Boujee Blondes
Boujee Blondes is presented by Melissa Clarke and Simone Grace.Join the ladies for girly chats full of fun and laughter - chatting about life, relationships and much more in a comfortable safe place. women empowerment and sisterhood is the sense of belonging that this podcast interprets. the atmosphere hopes to provide a safe place for everyone to go for advice whilst feeling accepted and understood. Melissa and Simone share their own life experiences which entails lots of blissful, loving and embarrassing moments but also mistakes throughout life. Speaking to diverse groups of people from different walks of life on various subjects. A weekly episode not to be missed - every Tuesday on all major podcast platforms. If you would like to contact the girls please email Boujeeblondespodcast@gmail.com
Boujee Blondes
Playing the other women & cheating 101
Join the girls on the Boujee Blondes podcast as melissa shares her trials and successes with joining the 5am club, the importance of accountability partners, and Simone picking up new hobbies like tennis. Tune in for a genuine look at navigating life's ups and downs while striving to stay motivated and healthy.
Moving on to some lighter yet equally intriguing topics, we can’t help but laugh at the peculiar behaviors seen at the gym—think couples displaying their insecurities and overly dramatic weightlifters.
For those dealing with more serious relationship dynamics, our deep dive into listener concerns about partners overly attached to their mothers might hit home. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries, addressing criticisms about physical appearance, and the cultural nuances of "mammy's boys." We also indulge in a playful discussion about hypothetical cheating in the age of social media before touching on the emotional consequences of infidelity and the importance of communication in relationships. Join us for an episode packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and a few laughs along the way.
It's the Bougie Blondes podcast with Melissa and Simone, available on Spotify, apple or wherever you get your podcasts. Now let's get bougie. Hi, I'm Melissa. Hi, I'm Simone. Our podcast is serving you.
Speaker 2:Bestie vibes, we are just two country girls chatting about all things we struggle with in daily life.
Speaker 1:And, of course, talking about certain issues that some people are afraid to speak about. We give it to you real, while having crack along the way. Remember, these are just our opinions, gals, so don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice. Welcome back back, everyone. How are we all? How are you, simone? I'm good. How are you? I'm?
Speaker 2:good, I'm good. Oh my God, I don't know if you can hear, but I was just speaking to Melissa. I was like can you hear that noise in the background? And she's like what A little little bit. There's a whole new building been put up right beside me.
Speaker 1:it's giving team no sleep it's adding to the aesthetic of the podcast chaos chaos as usual.
Speaker 2:The monday blues the monday blues.
Speaker 1:It's um. It's been a weird month, but on our last podcast, remember, we were speaking about um, how to like reset and all for the next four months. Well, I took my own, our own advice on board and that is what I did. Today we're back in healthy girl era, setting intentions back on the grind, back in the 5am club.
Speaker 2:Yeah you know what. It's actually so hard, though, to like get it into your head to get up at that hour in the morning, because you're like the alarm goes off and all you want to do is roll over and go back to sleep.
Speaker 1:It's so hard it is you need to be so motivated to get up and do it like and I think you need like an accomplice, so like, if you're going to the gym, you nearly like someone to go with you. So hold you accountable, you know?
Speaker 2:yeah, because if not I'd probably like just be like ah, snooze, snooze, snooze no, I don't mind, but I used to be so good when I lived back at home getting up before I went to work. I used to start work at like half six or seven in the morning, be in the gym for five and I just find over here because like I leave to go to work at like eight in the morning that it's just rushing and racing trying to get up.
Speaker 1:But I need to get myself into a habit of literally getting up at five and going again so you have the evening free yeah, like I just find on my evenings it just it doesn't cooperate, like just life gets in the way so I just end up skipping sessions. Then, like I just need to do it in the morning, like, yeah, when I have to go for work, because like most of the time for like work, like clients, like especially with makeups, I'd be up at five. But I don't know it's different when you don't have clients and you're like I have to get up at five o'clock. It's hard you know you're like.
Speaker 1:It's just about getting into a routine and making it your daily habit yeah, I'm just trying to make it my daily habit now and I feel like when I get up earlier, like I get more like watering, you know, because you're kind of like drinking early in the morning and I just, yeah, look, we're on day one. We'll let you know my progress, but we're in the 5am club.
Speaker 1:So okay, I think I'm on this 5am club yeah, like you do, you just have that time to get stuff done for yourself. Do you know that kind of a way?
Speaker 2:me and the girls after picking up tennis. Your what? After picking up tennis? Stop yeah, and I'm so here for it. It's like tennis Thursdays.
Speaker 1:I like tennis Thursdays. Like tennis is like it's so, like it's a such a good full body workout you know, yeah, not in 40 degree heat.
Speaker 2:Love that for me like a sweaty mess.
