The Team Wade Podcast

From Broken Homes to Unbreakable Covenant

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What does it mean to be a "curse breaker" in your marriage? It's about making the profound decision to halt generational patterns of broken families and divorce that may have plagued your lineage for decades.

Marriage presents countless challenges that test our resolve and commitment. When difficulties arise, many quickly consider throwing in the towel, particularly those raised in a culture of instant gratification. Team Wade share their personal journeys—both coming from homes without both parents present, facing seemingly hopeless moments in their own marriage, yet making the powerful declaration that "divorce is not an option." This commitment to covenant-keeping became the foundation for breaking generational curses in their family line.

The podcast explores how God designed marriage as a multi-generational blessing and why He explicitly states that He "hates divorce." The hosts offer a compelling metaphor for successful marriages: a room with no windows and no doors, where couples must work through issues rather than seeking escape routes. They challenge listeners to anchor themselves in truth rather than fluctuating emotions, especially during seasons when marriage feels impossible. By staying the course, couples not only transform their own relationships but reset the standard for future generations, creating a new legacy of covenant-keeping that reflects God's own faithful nature.

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Speaker 1:

Hello everybody, welcome to another edition of Team Wave, where we're giving you tools for successful marriage.

Speaker 2:

What's happening?

Speaker 1:

Today we want to bring to you another good topic to help you overcome any obstacles that you may be experiencing in your marriage. We do know that marriage is always filled with well not always that marriage is always filled with well not always but marriage is sometimes filled with so many different challenges and we want to make sure that you don't throw in the towel. I believe our last episode we talked about plowing through, plowing in hope, you know, plowing in hope that you're going to overcome and get to a sweet spot. Well, today we're going gonna go a little deeper in that and we're going to talk about what are we gonna talk about?

Speaker 2:

We're gonna talk about being a curse breaker.

Speaker 1:

Being a curse breaker.

Speaker 2:

And what do we mean by being a curse breaker? We mean breaking the curse of broken families, breaking the curse of the voice. And you know, you look in our society, the challenges we see in our society with the breakdown of family has created a lot of problems, especially when you look at the African-American or the Black community, when you see how the enemy has ravaged our community because of the breakdown of family. Yes, and we got to also understand that God is a God of family. Yeah, and he's generational, he's multi-generational, and so the thing is, when he created Adam and Eve, he created them to be one, and then he said be fruitful and multiply. And so throughout the process, he always wanted to create family. So, and then he said this he said I hate divorce. He didn't say I don't like it, I dislike it, he said I hate it. So I mean you, you, you, you feel that's very intense, that's a, that's a strong word. That's a strong word when you say you hate something.

Speaker 2:

And so God said I hate divorce. So God never intended for divorce to happen. And then so in the new covenant, they came to Jesus and said what Moses said write a bill of divorcement. And he said he only said that because of the hardness of the people's heart. So what God is telling us? That many of us, because we're not willing to put in the work, we will allow the curse of broken families to keep going through our family lineage. You know, I know, for me personally, I didn't grow up with a mother and father in the home. Right, you didn't grow up with your mother and father in the home. I was raised by my grandmother.

Speaker 1:

I was raised by my grandparents.

Speaker 2:

And then my mom she's the product of a divorce and verbal and physical abuse and then before that, you know. So you got to think generationally how many of us come from marriages that stick and stay, that die out of the covenant and don't quit out of the covenant? Oh, wow, that's because that's the difference. We want to be covenant fulfillers. Yes, we want to be God. His word is bond. We want to have our word is being bond, that if we say I do, I will, I finish Right. So we got many people. They don't know how to be curse breakers because they don't know how to keep their covenant.

Speaker 1:

And they'll understand that that generational pattern, yeah, you know, I think a lot of I don't think a lot of people really look into generational patterns.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

And are intentional about breaking the generational patterns, like who's going to stand up and stop the pattern, stop the repetitiveness of brokenness or broken marriage or dysfunction in families?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, somebody got to be the curse breaker.

Speaker 1:

Somebody got to stand up.

Speaker 2:

We made a decision. We determined that we were going to be the curse breaker. Our daughter's not going to be the product of broken families, and nor even after they are now grown families, and nor even after they are now grown. We're not going to leave a legacy for a broken family that now there's no hope for them. No, they're going to say our parents made it and they made it and and stayed married into the covenant of death, and we're going to do the same thing so they can pass on to their children, and then their children are going to continue that process. So when we break curses, we then reset the new standard. Oh, that's good.

Speaker 1:

I love that resetting, resetting the standard, resetting it for your, your bloodline yeah you know, not just for you or you and your spouse, but your entire bloodline. We reset everything for our bloodline. So there's an expectation now that because we have broke the curse, we have reset the pattern in our bloodline. Now we're passing down a plowing through. You know type spirit.

Speaker 1:

Yeah yeah, in our bloodline we're depos, yeah, yeah, in our bloodline. We're depositing that type of spirit into our bloodline by teaching it to our girls, by being examples, so that they can have something to fulfill and they can have something to stand on to anchor them when times are rough.

Speaker 2:

And so I hear some of you is really challenging for you of being a curse breaker. But I also hear some of you where you're not the one that want a divorce, but the other person is choosing to walk away or choosing to be in an adulterous relationship. Now that is out of your control. You can't control a free will being of your control. You can't control a free will being. But we're talking to two people that that you're, uh, just going through some challenges and you want to quit on your marriage. You, you don't want to do that. You want to set the standard of righteousness and and break the curse of broken families. You want to be the one that ends that and be committed to your word, because when you stood before that preacher or you stood before that judge and then you said I do to that person, to your spouse, you made a covenant before God and before man, and so are you a person of your word, or are you a person of your word only until it get too hard to stay committed to your word.

