Picture this: your life as a cup, brimming with responsibilities—how do you pour in healthy habits without causing a spill? 🫗
It's all about understanding your bandwidth.
Today we're walking the tightrope between self-kindness and self-improvement.
We'll navigate through the noise of daily to-dos and offer you a lifeline of practical strategies for pinpointing that sweet spot where you can confidently welcome new wellness routines without tipping over.
In this heart-to-heart, we confront the tidal wave of expectations and the art of saying "I'll think about it" instead of an immediate yes. 🙋🏻♀️
I'll share personal anecdotes and the empowering steps I've taken to redistribute chores and set boundaries in my own home.
It's not just about shedding the load; it's about sharing it, teaching responsibility to those around us, and dismantling the sly beast of 'weaponized incompetence' that so often hampers our efforts to delegate.
As we wrap up, I leave you with a treasure trove of affirmations and energy management tips to safeguard your time and well-being.
By the end of our time together, you'll be ready to stand guard at the gates of self-care, armed with newfound strategies that promise to enhance your life's quality, one intentional step at a time.
Trying to figure out if a program or activity will actually promote healthy behavior change? 🙋🏻♀️ Download Keys to Promoting Health Sustaining Behaviors here: https://overcomingu.com/white-paper/
Picture this: your life as a cup, brimming with responsibilities—how do you pour in healthy habits without causing a spill? 🫗
It's all about understanding your bandwidth.
Today we're walking the tightrope between self-kindness and self-improvement.
We'll navigate through the noise of daily to-dos and offer you a lifeline of practical strategies for pinpointing that sweet spot where you can confidently welcome new wellness routines without tipping over.
In this heart-to-heart, we confront the tidal wave of expectations and the art of saying "I'll think about it" instead of an immediate yes. 🙋🏻♀️
I'll share personal anecdotes and the empowering steps I've taken to redistribute chores and set boundaries in my own home.
It's not just about shedding the load; it's about sharing it, teaching responsibility to those around us, and dismantling the sly beast of 'weaponized incompetence' that so often hampers our efforts to delegate.
As we wrap up, I leave you with a treasure trove of affirmations and energy management tips to safeguard your time and well-being.
By the end of our time together, you'll be ready to stand guard at the gates of self-care, armed with newfound strategies that promise to enhance your life's quality, one intentional step at a time.
Trying to figure out if a program or activity will actually promote healthy behavior change? 🙋🏻♀️ Download Keys to Promoting Health Sustaining Behaviors here: https://overcomingu.com/white-paper/
Hi and welcome to the Air we Breathe. I'm your host, heather Sears-Laman. I'm a national board certified health and wellness coach, certified intuitive eating counselor and certified personal trainer. I help you get organized and consistent with healthy habits, without rules, obsession or exhaustion. The Air we Breathe a finding wellbeing that works for you is a podcast created to help you establish a trusted foundation of doable healthy habits and smart self-care skills that can endure every season and last you a lifetime. My guests and I will share ways that you can focus on your physical and mental health with purpose, flexibility and ease.
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This podcast may contain talk about eating disorders and disordered eating. We minimize mentions of specific behaviors and numbers, but it's still a topic nonetheless. There also could be some squares and or adult language here. Choose wisely if those are problematic for you. Hi everyone and welcome to this episode on bandwidth.
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Why do we need to talk about bandwidth? When we are looking at adding habits or kicking our habits up a notch, it's always good to assess how much bandwidth do I have? How am I doing, and is this a good time? Because what happens is inevitably we will decide. Maybe for external reasons, maybe we're not seeing a result that we want. Maybe we're being hard on ourselves. Maybe we've been haven't been as consistent as we like, and then we say, okay, now's the time, this is time we need to do this, to give yourself a fighting chance to do well. It can be really helpful to understand where you are with your bandwidth in a first place.