Speaker 1:But yeah, but look, it's good for you. I used to play badminton when I was younger.
Speaker 2:I know like that was good we used to do, like when when you're younger, but I think when you become an adult, like, you need to get back into the swing of these things again yeah, 100%, just keep like it is about just being alive.
Speaker 1:I feel like that you get so caught up at work that sometimes it's hard to like social settings that's not involved around, like events or like drinking do you know what I mean? Like it's nice to do something that's kind of like that, like tennis, that's like wholesome isn't that?
Speaker 2:yeah, it is, and it's good and you're absolutely wrecked after it.
Speaker 1:You just can't wait to go into the bed yeah, and then you probably sleep like a baby after it as well. Do you know?
Speaker 2:I don't know, though, because I got, like I just said, like I go to the gym in the evening time because I feel like I've more time I'm not rushing racing coming and going to work, but because it's different when you have to leave. I think to go to work in the traffic stresses me out. So I'm just like, when I get home I'll just go to the gym.
Speaker 2:But yeah that's true in the evening when I go to the gym. I'm like hyperactive, I'm like a battery bunny after the gym so I'm awake all like half the night. Like three o'clock last night I go and to sleep Like that's not okay. That is not okay. It needs to stop. We're making it. Stop here right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I went through. Remember a really bad phase where I constantly used to wake up at 3 in the morning.
Speaker 2:It's like why do we do this to ourselves? I don't know.
Speaker 1:Why, I don't know. Are you one of those girls now that makes the like, the noises when like the ball?
Speaker 2:no, I try not to honestly doesn't those not like doesn't it be so dramatic, though in.
Speaker 2:Wimbledon. I actually need to say this because I have never come across anything like this in my life. This is the god's, because I actually wanted to die in the gym, okay, so about two or three weeks ago, me and Chelsea are in the gym and we're in the gym in my building, right next minute, there's this man and woman, this couple, in the gym doing their thing. Okay, I mean, it was given. Oh no, oh no. No, I'm not joking. It was like a sex party in the gym. Stop, she was making the weirdest noises. She was lifting two kg dumbbells, bear in mind. No. So where the moan and groans were coming from, I do not know, because, get rid of that. Yeah, he was like on a bench press. Okay, she had her legs over the bench press looking into his soul. No, like nearly grinding on him In the gym.
Speaker 2:Bear in mind, there's like 20 other people in the gym watching this. Not a care in the world, not a care. I was looking at and I'm the type of person, when I start laughing because I get really embarrassed of other people's moves that I'm like what is she actually doing? Then the following day, we go down again. They're there at the same time, right same thing is happening there's everyone is looking at each other, being like what the hell is going on here because this is not okay, like this is not okay. She's eyeing me and Chelsea up and down, like there's something wrong with us, like throwing us looks, giving us daggers. We were like ignoring them. We were just doing our workout. But it's hard to ignore moans and groans in a gym yeah, it's just it's really uncomfortable, really uncomfortable, but like she was.
Speaker 2:They were basically on top of each other, but it was like she didn't want him to look at us.
Speaker 2:Okay, do you get me like she was kind of like moving his head like, and he was like it's okay, it's okay. And then she walked past us and this is what she done. I I was on lap pull down, so I wasn't even looking, but chelsea was like oh my god, sim, did you actually see what she just done? I was like no, what she went. She walked past and she stuck out her tongue, like like that to me she's a 40 year old woman like do you know what though there's?
Speaker 1:like she's not young, there's always one like one. There's always a couple in the gym that are like just serving insecurities, like isn't there, like you always see one that's like latched on to the boyfriend, that like he's like afraid to look up from the floor.
Speaker 2:I mean, come on, like he's not going to run a mile from you like I'm sorry, but like no one is interested in anyone in the gym, like everyone's too busy doing their own shit.
Speaker 1:Like, do you know? I mean like if you were ever single, the last place you'd want to go to find a man is the gym. You know, because you look your worst. Well, I do anyway. Like who wants to go and try pursue a man or a woman in the gym? I mean it's fucking weird, do you know?
Speaker 2:like it is. Like I just don't understand why she like she's a good looking woman, he, I want him. He wouldn't be my type on paper. Like we weren't looking at the man, we weren't even looking in their direction, but it just seemed like she was the most insecure human I have come across. But to do that to two young girls as well in the gym just weird, yeah it is weird like you nearly feel sorry for people like that, though yeah, but come on, melissa, would you be moaning and groaning in the gym and like they were kissing each other?
Speaker 1:like it wasn't just, like it was very like not pg but then like, do you ever as well like just hear, like, oh, it gives me the ick as well when, like, men are like like you're actually scaring me, like and. But some of the times, like what you said, like it's not that they're like like strong bull lifters or anything like it's literally like, yeah, fair enough, you're lifting like fairly heavy, but like it seems like it's exaggerated to an extent. You're like why, why are you groaning? Like why it's like they want the whole gym to know that they're like lifting, like it's really annoying.
