SuccessFULL With ADHD

From Self-Doubt to Self-Worth: Rewiring Your Mindset with CWB’s Coach Kelly Dyches

• Brooke Schnittman MA, PCC, BCC • Season 1 • Episode 98

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Content Warning: This episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation and explicit language.

Hey friends! This episode is a super special one — and in true ADHD fashion, it only took us four tries to make it happen! I’m beyond excited to finally bring you a heart-filled conversation with Coach Kelly Dyches. Kelly is an ADHD and growth mindset coach who’s been working with neurodiverse individuals for over 16 years. She’s a rockstar on our team at Coaching With Brooke and is especially known for her incredible work helping clients heal emotional dysregulation and boost self-esteem through our signature 3C Activation program.

In our chat, Kelly gets real about her personal journey to discovering she had ADHD after her son’s diagnosis, how she went from suicidal ideation to self-worth champion, and how her passion for helping others led her to become a certified ADHD coach. She shares powerful coaching techniques for handling rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), emotional overwhelm, and the automatic negative thoughts that so many ADHDers silently carry. If you’ve ever struggled to believe in yourself, this episode will give you both tools and hope.

Episode Highlights:

[0:58] - Welcome to the show and intro to Coach Kelly Dyches.
[2:27] - Kelly’s path to discovering her own ADHD through her child’s diagnosis.
[4:42] - The moment that lit a fire in Kelly to become an ADHD coach.
[6:52] - How her journey through training deepened her confidence and purpose.
[8:47] - The impact of 3C Activation — from student to transformation guide.
[14:39] - Why emotional regulation is a core component of ADHD coaching.
[15:11] - Techniques Kelly uses to help clients shift from overwhelm to calm.
[18:07] - A powerful RSD coaching moment and the tool of naming negative voices.
[21:49] - How reframing thoughts helped her client shift self-perception.
[25:24] - Tracking thought patterns and growing self-awareness.
[28:21] - Building routines and accountability with compassion.
[30:37] - Breaking the resistance to external tools and embracing support.
[31:49] - What’s changed in Kelly’s coaching after five years in practice.
[35:45] - The single most powerful belief-shifting tool she uses with clients.
[39:34] - Gratitude and reflection on coaching and community.

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Kelly Dyches:

All weekend after she left that party, she had ruminated on all the thoughts, all the things that came out of her mouth. She replayed the events. And I think anyone out there with ADHD who experiences RSD can reflect on times where you've like, Oh my gosh. Why did I say that? Oh my gosh. And you relive the terror like it's real, and you feel humiliated all over again. I asked her, so what evidence do we have that this friend is now rejecting you? After we took several minutes to kind of identify what would actually classify as her being rejected, we were able to determine that, oh, I'm not being rejected at all. In fact, my friend has followed up with me. We have another Hangout scheduled in a few months. But because of ADHD and how it impacts our brains and how we tend to hyper fixate on things, whether they're negative or positive, she just got latched on to this belief.

Brooke Schnittman:

Welcome to successful with ADHD. I'm Brooke schnittman, let's get started. Hi everyone. Today is a very special episode of successful with ADHD. I am so thrilled that, in ADHD fashion, after four attempts of doing this, today, I have coach Kelly dykes, who is an ADHD and growth mindset coach with over 16 years of mentoring neurodiverse individuals of all ages and working directly with ADHD ers since 2020 coach Kelly has graduated from adka Add coach Academy, And she is a lifelong learner, deeply interested in neuroplasticity, holistic wellness and life management, she spent countless hours honing in on her skills in goal setting, organization and project management, and she's coached hundreds of individuals with ADHD from childhood to adulthood, and she is an extremely popular coach who's worked directly with me in our signature process, 3c activation and healing. ADHD, emotions. I am thrilled to showcase coach Kelly. Welcome.

Kelly Dyches:

Hey, hey. Here we did it.

Brooke Schnittman:

So, yes. So in most of the episodes of successful with ADHD, we talk about the ADHD journey, and then we go into what happened after the ADHD diagnosis and coach Kelly has ADHD. Please just tell me when you learned you had ADHD and how you've brought that into the coaching that you do today.

