and Simone, or you can DM the podcast page, or you can email us on the bougiebondspodcastgmailcom. So for our bougie mystery hat, we have cause. We haven't did this in like a couple of weeks, so let's see what one I pull out. Sorry, I'm trying to hold my mic here so you can follow me. Okay, you get paid €5,000 a week for the rest of your life, but you can't talk to your sibling for 15 years. Would you do it? No, bye, rebecca.
Speaker 2:No, absolutely not. I wouldn.
Speaker 1:I'm a teacher, I'm messing oh, like, money isn't worth that like no, oh my god, see, my heart just went straight away. No, absolutely not, yeah no, rebecca's probably listening to that and, like that bitch the person that put that into the hat. We know who you are the mystery hat writer is very devious evil, evil no, I don't think any sort of money.
Speaker 1:You should ever pick money over any of your relationship. No relationships, it is never worth it. Money doesn't make you happy. So no, that is a no for me and Simone, I wouldn't be picking money over speaking to my sibling.
Speaker 2:I could not think like I love annoying my siblings on a date like I still. I live thousands of miles away and I'd still send a voice note being like, hey, how are you? They're like, fuck off, you're so annoying. I'm like, oh my god, courtney, yeah. No, like you. Just I don't know what I'd do without annoying them. Oh, they're so annoying. I'm like, oh my god, courtney, yeah no, like you.
Speaker 1:Just I don't know what I'd do without annoying them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's not that it's like I could think of nothing worse than picking a bit.
Speaker 1:Evil isn't it yeah, yeah maybe if I'm arguing maybe if I'm arguing, maybe if I'm arguing with my sibling now I'd be like, actually, maybe I will take the offer back. I wouldn't, but that was our little mystery bougie mystery hat. Well, we could call it a bougie mystery hat, but yeah, changes on the regular. So, simone, shopping lists what do you get in your shopping every single week? Do you get the same stuff every week or do you change it, right?
Speaker 2:lads, I'll put my hands up and say it I am the biggest right creature habit known to man. I will eat the same thing every day. I would get up. I would do most of the same things nearly every day other prayer, like different tasks, whatever may come my way. Okay, but I have really bad IBS and very bad stomach, so my shopping list is the same since I'm like 16 my shopping list.
Speaker 1:Like is my shopping routine is the same routine every week. Like I walk in, I could nearly like I actually can do it. It's like walk in bananas, walk in strawberries, blueberries, apples I swear I actually know in rotation, I'm psycho. Then I'm like spinach, tomatoes, almond milk oh look, there's eggs. We'll get chicken fillets. Oh my god, I actually know the whole routine.
Speaker 2:What the our diet is the exact same, bar from probably you proper. Like your body is insane, but like I don't eat meat, that's the only difference and I probably over indulge a lot more of chocolate than you do but you're a chocolate addict, but I'm more of a like.
Speaker 1:I'm a crisp person, like, yeah, savoury, like I love crackers and like cheese and like just dips and crisps like fucking give them to me now. Like love it, but I do like chocolate as well, like it kind of depends. You know what I mean. Yeah, but the price of fruit. Can I just say what is with the price of fruit so expensive?
Speaker 2:This is what I don't get. Okay, a chipper Is probably Right. If you'll get chicken, nuggets and chips and a happy meal in McDonald's, okay, what is a seven euro, ten euro and a side bowl or a fruit bowl or a Caesar salad? It's 15 to 20 euros. Explain yourself. They want us to live a happy, healthy lifestyle, but they're giving us diabetes in the mix by choosing a cheaper option Like yeah.
Speaker 1:Like, it just makes no sense. No, like makes no sense. Like I don't know. Like, like the shopping, my shopping list must be crazy, like, so, like now, when I get my chicken fillets, I'll get my like yogurts, fresh pasta, cheese, then I'll get some. I can do my whole shopping list. But to save every week, like it's just, and I'm a creature of habit as well once I like do something, I will just like do it on repetition the whole week, just for convenience. Do you know?
Speaker 2:I feel your sister. I am the same. I'm very, very boring beige shopping list but I love it because I'm addicted to fruit.
Speaker 1:I love fruit and I have tried the frozen fruit and I'm sorry, it is not the same. I find it really fucking sweet no, bitter.
Speaker 2:The only thing I like frozen is my blueberries, because I put it into my Greek yogurt. Okay, and it tastes like an ice cream, because I can't so do you put frozen you like.
Speaker 1:Do you defrost your blueberries or do you put them in frozen? No, I put them in frozen, do you? Yeah yeah, is that not weird? No, it's so nice. Like, how can you eat it like? Is it not like ice?
Speaker 2:no, it's not like a rock, like because it's blueberries, like they're. They're like crunchy on the outside and a little bit squishy on the inside. It's different for like strawberries and bananas and stuff like that, they'd be be like a rock. I think of absolutely nothing worse.
Speaker 1:But they don't change the game anyway. Do you know? My new addiction is skier yogurt. What Skier yogurt? It's like Icelandic yogurt.
Speaker 2:I thought you said you know, my new addiction is skiing and I was like, yeah, but you're skiing girl.