Speaker 2:I don't. I personally don't get it because like I could be lifting heavy enough obviously not like 200 kg, whatever it may be but like you could be lifting really heavy but I'm the type of person like I'll get up and I'll kind of go, but I won't go, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna start making noises on here, because people would be like, but you're nearly like biting your lips so you won't make noises. So then you kind of have that like weird, like curled up lips, like you're like my lips. Actually, I remember one of the girls were recording me of trust him, but my top lip goes in under like my teeth yeah, because you're like grinding your teeth, like you make the like most ugliest faces in the gym, like it's like the most attract unattractive you will ever see yourself like it is just no, no, no, no no no, respectfully don't come watch me work out, because I give myself the ick yeah, I give myself the ick as well.
Speaker 1:We're talking about everyone else giving the sick, but I give myself the ick in the gym. So but no like, oh I. Just those groaning eyes is like kind of scary me, do you know what I mean like you're like nah it's next level bad state of affairs.
Speaker 2:Lads are not gonna lie no.
Speaker 1:So I tried to get Oasis tickets and it was a massive fail really yeah like half the country. I don't think I got them but like Ticketmaster brought up their prices. I don't know if you heard this right. So, like when you went in to get them, obviously you have to queue for like tickets, but I think the standing tickets were like 150 160, but what happened was ticket master. So when you went in to say, like, purchase two tickets, yeah at the very bottom it'll say in demand.
Speaker 1:So they nearly got all, got rid of all the tickets and put it under this tab in demand, which were the standing tickets, and there was like brought the price like 370 to 400 euro, that's absolutely a joke.
Speaker 2:I'm devastated I'm devastated, like I was seeing people like over here, obviously buying them because obviously they're going to the okay in ireland but, like most of the people from the okay, couldn't get the ones in the okay, so they got the ones in ireland no way stop so they're like a lot of like people's stories, like I was like oh, oasis in dublin. Like I was like you're from the okay, like what?
Speaker 1:that's unfair because, like we only have two Irish dates, guys Go back to the UK with your 10 dates.
Speaker 2:This might not be like. I just don't see what the fuss is about them.
Speaker 1:I know I love them, though, like one of them was my wedding song, oh, really yeah.
Speaker 2:I know two other songs.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I'm obsessed Like me and Keith are heartbroken, like we're like what are we going to do? Like we're going to set our soul to try and get to that concert. Yeah, we love them. Like literally blare them out yeah, I'm obsessed. So, if anyone's listening, if you have a waste of tickets, please Get the girls some tickets. Get in contact. So I have a full year to try and get tickets and I'm like devastated. I feel like you will get them last minute, though, hopefully, but I got Coldplay last minute and that didn't happen for me either. Like we're just having a string of bad luck with the Indio ticket department. I don't know what's going on, but look.
Speaker 2:Oh, don't say that you need to manifest.
Speaker 1:Manifest, manifests. I'm already at Oasis. I'm already there. You're already there.
Speaker 2:I'm already there but I'd say, to be fair, their comeback will be unreal.
Speaker 1:They're going to have a great concert well, you never know with them, lads, they could break up now, next month and there'll be no concerts. That is like a 90% possibility. They're so unpredictable.
Speaker 2:So yeah, do you know they'll end up fighting now again. I don't know they're like a bit. I don't think they're humble do you not think so? No, I think they're a bit like like don't get me wrong, they're rock stars or whatever like. But you see some like artists or whatever like. They're very down to earth, very.
Speaker 1:I just feel like they're a little bit rude well, maybe they definitely are rude, considering they're only fucking doing two Irish days like come on now.
Speaker 1:Like you know, I'm going to get so much hate for saying like two fucking Irish days come the fuck on now, like do you know I'm gonna get so much hate for saying like two fucking irish days. Come the fuck on now, like coldplay did four like and they're like huge, do you know? Like two fucking irish states like selfish, selfish cunts. Well, hopefully, please, I still want tickets, anyone, if you're listening.
Speaker 2:Leave a note. I love you. I'll even try my best to sort it for you just breathe.
Speaker 1:Melissa and simone are here to listen, so on this week's juicy dodgers cinema we have hey girls.
Speaker 2:I'm not sure if I'm gondololo, but it seems like my boyfriend keeps comparing me to his mother, constantly telling me I should be doing his washing this way and making his food that way. How many times of the week should I be going to the gym, but not in a nasty way, which I don't mind, that part as I need, I need a push, lol. He's even telling me to copy her hairstyle and color. Should I be concerned or am I digging too?
