Boujee Blondes
Boujee Blondes is presented by Melissa Clarke and Simone Grace.Join the ladies for girly chats full of fun and laughter - chatting about life, relationships and much more in a comfortable safe place. women empowerment and sisterhood is the sense of belonging that this podcast interprets. the atmosphere hopes to provide a safe place for everyone to go for advice whilst feeling accepted and understood. Melissa and Simone share their own life experiences which entails lots of blissful, loving and embarrassing moments but also mistakes throughout life. Speaking to diverse groups of people from different walks of life on various subjects. A weekly episode not to be missed - every Tuesday on all major podcast platforms. If you would like to contact the girls please email Boujeeblondespodcast@gmail.com
Boujee Blondes
New Year, No rules: Slow downs, glow up, and scandalous confessions
We explore the concept of Blue Monday, dissecting the pressure surrounding New Year's resolutions and the impact of burnout culture in our daily lives. We emphasize the importance of boundaries in relationships, discuss catfishing incidents, and engage in light-hearted banter, reminding listeners of the potential for renewal in every moment.
• Exploring why Blue Monday is considered the most depressing day of the year
• Discussing the overwhelming nature of New Year’s resolutions
• The value of prioritizing self-care and a balanced approach to wellness
• Emphasizing the significance of boundaries in friendships and relationships
• Candid reflections on personal experiences with catfishing
• Engaging in light-hearted storytelling to connect with listeners
• Inviting listeners to reflect on their own growth and resilience
Reach out at thebeautyblondespodcast@gmail.com!
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Speaker 2:My ass bloated like my stomach did Because I was the same at holidays my jeans wouldn't even close, my denim shorts wouldn't even close. One day I just had to, like wear them open, like with my bikini underneath. I was like it's not happening. Fucking Christmas work parties. It does things to people. I don't know what happens. It happens not all of them, but most of them. I actually think the John 2 Johnny's catfish story is worse than the Dear Bobby one, like I think it deserves a Netflix series it's the Bougie Blondes podcast with Melissa and Simone, available on Spotify, apple or wherever you get your podcasts.
Speaker 2:Now let's get bougie. Hi, I'm Melissa. Hi, I'm Simone. Our podcast is serving you. Bestie vibes, we are just two country girls chatting about all things we struggle with in daily life. And, of course, talking about certain issues that some people are afraid to speak about. We give it to you real, while having crack along the way. Remember, these are just our opinions, gals, so don't take us too seriously. We're just giving you some best friend advice. Today is officially Blue Monday. Did you know that?
Speaker 1:blue monday yeah, it's blue monday, do you feel so? Is that like monday blues times 100?
Speaker 2:yeah, monday blues multiplied by a trizillion hundreds. So it's like, apparently it's like the worst monday of the year and it's when everyone gives up, like all their New Year's resolutions. It's the most day you're inclined to quit, basically.
Speaker 1:Oh, is it? Yeah, well, I must say, I'm feeling completely opposite.
Speaker 2:Really, I feel like I'm like you right now. See spirit, animals, spirit bitches.
Speaker 1:Oh, I just love the energy.
Speaker 2:I literally went against everything that I've did in the past. So I actually went into like January, not setting any resolutions, not doing, saying I'm going to do this, this and this, and I just took a complete step back and a reset and now I feel I'm ready to you're in the flow of life. I'm in the flow of life. I'm in the flow of life. Now I feel like I'm getting back into it now.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, we're ready, we're back baby yeah, so welcome back everyone.
Speaker 2:Sorry we forgot to introduce ourselves there, but welcome back. We had a little bit of a break over Christmas, which is well needed, and we're so excited if you're tuning back in to listen to the Beauty Blondes, and we're so excited to have you this year as well for lots of gossip and tea and dilemmas and drama and everything that we offer.
Speaker 1:Yes, absolutely, but all good things come on this year for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so with this year we're talking about Blue Mondays, so I feel a little bit like a lot of people do. I was actually talking about this on radio today because I was talking about running as my topic and, like a lot of people, like drop off and like brian redmond was like why did that happen? And I think it is is because people go too hard in at once and try to do so much and then their brain just gets overloaded and they're like nah, I actually can't cope all this change. It's like habit stacking, isn't it like?
Speaker 1:yeah, you know what. It is so true though I feel like in the new year as well, we do put a lot of pressure on ourselves, just to kind of go for it and like see changes and this and the other, and there is a lot of pressure. But I just switched mine up a tiny little bit, like I went back to going to the gym at half five in the morning, like just changing little daily routines. I'm not even putting too much pressure on myself.
