Renee Vee: Revolutionizing Education with Mindset Mastery - Empowering the Next Generation

Ready to uncover the secrets of a mindset that not only flourishes in today's world but also empowers our next generation? Renee Vee, the visionary behind Mighty Minds Academy, joins us to reveal her journey from speech therapist to pioneering the incorporation of personal development in the education of children and teens. Our conversation is a deep dive into the neglected intersection of traditional education and vital life skills, where we lay bare the essentials of subconscious awareness, intentional thought, and nurturing self-belief. Renee's story isn't merely an inspiration; it's a blueprint for revolutionizing how we equip our youth for the challenges ahead.

As we delve further, the spotlight turns to the formidable force of self-worth and its role in sculpting the landscape of our lives. I share intimate reflections on the struggle against the current of negativity, advocating for being one's greatest supporter in a world brimming with pessimism. We explore the untapped potential of the mind's advanced faculties—imagination, will, intuition—and how they're instrumental in manifesting our desires. The conversation turns poignant as we discuss the importance of instilling hope in young minds, painting a vivid picture of how generational experiences shape our perspectives and why cultivating a steadfast belief in a brighter future is more crucial now than ever.

We conclude on a contemplative note, questioning the alignment of current educational practices with the true passions of individuals and the ever-evolving job market. I reflect upon my sons' own odysseys through the conventional school system and the urgent need for a learning revolution that prioritizes personal joy and strengths. The discourse traverses the necessity for intentional parenting and posits that true empowerment for our children stems from parents equipped with the right mindset tools. Join us as we make the case for an educational transformation—where personal development isn't just an elective, but the core curriculum for a more fulfilled and successful life.

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:02

Hello there, I'm David A Specht and I want to be your coach. If there's anything that I've learned in my 30 plus years of leadership and coaching, I have learned that mindset is everything. Join me and my guests as we explore the positives and negatives of that thing between our ears. This is Keep this In Mind, and negatives of that thing between our ears. This is Keep this In Mind. All right, Welcome to Keep this In Mind. Brought to you by davidaspectcom, and I am David A Spect, and on today's show you ready to be educated folks Because we have Renee V. I have been trying, by the way, to pronounce your last name ever since I read the pronunciation on Facebook and I would butcher it so bad. I'm so glad that you went the Rene V route on everything.

Speaker 2 0:52

Yes, it actually honestly helped me more than most because you know most people. I'm sorry to interrupt you, but go ahead.

Speaker 2 1:01

And I noticed even with my kids, like they refer to their friends by their first and last name and I'm like no one is ever going to refer to you as your first and last name. It's too much to say so. And then, being a speech therapist, I have kids that I work with that you know. Come on, it's like a joke that my name is 12 letters long with all these vowels and these poor children are struggling to speak or say things the right way. So it's kind of funny. So I've been always Mrs V working, so it kind of just like you know.

Speaker 1 1:30

So Gary stole it from you.

Speaker 2 1:33

Yeah, yeah, yeah, he did. Vaynerchuk took it from me.

Speaker 1 1:39

So, folks, she is the founder and CEO of Mighty Minds Academy and, just to give some background as to how we connected, she was one of the speakers at Jim Morris's Impact Effect event in October here in Nashville. Really, what kind of piqued my interest? Because so many, there's such a disconnect right now between what my generation and your generation and our worldview is versus the generations behind us, and I believe that there's probably a story there as to when you had an aha moment and said you know what, something needs to be done, and I believe I'm the one to do it. So kind of kind of take us on that journey as to the origin of Mighty Minds Academy. You know speech pathology into now this whole academy, and it's really a mission because I could tell you're you're kind of an evangelist for it.

Speaker 2 2:42

So thank you, david, you're so kind.

Speaker 1 2:46

So tell us that story.

Speaker 2 2:47

So I'm going to give you an abbreviated version. I, like I said, I'm a speech therapist by trade, work in the schools for 22, now 23 years and during 2020, I kind of was presented an idea about personal development that I, you know, considered and ended up joining. You know it's. It was a a kind of like an empowerment and mindset program six month long program that you know I did not have the money for, but I invested in it, just seeking something right, like seeking what. What is my purpose here? What is my purpose here?