Kelly Dyches:

Yeah, absolutely. So I have a child who has ADHD and who's on the autism spectrum, and so as a young mother, I was looking for resources and all the information to help manage his ADHD, because at that time, it felt unbearable. And so as I was exploring resources and looking into the DSM five, I soon realized that all of the criteria that would diagnose someone with ADHD were all traits, all symptoms that I experienced every day of my life. And so it was a big light bulb moment of, oh my word. This explains everything about me, why I behave the way I do, why certain things are difficult. And so from there, I began this journey of wanting to learn everything I could about the in and outs, the inner workings of ADHD, so that I could not only just help myself, so that I could then help my son. And from there, I realized, Oh, this is kind of a big issue. Lots of people have ADHD and so that's kind of where it began.

Brooke Schnittman:

It's so common, right? That we see in our clients where they have been diagnosed, especially women after their children got diagnosed, especially around COVID time. Now I know your diagnosis was in 2018 but it's so powerful to kind of just like, see your life flash in front of you through the lens of the diagnosis of your son.

Kelly Dyches:

Absolutely.

Brooke Schnittman:

So you got diagnosed in 2018 then you decided you wanted to be an ADHD coach. So tell me about that journey. Yeah,

Kelly Dyches:

actually, I was reflecting on this because I wanted to remember the kind of the steps that took place. So I remember joining this Facebook group all about adults with ADHD, and someone posed the question, what is the. Worst symptom that you deal with with your ADHD? There were hundreds of responses, and we're talking, I'm late to everything. I am so disorganized. My house is a mess, like everything that you can think of with ADHD. So I started reading through that post, and I wanted to collect some data, I just got really curious about it. Like, wow. I wonder what the common thread is. I wonder what the majority of these people say is the hardest part. So I literally hand wrote because, you know, technology was hard. Cleared back in 2019 we didn't have aI hand wrote literally everything that was mentioned and then put check marks next to every single symptom that was relatable to multiple people. Wow. At the end, I discovered that self esteem was the highest thing, and as someone with ADHD who once had suicidal thoughts because I did not know my worth, because I compared myself to everyone else, and because I didn't understand why I behaved the way I did, I said, Not on my watch, not on my watch. Will all these people suffer with low self esteem, not knowing who they are or why they're special what they have to offer this world. And so that is literally what lit a fire underneath my bum and got me to want to explore becoming an ADHD coach, because I wanted to help people realize just how wonderful and special they are despite these struggles, and to learn how to essentially grow their self esteem so they didn't have to feel what I had felt for so long,

Brooke Schnittman:

so powerful. Oh, I just got chills in you talking about, you know, what you've been through, and wanting to help and heal so many people because that you not wanting them to experience what you have gone through. So when you got the ADHD coach certification and training, did you feel like you became more confident. Talk to me a little bit about that like, or did you just have the tools to get coached and then later on, through practice and management, you felt more empowered and confident?

Kelly Dyches:

Yeah, I think the biggest thing that I got out of my training with adka was just this overall awareness of how ADHD impacts every single aspect of life. It affects your relationships. It affects you responding to a text. It affects your ability to stay organized at work. It affects your home life, every single thing and so just gaining that knowledge of the different executive functions of ADHD and how it really impacts, I believe, was the biggest takeaway for me there. Now we learned how to properly coach people, and we learned about personal transformation, but it wasn't until I was able to really apply those principles and start working with people that I really grew the most, and that's where you come into the picture. So you took a chance on me, taking this newly I want

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to sing this song. Took a

Kelly Dyches:

chance on me. Okay. Anyway, yes, thank you. Abba. Um, anyway, yes, thank you, Alba. I love that I cannot not sing. By the way, this is a side note

Brooke Schnittman:

if somebody has an amazing voice, so I'll leave the singing to you.

Kelly Dyches:

Oh, this okay, but back to you. So you took a chance on me, where I was freshly done with adka And you brought me onto your team and started giving me exposure to all different types of clients. I had kids, I had young adults, I had adult professionals, and it was that exposure that really started me making these improvements in my own life, but also being able to help others.

Brooke Schnittman:

How so? So the exposure helped you in your own life. So we know how you helped others, because there's been countless testimonials. If you just go on coaching with Google reviews, it's like Kelly this. Kelly that, and I've personally heard them. But what did the exposure do for you to help you transform? I think

