Are You Burnt Out… or Just Bored?

Motherhood (and wifehood!) can feel beautiful… and exhausting at the same time. In this episode of Mama’s Playground, we dive into the difference between burnout and boredom, the pressure moms feel to “do it all,” and how easy it is to lose yourself in routines, responsibilities, and comparison culture.

We talk honestly about emotional exhaustion, snapping over little things, mom guilt, relationships, social media pressure, and the importance of slowing down and taking care of YOU before burnout turns into something deeper.

If you’ve ever felt drained, emotionally numb, overwhelmed, or like you’re stuck living the same day over and over again… this conversation is for you.

✨ It’s okay to pause.
 ✨ It’s okay to say no.
 ✨ And it’s okay to choose yourself too.

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Have you ever felt yourself snapping over little things? And then suddenly everything feels like too much. Hello, everybody.

SPEAKER_00 0:11

Welcome to Mama's Playground.

SPEAKER_01 0:12

Mama's Playground, which is not a kid's playground, but it's a mama's playground. We always need one, right?

SPEAKER_00 0:18

That's why today, I'm sorry, but we are having a little beer.

SPEAKER_01 0:23

Just a little beer.

SPEAKER_00 0:24

It's been great. Okay, let me. I want to start with this because think about this line now that I have your attention. Nobody tells you that you'll have to meet yourself again after you become a mother. I read that line and I had to write it down. And when I said it to you before we started, you're like, wow, because it is so true.

SPEAKER_01 0:48

Yeah. It hits home.

unknown 0:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 0:50

It really hits home. And this is something obviously that you don't understand until you become a mother. It's like something changes internally. The stress, the the love, like just everything is, I think, a lot more um a como si say like explosive. Is it explosive the word?

SPEAKER_00 1:08

You're this one person, you're born, you're a toddler, you're a kid, you're this one person only thinking about you and your needs and what I want. And and suddenly you become a mom. It's like that's it. Like from the little things going to the store and buying everything for your kid for your kid, or wanting to join a yoga class. You can because that money it's in my kids' dance or baseball or whatever. So somewhere in motherhood, we need to find a way to wait. Where are my needs? And we talked about that at the beginning of the new season.

SPEAKER_01 1:46

Correct. We did talk about that. And this particular episode, we wanted to talk about whether it's burnout or whether it's boredom. Like, how do you tell the difference, right? Because we go through so many things. And again, I had mentioned that I had started the year off, 2026 off, like not in the best, right? And I was thinking to myself, is this like what's going on? Like, am I just bored with something? Do I need something new to like spruce and things up? Uh, do I uh just feel like burnt out? And I think for me, I was feeling burnt out. And like, how do you know though, right? How how do you know? Or maybe they both intertwine together, and it's kind of like boredom and burnout is kind of the same.

SPEAKER_00 2:22

Well, boredom is lack of motivation, yeah. And that comes from being burnout, I believe. And burnout is you know, overcommitting yourself to a thousand things on the week and leaving things that you have to do for later. Like, yeah, procrastinating that could lead to burnout because then you're eventually at some point trying to do everything at the same time. I used to be so um hard on myself with the house, and I would try to do everything at once, and then it wouldn't happen because I would quit or I wouldn't even start because I was tired. And one thing I learned is it's okay to be like today, I'm just gonna do this part of my room, and then in two days I'll do the other part of the room. All the pressure that we put on ourselves in so many aspects of our lives, that definitely leads to burnout.

SPEAKER_01 3:10

Yeah, and I think burnout comes from trying to overdo, right? Like overdo overdo things. Uh, sometimes I think we take on that full responsibility of again, everything that's going on in life. If you're working, it's also like, you know, you know, showing up to work and being the best that you can at work, and then showing up to motherhood and being the best mother that you can, and then showing up to your partnership and trying to be a good partner, and then trying to be the good friend, and then before you know it, you've been on like this automatic pilot all day long, like rushing, rushing, rushing, rushing. Two months pass by, and you're like, I'm drained, I'm drained, and I don't know why. And I don't know why.