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Some of us have more control than others over our bandwidth. Many of us might be in a job that doesn't give a lot of freedom or latitude. We might have more responsibilities at home than other people do. We might have more constraints on what we can and cannot do, and that might be physically, emotionally. So we don't just have the freedom to say, oh, you know what, this is really hard on me. So if somebody was caring for a friend, a child, a parent that needed a lot of help, you can't just say I really need to free up some bandwidth here. But what we want to do is look at how we can work with the bandwidth we have and make changes there or make decisions that now is not a good time to do this. Maybe I should wait until time where I do have more bandwidth. Ultimately, we don't want to start on habits that we're not going to be able to keep up, and I think that looking at bandwidth is really just an act of self-kindness, so that we are giving ourself consideration and our external circumstances consideration as well, because obviously it's not very kind to just tell yourself OK, you should be able to do this, go do it. Good luck to me. We really want to have a deeper conversation with ourself, so I'm going to walk through four different steps that I think are really helpful to assess bandwidth. So we were working together one-on-one. These are the steps that we would be going through when we get to the part of, because I always talk about why do you want to do this, why is it important? And then, really, how much ability do you have to do this today? Also, we look forward and back just to see how your bandwidth has changed.
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The first step is assessing your bandwidth. How do I know how much bandwidth I actually have to invest in habits and again, please apply this to yourself this can be for new habits, this can be escalating habits that you have. This can be restarting habits you had before. I like to use a little 0 to 10 scale, so it doesn't have to be fancy, but 0 is I am treading water. I have a 0 bandwidth. I am barely functioning as it is. 10 is footloose and fancy free. I'm feeling so good, I have so much time, I've got resources, maybe I've got money to throw at it, but you know what More is more I'm doing so well.
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So you want to look within that 0 to 10. Decide where you are and at what number would you feel comfortable adding more? Now this for our Type A honeys, who have a constant internal stress on what you should or shouldn't be doing, and whatever you're doing is probably not enough and you could be doing more. We really want to again take a kinder, softer look at our numbers and what is reasonable to add more, and I always have people set a number for themselves because it doesn't really matter what. I think it matters what's going to work for you. So I definitely. If I'm hearing like I might get a one or a two, that might not be a great time, but we're also going to talk about freeing up bandwidth.
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So, whatever that number is for you, definitely jot it down and ask yourself the question do I have any free time? Is there time of day where I actually would have five minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes an hour and also the question am I wasting time on anything? I will give a hearty yes, probably to myself, because do I waste time doing things? Certainly like social media, or I definitely watch some dumb movies or shows that I could live without, and I'm just wasting time actually watching them and I don't think it's replenishing me. And people can go back and forth on this if they want, and it's not because I just need to be productive 24 seven and I really need to be doing all of the things to take care of myself. You can waste as much time as you would like. There are definitely times where I wish I was doing something that was more replenishing and nourishing to myself than what I'm actually doing.
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So these pieces of assessing zero to 10, how do you feel? At what number would you feel comfortable adding more? Do I have any free time and am I wasting time on anything? Those are what I would do first, to assess your bandwidth. Also, my voice cracked so I would look at it as if we're having conversation. I'm completely objective when somebody is talking to me about this, so you don't want to put your twist of oh, you don't have any bandwidth because you're so dumb. You're always saying yes to things. You need to say no or whatever guilt trip, kind of negative inner talk. You just really want to look and see like where am I? Do I have any free time? I wasting time? So just ask yourself those questions, the same way that I would ask you.
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The next piece is freeing up bandwidth. So again, we're all over the spectrum and some people this may be easier for and then some people this may be difficult. Also, it can be easier because you might be a more easy breezy person. You know what. I don't feel bad saying no to this. And it might be more difficult if you're like oh my gosh, the world's going to fall off my axis. If it's axis, if I say no, I'm going to be a bad person. People are going to hate me, everything's going to be over. So your approach to this will actually make a big difference.
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But again, I'm going to go through the questions. We're just going to look at them objectively what can I take off of my plate? So if I want to take something off of my plate to free up my bandwidth, I have to look at I mean it might seem a little overwhelming at what I'm doing what is on my plate, and I always like to hearken back to my single parent days and there were things that perhaps I was doing and that maybe my kids could do. I didn't have a significant other through most of it, and sometimes I had a significant other. They weren't helpful anyway, so good thing I just took him off my plate.