Speaker 1:If I'm being honest, I'm just kind of yeah, and I agree with that.
Speaker 2:I actually seen that that you've been going to the gym earlier and I was like, ooh, usually she's a nighttime gym bunny, yeah.
Speaker 1:But I feel like I'm rejuvenated, I feel more alive again.
Speaker 2:Do you feel that you've more like time in the evening to like kind of chill out a bit, since you got up earlier to go to the gym?
Speaker 1:Yeah, but I mean it's me, yeah. When the fuck do I chill out? No, when the fuck do I chill out, no.
Speaker 2:I actually seen on the store your stories the other day. You were like sitting down looking at telly and I was like jeez, that's a fucking farce. Who is this new Simone?
Speaker 1:I can't even cope like. It just shows girls are dumb, like literally dumb. I don't know how me and Ellie tried to fit a big feck off flat screen TV into a sports car like I seen that it's like girls.
Speaker 1:I did warn her, though, even though I'm blonde, I must say I have a good head on my shoulders. I was like this is this ain't fitting, it ain't happening. Yeah, like we had, the telly was hanging out the sunroof, it was on one of the boys shoulders and she squished in the back of the car. I'm like I can't. But you know, we moved, we got it home, it got safe, it's fine yeah.
Speaker 2:So you have it up on the wall, ready to chill out for all your relaxing evenings ahead. But, like it is, like you know, I think we need to go into this year. I think, like since 2020, we've all been on a bit of a roller coaster. We don't know where we're coming or going, and it's either like hustle or bustle, or then it was nothing. So I feel like this year we need to like slow down a bit and enjoy life like slow girl era.
Speaker 2:I'm all about slow girl area, but still getting stuff done, but still slowing down a bit, if you get what I mean yeah, we're doing a kind of in steady motion yeah so yeah, I'm definitely into the slow girl, especially like I've had I'm not sure if I know, because I haven't spoken about in this, but obviously over the last couple of months to my viewers attention now they might have seen it on TikTok or Instagram, but I did hit burnout and I feel like towards even the end of this year doing the podcast not that I wasn't fully invested in it, but it's like my brain was like mush. I just honestly couldn't even I was trying to juggle so much that like I just I had no clarity, if that makes sense like it was just, and you know what, I didn't even see it really coming and I don't know how I didn't see it coming. It kind of just happened. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1:It was just because it takes a toll on like things just get heavy, yeah, and you don't even realize yourself.
Speaker 2:And because you're on the go religiously and constantly, it's just you literally end up hitting a brick wall and it's only afterwards you realize that, oh my god, yeah, and it's mad because it's not like it was one of my, like, busiest years, but I feel like it was more of an emotional kind of burnout, like I feel like I was like multitasking so many job roles as one human being.
Speaker 1:It's actually physically impossible, you know, and I think I have to be very careful now where, like, I project my energy going into this year and what I want to focus on and just have more boundaries and saying no, I think, is the main, the main plan for this year I think, yeah, definitely a 100%, like I'm at the stage as well where I'm just like you need to just cut out like toxic people and like surround yourself with people who build you up, not tear you down, and I don't want to be around any type of drama at all.
Speaker 2:We're saying no to drama for this 2025.
Speaker 1:Absolutely xoxo, booty girls exactly love that, but I just literally I can't. I'm just like I can't be arsed with it, like I just want to push out any negativity in my life, happy life, just living.
Speaker 2:Yeah, just living, reaching our goals, trying to get ourselves better, and just yeah, cutting out all the bullshit. Really isn't it?
Speaker 1:Yeah. And sometimes you just need to cut out a few people like not in a bad way, but like just it's easier.
Speaker 2:It's sometimes it's not as easy, though. If people are like in your life. Do you know like it's it's hard though sometimes.
Speaker 1:But you just have to do what's right for you as well, don't you like definitely? Like you really do on what's good for your soul, because sometimes people can actually mentally drain you like.
Speaker 2:I honestly just have. I have a very low social battery, like even though I'm like a very social butterfly yeah, I'm a social butterfly and then like work, I would be like so chatty to everyone, I love chatting to people but I find I feel like I have a certain time limit on my energy. Like I'd be like, yeah, I need to go now. I'm just like after he's gone, we need to recharge.
Speaker 1:It's like that's where it comes to setting boundaries as well. I feel like if the people that are around you don't understand those boundaries and don't take it personally, then I just don't feel like they're your people, because some people can get like a bit of a chip on your shoulder, their shoulder.
Speaker 1:Sorry, if you're kind of like oh, I'm too busy, like I've been at work, yeah, at the gym been doing this, that and the other, like maybe we'll meet during the week or whatever it may be, and a lot of people don't get that, like they actually don't, which I think it's a little bit, but I'm an introvert, but I'm not.