SPEAKER_00 3:45

And the recovery period when you're overwhelmed and burnout as a parent is so little because you could be, oh my god, I am exhausted from the week I had at work or this and that. But you can't afford to just be like, I'm just gonna chill unless you you do what you did, which for your birthday, you left the kids at home and you went to a hotel for a day. But in a normal, you know, month, it's like the recovery period is this little. The moment that you sit down to relax, it's like I can't look at the kitchen, look at this, or I have to take my like for example, today I'm exhausted. Like, I just want to chill. And I'm like, oh no, Luna has danced like in two hours. So I have to go there and then just sit, just sit and wait for an hour until she's done. I'm like, can we also have like mom classes?

SPEAKER_01 4:37

So I think that's boredom. You're like boredom of the same repetition.

SPEAKER_00 4:40

So there is boredom. It's boredom.

SPEAKER_01 4:42

I think when you go in through burnout, you know, which gets a little bit more, I guess, psychological, right? That like that's it. You don't want to get out of bed. It's like, it's like it's costing you to get out of bed, it's costing you to do the things that you once used to like to do and all that, you know. And I think burnout has obviously a lot more repercussions than boredom, right? Because burnout can lead to something further out there, meaning like where you are really just not showing up in life.

SPEAKER_00 5:07

But boredom, it's a whole different thing. If you're bored, for example, in your relationship, you can't do it. What do you need to do?

SPEAKER_01 5:14

You gotta put a wig on, you know what I mean? Put a different dress on.

SPEAKER_00 5:19

And nothing to do with my what would be my decision. But a lot of women, a lot of men, when they get bored in the relationship, they don't put a wig, they look for somebody else. Well, this is so boredom can be very dangerous. It is in especially in a relationship.

SPEAKER_01 5:35

It is dangerous. No, and and boredom can lead you to start trying things, maybe if you don't, you know, measure that it could be things that are not good for you, you know. Hence what you just said, like you're bored in your marriage or you're and you start finding maybe more extreme measures to keep things like happy and flowing and so on. Yeah, you know, but with uh with burnout, I feel like you have to be very careful because burnout can lead to depression. I feel like that that can take you down another another avenue where you're just really not living. And again, I remember listening to Mel Robbins. We've, you know, we brought her up. I like listening to Mel Robbins. Sometimes her podcasts are too long, but sometimes they're very good, valuable information. And she said, I remember when I was going through a really hard time financially with my husband, and I lasted, I don't know if it was like eight months or something. She lasted not wanting to get out of bed. And so then she had come out with that thing that we had talked about that she said, Okay, I need I need to do something because time is passing. Every day comes by. I literally just do not want to see anybody. I want to lay in a dark room under the covers. That starts to lead probably to not probably, it starts to lead to a depression.

SPEAKER_00 6:39

Depression, so many every different thing.

SPEAKER_01 6:42

And in motherhood and this and that, it's like, you know, and it happens. You're also fending for these humans. You know, if you fall in that in that trap of allowing yourself to be burnt out to a point where you don't want to get up, everybody starts to be affected by this, right? You know, like your kids, you, your spouse. So, you know, how do you measure and say, do I just need something new in my life, or do I just need to stop doing everything that I'm doing and take it easy and move forward?

SPEAKER_00 7:17

Signs of boredom. You're tired even after sleeping. Small tags feel overwhelming, maybe something that was easier before. Now it's like I'm done. And then and you feel it, and we've all been there. That's why it's easy to talk about it when you're just exhausted. When you know, I was okay doing this just yesterday. Today, like everything hurts, I'm in a bad mood, I'm gonna snap. Another uh sign of burnout, you feel resentful toward things you used to love. You fantasize about quitting everything, and you feel emotionally numb or irritable. Oh my goodness, yes, we've been there. Yeah, but this is when you have to go back and listen to our episode from New Energy on New Energy because this is when you have to stop and stop saying no to things, stop saying no to commitments, uh, and then just find other ways where you can still do things you love, like spending time with your family, your kids, but that you can also relax and switch it up and switch it up.

