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Judging Others Is Actually Destroying Your Manifestations (What To Do Instead)

• Minnie Courtney

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Judgment might be the most subtle yet powerful force sabotaging your manifestations and spiritual growth. I'm diving deep into something we all struggle with—those sneaky judgmental thoughts that feel so justified in the moment but silently drain our energetic resources.

Have you ever wondered why judgment is so addictive? There's a reason your mind keeps returning to those critical thoughts about others. Each time you judge someone, you receive an instant energetic "hit"—a brief feeling of superiority or stimulation that gives your ego a boost. It feels good momentarily, which is precisely why it's so hard to stop. But this temporary high comes at a devastating cost to your manifestation abilities and spiritual alignment.

The profound truth is that if your soul had incarnated into that "annoying" person's body—with their exact brain chemistry, life experiences, and pre-selected "soul settings"—you would be making identical choices. We're all the same divine energy experiencing human life through different temporary vehicles. When you judge others, you're not actually elevating yourself; you're reinforcing separation in a universe designed for unity.

I'm sharing practical techniques to break free from judgment, including a powerful pre-sleep ritual to clear negative energy, simple affirmations to rewire your thinking, and shadow work prompts to understand what your judgment of others reveals about your own hidden fears. The spiritual system I teach shows that the more we extend compassion rather than criticism, the more we open ourselves to divine blessings and protection from chaos.

Ready to transform judgment into spiritual growth? Your manifestations depend on it. Take a moment today to notice when judgment arises, pause, and choose connection instead. Your energetic bank account—and your future manifestations—will thank you.

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hi loves. Okay, if you judge people, I want a public service announcement starting off no judgment. Okay, I am not judging your judgment and this is a. This is a safe space for us. Okay, because this is something that so many people struggle with.

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And if you've listened to my other episodes, if you have an understanding of the spiritual system, which I teach inside my programs, then you know just how sneaky the judgment is, because a lot of times it's so valid. A lot of times things are not fair. A lot of times things are not fair. A lot of times things are wrong, and so it feels like okay, why should I not be angry about this? Why should I not be judging them for doing that? Because that is wrong and so that's how it sneaks up on us. But, as I said, if you know the spiritual system, then you know how damaging this is for our ability to manifest, for our ability to feel fulfilled, for our ability to attract blessings and avoid chaos in our life.

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Judgment is one of the fastest ways to drain your energetic bank account, right, if you think about all the manifestations that you want as something that you have to purchase by building up your energetic bank account Every single time that you resist judgment in any situation, you resist pulling that raised eyebrow, you resist that snarky comment, you resist going and telling your friend about how terrible this person looked, or about how she's not recycling or about how this colleague was not doing their job properly. Every time you do that, you're building up, you're stacking up your energetic bank account for you to earn more manifestations, your energetic bank account for you to earn more manifestations. Every single time that you do get sucked into that judgment, into that gossip, into the complaining, into the complaining thought spirals that even happen in our own head. Why are they doing that? Why don't they know better? Don't they have any common sense? This is so stupid. How could you do that to this person? I would never do that. As soon as you get stuck into that, I just want you to like, just imagine, like, ching, ching, ching all of that energetic bank account, just like draining out a giant hole with it, just like sucking away to nothing. Right, that is not what we want and that's why I care about this so much for you.

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It's not because even so much of the other people, because a lot of times, the judgment happens in our own head and it feels very like a victimless crime. Maybe you're not saying mean things to them. Maybe you are, but maybe you're not, and this is about you. The damage that happens when you judge other people is only damage to yourself. So why is it so addictive? Because you might already know this right, like nobody, I think, really has a goal, especially if you're the type of person that's listening to this podcast. It's probably not your goal of like, I want to be a really judgmental person. I really want to be irritated by all the stupid things that people do and I want to be, like, really superior to everyone else and constantly noticing how people are doing things wrong. Right, like. That's not your.