Speaker 2:I'm the exact same. Yeah, like I'm introverted. But when you get to know me you know I'm an introvert, like I'm such an extrovert, like I'm like wild.
Speaker 1:I think I'm just very careful yeah, I've said this before like I'll be friends with so many people, but I'll only allow a certain amount of people in that are worth my energy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's it. Protect, we're blocking the energy. We have a field of that. We only let a little people in, but it is, though, it's so important because you actually don't realize, like, how people around you like can drain you. Like everything is energy, like everything, like do you know what I mean? Like it's, yeah, it's uh, people, some people.
Speaker 1:I think we're just so connected to the fucking universe, like it's so weird. Okay, this, I swear to god. Sometimes when I say things I'm like what the hell? We're sitting, sat and work. The other day, um, like we're on about Christina Aguilera.
Speaker 1:Okay, I was saying oh my god like she actually looks unreal, like whatever it may be. But in 30 seconds one of the girls went on their phone and she popped up okay, then I started speaking about the Lion King and this I got notification being like Lion King man started following you. I was like, huh, that is actually really weird. Now I don't know, but two coincident keys in one minute is not a vibe. I was like that is weird.
Speaker 2:That is that is weird, yeah yeah, I feel like there's a lot of like. Do you know where? They say that like you're, you're like everything. The universe tries to crumble up your life before good things happen. I think that's happening to me at the moment. So we lost my Prada sunglasses. Can we speak about that again?
Speaker 1:yeah, I cannot wait, you know one of these sunglasses fucking fair.
Speaker 2:And can we just say I was sober. It's not if I was drunk I would like fair enough. Because you know me, I'm like Cinderella I lose shoes, I lose jackets, I leave shoes in random places. You know what I mean fucking proud of sunglasses. I literally I don't know what happened, simone. I literally left them on my bag and like underneath my seat on the plane and I say whatever, I kicked it to slide underneath the seat the most. The tip was over because the bag was open, so it was like opened. But I threw him in to like the open part, like the zip was open.
Speaker 1:If you get me, oh, lads, I'm devastated, I would be too, like I'm devastated, like it's like they become a part of you yeah, and I wear them every day without these Prada glasses yeah, I feel like I'm not me like.
Speaker 2:And the only other person I know that wears Prada sunglasses every single day is Hannah Lang. You know the DJ? Yeah, and every time I see her now on my news feed, I'm like Hannah Lang has her sunglasses on. I literally wear them all the time, like, even like when it's raining outside, I will have my Prada sunglasses on for a walk, like I just love them, because I'm such sensitive eyes anyway from the sun. So like, oh, I'm devastated, I've just. And then I lost a Prada lip gloss, or no, sorry, prada lipstick, a lip gloss. And I lost something else on holidays as well, and can we just say I was sober for these this holiday? So, like, I don't know, like the universe is just look from here on in.
Speaker 1:I promise you good things are gonna happen. Yeah, I promise it's coming, it's coming yeah, we need.
Speaker 2:We need good things to happen now for for this year. So what's your health and fitness plan? Then, journey for this year's one. Honestly, are you changing anything? Are you sticking to the same routine or what you doing?
Speaker 1:I'm sticking to the same routine, but just getting up earlier, getting more steps in enjoying the journey. Yeah, okay, I'm not like being like, oh, I want to look like this person, oh I want to look like that person, or like I want to change this about myself. I kind of like everyone has those moments anyway, no matter what. Like it's just natural to like want better when you're in the gym, like you want to see results. But I just wish right putting it out there, my ass bloated like my stomach did because I was the same at holidays.
Speaker 2:My jeans wouldn't even close, my denim shorts wouldn't even close. One day I just had to, like wear them open, like with my bikini underneath.
Speaker 1:I was like it's not happening, it's just every single woman that I have a conversation with has a stomach problem yeah, every woman bloats.
Speaker 2:Like can we just say it? It's fucking normal, like, and especially if I travel, I am gone oh yeah, the plane.
Speaker 1:It kills me. Like it's like airplane food as well.
Speaker 2:Like they do say, though, you shouldn't eat three hours before a flight I seen this and a guy actually said don't eat anything. On a flight he said like literally starve yourself, like something got to do with I don't know. It's like the oxygen or something or I don't know something your stomach could actually cause more crazy, though, but yeah, that's really it.