Kelly Dyches:

there's two parts of this. The first part is when, when you repeat tools over and over and over, you. Because you're teaching them, right? I I want to mention as a side note, an ADHD coach sometimes wears a mentor or an A teacher hat, and so when I'm wearing one of those hats, I'm educating my client, right? So if I'm educating my client about a tool that may help them that they're fully unaware of, and I repeat that to the next client and the next client, it becomes so ingrained in my brain that it's like, why don't I use the dang tool too? I'm preaching it's helping them, right? So, but how did I learn those tools? And I think this is an important part is I was so hungry for information on ADHD, how to help people, how to help them with their self esteem, how to help them with time management. So I was trying to gather all these external tools to help people. And then I asked you, I said, Brooke, I really, really want to learn 3c activation. I want to teach it. Would you ever be open to having me facilitate that? And again, you took a chance on me, and so I am here? No, I will control myself. I will have impulse control and not see okay, just kidding. You took a chance on me to allow me to learn and observe multiple 3c groups that you were teaching or that another coach was was teaching. So I again, hand wrote all the notes I observed every call, and I wrote down every important bit of information that I needed to share so that I could memorize that whole program. And after probably listening to it and hearing those those principles and those tools taught over and over, I believe it was the third time going through it that I was like, why on earth am I not using these practical tools that are amazing, these testimonials of people coming away from 3c saying how it's been so life changing for them, I'm just focused on memorizing how To do the dang presentation. Why not utilize those tools to make my own life better? And that's when the real changes started to happen. I would be considered severely ADHD, because I think genetically, I'm ADHD. But then I also had a major head injury, and so I as a kid, and so the ADHD symptoms seemed so unfixable for me, but they weren't. I just needed the proper tools, the proper systems. I needed to learn about accountability and how to properly set goals in a way that work works with my brain, as opposed to against it. And so as I learned all these things from all my studying inside and outside, of 3c activation, I gained all these beautiful tools that really, really changed my life. I finally felt like I had control of this busy brain of mine, and that's a beautiful thing. Yeah,

Brooke Schnittman:

I'm so excited to hear that because, and we'll come back to that. Like, when coaches get trained in 3c activation, they're like, how is it different than other programs? But you go through for the coach training for 3c activation, you go through the program as a client while picking up the tools. And I think in anything like, how do you teach something unless you've experienced the transformation? And you said, like, ADHD coaching isn't just life coaching, it's explicitly telling people how their symptoms are showing up as ADHD and how it's impacting their life while doing life coaching, right? But if you don't have that awareness, and you don't have those tools, right, it's a lot of repeated, open ended questions that those are all great, but like, you need practical tools too, for structure, for ADHD, because we hate structure but thrive on it at the same time. So I appreciate that that has been a part of your journey as well as a coach who's coaching the program and using it in your everyday life as

Kelly Dyches:

well. Yes, I would say amen to all of that emotional

Brooke Schnittman:

regulation is big part of ADHD, right? It's not just managing organization, prioritization, productivity, but while we're doing all that, we can get flooded. Our executive functions can shut down. We're charged. Right? How do you help clients with their emotional regulation as well? So then they can activate their executive functions? I think it

Kelly Dyches:

comes with coaching practice where, when you get on a call with someone, you can kind of observe their energy and see in their face. You know, if it's a good day or a rough day or whatnot, we always start with a win to kind of set the tone, make them reflect on something positive, to kind of get them away from that negative space. But if I notice that a client is not able to find a win, or they're not able to change their energy, and they're kind of in the stuck place we we start to go into it and explore like, what is, you know, what's, what's going on in your world? One of the best tools that I, that I have, is to distract the mind, because when we are ruminating, it leads to anxiety. It can lead to depress depression and depressive thoughts, right? And so when we are stuck in this rumination cycle, we have to Pattern Interrupt in order to break free. And it's not to like stuff the emotions down and just ignore them that they're not there. But we need to do something that is productive. And so one simple tool that I really like is the five senses technique. And this is a really popular thing that they use in lots of therapies, but it's literally go into the five senses. We have sight, we have touch, we have hearing, we have scent taste Right, right? And so you essentially 54321, you go through and you find the things that are hitting or stimulating those five senses. And it really just, it's a it's a temporary fix, but it's a simple way to calm your nervous system so that you can get into the present moment. Now that's just a simple thing, but if you don't mind, I'd love to share a story about how a client came very dysregulated, very upset, coming with a lot of baggage. Now, this client has extreme RSD. And for those who don't know what RSD stands for, it's rejection sensitive dysphoria. It's an extreme sensitivity to any type of rejection, whether it's real or perceived. And so she had gone to a party over the weekend and with someone that was very, very close to her, someone that she's known for years and years, and all weekend after she left that party, she had ruminated on all the thoughts, all the things that came out of her mouth at that at that event, she replayed the events. And I think anyone out there with ADHD who experiences RSD can reflect on times where you like, Oh my gosh. Why did I say that? Oh my gosh, and you relive

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the terror, oh yeah, like it's real, like