Speaker 1:deep. Okay, I'd be concerned about the hairstyle and the color, because that's getting weird now. At the start I was kind of reading up and like, oh, he's a fucking little boy fucking girl. But then when I got to changing her hairstyle and color, this mother wants, this man wants to suck on the nipple. He wants to suck on the nipple like he's afraid to get off the mother's breast. He wants to get back in the womb. He wants to get back in the womb. What's wrong with him, simone?
Speaker 2:I don't know, but I'm like, I'm martified. I'm martified for him, I'm martified for the poor girlfriend, because if it was me, in my opinion I'd be like Ron, that's weird.
Speaker 1:It's weird but like I think a lot of Irish men are like this, like that, when they leave the mother, when they get off the nipple and they go fly the nests and go live with new birds, they do it. I honestly think it takes a while to train them, like because they expect the wife or the girlfriend to be do everything that mammy did for him, and nowadays women aren't going to do that. Do you know what I mean? Because I certainly wasn't doing it anyway. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2:Absolutely not Like fair enough, like we all want someone to motivate us right and get up and go like the gym and stuff like that, whatever. But like do not like being a woman in general, like obviously we're going to be clean, we're going to do their washing, like going to make the dinner most of the time, like it shouldn't be full on with the woman, it should be half and half. I get that, but just being a woman, you kind of just do it, don't you? It's just like, yeah, you do, but like you do. Fair enough that. But to an extent, like okay, and don't pressure someone too much, because obviously it's going to be a little bit insecure. If you keep pushing her to exercise, she's going to be like what the hell is wrong with her? Like do you know? Like, I wonder, is he?
Speaker 1:is he into the gym himself?
Speaker 2:I wonder. Yeah, he must be, but the fact of the matter, that I'm hitting the nail on the head is the hair color in here.
Speaker 1:So that, that like girl I don't know what to say to you in this like I find that really creepy. It's like he wants to sleep with his mother, like what, the, what, the fuck.
Speaker 2:No, I just don't. I think it's wrong.
Speaker 1:I think it's really wrong. Fair enough a hair color.
Speaker 2:Okay, like he could be like oh, your haircut. Maybe she was like brown before and then she went blonde say, and he's probably like, oh yeah, go back, but if the mother has a bob, he wants her to have a bob. Like what?
Speaker 1:I don't know. It's serving like he's like I don't know how to like phrase this, but it's like he's afraid to let go.
Speaker 2:It's like he's afraid to let go.
Speaker 1:You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Like it's like, yeah, it's like, I just tell him to go back to his mother yeah, it's like he has an attachment disorder.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like when. It's like when my mother goes into her shop and the fucking dog is sitting out on the stones and won't go inside until she comes back. That's what it's like. It's disturbing, I don't know. Attachment disorder? I don't know why.
Speaker 2:I'm laughing, I think it's even a deeper, like creepy level than that I don't know, obviously she loves him.
Speaker 1:I just don't know what to say. I just like it's weird.
Speaker 2:I just think she needs to get out, because or have a little sit down and chat with him, or even say to the mother because what the hell?
Speaker 1:I wouldn't say that, saying to the mother she's probably fucking grooming him.
Speaker 2:I'm closed door she's oh god, no, I can't.
Speaker 1:I don't think it's weird, I'm sorry, I think I know we've got some weird dilemmas, but this one is like, is definitely one of the weirdest, I think I just don't know what to say. I'm baffled, I'm shook, I just don't know like I don't either.
Speaker 2:I'm not gonna lie we've got weird ones.
Speaker 1:We've got plenty of weird scenarios. This is just.
Speaker 2:I kind of stop it, like I find it funny, but then I'm kind of like no wait, this is a little bit serious.
Speaker 1:I think I find it funny, because I find it awkward. Yeah, yeah, okay, we'll break it down. Alright. So tell me he's been doing his washing and making his food this way and that, okay, that I think can change.
Speaker 1:You can train him, you can train men, because he's, just, as I said, coming out once back into the womb and mammy does everything for him and you just have to set your boundaries in place there. But, like, look, either you want a wife or you want to go back to your mother, simple as that. I'll be cooking my food the way I cook it and you can do the washing a couple of days a week and I do get you mean, the women just take on the role sometimes to do it. But there's a difference in taking on the role and someone expecting it. That, and I mean the thing with going to the gym, I don't know, like, if he's like not a gym person and it makes it worse because he's is he just sitting home and like, oh, you should go to the gym, like judging her for her like body, and then like he's just sitting home in a lazy fucking slop, yeah, playing playstation or something I feel like I can already like know what this man even looks like.
Speaker 1:He's the karen of the men generation oh, my god, he's the karen, he is 100. Okay, so I think what you should do is yes, I do think you should be concerned and you're not digging too deep, but I think you need to first address the whole situation with the making the food and then you need to make it how it made.