Speaker 1:I'm just going to the gym, literally lifting heavy, trying to build the booty and steps and just enjoying it like I do. Like it was Mark's birthday the other day and I had. I was like I'm not drinking all over January, but I was like for you, for one day I will have a couple of drinks and, honestly, yesterday I was like to the girls. I was like alcohol does something to me, it makes me swell, like genuinely. I was like a turkey really honestly, like it just bloats me. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 2:I find that I think I'm allergic to some wines. Like I get really like swollen eyeballs, like the skin on my eye like all swells and like gets really sore and I'm like I like I sneeze. Yeah, I know it's so weird, isn't it? Yeah, it's so weird, definitely allergic to it, or something like there's some wines I'm likely sneezing and everything. Um, but yeah, I definitely want to start Pilates this year. Um, definitely, I feel like it's a Pilates year yeah, I feel like slow, slow, like low-packed movement just coming back.
Speaker 2:Do you know as well? So yeah, my plan is like you have a bit like you. I'm kind of going with the journey to see what happens. I'm back running now because I'm going to train for half marathon.
Speaker 2:Um so for you see, I need some of your motivation well, I tell you now I know I'm a bit like I actually would be, like actually I don't know how I did that run like whenever we're back in training. So, yeah, I'm going to do the marathon, lift heavy and do some pilates and, yeah, I'm back being my own coach this year. So I have to do like check-ins with myself, which is fun.
Speaker 1:Well, it'd probably be less stressful to be here. Yeah, well, see, look, we'll see what happens. Just jump out and help yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're just going to go with the flow and like that, like I feel like you know what I mean, like I'm going to be consistent and push myself, but like if you just don't, sometimes I think, if you just you're not feeling that day, you're just not feeling it, and it's okay, you'll get back at tomorrow. Do you know what I'm talking about exactly? There's always tomorrow. Just breathe. Melissa and simone are here to listen. So, ladies and men, we have a very interesting dilemma today that simone is going to read out. So it's, we have a pickle, all all right, go on someone so, hey, girls, I hope yours are good.
Speaker 1:In a bit of a pickle, I'm very unsure of what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for four years and I love him dearly, but I've made the biggest mistake and regret of my life, or god. I slept with someone behind his back at a work christmas party over a month ago and I feel physically sick. I can't even remember it properly. I can't even look at my boyfriend directly in the face and keep picking fights with him just so we're at a distance. I honestly don't think I can tell him, but then I can't go on with being an avoidant. I don't want to lose him, but I don't. I don't know how to tell him. Do you think it's possible for us to ever be able to start over?
Speaker 2:fucking Christmas work parties. It does things to people. I don't know what it happens at all.
Speaker 1:Well, not all of them, but most of them people go to hear these stories a lot and it's always but like a colleague, oh my god, always always like.
Speaker 2:It's like christmas parties, everyone I don't know.
Speaker 1:It's like the end of the year, parties are jinxed they're fucking jinxed it's like um dancing with this.
Speaker 2:Is it done? Not dancing with stars? What's the one? That's the curse? The english one is that what is it? No, is it dancing with the stars? So that's the ir one, isn't it? What's the English dancing show? Or the Strictly Come Dancing, or the Strictly Curse? Yeah Well, this is like Christmas party curses happening here now.
Speaker 1:Oh, I personally don't understand how you're like. I always say this if you love somebody and you cheat, I'm just kind of like what the hell like? How does it? I know people make mistakes and we're not perfect, but I don't think you should be picking the arguments with them to like keep them at a distance, because it's making the matter worse yeah, I don't know why people do that.
Speaker 2:But you see that a lot of time with like people, if they're if they're like wrong about something, they nearly try to start fights with someone else to nearly like make them the problem. I don't know it's, it's a weird one, it's like a reverse psychology thing. I don't know it's, it's a weird one, it's like a reverse psychology thing. I don't know what do you think like? You think that?
Speaker 1:like I just think honestly, it's the best policy and being direct with somebody, yeah, that's way forward. Like I just think you need to open up and tell him how it is and especially if he means that much, you give him that respect yeah.
Speaker 2:I think you're gonna have to prepare, though, like he's probably gonna like walk away yeah, he'll walk away, like a hundred percent, like it probably is gonna happen.
Speaker 2:But if you're meant to be, yeah, gravitate back to each other and I think as well, because it's like a work Christmas party, like I feel like those things don't get forgotten about. Like I feel that is like the talk of the whole place and probably it probably will come out if it's like next year or the year after. So like you'd rather be the one to say it than it come out like two years later, when you're like after I don't know, like buying a house or having a child or something. Like then shit gets messy, Like do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'd 100% say it, Definitely.
Speaker 2:Why does it always happen at Christmas parties?