Speaker 2 3:24

I always thought it would be to help kids with their communication skills and you know that was like my path right For so long ago. You know that get the, you know, go to retirement and get your pension and all the things that they dangle in front of you when you're in the education system. So, but I always think, like looking back, even in high school, elementary school, I always was wondering why I was learning the things I was learning. Why do I need to know these things? What is it going to do for me? So I now like that I'm speaking it out loud epiphany in 2020 to start a company, was just wondering. There was like a huge gap between what we were learning in school and actual life skills. So you know things like doing your taxes, mortgages, who you are as a human, you know what do you like. You know understanding that we have a subconscious mind that we can intentionally program and has been programmed since we were born by others. But when I started, learning about the subconscious mind and just about learning about the power of our thought process and that we have full control over these things is something I never heard of before. I mean, some of the vocabulary I was learning I had never heard before and I've been, you know, schooled, you know, like most people school, school, school, school, school, get your job and when I started learning this stuff, I was like this is really speaking to me that because I was, at that time, 41, learning this stuff, why didn't I ever hear about this stuff before? I'm 41 learning this stuff? Why didn't I ever hear about this stuff before? Why am I learning this now? I mean, imagine if I had that information in my hands when I was younger. Not that my life would have been better, but it would have been very different.

Speaker 2 5:26

So I had a great childhood, but I feel like there are major, major, major concepts that are not being our children are not being exposed to, unless they make a choice to do personal development, or their parents maybe have gone down the route that I have and invested in a program that teaches you concepts that they don't teach in school. And since I've been on this kind of mission, I've met so many other people, david, that are similar minded and have started either online schools or have online masterminds for families that are into this kind of stuff, and it's just it's breathing life into me, because for a while, I felt like I was all by myself on this kind of on this road, kind of on this road, and you know it's. I'm so excited to be able to teach not only children but teens, parents, whoever is open to it, these awesome, awesome, awesome strategies and skills that they can apply. It's all about us, stephen. It's all about who we are, what we want, how we handle things, and to give that as a gift to kids is really where the mission started and it's evolved to, you know, educating parents on this kind of stuff, because most of us have not been taught this information, so we don't even know we have control over our lives. We let other people control our lives, over our lives. We let other people control our lives.

Speaker 2 6:49

So ultimately, the goal is to get on more stages, like I was an impact effect and I am on. I am going to be in Missouri in September speaking about this, but the goal is to really get out, get the mission out there and get people on board with the thought process of bridging. You know our education system, the curriculum that's archaic and you know it's going to take, you know, huge hands to move that mountain. But to be able to apply this stuff like maybe like side education, right, like you know how people have a side job, well, this is like your side education, where you're learning about yourself, because then, ultimately, what happens is what you learn about. When you learn about yourself, everything else gets better.

Speaker 1 7:37

You know you talked about and I want to kind of address it Personal development was not even a concept, and you know, primary secondary education, right, you really didn't hit that until, for a lot of us, vocation right, we got vocation, we started wanting to do better. Somebody said, hey, they hand you a book or they send you to a seminar and the next thing, you know, your mind's opened a little bit as to what's possible. What do you see as the challenges you've had to face, as you've been taking people, regardless of age it could be, you know, a five-year-old or a 15-year-old or a 35-year-old what have been some of the challenges that you see them facing, that they have to overcome to be open to the concept that they have control over their lives?

Speaker 2 8:31

Yes, well, you hit that word openness, being open to these types of concepts. If we talk about mindset, which is what your podcast is really about in essence, you know, we, we know that there's a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. And if we are, if we have a fixed mindset, we're not open to these types of educational experiences, we're closed and we think it is what it is, this is who I am, yada, yada, yada. Or what will they say if I change? You know the whole, like what will the, what will the neighbors think? You know that kind of mentality that was kind of we inherited, really, from our parents, you know, not their fault, but like that is how it was. And you know, oh, I don't want to let you know Johnny's mom know that, that. You know we did this, you know it's. You know Johnny's mom know that that. You know we did this, you know it's. It's very much based on the outside world and what they think. Well, really, they're going to think those things anyway, you may as well do what you want, right?

