Manifest With Minnie
Ever wondered why you're doing all the inner work... journaling, healing, manifesting - but your life still doesn’t fully reflect the version of you you know you're meant to be?
Welcome to the Manifest With Minnie podcast - where spiritual healing meets real strategy to help you actually live the abundant, purpose led life you're here for.
Hosted by Minnie Courtney, spiritual business mentor, manifestation coach, and creator with 150k+ followers, this podcast is your go to space for healing trauma, owning your worth, building your brand, and scaling your soul led coaching business.
Each week, you'll hear episodes on:
✨ Healing patterns like self doubt, low self worth, people pleasing & anxious attachment
✨ Manifestation and mindset shifts that actually stick
✨ Strategy for spiritual coaches ready to be seen, paid, and in purpose
✨ Real talk on relationships, identity, feminine energy & visibility
This space is made for the woman who’s done playing small - the high-achieving, heart-led, boujee babe who craves both inner peace and outer success.
Whether you're deep in your healing era or ready to coach others through theirs, you're in the right place.
Minnie went from anxious, broke, and stuck in trauma cycles to building multiple businesses, travelling the world, and helping other women scale to £30k+ months... all without selling out their soul.
If you’re ready to go from healing to leading, this is your podcast.
Manifest With Minnie
"Main Character Energy" Isn’t What You Think... Unlock Your Self Worth
Say goodbye to people pleasing, external validation and not seeing your manifestation success exploding because today we're stepping into self-worth and embodying main character energy.
• The roots of self-worth in childhood experiences
• The consequences of seeking external validation from others
• Understanding main character energy as a tool
• Balancing the heaviness with playful exploration
• The dangers of people-pleasing and toxic relationships
• Reframing fear
• Affirmations & shadow work prompts
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self-worth has been a key pillar in my journey. As a child I was the main character. There is photos of me on holiday with my family when I was around eight years old and you know, childhood trauma side, all of that stuff I was this little overweight girl striking all the poses everywhere and you know, some of my family members were even embarrassed about that. And that probably leads us into the journey to reconnecting with that main character energy. And as I went to Reconnecting with that main character energy and as I went to secondary school, high school, I got the first kind of external pushback, the external message that you shouldn't be taking up this space, you shouldn't be shining so brightly, cute All of these things right. And then I went to dance school to study dance professionally and those insecurities had already started to seed of my body is not how it should be, I'm too big, I'm like this, my nose is too big, etc. Etc. People aren't choosing me. And then you know, anyone who's danced in that, in that professional setting, knows the pressure of constantly seeing all of these other beautiful girls and literally having to be chosen, literally going to auditions and getting that direct yes or no, and from there my self-worth was probably at a low. I started to cover over that pain by seeking external validation from men. I tried out many different ways. I'm you know, I'm an experimenter, so I tried many different ways to cover over all of the pains and all of the low self-worth through smoking weed, through drinking alcohol, through sex, through accomplishment and being the best answer. And every single thing taught me something. But I was constantly faced back with the emptiness of not being connected to your own self-worth, because none of these things can bring you self-worth. Having the best relationship, having the best body, having the best career cannot bring you self-worth. Why? Because self-worth is an internal, intrinsic value. Right, self-worth is inherent and it's not something that you can ever earn. It's something that you embody and that's why main character energy is such a tangible and easy way for us to play around with embodying self-worth. And easy way for us to play around with embodying self-worth.
Speaker 1:A lot of the self-worth work is very deep and very heavy and it is going back into those painful moments. It's going back into all the times when you felt that you weren't enough, when people didn't show up for you, when you had to perform to earn love, all of these things and it can get very heavy and also, at a certain point, you've really done that work and so if you're finding it pretty heavy right now or you feel like you've just been doing so much healing work, you've been on that journey for a few years and there's still a level of freedom that you feel that you don't have. There's still a level of confidence, a level of just knowing I am the bomb that's not dropping in. Yet. I would recommend getting playful with it and looking at how you can channel something like main character energy into your life.
Speaker 1:Main character energy does not, it is not defined by anything external. You could be the quietest person in the room and have major main character energy, and if you really observe people, you often will notice that that is the case. Some of the and everyone's different right, but some of the loudest people, some of the people who are saying I love myself, I think I'm amazing, I am so hot, I look at all this money I have, whatever it might be, they might not have that self-worth and you can feel it energetically and they can never escape or avoid that. And vice versa, you might your natural nature might be to share a lot with the world. You might be very talkative, you might be louder, you might be expressionist, and that's what your main character energy is going to look like. It's different for everyone, and what we're doing when we're coming back to this main character energy, it isn't really putting on a front or playing some type of character, but it's just connecting as deeply as possible into our authenticity, our authentics. I can promise you, right now, the best version of yourself is your authentic self.