Speaker 1:I just I know, and usually it's like it's the man that does it. Yes, see, but you know what? Women can be as bad as a man. But I mean, you're not a bad person, you made a mistake no like look these things happen, these things.
Speaker 2:Look, maybe it was just too much drink, a bit of flirtiness that went too far. Maybe she actually does have like a secret, like had secret feelings for this other colleague all along like a connection.
Speaker 1:Maybe they have a connection yeah.
Speaker 2:So, if anything, I think you need to ask yourself like, yes, okay, you feel terrible, you can't look at your boyfriend in the face, but you need to sit down and go deeper, I think, than that. Like, do you really love him that much? Yeah, like, sorry, not in a bad way, but like I think you need to go deeper. There's a deeper reason why you did that like, and it could be because you're actually unhappy in the current relationship. Like you might still love him. Are you in love?
Speaker 2:Yeah, is he giving you all your needs? Is he giving you exactly what you need in your relationship? Like he could be a really good person, but sometimes someone's still not giving you your needs, like what you actually want out of a relationship. So like, yeah, I think you need to dwell deep on this one and ask yourself, like, why did you do it? Like, is there something in the other partner, maybe that you're current, or the other man that you went away with for the night like Cinderella? Is there something in him that maybe you're not seeing in your current partner? Do you mean? Like, you have to ask yourself these questions.
Speaker 1:It is very sad, like, because obviously, like they're together for four years and like they become kind of like your best friend and it's hard to kind of drift away from that. But I just think that maybe your head has turned a little bit and you've gotten this connection with somebody else Like I think maybe you need a break, yeah, to figure out exactly what you both want and what you both desire.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and do you know what, though, simone? Like, I feel like you can have like really two like good people, but they're just not matched. Yeah, and sometimes people can bring out bad traits in other people if their needs aren't being matched. Do you know what I mean? So I don't know. I feel like when something like this happens, it goes deeper, whether it's on a deeper level, you feeling that you're not getting something out of the current relationship, or it could just be an inner you issue. That's something you need to resolve that, unfortunately, your partner is after getting the backlash of it, you know that kind of way. So, like I don't know. I do think you should be honest, though, and then just see what happens. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be, like you know. Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:Like I always say, what's meant for you won't pass you by and time will tell. Time will tell. Time is the biggest healer. You just have to be patient. It is.
Speaker 2:I know people say that it's really hard to hear, especially in the current moment, but it's the same with anything.
Speaker 1:Like time does heal, just every day. One percent every day. That's all yesterday, really, isn't it? But you got it girl.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you got it. So if you find dilemmas or stories, make sure you can email them to us at the beautyblondespodcastgmailcom or send us a DM. So we've all heard about the dilemma of the two Johnnies podcasts of the cafe. Can I just say I listened to this on the plane over to Lanzarote, and the part 3 holy mother of god, simone it's absolutely crazy.
Speaker 1:Like there's no words. People are psychotic like no, it's not even okay. I always say people should have a yearly checkup on their brain to see if they're mentally stable to be on the planet.
Speaker 2:Because I'm like well, I actually seen someone comment underneath. So a news article had up about the two johnny's catfish, about how there was like police investigation into it now and someone actually commented underneath and I was like, um, oh, I thought the two johnny's were just doing this as a publicity stunt. Um, and if there were, I was like, oh god, fair play to them because it's some publicity stunt. How could you even make that up for a publicity stunt? Number one it's too complicated, like there's so much complication in the whole thing that like it'd be impossible to stick to the same story the whole time. 100, wow, like mental, like this is it Cora is the girl? Yeah, cora was no. Cora is the girl. And who's the friend in the house? What's her name?
Speaker 2:oh, I can't even think this is going on for time like if you haven't listened to the two Johnny's podcast, which I'm sure everyone has listened to because it's after going viral everywhere. But yeah, basically he got catfished by this girl called Cora. She never used to turn up to like to meet him. Then she invited him to his house, but then Cora wasn't there.
Speaker 1:I can't think of the friends names were there and she even the friends made him breakfast.
