33 Joyful Break and Fresh Starts

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Sam 1:02

hello, welcome to episode 33 of the manifestation pod. We are slightly behind schedule, but we are here. Hi louise, hi you. Okay, good, I'm good. How are you?

Louise 1:17

yes, I'm good. Um, I'm trying to think what we talked about on our last pod and where we got up to, but we've had half term. I've just come back from a week in France which was delightful, um, yeah, just plodding on really doing what I was doing. I'm just on holiday, catch up this week. Um, you know what it's like when you come back and you don't know you don't have to see your job anymore. Yeah, you don't know who you are. Um, yeah, so I'm just catching up. I've had quite a busy weekend as well, but not all weekend, which has been lovely, doing nice things with nice people. So, yeah, that's good. I've got more of that after this today, so, yeah, it's a good day and did you hit the beach?

Sam 2:03

was it sunny and lovely?

Louise 2:06

yes, it was beautiful and you know what? We didn't even go to the beach while we were there, which feels on every level wrong. Um, but the people that we met last year were there this year and we spent the first three days with them, because then they were going home, um, so we were just like at the pool and doing stuff and that was lovely. But then it's been upgraded the park since last year and we upgraded our accommodation as well, so that was lovely. But they've built like what can only be described as a man-made beach on the park, even though it's got its own access to a private beach which is, you know, the real beach with the sea, and I do love the sea. I can't believe I didn't go, but anyway, um, there was a man-made beach and it was like two minutes from where we were staying, so we spent loads of time there. There was like a man-made. It was called the laguna, so it was like a man-made pool pond yeah it was gorgeous, gorgeous.

Louise 3:02

Yeah, it was lovely did lots of swimming. It was very, very nice, very hot, but with a breeze, so I felt like we could do lots and lots of things. We went on a bike ride into the town, we had a lovely lunch, and then I got diarrhoea and had a pair of white shorts on, so we had to cycle half an hour.

Louise 3:24

You know it happened to me. It was so funny. Charlotte was like mummy, are you okay? Are you okay? Not because she cared, but she was just really worried about some kind of you know poo accident down mummy's leg because at the age of 11, that's the worst thing that could happen to you. So yeah, that was an interesting day. Yeah, I had diarrhea on day five. That was lovely.

Sam 3:44

Oh my goodness, bless you. We haven't even had a chance to catch up about this, have we?

Louise 3:48

No, no, it was quite funny. Yeah, so, yeah, yeah, everything's really good. Yeah, I feel quite refreshed. I've come back as well to loads of changes in my day job, which has completely reinvigorated me. I've had the best week ever at work.

Sam 4:05

That's good.

Louise 4:06

Yeah, yeah, it's really weird. It's thrown me a little bit because I'm really enjoying it. Yeah, I've had a great, great week at work.

Sam 4:14

Nice, well, that's good, that's good. Well, my half term wasn't anywhere near as exciting, but it was nice. It feels like ages ago now because we only had the week, so ours was like two months ago, wasn't it? So, um, yeah, it was good, I don't know. It's been strange times energetically. I think we were talking about this before, weren't we? Yeah, a little bit stuck and sluggish in some ways, and then some really good stuff's happening with the yoga nidra as well. So, yeah, I had a really good day. On friday I did um, a taster session of the yoga nidra with a networking group called loop in chesterfield, and it was lovely. It was the biggest group I've done yoga nidra with um, so it was really nice. I could. I saw, like afterwards, just the difference in people's faces.

Sam 5:11

You can like see they've refreshed themselves almost like yeah, woken up from a big sleep and so that was really nice. Loads of really lovely supportive feedback. Like you know, when women support other women, isn't it amazing?

Louise 5:27

yeah, we see a lot of that, don't we? You know um lives at the moment, but it's funny, like what you've just said, about seeing it on people's faces. I'm very like that with money. As soon as someone sorts out the money, you can see they look like they've had a facelift.

Sam 5:42

It really does lift them yeah, yeah, isn't it magical seeing that transformation that you've not happened?

Louise 5:48

absolutely yeah yeah, it really is. Um. Yeah, to have an impact, to make a difference to somebody. It's funny I was watching um. Do you watch long lost family sometimes? I've not watched it for ages.

Sam 6:01

I do like I haven't. I don't think it's been on for ages.