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Anyway, when I look at this, I need to look at what am I doing? So dishes, laundry, grocery cleaning, changing the sheets, all of these things, what are the things that I'm doing? And again, then you might fall off your chair if you look at this list and you're like, oh my gosh, I'm doing all the things. But I think it's helpful If, okay, I'm paying the bills, I'm also working, I do help my in-laws, but just get it all down and write down this huge laundry list. And I think this is going to be helpful in a way, because sometimes you're like why am I so lazy? Why can't I add these habits? What is my problem? And so this list might give you a little more insight as to quote, unquote what your problem is, but why it's so difficult. So if I find some things on this list that I know that I could probably offload.
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It's something that doesn't need to be done by me. So I have that in my work. There are certain things that I need to do, but there are absolutely other things that other people could do. It doesn't have to be done by me, but, like this podcast right now, it's going to be done by me. I got to do this part, but when it comes to editing or social media, things like that, other people can do it. So back to who is going to take it. So let's just make a couple of decisions here, and I always especially like when I had kids getting out of the house nightmare, total nightmare because again it's oh, surprise, you're going to need your shoes, surprise, you're going to have to take your homework with you. But when we look at what's on the plate and so maybe that is policing, the let's get ready to go, who's going to take that? So maybe there are things that I'm absolutely need to hand down to my kids, because I will say this now as having kids that are 21 and 23, they're going to have to do that stuff anyway, and I don't think it helps anyone to not have very many responsibilities when they are going to leave the house and have a lot of responsibilities.
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I will say this also in raising two sons, that I never wanted them to be. That guy that, oh, I don't know how to do it, oh, I'm not sure where it goes. I don't really know what is salmon, I don't. Does it go in the microwave? I didn't want to have that guy that was not helpful to his partner at all. I wanted to have two competent, helpful young men that would go out in the world and hopefully maybe make somebody's life easier and not be the burden that many partners can be Anywho. So back to the who.
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There are things that we could hand off and so that can be easy. Things like getting an outfit ready the night before, and this goes for all the people. So for me, I lay out my clothes for workout the night before. When I used to work in a corporate setting, I would go to the gym before work. So I had to do a lot of things because I had to lay out my workout clothes and then my work clothes and then give me lunch ready, breakfast, like all of those things. Is there somebody else that can help with this? That was it. Mental health end.
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When I say help, I don't mean quote unquote help. The dynamic that you never want to set up is like that All of these things that are on your plate are your responsibility and now you're just asking for help. Nay good person, that is not true, because when it comes to getting out my kids out the door, this is not all my responsibility. And perhaps, if we're looking at things involving our home and the multitude of chores that need to be done in our home, these are not my responsibility. That then other people are helping me with. If you live in my home or you enjoy my home frequently, you're a member of this community and community members take care of our home.
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I think and I've seen a lot of feedback when people set up this dynamic, they're like ooh, we're helping mom, you're not helping mom. Wash your clothes. I'm doing you a favor by washing your clothes, so don't act like you're doing me a favor if you put it away. These are your clothes. So try to hold that energy, because the first energy of oh look, we're all helping mom, no, that makes people feel more entitled, but oh, this really isn't my responsibility, and again they're going to walk out into the world and be shocked at the responsibility they actually have. And, man, I could do 1,600 episodes when it comes to partners.
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Because at my late age of 52, almost 53, I am not here to take care of a grown-up. I am not here to mentor a grown-up of how to take care of things. I'm not here to spend my energy on telling a grown-up how to be a grown-up. That's not my job. Have I signed up for this previously? You, betcha, and that's why I'm talking about it, because it stinks, it takes up so much time and energy and it's a total waste. Because if somebody wanted to act like a grown-up, they would be acting like a grown-up. And me trying to train a grown-up to be a grown-up? No, absolutely not, because there are plenty of opportunities to figure it out yourself. Not that in a relationship you don't have to have communication and get specific about things, but if someone is a sack of potatoes, they are that by choice. They have been enabled to do that. Whether that's you or somebody else, their ineptitude has absolutely been enabled historically.
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Again, that's many episodes we're looking at who is going to take it. And a caveat does this need to be done as well? So I would say, if I'm talking about laundry, yeah, I like clean clothes, but if it's talking about cleaning the baseboards, does somebody need to take that? I don't know. Do your baseboards need to be that clean? Do you need to clean them that often Are there things that are on your plate that maybe don't need to be on anybody's plate? Next question so do I want a gradual approach of taking these things off my plate, or do I want this to be all at once? So can it be broken down? So, if I'm talking about my example, let's just say laundry, and I will say, personally I enjoy doing laundry. I like for my clothes to be clean, I like for them to be neat, I like for them to be organized. This comes from growing up, going to laundromats and never having the choice of having clean clothes or not, because I was a kid, so I like it Makes me feel good to be able to do it.