Speaker 2:It was only that it was that one girl that met him for free, but that's clearly the catfish but I can't think of her name, um and dropped him back from Dublin to tip and then I think he got taught was a bit weird. And then, like other accounts are meshing, saying why aren't you writing back to Cora? And it just went out of hand. And then so they did at the live show they announced it all. And then there was things there where your one was saying that they were using that's my pictures that I'm actually in catfish, and then they were getting like solicitor's letters and and it was actually the same one oh my, it's just bonkers. And it goes on and on. Like she's after catfishing so many men, yeah, like all these JA players, yeah but the poor girl's pictures that are being used.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:She's soon, though. Now, that's Casey from Love Island X.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I'm sorry, but it's actually not okay. We've been there I don't know how many no Accounts that are made up of me me but there was this one account called Ella Bella. She had 17,000 followers. Obviously they were bought, but I'm just like. The account was going on and on and on for ages. God only knows what meant she was missed. This he or she, archie was messaging and I'm just like people are fucking bonkers and then you ask Instagram to take the account down to say that they're pretending to be you. Yeah, the account was up for months, so like it's a horrible situation to be in. It's frustrating, like it's. It's mentally like and physically draining yeah, it's mad, like.
Speaker 2:But like, do you think that there should be some sort of though like laws in, like I think she should get done for this. Like like you're ruining people's lives, like like mentally you're it's like mentally draining, like do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:you know I what was the one on netflix as well. Did we speak about that?
Speaker 2:yeah, uh, dear bobby, yeah like it's. It happens so much that it's a joke at this stage I actually think the john to johnny's catfish story is worse than the dear bob Bobby one like I think it deserves, like it's actually more. At least with Dear Bobby it was like literally just Bobby messaging your one and they were just in a relationship and like they're in a relationship for like three or four years or something, um, insane I turn out to be her turn out to be her cousin, wasn't it?
Speaker 2:um, but this girl is like setting up multiple accounts, simone, like multiple accounts and like meshing so many play ga players. She went, what was it? She went to some lads like a match and like took a picture of it and then like cropped his like face or something, wasn't it onto her story to look like she was there, or she geo tagged it on snapchat, so it was like looking like she was waiting, but she actually wasn't like it just it seems a like. It seems really worse than Dear Bobby, honest to God.
Speaker 1:She needs or he, whoever she is, he needs help and to be behind bars. Because, like, you're ruining people's lives and their emotions, like because people do get attached to text messages and phone calls, like they grow relationships now, me personally I don't think, but I'm not going to say never, because it can happen to anyone.
Speaker 2:Clearly, yeah but like people do get invested over the phone, they do yeah, they do, but it's kind I just feel like it's nearly. I'm just gonna say I think it's a bit stalkerish. I think it's even gone beyond catfishing. Like like I feel like it's a lot different than other catfishing stories, like I feel like it's nearly obsessive, like that I'd be worried about their mental health state, like do you know? I mean like to catfish in the first place, like that, like obviously, an insecurity number one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like. And then it's kind of like maybe the person is just eager to be this other person and wants to know what it's like to message, just to come across of a picture or profile on the internet to see what kind of attention and validation they get yeah so it's like the external validation like yeah, but which is not okay, like you should be happy within yourself like, but there's so many people's lives that she's after disturbance number one, the girl of the picture, she's after robbing, like that's.
Speaker 2:You know what I mean. Taking someone else's identity. Number two is all the men that she's after, like they're thinking that they're in with this girl and there's so many different names. There was Cora, there was I actually can't think of the other two names that she made up the paper up as but like investing, like she's after wasting people's time, investing in, like they're investing into her with the real person and then like it's just I, just I just don't get it.
Speaker 1:It's crazy, but it's taken someone's identity as well, like mistaken identity, to the fact that, like it's horrible, like it's actually like, I remember when it was happening to me, like there was scream recording my stories of my brothers like my brother and my sisters like my family.
Speaker 2:And putting it on this fake account.
Speaker 1:Like at the end of the day, they're only children at the time, like at the time it's not okay, like it's actually not at all.
Speaker 2:No, I remember someone did it to me as well, but it wasn't as bad and I was yours like it was only after it was starting to go up. But even like, I felt like so, oh my god, like how easy it is for someone to like rob. Like it's like, oh my god, that's me and you're letting on to be someone else, like do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1:and then like what I found weird was they were like adding, like my close friends, like what had me blocked. I couldn't see the account. Yes, even if I searched it, it wouldn't come up.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I was following, like all my family, my friends. They were sending it on to me. I'm like I know what's there. What do you want me to do about it?
Speaker 2:Like.
Speaker 1:I physically can't do anything, so whoever the person that was doing it to me was wanted me to know what they were doing, and I feel like it was someone that I probably knew most of the time, though, it is someone.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is like most of them. It is someone. You know, like, I think, how I found out what mine was. It was actually some nice man who actually messaged me, um, because they had me on. It wasn't called, it wasn't tinder, it was like a uk like tinder. Um, and he said how he copped it was that they robbed one, the fours of me in my client makeup studio. Um, he copped that because I have, like, um, I did at the time have like a, a sign above my mirror that said melissa clark makeup, and he said that he copped it because obviously they had my name down as someone else. And then he said, because he actually messaged me on instagram, him, and he said, like, then I copped on, that was a fake profile and he was like, just let you know, this person is robbing your stuff. So I was like, yeah, I was like the sound of him to message me.