Choosing Peace and Mindfulness

Louise 6:04

But anyway, me and Charlotte love it. Um, charlotte loves a bit of drama and I just like it because it's it's quite feel good in the main. But there was, there was one that stuck in my mind. That was um a woman who was I think she was like 65 and she'd given up her son and and when she was telling the story she looked haggard, she looked like she'd had the hardest life ever and when she met a son who was now like I don't know, I think he was in his 50s she was a really young parent and she gave him up. She looked like she'd had surgery. Her face was completely different. I've never seen such a physical transformation of anyone who hasn't had a physical transformation. Um, yeah, it was amazing. It's amazing what kind of stress and worry and trauma can do to your face yeah, it's mad when you think about it, really isn't it?

Sam 6:53

yeah, so shall we confess what today's episode is about and what we've talked about just before? Yeah, you do it so today's episode may or may not be called we are on a break because we're going to take a summer break from the pod. So in ross from friends style break.

Louise 7:17

We are on a break, but we're not going to sleep with other people no, no, not that kind of break.

Sam 7:24

We've just been thinking and you may have picked up on it or you may have, not that, um, it's time to have a little rest with the pod. Time to, um, enjoy the summer with the kids. We've got two daughters starting high school in september. Summer's coming up and we're just not finding the energy we need to give to the pod right now. We've got loads of great ideas about like what would be more useful for everyone else. Listening, haven't we? And we're finding the energy to bring that to the pod at the moment.

Louise 7:56

So it's time for a break yeah, I think we don't want to do it in a kind of half-assed way of coming on and recording. I think it's probably felt like that last couple of episodes, maybe that it's become a little bit of a oh, we've not done the pod, we need to do the pod and it's something else that we need to fit in, and I feel it's become like, um, a job I don't mean a job like a paid job, but a job like, oh, I need to clean the bathroom, oh, we need to record a pod episode, a little bit like that. And that was never what it was about. It was about this is absolutely not living our best lives if we feel like that.

Louise 8:29

So, yeah, a break would be good, but it's not a break from each other, it's not that kind of break. We've not fell out. No, there's been no breakup, no cheating, nothing like that. We're just going to have a break and do and maybe like, concentrate on our friendship as well and do some nice things together, because we don't get much time for that anymore. We've done a few things with the girls lately. In fact, I think the last three times we've seen each other we've just done things with the girls, maybe even four, and we don't see each other that often. So, yeah, that'd be quite nice to do the stuff that we used to do, which was going to a yoga trauma class or you know, seeing these things that are very different, and thinking, oh yeah, let's try that, that'd be fun, um, so yeah, we might come back all refreshed, rejuvenated and full of fresh content because of the amazing summer we're going to have, because I do think the weather is going to change.

Sam 9:23

Yeah, yeah, it probably will, I imagine. So Like it's got to, hasn't it? It's, yeah, it's due to change, isn't it? And if we spend the summer just doing joyful things together and having fun, I'm sure we'll come up with more ideas and creativity.

Louise 9:41

And, yeah, what we want to do with the pod next, absolutely, and I think it will be good to bring some and, yeah, a different vibe maybe. So, yeah, let's see see what happens, what happens?

Sam 9:56

um, I had something really insightful to say and it's gone. So yeah, pretty much sums up the energy.

Louise 10:04

Maybe we could write these things down in preparation for the relaunch of the new pod so that we don't forget things. I was, I was, um, gonna tell you about something funny that happened before I went on holiday. So we flew on the. Was it Sunday? Yeah.

Louise 10:20

So I went swimming on the Tuesday and I was very conscious that it was my last swim on my own, without Charlotte and a load of kids in the pool, so I really wanted to enjoy it. I did loads of swimming on holiday, but not like I do at the baths where I'm just doing lengths. It was all more fun swimming. So, anyway, on the Tuesday I thought, right, I'll go for a swim in the morning, like I do. Um, and there was like drama going on at the pool and all I wanted was just a dead quiet swim. Because I just lose myself, I switch off. I don't have many thoughts when I'm swimming, which I quite enjoy. It's a real downtime and I love it. But there was this drama going on. So when you do lane swimming, you swim in a. I'm having to really think about this clockwise um. We like little fishy swimming around in a clockwise direction and, because of the times I go, it's usually pretty empty, but anyway, I went on this Tuesday so we're all swimming in a clockwise direction. Pretty much everyone does front crawl or breast stroke and goes forwards, but every so often I do a. I don't do a backstroke because I'm too lazy, but I flip over because my neck aches and I just do a couple of lengths laying on my back and doing some kind of crazy doggy paddle, not not very much, but just going up and down, anyway. So we were doing that as normal, the same people go. So I just say morning to people and that's it.

