When Life Gets Hard, What Kind of Kid Are You?

This episode is really special to me.

You’re going to meet two girls who are both showing us what strength looks like… just in very different ways.

First, you’ll meet Leahla.
Right now, she’s going through treatment for Hodgkin’s lymphoma. And the way she talks about it? The way she carries herself? It stopped me in my tracks.

She’s not looking for pity.
 She’s not calling herself a “nebach.”
 Her words: “We’re not nebachs. We’re heroes.”

And once you hear her explain what that means… you won’t forget it.

Then you’ll meet Sari.

After her baby sister spent time in the NICU, Sari realized something powerful:
 She doesn’t just want to learn… she wants to help.

She’s already thinking about becoming a nurse one day, maybe in oncology, maybe in the NICU… and the way she talks about caring for people, really seeing them, is something every kid (and adult!) needs to hear.

So this episode is about two kinds of strength:
 ✨ The strength to go through something hard
 ✨ And the strength to step up and help others through it

 👉 When life gets hard… what kind of kid are you?

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Transcript

Welcome And Email Invitation

SPEAKER_05 0:00

Hey kids, welcome back to the next episode of the Incredible Kids Podcast. My name is Lord Fearies, and I will be your host through this incredible journeys. We are going to meet many incredible kids. We are going to spare stories. Some of them are super cool and stuff like you've never heard before. Some names that are just ordinary, but all of them incredible. If you have great ideas, email me today at iKidspodcast at gmail.com. And now it's time for today! It's time for the joke of the day! Yay! Today's joke is brought to you by Risey G from Brooklyn, New York.

SPEAKER_02 0:42

What do you call soup that is really good? Super soup.

Lila Meets The Host

SPEAKER_05 0:53

Hey everyone, it's Moritz Siri. Welcome back to Incredible Kids. And I want to tell you today why this episode is so special. You are going to hear stories from two different girls. They are going to talk about strength in different ways. What does strength look like? What does it feel like when real kids are living different challenging situations? You're going to meet both of them. First comes Lila. Right now, Lila is going through treatment for Hatchkins lymphoma, which is a form of cancer. And every single day she chooses to be a hero in the middle of something so challenging. She does not feel sorry for herself, and she most definitely will never let anyone call her a quote neba. And you're also gonna meet Sari, who has this incredible dream of becoming a nurse. She's not sure if it's gonna be a NICU nurse or an oncology nurse, but she's already thinking about how she can help people when they need it the most. Her inspiration started when her baby sister was born early, and that moment changed the way she sees the world. So one of these girls is in the middle of a challenge, the other one is preparing herself to help people through their challenges. And she even mentioned something to me so special. She's like, I hope nobody ever needs my services. So much can happen in our lives, and so much is about the way we deal with our challenges and the way we step up to help. And there's times in life when we're givers and times when we have to be a taker, but we need to stay strong the whole time. And you all have strength inside of you. Okay, so in the middle of the episode, you're gonna hear from some things that I'm really excited about. You'll hear about We Play by SR, the play sets that I highly recommend to every single one of you. And I'm so excited to share a new initiative with Incredible Kids, some of you might know about already. TYH Nation puts out weekly coloring books every Thursday. And Incredible Kids is doing a special collab with them with a contest that yes has prizes, so listen up for that as well. It's a message to the parents to go and print those coloring sheets. So make sure that you tell those parents of yours to listen along with you. And one more thing, if you did not yet catch up on the very last episode of Incredible Kids, right after Paysach, go back and listen. I met the most incredible woman named Hannah, and my new friends that I met on Paysach, the Judowitz Kids, sat down with me to interview Hannah together. It was one of the most powerful conversations that I've ever had. Hannah's now part of the Incredible Kids family, and I want you guys to meet her in whatever way that really is. By watching the video, go to incrediblekids.org, watch our conversation with Hannah, and you'll see how just inspiring she is. Please enjoy this episode. Lila, right? Lila? Hey, finally, finally I got to meet you. This is very exciting.

SPEAKER_03 3:36

Finally, I get to meet you. Why do you say that? I always want to be up together. Now I was opportunity, so I don't.

Diagnosis And What Hodgkin Lymphoma Means

SPEAKER_05 3:44

I love that. Your mother shared with me that sometimes you go to school and sometimes you don't. If not for the interview, would you have been in school today or you were anyways gonna be home? I was anyways home. Oh, okay, okay. Very convenient for me, honestly. Because now my house is nice and quiet. So, Lila, first of all, I was wearing like a very blah, like dark green sweater. And then Yeah, well, I know. So then I was like, oh my gosh, I don't know a lot, a lot, a lot about you, but from the little I know about you and your story, I heard that pink and red are your colors these days. So I quickly went upstairs and changed. For the listener who can't see, I'm wearing good. I'm wearing the brightest pink sweater that I own. So I hope it's good enough. So Lyla, introduce yourself to everyone. Let's just jump in.

SPEAKER_04 4:33

Hi, my name is Lyla Zinval, and I live in Monty, New York, and I go to Bubba's school seventh grade. This year, about Hanukkah time, I was diagnosed with something that's called Hatchkins lymphoma. That means that one of my lymph nodes are enlarged.

SPEAKER_05 4:49

Lymphoma. The lymph is in the name. Hatchkins lymphoma is a serious diagnosis. It's a form of cancer, yes. I have to call it by its name.

SPEAKER_04 4:57

Because when somebody says cancer, there are many, many, many, many different types of cancers. So it doesn't really mean one thing.

SPEAKER_05 5:04

But it's barh sham treatable, right?

SPEAKER_02 5:06

No, barhsham very treatable.

SPEAKER_05 5:08

Of course, I'm sure you knew it's phylos and all the good things. Uh mercham with the right treatments that we're so lucky to have. You're gonna be okay, you're gonna pull it through.

SPEAKER_04 5:22

Very soup about like first half of the summer, and I'll be done.

SPEAKER_05 5:26

You're gonna be finished in the summer.

SPEAKER_04 5:28

Treatment, yes.

SPEAKER_05 5:33

Smooth, smooth, and it should never come back. Amazed. Ever, ever, ever. First of all, you're so cute. It's so cute to meet you. You mentioned you're in seventh grade. That really makes you a real preteen. It's a hard time for a change like that in your life. Just like it's a very me-me-me-focused time. You're becoming yourself, you're growing up, you're in a part of school where friendships get complicated, like everything's going on, and then boom, you got this diagnosis. It must have been crazy. I can only imagine.

SPEAKER_04 6:05

It was, but it calmed down. I'm used to it already.

SPEAKER_05 6:10

What's unique about you is your attitude. First of all, it made me emotional. Lila, if you've been part of Incredible Kids like I've so heard for long enough, then you know that it doesn't take a lot to make me emotional. But nonetheless, each time means something. I didn't get emotional just because, like, oh, she's suffering or whatever. No, that's not why I got emotional. Suffering. No, no, that's what someone might think. But I got emotional for a different reason. Sometimes I think, like, why am I doing incredible kids? Like, I don't know, like it's I'm working hard at it. I love what I'm doing. Trust me. Like interviewing you right now, even if I didn't have a podcast, I would still love to schmooze with you. I don't look at that as like a job, but it's a lot of editing and then a lot of work. And sometimes I wonder, like, is it really making a difference? To me, it's making a difference. So that's exactly what I said. I was like, You're a girl who's been following along with us for so long already, listening to the podcast already for a while. And then you have this challenge that appeared out of seemingly nowhere. And now you're turning to incredible kids and you reach out saying, Hey, I have this challenge. Things have been, you know, interesting.

