Worthy & Wealthy

Is Your Taste In Men Keeping You BROKE? (Relationship Secrets For Abundance)

• Minnie Courtney

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Ever wondered why you're stuck in a cycle of financial struggle despite your best efforts? The answer might be sleeping right next to you. Your romantic relationship creates an energetic foundation that affects every aspect of your life—especially your financial destiny.

When you accept breadcrumbs of attention or make excuses for disrespect in your relationship, you're programming yourself to accept the same in your financial life. The voice of your partner becomes the voice of your subconscious, either filling you with unlimited thinking or doubt and worry. This isn't just metaphorical—through intimate contact, you literally exchange energy, absorbing each other's traumas, limitations, and success patterns.

Look back at different relationship phases in your life. Notice how your partner's financial stability, emotional wellbeing, and growth mindset directly correlated with your own circumstances during that time. The evidence is undeniable: no amount of affirmations or business strategies can overcome the energetic impact of an intimate relationship with someone operating from limitation.

Breaking free requires recognizing the difference between your unhealed inner child's impulses and your higher self's wisdom. That child wants validation and believes staying will somehow resolve past pain. Your adult self knows better. If you cannot walk away from a partner who disrespects you, you simply aren't equipped to handle significant wealth. Hard truth: your relationship standards directly determine your financial ceiling.

The path forward often means making uncomfortable choices and experiencing periods of solitude. In that aloneness, you'll discover the inner connection that creates true abundance. Each day brings new opportunities to ask: "What would my most expansive, worthy self do?" When you follow that guidance rather than emotional impulses, you develop an unshakable foundation that manifests prosperity beyond your wildest dreams.

Ready to transform your relationship with both love and money? Start by examining the standards you're enforcing in your most intimate connections. Your financial future depends on it.

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The relationship you choose. The man you choose can sign you up for a lifetime of financial abundance or condemn you to a lifetime of poverty, suffering, lack and hard work. And it's not for the reason that you think, it's not because you need to find a man who is going to pay all your bills and you need to be submissive to that man and be provided for the true secret behind this and the reason why so many women are having big dreams, are dreaming of starting a business, of creating financial freedom, sharing their message online or whatever it might be, but staying stuck is often hidden in what is going on in their relationships. Because the way that you do one thing is the way that you do everything, and when you do not enforce standards and self-worth in your relationships, that spills over into your finances, into how you show up for your business, how you show up for your life goals, how you show up for your fitness, how you show up for your health. And it's not just a conscious decision, it's not just reflected in the actions you take, but it's an energetic shift that reflects in how you look, in the energy that people feel from you. When you speak, people will want to give you money in whichever business opportunity you choose, you will become a magnet for money with no extra effort, based off of the standards that you are holding in the rest of your life, because the standards that you set determine the life that you get. Standards that you set determine the life that you get, and so when you think that you can be part of the one percent you can have, you know a lifestyle where you don't have to worry about money. You can tap at the grocery store, you can buy the organic food without having to worry, because you deserve that.

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You're connected to the universe. You know that you're worthy of it, yet you're responding to breadcrumbs you are searching up. You know how to speak in a more feminine way to get him to want you, how to deal with his unhealed traumas that make him avoid avoidant, and you know tiptoe around it so as not to trigger him pulling back. This is not the energy of a magnetic woman who is receiving simply because she's worthy. This is the energy of chasing. When you chase a man, you will always be chasing money. You will always be chasing peace, you will always be chasing success. And when you choose a man, that brings problems and stress and emotional upheaval into your romantic life. You will notice that problems and stress and emotional upheaval into your romantic life. You will notice that problems and stress and emotional upheaval find their way into your bank account and every other area of your life.

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We can look at this from any aspect, whether it be the spiritual secrets that have always been true and have always been taught across all ancient traditions, or when we look at it psychologically. Or when we look at it psychologically or when we look at it practically, that obviously this person is going to be the person that is sitting next to you during every financial decision that you make. This is the person that's going to be sitting next to you for you know hundreds of meals sleeping next to you for hundreds of nights. They are going to be the person whose voice gets imprinted into your subconscious. Is that a voice of hope, of trust, of unlimited thinking? Is that a voice of worry, of doubt, of negativity? Because the voice of your partner is going to become inevitably the voice of your subconscious.

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There is no way to avoid the osmosis that happens in a relationship where you not only are spending a lot of time together, and so they are absorbing into your subconscious, through the words that they speak, but also through the process of energy transfer during intimate contact. When you kiss that person, that begins the melding of your soul pathways, that begins the absorbing of your traumas. And, of course, that becomes a whole other level when you're actually being intimate with them, you're having sex with them. You're exchanging that core life force, energy, with that person. You meld into their traumas, you meld into their traumas and you meld into their success. You start to feel the worry and the depression and the anxiety that that person has.

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Oftentimes you can literally just observe the phases of your life like go back and look at who you were dating, how financially successful were they, how emotionally stable were they, how happy were they with their family? How much growth have they been doing? How much time do they devote to learning and bettering themselves, and notice how your life felt and looked. Look at pictures of yourself from those different time periods and you will see, inexcusably, that it is unavoidable, that it's going to have a serious effect on you. There is no amount of self-work that you can do, no amount of affirmations that you can listen to, no amount of business strategies that you can learn that can avoid this inevitable truth and that's why I think it's the most important decision we make and a lot of times we kind of sidestep around it.