Kelly Dyches:

it's real, and you feel humiliated all over again. So she shares this with me, and I asked her, I said, Okay, so what evidence do we have that this friend is now rejecting you. And after we took several minutes to kind of identify what would actually classify as her being rejected, we were able to determine that, oh, I'm not being rejected at all. In fact, my friend has followed up with me. In fact, we have another Hangout scheduled in a few months. But because of ADHD and how it impacts our brains and how we tend to hyper fixate on things, whether they're negative or positive, she just got latched on to this belief, and so she and I worked on, you know, ants and a n, t, s, automatic negative thoughts, right? One of the tools that I worked on with her is identifying when those mean thoughts come. A tool that we use is calling that name, or, excuse me calling that voice a name, so it's outside of you

Brooke Schnittman:

in third person, almost absolutely. And so not, I'm not that, but this, yeah, yeah, your

Kelly Dyches:

higher self would never talk that way to to yourself, right, right? But that mean voice will and so that voice needs to be called a name, and maybe even a hideous name. And as we talked about where these negative thoughts show up and the frequency in which they are showing up and how to combat them, her nervous system was able to calm down. She. Realize that with new data, new information, she didn't have to believe those negative thoughts that were holding her down and making her feel poorly about herself. And so sometimes when when clients come in, I have to help them get unstuck from the the negative thought patterns that are really causing a lot of damage to their lives, and help them see that it's not always true. It's not maybe it's not at all true, hmm, but I think that that's a lot for managing thoughts will help regulate the nervous system greatly.

Brooke Schnittman:

Yeah, yeah, it is. It's very challenging to regulate time and make a positive impact on your ADHD if you can't regulate your emotions, right? And emotions are so tied into ADHD, and I know you said that, like we could hyper fixate on positive, we can hyper fixate on negative. So true. And then when we hear these negative things, or we perceive that these negative things are happening, those stick so much more right than the positives too. So it is. It becomes its own identity, and because we generally hear so many more negative thoughts growing up because of the unmanaged ADHD symptoms that also impacts our projection sensitive dysphoria. So tell me so once that client identified that her friend didn't think those negative things about her. What happens next with her? Yeah, I think

Kelly Dyches:

sometimes verbally processing and you hearing yourself talk back and and maybe someone's reflecting back what they hear, you realize sometimes that the thoughts or beliefs that you had are not even close to what what you're really feeling. And so what we were able to uncover was that maybe she had an underlying belief that she was a bad friend, and that being a bad friend because she is slow to text people back. She doesn't always invite people to hang out, because she doesn't call friends, even really good friends, she doesn't call them regularly. So that somehow made her a bad a bad friend. But once we dissected like, Okay, well, that might be your criteria for a good friend, but what is getting in the way? There's a lot of executive functioning that goes into remembering everyone that you need to remember and think of. There's a wall of dread sometimes that we have to get over. And so I helped her to see that okay, it takes planning, it takes task initiation, it takes emotional regulation, it takes organization to do a lot of these things that make it easier to be a good friend, and if you don't, if you struggle with those executive functions, and you don't quite yet have the tools or have those skills, then maybe a bad friend has bad intentions. And it's not about the execution, it's about you have a good heart. You want to show up for these friends. You have executive dysfunction that makes it difficult and that is beyond you. That's not your personality, that's not a character flaw, that is just some tools, that is just some skills. And once we put it in that way, it the weight was lifted off of her. She could see like, oh my gosh, okay, there is hope. I actually am a very caring friend. We were also able to find more data points where she is a good friend, where she did call friends that, where she did remember birthdays. And so it's finding that data, that evidence to disprove the original negative thought that is key to unraveling and changing beliefs in the first place. Oh, I love that. But also identifying where the ADHD symptoms are holding you back.

Brooke Schnittman:

I know Gottman, who you're very familiar with, too, says to cancel out one negative, you need five positives. And I mean, that's everyone. That's not just 80 ADHD people, so I can't even imagine, right, what she must have been feeling at that moment. I mean, I guess I can, but I'm not her. So how. Many more positives she needed to hear and how she needed to change the wiring of her brain to think differently, and had to practice that. So along the way of your coaching journey with her, how did things shift for her? So that was one session, two sessions, but you know, month later, two months later, what

Kelly Dyches:

