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Letting Go: The Message You've Been Needing

• Minnie Courtney

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Breaking free from relationships and habits that no longer serve us is crucial for personal growth and fulfilment. Letting go may seem scary, but this transformative process opens doors to new possibilities.

• Understanding the spiritual significance of letting go 
• The importance of identifying emotional attachments and nostalgia 
• Recognising when to release instead of cling to the past 
• Practical steps for letting go of relationships and beliefs 
• Overcoming fears associated with change and the unknown 
• Affirmations and journaling prompts 


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how to know when it is time to let go of something in your life, how to make the decision on how to create that ending and how to be okay with the unknown of letting things go. This is such a important topic for anyone who is wanting to have more for themselves, who is wanting to create a life that consists of levels of love, levels of safety, levels of financial abundance, levels of success, just a lifestyle and an internal set point that you've never experienced before, because I can guarantee you, inevitably it's going to require a lot of letting go and a lot of releasing. If you're somebody who has a tendency to have a big heart, who is very compassionate, who is maybe nostalgic, maybe you're a water sign, it's going to be an especially golden spiritual opportunity for you, because that's exactly how I am, how I have always been, and this has been so, so, so powerful for me. I want to share that. Even if you do have a big heart, even if you see the best in other people, what we need to realize is that seeing the best in other people is not an excuse for us to stay attached to a vibration that we want to outgrow. A person does not have to be bad or toxic, for you to move past it, for you to outgrow it, for you to outgrow it, and until you give yourself permission to outgrow everything that is good but isn't magnetically incredibly sensational, that just lights up your soul, you're gonna stay at the same level that you're at and a lot of times we want to see the next level, we want to see the kind of like shoreline before we step off the boat. But that is not how manifestation works and I've seen it over and over and over again in my life and people around me and, of course, in clients around me and, of course, in clients.

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I always was really lucky to have my sister, who I talk about all the time, but she had and has a very different spiritual setup. She's a fire sign, she moves quickly, she's very able to let go of old versions of herself, old identities, relationships, friendships, whatever it might be, and if you know any Aries, they really prioritize themselves and I was able to notice and witness through that. At some points I was like how is she doing that? Why is she doing that? Oh, is that mean? Is that right? And I saw how she was able to move so much quickly, so much faster because she didn't have this baggage weighing her down.

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And that requires that speed, requires you to move in the dark, it requires you to move before you see the next level. And a lot of times you're not going to have even the space, energetically or physically, to see what's possible for you until you let go of where you're at. How are you going to move into being a securely attached, healthy, peaceful girl who doesn't chase anyone, when you're still involving yourself in any way with the energies and the people that represent the version of you who is needy, who does chase, who needs those answers, who feels that she's not lovable and wants to earn that love? You're not going to be a vibrational match for the new timeline whilst you're still staying at the vibration of the old timeline. And it sounds so obvious, it sounds so clear when you put it that way. If you understand manifestation, if you understand how the spiritual system works, it makes total sense.

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And maybe you're not ready right now to start at the most huge things in your life that come with all the baggage of your past, pain and your wounds and all of those things. But even just looking around your house and looking at what are you holding on to? What clothes, what shoes, what items, what hobbies it might be, what casual acquaintances are? You still responding to their messages, even though you know this person brings no value to your life. But you just feel this obligation, that it would be rude or it wouldn't be nice, and there's a way that you can even respond to people, respond to the messages or, you know, maybe say hello if you're passing them at the workplace or in the street or whatever it might be. But your energy internally is completely retracted. You're not opening up, you're not needing anything from this person, you're not sharing details of your life, and so You're not opening up. You're not needing anything from this person. You're not sharing details of your life, and so you're not forming that energetic bond with them that's going to keep you stuck. And so it doesn't have to be a big dramatic exit or a big dramatic conversation about why you don't want this person in your life.