SPEAKER_01 8:14

I think you have to literally look at your life and say when you feel like that, right? Again, I'm talking from uh experience, and it's probably not gonna be the last time that something like that happens. But from this year, when I started the year off really down, and it was like two months into it, and I was feeling like, oh my god, I'm feeling like I don't want to get out of bed. I don't wanna like talk to anybody. I just want to be in my thing. It's drowning in my sorrows and and so on. And it took me being conscious and saying, I cannot continue like that. If I do, it's gonna be it's just not gonna be good for anybody, not for myself, not for anybody that's around me. So you have to switch that up and say, what can I do for myself? Obviously, if you're in that point, because there's people you know that get so far into burnout that they need other people to help them to get out of that, right? You get to it, you probably get to a point in your life where yeah, it's no longer superficial, it's reached a point where you need help now because you've dragged yourself so far in.

SPEAKER_00 9:09

When you say help, who do you refer to?

SPEAKER_01 9:11

Psychologists, like I need help. Like I'm feeling down because I feel that with burnout, and I've seen this happen, and you see this in people that are very high net worth people, they've talked about it that they say, You my God, I was working day in, day out, every day. I would go to sleep at three in the morning, four in the morning. This isn't anything, whether it's motherhood, whether it's in business, whether it's in whatever. When you are constantly on the go, on the go, on the go, on the go, on the go, and you keep putting yourself to the back end and you're no longer thinking about the things that used to bring you joy, and everything is go, go, go, go. You get to a point where you don't realize it, but one day it just everything stops and you go, Oh my God, why am I feeling like this? And then you have to do an overhaul of like everything you've been doing for the past who knows how long and say, Well, how could I not be? I have not put any emphasis on myself, on myself, or any self-care on myself. I am feeling burnt out. I need a time, I need to step away from what I'm doing. I need to go take 30 minutes and maybe go to a church and go to a chapel and sit there and like just like reflect on my life. Get a haircut, get a haircut, which we brought that. New energy, you know, the new energy.

SPEAKER_00 10:16

You have to, you have to do it for yourself, you have to do it for your kids. When you're burnout, you can tell. Like when you see people on the streets, you're like, she's exhausted. And probably a bunch of people have said that about me.

SPEAKER_01 10:29

Um, but you know what's funny, Darlene? I'm sorry to interrupt you, but you know what's funny? The other day I was pulling into carpool with Jacob. It's it's funny that you said that that people could tell. And we were stuck in car line, and there was a mom, and I thought it, I didn't say it out loud, and Jacob, my eight-year-old, said it. The lady's putting the stuff in her trunk of her car, her hair is como que despelucado, verdad? And she's going, and she looked exhausted. And in my mind, I'm driving, I'm in the front seat, and I'm looking, I go, My God, that mom looks like she's having a rough day. She's tired. And Jacob goes, All of a sudden, Mom, that lady looks really tired. She needs to go to sleep. And I said, Wow, it isn't a thing that people can tell. I mean, he's eight.

SPEAKER_00 11:07

Yeah, exactly. He's eight.

SPEAKER_01 11:08

He saw it. And I and I said, My God.

SPEAKER_00 11:11

Imagine our kids seeing it. Well, mine has told me too.