Speaker 1:

You know we talked about before we started uh taping, uh how we are in a generation where, um, people are not accustomed to plowing through things, processes, they're not taking the proper processes to get to the other side on that sweet spot. So we talked about a millennial generation. We have these young millennials, or young Gen Zs, who have this microwave mentality where they want everything instant. And so there's a generation out there that's so quick to throw in the towel if things are not working and looking like what they want it to look like instantly. And so you have to make a decision to come out of that mentality, because it's a culture now.

Speaker 1:

It's a whole culture of that.

Speaker 2:

And it's a culture, because everything that you're looking at is being thrown at you, and so you're looking at is being thrown at you, and so you're looking at somebody who didn't edit it alive, and so when they edit it alive, they showing you the start and the finish, they not showing you the process. So they present you a cake without showing you the flour, the butter, the eggs, the sugar, the 45 minutes in the oven, that it took the icing being whipped up.

Speaker 2:

So you got to quit letting people show you a beginning and end life, an edited life, and not showing you a process life. That's so good. So for me, the way we've learned, we learned through processes. I want to see your challenges, I want to see your scars, I want to see how you responded in the trenches. I want to think, I want to know what you were thinking, what made you persevere through, and so we want to speak to those of you that have grown up in that generation and the generation before to encourage you to start looking to people that have longevity and ask them what was your process? Don't think you just going to have this successful life overnight. That is not a reality.

Speaker 1:

Exactly successful life overnight. That is not a reality, exactly so. So we talked about how you know they're bringing in this. You know, instant mentality. I want instant um followers. You know I want, uh, a hundred thousand followers. I want instant viral. I want to be an instant viral sensation that's why everybody want to be an influencer exactly so.

Speaker 1:

So this is this instant society, but if you're going to be a curse breaker, you got to realize that you have to stay the course. You have to work the process of what it looks like in order to go to the other side.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, to be a curse breaker, you got to do things even when you don't feel like it.

Speaker 1:

Even when you don't feel like it, even when it's hard, even when they are acting their worst, you still got to stand and stay anchored in what you know is truth If you're going to break through you just took my word, I was getting ready to use, I was getting ready to say that you have to allow truth to be an anchor for your soul.

Speaker 2:

Now, what is your soul? It is your mind, your will and your emotions. See, the problem is our soul gets emotional because that's where the seat of emotion is in your soul. So, when you feel in a certain way, instead of you making a decision based on what you will to do, you make a feeling based decision. So you need to allow truth to anchor your soul, that, regardless of what I feel, I will do the truth. So truth has to be regardless of what you feel.

Speaker 1:

Regardless. Yeah, even when you feel hopeless, regardless. Listen, there were some times where we felt like it was hopeless. He felt like he married the wrong one. We felt like it was hopeless. He felt like he married the wrong one. I felt like I was hopeless that he would never change. But yet, when we got back into that place of prayer and the lord speaking to us, for and obedience and obedience um. You know, we didn't know.

Speaker 1:

At the time it was feeling hopeless that God had a team way podcast come on to help others overcome my lord the things that we were dealing with at that time. We didn't know that. We just know God was saying stick and stay, don't go nowhere what was our covenant that we made we? Made it, we made a covenant that divorce was not an option.

Speaker 2:

But see some of you. You making a covenant every day that I'm going to get a divorce. Every time you get mad, you say we're going to get a divorce. So you're making a covenant of breaking covenant. We made a covenant that divorce wasn't an option.

Speaker 1:

So we were breaking the curse. We made a decision that we're going to be the. Yeah, we didn't know that terminology at the time.

Speaker 2:

Exactly.

Speaker 1:

But we knew that divorce was not an option and what we were decreeing was we're curse breakers.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and didn't even know we were decreeing that we'll be curse breakers. And so by us decreeing that divorce wasn't an option, you know what that did? That removed the windows and the doors.

Speaker 1:

So we were forced to work.

Speaker 2:

So what we call marriage is being in a room with no windows and no doors. So either you're going to be in that room, miserable, or you're going to do everything you can to work it out because you don't want to live the rest of your life in misery. So we got a lot of you. You got a marriage with windows and doors. So you only go so far, and if it gets too hot and heavy, I'm out.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so we want you to make a decision to put what you call it plywood drywall, whatever it.

Speaker 1:

plow wall, uh, drywall, whatever it is yeah drywall to cover those windows and doors so that you can start the process or you can start working together and not being miserable in that room of marriage. And so we just want to come to you and and encourage you to be the curse breaker and be the ones that you don't know what God wants to use in this. When he brought you two together and you all entered that covenant, then purpose and destiny was birthed for you guys, and who knows, you all may be the next team, whoever, to help the next generation coming behind you to succeed and overcome. So stick and stay the course.

Speaker 1:

Uh, marriage is, is, is godly, is a godly covenant, and god does not like covenant breaking, uh breaking his covenant, and nor does he like us to break our covenant. Amen, amen, well, god bless you. This is team wade signing out. We'll see you next time. We hope that you have subscribed to our patreon account where we're going to be giving you more inside details q a's lives, and we want to talk to you personally to help you overcome your marriage in your marriage. We'll talk to you soon god bless you.