Therapy Notes

Someone can dance to our music, quote our lyrics, and still not respect Black people. I start with that uncomfortable truth and use it to talk about “cookout passes,” cultural appropriation, and why your real values show up in who you defend, who you platform, and who you align with when it counts. If you’ve ever felt torn between enjoying culture and holding people accountable, this one is for you. 

Then I take you into my therapy notes from a heavy Monday session. We dig into judgment, hypocrisy, and the exhausting question of what’s fair to criticize versus what’s really projection. I share how family grief, divorce, and childhood trauma keep resurfacing, especially through the lens of colorism and the kind of Southern, generational beliefs that can turn love into something conditional. We talk boundaries, faith, and what it means to pray for people you don’t even want in your space. 

From there, I tell a college story I’m not proud of, the kind that sticks to you because you know you hurt someone. It’s not gossip, it’s accountability, and it leads to the bigger point: we’re so distracted by politics, celebrity takes, and nonstop outrage that we forget to work on ourselves. If you want better relationships, better community, and a better society, the mirror has to come first. 

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Cold Open: Viruses And Headlines

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Ashman didn't get my chest today. Oh, because they want more play. What does on strike wanna raise the fan? So they can help us.

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The quarantine unit director is urging them to wait out the virus's maximum 42-day incubation.

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Atlanta's airport is now offering enhanced screening along with Houston and Washington's Dulles Airport.

The Myth Of The Cookout Pass

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But in the meantime, I had this thought about Jackson Dark. Let this be example number 2 million and one of why just because somebody appears to love black culture don't mean they really fuck with black people. And by that I mean this is that everybody was giving Jackson Dark the swag pass and the cookout class because he iced out, because he does his little end zone dances, and there was this immediate rush to be like, oh, he wanted us and he invited to the cookout. And when I say they don't mess with black people, meaning that it's not disqualified for them to associate themselves with somebody who is bigoted, who is racist, who constantly traffics in white supremacist talking points. Abdul Carter is a black man and a Muslim, so it wasn't a surprise that he had a problem with Jackson Dart aligning himself with Trump. But again, I just wanted to remind y'all doing a couple dances, listening to our music, knowing some rap lyrics does not mean you get any free passes, any cookout passes, or none of that. So go tell your manager, this is a friendly PSA.

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Yes, yes, yes.

Welcome Back And Memorial Day

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We are back week eight on the Heavy on the RB podcast. I am he, he is I I go by the name K Way, the creator, the proprietor, the sometimes um rarely nowadays, inappropriate YouTube commentator. Um really ain't saying too much in the YouTube chats now. Um, because I'm I'm building my own, you know, following and things like that. But uh, but yeah, man, that's me. Welcome back to week eight of the Heavy on the Army podcast, where we discuss the rhythms in the blues of life, man. Giving it to you straight talk, no chaser. Pause on the giving it to you part. Um, maybe one day I'll grow up, but not today. Man, today is Monday, and it has been a pretty chill Memorial Day weekend, if I do say so myself. Uh shout out to everybody that that uh followed me and and is joining on Mixed Cloud uh or even checked out the YouTube live. I'm probably not gonna do that anymore because they're just gonna clip it um at one hour, they'll stop. But if you haven't done so, go ahead and follow me on mixedcloud.com at Kwayforreal. That is pretty much like the after party to the podcast. And um had had a good time, done some 90s RB, which is what I specialize in, sub genres like New Jack Swing and the booty shaking music from the 90s, man. Um, just a good time because I try to live in nostalgia because sometimes it's very hard to live and focus on the now. Excuse me. Uh and yeah, it's just you know, it's a heavy world, so why not escape? I know my lady, my lady, my fiance gets on me sometimes because I'm I'm I'm very much a nostalgic person, you know. I like watching old shows, rock, new york undercover. Um, hell, we watching uh The Smart Guy right now with Taj Maori, and um, you know, that's the sister of uh Tia and Tamir Tamara Maori. One of them are weird, I can't remember which one, but one of them got some weird black views, and I think we we might have to dive into that. But um, but yeah, it's been a good good few days, good time off from work, and you know, here we are, week eight, very consistent on the heavy on the RB podcast.