Louise 11:40

I've got no friends swimming and there was a woman who was swimming in the middle of the clockwise circle, just up and down, but doing backstrokes. So she was splashing everybody and it was a little bit inconvenient. It was probably a little bit selfish, for want of a better word, um, but you know, whatever it was fine. But as I was looping around, depending on the speed you're swimming, you kind of see the same people all the time. So sometimes people stop for a break at each end and every time I went to this end there were some women there that were clearly unhappy with what was going on with this woman swimming, and every time I passed them they were like have you seen her? She splashed you before, didn't, didn't she? And I was just like, oh, yeah, yeah, carried on swimming, didn't stop near them. But they were really trying desperately to involve everybody in hating this woman who was just doing backstroke up and down Again. You know she probably needed to go in the loop like the rest of us, but again, whatever, I just wanted to lose myself.

Louise 12:44

So on the third one, the third time, I went round and these women were like absolutely raging. Then another woman came in and she'd not even got in the pool and they were like have you seen her? Have you seen? And she's not even got in the pool. They were like have you seen her? Have you seen what she's doing over there? Look at her. She's so selfish. The guards told me off for doing that last week. The lifeguards, but they're not even bothering with her. It's a disgrace. Yada, yada.

Louise 13:05

So I'm really trying to maintain this, like zen, like swim, I'm really trying to have. And I went past again and they were like do you think we should complain? And I just went I'm choosing happiness and I just carried on swimming and they just ignored me after that. But what was interesting was and I think it's a proper woman character characteristic rather than a male one if people aren't happy, they love to get everybody involved in their unhappiness and I think we're all a bit guilty of that. Sometimes it feels quite nice to have a bit of a bitch sometimes about people, but it was so nice not to be involved in that kind of conversation. And I'm really trying to. I really try not to bitch about people anyway, but I think sometimes it slips in without me realizing it.

Louise 13:59

In situations like that not with strangers, but maybe at work if somebody's moaning about someone, they try and get you to be involved in that and sometimes I can be guilty of that. So I'm going to make a real effort to do that and I'm also making an effort with like my language in front of Charlotte, particularly when I'm driving. I don't mean like swearing, but calling people idiots in the car because they're not doing what I want them to do. And now she does it. The minute someone does something in another car, she's like, oh my God, look at him, what an idiot. And I'm like, oh dear God, that's me. And look at him, what's an idiot? And I'm like, oh, dear god, that's me and I'm really trying to. I think some of it is living life 100 miles an hour. Yeah, you kind of forget the basic stuff of being nice and being kind all of the time. We're all nice and kind to our friends and our family, but being nice to strangers and being kind to strangers I'm going to embrace that yeah, absolutely.

Sam 14:52

You get to choose your reaction in that moment, don't you what you gravitate towards, and you chose happiness because that's what you wanted. You don't have to feed into other people's energies, do you?

Embracing Change and Choosing Peace

Louise 15:06

no, and it felt quite not empowering that's the wrong word, but I can't think of the word it just felt nice doing that, it was, it was over and done with and I'd forgotten about it. Then I went back to just doing my zen like swim yeah, yeah.

Sam 15:25

I think it shows you're in a really good mind space when, like you say, you slow down and you can think about what you want from that day and choose it at all costs, even when the world is like, come on, get involved in this drama, get involved in this aggro, come on, and you're actually like, no, I'm choosing different yeah, I choose peace and I feel like that with a lot of things at the moment, I'm just anything that has brought bad energy.

Louise 15:51

I'm not down with that anymore at all. I've just got good energy around me and I'm really protective of that now. And I think I'm going to say this because you know, we're honest, aren't we? But I think, since me and Matthew have split up, I'm realising how much energy went into that relationship. That wasn't good and I'm really enjoying being on my own and having that peace.

Sam 16:14

Yeah, yeah, and I'm really enjoying being on my own and having that peace. Yeah, yeah, and I think the more of the energy you protect, the more you detect the bad energy and repel it, because then you see it for what it is. So, yeah, avoid it at like all costs. Yeah, and it's not like you ignore the rest of the world. You know there's, you know there's bad stuff going on everywhere.

Louise 16:37

It's not about ignoring it, but it's having enough peace within yourself to see outside of the problem and not yeah, absolutely, and I think now I'm away from it, I definitely see that and I value the peace that I've got and I feel like so years ago I don't even know whether I've even ever said this to you, but I used to um laughingly say that I lived in Lululand and in Lululand it was all very positive and happy and, you know, nothing really bad happened, because it was always good energy and positivity and and I feel like I'm back there at the moment I feel like I'm very much in Lululand and the people that are in Lululand have been invited and deserve their place there, and other people have been expelled and they're not coming back, because I really do value the peace that I've got.