Speaker 2 9:34

So I think where I've had some, some challenges in this kind of process is been either a closed mind. You know someone who thinks they have it all and they know it all and they don't need help, right? So there's been that kind of situation or the disconnection. So they're not there, they're plugging into what they're learning, but they are not Kind of like what you said, like when you get a sprinkle of personal development at a conference or, you know, at some kind of meeting at your job where they talk about this kind of stuff. If you don't take it out of there and apply what you're taught, it's like it never happened, right, like you get, you get like the inspiration in those moments, but then once you leave the building or leave the class or get off the Zoom, it's back to life as usual. There's, there's not much change.

Speaker 2 10:24

So I think applying like I was the most serious student I think I've ever been when I was in the Thinking Into Results program. Like I followed it to the T and it changed everything for me because I was invested in it. I did everything. I was that that was taught and I read the books that they told us to read and I applied so much of that information and then, through osmosis, my kids were picking up on it and my husband was picking up on it. At first I was trying to beat it into them. You guys have paradigms and blah, blah, blah, all this stuff. And I realized that a lot of people make that mistake when they're awoken to this type of stuff, because you just want everyone to know about it. I just want everyone to know and everyone to join, and let's, let's, let's, have a mastermind and let's talk about what we're going to do and our goals and all this stuff. And you know, the reality of it is not everyone wants to hear that. Not everyone's interested.

Speaker 1 11:22

Right.

Speaker 2 11:22

So I think what? What needs to happen is the attraction right. I don't want to be pushing myself on people. I want people to be attracted to what I'm doing and want to hop on the train with me, you know, because I can't help people unless they, you know, commit to doing something to make their lives better. And that's exactly what this does. It makes your life better, and that's exciting, because if we can keep people like us people like all the people at Impact Effect are all there because they want to grow and learn, and if we have more of that, it could change so many things. It can change how we parent our kids, it can change how we even perform at our job when we know this type of stuff and we're and we put the work into ourselves because there's no one else more important than ourselves, and that's a whole other story that I can tell.

Speaker 1 12:19

Yeah, so, as you, as you have gone through this, so you're what, four years into it? Or take right, what are? There's probably like like three or four universal things, that that, that that are true regardless of age, that you've learned, that you have seen repeat themselves, obviously, one's probably the openness to the, to the concept that that this is possible?

Speaker 1 12:49

What are some of the other things that you're like? Dude, I had somebody that was this age and I had somebody that was this age and I had somebody, and they all had the same issue and it didn't matter how they got to the issue, but they all had the same issue. Is anything striking your memory?

Building Self-Worth and Hope

Speaker 2 13:04

Absolutely. There's a lot of them, but the one that really stands out to me is the lack of self-worth, the lack of self-love, where people are their own worst enemy. And we already have so much hate in this world, why are people hating themselves? It doesn't make sense to me once you understand that how you feel about yourself affects your relationships, it affects your career, it affects your. You know your day-to relationships. It affects your career. It affects your. You know your day to day. It affects your frequency. So if we're not, you know our biggest fan, our own biggest fan, who's going to be our biggest fan? Nobody else.

Speaker 1 13:46

Right.

Speaker 2 13:47

So I find that there's a lot of limiting beliefs that people have, that I, you know, we all. That when there's a lot of limiting beliefs that people have, that I, you know, we all, we all fight with them. David, I mean it's you could be the guru of all the gurus and still have limiting beliefs in yourself. That you know I can't. You know, or even like the higher up, like you know really cool cats that are all over, you know, the country, making millions of dollars, even they have limiting beliefs. You know, they look at the next person above them and they're like oh, I couldn't do what he's doing or I'm going to try and do what he's doing. I wonder how he got there.