Speaker 1:And when you're seeking some type of validation because you don't have inherent self-worth, you're likely to get very lost in what is authentic to you or not, because you're just going to start to model. What do you see other people getting validation for? Okay, let me try that. What have I got validation for in the past? Let me do more of that. And you're not going to be able to hear your soul's voice, which is constantly pushing you towards what is authentic for you and what is actually going to bring you the most abundance, the most fulfillment and the most peace in life.
Speaker 1:And so main character energy is not arrogance, it is not full of yourself, it is not selfish to relentlessly choose main character energy because it is actually the most spiritual path that you can take. And if you are not connected to your lights, if you're not revealing the best version of yourself, you're only going to be giving to others 50% of what you're capable of. You're only going to be giving to others 50% of what you're capable of. You're only going to be impacting other people. You're only going to be valued as a employee, as a girlfriend, as a sister, whatever it might be, to the level of your self-worth, to the level that you are able to reveal your authenticity. Because you're only ever going to be able to give a small fraction of yourself if you're not claiming 100% of yourself, if you're not claiming it all.
Speaker 1:And when you become the main character of your life, you stop people pleasing, you stop doubting yourself, you stop letting yourself entertain misaligned situations, because you truly want what is best for yourself. You're truly advocating for yourself, and we all know in this world we are the, the writer, the narrator and the director of our own story, and so if you are not writing yourself in as the main character, if you are not truly wanting the best for yourself, truly being a advocate for what is best for yourself, everything else falls apart in the plot and in the storyline right. We all want the main character to win, we all want the main character to be free, to be confident, to have success, to have blessings, and so if you just remember and realize that you are the main character, you can start to want that for yourself, and it's okay if it is something that you have to put a little bit more effort and thought into, if that doesn't come naturally to you yet. Everyone has a story, everyone has. You know, every great main character has a backstory. We do not connect so deeply with a character who just has always had it all, who's just naturally confident, who never went through any struggles, who was never told that she wasn't good enough. Right, we all love to see this journey, this hero's journey of having a great fall, having great lessons and challenges to overcome, and seeing her rise through that. And you don't see this character as flawed because of that past and because of that journey that they're going through. You see them as real, as authentic, as like beautiful pieces of art, and you stick with them and you see it out and that's exactly what we get to give to ourself. And so if right now that's something that you have to remind yourself of more. That's okay, that's part of the process.
Speaker 1:And putting in sometimes this energy of confidence, this energy of self-worth, it's very amorphous, it's very, like, kind of hard to pin down. Like what does that mean? How do I practice that? Yeah, I know I want to improve my self-worth, I want to prove myself love, I want to improve my confidence, all of these things. But like, where do you tangibly start Right? And so that's where I think, asking yourself this question of how can I be the main character, how would the main character dress today If I was the main character of my story, if I thought so highly of myself, how would I show up in my relationships? How would I protect my energy and my time? How would I set boundaries? How would I care for myself? Each day, or just this day, just start right, where, where our feet are, just in this next 24 hours.
Speaker 1:And of course, we have our rituals and our tools that can help to remind us of this and bring us back to this energy. Mirror work, you know, especially when we're looking at just our self-concept, mirror work can be great. Just talking those things, even then, just talking those things out loud, asking the universe to help you with those things, saying your affirmations, doing your EFT tapping, celebrating yourself, surrounding yourself with people who are not intimidated by you being the main character. And how do you find those people? You find people who are already putting themselves as the main character in their life, and then no one is being selfish, because everyone is the main character. Everyone gets to have that role. You're not taking anything from anyone else by stepping into that role, and if anyone wants you to not put yourself in that role, you should seriously question the purpose of this person in your life.
Speaker 1:And the most likely and really the only option for that is the only time that will happen is when they themselves are not the main character in their own life, when they themselves are looking to take from others, when they themselves see the light in you that you don't see fully yet, and they are intimidated by that, or they see it as an energy source for themselves, because they don't have their own self-worth as their energy source, and so they then want to harvest this light from yourself, and if we play this out on a long enough time horizon, this leads to destruction for both you and them you enabling their trauma responses, you enabling them to siphon energy off of others rather than taking responsibility for being the main character in their own life and having their own self-worth and doing their own healing is not a service to them, it is a disservice. It is not helping them with their soul's progression. It is slowing them down. It is adding more negative karma onto their soul from this energy harvesting that they are doing to you. So it is not actually pleasing anyone right, and what you'll find is that because they are trying to gain energy through this impure source, through this impure channel of siphoning it from you, of keeping you down, of taking your light, they're not actually able to hold on to that energy because it's not real energy, it's not pure, it's not meant for them and therefore it always leaves them and they always feel more and more unsatisfied and they always want more than the last time. They always want a bigger hit the next time, a bigger sacrifice, and how do you think that feels for them? All right, nobody's having fun in the game of people pleasing. In the game of people pleasing in the game of toxic relationships, in the game of over giving, in the game of trying to earn love, nobody wins if you play it out over a long enough time horizon. Nobody will win, however. It is just like a journey with drug addiction. There will be moments of highs. Those highs will feel higher than anything. You naturally experience in your baseline when you finally get that breadcrumb of love from that person that you've been trying so hard to please, when they finally give you that one validating compliment after always feeling that you're never good enough, never pretty enough and never smart enough, it will feel higher than anything and the crash will also be harder than anything.