Therapy And The Cost Of Judgment

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And this morning, I had therapy. Um, I go every other Monday, so by bi weekly. Didn't want to cough in the mic. So and it was an honest conversation, and it it got me thinking, um damn, am I am I am I too judgmental? I might be, but I feel like I got good reason to be judgmental. Um, because some things I'm just not bending on, you know, like you know, um the whole I remember when Lifetime came out with R. Kelly and people were still debating about his music, and it's like, yo, you the evidence is right here. If you still want to support this dude, like that's on you. But uh I'm I'm better than that. You know how they say don't don't don't act like you better than somebody. No, no, I don't believe in that. I think I think a lot of times we are better than people. At least we at least we're better than what they present to us. So um dealing with that and then dealing with the family aspect, you know, like like many of you know, if you've been listening and paying attention to the podcast, um, you know, losing my mom and going through a divorce. If you haven't, if this is your first time checking me out, go back and revisit episodes one and two where I really dive into the journey and how I ended up here, um, really go into intricacies and tell you about everything. Um, well, almost everything. There's still some things that I'm gonna touch on, like today. But I think today, you know, living in this country, it's it's an everlasting magic trick of the duality of man and woman and balancing hypocrisy. And I think we all are just trying our best to do it and do it to the fullest, but others are turning a blind eye to a lot of things, you know, like I touched on last week with the with the Kevin Hart roast and that joke about George Floyd and then you know, certain artists and certain rappers um coming out with music when you know they got a history of just being nefarious, and you know, you want to support that and break that down. And if you're a music journalist, I get that. You know, if you are a um a film critic, I get it. You know, you may have to do it for homework, but you know, I I struggle, um, I struggle with that. And a lot of what we talked on today is just unpacking those childhood traumas. You know, um I I latched on to more of my father's side of the family growing up. That's who I was closest to. And it wasn't like a um it may it may have been proximity because prior to moving to Indianapolis, we lived in South Bend, we lived in Atlanta, we lived in um in um, you know, just all throughout the Midwest. So, you know, maybe I had more more of that side of the family around me, but at that time I felt loved. You know, we didn't really know what poor was. We just knew we just knew what we had. You know, I had cousins. We we we we kind of grew up together, we hopped fences, we got in trouble together, you know, Saturday night when when the parents is upstairs playing cars and dominoes and drinking. Um, and you know, I had some I had some heavy, heavy hitter family members, you know, that was doing other things besides smoking and drinking. This as you say, there's a lot of white activity on the on the on the table one time when I went up there. It was a mountain of chalk. But you know, the kids go downstairs in the basement and you and you you play games and you wrestle or you play in the game system or you know, you whatever, whatever it is with your cousin. We outside catching lightning bugs. Like that, you know, that was my childhood. I'm I'm from I'm from that era. I'm from the era where you had to pick up the phone to see who was on the other end, not you just look at it and put it down. I'm from the era of uh Star 69. You just call me, you know, let the music play on your voicemail when you've got a prepaid cell phone, singular wireless, and then you just you leave a sexy message. Yeah, this is this is K way. I'm not here right now. I'm at work, you know, I'm getting this paper. But if you see fit, leave me a message and I might think about getting back to you. Peace. That's some shit that you know I would say. One time I had a rap voicemail. Um, I don't know if I remember that, but whatever.

Colorism At Home And Its Damage

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Um, so you know, just unpacking that, and and and I realized my mom's side of the family had a lot of like colorist viewpoints, and they still do, they still have a lot of colorist viewpoints, you know. I mean me and a family member clash all the time because that family member doesn't see the uh colorous viewpoints that they have, what they were raised with, and it's hard to you know change a grown person um value system that was raised on that. I have another family member on that side of the family that specifically said, you know, that they wouldn't want to date a black man um because all they do is make babies and they lazy. Mind you, this same family member went to jail for messing with a uh a young girl. She well, yeah, she, I didn't want to tell it, but at that time, uh this family member was a lesbian and you know, decided to, and this is in the south, by the way. This is a very southern state. This is a state where they still have uh sundown towns and they have segregated palms all the way up until like the mid-2000s. So, you know, she went through that, got out of jail, tried to get back what it didn't work. Now she back on men, but she likes white men and is down in you know um us. She's down in, you know, black men. And it's it's almost like the old Malcolm X speech. Who taught you to hate yourself? Like, who taught you that? So unpacking that in therapy and realizing that you know we're all just a short fall from grace, and I ain't too good to pray for nobody. And I think I'm gonna do a better job of praying for people that I don't like in my family. There's some people that I will not just, you know, God ain't brought me there yet, but I I don't want I won't even entertain you. I try not to complain about things that I entertain, so um, but you know, me and my grandmother, my mom's mom, we fell out. We fell, I was like 14, we fell out because her um her value system was very, very much rooted in colorism, um, being in the South, you know, being born in 1937, and you know, calling me a little black dude or you know, black this or darkie, you know, this, that, and the third, and off and also talking very bad about my dad. Um, and she was a Jehovah's Witness. So I remember like it was