Speaker 2:You feel really uncomfortable about him wanting to change your hairstyle and your colour to the same colour as your mother's of his mother's yeah to be honest, I would like I don't really kind of know what relationship you have because she never really said it, but like I'd be sitting down and just having a little chat with him and just question him on that one on a deeper level, because that is my friend. That is not okay. When is he?
Speaker 1:a lonely child when is.
Speaker 2:I have a feeling he is seems like.
Speaker 1:It seems like lonely child syndrome, doesn't it? Yeah, like it's I don't know, just sort it out please, because it's not okay, you're gonna suffer in the long run if you don't sort it now I feel like she's just gonna be miserable, because I feel like if she doesn't nip it in the bud now, it's just gonna keep continuing and then like eventually she's going to become resentful and she's just gonna hate him. You know, she needs to like nip it in the bud now wrapped up in their mother's womb.
Speaker 2:They just it's very hard.
Speaker 1:Irish thing, though it's definitely an Irish thing, but then it's like Irish mommies, they love it, you know, yeah, especially with boys, you know they just I don't know, it's different with girls. I don't know they don't do it with the girls, the doors, I don't know what they train us well yeah, we're like independent I don't know mommies and their boys. It's just a different level. They just you just kind of interfere with that relationship, you know? Yeah, yeah, but anyway, best of luck with that. I don't know what to say to you.
Speaker 2:Try and make it work, fill us in, have a little sit down and chat with them and see what the hell is going on there with the hair style and the hair color thing, because my days that was freaking me out yeah, best to look at that and fill us in and keep us updated.
Speaker 1:If you've any dilemmas, make sure you can email us on the bougie bonds, bougie blondes podcast at gmailcom or you can dm me or simone or the podcast. So for our topic of the week, we have how to get away with cheating in 2024 if me and simone were cheaters. So we're playing, we're playing scenario situation, I think, to get away with like. So if we were mistresses, like what we do, how do we get away with being a? If we were mistresses like what would we do? How would we get away with being a little cheat? I think with social media, it's like harder now, isn't it like?
Speaker 2:but I will put my hands up and say that I will literally like I don't want to even know how to do it, because I'd feel so horrible and so guilty to the fact that I would feel physically ill.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we wouldn't do it, but we're playing scenarios. We're the mistresses today. Okay, yeah, we're the mistresses, we're the mistresses, but like, how to get away with cheating if we were in 2024? If we were in 2024, like it's hard because social media isn't it like? Because I feel like back in the day everyone was fucking at it and having affairs like I mean like before our time because there was no social media.
Speaker 2:Definitely yeah like. I don't know.
Speaker 1:I just feel like men would be what men, but women can also be very bad they can do you know what I mean so like say for a fact, right, if I was a mistress now and I wanted to go have an affair like number one you'd have to make up like some sort of like I don't know like fake hobby you'd have to say you were working away, maybe yeah, like you'd have to make up a fake hobby in another country going on business meetings.
Speaker 2:Jesus, we're going, definitely going, all out now, simone but you would realistically right at the end of the day, right, the world is very small, and especially in. Ireland, everyone knows everybody.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like Small to be in Africa, me and my lover.
Speaker 2:I swear to God you'd find me in Kenya.
Speaker 1:In Kenya having an affair.
Speaker 2:But like realistically, realistically you would you'd have to say, like you're going on a business trip or something like, but you know what men do this? Like they men go oh, we're going on a golf trip, oh, we're going here, we're going there. What goes on on these trips? You know what I mean, like. So I just think we're not saying that all men do that. We know men go on golf trips, but I'm just putting that out there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you just you know, like you just know, don't you like? It's when it's all the trips.
Speaker 2:Like you know, I mean trips but I actually watched the other woman the other night. Did you ever see that with cameron d?
Speaker 1:oh, I think I did years ago.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I've actually been really look at that, so but like that's what came into my head straight away when we were speaking about this topic, because he's gone on numerous business trips and he has mistresses all over. Do?
Speaker 1:you think, though, there's a lot definitely there's a lot of men that do this all the time, 100%.
Speaker 2:Definitely. But this is what I would do if I was a mistress. I wouldn't do it. Right, tell us.
Speaker 1:So this is Simone's scenarios, as she was a mistress. Give it to us. What would you do, simone?
Speaker 2:I personally would get on a plane and fly away to meet him.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's probably the easiest. It's like definitely the like you probably least chance the probability of not getting caught, like do you know?
Speaker 2:yeah because if you're in Ireland, someone's gonna see you like oh, 100%, definitely, you know, way too small and I yeah, no, I would, I'd be gone on a, on a flight anyway, 100% yeah, like you'd have to make up like a fake business trip, um, but then like what was social media then?
Speaker 1:right, so say you're on your fake business trip and like they're like put two and two together yeah, like where's your socials? Like do you know be like, oh, like whereabouts it was your meeting and like like it's a lot of effort yeah you'd have to have a full-on, like, unless you're already in that role.