Speaker 2 14:17

And once I learned that we can do, be or have anything, that was a huge eye opener for me. Because when Bob Proctor breaks it down and talks about the power of our mind and our higher faculties, we are literally human, like supercomputers, and the higher faculties that we have are what makes us the highest form of life on the planet. You know, form of life on the planet, right, we have our will, our imagination, our, our memory, our reason, our intuition and our perception and all of those. Nothing else on the planet has that, as far as we know, right. So when you think about those, those higher faculties, the imagination is how everything was created. It was first a thought in someone's mind and then it became reality.

Speaker 2 15:19

So if we apply that to think about any kind of like visualization, you do right. Or if people do vision boards, there's a reason for that because we think in pictures. So if you're thinking about the car you would like to get or the house renovation you want to do, or something that you want for your life, when you imagine it over and over again, you know it raises your frequency and you start feeling. The feelings you'll feel when you have it and the chances of it magnetizing to you are really high because you've set that in your mind as something that you want. So it's kind of magical in a way, but it's science. Honestly, it's not even my opinion, it's a fact. So when you look at all the research, this stuff is not woo-woo, it is real, and the law of attraction and things like that are real. So why are we fighting it? Why don't we just use it to our advantage and take the tips and tricks and things that people say and use them?

Speaker 1 16:28

I would add to that.

Speaker 2 16:30

Oh yay.

Speaker 1 16:32

So so you know we are what we think. We know that you know before. Before a thought is a thought, it's formulated in our subconscious and then, when we think the thought, we bring it into a reality. That that's, that's the way thinking works. But what I, what I think, is even a greater benefit of controlling what you're thinking about and being intentional about what you're thinking about is a little word called hope. Yeah, you see, one of the things I have learned in engaging with those that are younger than myself is there is a lack of hope. Yeah, with a lot of them and I have asked the question so many times to people that I know and they tell me about you know worldviews. Think about how you grew up, think about your worldview, think about the things that you experienced. Now, think about what they're experiencing or have experienced. You know, a lot of people in the 20 and under, 21 and under, have never lived in a world where the US wasn't at war in some form or fashion.

Speaker 2 17:47

Wow, I didn't even think about that.

Speaker 1 17:49

They haven't experienced. You know, they've experienced the housing crisis of 08. They've experienced their all. Their worldview has been built by a overabundance of negative experiences, and so what I see as the the advantage to what you teach Is it says, it doesn't discount that. It says look, I get it. This is all you, this is. This is how you've been made up, but let me tell you you're not at the mercy of that. You have the ability now to create what you want as you move forward, and you can have hope that it can come to pass. And again, I share some stories. The thing that sticks out the most to me Renee and I picked I was doing some Uber driving over last summer just to kind of pass the time, because it's a whole lot better to make a little bit of money out in the world than spend a lot of money out in the world every afternoon.

Speaker 2 18:59

Yeah, of course.

Speaker 1 19:00

So I was taking this one young lady to work. She couldn't have been more than 19 or 20. And she was telling me, number one, I could smell the weed on her, which that's just kind of the world we live in now. But she started just really opening up to me. You know, I guess the uber driver is the bartender of of the millennial right. So she starts telling me about all these things she's like and I know she goes. You probably can smell it on me and it's not good for my lungs but I'm not going to. She says I'm not going to live long enough For lung cancer or anything else that I'm doing to my body right now to affect.

Speaker 1 19:43

And it just hit me like a ton of bricks that a lot of people, especially younger and again, I don't want to broad brush. I have a saying that says broad brush makes for ugly, ugly paintings. I don't want to broad brush an entire generation, but there is a strong, strong number of people younger than me that have hopelessness about their future. And so when you come into this and you're saying, look, I'm going to take somebody who's pliable still, who hasn't gotten so bitter that they can't get better, and you're giving them the tools to navigate the yuck and a better future. Yeah, that excites me, that, and I'm sure that's kind of talk about some of the lives you've seen transformed and how, how it keeps you going.