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Right, it can be very, very peaceful, very, very calm and just very, very natural, and that all depends on your consciousness and your energy. But the more that you feel that you owe anyone something, that you have an obligation this comes up a lot with family as well, the more that you feel that you have an obligation this comes up a lot with family as well the more that you feel that you have that obligation, the more that the tests are going to keep coming up on your path to prompt and push you to move past that level of obligation and to prioritize yourself and to choose yourself, because who wins in the game of you lowering your vibration out of obligation? You have to go and spend time with them because it's a family member, because they were there for you at a past time when you needed somebody. Let's say it's a friendship and you see that this person is maybe very negative. They complain a lot, they gossip a lot. You're moving past that. They're staying at the same level of success in their career. They're saying, choosing the same type of guys and you're wanting so much more for yourself. You're starting a business. You're choosing new types of people. You're putting yourself out there into the world, starting hobbies. You're investing in your healing journey. You started coaching, whatever it might be. You're becoming a new person because of the actions that you've put in, but this person isn. However, you remember that time when they brought food around when you were feeling sick, or they stayed up late talking to you on the phone because you were heartbroken and you feel this sense of one obligation, two, loyalty, and also three, just compassion and tenderness for what that was, that nostalgia, that love in your heart.

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And the truth is that every single person is 50 good and 50 negative, 50 good, 50 bad. And you know the other type of the situation where people stay because they feel that loyalty, they feel that connection, they feel that community, they feel that they finally found somewhere where they can belong, or this person sees them and so they choose to stay. That happens in gangs, right. That happens in abusive relationships. That's not a healthy thing. That's not how we want to be making our decisions. Those gang members that they choose to stay with, those abusive partners that people stay in relationships with have that 50% good. People stay in relationships with have that 50% good. They have that history, they have that sense of community with them, they feel comfortable and safe, it feels familiar, and so they choose to stay. And that's not to say that there isn't that 50% good in all of those situations, because believe me, that there is, there always is.

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If it was 100% bad, it would all be clear and I wouldn't even be making this podcast and you know we wouldn't be learning anything. And so it's really a decision and a faith that it's safe to let go of the 50% good that you're seeing in this situation or in this person right now. Go with the 50% good that you're seeing in this situation or in this person right now, and not only is it safe but it's required if you want not just good for your life, but incredible, if you want to fulfill your whole soul's potential, which is huge. I can guarantee that, wherever you're at now and I'm sure if you're listening to this podcast you've probably already been growing a lot because you're taking the time to listen. But however far you've grown now, I know that there is just a level, so much higher than where you are now, that is accessible to you, that's available to you, that the universe wants you to achieve.

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There is so many more blessings in every single area of your life, even the areas where you feel content. There is so much more to unlock there, and this is what is the difference between good and great. It is those moments of letting go where it would feel familiar and comfortable to stay. There is so much freedom in this and you really want to ask yourself if I could have anything in the world, if I could have any type of friendship yourself, if I could have anything in the world, if I could have any type of friendship, if I could have any type of job, if I could have any type of love, would I describe exactly what I have now? And if I knew that there was more, if I knew that, as soon as I let go of this, something bigger, better and greater was going to come right along, would I choose to stay?

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And sometimes it's, as I said, it's not always a big dramatic thing. It's not always that you have to block this person or cut them off. It might just be retracting your energy and sometimes it might be that you need to block them and cut them off. A question I would ask myself is what is the next level going to require me to let go of, going to require me to let go of? What am I entertaining in my life that the version of me who is 10 steps ahead would not entertain, would not find acceptable? And this is really what we want to weed out.

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Okay, I want to go through some journaling prompts and this topic is a very it's very personal. It's very, you know, situational, and so I'm going to give you some more general prompts which are going to help you with uncovering what might be making it hard or what might be blocking you from letting go, if you know there are things to let go of and how to move forward with also preventing things, and it's not and that's the thing. If you do have things to let go of, it doesn't mean that you've made bad decisions. It doesn't mean that that person wasn't exactly supposed to be in your life at that time. You needed that support. Maybe you needed that person to bring you that food when you were sick, but you don't need them at your next level, and the people that are going to come in at your next level are going to provide you the type of support that you need.