A 2002 Blowup With Grandma

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yesterday, man. Let's take it back to uh let's take it back to 2004. 2000 No, it would have been I think it would have been like 2002. Let's see, I graduated high school in 2006, I was 18. So 2002, I would have been 14. Yeah, yeah, 2002. Let's take it back there. I think Jar Ru was on top of the world at that time. And you know, I went down south to stay with my brother for a little bit. Went down there to stay with him. Um, because my brother, he moved out the house when I was like five, four or five years old. He left us. My mother shipped him down to um to the south because of the issues that he was getting in. Like, and these are extreme issues that he was getting in. Um where we grew up at that time, it was on pace to be the murder capital of the world. I think it I think it was the murder capital of the world, like one of those summers, you know. The whole that whole region, Gary, South being in Chicago, East Chicago, it was it was bad. It was it was one of them hot summers. It was like 90, man, 92, 93, you know, and that's when violence was really like kind of bad back then, um, compared to what it is now. I mean, it's still bad, but you know, colors were a thing, gang activity. And you know, people think it's Indiana, you know, it's cornfields. No, there's hoods everywhere. DJ Quick got a song called Just Like Compton, and that is the the truth ghetto gospel. You know, everything, you know, Compton has his moniker, but there's there are plenty of Comptons in the world. So anyway, um, you know, he got kicked out, and I had to I had to do a lot on my own. You know, we'll touch on that um in a minute, but it was like 2002. Jar Rule Murder Ingden on top right now. I mean Lil John, Bia Bia, and you know, I I go down there, and by this time I'm I'm 14, I'm 13, 14 years old. I'm coming to my own. I'm I'm I'm a teenager now. I'm understanding right and wrong, and you know, I'm kind of wise beyond my years, because just just like a few months ago, uh well that that previous year, almost a year ago, Halloween, I stopped celebrating Halloween. I remember it was it was the uh I was 13 and the NBA had premiered that night. And I'm walking, I got my my mask on, I was Freddie Krueger. Um, and it just felt like a burden. Like I ain't really want to do it, I didn't believe in it no more. And the the crowd that I was running with was going out and snatching bags, and I didn't want to do that. Um, so I was like, man, you know what? I don't know what came over me. It had to be the spirit of God. I know God has always had his hand on my life, but there are certain instances where you can't tell me nothing about God because it ain't been nobody but him. And this is one of them instances where I turned around, I told the fellas, like, man, I'm I'm I'm cool, man. I'm going home tired, I'm about to watch the game. And I was uh I remember watching NBA on TNT, and I was on ESPN. That was it premiered Halloween night. I feel like the Nuggets was playing somebody. Um I think that was Melo. Yeah, it had to be like Melo Rookie Year, maybe somewhere around there. So uh, long story short, that night uh some of the homies was throwing eggs, and and one of the homies got shot in the back and bled to death because one of the guys got out the car and and shot him in the back. So um, you know, that could have been me. And I think that was one of the nights where where you know God showed showed up as he constantly does, he shows up in my life. So I was uh I was overzealous about the Lord at that time. You know, I'm a I'm a vacation Bible school kid. My mother bought me this this this Bible, it's called the treasure bible, and it had these games, like at the end, you flip to the back page and it tells you, like, all right, you read this, this, and this, and you get this treasure, you unlock it. And I was reading Proverbs every night for wisdom. You know, I'm in church on every Sunday with with my mom and and my dad and my little sister. So, you know, I'm I'm coming off that. I'm coming off that a year straight. Uh just kind of navigating my way through junior high. You know, um, I'm starting high school. Um, no, no, I'm going into eighth grade the following year. Because back home, junior high was sixth, seventh, was sixth through ninth grade. Uh I'm sorry, seventh through ninth grade in elementary school is uh kindergarten through sixth. So I'm going through junior high and uh that summer of like oh two, oh three years, somewhere around there, I went and stayed with my brother. And you know, at this time, my brother, he is, you know, he's a street, he's he's like our father. He well was a lot like our father, what he was doing um back in the day, uh being a street pharmacist, heavy, heavy in his area, well known, you know. So we had a lot of freedom because he he was staying, he had two houses. And me and my cousins was at one that was like the fun house. And then um, you know, he was at the main house with his woman. Uh somehow one of my cousins told the the the youngest one, you know, we we were at home by ourselves, and you know, my mom ain't like it. So she made us go to her sister's house, my auntie, and that's where my granny was, and that is when it happened. We got into it, you know, she was a Jehovah's Witness. And um I just remember her saying, you know, um, you know, like uh little, you know, you look little black this and little black that, and you know, just really putting the black moniker on me like it's a negative thing. And I told her, I said, yeah, I it was like straight out of a movie or something. I was like, you know, you think God made you and He didn't make me? Mind you, I'm a vacation Bible school kid. I know what I'm talking about a little bit right now. I'm on fire for the Lord and everything. And and one thing led to another. And I told her, I was like, because she was telling me, you know, in the Jehovah's Witness doctrine, they believe like so many thousand people are only allowed in heaven or something like that. Um and I told her, I was like, you know, God is God has been on this earth, you know, since the beginning of the time, in the beginning it was the word, and the son of and the son of God is is Jesus. And that's over 2,000 years ago. So you telling me out of all this time, only these amount of people is gonna get um, you know, into heaven or or whatever you saying, and you know, we would we we kept getting into it. We kept getting into it, and I told her, uh, I think the final straw was like, I'm 14, and I got the rest of my life to to look ahead and not make mistakes. And you setting a good example of the type of human that I never want to be. And she called, she called my mama and called me disrespectful, and this, that, and the third. And I straight up told my mom, like, nah, she's disrespectful. She's always talking about me and my skin color, she's always talking about my dad and these deep-rooted colorism issues. So I'm not listening to her. She may be your mother, but she's nothing to me, you know, at that time, you know. And I'm I'm going, I'm 14. I had a I had a hot mouth pause. Um, very spicy, very quick-witted, very witty, you know, borderline attitude sometimes. So that happened, and I didn't, I didn't see her again or speak to her again from the time I was 14 until I was like 33. And she ended up passing away about six months after my mom passed. And I didn't feel no way about it. I still don't feel no way about it. Um, and that's what it that's one of the notes from therapy this morning. Like, I don't know, it's hard to miss what you don't have, but also I understand that sometimes I can I can have judgmental