Speaker 2 20:39

So I think, I think it's important that and I and I say this often anymore is to turn off the news. Turn it off. There's no real need for us to watch the news and the news which you're saying about that generation so guaranteed their parents are the ones watching the news that's exposing their kids to this negativity. The murders, the suicides, the fires, the kidnappings, you know what? All the war, all these things, um, is not necessary to know. That's just like a main thing that I have.

Speaker 2 21:24

When I've said that to people, they've been like whoa, I never thought about that. But what it's doing is like you're waking up, think about this. You're waking up, you're putting on the news. I would say 95% of the news is negative. So you're, that is what you're putting into your mind when you start the day. So think about our kids doing that and taking the bricks of weight from that news and wearing it all day long. It's not helpful. It's just not a helpful way to start the day.

Speaker 2 22:01

I mean, I have intentionally begun my day and that's the other thing that I wanted to say. The changes in people that I've seen when they start the day with a routine that's way different than what they're used to. You know, your routine is not just brushing your teeth and getting dressed and washing your face or taking a shower. Your routine is very much about getting your mind in the right, you know, space in order to make your day amazing, and it's very intentional and very simple. It doesn't have to take a long time, but when we start our day with either a meditation or definitely exercise you know, I know everyone's schedule is different, but you know, I've made it a real point in my life to, even when I wake up in the middle of the night which we do, you know, that's just, you know, part of life.

Speaker 2 22:48

But I don't let, I don't sit there anymore and and and think, I put in my earbuds and I put on a meditation and I'm purposely feeding myself and nourishing my mind with calming, really cool affirmations, body scanning, anything that I can put in that is going to intentionally set my brain and my mind up for success. That day I can face anything, right. I mean, we're going to have the waves. We're going to have the good and the bad, right, we're going to have. But it's how we ride those waves that is so important, because if we drown, we're not being able to help anybody, we have to learn how to surf those waves. So like, let's say, I woke up and did my my morning little routine and then something really horrible happened. Well, guess what? I'm already equipped to handle most things because I feel good within myself.

Speaker 1 23:43

Right. So, as we look at, you know we were, we've gone from now. You know past present, you know we've gone from now. You know past present, you know what, what the advantages are. But I want to talk about you know, and I don't mean to go negative as we. We just talked about not going negative no, no, no, it's good.

Speaker 1 24:03

But but what is the result if we don't attack this problem because it is? It is widespread on how people handle life. What do you foresee if things like Mighty Minds Academy isn't able to reach the numbers of people that it needs to reach?

Reforming Education for Future Success

Speaker 2 24:25

Sadly, you're going to see those CDC statistics rising even more than they already are. It's already alarming. So last year alone was the highest rate of suicides amongst the youth, highest rate ever. That's not going to go down with how we're approaching education. Right, it's not.

Speaker 2 24:47

I mean, we can think we're doing our best, but people like us know there's a better way. You know, and your hands, our hands, are not tied. Our hands, in fact, should be open, wide to accepting people the way they are and being more, being, spreading more kindness, loving ourselves, all of those little tools. I mean, we can't really, you know, infiltrate the schools at this point. I've tried. It's, you know, it is a big, big, big mountain, not to say that it can't happen eventually, but it's really not at this point where I'm going to be effective for people.

Speaker 2 25:29

So it's really scary to think that all of these numbers, the anxiety, the depression, the substance abuse of the youth um, are just being bandaid over. Or, you know, everyone has ADHD, everyone has all these neurological um disorders which, you know, they might, they might, I don't. I am not diagnosing or not diagnosing, but there has to be a re, a way to, to guide our children to, you know, towards what they love to do, and not have them having to learn about the war of 1712. About the war of 1712. It's good to know, but it's not helping them Right. So you know I would.

Speaker 2 26:18

My dream is that our kids go to I call it life school, where they're learning what brings them joy, and they're learning what their strengths are and what they need help with, and to be able to tailor programming for them, where they learn what they're interested in. I mean, why are we not doing that? You know, because then we get a bunch of high school graduates that have no idea what they want to do. They go to college and spend all this money which now it's outrageous how much college is costing in order to get a job that pays 50 grand a year, and they are paying their student loans until they're grandparents.