SPEAKER_04 7:15

And I was like, so wow, I'm not so interesting. What could I be interviewed about?

Hair Loss Fears And Choosing A Wig

SPEAKER_05 7:19

Oh my gosh, no. But the fact that you took what happened to you and said, now I have an opportunity to be on the podcast, okay, that's fun. But also, like, I have an opportunity to inspire other people and help them when they have whatever challenge shows up, because challenges come no matter what. You can't control it. We can't control it. It's like a full circle moment. That's what I'm saying. It wasn't the opposite. Sometimes I have to go looking for somebody to bring on to Incredible Kids. Here, you were like one of us already, you know? So, like, this is very special. We're not gonna try to scare anybody, but what was your immediate reaction when you found out that you had cancer?

SPEAKER_04 7:56

I heard that I would be taking chemo, and that makes your beer full out. I knew that I'll be losing my hair. I I I didn't want to. It was very hard for me. It was really hard for me. I was a 12-year-old girl, long blonde hair. I I wanted to keep it. And I cried a lot. And then uh we went we chatted to Deanny's wigs. We went to an appointment before I even tried started a treatment, and I felt like a first fitting, and we got like the collar and everything, and then I thought I'm gonna take the chemo and like first chemo, and then right away I'm gonna lose my hair. But I figured out this it's already like three ma it took already six doses of chemo, and I still have hair on my head. I'm not fully bull, so it takes very long till uh I had a lot of hair. I had to take care.

SPEAKER_05 8:51

Pause, pause. Lila, what's on your hair right now? Is a wig? Yes. It's stunning. Thank you. I'm not even kidding. I completely did not realize. I sound crazy because I hate when people come over to me and they're like, oh my god, she wing. I didn't realize it's coming out of your head. It really looks like that. It's so beautiful.

SPEAKER_04 9:13

I like this one in a lot of work. We've sat there for a very long time.

SPEAKER_05 9:17

Yes, because you're wearing it in a ponytail and it has like the natural in the front, like the little pieces that like look like it would be real hair. Now I know that it's obviously not your real hair, and that's devastating, especially like you said, for a 12-year-old. I mean, I can't even I I don't know. I don't know what to say, but it's so amazing that you were able to find this kind of solution. Who did you go with to get the wig? Tell me about it.

SPEAKER_04 9:42

So we went with me, my mother, my father, and I have five sisters. Two of them came along, the older ones. Oh my gosh, the whole family trip. The whole family trip came to do a wig for life. Yes.

SPEAKER_05 9:54

Wow. Was it your father's first time in a wig salon? Most probably, I think so. Why did all your sisters come so they could say their opinions?

SPEAKER_04 10:04

You could say your opinions, and my mother didn't want it to be like a secret. I go into the bathroom, I put it in my way, and then it's it's fine. I just I wear it.

SPEAKER_05 10:12

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Very smart.

Ports And How Chemo Works

SPEAKER_04 10:14

Oh, so uh before I started chemo, I had uh surgery. It's to put in my pour. Whoever read the book Miracle Ride must probably know what it is. It's a very interesting book. Did you read that book before or after?

unknown 10:27

After.

SPEAKER_05 10:28

Okay. Miracle Ride.

SPEAKER_04 10:29

It's about a girl that had attached with some phoma. It's a real story, it's like a diary. It's an old book. Yeah, it's an old book. Yeah, I remember reading it. What a pour does, it's connects the vein to where the chemo needs to get to. The chemo is ivy fluid. I get every once in two weeks every time I go get. I don't have to pinch me. It's like over here, and then you just put in the needle and it goes in.

SPEAKER_07 10:50

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_05 10:51

So they're making basically a direct entrance to be able to give you the medicine without having to like poke you a million times over again. They could just change the needle, but it doesn't stop poking me. So the chemo is the medication, and what is the chemo doing? Killing the cancer. Can you explain why losing your hair happens with the chemo?

SPEAKER_04 11:08

Because the chemo kills all the cells. Because the cell is cancer. The cell gets it's complicated.

SPEAKER_05 11:15

But you're saying it correctly. The cells are in your body.

SPEAKER_04 11:19

Hair is connected to cells. So the chemo kills the cells. That means that my cells can't hold my hair, they fall out.

SPEAKER_05 11:25

The same way that we want the chemo to work, because we want it to kill the bad cells, it's also gonna kill some of the good cells, basically. And that's why the hair falls out because it needs those cells to hold each hair onto the head. The good news is that the hair grows back when you're finished. Yes. It will take time, but it does grow back. I'm sure that's not something anybody wants to hear, though, in your situation.

SPEAKER_07 11:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 11:46

I'm just saying that for the listener. It's not like a very consoling thing to say to somebody when they're going through this. At that point, you mentioned how that was very devastating. I'm assuming you started wearing the wig before all the hair came out.

SPEAKER_04 11:58

I wore the wig the first time I was on purpose. I started like can I go.

SPEAKER_05 12:03

Wow. So you just put it on for the first time? Yeah. You had it like waiting? Yeah. I was waiting. Yeah. And is it like uncomfortable? It's very comfortable. It's not, I don't feel it's like a hat. You have such a great attitude. What happened next in your journey?

SPEAKER_04 12:17

The first time I went for chemo, I was very scared and very nauseating. It's really not pleasant. It's like food, it's ivy and it goes in, and then after time I'm outpatient. That means that like there's a clinic and there's like seats with like curtains if you want to close them, like couches, and then you could just get the ivy. And then my chemotherapy takes like about six hours. So I come in the morning and we go in like six o'clock.

SPEAKER_05 12:41

You're just sitting there while the medicine's going into your body.

SPEAKER_04 12:45

And you get like more nauseous and more nauseous and more horrible, and then you start throwing up. It's not so pleasant.

SPEAKER_05 12:51

But you have medicine to help you with the nausea?

SPEAKER_04 12:54

Yeah, I do, but it doesn't really help. So then we go home. For the next two days, I sleep through the whole 48 hours. I just sleep, sleep, sleep. I don't really sleep all the time, but I'm like in bed or whatever. And then after two days, I feel fine by Hashim.

SPEAKER_05 13:10

So for those two days you're just very weak. That's why you're sleeping? Because your body just yeah.

SPEAKER_04 13:14

I have to like regain my strength.

SPEAKER_05 13:16

And then for the next two weeks, I'm going to go, and that's when you decide if you want to go to school or not.

SPEAKER_04 13:23

Most of the time the decision is not too bad.

Friends Finding Out And Facing Cancer

SPEAKER_05 13:26

Are you keeping up with your schoolwork or anything, or just that's all out the window right now? All out the window. Are you happy about that?

unknown 13:39

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 13:41

It wasn't the best way to get out of work, but have your friends played a role in this.

SPEAKER_04 13:47

They only figured out like a week afterwards. I wasn't there when they figured out, and I wasn't there a week later either. I didn't go to school, so I wasn't your decision that your friends should know about it? Uh they must know. I'm not at school for the past like three months. They can't not know.

SPEAKER_05 14:01

Right, but did anyone ask you in the beginning, like, should we tell your friends? Like, I don't know. I could imagine that some people would feel private about it.

SPEAKER_04 14:08

No, not private. Everybody figures out secrets at the end. So it doesn't matter. It's what do you mean? Somebody walks around with a wig. You can't, it's not a secret. It's too bad.

SPEAKER_05 14:17

For sure, for sure. But sometimes like people are just uncomfortable. So even though people know, they don't say you're smart, a hundred percent. I applaud what you are doing, but I could also like imagine why somebody would want it to like no secret is not for me.