SPEAKER_01 11:15

Yeah. Yeah. They they notice. They it's not something that they don't notice. They know when you're off. I know if you're an energy person and most people can feel, you know, energies. You know when somebody is really down. You know, maybe if you're not conscious of other people and you're all about yourself, you might not see that. But if you are like emotionally empathetic and you kind of feel people's energies, you can tell when somebody is just down. And you can tell, let's say, with close family members or f or friends, when you see them very often and you say something's off about this person. Yeah. Something's not okay. Like either they're going through a hard time, something's like their personality shifted. They went from being so upbeat to now they're quiet, they're just not themselves. And it happens. And especially when you're trying to divide yourself into a thousand different places and be there for a thousand different, you know, situ, you know, people and be the good person and do this and do that. It's just it's a lot. And then you gotta take on that thing and say, I don't want to go through a burnout. A burnout is bad. A burnout, you know, I think a burnout is bad in theory because it could take you into, again, dark places, but a burnout can also make you, if you're that person that can get out of that tunnel again, make you realize and say, I'm not going through this again. Like I need to pace myself, I need to take it easy. I need to I need to stop. I need to stop. I need to take a break. I'm gonna take a freaking week by myself if I need to go to a weekend uh hotel. Oh, that sounds amazing by yourself. Well, you maybe just need to go sit by a pool by yourself, not with your spouse, not with your kids, not with any friends, and do reflection. No, I think that's all needed in in in these things because it's it's happening more than we like to think. I think a lot of people are going through that.

SPEAKER_00 12:49

Not only that, burnout of looking at the news, burnout of everything that's going on in the world, of going on social media and being like, oh my gosh, she's making all this, like I had said in the other episode, like these, you know, veggie fruit waffles, and I'm going to the supermarket and getting the egos, chocolate chip, frozen. And that, I mean, because the burnout could be physically, because again, we are in our 40s, things change, things start. A thousand percent. It's not a lie, it's true. We still have to bend down because we're not in South America, we're having a lady be there and cleaning and cooking for you. We can't afford that because I have friends that they got used to that.

SPEAKER_01 13:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:33

You know, to having like the lady of the servicio, no? It's like, no, over here, like I like. You do it for yourself. So, but yeah, again, we're in our 40s, so it's a lot of we're exhausted because we're starting to feel I la spala, but we still have to bend down and pick up the toys, and we have to clean, and we have to be a lot of times, you know, standing up, cooking, washing dishes, and cooking again, and it's a lot of work. So physically, it's a physical burnout, and then combine it with the emotional. I just went through I'm trying to organize myself a little bit more with schedules because also having like a schedule and a routine and doing things in advance, it helps. If you know that there's gonna be a birthday in a couple of weeks, don't wait to and I'm talking to myself, trying to remember this. You're reminding me. But it's things that help with the burnout, just planning ahead, buying the stuff ahead. Shit, you know, before you know it, it's December again. Like, start going on Timo or Sheen or whatever, and start doing your shopping. So you don't have to be paying so much money if you leave her to the last minute. But the schedule thing, it's exhausting. Luna starts CCD in the fall, two days dance, and she wants to do gymnastics. And now I have everything figured out, and Fabian was asking me something. Oh, you're not listening to me. Like we always say, a thousand times open trying to organize myself for fall. I was exhausted, and then I finally figured that out, and I'm like, camp. Okay, which camp? And how many weeks, and what field trip? There's deadlines, and there's deadlines. The deadlines it could start in November, but no, you have to pay by June to reserve your spot. Mira carajo.

SPEAKER_01 15:21

No, it's true, it's true. The deadlines, the paper that has to be put in, that summer camp office. You better register this day. Then uh you if you're working, work needs you to be at a certain time. This or you have a client, the client wants you to be over here, the kids have this, you need to pick them up to it's a lot, and it can cause, I can see it causes. I feel like burnout and boredom can go kind of like together, right? Like I feel it causes a point where you're so much on automatic pilot all day long. You're restless. You're restless, and at the same time, you're exhausted, but at the same time, boredom plays a fact in it because it's every day the same shit over and over and over and over and over. And then you say to yourself, I just need a little something different.

SPEAKER_00 15:58

So for my birthday You know what they call that? Romanticizing uh pivots in life. Like thinking of what if I moved to Europe?

