Sensual Being
A podcast hosted by Jolene, tapping into your inner wildness, and how you connect with yourself, others and the world around you.
With 20 years experience teaching woman to pole dance, an addiction to Yoga, and a desire to connect with animals and be in nature, Jolene will unlock parts of your soul you didn't know needed unlocking.
This postcast covers many topics including; confidence, intimacy, kink, intentions, and becoming more aware of how we see ourselves.
Sensual Being
Ep 98 - Hidden Language Shaping Our Lives
Words are powerful spells that shape our reality in ways we rarely notice, carrying meanings, energies, and hidden agendas that subtly program our thoughts and behaviors. When we examine the language we use daily, startling patterns emerge that may reveal more about our world than we ever realized.
Take a moment to consider how digital terminology reveals manipulative wordplay – we're caught on an "online" fishing line, taking "clickbait," consuming a "news feed," and aspiring to "go viral." These words aren't accidental. They frame our relationship with technology in ways that normalize addiction and consumption without conscious awareness. Similarly, "social media" represents a profound linguistic inversion – platforms that claim to connect us while often leaving users feeling more isolated and inadequate than ever before.
The financial sector employs equally fascinating wordplay. Your "currency" resembles "current-sea," suggesting a flow of energy, while your money sits in a "bank" – just as rivers have banks. The inversion between "credit" and "debit" cards creates confusion that may contribute to widespread financial struggles. Meanwhile, our transition to digital transactions has severed our tangible connection with money's value – swiping a card feels identical whether spending £10 or £1,000, unlike the physical experience of handling cash.
By becoming conscious of these linguistic frameworks, we can begin reclaiming sovereignty over our thoughts and perceptions, choosing words that create the reality we wish to experience rather than the one being programmed for us. What other word spells might you be under without realizing it?
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Hello and welcome to the Sensual being podcast with myself, your host, jolene Whiting. I have been a pole dance teacher for nearly 20 years. I'm also a yoga instructor and my favorite pastimes are connecting to my own sensuality, connecting with the world and connecting with animals as well. In this podcast, you'll find new and inventive ways of how you see yourself, connecting yourself with others, and also how you see and view the world around you. In today's episode, we're going to be looking at the fact that words are spells, and what does it actually mean with so much of the words that we currently use? Hello, sensual being, and thank you so much for joining me today for this episode. Little life update for you.
Speaker 1:I have now handed the keys back for my old pole dancing studio and very excited to be actually moving forward. I feel like the world has really, really opened up, and I think that's when you know that you've done the right thing. There was never a moment when I was taking the studio apart that I regretted it, that I was making the wrong choice. It felt right I'm not saying it was easy, but it felt right and it's just a reminder that, even if you make decisions that are the right ones doesn't mean to say they are all plain sailing. I mean, if anybody's ever moved house, then you know that that's not an easy thing to do. Even if it's the right thing and you really want it, it's still hard work. So it's just that reminder that I think there was um. It was one of our intentions actually, wasn't it a while ago now? And it was to remember um, something along the lines of easy decisions, hard life, hard decisions equals an easier life. So things like having those difficult conversations can actually lead to a better future. And that's kind of what it is for me with the studio. It was a very hard thing to actually have come to an end, but it is actually the right thing to do. And I wasn't really going to talk too much about that today because I actually had what I thought was going to be a little bit of a lighter episode. But actually, oh, as we go through that, I think you might beg to differ that it probably isn't that much of a light-hearted subject. And you know I thought, oh, maybe I'll do a subject which isn't going to be like too emotional, like because obviously everything I've been going through lately I've been sharing with you, but it has been emotional, but I thought, oh, this would be a fun one to do, and actually my version of fun is probably not actually that fun, but we'll see what happens, shall we? You're probably really intrigued now as to what this is going to be, right?
Speaker 1:What I wanted to talk to you about words Yep, that's it, just words, and I want us to remember that words are spells. You know, when we are at school and we learn our spelling very interesting choice of words there, because words carry meaning, they carry energy, they can carry agendas. Okay, so I was going to look at a couple of different areas. The first one I wanted to have a look at is the wordplay that is used for our online world, and this is more of an episode just to really open your eyes and get you thinking. And you may already know these, you may have already thought about these before, and you may spark off with new ones as I talk to you and think, oh, wow, yeah, what about this one, what about that one? So feel free to hit me up, because there are so many more I could have.
Speaker 1:This episode could have been really long and I've decided to go on a shorter tangent with it. So online, I've already said it online. Now, think of that as kind of like. Is that like a fishing line, particularly when you think of clickbait and you're like, oh, am I literally like taking the bait? Yeah, and then you've got the news feed.