SPEAKER_04 14:31

Everybody's allowed to know it's not a bad thing. I didn't choose it. It's not like I'm not nice to somebody. I didn't choose to have cancer.

SPEAKER_05 14:39

What did you feel when you found out right away?

SPEAKER_04 14:41

So first I knew that I was dying, but then I realized I'm not dying so fast. Like I could calm down. How did you get that reassurance? My father explained to me that it's the easiest type of cancer that it could be, and it's only six months. The whole treatment, everything, and then it'll be over with it. Did you get connected with anyone else who went through this? Yes. So a huge, huge, huge shout out to Hannah Rahwagner, my favorite friend. She lives in Bater Park. She's a 14-year-old girl and she is the cutest kid. Okay, tell us more. She has uh I don't even know. She also has cancer. He goes to camp samcha. I'm gonna be going to camp some ka. I'm very looking forward to it. Oh boy. Also Kai Frady Halper, Jeffy Lanzum, and once you're gonna be able to do that. So were you connected to these amazing heroes also through High Lifeline? High Lifeline, yeah. Oh, I love it. We went like on the Shabiton, then I met them and we became good friends.

Pink As A Mindset

SPEAKER_05 15:37

Wow. So it's like so crazy because like until Hanukkah, you were just like a regular adorable kid and you're still a regular adorable kid. And then all of a sudden you were like thrust into like the world of hospital, but also the world of khassad and fun. Well the fun, exactly. Right? You're here for the fun. So can we like please get to that part of the conversation? Cause I know how badly you want it. Tell me about the color scheme.

SPEAKER_04 16:00

So we decided that our color is pink. Yeah, like pink pillows in my room, like everything is pink. I got a pink top right before my first came up. We went out, we bought a hot pink top, and that's why I worked at my first appointment. And then we bought pink blooms. Everything that we bought was pink. It's like this is our color.

SPEAKER_05 16:23

It's a happy, happy color.

SPEAKER_04 16:24

Happy color.

We’re Not Nabachs We’re Heroes

SPEAKER_05 16:26

Happy colors. Amazing. I've heard people say, like, when it's let's say your birthday, we're in a happy outfit. You went into this dark, dark place, the hospital, right? Like, it's like really or with the outpatient clinic, wherever. You're choosing to be bright. You're choosing to bring in the sunshine with you by bringing your favorite color sweater. Like, it's the mindset. It's it's amazing. Who would be fun to be happy and to be lit? Exactly. And especially when you really don't feel it. Because it's not a joke, like how disgustingly nauseating, I'm sure, and all that. Like, it's like you're mentally in your head preparing yourself by doing physical things like putting on a pink sweater and getting hot pink balloons. Whose idea was that whole color scheme thing? My mother's. I love that she did that. I also heard that you have like a motto that you keep saying. Do you have a certain phrase that you keep saying? We're not nabochs, we're heroes. Yeah, that. We're not nabochs, we're heroes. Explain.

SPEAKER_04 17:21

So, right when I was like, no, that's what I'm doing. Tell everyone, I'm not a Nabah. I'm not You're not. All of a sudden, like I started saying that we're not Nabuchs, we're heroes. We started seeing like all over like hero, this heroes that. We started like seeing on one billboard, like heroes, I don't know what. We sing heavies to the heroes. We start seeing like all over like little signs from a sham, like heroes here.

SPEAKER_05 17:44

Oh yes, like why is it that you're not a Nabach and you're a hero? Like, why is that the thing that you guys keep repeating?

SPEAKER_04 17:50

Because we're not. We're not nabuchs. We're going through something doesn't mean we're Nabach.

SPEAKER_05 17:54

We don't have to be. Right. The words that I heard that your mother used when we spoke were nabach is a state of mind.

SPEAKER_04 18:01

If you think I'm a Nabakh I'm a neva, then you're a Nabu. But if you're going to go in your music, it doesn't have to be when you're going through something that's cancer or something that's serious. It's just you're not noble. Someone is not smart at school, they're not a noble, but they could make their best out of their situation.

SPEAKER_05 18:15

You know how to be interviewed because you knew that I was gonna say something like that without even me saying it. Like my follow-up question was about to be can you give an example of a time when a kid going through regular school could apply that line? I'm not an abbach, I'm a hero. So you did that. You just said if if schoolwork is hard for them, if learning in school is hard for them in whatever way, you know the drill around here. We try to apply this to as many situations as possible. Also, Lila, you probably had those feelings up until now, right? So right now, school is not a focus for you, but up until Khanakah this year, I'm sure you had to try to take school seriously. And you, I'm sure have struggled in something in school. When I was in school, okay, this was like a long time ago. Now, Bar Hashem, I'm sure things are a little bit better. But I remember like when kids used to be pulled out of class to work with a tutor, the tutor would knock on the door and say, I'm here for Braha. You know the type? They would like make this little like motion with their finger, like, I'm ready for you. And the girl, let's say her name is Bracha making up a name, she would look down at the floor. A shame that she has to like go out of class because like Nabach, she needs extra help with Khamesh. Like, that's the way people used to think. And then since that's how she felt about herself and that's how the whole thing was approached, then we looked at her like, Nabach, she needs help with chamesh, right? But imagine if Bracha just smiled and said to her friends, like, BRB, be right back. I'm going out to do some chazara. And like she just smiled and got out of her seat, then we would have been like, okay, Bracha's coming back, right? And I see the difference now. I see that there are so many kids who go out for all sorts of things. And it's fine. Who cares? They're not less than us in any way, shape, or form. What happened to your mic stand? Oh I was waiting for you to ask. Every time I go into Amazon to order a new one, I just keep not pressing checkout. Should I order it right now?

SPEAKER_04 20:08

I'm not paying for it, Sophia. No, I am.

SPEAKER_05 20:10

You know those tasks that you need to do? But like You never get to do it. You never do them. You know what? Let's do it right now. Hold on. I'm going into my Amazon account. I keep thinking, like, maybe I'll be able to fix the other one. And like push it off, push it off. Look, I'm looking in my car. One second. Commercial break. I'm gonna type in mic arm desk mount. Let's look for the one that's the overall pick or the best seller. Oh, this one could come today. I don't need it today. I'm getting used to holding it. It's a vibe. Should I get a white one or a black one?

SPEAKER_04 20:40

A white one. It comes into the studio because it's like teal.

SPEAKER_05 20:43

And you have a white tier. Okay, this is what I'm ordering. See it? It's very exciting. One, two, three. Why is one color$46 and the other color is$18? Like, why? I don't get it. Head to car. Yay, I got a deal. Place your order. Okay, thank you for the inspiration, Lila. Continuing on, commercial break is now over. We will now resume the session. So, Nabak is a state of mind, and you're going to be a hero. Like you said, you start saying the word hero, living the mentality of a hero. You see it everywhere around you. And I love how you looked at it as like a little kiss from Hashem. Because Hashem is giving you massive kisses, but sometimes we don't always see them.

SPEAKER_06 21:24

Every detail in our lives is a kiss from Hashem.

SPEAKER_05 21:34

What is the hero mindset?

SPEAKER_04 21:37

Having a positive attitude to everything. Accepting things that people give you because we need the help from all the organizations. My mother is not veer all the time. We can't. We need to use these parties. We need to enjoy ourselves, yeah? So we're in the hospital, we're accepting food, let's say. It's not easy to take things from other people, but we're accepting it. We're taking it with us. Smile even though it's not easy to take things in other people.