SPEAKER_01 16:07

Listen, don't even go to that because when I came back after my trip in December, my whole thing in January, and I think that also had me on a Debbie Downer mood, was I want to move to Spain. I want to move to Spain. Benjamin, let's move to Spain, Benjamin, let's figure it out. Benjamin, in three years, okay, let's but let's plan it because I felt like I need to get out of here. Why? I was getting bored of the same shit here every single day.

SPEAKER_00 16:29

Okay, the same thing. Short pause. Raise your hand right now. If what if you travel to sp Europe, Spain, let's go with Spain, Italy, France, whatever. You come back to the States and you say, I'm moving to Europe.

SPEAKER_01 16:45

Listen, can I tell you? So here's the burnout thing. So here's a thing that I said to myself, oh my god, this is so amazing. On my trip, everything obviously everybody's walking, everybody is como que más I feel like they're more relaxed over there. It's not the same pace that we run over here, right? This is all about work, work, work, work, work, which has its advantages.

SPEAKER_00 17:04

Trabajar para vivir, vivir para trabajar.

SPEAKER_01 17:06

Vivir, vivir, yeah, I think that's yes, exactly. That you know, you over there they don't live to work. We do. We here, we are living to work, basically. When I saw how these people live their life, not now, like I've gone to Spain and all that before, but I see my cousins. I met up with them at a bar. Benjamin stayed over with the kids at the hotel. I was like, I'm gonna spend some time with my cousin. I haven't seen her in like 10 years. I'm gonna go cruzar el Puente Colgante, because I was in Bilbao, you know, over there in El, oh my god, in Portugalete, it's called. And I took the little thing that they have that goes over the river, and everybody's there, everybody's walking, the ambience. I get to the bar, we have a beer, we had the best absolute time, and she says to me, Monica, here I've never understood how you guys live to work. That saying for me never really hit home, and I thought it was a joke. And now I realize that that is not a joke. That's how you guys live over there. She goes, Here we live a little bit more simplified, we have decent jobs, but we take off all of summer and we spend quality time with each other. I felt like, wow, what a beautiful thing, you know. Over here, the advantage of being able to work and and fend for yourself and be able to create something yourself is amazing. But also over there, to be able to spend precious moments that you don't know if you're ever gonna get back and slow it down. And I don't know, I just feel like it's not the same.

SPEAKER_00 18:25

I feel like also there's more human interaction over there, more connection. You're walking, you're on the train, you'll take buses over here. If you tell somebody, wait, what, you're taking the bus? What? You don't have a car? Yeah. I mean, and I wish that we had more of I mean, we're in South Florida, Miami for a lot of though, but more of Yeah, I'm just gonna take the train and go to Tampa and see my friends, and I don't know. I and I think there's a line, but I was talking to Fabiana about that. It's so expensive. Over here, they just want you to get in the car. Yeah, over there in Europe, you go like from Madrid to Toledo.

SPEAKER_01 19:02

No, everything, everything is in a bus, everything is on a train, everybody's out.

SPEAKER_00 19:05

No, I'm not saying it's look at it. They everybody buys everything fresh. Well, they're gonna cook that day. There's no Costco.

SPEAKER_01 19:10

But that's what I'm saying. So it's a little bit slower paced, and I feel like you have a little bit more time to kind of maybe focus on your well-being. Because I'm not saying that everybody, I'm sure there's cases where they're gonna be like, no, that's not true. I live like this. Everybody's different. I just feel like the ritmo is a little slower and it's a little bit more connection. And over there, you can call somebody on a Wednesday and say, Hey, I just got out of work, and la vida empieza after you get out of work. Here, it's like it's the same in and out every single day that you get out of work and no, we gotta go homework, homework, and you've got iReady, and you've got IXL, and you've got this, and then plus all the shit that you have to take care of for yourself, that's other things that you've got going on, not just your kids' things, and it it leads to a certain burnout and boredom at the same time. I think they intertwine with each other. I think that it's something that it's like inevitable.