I've seen and what she would share that she's observed is that she is noticing the negative thoughts way more often. So the negative thoughts don't necessarily go away, but when you can notice them, notice the the events or the people or the situations that tend to bring them out, then you can do something about it. So she has been actively working on managing those thoughts when she catches them, to rewire and think of a different way to reframe it, whether that's saying the exact opposite of what that negative thought was, or putting a positive spin on it, looking for the silver lining. I've seen such a shift in her self esteem as well. I think our first call, I think when you finally find someone who understands you, and there's this emotional release for a lot of clients, where it's like, oh my gosh, and I struggle with this and this, and they don't want to be judged, but they know they're safe, because I have ADHD too, and it's just this big, like emotional relief, we'll call it, to go from that to who she is now, feeling more and more confident in herself, able to catch the negative thoughts, reframe them, talking to herself in a way, better way, understanding her brain in a way that separates struggle of an ADHD brain versus character flaws. It's amazing. Like she carries herself differently, like you can see it on the calls, where her her energy is just different because she actually gets it, she understands what's going on, and she doesn't have to be a victim to her brain that negative negativity bias does not have to hold her back.

Brooke Schnittman:

I love that. And while you were talking about that emotional release and everything that she started noticing about her automatic negative thoughts, how they don't go away, right? Those negative thoughts are there. You know, it's so interesting that coaching can be hard and easy at the same time, right? When we start noticing our negative thoughts, like it's a roller coaster, it doesn't necessarily feel good that you're noticing all these negative thoughts, but when you get those tools that you mentioned that helps you replace a negative thought or shift the negative thought, that helps so it could feel like very cumbersome and exhausting and emotional at first, Right? Yes, but that's where you come in with, okay, right? We've noticed this. We're recognizing this. And here's that tool. Let's, let's go back into your toolbox and pull from that so we can shift all of these flooding and awareness of the negative thoughts that you've had on yourself for so long.

Kelly Dyches:

She wasn't resistant to tools, but needed a little bit extra hand holding, which I was happy to do check ins. So I often will make an agreement with the client, like, okay, the goal. We establish the goal together, and usually it requires them to text me. Text me when you've done it well, I didn't hear from her, so I text her, Hey, how's it going with managing your negative thoughts and that simple reminder that external motivation was enough to be like, Oh yeah, I want to focus on that. And so in her being accountable to me by sharing, you know what she's working on and how things are going, Who is she actually being accountable to herself, herself? And so that little bit of hand holding at the beginning where it's like multiple check ins, like, hey, hey, hey, how are things going? I think where the was the exact thing that she needed to have, the reminder, but also that little bit of pressure to focus on it more. And once she realized how easy it was to focus on it, and what I mean by that is focus on the goal of reframing negative thoughts as they come, she was able to start doing it more and more on her own, and I was able to pull back and wait for her to reach out to me. That's

Brooke Schnittman:

so great and like, it almost became automated. Because if you think about it, like people say, Oh, ADHD, people can't build a routine. And, well, that's bullshit. I mean, like you can right? Think about all the things that have been automated in your life. Like, if you really dig deep when you wake up, what's the first thing that you do? Even if it's an unhealthy automation, you're doing something right, whether it be looking at your phone, whether it be drinking less of water, like whatever it is, you're pretty much doing it likely, all the time. So you can build that habit, but it does require more external accountability, especially with someone with ADHD, at least in the beginning, to build that habit.

Kelly Dyches:

Yeah, and I do find that some clients are resistant to that, where they are resistant to wanting to use tools like accountability or body doubling, even because they they a don't trust themselves to follow through. That that's part of it, but the bigger issue is that they don't want to have to be dependent on having external accountability. And so what we find, though, is that oftentimes a little bit of extrinsic pressure helps an ADHD er to push themselves to get going. And so it's just a tool. It's not codependent to want to text a friend and say, Hey, I have to do all my laundry today. Will you text me in 30 minutes to see where I'm

Brooke Schnittman:

at? Yeah. So Kelly, you are five years into coaching. What are the differences that you see now five years into it as a coach, right? And they they say it can take five years to become a master at your trade compared to when you first became a coach.

Kelly Dyches:

Oh, gosh. Okay, so I know the answer to this. And when I first got started, I was super emotionally invested in everyone's well being like everyone needs to be saved by Kelly, and she will make sure that that person walks away with an amazing self esteem, and they have the ability to live their very best life, and that their ADHD is perfectly managed. So I put that on myself to ensure that they were so taken care of, but I realized how emotionally draining that was when someone would show up and be very human and say, Hey, I didn't do what we talked about. I couldn't find the time. It's okay, let's just keep trying. And I, you know, because I really have a growth mindset, and I want to help others develop that I never wanted to shame someone for not following through. It's human, and with our ADHD brains, we just figure out what got in the way right. But at that point in my early coaching journey, it felt personal. It felt like, oh, I screwed up, maybe I didn't teach them the proper tools to help them. And so I think one of the biggest takeaways now is that I am so in it with my clients. In the call, I'm so present, and when that call is done, I set up little reminders in my phone to check in on them throughout the week. But beyond that, I can separate and let them live their own lives and not take it on myself

Brooke Schnittman:

to give ultimately, it's their goal. It's their right. They are having to do the work, and you're there as their guide. Yeah, absolutely.