Speaker 1:The feed what are they feeding you? You, you know, when people doom scroll on social media, whether it's Instagram, tiktok, facebook, youtube, pinterest doom scrolling is where you know. I mean, it's not even got a good name. I mean, come on, doom scrolling, it's where you just you could be scrolling down and then you lose all track of time and you probably can't even recite what you've really seen. And it's just been one thing after another.
Speaker 1:The algorithm is trying to feed you so much and all of this is shortening our attention spans, but it's all there in the words for us like your news feed. It's all there in the words for us like your news feed. And when you start looking at it like this, and when you're conscious of what you put in your body for food you know if you've ever used the words I'm eating healthy or going on a diet you know you're becoming more conscious of what you're putting into your body with food and drink. But how often do you see what's feeding you through, like, say, social media, because the word is right there news feed. And then, if we have a look at the word stream, you're streaming live stream. You know they're taking. There's words that are associated with being outside, but we are inside. We're all inside our little square houses looking at these little square screens not square anymore, but you know what I mean and we are not outside taking in the live stream. We are not out by a river, we are actually just in our little box looking at a little screen. Is that life? Is it? It's weird, isn't it? It's weird?
Speaker 1:And then you've got things like going viral oh, you want it to go viral. Oh, yeah, you want to get all that straight away viral the word viral virus, yes. Is it a good thing to go viral? Oh, I don't know anymore. And then to have followers. I'm sorry, but if you are out in the real world and you have got people following you, that's quite stalkerish. Being online is actually promoting this like stalkerish behavior within all of us as humans. We are becoming followers. I follow so and so why? I really hope you don't follow them down the street. It's weird. The conversation around. This is really weird.
Speaker 1:When you start looking at the wordplay, it makes no sense. What would make more sense or is oh, I support so and so not I, I support, and yet that's a better word. But why following? It's very stalkerish and I don't like it. I don't like that word.
Speaker 1:And then you've got website web and like spider's web.
Speaker 1:Are you actually caught in a spider web by being on the web? Another one, and I don't know. It depends how old you are for this, but I remember early internet days. It used to be full of forums, chat rooms, message boards. They were. It was times of trying to actually come together as a community and it actually used to be labeled as online community and that sounds so much nicer than weirdly social media.
Speaker 1:Because, for a start, my social life is not like media. Media to me is the news. I use that term loosely, but social media it's like you're putting your I don't know your ways out into the world like the news would, and that's just it. That's weird in itself, but back in the day it used to be called online community. But social media is actually, when you think about it, it's like an inversion, and if you've ever heard about inversions in life, like where I've got another one for you in a bit, but the inversions are things like they call it social media, but it's actually making people feel more alone and more lonely and more like people are feeling like they are not good enough because we are so easily comparing ourselves to other people online. And when I say easily, I mean I'm very aware of this happening and I do it too, which is why I'm talking to you, because it is so easy to compare yourself and we we as humans.
Speaker 1:I don't remember a time when we haven't done this, because even a time before internet, we would still compare with our friends at school of what they've got to what we want. You know they're popular and they have this bag, so it must mean, if I get that bag all those trainers, I'll be popular too. You know it's survival as well. You know it's not wanting to be left alone in the dark. And once upon a time, whilst we have all still been comparing to other people, it was more localized to people around us. Now we are comparing to other people, but on a global scale.
Speaker 1:I mean some of the accounts that I follow or support, they're from around the world, and there's a part of me that compares my life to theirs and I have to ask you the word social media is it actually social? I have to actually work really hard to make my social media social, because a lot of the people who I like to follow their accounts use that word again. I like to support their accounts, but the algorithm wants to hit me with an advert or some other random person's reel oh, we'll get to that one in a minute a video that I got no interest in because their account isn't part of my network. And yet the people who are part of my network I can't see. So social media is an inversion. It's really not that sociable and you have to work really hard. I mean, I, I know now there's like obviously a big thing with shadow banning, but there's also a big thing now where people have gone from getting sort of a certain amount of comments on each of their posts and now they're just not even getting any likes. It's the way the algorithm is and we have to. If you've got a mission, a bit like me with this podcast if you're on some sort of mission and you're trying to put something out into the world, you've just got to do it anyway and ignore the algorithm. You have got to keep going on your path. So if you were someone like this who suddenly has gone from having lots of interaction to then not, it's not necessarily you, it would be the algorithm, and it's just there to mess with us and to try and get us more and more addicted to social media.
Speaker 1:And let's come back to the word real. Two things with this One. I mean it's spelled R-E-E-L real. Now, is it trying to reel you in or is a reel trying again to almost be like that inversion of saying a reel is real life, almost be like that inversion of saying a reel is real life? Is it real life? But it's not, because reels, as we know, are sometimes very, very short. They're snippets and not the full experience or something. You can't experience something in full unless you're there, that is, it's just a given. So is it actually real? Or is it reeling you in? Again? You're back to the online, the fishing, the pulling you in, your, you know, clickbait and oh, when you look at it like this, it just, it blows my mind. It really, really does. Um, the other one I kind of wanted to look at.