Sam 17:32

Yeah, yeah, same. I'm absolutely the same and you know I've had to cut um people out of my life this year. That um have been very hard to cut out, not that I was particularly close to, but just kept bringing bad energy. And I think when you can be intentional in everything going around on around you and be thinking about it, be mindful of it, then you can protect your energy it's it's really hard.

Sam 18:04

It takes a lot of like hard choices and sort of kind of a vigilance of it as well, but it's so worth it to keep your peace it is.

Louise 18:16

Yeah, and I think in the past there's been a little bit of I don't know sometimes when you feel like you've been unfairly treated. You're there's been times when you want to stick up for yourself and tell people kind of your side of the story and what really happened. But that's just being drawn back into it and I think sometimes you just need to and I'm very much in this situation now I've drawn a line, I've moved on and if people I'm very much in this situation now I've drawn a line, I've moved on and if people I'm talking specifically people in Matthew's camp really they don't know me, they just know things that he said post-breakup and I feel like there's part of me that thinks that's really unfair. But I feel quite happy with my choice to just think so what, I don't care what people think about me. The people that I care about their thoughts on me are the people that know me, my friends. I've got a very close, tight circle of friends.

Louise 19:35

But yeah, it's funny, I've been in this position before, not with a partner, actually, but with someone who treated me unfairly a long time ago, um, and I got the backlash for something that absolutely wasn't my fault and the only reason that everyone thinks it is is because I didn't drop him in it. Um, it was a family member, so everyone thinks I'm the bad guy and he was really the bad guy, but I just never told that secret. Um, and yeah, it feels in a bit of a similar situation at the moment. It's strange, but yeah, I'm choosing peace.

Sam 20:07

It's nice, yeah, exactly, you can either fuel the fire or choose Pete. Yeah, makes a lot of sense. I mean, I was thinking, when we're coming to do the pod today, normally at this point we'd be like checking on the mid-year goals how are we doing against them and and all of that, and just not feeling that at all. No, not those goals, but just not feeling in that kind of space like that go, getting you know, really driving everything forward, kind of space.

Louise 20:44

It feels like then there needs to be a little bit of rest before going back to those yeah, I feel like that as well and I feel like I need to revisit my goals, because some of the goals I had, I'm just not feeling it now. So, yeah, I feel like we both said. You know, we feel like change is a bit imminent. So let's see what summer brings, and maybe, when the weather changes as well, that might bring its own, because you do feel better when the sun's out, don't you? You feel completely positive and motivated. I mean, I'm looking out the window. It's absolutely throwing it down again. My garden is like a jungle because I just can't do it, because it's just not been dry long enough to get the lawnmower out. Yeah, I'm quite excited about this change.

Setting Intentions for a Refreshing Break

Sam 21:28

It's funny that and we've not discussed this- but we're both going through it exactly the same time and we only found that out this morning, I know, like literally before we came on the pod. It's funny, funny. But yeah, then actually, when you make a decision and create some space, it starts to become a bit exciting of like, oh, what's going to come into that space? You know what I'm going?

Louise 21:51

to do what my ideas.

Sam 21:51

Am I going to have what's going to come into that space? You know what I'm going to discover, what my ideas am I going to have what's going to happen?

Louise 21:55

yeah, because when you make a space, the universe fills it. So, yeah, that is exciting. I'm definitely feeling that at the moment. I'm feeling like something's very much in the air.

Sam 22:04

I just don't know what it is I know, and what's lovely about the pod is like there's a simplicity to it in that you know me and you communicate really well. No matter how you know little time we get with each other, we do communicate well, so it's easy like it felt easy to just say that I wish everything else in our lives was as simple we'd be bored.

Louise 22:29

I'd be so bored with a simple life. It's just not the life I've led.

Sam 22:34

No, no, no, it's true. Just think about, you know, when you want to make changes in other places, if you could just like say I don't want to do that anymore and I'm taking a break and move on, how nice it would be. Yeah, maybe I'll find some space for that over the summer.

Louise 22:53

Yeah, Well, maybe that's your starting point. You know, think about what you don't want what you do want, and how to bring more of it into your life.

Sam 23:01

Yeah, yeah, absolutely Shall we leave it there then.

Louise 23:07

Yeah, that sounds like a nice positive end to our episode 33. And who knows when episode 34 will be? When it will be, I can't even speak. It's probably good for a break with the pod, just so I can articulate myself better. Honest to God.

Sam 23:24

Me too. We hope you have a very intentional, joy-filled summer, and we will be back at some point soon. Bye, bye.