Kelly Dyches:

I think another amazing skill that I've developed is just how to manage my time. Because I'm a homeschool mom, and I was having to, you know, figure out when to coach people you know around my homeschooling hours, and so I've had to become really, really good at staying organized, setting myself up for success, meaning knowing what meals I was going to have on a given day, so that I can just bust through. Do my calls? Do homeschooling? Do more calls? Make dinner. And that skill only came from what I learned from 3c when I started to apply it and so that I feel like I'm actually really good at managing my time. But PS, in my previous marriage, I was late to everything I was so chronically late that it was like I was the the the butt of everyone's jokes, right? And I identified as that, like, yep, Kelly's always late. But now I have a new identity, and I'm actually rarely late these days. And so that, I think was something that I was forced into learning because I was so busy in those early days that I I had to figure out that skill. And if I know anything about the ADHD brain, we can do anything. We can figure anything out under the right circumstances and with the right tools. And I did 100%

Brooke Schnittman:

Yeah. So Kelly, what would be one thing? This is the hardest question that gets answered. Are you ready? Spaghetti? Let's hear it. Spaghetti. What would be the one tool that you would want ADHD ers listening to walk away with the tool

Kelly Dyches:

that has changed more lives with my clients, where they walk in and they're emotional and they leave and they're flying high, not because of any illicit substances, but because they are feeling good about life, right? Is a changing beliefs activity, and I'm going to quickly describe what it is. So essentially, you write down the one to five negative thoughts that you are experiencing right now, anything if it is negative and it is impacting your life and causing you pain. You write it down. Then the second part is, you take each one of those negative beliefs and you start to dismantle it. Meaning, okay, I have evidence that makes me believe the the negative thought, but I need to look for evidence that means that that is not always true. Let's use me being late for an example. I'm always late. I can never be on time. It's just a belief, right? When I could start collecting data that said, well, actually, there was that one time when I got the diaper bag ready with all the food and snacks, and I got to church on time, so I'm not late all the time. Oh, oh, and there was that one time when I was five minutes early to the dentist, so I guess I'm not always late, right? So essentially, you have to look for data to dismantle that belief. Now I have encountered clients who can't they cannot find any data to dismantle that belief, and so then we make a goal out of it. Okay, what can you do to create data, to create evidence that you're trying, that you're aspiring to do better with this thing? Because with new data that we shine a light on, our mindset can change. We can think new thoughts. So the next part of this activity is to then write down three to five beliefs that you want to hold about yourself, that you believe would make you feel better about yourself. And then again, you look for data to prove that that is already happening, or to prove that it has happened already in the past, that you are that person that you want to be, and as you take that information and really play around with it. And what I mean by that is read it regularly, the positive things and add to it, add new data points your mindset and your negative beliefs about yourself will shift, because you can't go on believing something that isn't true if you have new data that totally dismantled it. So that, for me, is one of the best tools that has has literally changed so many lives in my coaching practice that I would love to use on on anyone because, and I say that because when someone comes in and they have all this baggage and they're thinking all these negative thoughts, and their their nervous system is all dysregulated, I can't fully teach them the ADHD tools, they're not going to hear them. So I have to get to the core first. I have to build their self esteem and their self trust first, and then we can teach tools that they'll actually be able to implement. So

Brooke Schnittman:

good ADHD coach Kelly, growth mindset coach Kelly, mom with ADHD of an ADHD er, thank you so much for your time, and you are so valued. We are so blessed to have you on the coaching with Brooke team.

Kelly Dyches:

Thank you. Thank you for this opportunity, and thank you for letting me be part of the beautiful team.

Brooke Schnittman:

You. Thanks for listening to this episode of successful with ADHD. I hope it helps you on your journey, and if you need any additional support for you or a loved one with ADHD, feel free to reach out to us@coachingwithbrooke.com and all social media platforms at coaching with Brooke, and remember, it's Brooke with an E. Thanks again for listening. See you next time you.

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