Speaker 1:The other area was around money and I'm not saying I'm covering all of this because there's so so many more words out there but money, your currency, the currency, is it the current currency in the sea, the current sea and also your current, your current account, is like your, your flow. When you think about energy, money being energy, and you've got your current account, and your current is what makes rivers flow, it's what makes the sea move in different ways, that's what a current is. That's the part which you know changes direction, it has the flow, and that these are the words that they're using for your money. So this is like your flow of life is through the current. And then if you go to kind of the side, what do you get? The side of rivers, a river bank, you get a bank.
Speaker 1:And again, this play on words is just really I find it really bizarre and I also find it really interesting to look at, because there are so, so many plays on words and I have another inversion for you. So where the world is distorted and it's inverted in a way that it shouldn't actually be, when you think of credit and debit, so a credit card should actually be your debit card, because credit is how much you actually have and a debit card is your debt card, which is really weird because your debit card is your current account, it's the money you actually have, and the credit card is money you don't have. But they should be the other way around. Yeah, now you're starting to get what I mean by the inversions, and there's a lot of these inversions in our life. The inversions, and there's a lot of these inversions in our life.
Speaker 1:And I do kind of feel, when we look at money, I feel like it's such a taboo topic. It really really is, and I think it's a topic that can lead to so much harm, so much destruction in our life, in our world. People, people take their lives over money. Money, at the end of the day, in that sense, it's not as important, it's not more important than a person god, no. And if you are somebody who bases their self-worth on how much money they've got or what they should be bringing in I don't often use this word, but it's wrong. It's wrong. People are losing sight of how important they are because they think that the number in their bank account is more important, or the amount of stuff that they have, the amount of thing experiences they can buy with their money is more important than who they are. This is a real issue. This is a very real issue, and I would like to open up the discussion about money, about debt.
Speaker 1:For a start, this podcast I've been doing it for nearly two years. I haven't made a penny off it. Admittedly, I haven't tried. People keep asking me, though. They're like, how much money do you make from doing a podcast? And I'm like I do not do this for money. I do this because it actually really fills me up, trying to open up dialogue, conversation, different ways of thinking, and if any of these episodes can help bring you or somebody else home to themselves and to realize their own true potential and who they are, that is more than what money could ever do for me.
Speaker 1:I see this podcast as so much more than money and don't get me wrong, I have spent a lot of money on the podcast and a lot of time. I'm nearly up to like a hundred full episodes and nearly a hundred intentions. This is a lot of time. This is a lot of time because, at the end of the day, the most valuable part, energetically, of your life is your time. That is the most valuable part, which is why it's so, so important that we don't waste our precious time, because we will not get any time back. That's pretty much 100% certain. We do not get any time back. That's pretty much 100% certain. We do not get any time back. So we must make sure that we are spending spending our time not our money our time wisely.
Speaker 1:And I am in full belief that when we align to the things we really want to do in life, or put out in life, or create in life, that everything else falls into place. And that is something that I am really working hard with at the moment, because I say working hard, I don't want to work hard with that. When everything's in alignment, everything feels easy, which is why the studio had to come to an end and that alignment I can already feel it shifting into place in many, many ways, becoming much easier. So I just want to make sure that that dialogue of money, debt, credit, whatever you want to call it, is opened up. We live in a world where sometimes you can take on a job and they say, part of your contract is not to discuss your money with anybody else. I just think that's everything wrong with the world. It really, really is, because as soon as we start hiding this, there is shame, and then we get too worried about starting up a conversation about this. But it's so, so important to keep the dialogue open because we don't want it to lead into those feelings of fear, shame, worry, anxiety. Be open about money as much as you can, about money as much as you can.
Speaker 1:And also, once we're on money, the value of using your card versus cash. And there's a lot of value of using cash to keep our sovereignty, to keep the ability to be able to spend the money where we choose to spend the money. This is so, so important. Please do go down that rabbit hole if you've not been down it before. But I would like to really discuss the value of card versus cash. Now, if you've got £100 in your hand in cash but you spend £100 on your card the £100 cash you are going to feel the tangibleness of that and you might even think, oh no, maybe I won't buy that. And because you, you'll feel the value of it and you'll think do I really want it?
Speaker 1:Whereas if it's a card, you could spend a pound on your card, a hundred pounds on your card, a thousand pounds on your card, 10,000 pounds on your card and it won't feel any different because it is just a plastic card. There's no value, and I think people are growing up now without this value for their money, without really recognizing it and then just spending it. So if you have a 10,000 pound limit on your credit card and you only have a hundred pounds in your debit card, if you spend a pound off your debit card and a thousand pound off your credit card because they're both cards, the value is is like physically not there. It's really hard to decipher, which is why so many people are in debt so many people. If you are somebody who is in debt yeah, most of the country is in debt, most of it is in debt and you need to try and find that value of money in regards to spending not your energy of yourself, but you need to be able to find where that line is.