SPEAKER_05 22:03

So true. You seem like the kind of personality of the person who would want to be on the other side. I'm sure you'll find those opportunities. Have no fear. But I'm imagining that you would be the type of person who would, you know, we just went to visit this cutie pie Libby in the hospital who was waiting for a heart transplant.

SPEAKER_04 22:20

She's in Columbia Hospital. Yeah. You know her? You met her? I didn't meet her, but I know of her.

SPEAKER_05 22:27

She's super cute. I could just imagine you being like the type of person to go there and visit her. They have these volunteers who come and make her smile and whatever. I can see you being that person. So I can imagine that for someone like you, it would be like a real challenge to just be able to like accept all the help and be like, it's fine, like this is what they're here for, and I'm gonna accept it and be grateful. And this is actually really helping my family. It's helping everyone, like you said, that was such a mature perspective. And it's about strength. Can you give me an example of a time when you had to find some strength inside of you that you didn't know you had?

SPEAKER_04 22:57

Right when I was diagnosed, it was very hard for me. I I had to really find some strength in me. I didn't know like what to expect, uh how I'm gonna feel.

SPEAKER_05 23:06

And that's where I had to find the strength. When you felt like it was overwhelming, what did that look like for you? Overwhelming.

SPEAKER_04 23:16

Most of the time I just become overwhelmed and I just go into my my room and I calm down and then I come back down.

SPEAKER_05 23:25

Wow. I think it's amazing that you're willing to talk about this, and it seems like to you it's not a big deal to wanna share. You already adapted this amazing mindset that you're gonna push through and you're gonna be okay and persevere, and that's the best possible way to do it. What can you give as advice for people going through challenges of any size?

SPEAKER_04 23:45

Hashem chose you out of everybody. He could have taken your friends, he could have taken your classmate, he could have taken anybody of your whole career, he could have taken anybody of your school. No, he chose you out of everyone to take you and give you this hard time. And if you go through something down here, you're gonna get something much, much better up there. So it means that Hashem, he chose you out of all the people to go through this and to become a better person.

SPEAKER_05 24:12

Wow. Lila, is it uncomfortable? When people say to you, like, oh, like what's your tahilim name? I want to dab in for you. How do you respond to that? Give it to them. Because that could be another situation where you might feel like, hello, like, don't make me into whatever. It's a little bit hard for me, but I try to accept them.

SPEAKER_04 24:28

Most of the times I give them my name.

SPEAKER_05 24:30

Do you feel comfortable saying it now? Do you want to?

SPEAKER_04 24:32

Yeah, it's Laia Bas Golda. It's very easy.

Tehillim Name And Community Support

Shout Outs And Final Words From Lila

SPEAKER_05 24:35

Okay. Listen, we all have koachatfila, and part of what's amazing about incredible kids is the fact that we are able to reach so many Yiddishakinder, right? Those are the people, those are the ones who can break through the gates of Shemayam for all different situations. We say it doesn't hurt, but it's much more than it doesn't hurt. Like we say it doesn't hurt when it's like, I don't know if it's gonna make a difference, but it doesn't hurt. Here it's like it for sure, for sure makes a difference. Our kilos matter tons. Also, like once you hear someone's story, you feel connected to them. You're rooting for them. And I'm not gonna be surprised if people message me, like, are you gonna give us an update about Lila? How's she doing? You know what I'm saying? That's the incredible kids community. Okay, I know that you have a list of shout-outs on your marks. Get ready.

SPEAKER_04 25:35

So I want shout-out Akambi Akad. All organizations, High Lifeline, Kochabai, Mikimi. They did a real nice thing. They took everybody to Mark and Girl Da store, and everybody was able to buy dolls. Very fun. And Hai Sari Green, Nomi and Estee Heller, very nice sisters, Rahama Halpern, and Chani Steinberg, and Khanara Wichter, and the very feldman, and Libby Fredi, Rachmi, and Aki. Woo!

SPEAKER_05 26:03

That is quite the list, Lila.

SPEAKER_04 26:05

Yeah, fine, I'll just yes.

SPEAKER_05 26:06

That is quite the list. I think that's so special that you have Hakara Sato for all of the different people that are part of this journey of yours. Thank you for being part of Incredible Kids. We need to create more opportunities for people to join when there's nothing crazy like this going on in their lives, right? It's overwhelming how many people I want to give a voice to, but Mirtzusham will get to so many. Lila, you're such an inspiration. Any last words you have to the world?

SPEAKER_04 26:30

If Khazash, such a situation ever comes out, then don't be so devastated. It's not. So make the best out of your situation. Always.

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TYH Nation Coloring Book Contest

Sari Introduces Herself

SPEAKER_05 28:44

Fair enough. I'm actually on the website right now, and it's so cool what you guys can do. Customize everything. You dream it, we make it. Your kids could be in an actual coloring book. This is something your kids are going to be obsessed with. We just partnered with TYH Kids, and every Thursday there is now an absolutely free printable coloring book. If you haven't been printing these on till now, they were already amazing. They have adorable pictures, hidden surprises. It's not just a regular coloring book, but it's getting better each week. There's also a short message from myself that your kids can read, maybe even repeat at the Shabbos table. And here's the fun part. Your child creates their own drawing. You send it in. The contest at tyhnation.com with incredible kids in the subject. Every week we pick a winner, we turn your child into a cartoon character in a future coloring book. So go to tnation.com slash principles. Print this week's Let Your Kids Create. Welcome to Incredible Kids. So excited that you're with us.

SPEAKER_01 30:05

Yeah, thank you for having me.

SPEAKER_05 30:07

Before we get into your story, I would love for you to have a chance to introduce yourself to all of the Incredible Kid listeners out there.

SPEAKER_01 30:13

So I'm sorry. I live in Muncie. I have six siblings, and the hero card is blue.

SPEAKER_05 30:18

Blue. Okay. Cool. Where do you come in the fam?

SPEAKER_01 30:21

Five siblings. Five siblings.

SPEAKER_05 30:23

You just invented another sibling by mistake.

SPEAKER_01 30:26

Six five? I'm the middle. Like actually the middle? I share the middle.

SPEAKER_05 30:30

Right, right, right, right, right, right. Because if there's six people, then you can't be the actual middle. How's that going for you?

SPEAKER_01 30:36

It's good. But to be in the middle and you can like decide if you're in front of the older people, you can decide if I'm in front of the younger people.

SPEAKER_05 30:42

Right, exactly. You got to choose which team you want to be on. What grade are you in?

SPEAKER_01 30:45

I'm in seven.

SPEAKER_05 30:46

Okay, awesome. Just for the sake of knowing you in a very short amount of time, if I was to ask one of your friends, how would he describe sorry in like three words? What do you think they would say?

SPEAKER_01 30:56

And you'd hope they'd say like I'm a happy, fun person. I'm some little hyper. I don't know.

A Baby Sister Arrives Early

SPEAKER_05 31:02

Wait, what was number two? Hyper? Yeah, a little bit. Okay, happy and fun, hyper and smart. Yeah, hopefully. Excellent. I can't speak about myself. If we pulled enough of your friends, we would come up with those adjectives. I'm sure you're many things besides those adjectives that you just gave me, but like the first thing that come to mind tells me already a lot about you. Because those were the things that you said first. Or at least what you hope that you come across as. The story that we're gonna focus on today is the moment that sparked something special for you. Let's go back. Tell me like what you remember from the earliest part of this saga.

SPEAKER_01 31:36

So it was last year. It was on Hall Matsucas. It was a month before they were supposed to have a baby. I wake up one morning and my whole family's like standing in my room. My grandmother, she's just like, mommy's in the hospital, she had a baby. And I'm just like, what? Like, how can that be? She's a month early. What's going on over here? So I was very nervous, and it was always called Matsuka. So, like, there was nothing happening, and it was just like the whole day to think about like what's gonna happen, what's gonna happen.

