School of Self-Worth
School of Self-Worth is a purposeful podcast and community for the ambitious woman who knows she is worthy of an astoundingly great life. Join us weekly as we redefine success, set and sustain boundaries, and reclaim your self-worth.
Hosted by Nicole Tsong, bestselling author, former journalist, and work/life balance coach, who helps professional women live an aligned life. We will have diverse and meaningful conversations with successful women from all walks of life who share insight about what it takes to be brave, joyful, and yourself every day.
Every single episode is thoughtfully designed to leave you feeling empowered, with tangible tips and advice that will lead you to your next breakthrough.
School of Self-Worth
106: Exit the Perfectionism Trap
What if I told you you don’t need to have it all perfect to be the authority?
One of my clients had been vying for a promotion for a year when she started using my framework.
🔥 She took 10 days off, and when she got back, her boss put her up for promotion.
🔥 Five months later, she accepted a new job as a VP.
🔥 She did this while everyone was saying the economy was awful and there were no jobs available.
🚨 The real problem isn’t how much you’re doing.
The real problem is you are trying to be PERFECT instead of being a LEADER.
Inside this episode, I’ll teach you how to —
✅ Know the precise moments when speaking up will make the most impact.
✅ Reverse the cultural conditioning that keeps you in hiding instead of attracting attention that leads to recognition and being seen.
✅ Generate the intuitive insights that creates demand for your expertise
Working extra hours and fretting over every detail won’t fix your cultural conditioning.
But the right recognition system will.
THE TOP LEARNINGS IN THIS EPISODE:
- Defining the Perfectionism Trap [00:00:45]
- Cultural Conditioning and Perfectionism [00:04:31]
- Impact of Perfectionism on Daily Life [00:07:20]
- Embracing Failure as a Teacher [00:08:36]
- Separating Self-Worth from Performance [00:09:30]
- Strategies to Ease Up on Perfectionism [00:12:15]
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