Speaker 1:Don't tell me yeah, yeah, 100, 100%. But like he could have like, passed you a picture and wanted to match yeah, and then came to the realization that, okay, this isn't who she's saying.
Speaker 2:She is yeah, so like it was the sound of him like yeah, mad, isn't it?
Speaker 1:You do see a lot, though, with celebrities and stuff like that, like all these fake accounts like just floating around and some girls are falling for it because they never heard of him. Like if it was a celebrity from America that follows me, say, on Instagram, but only has like a thousand followers, starts messaging me. I find him attractive, maybe message him back, but little do I know that he's actually a celebrity and someone else is just using his pictures on a different name.
Speaker 2:You just don't know you really don't like easy. I'd love to get someone on that actually like because I have like a mad catfish story, some, like you know, we'd love to like. I'd love to get someone like that on. Or I'd actually love to talk to someone who actually Donate to somebody.
Speaker 1:Yeah, to see what went through their mind.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I'd like to know what goes through your head, like when you're doing it. Like I'm really intrigued in that kind of stuff. I like how the brain works. I like it.
Speaker 1:I don't know what kind of chemical it'll be floating around in the membrane but I floating around in the membrane but I mean it's not okay chemical in the membrane, insane in the brain, but honestly, for real. For real, though, it's actually bonkers like yeah, mental, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Okay, see, I could just stay awake thinking about like all this all night. You're like, why do they do this? I'm never going to get an answer. So until I get someone who's actually did it to someone, then we can have a chat. That's the end of that.
Speaker 1:Then yeah, definitely so. If you're willing to come on the podcast that you can't fish somebody before, please reach out reach out and spill the tea.
Speaker 2:So we have a new little segment it's called Storytime of the Week where we share a funny story from past or present. So my one is like this is going to I think anyone that's listened to me when I was younger from school will remember this. So basically, simone, I was in first year right, and I was so vulnerable, like I was like a little tiny little first year right, um, country girl going into the big world, you know, and I had to get the bus home, right. So there was, like there was before buses in the yard in our secondary school, like one was going to, I think, like, like out, like towards Kilkenny, paulstown, there was like two going up my road, like there was two, I think my busses, right, and then there was another bus, but sure, I didn't get on the wrong bus, right, but I knew I got on the wrong bus and I was like going past like where I was living and I just said there and said that no, you didn't, I did, because I'm so shy to say anything, and then I go.
Speaker 2:That's actually sad, that's so funny. I was so embarrassed because, like, obviously it was full of like six years and fifth years and four years, like, and I was just sitting there and then I got like so far out and I was like I was like okay, I'm gonna have to say something now or I'm gonna end up in Dublin. And then I went up like I went up to the bus driver and I was like I'm really sorry, but I think I got the wrong bus. And he was like what, I was like yes, then he had to oh.
Speaker 2:I'm so embarrassing so he had to stay there, right, poor bus driver. Like I had to ring my father off his phone because obviously, like I didn't have my phone, like in first year, and then like he had to drive all the way to collect me, like in front of the big bus, oh, and everyone looking at you going.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, with your little chart of school and your big tails. Oh bless you. No, I can't, that's not.
Speaker 2:That's actually sad, because I was thinking of like daddy's, like sure. Why didn't you tell him you got on the wrong bus?
Speaker 1:and I can imagine him.
Speaker 2:You fucking ages, yes and then, like sure, I went around the whole school like everyone's, like, oh, you got on the wrong bus. You got the wrong bus. It's so smart to fight.
Speaker 1:Oh no, that is do you know, what it is when you think about like your childhood, like or whatever, like all the stupid silly things you've done, yeah, and you kind of didn't open your mouth.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You're too terrified. It's, and it kind of didn't open your mouth. You're too terrified, too terrified To say anything To the bus driver, and if you're Irish listeners, you know that Irish school bus drivers are the biggest cranks as well, so you're probably afraid.
Speaker 2:I was just I think it's because there were so many like older people there, like I was, like I mean you, you know, I still can embody myself in that moment. I've been like, oh my god, what am I gonna do on the ramp, us like only you, only you honestly, I swear to god I am the most likely to get lost. Lose things. I'm actually a disaster. You're not that bad. But yeah, that is my story time of the week. Hope I'm not just laughing love, embarrassing myself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, poor little old me, and if you know, melissa, she's five foot two.