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Now, a lot of times, when we go on a healing journey, we need things from other people because we weren't yet able to give them to ourself. And as we grow into this new version of ourself, as we strengthen ourself and we connect more to our soul, we become a lot more self-sustaining and we need less from other people and what we desire changes and shifts and if you feel like this is the best that you're ever going to be able to get what you're holding on to now, because you've got evidence of that, maybe this was the best friendship, the first one who really stuck with you, maybe this was the best relationship. The only guy that ever you know gave you a taste of princess treatment or told you that you know you didn't need to change, or made you feel a certain type of safety or a certain type of love or a new level of passion, and you're thinking I've never had anything like this before. How can I let go of this? Because I'm I'm scared, I'm never going to find it again. You know, of all those years of living, this was the only one time I found it.

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I want you to know that the reason that you didn't find anything better than this before was because your vibration was not a match to call in anything higher than that. You attracted exactly what you were a match to at that time. You attracted the relationship, the job situation, the friendships of which you were a match to at that level. If you are healing and growing, you are not going to stay a match to those things Now. Some of those things will evolve with you, which is beautiful and amazing, and some of those people and those situations won't, because they're on their own soul journey and you moving beyond. That is not nasty and they're not a victim of anything. They're on their own soul journey and they need people that see them and understand them and are on that level with them. And if you're not, then you're not, and so there was never any mistakes. There was only ever different phases of the journey.

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So here are the prompts for you. Number what needs did this relationship temporarily fulfill that I now have the power to give myself? Number two what emotions or beliefs do I need to release to allow myself to detach? Number three what version of me is waiting on the other side of this release? Number four if I fully trusted the universe's plan for me and trusted that was an endless abundance, what would I do next? What boundaries will I set to protect my energy as I move forward? And lastly, as I release, what forward action steps will I take to make space for more aligned connections, affirmations to use to help in this process? If you're in that letting go, if you're ready to level up, I give myself permission to walk away from what doesn't align. Letting go creates space for miracles to flow into my life.

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Every ending is the start of a better chapter. I allow myself to evolve and rise. I'm always protected. There is an endless abundance. I never lose anything. I walk with complete faith. Fear does not control my decisions. I'm never missing out on anything because everything that is meant for me will always be in my life, so as always. If any of these things call out to you, set yourself a seven-day challenge and work on it each day. The the miracles that are waiting for you. I'm just so excited and I'm so excited and I'm like cheering you on from the sidelines of like, please don't be scared, please don't be scared.

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I remember literally like the most vivid memory that relates to this for me is like looking out my window at one point when this guy was breaking up with me and I was crying and we had this toxic on and off connection. I looked out the window and he blew up a kiss to me and it was just like a movie moment. I was like, how can I be losing this? This is terrible, and it really felt like I was losing out on something my ego did not want to let go of that. My ego did not want that to end.

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And what happened after that? I went on a secondary healing wave. I found some beliefs and wounds within myself that were holding me back in every area. I did a deep cleanse of all my neediness and for the first time in 20 plus years whatever I was free from anxious attachment. I did not have a need to chase anymore. I started to look better, I started to feel better. I think, quadrupled my income. My social media following grew exponentially. I think I gained about 50,000 followers after that and I started. I made new friends, which opened me up to new hobbies. I started dancing again and I got a whole new life, and that never would have been possible if it wasn't for the ending.

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Do not let your ego trick you in to thinking that what you have is as good as it gets, and sometimes what you have gets taken away from you because what you deserve is actually so much more, because what you deserve is actually so much more, and so if any of this relates to you, if any of this resonates, I have a lot of ways to support you with that, and if you want to hear more about that, you've got the links below to apply for one-on-one coaching.

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I can take you through my complete process or a fine release receive process with all the tools you need to make every ending the best, most exciting up level in your life, and the results from that are crazy. You can see that on my Instagram. I've got a lot of clients sharing about their experiences or, if you want to hear about how it's going for other people and, as always, if you have any personal sharings, if there's anything that stood out to you, if you've got any other questions about anything from this episode, then please let me know over on the instagram, dms. Other than that, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll see you in the next episode.