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So if we're handing off laundry because the wee ones can certainly learn to do laundry again all of these need to be age appropriate. It needs to be appropriate to the responsibilities they've had. So we don't just say it looks like you're doing your laundry. So if I wanted to do a gradual approach, then that could focus more on bringing your laundry and sorting it out here in the laundry room. That's one step and then it could involve OK, now it's all sorted, so now you are going to put it into the washer and then whatever, you can have a little sticky note there with the directions. You can use nail polish to mark off what buttons need to be pushed, but you can absolutely make some guides for information how to do this. And then, well then it's done. It's saying it's little song, what comes next? Put it in the dryer.
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So the big problem I think that comes when people are looking to change these things is it takes work to hand them off and that can really deter a lot of people because it's like now, this is going to take forever because I have to teach someone to do it, and they're stomping their feet and they don't want to Do not be deterred by this step. So we don't want weaponized incompetence, where somebody is just going to do it wrong and they're going to put red socks in your white clothes all the time because then they're like, oh, I guess I don't have to do it. Nay, good person, absolutely not. So do I want to take a gradual approach? Do I just want to say, hey, this is yours. So again, this can go for kids, this can go for partners. This is also appropriate in a work setting Depending.
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I don't know how much I would throw back at my boss, but absolutely can we ask questions about? I don't think I have the bandwidth to do this and can this be taken off my plate. So there are a lot of different ways and different people that you can ask. So here is a caveat, as I like to say. So how am I going to ask this person? So what's my attitude or angle?
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This is where it's really important to not pronounce that you need help, that they need to help you with your chores, and I watched something really interesting recently I think it was just a reel what it was talking about within the gender duties of a household. So we're talking about what's typically a masculine chore and what is typically a feminine chore. The feminine ones are ongoing and never ending and the masculine ones tend to be very finite. Take out the trash. I took out the trash. Now I'm done. Versus laundry we will all be doing laundry until we die. We will all probably be washing dishes until we die. We will be cleaning our toilets until we die, but many of those things that fall onto mowing a yard it depends on what the season is we're trimming a tree. We only have to trim our trees where we live once a year. Just take a peek-see if you are in a relationship where things because usually even in a relationship with the same gender, like that kind of tends to fall into these camps of many of the people that I've coached and talked to.
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So again, I think it's really important that your attitude and angle is that this load needs to be distributed more evenly. And again, who's happy about that? Generally nobody. So be prepared, and that's fine, because when you are doing this you're not going to get a pause, but you will get bandwidth, and that's what we're looking for. So what reminders am I prepared to give? So this bleeds back into this is your job, and now it's your job to remind people to do their jobs and, again, as a grownup, I am not here to be reminded a grownup of what they need to do. So what is it that I can do to create somebody's self reminders, like, how do people remind themselves and slowly come out of the loop?
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So, again, if you're talking about kids, this takes time, certainly, and they have to have natural consequences. I was supposed to do my laundry, I didn't do my laundry and now my basketball jersey is not clean and I've got to go to the game wearing a dirty and wrinkled Okay then, hopefully you won't have to do that very often. Hopefully you won't have to go to very many games watching your kid in their gross, stinky, wrinkled uniform, because they will have understood why it's important for them to do this. I just try to do anything I can to get myself out of the reminder Because, again, this harkens back to this is all my responsibility anyway.
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Now, when it comes to things that are affecting the community, I think that if you find yourself in a place with a lot of reminding, then these items become a priority before other items start. So certainly again, if we're talking about kids yeah, you don't get to play Xbox for two hours If you have not unloaded the dishwasher and put everything away. There are ways to make these a higher priority for them, because the fun stuff doesn't begin. Is this a little harder with a partner? Yes, it is, and again, I could make this so long when talking about partners, and maybe I will do that at a later date really like deep dive in here. But you don't want to be like a nagging this person about this thing that they were supposed to do.