SPEAKER_00 20:00

I think it's like groundhog day. Like it just keeps going and going and going and going.

SPEAKER_01 20:04

And then you say, when do you cut and you break that cycle? Do you wanna be, if God willing, they give you to live to be a hundred? Do you wanna be the 80-year-old que tiene la hojera así, and you are gonna el cuello así, and your back is hurting, and you say to yourself, Oh my god, I'm exhausted, I can't anymore. But you keep going and going to the day that you freaking die, excuse my thing, but it's the freaking truth. Or do you say to yourself, No, I'm gonna cut it, and you know what? I am gonna one day, hopefully, take three months and go to Europe and enjoy my time with my family and connect and relax and maintain it, but you have to build that for yourself. And it's funny because I have friends that'll say, Oh, you know, God willing, they'll give it to me. No, listen, I am a firm God believer, but I believe God gives you tools to move forward. He's not gonna drop anything in your lap. So if you want that, you wanna get out of the daily routine, you have to find it. You have to find those things. You want to enjoy a vacation one day out of your own setting, you have to look for those ways to do it. You know, uh, it's come I don't know. I think us moms, we take on a lot. Us women tend to be a little bit more stressed out, I wanna say.

SPEAKER_00 21:13

And and we're also it's okay to admit it. Yeah, you know, sometimes I go to Luna's dance, uh, and you see, it's funny because there was a dad the other day, and he's like, This is so funny. This is like a show because there's like six moms here talking about diapers, the other ones over there talking about gymnastic competitions, the other one has like her airpods and she's on a call, the other one is walking around with a computer and he was the only man there. And he goes, Wow! And I go to him, you're missing this one, the one that's exhausted. That day I was so tired and there was no way to sit. So I'm just standing there in the corner. And anyway, because in the middle of all this chaos, you're taking your kids to Swimming, jujitsu, dance, volleyball. You feel like you have to show up and be happy and talk to everybody. Sometimes it's okay, honestly, to stay in the car. Or to just say, or to just say, I'm exhausted. I need this time for myself. Or you can take that opportunity and just leave the worries and all that shit in the car, leave it behind and go and hang out with other parents.

SPEAKER_01 22:25

You cannot be on all day long. You can't. It's not healthy. I've seen it. I've seen it with people that I love very much so. And usually they tend to be women, and they're on all day long. It's como que la vida es una carrera, and that I have to finish everything in this amount of hours that I have that I'm awake, because yes, there's 24 hours on a day, but the real reality is you're not 24 hours awake, right? You have to at least sleep something if you sleep. And I have eight hours. How am I gonna squeeze in everything that I can in eight hours? And that causes a burnout. I know from experience because I am the person that I want to do everything in the shortest amount of time.

SPEAKER_00 23:00

Prioritize.

SPEAKER_01 23:01

Yeah, yeah. You have to make a plan, which again, this year I've gotten better with. I've started to say no to this, yes to this. No, I'm not gonna do that. Sorry, they have a party. I don't care if I'm going or not, the kids are gonna come to do this. It's come okay. You have to start to not feel obligated to take on so much.

SPEAKER_00 23:18

Yeah, and don't try to be at other moms' speed. Yeah, yeah, you know, that competition. Like this mom that I know, their daughter tested for um what do you call it? Gifted? Gifted, yeah. So immediately I'm wait, do I have to get Luna tested for gifted? And then another mom was saying, wait, what?

SPEAKER_01 23:37

No, the pressure, forget it.

SPEAKER_00 23:38

So I go straight to her teacher and I go, Does she need that? She's like, No.

