School of Self-Worth
School of Self-Worth is a purposeful podcast and community for the ambitious woman who knows she is worthy of an astoundingly great life. Join us weekly as we redefine success, set and sustain boundaries, and reclaim your self-worth.
Hosted by Nicole Tsong, bestselling author, former journalist, and work/life balance coach, who helps professional women live an aligned life. We will have diverse and meaningful conversations with successful women from all walks of life who share insight about what it takes to be brave, joyful, and yourself every day.
Every single episode is thoughtfully designed to leave you feeling empowered, with tangible tips and advice that will lead you to your next breakthrough.
School of Self-Worth
Ep 136 - Do this when you've been passed over for promotion
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You’re doing great work. You’re getting positive feedback.
So why are you still being passed over?
In this episode, Nicole unpacks a pattern she sees in high-performing Asian American women who are praised behind the scenes but overlooked when it actually counts. You may be surprised by how your cultural conditioning has held you back.
This isn’t about working harder. It’s about how you’re showing up in the moments that matter most.
If you’ve ever felt frustrated watching others advance while you stay in the same place, this conversation will shift how you think about leadership, visibility, and what it really takes to be seen as promotable.
Nicole shares a few key shifts that can completely change how you’re perceived at work, and why the way you’ve been operating might be the very thing holding you back.
THE TOP LEARNINGS IN THIS EPISODE:
- Emotional Regulation Is Essential for Leadership. [04:02]
- Stop Trying to Make Everyone Happy. [05:10]
- Own Your Authentic, Powerful Voice. [06:52]
- Authority Comes from Authenticity, Not Volume [07:27]
- Detachment from the Goal of Promotion. [08:23]
- Identity Beyond Job Title Enables Advancement. [09:00]
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