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So is there something and this might sound really petty that I don't do because they're not doing their thing? And maybe I'm just opening up a can of worms here, but let's just say again, I love doing laundry and I do the laundry. But if I have asked someone to take the things out of the garage and have a goodwill pick them up, or I'm going to, or you go drop them up, a goodwill. So we're talking like donations. Okay, then what if I didn't do any laundry until those things got done? And so if that person then wants to start doing their own laundry, okay, we're gonna have to adjust our tactic. But if that person is like, oh wait, I don't have any clean clothes, and I say, yeah, I was waiting for you to take that stuff to goodwill before I started doing laundry again because I was unsure if you would do it. And now it seems like you haven't. And we're back here to the same place where I'm supposed to ask you again. Okay, maybe that sounds super petty.
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I'm not a relationship expert, but I am really tired of taking care of adults who can be competent enough to do their own things. So freeing up what can I take off my plate? Who's going to take it? Do I want it all once approach? Do I want a gradual approach? In what way will I ask them, kind of, what's my attitude, what's my angle and what reminders am I prepared to give or to not give? Okay, so managing how do we manage our bandwidth or our energy level?
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One piece that's really important is what other habits keep my energy going. So the first one that comes to mind here for me is sleep. I have to have sleep. Especially since I have had my thyroid removed. I don't have like extra energy. I don't have the oh my gosh, I stayed up so late, but I feel okay, that does not happen for me. So I have to really look at my sleep level and make sure that I am prioritizing sleep.
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So what other habits might contribute to your energy level? Let's just say I go on a bender of eating a lot of food that's harder for me to digest or makes me feel sleepy or makes me feel lethargic. Then that's going to kind of tank my energy level If I am taking on too much emotionally. So let's just say maybe there has been something and I'm grieving and I'm having a really hard time with that. Is there anything else? Is this something that I should be talking to a professional about?
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Should I be journaling about this more? I say it every time. I like to say it. If you are unsure of how to start journaling, you can always go to heathersairslaymancom backslush journal and download my 3D journaling guide. But looking at these other things that are going to keep my energy going, because the way that we take care of ourselves absolutely contributes to our bandwidth, because if I'm saying I don't have any bandwidth but I stay up an hour too late, doom scrolling on my phone like where we go, we've got something to trim off here, but we can really look at what. Anytime you're looking at what zaps your energy, then you really have the remedy to what gives you energy, which, when we are managing. How do we decide also what else to take on? How do I decide? Invitation is small and large. Many things are not an invitation.
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My mother-in-law was hospitalized last fall and needed a lot of care. I saw her son showing up daily at the hospital and at the rehab facility and then she moved back home. Do I think at that time he probably got as much exercise and sleep as he wanted to? Absolutely not. And was he probably hanging by his fingernails? I would guess so. But that's what the situation called for and he stepped up and he did it.
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And sometimes life is like that and we don't always get an ask about what we can do with our bandwidth. So I always keep those types of things in mind, because it bugs me when people are like we all have the same 24 hours? We don't. And I could list a bazillion reasons why we don't. So could he have said you know what, mom? I know you're temporarily paralyzed right now, but I really need to get back to tennis. Sorry, he could have, and some people do. Look at what we are taking on. So let's just say there's a big PTA fundraiser, there is going to be a big event at work and they need a lot of help with that.
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Where am I bandwidth wise, before I say yes to this? And again, this can play heavily into your concept of self and if I'm not being helpful, who am I and what am I doing? So I always really think that we never say yes in the moment. We absolutely can be like let me get back to you on that. I got to check some things, but you don't always have to say yes and then you can really assess if there's something you want to take on or if you're just like no, because I'm going through this whole process right now, because I'm trying to add some new healthy habits, and now there's this big event that needs scheduled. Like I can't do it. So be sure you don't say yes in the moment.
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Okay, the last piece is defending your bandwidth. So is there any area that I need to push back on? When we're looking at our plates, is there anything coming up that I can decline, but again, it's always one thing to look at what does my plate look like today, but absolutely are there other things coming down the road and you might be free to decline and push back on those things, and I talked about this before. But how can I ask for help or encourage others to be independent? I personally just think that this is incredibly helpful because, again, your kids will leave home.