Speaker 1:We are going on like meetings all the time. But like, say, for example, like if you're making up a fake scenario to go on a meeting, like you'd have to have like put up fake pictures nearly and everything, wouldn't you like I?
Speaker 2:just think it's some effort to do that. It's so. I can't be bothered I just genuinely I don't know how people are, where they get the time and energy out of to do it, because, but you know what it is? I think it's the more excitement in it for people. Yeah, obviously you get to a certain point in your life where you just feel like the urge for something exciting. I don't know, what goes on in their heads, but they just want the bit of woo woo.
Speaker 1:Do you know what?
Speaker 2:I mean they just want to dip and dab without the commitment.
Speaker 1:Do you know what I mean? Like they want the mother at home, they want the wife as a mother at home, cooking and cleaning their clothes, and then they want the mistress. Then for the bit of the action, do you know?
Speaker 2:always a younger woman as well as oh always, so I think all right.
Speaker 1:So I think right, tips, not tips what would you do? What would I do right? So I think number one. I think you'd have to have a different phone, a different phone. I think you'd have to have a spare phone.
Speaker 2:But what if you find the phone like where?
Speaker 1:would you even?
Speaker 2:keep it. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:where would you keep it?
Speaker 2:I don't know you'd have to like I don't know, hide it in, like under the seat in your car, maybe, yeah, under the seat in your car.
Speaker 1:You'd have to find, like under the seat in your car maybe, yeah, under the seat in your car. You'd have to find, like a secret compartment in your car. A lot of cars now have little secret compartments, um, or if you don't want to go for the whole phone thing, like I suppose the old school way of doing it isn't it like of just putting them down as like a different name or something? But then, like I do think partners always do know, though, if someone's cheating, because, like, if they're constantly on their phone and not just like on social media, like because I know I'm always on my phone with like posts and things, editing videos, blah, blah, but like if you're sitting there secretively, like you just know someone's body language, I feel if they're cheating, like they're on edge.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, do you know? Yeah, but I just think you just get gut feeling being a woman anyway, and obviously if you're with your partner long enough, you know, yeah, but I just think you just get gut feeling, being a woman anyway, and obviously if you're with your partner long enough, you know them on a deeper level, that you know that they're acting suspicious or that they're just being weird yeah, definitely, like I think it's a horrible feeling, oh horrible because a lot of the time, like, the person who is cheating makes the other person feel like, manipulates them as if they're the one that's insecure and stuff you know, which is really sad as well
Speaker 1:you know. So it kind of is like back to the old school ways, isn't it? It's like fake name under a phone, either another phone, making up fake scenarios that you're going to, like some sort of hobby, as Simone's going to do, fly to Africa to meet her dream man, like it's just at this stage, I feel like I do need to go to Africa you never know, simone, you could be a lovely man out there for you. What else would you do, I think, if you were trying to get away with it?
Speaker 2:I don't know, because it's very like, it's a very sticky one and all depends as well if you live in a small town or city or where he's from, where you're from, like, because I feel like nowadays everyone knows everything about everyone yeah they do like they literally know every move that everyone makes yeah and especially with social media, like you said.
Speaker 2:Like it's, it's very hard, but I just think the only way is like if he's not from your local town or like if he's yeah, I think I think, I think it honestly has to be someone that's completely in another country yeah like, especially if you're a mistress, like if he has like a family, just less chance of like them running into one another do you know?
Speaker 2:yeah, but like being realistic, like if you do know that he has a family, okay, or whatever it may be, it's very bad to the fact that you do it, but he definitely has like another five or six.
Speaker 1:It's not just you I know what should I say. Cause and effect your actions have consequences on other people yeah, do you know what I? Mean, I wouldn't like to be a mistress like no, neither would I I think, I'd get you jealous.
Speaker 2:Anyway, I mean, I don't want to be sharing.
Speaker 1:Don't be sharing someone no, I mean, I don't like sharing my chocolate, so yeah, I'm like I won't be sharing another thing as well, like if, like, he's like sleeping with his wife and then he's going to sleep with you, like I don't know, I feel like that's a bit like yeah.
Speaker 2:I just find that disgusting though isn't it?
Speaker 1:it's like transferring of like ugh. I don't have to do that like, don't make me.
Speaker 2:I just I couldn't. But the thing is you hear of it happening like and you'd be shocked to the people that you do hear of things that go on, and you'd be shocked to the people that you do hear of things that go on, you're kind of like what. I wonder what actually triggers in their mind to do with them.
Speaker 1:I wonder what actually like triggers yeah, I'd love to get like a professional cheater onto the podcast. Yeah, to share all these secrets. Tell us like what? Why? Why do you do it?
Speaker 2:We need to find someone.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we need like a. We're searching for a male who loves women, who has multiple affairs.