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There are so many intelligent women emotionally intelligent, you know book smart, street smart, beautiful, listening to podcasts exactly like this one reading books, doing exercise, listening to affirmations, and yet giving their body, their soul and opening up their subconscious mind to be imprinted by a man who isn't even aware that personal development exists for one or is on a pseudo-spiritual journey and their actions don't actually reflect the supposed values that they say that they have, because words lie but actions and reactions do not. How that person shows up when you have problems is basically a pre-warning or a a glimpse or a preview into how the rest of your life is going to look. How they speak to you in the most beautiful moments, when you come back together, when you want forgiveness or when you were first getting to know them, is not a preview of what your life with that person is going to look like, and I don't just mean how the romance is going to be and how the communication, the relationship, is going to be, but I mean what the problems in the rest of your life are going to look like, if they react with stress, with blame, with, if the emotion that they bring up in you during problems is, you know, intensifying the pain is bringing more stress to you. That is what you are attracting into your life. If the emotional response that you get within your body when you share a problem with them, when you share a doubt that you have with them, is a feeling of security, of safety and of trust, this is what you are going to be moving towards in every area of your life, the longer that you make excuses for it that this time will be different, that you know everyone needs to grow, that you do feel something special with them.

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All of these things that we tell ourselves so that we don't have to face the reality of being alone, being in solitude, saying goodbye to somebody that gave us validation, that triggered our need for acceptance, that triggered this desire to win someone over, to prove and to re like work through our traumas, so that the past pain that we felt, maybe with caregivers, that felt like we never got to get that acceptance, we never got to receive that love, that now we'll finally be able to accomplish, that we'll be able to put an end to that painful cycle and that this is the way that we're going to be able to resolve our traumas. This is the way that our inner child thinks, because it's a child, because it doesn't know the knowledge and information that you know now. It is trying to solve a problem of a five-year-old with the thinking and the solutions and the emotional intelligence of a five-year-old, and it is your job, if you actually want to fulfill your potential, to move beyond that level of thinking, to move beyond your body's impulse to cling to that person, to cling to this relationship, to give it another chance, to just respond one more time to this message, to be in limerence and think about them and spiral into anxiety to find, understand what went wrong or what you could have done better. It is your responsibility now, as the strong, intelligent adult, that you are to rise above that and know that those impulses are the impulses of an inner child that is unhealed and that you're never going to be able to find a solution to a problem from this same energy and from this same part of you that created the problem in the first place. You have to start moving differently if you're a person that usually closes off and cuts a person off the first sign of conflict. You're going to have to choose a different path. You're going to have to open yourself up and be willing to communicate.

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If you're a person who keeps thinking about things and keeps going back and keeps staying and keeps showing love and keeps accepting disrespect and making excuses for it, you are going to have to actually take a different action. And I don't just mean like think about self-worth and like say self-worth affirmations, I mean blocking them, even though you do not want to blocking them, even though you are crying and you want them to hug you and to make all your pain go away. But being that adult that knows you deserve better and the person that created your pain is not going to be the person that makes it go away and that fixes you. The only person that is going to fix you is going to be your healed adult self.

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Now, acting from your healed adult self doesn't mean that you don't have those unhealed impulses within you, doesn't mean that other parts, all of that, those younger parts in your body, are going to be screaming out to just go back, to just have that makeup sex, to just make all of this go away and to go back to that honeymoon phase with them again. You always get that choice. The universe is going to support you in being your best self, whether that is by constantly making you go through traumatic experiences in this relationship until you choose to walk away, or if you choose to be alone. If you choose to learn how to self-soothe. You're going to build the skills to be able to not just now attract a man who is actually on your level, who is also able to do that for himself, who is also able to hold space for your emotions, but by also attracting the level of wealth that you're now going to be able to hold.

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Because if you keep acting from this young, unhealed child a young, unhealed child cannot handle millions of dollars. If you cannot walk away from a partner who disrespects you, you are not equipped to handle $10,000 a month, and it's definitely not $10 million empire. So if you see a vision for yourself that isn't just being normal, accepting the normal salary, accepting the normal stress of having to wake up early, having to eat processed foods, not have a healthy body, have a marriage where you're unfulfilled, have your children go through the same traumas that you went through, if you're not willing to do that, then you're going to have to make hard decisions, decisions that mean you're going to be very uncomfortable and you're going to be alone. And in that aloneness you're going to find all of the answers that you've ever been searching for in unhealthy partners. In that aloneness you're going to find connection with your soul and with the universe in a way that there was never a space before before, when you were filling that gap with fake love and fake intimacy and lies Lies from another person or lies to yourself.

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Relationships are a breeding ground of healing and success when we choose to act from our most healed self and, step by step, step.

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You have a chance to do this every single day, whether you're single, whether you're still speaking to an unhealthy person, whether you're still you're not speaking to the person, but you're still thinking about that unhealthy person.

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Wherever you're at in your journey, you can ask yourself what would my most expansive, healed, aligned, worthy self do? What would the woman that I look up to on social media or on TV or in my family, that has this air about her of security, of being led by God, what would she do in this situation? She do in this situation if you follow that truth more than you follow the impulses of your emotions and your bodies that come from unhealed moments. I promise you that you will truly never be alone again, because you will find a inner connection that will never abandon you and that will allow you to actually manifest a life beyond your dreams. I hope that this has been helpful for you. If you have any thoughts, any requests, send them over to me on Instagram. I'm always open to hear, and I hope that you have a beautiful week Until next time.