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Some people really struggle with the need to be needed and that comes from a lot of places. That is our social messaging. Certainly to myself as a woman is it's important to be helpful. So that can be really challenging when you're trying to encourage others to help themselves, because then what is my value if you're helping yourself? How do I help others? See the value of pitching in. So back to what I was saying, again easier with kids and adult. But this is a community, my home is a community and that this family helps each other and we do not and I'm really frank with my kids about stuff like this because again, I'm very concerned about them becoming that guy but that we have a community and we take care of our community together. So if we're talking about more a little bit farther out. So we're talking about, like, siblings and parents and those things like that. I think that having really frank conversations about responsibilities in the family and who's doing what are important, because, absolutely, when it comes to the care of parents, sometimes somebody is closer and somebody is doing way more than everybody else and that is hard all around. We were talking about social situations or work situations.
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It can be very challenging to get people to see the value of pitching in and a lot of people are like I don't want to do anything else. I'm doing a lot right now and that can be a big challenge and what can I do with the negativity? So, again, I said before, if you're asking people to do stuff, a lot of times you get a lot of pushback. And when I look at so we talked about in a couple of episodes ago we're talking about stress management and figuring out your why, like why do I want to work on this? Hopefully you have done that, because that North Star of like why is this important to me? Okay, I said I wanted to feel peaceful, I wanted to feel carefree, I want to be confident, whatever it is that you are wanting is wrapped up in this. So when we're looking at defending against the negativity. You have that North Star and holding it close to your heart, that mm-mm. I said I want to feel confident and content. Confident and content and Wonder Woman style with her big shiny cuffs like phew, letting things bounce off of you, because this is not about you.
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When people have a negative reaction, it's because they don't want to do something. And before agreements, not taking it personally can be incredibly helpful, because usually somebody's response isn't about you anyway, but just understanding that this is about their reluctance. And that's fine, because sometimes if somebody asks me, I'm like, oh, I really want to. We all do it. But if we are trying to even out a workload so you can free up some bandwidth, expecting the negativity but also understanding it's not about you and it's very important that you are defending your own bandwidth. There are different things that you can say to yourself when it comes to all four of these things. So we've got assessing your bandwidth, freeing up bandwidth, managing bandwidth and defending your bandwidth To really get to a place where you can tell yourself I am worthy of taking care of myself.
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And I think that can sound a little corny, it's not a little hokey, but I am worthy of taking care of myself. If something like that is harder for you to say because you have been raised in the vein of helping and doing for others, then you can say my community is better served when I am taking care of myself or if I am at my best. Because, also, if we don't fill our cups, if we're just spilling our cups, giving away our cups, then we don't have anything for ourselves. We are cranky, disconnected, short, certainly not loving. We don't ask people as many questions as I was your day. We don't have that connection with them if we are not taking care of ourselves. So that may be a better one for you. My community is better served when I am taking care of myself and at my best. So when I talk about these steps, hopefully you did a little pause and jotting down. Pause and jotting down. There's also information in the show notes as a reminder if you didn't catch it all.
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But adding small amounts before large amounts is so much more successful. I say that all the time, but it's not that like when you're freeing up bandwidth. It doesn't have to be so you can go to the gym for an hour and a half, it could be, so you could do a 10 minute stretching routine. It could be so you could just have 10 minutes of peace and staring out a window, but it doesn't mean that it necessarily needs to be for an Ironman or an Ultra Marathon. And so small things beget more small things. Success begets success. So making sure that you're approaching it in a way that you can be successful is incredibly helpful. Hopefully, these four steps help you with looking at your bandwidth Because, again, I think it's just so important for you to realize that you're definitely not here in service to everybody else, but taking care of yourself really helps you to feel better, to just have a better attitude every day, because it's hard feeling cranky, it's hard feeling resentful and angry and broken. So I hope that you can use that North Star to help you keep moving forward and freeing up some bandwidth so that you can put habits in place that help you take care of yourself. All right, good luck to you.
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Thanks so much for listening today. Do you know what would be really fun? If you popped over to my Instagram at Heather Sears-Laman and dropped me a DM and let me know what topics you want me to cover? Something bugging you? Something holding you up? Please just let me know and I will tweak some content and get an episode out just for you. As always, please follow the show or you can leave a five star review on Appler's Spotify. That would be fun too. See you in the next episode.