Speaker 1:And if it means that maybe you start drawing out a lump sum of cash to do your grocery shopping and your fuel shopping every month, maybe that's a good idea to actually see the money go down, to allot the cash for it and spend it that way and actually be able to track it more, because we're living in a world now where, even in supermarkets, they're like, do you want your receipt? And you can say yes or no. Once upon a time, you would get your receipt, whether you liked it or not. And also, if you got stopped walking out the shop, the security guard has your your receipt to be able to look at. They must have a field day now with people walking out the shops without paying for stuff in their own bags. The world has really changed because once upon a time, if you took your own bag into a shop and then put stuff in it and then went to the checkout to pay, you'd get frowned upon walking all the way around, but now it's normal. Really, really odd, really really odd. So, yeah, let's just keep the conversation about money open. Remember, money does not define who you are or your value, but we need to try and find the value in the money again. If we can start spending more cash, that will actually really help you do that. Those are the two main areas I wanted to talk to you about, which was the online and about money, but I have a few other ones for you.
Speaker 1:So your mobile phone is also known as a cell phone. Now cells. We have cells in our body. Is it to? Do've also got television. Is it tell lie? Envision could be, because we also have remote controls, as in. Are we being controlled by the television? We have different channels to program us. Again, that's a weird one too, the fact. You know it's done as channels, and when you think about this I mean your channels. But a channel is a pathway to you or out of you, but then to be programmed through it. Why call it a program? Why not have picked a different word than to program something or someone?
Speaker 1:You've also got days of the week and the weekdays and the weekends. You've also got days of the week and the weekdays and the weekends. Is this another play on word? If you were to do, rather than W-E-A-K oh no, sorry, rather than W-E-E-K, do W-E-A-K. So week as in, feeling weak, the end of your week, you know just all the time feeling. Is it a play on words in that sort of way? We've also got mourning, which is the same, sounding pretty much as mourning as in, when you're in mourning for somebody and you're grieving. Is that our mourning Holiday? Is it a holy day? I like the idea of a holy day. That sounds great, sounds very sacred.
Speaker 1:This one I don't like at all. So gay and being out, out Out of what? And I know they say out of the closet. Is that what they originally meant? Or do they mean out of society Because again meant? Or do they mean out of society Because again the word out, I mean, I don't know it, just it isn't a word to me that fits. I think it, you know, if it's out of society, not good, not good at all. How about a contract? Have you ever signed a contract? Most of us have. Is it a con and you're being tracked?
Speaker 1:Breakfast, breaking the fast with breakfast, or should we be carrying on with the fast further into the day rather than what is deemed as a breakfast time? And here's a good one. Oh God Right, nasa, yeah, space agency, yeah, nasa in Hebrew actually means to deceive. There you go, enjoy that one. There's a ton of rabbit holes with that one if you want to go down any um. Also to end with a fun one like the word q. I love the word q because I think it's quite funny when it this was pointed out to me the other day and I was like I've got to end with this one because it's hilarious. But q the word q is just actually the letter Q, with a bunch of silent letters lining up after it, and I thought that's a good play on words. That's so true Q. So yeah, I hope you've enjoyed that because, like I said, it was supposed to be a little bit lighthearted.
Speaker 1:But actually now you're probably thinking not sure that that was, my brain is going on overload and now there's a whole bunch of other words that I'm really not sure have my good intentions at heart.
Speaker 1:I just feel there are so many distractions in our world and I think they're there on purpose and I think the more we can realize that those distractions are distractions, we can then start to engage in more meaningful conversation, because I don't think our lives should be full of talking about this is just my opinion, by the way.
Speaker 1:I don't think our lives should be full of talking about the news, politics, politics, sport, films, netflix. I kind of believe we are so much more, and when we actually allow more time to tap into ourselves further, I think our conversations with each other would just be much more heightened and in depth, rather than just surface hey, how you doing? Yeah, good, not too bad, thanks, and yeah, if you've ever met me before, you know I'm not very good at surface conversations, surprise, surprise. So feel free to hit me up with a load of extra words that you've suddenly thought of as well, because I always love to know more of these insights from you as well. And remember, as always, to lead through your life with your heart and to live with intention.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you enjoyed this episode, please do share it with your friends and on social media. If you have the time to rate or review this podcast, I'd be ever so grateful. If you'd like to follow me on Instagram, you can find me at Jolene Sensual Bean. The links to my YouTube and to sign up to my mailing list will be in the show notes as well. I look forward to speaking with you again very soon.