SPEAKER_01 23:42

We definitely cannot compare ourselves to other friends, other moms on, you know, social platforms and all that stuff. And that's the thing, the pressure of wanting to feel like you're keeping up with the Joneses. You can't. You have to prioritize what is important to you, and you need to step away from the things that don't serve you anymore and keep moving forward. If you try to keep up with everybody in your life and everything that's around you, you will go to a burnout. You will. I mean, I'm sorry. You will because you are trying to. Well, I did that too. Oh, so you you cook your daughter every day on filet mignon. Well, no, I'm gonna have to go to the grocery store and buy filet mignon every day because I need to be top. No, dude, that doesn't work like that. That doesn't work like that. It's like, yeah, like no, I'm sorry. And you know what? I hate to say this because I'm a woman, so I could say this. Us women are, and my husband says it all the time, we're very wired differently. It's como que una hace una, and she goes, Oh, really? You did that? So I need to do, I need to do that too. So wait a second, you took her to where and they did what? I'm gonna go sign up for that too. Get out of here. No, we don't have to perform for anybody.

SPEAKER_00 24:45

Okay, I gotta say, this is ideal. So Luna comes the other day and she goes, Mom, the substitute teacher, I love her. And I did substitute for two days, so I kind of took an offense. Wait, but the other one, she's a real substitute teacher, and she goes, I love her, she smells like cotton candy. And I go, What? And she's like, Yeah, so she's told me a couple of times because she had the teacher for a whole week. So here I go on Amazon, organic to smell like cotton candy. I know that I know, and I'm thinking, okay, I need my own smell. I want my my daughter to be like my mom smells like this. So I'm an island girl. I wanted like vanilla, coconut. So I got this lotion, and I go, okay. So I started putting it. Mom, you like you like how I smell.

SPEAKER_01 25:35

Darlene.

SPEAKER_00 25:36

I put it on her and her skin got irritated because she has eczema. So anyway, but I'm like, oh my god, I'm such an idiot. I did need a different uh lotion, which I usually use the same one. No, no, no, haga excusa. No hagas excusa. I wanted to switch to this one because I want her to say my mom smells like vanilla. Oh my, but this is what I'm talking about. Oh my god. And we all fall on that trap.

SPEAKER_01 26:01

No, we do, we do, we do. I remember when I started my Instagram page years ago, like 10 years ago, eight years ago, I had joined this thing Beach Body, right? Because I was like, I'm gonna do my Instagram page because I see these people working out and I wanna get in shape. So I started working out and I was working out constantly. You could ask Benjamin, it was like four years of constantly working out. And I remember friends would reach out and I could see, you know, people watch your stories and they start to look, but they might not comment. But then later you would go somewhere and they'd be like, I so you're doing what are you doing again? Like a beach body, but how is that with the containers? And then it's the pressure of keeping up because somebody is doing something that you might not be doing. And I say this in every sense of the way because it happens to all of us, and you go, I that's like a light bulb moment. Should I be doing the same thing? Aye, let me go and now investigate this. I know some people do it today, they want to top people, they need to be the best mom out there and they need to have the freaking trophy, you know. And then there's people that do it more so because they feel like the guilt of like, I might not be doing as much as I could be doing. But then again, we're going back to putting pressure on yourself. And that pressure eventually is like a pressure cooker. And if it keeps on and on and on, it's too much. And so you need to decide when you're going to do a cut and decide I'm not gonna go through a burnout. I've either been there already or I feel I'm getting there, and how do I do to cut this out? Y como que I gotta take a step back and say to myself, I'm worthy of feeling good in my skin, and I am worthy of saying no to this, yes to this, i yeah. Because if not, I promise you, if you wanna keep up with everybody and you wanna be the perfect this and the perfect that and do everything all day long and be on the go, go, go, go, anxiety is going to creep up. Okay, depression will eventually get to you when you realize that you are not a freaking machine and that you're not gonna be able to keep up with everything that you have in your mind. So you have to pace yourself.