Speaker 1:I wish girl, girl skier yogurt. It's quite like it's not as bitter as like Greek, but it's like 20 grams of protein, like it's for like, say, 200 grams. It's quite high in protein and it's yummy and you just put a bit of honey, you're fruiting it, and 80% or 70% dark chocolate Divine.
Speaker 2:Simone, do you know what I miss? Fiber One bars, yes, I. And Aldi and Lidl their chocolate mousse, the protein chocolate mousses, protein chocolate mousses.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they're savage, aren't they? Did you see they actually have? Did you see they have? So you know the protein chocolate mousse. They actually have a protein the same brand in a milkshake. So they have a chocolate milkshake and a strawberry milkshake and they actually have a protein the same brand in a milkshake. So they have a chocolate milkshake and a strawberry milkshake and they both have like 20 grams of protein. But it's not like the milkshakes that are like really heavy. They make you sick and feel like you're gonna like shit yourself. They're like really smooth, like they're so yummy. I'll send you a picture later on, the next time you're back in Ireland, you can get them.
Speaker 2:Yeah, my, my family are coming over to visit soon, and they better be bringing me a box of that goodness, because that's what I need in my life yeah, you do.
Speaker 1:No, it's yummy, but do you know what like there's? I do you know I hate buying. Though, on the fucking shopping, I hate buying toilet roll or like anything like that. I just I don't know. Like just I don't know, I get really embarrassed. I get really embarrassed buying toilet roll. I've been like oh god, do you know? I mean, I don't know why I get embarrassed buying toilet roll, but I do.
Speaker 2:I used to get so embarrassed doing toilet roll and bread when I was a teenager. They'd always ask me I'd be down the street with my friends. My mum would come pick me up and she'd be like, can you run into the shop for me? I'd be like, oh, why do parents do this? I don't know.
Speaker 1:Why do you put your child, your teenager, through this torture in life of being a parent a gang, a group of boys outside yeah, and you're walking out with toilet roll like mortifying like and a sliced pan of brennan's bread, today's bread, today.
Speaker 2:And you're just no, you're just like why are you doing this to me? Yeah, but did you not ever get mortified when your your mom would ask you I did.
Speaker 1:That's what I'm saying, I think. Do you know? I think the fear of me still buying toilet roll is because I was like like that, but like go in and get toilet roll, melissa, and then you're walking out this fucking toilet roll mortified at like 16 years of age, like because you're obviously at that stage where everything embarrasses you. So like like that, you said like they'd be like lads outside the shop, and you're walking out with this like 16, back of fucking Tyler over the families and going over shite, like three days later it's gone.
Speaker 1:You have to come back and do it again like do you know what I mean? So I can't, I hate buying Tyler all like you know, it's know I asked my mum this.
Speaker 2:I was like why did she used to make me all like what is wrong with your legs? Like she'd never asked me. Jesus, christ, christ. To go in and do like a trolley shop now or anything like that was literally a mangy bit of Tyler all in a sliced pan. But I was like, why did you? She was like it was for our independence how she's right, no, how? Just buying two seconds? Now hear me out. How does buying toilet roll and bread and spread make your childhood?
Speaker 1:because she's putting you out of your comfort zone. That's a ridiculous state of affairs that is you probably just wanted to do it, to absolutely mortify you. She's a legend, do?
Speaker 2:you know what she used to always do, then I still I'm laughing thinking about her face. I'd be walking to the car and I was really shy, like I was shy in my car, like it was probably good for me, for my confidence or whatever. But she'd be looking out the window at me in the car and she'd know the gang of boys would be there. So she'd start like going, smiling or whatever, and I'd piss myself laughing every time. She'd always smirk when I was walking back to the car. Respectfully, don't look at me walking back to the car with the sliced pan on the toilet roll.
Speaker 1:She knew what she was doing. She was like I'm going to get her and embarrass her.
Speaker 2:I always wondered, why parents do that. Because you always see it, yeah.
Speaker 1:I know, but do you know what I see? And it was the most overpriced thing in the supermarket the other day. Manuka honey is now like 9.50. Like you need like a job raise to pay for that. I was like only billionaires buy Manuka honey. 9 euro is queer dear for honey yeah, it is. It's a joke, but you can just get normal honey for like two something. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:It's scandalous so I'm sorry, that's ridiculous, that's stupid, like why would you pay that much?
Speaker 1:I don't know that was me and Simone's weekly shopping drama. Hope you enjoyed that.
Speaker 2:I always seem to have a story to tell when we're on a topic, so, on this week's affirmation we have, my sensitivity is beautiful and my feelings and emotions are valid aww pretty, my sensitivity is beautiful and my feelings and emotions are valid.
Speaker 1:Oh pretty, pretty, pretty pretty, affirmation it fits right in with this week's pod it does. It fits right in with our chats on authentic self and setting our goals for the next six months. So we need to do that and you need to do that now, listeners. So we need to do that and you need to do that now. Listeners, we want you to be nippy by the end of the year and full of growth and expansion, so I need to follow simone's little voice now on her weekly tasks and monthly tasks. We'll all be fucking blossoming, I'm telling you. I hope you've enjoyed this episode and make sure to send us your DMs or emails, follow us on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and we will see you next week. Bye, bye.