Speaker 2 27:06

Yeah, they can't get ahead.

Speaker 1 27:10

You're right. I mean, you know, preaching to the choir sister. Yay, yeah, I mean it's so true though, because you know, I have two boys, one's 27. The other's 30. But I can remember them graduating high school. I mean, yeah, it was 10, 12 years ago. It was 10, 12 years ago, but 90,. I would say 90% of my my oldest son's graduating class were back home within two semesters of college because they went there with no plan, no purpose. No, no, no idea.

Speaker 2 27:47

Yep.

Speaker 1 27:48

They're on their own for the most part for the first time in their lives. They're on their own for the most part for the first time in their lives and they just implode and they end up back at the house wondering what they're supposed to be doing. And again, I'm not saying college is for everybody, because, look, college wasn't for me, I didn't go, it's not for everybody. So so I get that. But everybody needs to have a plan. Everybody needs to have a purpose and they need to find that purpose early enough. But everybody needs to have a plan, everybody needs to have a purpose and they need to find that purpose early enough to where they don't flounder as much, because we've all floundered to some point. I mean, that's part of it. Until you find out who you are, you flounder.

Speaker 1 28:24

But at the same time, like you said, there are ways that we can let them test waters, without it being a do or die situation where right, you know, and for me I think, and we can talk about the system all we want. But the system is like oh, there's a need over here, we're gonna shove these kids into there. Oh, we don't have enough people in stem, so let's shove everybody towards stem, or we don't have enough people in you know the we don't have enough welders, let's shove a bunch of people towards community colleges that are teaching welding, and while that's, you know, while industry needs are a factor, they're not the only factor. You know, the days of doing a job you hate for 50 years and getting gold watch and moving to Florida are gone, and so for me, I think what you do and again, you know you're my guest on the show and I'm sitting here, talking about it.

Speaker 1 29:24

I love it. No, what you do is that you're bridging that. You're bridging the old mindset of let's shove everybody towards a direction where there's a need to. Why don't we find the right people, and I guarantee there'll be enough of them to go fill that need, and enough to go fill these needs too and then the quality of work is better.

Speaker 2 29:43

Right, you know I worked in a school district on Long Island, my first, you know, 12 years of being a speech therapist and you know I was kind of on the out like being a therapist. You was kind of on the out like being a therapist. You're kind of on the outskirts of like the teacher. You know teams and all these things. And I just remember, you know, thinking to myself these teachers are like they, they fear change, they don't want to change, they don't want to move, you know. But what would happen was the, the higher ups, right Administration, would see, like, let's say, renee and David, our team. You know third grade teachers, they seem to work well together. Well, we don't like them being friends, so we're going to transfer one of them out, right, it doesn't make any sense because if you're working with people you love, the kids are going to benefit.

Speaker 1 30:40

Right.

Speaker 2 30:41

Right, like if I am in a, I can I and I witnessed it from like the bird's eye view because I was always in my own office, you know, and I pulled my kids and whatever. But I would hear, like in the you know the teacher's lounge or whatever, which I avoided, like the plague, cause it, you know, but it was like cause it was a lot of you know bitching, bitching and but you know, the ones that were friends weren't bitching, they were. They were in there having a night like with me, with my friends. We had a night lunch together. We would laugh what are you doing this weekend? It was not like, oh, this you know test and this you know thing we have to do in this meeting. It was like a lot of negative vibes but ultimately what it made? It made me feel like they were doing a disservice to the students by noticing people were working well together and purposely pulling them apart and transferring teachers to another school or another grade so they weren't like as chummy with their colleagues.

Speaker 1 31:44

You know, the problem is is we have machines instead of institutions now.

Speaker 1 31:49

The machine is to spit out X number of people making X number of scores so that we can get X number of funding next year. Yep, we all know that. It's not a secret and somebody very higher up in the education system will attest to that, which is why Mighty Minds Academy, as the come alongside, I believe, provides that sense of self-worth and the tools to navigate, because nobody's going to give them those two things in the institutionalized educational system. You're right, and parents, although we are very well-intentioned, very rarely do that as well. Because we're trying to fashion our kids, we're trying to get them to everywhere they need to go and we're trying to keep them safe and we're trying to keeping them from screwing up so bad that we can't, they can't, recover from it.