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So why does it tempt us in and seduce us so subtly to be doing it again? Well, the real reason for that is because every time you judge somebody, it doesn't just drain your energetic bank account account. What it first does is give you a hit, gives you a spike, a spike of energy. You get instant gratification, you get a subconscious feeling of superiority, of superiority. You get a kick of chaos, of stimulation, which you might be addicted to. Right, whichever way that your system has become addicted to this, if you don't want to be a judgmental person, but you find yourself judging or complaining about other people, even in your own head, then know that you are getting a payoff for this. You are getting a little boost within yourself for doing this. Even if you don't realize it yet, it feels good in some way to you, otherwise you would not continue doing it.

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Our bodies and our systems do not continue doing anything that has no payoff for us. It costs our body too many calories to do that right. Every thought is costing you calories, so it's only going towards thoughts that are giving you a payoff in some type of way, and so oftentimes we seek this payoff the most when we feel some type of lack within ourselves, when we feel that we are low in some way, when we're not good enough, we're not smart enough, we're not pretty enough. We may look for the ways that other people are not good enough, smart enough or pretty enough, so that we can just boost our ego a little bit, so that we can feel a little bit superior, so that we can have something to entertain our minds with. And that's another thing is that we just your mind is like a toddler, you know, if you don't give it anything cool and useful and constructive to do, it will just like go crazy and start like drawing on the walls and doing destructive things. And it's exactly the same with our mind. It's just like a little monkey if you don't give it something very meaningful and constructive and energy consuming to do, it will find other ways to burn off those calories and that energy and it will start picking out everything right.

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When you are so busy and focused on building your life to be the best it can be building your relationships, building your business, building your social media presence, building the charity that you're working on, building your body to be able to run the marathon that you're running, whatever it is when you are so focused on that, I can guarantee you will have a huge decrease of the amount of judgment that you are accidentally giving out to other people. And think about that. Over the times of your life, the times when people were just getting under your skin the most, was it times when you were really happy, happily, passionately working on a very meaningful and important project. Think about times when you felt less judgmental towards others and notice the patterns there. And so if we know that we're getting this payoff, we have to stop getting the payoff in order to stop doing the action right. And so the way that we can do this is we want to push down the superiority that we feel when we judge other people.

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So, for example, what I do is, if a thought comes into my mind of, like that wasn't very clever what that person just did, I will immediately follow that with. I also do things that are really not clever. I do really not clever things. I do stupid things. Many times If I think like, oh, you know, these thoughts come into our head, oh, I wouldn't have wore that outfit, I wouldn't have put that together, I 'll immediately follow that with. People probably think that about my outfits all the time. When I look at my outfits from the past, I wouldn't wear them either.

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And so what this is doing, this is not degrading ourselves. This is not going on a 10 minute spiral about how terrible we are Not at all, because we already know that we're amazing, we're worthy, we're God beings, we're all of these things right. But this is just kind of like an antidote, a little balance point to the superiority hit that we're likely getting from judging other people, and so we're just putting a plaster over that and we're bringing ourselves together into connection with this person, rather than allowing this judgmental thought to place ourselves on a pedestal above them. That gives us an ego boost. We bring ourselves right back to them, because the truth of the matter is obviously, none of us are perfect. And even deeper than that.

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If you were that person, if your soul had incarnated to be that being, with this person's life experiences, with this person's brain chemistry, with this person's star sign, with this person's human design, all of things, you would be making the exact same decisions that they are making right now. You would be making the same choices, you would be doing the same things and you would be irritating people in the exact same way that they are irritating you right now. And so the only thing that's separating you from them really is just a human body that you decided to incarnate into in this round and just choices that you made. And if it seems, for example, like okay, why are they this? Why is this person not spiritual? Why is this person not spiritually aware? That's so stupid of them I have have spiritual awareness I'm like amazing, because I have spiritual awareness. That's when you want to remind yourself that you don't have anything right.