Speaker 2:We're looking for a man in finance a trust fund? Yeah, a cheater, good vibes we need to know what.
Speaker 1:What makes it tick? Why do you do it? Do you know, like, what's, what's the appeal?
Speaker 2:is it just like have your cake that the man is always the instigator and there's a gullible woman that's the mistress that falls too deep in it and doesn't know how to get out?
Speaker 1:ah, women can be feck or snake yolks as well. They they sometimes see the, the wedding ring and they still go. This will go in, like, do you know? I mean it depends. But I do think, like, even if the women initiate it, they do fall too deep, like it's just us as human beings, like we, we fall in love quicker than men, do you know? So then, like, women just get hurt, do you know? I mean, yeah, I don't think we're very good at this game no, I am definitely the worst.
Speaker 2:I think I'm too, way too honest. That's my problem.
Speaker 1:I'd like to know, like people's worst cheating stories, like of how someone cheated on them, like what, like what you actually found out they did.
Speaker 2:We need a dilemma on this next week, you know I could, I could, I have money myself, but we won't go there I've not put myself in this situation.
Speaker 1:I can write a book.
Speaker 2:I could write a book, yeah, no, I do think, though, like when it does happen to you. Has it ever happened to you?
Speaker 1:see, I've been with Keith for so long now. Like do you know what I mean? Like when I was younger I got cheated on, but like they were little, like boy boyfriends yeah, exactly yeah, but like they were little like boy boyfriends.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, you know. Yeah, but like when it does happen to you, I just don't think that you're actually physically able to do it to somebody else, because you know how much it hurts. Yeah, do you get me like it's. It's different when you're the other girl and you're doing it, I think, but when it does actually happen to you and I always say it it will happen to you at some stage of your life and it's a horrible thing to say. If you're doing it to somebody with someone's partner, it will happen. It doesn't always happen to people that have a strong connection, like you and Keith say, for argument's sake, like it's just, it's not going to happen, but like I'm telling it.
Speaker 2:It can happen to anyone, though, simone like I feel, like I do think, though you kind of know, do you get me like you?
Speaker 2:do kind of know, like with some people, you can just tell, yeah, tell that there's something slimy about the other person, even though you might not never see it coming yourself. But, like, I just think that if you're the type of girl to go out of your way to do that with another, with a man that has a girlfriend or a wife or whatever it may be, it will happen to you. Yeah, because karma yeah, 100%.
Speaker 1:And I feel like as well, like people like change as well, like even hear stories of like people who are happily married and then all of a sudden, like your mom's, having 20,000 affairs and he's mid 50s, like I know it's like, though they go through like some sort of weird midlife crisis yeah, do you know it is?
Speaker 2:it is like but women do it too, like you hear of women doing it to their husband. Yeah, so like I don't know it's, it's, the world's a mess.
Speaker 1:I think, though, like I think, when women do it to their husbands, it's like a lack of communication. I feel like it could be a story of, like, say, this girl that wrote in on the dilemma where it's been years and years and years of like her serving and showing up and not getting anything back in return, and I feel like for women then it just becomes nearly like they explode and they're sick of it and they're searching for, like that love again. So I think, like a lot of it is lack communication in some cases, like in a lack of understanding of each other. Do you know?
Speaker 2:yeah, definitely, like you know, like you said, especially with women, I do feel like when a woman does it, there's a lot of hurt that's going on in the background for them to see yeah, and especially like the.
Speaker 1:I feel like especially like kind of the older generation as well. I feel like the women of that generation have been through hard times like, yeah, do you know where it's just where? Now I feel like us growing up with more boundaries for men and what we expect and what values we want, so you know. But yeah, we're the worst mistresses in Ireland we clearly don't know how to get away with cheating, because we can't even give tips not a chance.
Speaker 2:What's actually your opinion on this whole Molly Mae and Tommy Fury situation?
Speaker 1:oh my god, I don't. I'm so confused by it, I'm so confused.
Speaker 2:Like I don't Me personally. I'm just like Is it for like publicity? Is there something going on? Like I don't know? I just look at them and I'm like no one has a chance, because how he done that to her is beyond me. Like they look so happy.
Speaker 1:I think something must have definitely happened for her to literally. I feel like with Molly Mae she knows her worth. I feel like she's a very clever girl, so obviously it was meant to have come to her agency. So she was a voice to put out this statement before it blew up. But I think she's handling it really well. I think she's handling it very maturely and I feel like, as much as she probably hates him and is upset if he did cheat because it's allegedly cheated, she's just coming up now for her child, though I think.