SPEAKER_00 31:59

What do you want to do today? I don't know, what do you want to do today? I don't know, what do you want to do today? I don't know what do you want to do today. I don't know, what do you want to do today?

SPEAKER_01 32:10

I called my father and shocked and he was, yeah, hopefully everything's be fine. She's gonna go out and make you, which is like where babies go when they're like not like developed or like they're just smaller. And it was really scary. No, let's make another house.

SPEAKER_05 32:24

Your grandmother lives in Muncie also?

SPEAKER_01 32:26

Yeah, both of them, but Sham.

SPEAKER_05 32:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 32:28

And it's like it's a girl, you're all very excited. Muzzle top. Right when my mother had baby rock's okay, what's gonna happen? Like, is she gonna be okay? And so she was in the NICU and she was four pounds and four ounces. She's very small. This was only one month early? No, it was like seven weeks. I think about seven weeks early.

What The NICU Is

SPEAKER_05 32:46

Because yeah, that was gonna say that's very small. Seven weeks early explains why you are so afraid because that's early and there's still a lot of developing. Like a baby needs a lot of time to be fully developed inside the mother. Bar Hashem, you're gonna tell us more about what modern medicine could do with the help of Hashem. Okay, just interjecting for one second, could you explain to everybody what the NICU is? Yeah. If you know, you know, but like what if you don't?

SPEAKER_01 33:10

Okay. So the NICU stands for the neonatal intensive care, which means like for babies, if they need more help, if they're not fully developed or like they're smaller, they're having trouble breathing or something, then like in the hospital, there's different levels. They can have an oxygen tube, they can have like a feeding tube, and it like helps babies develop until they're ready to go home.

SPEAKER_05 33:29

So it's a special part of the hospital that's designed for babies that need extra medical attention, specifically the newborns.

SPEAKER_01 33:36

Then there's like the ICU, and there's like the hiccu, which is like for like kids, and then the ICU is for like any age.

SPEAKER_05 33:42

Right. When someone has like a real big problem.

SPEAKER_01 33:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 33:46

Just going back. So you found out right away your mother had a baby girl. Everyone's excited, but also scared. Cause like, what's gonna be? Because the baby's so tiny and still needs to develop. And then you found out the baby went straight to the NICU, which kind of tracks and makes sense when a baby's born that early. Just curious, did you have any like knowledge about before? Like, why did you even know to be afraid? Like I'm trying to think, like so many kids, if they would find out their mother had a baby early, a lot of them would just be excited. They wouldn't even know to be scared. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 34:13

Yeah, totally. It was like a little strange because it was like, oh yeah, in like seven weeks when mommy has a baby, and then if I knew like seven weeks early, that's so weird. And the second I figured it out, everyone's like, Well, yeah, what's gonna happen? What's gonna happen? So, like, what's gonna happen? Like, it's so weird that everyone's so nervous. So, like, I should also be nervous, therefore.

SPEAKER_05 34:28

It's like jump on the bandwagon. Okay, yeah. So this baby's tiny. When we say tiny, like looking at the baby, four pounds is very small.

SPEAKER_01 34:35

Yeah, so I would say like size of like maybe like a like a little smaller than like a ruler or something like that, like that size, like doll clothing, very small.

SPEAKER_05 34:43

By the way, some babies are born earlier than that, and it's even more intensive and serious, and sometimes they really do have an amazing turnout. So, this little tiny new member of your family is in the NICU.

SPEAKER_01 34:57

So she was in the NICU for like a few weeks. We went to visit her. The way it works, it's like they're very, very like constant with like germs. Like siblings couldn't go into the action, but there was like a window. So even when like my mother would go and they make her like seeing her phone with like alcohol, like everybody had to scrub their hands and make a wear mask, and most of them my mother had to feed her, but like makes sense. Very like intense.

SPEAKER_07 35:17

I can help keep badger away.

SPEAKER_01 35:20

All the nurses are like it's very calm and like relaxed, and everybody's just taking care of like the babies. Babies are like aren't incubators, which is like a bed, it's like certain temperatures, so like to keep the baby like warm, but like a little cold, you're like whatever is good for the baby. It's like very scary, but it's also like relaxing and it's relieving to see like there's people like actually caring and like there for the baby and she's like safe and she's comfortable.

SPEAKER_05 35:42

So they let you visit, but they didn't let you inside of the actual room because you were not the mom. Did they let your father also?

SPEAKER_01 35:49

Yeah, they let my father, let my grandparents, I think, but like it was very intense, it was very clean.

SPEAKER_05 35:53

Yeah, because you don't want any germs near any babies, especially these babies who are so so so so susceptible to whatever's out there. So you got to go through the window. How many babies were in the NICU at a time? Do you remember?

SPEAKER_01 36:06

I mean, I didn't see like all of them, but like I saw about like three other babies. Each baby needs a lot of room because like there's a free machine. Some of them were like they were full size, they were just big, just like some part of like that might have not been fully developed. It could have been like born like eight months, it could have been born late.

SPEAKER_05 36:20

So how many nurses were there for every baby that was there?

SPEAKER_01 36:24

So each baby got their own nurse. I believe then there was like doctors, like check the birth to see.

SPEAKER_05 36:30

You mentioned a few times that you felt a sense of relief, like oh, our baby's gonna be in good hands over here because they look like they're on top of the situation, but also calm, which I think is such a cool thing. Cause one thing about nurses, I've come to notice nurses have to be very on their feet to like make sure all your needs are taken care of. But they also have to have that very specific trait of being calm and relaxed because it carries over, right, to the patient. Like the calmer they are and the more relaxed they are, the better care experience it's gonna be. And even with a tiny baby, they pick up on the level of relaxation of their caretakers. It's cool that you picked up on that.

SPEAKER_01 37:12

Mm-hmm. Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 37:13

What was your emotions like when you were there?

SPEAKER_01 37:15

I actually was crying just a little bit. I feel very proud of her. That's my that's my sister. Yeah. Also, like it was a little scary because like when I saw her, like I remember like the first second they took the picture, like you didn't like have other little siblings. You didn't want to like show it to them right away because there's like tubes, so it's like scary. Like younger that's like scary for them, so it was like a little scary. But they explained to me like what it was, if it was just a feeding tube, and she was only on like oxygen for like 24 hours. Once I learned like what was happening, wasn't it wasn't so bad.

Seeing Tubes And Processing Fear

SPEAKER_05 37:42

It could be very frightening to see anybody with tubes, and this tiny baby with the tubes is like the saddest sight. What was that moment that sparked for you? Like, I want to do this. This is something I need to get involved in.

The Moment Nursing Became Real

SPEAKER_01 37:53

So I've always wanted to be a nurse. Now I'm like interested in oncology, but like the second or something like this is like, I need to help people. Like, I mean, I'm saying, of course, like you're like in the hospital and you're being like a phlebotomist, which is like someone who takes that blood, and like, of course, you're helping people, but like I need to help, like that could just be like a regular like checkup. Like, I I need to help people. I need I need to do something like with like cancer, or like I want to help them like through whatever they're going through. Like, if they're sick, I want I want to be there in the process of their healing, so like I can do hardware. Wow, that's amazing.

SPEAKER_05 38:22

Besides the interest in medicine that you have, you just want to be there to console the person and to get them through whatever they're going through.