Speaker 1:If you want stability, if you want long-term fulfillment, if you want long-term peace, everything has to be energetically earned in the right way. If you want long-term peace, everything has to be energetically earned in the right way. You can't win fulfillment and spiritual growth and happiness and a healthy relationship and abundance by giving into your old coping mechanisms and just doing what you've always done. Because what's going to get you to that highest self embodiment? Right, because your higher self, she already exists, she's not worried, that's all there. The energy is all there, but what's going to allow it to actually manifest into your physical reality is never going to be by staying in the same patterns that have got you to where you are now. If these patterns worked, you would already have that money, you would already have that healthy relationship, you would already have that body, the health, the world travel, the social media growth, whatever it is that you see as part of your soul's progression, that you want to manifest, that you want to call in.
Speaker 1:Something is going to have to change. You are going to have to elevate, you are going to have to step up, and I want to share a couple of shadow work prompts. These are not so much shadow work prompts for our topic today, but more of expansion prompts to help us expand and to help us to step into this energy and, of course, some affirmations, as always. If you've listened to the podcast before, you know that I do have a proven process where I guide you personally through exactly what's worked for me and what's worked for countless clients over the past years to be able to have this transformation of going from the self-doubt and anxiety and overthinking and the people pleasing to being the most powerful versions of their self and seeing all areas of their life explode and having that be natural, having that be their subconscious set point. So it doesn't have to be this constant healing like death game, right. So if you want more support with that, you can apply for one-on-one coaching in the show notes so you can also join the portal membership and get group coaching with me and training videos of the process. So our prompts for today.
Speaker 1:Number one what scary or bad thing could happen if I claimed my most powerful main character energy today. What could be scary about that? What are all my fears? Make a fear inventory of it. Write them all down. Don't be scared to look at them right, because the most powerful version of you is not hiding from her fears, she's facing them. So write them all down here. And the second question is am I willing to sacrifice my greatness and my fulfillment and my soul's potential to appease these fears? Am I willing to sacrifice that for these fears?
Speaker 1:Number three if my confidence were to 10x tomorrow, if I was to wake up, somebody had waved a magic wand and I had just 10x the level of confidence that I have now. I had this sense of healthy ego that those of us who are, you know, growing up without emotional, emotionally available parents, who are going leaning more towards the anxious attachment style, the people pleasing these powerful spiritual souls who don't have like the gates in the container to be able to channel their energy. Yet If I was to wake up and that was that was just released from me I was just my most confident self, 10x of where I am today. What would have to change in my life? What would I have to let go of? How would I be moving? What fearless, bold steps would I be taking? What would I not be tolerating anymore? What would I not be tolerating anymore?
Speaker 1:And prompt number four, very important If you're going to do any one of these, it should be this one what are three baby steps I'm actually willing and able to implement from today to step into my main character energy. Three baby steps Ask your soul what it is, pause this recording and trust whatever comes through, even if it doesn't make sense to you. And lastly, our affirmations. I choose myself relentlessly and this makes me able to serve others at the highest level. As I honor and choose myself, I honor a higher power. Because I am part of a higher power, I ask to draw down a divine level of respect for myself.
Speaker 1:Being the main character of my movie is my true nature. God, help me to boldly claim my unique, authentic self. Give me the strength to walk authentically and fearlessly. Help me to think highly of myself, knowing I am a perfect divine creation. Allow me to share my light with the world in a healthy way. Remove any thoughts of comparison or not enoughness from my vessel so that I might be able to shine my light in the world. I hope that these affirmations resonated with you today and I cannot wait to hear if anyone implements these. If you have any experiences, anything that you unlock by stepping into your main character energy, please feel free to share it with me over on Instagram. I always love to hear your personal experiences and until then, I will see you in the next episode. Hope you have a beautiful, beautiful day and a miraculous life.