Speaker 1 32:44

So we are coming in as the don't do this, don't do that influence. So they, our kids, need this, they need this, this, this safe, this. They need this safe empowering place. And one of the things that I took from even the LinkedIn page that you have is, like you said, compassion, having compassion for where somebody is at, to help them navigate where they're going, and many of us don't have that. We, you know, especially if we grew up with a stricter environment than than a lot of people do these days, and you know it's like well, I had to suck it up.

Speaker 2 33:21

They should have to suck it up Tough, the whole tough love thing, you know, which I think in a lot of ways is powerful and can work. Every kid's different. So tough love, you know, for one doesn't mean the same thing as it does for another. Some, some people wake up from that right, the tough love a lot of kids don't, because they don't feel understood, right. So you know, it's so true.

Speaker 2 33:46

But I want to, I want to make a really strong point right here that our kids are not the only ones that need this Right, that our kids are not the only ones that need this Right, the parents need it. I mean, I pour into myself because it's for the better of my children. So if they're learning something like along the lines of what I'm teaching, but I don't have awareness of it, or I'm not, you know, open to it, they may as well not learn it at all Because they're not it. They may as well not learn it at all because they're not. They're following me. They follow our actions, not our advice. So if I'm, they see me doing this all the time, you know. They see me going to yoga all the time. Or you know, exercising or taking care of myself. They see this. So there's all the sorts of pieces to it, but it's, I think. What I really want to drive home is that the only way our kids are going to be better is if we become better.

Speaker 1 34:39

Yes, yes, I learned too Well, I won't say too late in life, but it's a lot more difficult when you, when you move from the parental role to the advisory parental role when your kids are grown. I wish I would have known some of the tools earlier on. You know, because I said so is not a good you know process. One of the things that I personally learned, probably about four years ago that really impacted my life and I wish I could have employed it as a parent is intrinsic validation. People want to be heard and understood, and that is especially from your kids, from your parents, and so if anybody listening to this or watching you know, maybe it'll make one of the TikTok clips. We'll know, we never know.

Speaker 2 35:28

I want to be. I have my cool mom's club shirt, but but.

Speaker 1 35:35

You know, there's one small phrase that I think will make a world of difference for parents and their children, and it's this Tell me more about that busy you are. I believe that that will start the process to opening up the lines of communication in a greater way. And, like you said, it's the openness that matters, that makes the difference, and the kids have to have the openness, and mom and dad have to have the openness. And if there's this, if you're coming into it with your hands wide open, and if there's this, if you're- coming into it with your hands wide open you have the opportunity to grab a hold of something very special, and it's going to be the difference maker.

Speaker 1 36:23

I believe and I'll let you have the final word on this I believe that those that are equipped with these tools will far outperform and be happier than the vast majority of people who don't.

Speaker 2 36:41

Oh, that's 100% accurate. I mean, there is no denying that those in the personal development world are genuinely happier humans. I mean, there's probably numbers out there that we could probably pull up in percentages. But you know, when you think about it when we were in together at Impact Effect and I went out to the Aspire Tour a couple weeks ago in LA when you're in those rooms you can't not feel amazing or uplift, uplifted or that you have a sense of community of people that are there to learn, to grow, to connect. It's very hard to not feel amazing in those situations.

Speaker 2 37:29

So and that's like a purposeful thing that we do we invest in conferences and masterminds and things like that, because all of it pours into us and that's the most important thing that we can do as parents, because we're constantly pouring out to others, right? So if we're depleted, they're getting nothing. So I I'm a big believer that we are in control of our, of our lives. So if we're in control of our lives, we can't be happy all the time, but we can understand that if we are not happy, that it's very temporary and we're going. We have tools that we are that are going to lift us up out of that little slump that we're in, we don't let it last long. It's impossible to not have them, true, but to understand that there are really cool, easy ways to bring ourselves back up is very.