SPEAKER_00 27:58

It's affecting you and it's affecting everybody, the people around you. And it's you said something uh earlier, and it's you know, you think about what you want, what's good for you, and then you think about what's good for the family, and then everything else. So everything else falls priorities, but you have to also think about like what you need, yeah, as a person, as a woman. One thing that I wanted to mention, and I see that a lot here. I saw it a lot when I was in California. We're very lucky because we have help from our husbands and our parents, thank God. And we have a community, we have a village, and like they say, it takes a village, it does, but there are so many families, especially out here in South Florida, their parents, the grandparents of the kids are are far, and this is when you have to go and find good friends, and and and to trust other people get that trust other people and try to build that village that if you feel you know when you're gonna get a burnout. You feel it in so many ways. You start snapping, you can't sleep, you have a headache, you're irritated. When you feel that you're falling into that, then it's time to start delegating.

SPEAKER_01 29:04

Let me be honest, it's very, it's much easier said than done. That is much easier said than done because I think when you get into a a burnout moment where you really are truly been on a hundred percent or trying to do a hundred percent for so long, and all of a sudden you find yourself in this state where you don't want to get out of bed, which again, I I I relate this, this can very easily fall into a depression, it's very hard for you to kind of get out of it. And if you don't have a support system around you or you don't have the willpower inside of you to get out of it, it's very easy to fall in a huge stump. So it's kind of like you need to catch it on time. You need to realize when you're feeling a little bit off, when you're feeling like, my God, why am I not feeling like myself? Usually I would wake up in the morning like at eight with energy, and now I don't want to get out of bed. Like I don't even want to make breakfast for the kids, not even for myself. I don't want to do anything.

SPEAKER_00 29:53

It's okay to feel like that.

SPEAKER_01 29:54

It is sometimes it is, but if if every single day you feel like that, darling, it could end up being something yeah más clinical, let's say, you know? Y todo el mundo can fall in that. Everybody, because with everything, again, trying to keep up with everything, with yourself, with the world, then the news uh infiltration of everything that's going on in the world, like all this stuff, you need to take care of yourself. At the end of the day, you need to take care of yourself. And then going back to is it boredom or is it burnout? I feel like let's say you think cousins. They're cousins, and I feel like if it's boredom, let's just say for the past two months you've been doing the same repetition over and over again, and all of a sudden you say, you know what? I'm gonna join, I don't know, I'm saying this out of like experience, I'm gonna join CrossFit now. And all of a sudden you see your mood shift, and maybe it was a thing of of boredom that you needed something different in your life, something to do something good for yourself. But how do you know if it's going down into burnout? You know, and I think that's when you start feeling a little depressed. I feel like burnout and depression go.

SPEAKER_00 30:54

It's everything you let yourself go, pretty much. Yeah. You let yourself go, you're like, you're bored. Burnout for me, it's burnout leads to boredom.

SPEAKER_01 31:04

I feel like it's boredom, and then burnout. I don't know if they're like I don't know if they're correlated somehow. Again, we're not like physical, like we're not physicians here. I I I don't know. But I feel like it they can be intertwined, definitely intertwined. You gotta take care of yourself. Ladies, take care of yourself. You're feeling that burnout, you're feeling like my God, I just don't have any more in me to give. It's time to take care of yourself. It's time to take care of you and then reset and then replay again, and maybe figure out the replay and say it's not gonna be the same that I've been doing for the past three years. It's gonna be something different because it's again boredom and for me a burnout kind of have a similarity. Like, or they have like an intertwine, right?

unknown 31:44

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 31:45

You deserve to feel good, you deserve to take care of yourself every so often and step away from your family and step away from anything that's causing you issues. And if you're burnt out at work, it's okay to say, you know what, I need to talk to my boss and say, I need to do something, I need to do a change or something. It's it's many things that you need to be proactive because you've got one life, only one life, and you deserve to live it the way that you choose to, and the way that makes you feel good.

SPEAKER_00 32:11

Preach it! Preach it. Absolutely preach it.

unknown 32:14

I love it.

SPEAKER_00 32:15

It's so true. Thanks for tuning in. Remember, it's okay to be tired, be bored, just delegate and just get out of it and live this beautiful life.

SPEAKER_01 32:25

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 32:25

Bye, everybody. Bye, guys.