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We all chose what level of spiritual awareness we were going to have before we came to earth. We chose what level of intellect you're going to have. You chose what interests you were going to have. You chose what level of common sense you were going to have before you came you were going to have. You chose what level of common sense you were going to have before you came. You chose what settings you wanted for your meat suit before you incarnated, because those were the perfect settings for you to learn the lessons that you needed to learn.

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So it's not that this person is lacking something by not being as spiritually aware as you or whatever it might be something by not being as spiritually aware as you or whatever it might be. It's that that soul chose to come into a body that had only that level of spiritual awareness and no more, because there were lessons that they needed to learn that could only be learned by playing life with those settings. And so for sure you've been in a body that also didn't have spiritual awareness. So what makes you special right now? Now, just because you chose different settings, that soul that is in that person's body, that has no spiritual awareness right now, in the next lifetime, they might choose to come back with a setting level that has 10 times more spiritual awareness than what you currently have right now, or 10 times more emotional awareness, or whatever it might be. So how are you actually better than them? Right, there's no hierarchy between our souls.

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We're all the same, and another way that I like to just illustrate this or think about this is think about our souls as a piece, as just white, white cotton. That's what we are. We're just pure energy, pure god energy. And when you decide to come into human life on earth, you choose a way that you want to style that cotton. Right. So it might be a white, beautiful, ornate wedding dress with all of the, the garnishings and the toppings right. Or you might decide to come as like a plain white one dollar bed sheet right, but at the end of the day, this is the exact same material. It's the same fabric, and at the end of the life cycle, when you leave the earth, that's all going to be recycled back into one. So you came from the same. You look different now, but you're going back to the same, and so any judgment that you have is just pure ego.

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Now does that mean with like, however much you resonate with this. No, no matter how much you agree with this, no matter how much you know in your soul for this to be true, does that mean it's gonna erase those thoughts that pop up in your head? Is it gonna stop you from feeling irritated, from feeling infuriated, even maybe, when people in your life, when family members, when co-workers or managers, when events in the world happen right with, maybe, political people or celebrities, is it going to stop you from feeling those emotions when something seems so wrong or something seems so unfair or simply so annoying? Those feelings are going to be there. Why? Because of the human body that you're in right, because of the brain doing its processes, because of all of this programming that we have. Those feelings are going to be there, but you are going to choose to not feel superior because of it.

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You're going to choose to pause, say pause and be thankful that you have this awareness, to see this, that you have this opportunity. Maybe you catch it after, maybe you've already been judging for an hour and then you realize it. Okay, perfect timing for you to now pause and see this, for the opportunity that it is for you to grow, every single night when you go to sleep. We talked about how judgment affects our bank account, right, and so I want to give you a kind of fail safe, because, as I said, no one is going to be perfect. And so if you do notice that you were judging, that somebody did get under your skin that you were angry about something, whatever it is, know that the whole day is like a test, and when you go to sleep is actually the moment when you kind of hand that, hand your exam paper in to be graded on a spiritual sense. So that's why, before you go to sleep every night, and that's why people say, don't go to sleep angry, right, because only when you go to sleep is your energetic bank account going to be kind of like they're gonna like, let's say that the spiritual guides are like looking and saying, okay, how did she do today? How did she pass her challenges? How um was her vibration? Let's now analyze and add or subtract energy to her energetic bank account based off of that, right? That's the part of the process that we're going through spiritually when we sleep.

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So, before you go to sleep, you get this amazing opportunity to go over your answers, to go over your test, to go through your day and reflect on any moments that you could have done better. Reflect on any moments that you could have done better. You can write this down in a list. Okay, where were the moments that I was reactive today? Where are the moments where I was not embodying my highest, most light self? You can write them down or you can just go through this, like mentally in your head as you're before you go to sleep, and then what you do when you call this out is you have this amazing opportunity to erase that negative seed that you planted, and you can do that by going back to that moment. Remember how it felt, remember the negative energy that you felt within yourself and feel all of that pain. Feel all of the pain of the negative energy that you sent to that person.