Speaker 2 38:31

It's game changing, life changing. It's everything changing because a lot of people this is what's happening is they get down and they stay down, and they stay down and they say and then their kids are watching that and they say, well, I can't help this. In some ways, you can't, but if we're not trying to be better, do better, have more, be more then it. What are we telling our kids? When you're down, you're down. No, when you're down, it's temporary. It's how you get back up. What are we going to do? What tools are we going to put on a Beyonce song and shake your booty. You know, it instantly makes you feel good.

Speaker 1 39:15

Right.

Speaker 2 39:16

So it's just like it's. It's stuff like that or that's so. It's so easy to to find what, what makes you feel good and makes you feel better. We weren't put here to be miserable.

Speaker 1 39:33

No, yeah, I think that's a mic drop moment. Uh, because, like you said, there's, there's, there's a universal need for all of us to operate in that manner which you. If there was one word to sum it up, it would be intentional. I'm going to be intentional, renee this has been an amazing conversation.

Speaker 1 40:05

We've been talking for hours. Unfortunately, somebody's about to arrive at work or finish their workout or whatever. So tell me how, tell the audience what's the best ways to follow. You get ahold of you If they're interested in getting with Mighty Minds Academy and exploring to see if this is a fit for them and their family. Kind of give us the breakdown of all that.

Speaker 2 40:26

So I obviously I my. My goal is to connect. So, if you know, I'm not here to sell people on things. What I want is for people to follow me on on the socials, right? So Instagram. You know I'm not here to sell people on things. What I want is for people to follow me on the socials, right? So Instagram Renee, double underscore V-E-E, and then my Facebook, I think, is Renee Vardano, so it's my whole last name, which I'll spell it it's V-A-R-D-O-U-N-I-O-T-I-S.

Speaker 2 40:56

There is a website I do have. I do host a lot of masterclasses that are free. I also, you know, I'm going to be on a stage, hopefully near you soon to talk about more about this, and I really want to connect with people and just see how I can help them. You know, the the parent the parent component of this is is starting to really evolve with me and importance, because you know, my goal was to help all the kids in the world, but I can't help them unless the parents are on board and understand what we're doing. So I'm actually hosting a masterclass tomorrow. I know this is probably going to air until way after, but you know it's at six, from six to seven, and it's 10 tips for parenting teens, and it's something that you know.

Speaker 2 41:49

I also want a community of people that can, that can lean on each other. We're all in it together. We're better together. So, you know, if I'm able to provide some kind of value to somebody that helps them with their family, well, that my day's made my day's made. It really is something that intrinsically inside of me, I have this just passion and need to do to help others. And you know, for years I've been helping kids with special needs. I loved it, but I feel like I have made it for so much more so, and this for me, this knowledge that I have acquired, I just want to share it with the world because I know it'll help Right, and that's what we need. We need community, we need people on our side, not our enemy. You know, people that love us as much as we love ourselves, people that want to help and genuinely want to be better humans. Because when we become better, our children become better. Then their children become better, Because once we know better, we do better.

Speaker 1 42:56

Absolutely.

Speaker 2 42:57

It's kind of an easy equation, but no one's you know. It should be shouted on the news. That should be shouted on the news.

Speaker 1 43:05

Absolutely, absolutely, renee. Thank you again for your schedule.

Speaker 1 43:12

Folks follow her on the social. She's given it down. We'll put it in the show notes as well, so it's easy, so you don't have to spell her last name on. But to sum it up, I will sum this one up. It's funny how it all comes back to this. Guys, applied knowledge is power. Take control of your life. Be intentional, know that your better days can be ahead if you so choose for them to be, and get yourself in some bigger rooms and in the rooms of personal development so that you can do better, because, like renee said, when you know better, you do better. God bless, that is going to do it for this episode of. Keep this in. For more. Visit davidaspectcom. Like, follow and subscribe. Thank you for listening and remember applied knowledge is power. God bless.