Speaker 2:Now, I'm actually barely only five foot one. Oh, is that? So you're only like a little tiny little fairy yeah, yeah, this little, tiny little thing on this big bus in the middle of nowhere, lost in the wilderness, with a big school bag on her way to Narnia.
Speaker 2:On her way to Narnia but yeah, that's our little story time of the week On our way to Narnia. On our way to Narnia. But, yeah, that's our little story time of the week and I hope you enjoyed it. So we have our product of the week. So, simone, I have been using this a while and I swear to God it's the best product. When I was thinking about our segment, I was like we may speak about this on the pod. I actually had this up in my story a while ago. It got sent to me for PR, but I actually bought another one the other day. It's the skin proud cleansing balm.
Speaker 1:Have you ever used it?
Speaker 2:no, I haven't actually, oh, my god, simone, especially you, because you wear makeup every day, it will melt your makeup off. Really, yeah, like because I love the elmis cleansing balm you know the pink one or the other one where I got this and I was like, oh, I'll try this. I think it's only like. I actually like look at the price now. It's not like seven euro, but, oh my god, someone it will honestly.
Speaker 2:I will send you a video later. Like you literally get a bit of it. Go like this and all your makeup is gone yeah, no joke, I need no joke, I'm not even messing, I'm actually going to google it now. Skin proud, cleansing my way. Get it in um boots or beauty bay and get it 12, 50. It's 12, 50 and, like the elements, one is 45 yeah, but I do love the elements. I do as well, but, simone, I'm telling you this is just as good and I'm such a little creature I have.
Speaker 1:But I'm just like, but I will try definitely send me the link it's really good like it's and it doesn't.
Speaker 2:It doesn't have a lot of fragrance in it, where I think the Elmas one smells beautiful. But if you are, like anyway, sensitive to any like kind of fragrance and stuff, I think the skin proud will be better you know, because it's really mild, like it's just really hydrate. It's called skin proud, face melt, gentle, hydrating, cleansing balm 12.50 saving you a few bucks there, but honestly it's money to try. It's savage okay convinced, convinced are you influenced? Are you influenced by me?
Speaker 1:I'm absolutely, most definitely, influenced by you. Well, that's a win, she's added to the product list. I'm an idiot, though, when it comes to stuff like this, because even though I know, because you're like on top of the game when it comes to good products, so I will invest definitely no, I do, and let me know what you think see something and I'm like I need it and I end up buying it and I'm like, what am I?
Speaker 1:what am I doing? What am I getting from this? Yeah, like I'm the biggest impulse buyer known to man. And then I'm like where's my money? Like, where is my money? You know what? The girls that get it get it, and women, in comparison to men, when it comes to products, makeup, like skincare, all this kind of stuff, the amount of money that we spend as women on products is ridiculous. I wouldn't even like to look at like my monthly product list, like the grand total every month, because I'd actually terrify myself.
Speaker 2:I'd be very particular, like, especially with skin care stuff, like I'd be like researching it and, yeah, I love it, I love all my skin. I'm a skin girl era, particular like, especially skincare stuff, like I'll be like researching it and yeah, yeah, I love it, I love all my skin. My skin girl era. Just, yeah, no, I love it. By and tell you, please try it, because then you can give a review back to the pod viewers okay, I will give my review yeah, see, if I've been all my trust in you.
Speaker 1:Oh, okay, um so on this week's weekly affirmation we have grapes must be crushed to make wine. Diamonds form under pressure. Olives are pressed to release oil. Seeds grow in darkness. Whenever you feel crushed under pressure, press or in darkness, you are in a powerful place of transformation. Trust the process love that.
Speaker 2:That is a nice, deep, meaningful one for this, for january the start of the pod 2025. Chef's kiss, chef's, kiss, chef's.
Speaker 1:Very demure, very mindful gardener.
Speaker 2:Very demure very mindful. Well, so we had an interesting episode. What episode? We had an interesting episode. We were chatting about all our health and fitness goals for this year, about why we didn't do New Year's resolutions, burnout, catfishing, all the shebang, and we had a very bold girl at a christmas party. So it was a very wholesome episode, simone, it sure was indeed mind you every bit of it.
Speaker 1:I'm back chatting to you all.
Speaker 2:It's a pleasure, as always so, if you can make sure you follow us on the Bougie Blondes Instagram page, you can send us any DMs, any funny stories, any questions to make our week brighter, every week to the Bougie Blondes podcast DMs. Or you can email us as well, or you can DM us personally. So go follow. Go follow us on Spotify as well and we will see you next week. Catch you next week. Bye.