SPEAKER_01 38:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 38:29

You mentioned that now you have an interest in working in the oncology department as a nurse, which is helping cancer patients. But back to the NICU babies for a minute, because I know that you have an interest in both. Is it more about helping the babies or about helping the mothers and the family to be a support to them?

SPEAKER_01 38:44

So it's both. Like on the medicine side, like I want to help the baby as much as I can because like in like some cases it could be like a life and death situation, but like the baby comes with the family, because how did the baby get there? So like you also have to be there to like help the families. Like when you're a nurse, when you're responsible for the baby, you're responsible for everyone. If you're attaching a tube to the baby, like it can make somebody else in the room cry. You also have to be responsible for their feelings with the baby's feelings.

SPEAKER_05 39:07

So true. I always have this thought like up until the baby's born, everything's about the mother, the mother, the mother. And then the second the baby's born, it's like, Hello, does anyone care about me anymore? Because they like whisk the baby off to test the baby for different things. And of course, as the mother, we want that. We want them to be on the baby, on the baby. And then when mothers have a baby, they get moved to the mother-baby unit. And that's literally the job of the nurse. She's going between the mother and the baby. She's really doing both. But of course, in the NICU, where it's even more specific, the needs are more intense, then the baby needs its own nurse. And the mother could sometimes be separated from the baby, even if the baby's there for a long time. So it's really important to be extra supportive because those mothers are probably like an emotional wreck.

SPEAKER_01 39:48

Yeah. It's not only them that's like hurting, it's also the baby. So like not only do they have to put their selves together, it's also like, hey, finally, I put myself together, my baby still needs help. I still have another person to care for.

SPEAKER_05 39:57

Yeah, for sure. Was this like your first experience saying, okay, I always loved the idea of being a nurse. Now I know what direction I'm headed.

SPEAKER_01 40:04

So happens to be that one of my grandmothers is my pediatrician and my grandmother. That's so interesting. Yeah, my grandfather's a gastroenterologist, and my other grandfather, he's like a blood scientist. So I always had like, okay, I need to be, yeah. Technically, like my parents also are like doctors. Like my mother's an OT and my father's like a psychologist. Like, I've always wanted to like do something, like I always need to be nice. I could always like help my grandfather was like always so interesting. Also, I love science. I love science.

SPEAKER_03 40:31

I'm a big fan.

SPEAKER_01 40:32

She's like the fact like you're helping people, you're helping them get through this, and you're also like doing medicine, like a win for everybody. You're getting the satisfaction, like you make someone happier, like you save someone.

Caring For Babies And Families

SPEAKER_05 40:42

No, satisfying what's interesting for you, and then also getting a chance to be influential in someone's life and help them through that. It's chassad. We know it to be chassad as Jews.

SPEAKER_02 40:53

Going out of your way to help someone in need.

SPEAKER_05 40:58

Oh, you're messing. So since you had this tiny newborn baby, what's her name?

SPEAKER_01 41:06

Daniela Tama.

SPEAKER_05 41:08

So pretty. What do you call her?

SPEAKER_01 41:09

Daniela.

SPEAKER_05 41:10

Two gorgeous names.

SPEAKER_01 41:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 41:12

How long was she in the NICU for, Daniela?

SPEAKER_01 41:14

Not so long, like three weeks, and mothers, because I put onto this chat for like NICU moms, and like there was one present she'd go, yeah, Brah Hashem, take me a baby out after being a NICU for like 10 months. And I was just like, Well, it's crazy. Like, of course, like it's a big fuss. No one should ever be in the NICU, but I'm saying, like, ten months, like, that's crazy. Like, supposed to like the mother can't sleep in the hospital because I need room for mothers who just had babies and like their babies are gone home. So she has to go back and forth every day. So, like, you miss work and like you're not home for your other kids, and it's like very hard like ten months to like have to run back and forth through the baby in the hospital. Not only that, it's like stressful. Like again, it's like another person's life, and it's just like you're not only responsible for like one at home, you also have to be in responsible for your baby who's in the hospital.

SPEAKER_05 41:57

Wow. Well, were you very helpful during that time?

SPEAKER_01 41:59

I mean, I hope I was helpful. Shy.

SPEAKER_05 42:01

You know when people say like, I'm sure you are very helpful, and you're like, Wait, why are you sore? You don't even know me. Yeah, I have two older siblings. Okay. Well, I'm saying for some reason in busy households, it needs to be all hands on deck. Yeah, yeah. Like there's there's no such thing as like, okay, there's already enough people helping.

SPEAKER_01 42:18

Yeah, everyone needs to help because there's there's two other younger siblings besides Friday and yellow, and it's like, okay, like get them dressed, pick them up, like make the separate, like c nap. It's like very hard.

SPEAKER_05 42:28

There's so much to do. Did this help you understand babies and kids differently afterwards in general?

SPEAKER_01 42:34

I've always like loved kids, but like it's a new perspective. Like there's not only like the healthy, like beautiful little kids, and it's like all kids are beautiful. Like you see at home and you're like watching them, and just like people are in the hospital and they're like, and like they're still like amazing kids, like in babies, just like just because like oh my gosh, yeah, her baby came home. Like there's other babies, like there's other kids out there that need help. You also have to see it from their perspective that like we're also kids and like we also should like deserve to like play around. Like, we can't because like we're in the hospital and like we're we're in the QV and we're like out of insulator, like it's very hard. So they notice that, like, uh, there's other perspectives.

Medical Family Influences And Love Of Science

SPEAKER_05 43:06

I feel like taking care of babies is true kindness because obviously they're cute, so like you get satisfaction out of it, but you're just giving and giving to them. Giving and giving and giving, and you know you're doing the right thing. But yeah, if they're cute. I also know that sometimes they have people volunteer to like go to hospitals to hold just to hold the babies. Like obviously, carefully, like you said, that man of like making sure there's no germs and everything, but the babies crave the touch of a human. So you're doing a lot for them, even just being there, you know, holding them close. When you tell people like, I know what I want to be, I want to be a nurse, I want to be a NICU nurse. Now you're saying maybe also an oncology nurse, what's their reaction usually?

SPEAKER_01 43:53

Not everybody knows what they're making on like oncology is, but like they're very specific.

SPEAKER_05 43:57

Okay, but let's say you're telling an adult. Let's say you're not. Friend, like you're telling an adult.

SPEAKER_01 44:01

So it's always just like wow, like too big, like but usually it's just like a lot of questions like like where'd you get that from that so random? Because like usually like if people want to go inside their medical field, they're like, Oh yeah, I'll be like a nurse or a doctor, or like even like a dentist, but like I'm so interested in it because like I I mean I love science, I know what happens and like it's it's really interesting.

SPEAKER_05 44:22

And also like you experience something through your family experience and like you took it to heart and you tucked it away for later, you know, it's information.

SPEAKER_01 44:30

In like fifth grade, I think like I had like a surgery and like I'm like this happens to people like every day, like they can like be in critical condition in the hospital for like five years and like they get like a surgery, like every few years and they're like this is broken, like you're very sick, and you never know what people are going through, and like just to be like a doctor, like or even to be like like a therapist or something, it's a huge it's for just like to be able to help people do the medicine and like help heal them, but like also just to like be there and like I said this before, like soul. Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_05 45:01

Do people ever say to you, Oh my gosh, you're so young to know what you want to be?

SPEAKER_01 45:05

Sometimes, but I've also heard that like like most people in the medical field, like they know what they want to be. Like when they're really, really young, also like I have bad hand writing. I'm like, you're gonna be a doctor because all doctors have bad handwriting, so like That's the sign. Yeah, yeah. It is strange to like know what you're doing when you're like in like seventh grade, like totally like no pressure. Like nobody should have to like know what they're doing. It's ridiculous, I think a little bit because like I know a lot of people who are like out of examining that they're like I see them, like they don't know what they're doing, yeah. They have to like figure it out. Like it's totally normal just to not like know what you're gonna do when you grow up.

