פרק 37 – למה אני אומרת דבר אחד והוא שומע משהו אחר?-4 סגנונות תקשורת בזוגיות

את משתפת כי את רוצה שיקשיב, והוא מיד נותן פתרון.
 את באה עם רעיון בהתלהבות, והוא מתחיל לשאול שאלות.
 את רוצה לדעת מה הוא באמת חושב, והוא אומר: ״מה שאת רוצה״.

לפעמים הבעיה היא לא שאין אהבה או שאין רצון טוב. פשוט כל אחד מאיתנו נכנס לשיחה בדרך אחרת.

בפרק הזה אני מדברת על ארבעה סגנונות תקשורת: משימתי, מקדם, מנתח ותומך. איך מזהים כל אחד מהם, מה חשוב לו בתוך שיחה, איפה הסגנונות מתנגשים ואיך אפשר לדבר כך שהאדם שמולנו באמת יוכל לשמוע אותנו.

אני גם חוזרת לרגע לפרק הראשון של הפודקאסט על חמש שפות האהבה, ומסבירה מה ההבדל בין הדרך שבה אנחנו מרגישים אהובים לבין הדרך שבה אנחנו מתקשרים.

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