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If you did actually like do anything reactive, like maybe you shouted at somebody or maybe you gave someone a judgmental look, allow yourself to really just experience and process any pain that that may have caused, any negative energy that that may have released into the collective consciousness, and allow yourself to process that. And this is just a few seconds that you're going through, and then you can imagine yourself. You can visualize yourself acting as your highest self in that situation. So you can redo the moment, that moment of judgment, that moment where you snapped, redo it as if you were pausing, as if you had paused, as if you did transmute that judgment into compassion, as if you did remember in that moment that we're all souls and their journey has nothing to do with you, and you just brought light to the situation and it didn't affect your vibration at all. And how that would have looked, how that would have felt, what you would have said, what you would have did and what you would have been thinking in your mind.

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And replay that out and then make a commitment to yourself to do 1% better tomorrow. Ask yourself, what do I need to commit to? What would I need to change in order for this to not repeat, for this negative action, this reactive behavior, to not repeat and imagine yourself. You know you really want to cement this in, because this is a very, very important part of the process of clearing out that negativity that you did in the day before you're going to sleep is then imagine yourself throughout the day not throughout the day, sorry, throughout the next day. So imagine yourself in the day to come. Imagine yourself in the week to come, living with this new change, living from your higher self, living not judgmental anymore. Imagine yourself following out the commitment to be 1% better, and how that would look. And so this process is a process of clearing out any negativity that you created in the daytime before you go to sleep, where that's actually going to be spiritually logged, or judged, if we can put it that way.

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And what we know is, the more that you judge others, the more that you attract the energy of judgment to yourself, not just judgment from other people, which is one aspect of it, but also judgment from the upper worlds and judgment from above. Because just as there is two sides of everything, everything exists as well within the divine right, so within the divine there is the energy of mercy and there is the energy of judgment. And as much as judgment from other people hurts, there is nothing like judgment from the upper worlds. Right is nothing like judgment from the upper worlds right. That's what we want to avoid at all costs, and so remembering that as well, that the more I release judgment towards others, the less that the universe judges me. So, even when I make mistakes, I'm not judged harshly for them, I don't have chaos and negativity coming up in my life because of the mistakes that I made. I'm able to have grace. I'm given mercy because I give mercy to others.

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So affirmations and shadow work prompts for this topic. In my programs we go through the complete spiritual system, all of the technologies that you have to protect your energy and to therefore be able to remove negativity and limitation and attract the highest level of blessings that are possible for your soul. If you want this advanced spiritual support, then the coaching application is below in the show notes. Our affirmations for today. I choose compassion over criticism, connection over comparison. I forgive myself for needing to feel superior, to feel safe. I know I am safe now. Superior to feel safe. I know I am safe now I release the illusion of separation. There is no hierarchy in souls. I meet others where they are not where I expect them to be. Everyone I meet is a mirror. I'm so thankful for the gift of self-awareness which grows my compassion for others.

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Shadow work prompts to go deeper when I judge others, what am I secretly judging or fearing within myself? What is the payoff that I get? What is the benefit that I feel when I judge or get angry at others? What emotion is really underneath my irritation towards others? How can I give this emotion space to be expressed?

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And lastly, I want you to write out the three people that bring up judgment in you the most often, so the three people that you judge the most, three people that get under your skin the most.

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And then I want you to write out for each of these people three qualities or three things about them that you can celebrate and three lessons that these people are teaching you, three things that you can learn from these people.

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And that is really another good point as well, just as another antidote for if judgment comes up, not just the bringing yourself to that as well, by saying I'm also, I also do that, this thing that I'm judging them for. There is an aspect of that within me somewhere as well. Another thing that you can also do is just immediately think of three things to celebrate them for. So if that judgmental thought pops into your head, bam okay, what three things can I celebrate this person for? What three things is this person good at? Do I like her hair? Do I like? Well, she's really good at running. You know, what three things can you highlight positively about them? This episode was super important and a little bit deeper, so I hope that this has gave you some things to think about and I will see you in the next episode. Have a beautiful, blessed day.