SPEAKER_05 45:38

Like, take your time, don't stress, like it's like I wouldn't say that it's strange to know what you want to do in seventh grade, but it's definitely unique. Yeah, yeah, I'm saying no pressure.

SPEAKER_02 45:49

When I grow up, I want to be a police officer. When I grow up, I would like to be a veterinarian.

SPEAKER_05 45:54

I feel like nursery kids are very confident. Like, I want to be a fire truck, you know?

SPEAKER_01 45:58

Yeah, of course.

How Long The NICU Stay Lasted

SPEAKER_05 45:59

And then we have many years where we're like, you know, some ideas, like, you know, those things kids hold up. You know, like parents take a picture of their kids holding up like a thing and like they say, like, oh yeah, I think I'm eight years old, and like my teacher is whatever. So I feel like when people take pictures of their kids holding those signs, like they want to be something different every year from like the time they're in nursery until they're like in fifth grade.

SPEAKER_08 46:21

When when I grow up, no matter what life brings, I will give me the thread I need to handle.

SPEAKER_05 46:30

And then comes like a time when they are like, I have no idea. And then it could get really hard. And some people are in their 20s and 30s and they still can't figure it out. And sometimes you could switch careers at some point, which is not too late, but it is cool to have a vision at least or a goal.

SPEAKER_01 46:44

Last year my sister wants to be like a police disresponse to be inventor. I don't know. I don't know what's what's gonna be next year. Yeah, whole game like what do you want to be next year? What do you want to be last year? Like, what did she want to be an inventor? Yeah, she wants to be an inventor last year. I might have been an artist or something. I don't know.

SPEAKER_05 46:58

Yeah, okay. Entrepreneur.

SPEAKER_01 47:00

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 47:01

Do you ever daydream and just like picture yourself in scrubs like running around?

SPEAKER_01 47:04

Oh yeah, all day. Really? All day, yeah. I'm saying hopefully like oncology and like all the false alarms. Nobody should like go through such a thing.

SPEAKER_05 47:13

Like Yeah. Nobody doing good stuff. Do you think that you were supported when you went through that experience back with your sister? Do you think people understood what you as like one of the siblings was like going through while you were processing?

SPEAKER_01 47:26

Yeah, of course. So there's always like what can I have? There's like a meal chain, and like everyone is like, Yeah, I'm very supportive. My mother was put onto this chat. I'm like yanked.

SPEAKER_05 47:36

Is baby Daniela like still a tiny baby or she like grew back into herself?

Chesed Begins At Home

SPEAKER_01 47:40

She's actually literally not. She's like, she just she looks she's now like 15 months, I think, like a year and two months. Yeah, and she looks like completely she you you would never be able to tell me. She caught up. Yeah, I wouldn't be able to tell her that's amazing. Yeah, she's caught up.

SPEAKER_05 47:53

So if you could give some advice to kids who want to help people when they grow up, what would you tell them?

SPEAKER_01 47:59

Keep on dreaming forever and like she never gave up and like totally have patience because like you might say, like, I want to do this thing, and if you should like think it through. But like don't stress because like come on, like you have ears. But like if you if you have a mindset, then totally go for it. Like, dream and like if you change your mind, then go to your next dream. Like, if you have a dream, then like go for it. It's always worth it.

SPEAKER_05 48:20

Gorgeous. Knowing that you have a goal in mind, you want to be a nurse, this is the kind of nurse you want to be. Does that make it hard to like sit through school?

SPEAKER_01 48:27

Yeah, a little bit. I'm saying, like, of course, like for Hebrew, like just a Torah, so of course I need everything, but like English, it's like a little annoying because we're just like, we are now learning earth science. I'm like, oh, earth science? Well, like it's a sort of thing. Yeah, it's science.

Dream Big Without Pressure

SPEAKER_05 48:40

Yeah, I'm saying science, but like so I really need to know like the You might need earth science if you're like, you know, understanding different sicknesses and stuff. You never know.

SPEAKER_01 48:51

Yeah, I read a lot of like books on it. Like, I'm reading a lot of books on oncology and like metology, and like it's all really interesting. Like, I'm just a C2 class and it's like, I'm not gonna know this. Like, uh like that's very cool.

SPEAKER_05 49:02

Does it freak you out when you read that stuff, or you could like handle it?

SPEAKER_01 49:05

Not really, because once you learn like the science behind it, so you hear like somebody has this and somebody doesn't read the book, it's like, oh yeah, because their cells are this and your body's that. So it is a little like scary, it's just like, oh my gosh, people have it and it's just it's not just like a page in a book.

SPEAKER_05 49:19

When I was a kid, I was a total hypochondriac. You know what that is?

SPEAKER_01 49:23

Oh yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_05 49:23

It's like you learn about something and you're like, oh, I have that. Like you know what I'm saying, you learn about a a sickness and you're like, oh my gosh, is that gonna happen to me? Like, I didn't want to hear about like doctor things. It was like too scary for me. Part of growing up is that you you learn to deal with life and you don't have to feel that way. It's not good to always be that way, and people can get help for that. But to be like so interested, I feel like some of your friends might be like, Oh my gosh, I don't want to know about that.

SPEAKER_01 49:48

Yeah, for sure. She was also like, ew, blood. Like, I love blood. These are when they're random, so people are just like, Well, like, what about I'm just a nurse, a phlebotomist? Like, I also have a friend should have to be a phlebotomist, and I was just like, Well, once you're doing phlebotomy, doing ecology. Yeah. Like, you go to the nurse's office, you get a bar fest.

SPEAKER_05 50:04

You're like, shoot for the stars. Why would you just want to do that?

SPEAKER_01 50:07

Yeah, just like doing that. We need everybody. Yeah, of course.

SPEAKER_05 50:18

When you imagine yourself as a nurse, what do you hope people are gonna feel when you're the one who walks in to take care of them?

SPEAKER_01 50:24

I hope they're all just like there's a bunch of nurses in the room, like let's all go to Sari because people look at me that like I'm a good nurse, which I hope to be, and that like she'll take care of it. There's a certain feeling, even in a doctor's office, honestly.

SPEAKER_05 50:36

For sure in the hospital, when like you're nervous, people are in the hospital, whether it's they're there because of a horrible reason or even a good reason, like to have a baby or whatever reason they're in the hospital, people are anxious in the hospital, right? Yes. Let's be real. Anyone who's in the hospital to receive care for themselves or for a family member is nervous and anxious. And the minute a nurse walks in the room, you can tell within milliseconds, you could tell right away what your experience is gonna be like with this nurse. Sometimes they surprise you. Yeah. And you're like, oh, you know what? I thought they were gonna be nasty and they ended up being nice. But there's like a certain like energy that comes in with the nurse.

SPEAKER_01 51:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 51:14

And it's a big responsibility, but it's also such a privilege to be able to provide that for somebody.

SPEAKER_01 51:19

Yeah, of course. Like the nurse try to decide what the person's experience is gonna be. Because the nurse is like all the way. Like the doctor, she's the one who's gonna say the doctor will be with you in a minute. So if she comes in and she's like, the doctor will be with you in a minute, like like I can say like, oh, the doctor, he's exhausted. Like, what's the doctor gonna be like? Like, help, like it's just like, yeah.