Speaker 1:I think she's putting Bambi first, yeah, and which is actually very mature to do, because it can be hard if someone cheats on you like you want. Obviously you want nearly the public to hate them, but she's dismissing it. She's not really like playing into it, she's not commenting on it, it's just like she's dismissing it. She's not really like playing into it, she's not commenting on it, it's just like. She's like right, I'm getting on. Now I have my new brand coming out, let's go, let's go on. Like I say behind closed doors, like but I don't know, did he cheat? If he did, I'm shocked because they were the golden couple and it just I feel like it's after putting like, um, my no trust in love if that couple and he cheated but that's what I mean.
Speaker 2:I do think like there's a lot of like nasty people on social media that do make up a lot of stuff and make 100% yeah look so real to the fact, like I saw something like one girl said that she met him on night out and then now she's saying she's pregnant. But she said firstly, like they didn't even kiss, that they just kind of were talking or whatever, and now suddenly she's pregnant, like people do for clout?
Speaker 1:oh, 100%, they do. Yeah, like 100%. And then you know what annoyed me even more is everyone on TikTok when, like, oh, everyone knows around Manchester that, like, tommy Fury cheats, why are you coming out with that now? Like, why are you coming out after all the allegations, like, if you knew, if the whole of Manchester knew that Tommy Fury is cheating? Why didn't someone send Bonnie Mae a DM and like, here's images of Tommy Mae, like with my friend or you know what I mean. Like, because I think a lot of women like that in the moment be like, oh, I'm going to go off Tommy Fury in the Tinkerer Grey.
Speaker 2:They don't care about Molly Mae in that moment see, but even though I don't know her like, if he came up and approached me I'd be like, absolutely not.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Do you know what I mean? But I don't know. It's he's saying he didn't cheat. So I don't know. I don't think we'll ever know the truth. I don't think it'll ever really come out. I don't think she'll ever speak about it.
Speaker 2:So I do think that, whatever's after happening, I can see them getting back together, can you? Yeah, I can. Hmm, interesting yeah Even though I know she knows her worth and she is like phenomenal at what she does and her mindset on life and her worth ethic and the way she's such a great mother, like or whatever.
Speaker 2:But I do think that she's such a nice, kind, genuine person that if he did cheat or made a mistake, it'd be like once bitten, twice shy. They could try and make it work again and that would be it. But obviously, if you've done it like again, like end of all. But I don't, I can't see them getting back together. I can't, like I can't see her. I can't visualize her or him with somebody else I just can't. It's weird.
Speaker 1:I think she'll only get back up. If he didn't cheat, though I think something else might have happened, and it's not got to be cheating at all. I think people are maybe are jumping down, um jumping too and especially when you have a baby with someone.
Speaker 1:I think it's completely different it could just be a thing where it just wasn't working out and maybe he just wasn't the best partner while he was a father. Do you know what I mean? So, like who knows, do you know what I mean? But we need we need to know the rest of the story, because I'm invested, but I don't think she'll ever speak about it. But she does have a new brand coming out. It's a clothing brand. To say that, yeah, um, did she announce it? Though? No, every there's like people went investigating on tiktok yeah, I saw it yeah what's it called me?
Speaker 1:maybe, yeah, so I see. Or is it yes, maybe, yeah, maybe, yeah, maybe, yeah, um, so it'll be interesting to know what the price range is like. It'll either be very on par with like pretty little thing, or it'll be price range above that, but it's hard to know, like, but yeah, no, I love molly, may. I think she's an absolute business head on her.
Speaker 2:She is queen yeah, yeah, but this week's sad.
Speaker 1:We're all written for her anyway it's like the end of an era, isn't it really? Yeah, I know sad. Anyway, it's like the end of an era, isn't it Really? Yeah, I know Sad. So for our game of the week.
Speaker 1:Simone, we have a guest a celebrity, okay, go for it. So I'm going to read you out little facts about this person. You have to try to guess who it is. Okay, go ahead. So guest celebrity. It's a man. Okay, he is known for his physique. He was a professional wrestler, he's currently now an actor and he's known for his sense of humor. Ah, you got it. You got it through me. I'll finish it off, since you rudely interrupted me. He's known for his sense of humor. He, he has no very sense of humour in many films which he wants as a Disney film. He is best. His best friend is a small man of stature who am I, the Rock. I love the Rock. I would love to meet him he is.
Speaker 1:He is unbelievable so for our affirmation to finish off our podcast I expect to win. I deserve to win. Boom yes, boom yes. That we do, that we do Into the remaining of 2024, we're here to conquer.
Speaker 2:Give it to us the next few months. We're going strong on everything that we want in life.
Speaker 1:Everything. It's all coming to us. It's all coming to us, it's all coming Thank you so much.
Speaker 2:It's already here, we already have it. What are you on about?
Speaker 1:Thank you for tuning into the podcast. Send us your dilemmas and if you want to get in touch, just send us a DM. And make sure you follow us on Spotify and Apple Podcasts and follow our Instagram.