Reading Oncology Young And Staying Grounded

SPEAKER_05 51:39

Also, like, listen, they have a very long shift. Are you ready for that? Yeah, like a nurse could be a nurse for tell everybody how long you probably know all this. What do you mean? Meaning like there's something called a day shift and a night shift.

SPEAKER_01 51:52

Yeah, yeah. So night shift I'm saying it's all for the night, so you kinda like you waste the whole day sleeping, or like once you've been sleeping, you're terrible meet at night. Or like a day shift, it's very hard. You because the night shift like leaves early, so like you have to be there at like latest, like I'm saying like eight. When I was in the hospital, I was overnight. Like nurses switched like before seven o'clock. You have to be there. Like to leave their house so early. Yeah, and then you're there in 12 hours until like seven o'clock until the night shift comes and it's like very hard because you're responsible for a whole nother person, and it's just that one person. So like you're not like switching off other nurses, like we got go get her there. One person, and you have to check their vitals, like their heart rate, and like they're breathing properly. It's not only that you have to like for twelve hours just like standing there, like taking care of another person, and it's pretty stressful.

SPEAKER_05 52:36

On your feet, on your feet, because if it's a busy day, they hardly sit.

SPEAKER_01 52:40

Yeah, also you have to be watching like the screen, like when you have like there's not a zone, like you have to like see on the screen, like if something happens, that's it. Like Nikki, like when there's one thing off, like when like they're not beating like enough beats for like a minute in their heart like checking the heartbeats and the blood pressure. All the machines go off, so all the mothers are freaking out. So it's just one baby and like the nurse has to run to take care of that baby, but not only like that person get nervous, it's also a whole bunch of people. You have to be there, you have to be like on call, you have to be very alert.

SPEAKER_05 53:09

And by the way, I want to just go back to what I was saying before because I need to add something. The same way that the experience of the patient is completely different depending on the nurse and how their energy they bring and you know the attitude, it also is like the opposite. Like if a nurse walks into her patient for the day and her patient is a grump, right? And her patient is like negative. Mega, negative. Oh my god, my god, my god, not blaming them, shalom, because they could be going through something absolutely horrendous, but the nurse has to deal with that too, right? They have to be like, This is my job today, and I have to still give this patient good treatment no matter how they're receiving me, you know?

What Great Nursing Feels Like

SPEAKER_01 53:48

Yeah, of course. I totally think that like if a mother comes with like her 15, I'm saying, let's say, like, like one daughter's in the hospital, like she comes with other kids, she has a technique, like, she should totally be considerate. Like in the in the doctor's office, like like you can totally say, like, yeah, please, like, can you get out of room for a minute? But you totally have to be responsible. Like one person's everyone. You have to you can't if you just make your patient feel comfortable and then you scream at the parent, like it's not gonna work. You're gonna the kids gonna be like, Hey, why are you screaming at mommy? Like, what's going on over here? You have to like be able to like take care of like all their stress, like everything that's happening, even if it's hard for you.

SPEAKER_05 54:20

Yeah. Well, I'm excited to find out how this works out for you. Hopefully, we'll have to keep tabs. I'll tell you. And like see how your dreams become actualized and where to sham. I think it's a very cool thing that you understand that now and you don't need to really wait till you become a nurse. Obviously, there's a process, you're gonna have to go to college and everything, and whatever you have to do to become a nurse. But like, even now, you sorry, could look for opportunities to utilize those Midos that you want to practice and being able to help. Like, yeah, can you go administer medication and do whatever else to draw blood? Absolutely not. Please don't do that. You can use the interest and the talents in other ways. Like, I don't know, do you do anything already like that, or do you have any ideas? Like to be able to help mothers who are dealing with their babies. I know that like girls very often in schools like will go to a new mother's house who had a baby to like help with other kids or the baby itself, right? And then sometimes like you could think of your own things that are you know in your talent.

SPEAKER_01 55:22

Honestly, like I do not go there in my neighborhood, I decided it is the younger siblings. Like I'll always be there, like tr to try to help my other, like whenever, because like I know, like there's like a baby in the house and like there's three other little kids, you should always be there to help. When you do something right, like it always comes back to you in a good way. So, like even when you think, hey, I'm gonna do something like hello, like why should I go help this person right now? Like, it will like always come back to you in a good way.

SPEAKER_05 55:46

Like, oh yeah, the hardest place to help is in your own house. Yeah, close. But that's for sure where you got the most har. Like, I have no doubt. By the way, that's for the mother, like taking care of her own children and also for the sibling, like for everyone.

SPEAKER_01 55:59

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 56:00

It almost feels like we have to do it, but Sean put you here for a reason and it's such an opportunity. But it is the hardest. Yeah, of course.

SPEAKER_01 56:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_05 56:08

Wow. I'm so impressed with you, Sari. You're so easy to talk to and you're so mature, and you really explained everything so beautifully. Like a lot of times I have to pull things out of people. Like, wait, could you explain that? And like you went ahead and did that on your own, which is really, really cool.

SPEAKER_01 56:20

Honestly, if I wanted to be like a chef, like, like I would totally think that everybody we know, like how you put like fly things to be like a Nikki nurse, like I didn't expect anybody to know about it. It's millions of people have babies every day, and like a majority of them are just hopefully like healthy. So, like, what are the chances that like it happens to be? Like, my sister went to the Nikki. I'm saying, like, of course, like every like it it happens a lot. Like, there's Nikki so reason.

Closing Takeaways And Share The Episode

SPEAKER_05 56:43

But it's more common than you think, but you're right, most babies bar Hashem don't need a go. You know that when you explain it to people, yeah, you have to assume that they don't have any knowledge about this topic. Yeah. Also, that's like a social cue. Like, some people like they don't realize that. You realize you're like, okay, I'll explain it to my friends so they don't think I'm like a geek that is just rattling off information. You're an inspiration.

SPEAKER_08 57:05

Inspiration for the nation.

SPEAKER_05 57:07

I hope that people listening could get the feeling from just hearing this about how you're radiating this positivity and this ambition, which is really cool, just knowing that you want to go for the gold. So I wish you Hatslacha. Never too early to do that, right? Sorry, it's so good to meet you, and thanks so much for being part of Incredible Kids. And I'm excited to share your story with everybody.

SPEAKER_01 57:29

Thank you.

SPEAKER_05 57:37

Wow, so much a takeaway from what you heard today from Lila's experience, how she deals with her situation, and doesn't talk about struggling. She doesn't even like to use that word at all. She corrected me when I said it. And by the way, everyone deals with situations differently, and we can't put this on to other people. It's inspiring for every person listening just to hear what one girl is capable of feeling, even with such a big challenge. All we can do is look inward and try to be better people. And so many messages to learn from Sari as well. Sari's vision for helping people, the drive to take our talents and our interests and think about how we can be such valuable members of society. And especially in Yarishkite, we know the concept of doing chesed like we talked about. And I love how she really reminded me how much chesed begins at home, even though it doesn't always feel as glamorous. And this is what Incredible Kids is all about real kids and real stories. And if this episode meant something to you, don't keep it to yourself. Share it with a friend, send it to your family, talk about it at the Shabbos table. And if you're not already part of the Incredible Kids family, this is your reminder. Make sure you're subscribed everywhere so you don't miss the next episode. There's so much more coming, and I want you to be part of it and never miss anything. Thank you to our sponsors. We play by the best play sets around. If you're in the market for a swing set, go check them out. And don't forget to download every Thursday the TYH Nation coloring sheets with a special surprise for me each week. Till next time, everyone.

SPEAKER_02 59:08

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SPEAKER_05 59:20

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