Who Deserves Prayer And Grace

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eyes. And I think the struggle for all of us right now, what we're dealing with, is what is okay to judge and what is not okay to judge, from the things we entertain to the things that we see on TV. Like, we know this president, most Americans know this president is not a good person, but then you got an NFL quarterback for the New York Giants that comes out and endorses him and it introduces him like it's nothing. And those are the kind of things that is struck like I struggle with internally. It's almost like the duality of hypocrisy. How do you balance it? What do you judge, what do you not judge? And my therapist said something good. She said, you know, like in scripture, one finger, you point one finger at somebody, and and two or three are pointing back at you. Best thing to do is pray for them, and that's what I struggle with. Because I guess prayer is supposed to be from everybody if you believe in that doctrine, but I don't know if I want to pray for everybody, just like I don't want everybody to pray for me because I don't know where your prayers are gonna go. Like, I think some of y'all prayers might be going to God's spam box, and it is um it's a struggle, it really is, and I'm working on it, and that's that's that's pretty much what happened in therapy this morning, man. The therapy notes was was heavy, it was heavy this morning because I'm trying to break generational curses, but it's hard to break generational curses with a generation of family members that are just committed to being cursed, and they still have these ideologies and this this light-skinned, dark-skinned hatred, you know, doctrine that they are embedded in. So I think the best thing that I could do is love and pray from a distance and create the legacy and family that I want. And um, I think I think I'm gonna leave it there. I think that's what I'm focused on. The we we got the wedding coming up, and honestly, I'm probably other than my dad, I don't know who from my family is really gonna be there. It's one thing to say you're gonna be there, it's one thing to RSVP, but you. Know a destination wedding, you're supposed to see a track record of okay, this person made a payment, or they at least put it down a deposit to reserve the room. But I don't know. And honestly, I really don't even think I give a damn. Because it's hard to miss what you don't have. I got a dad, I see him a few times a year. I talk to him every day, literally, literally talk to him every day. So as far as I'm concerned, that's the only family member that I really can care about. You know what I'm saying? Um, anybody else, I just I don't know. It's it's a weird situation. It's like the older that I get, the more I don't know if it's me being unbothered or I just don't care. Or maybe it's a collection of both. So yeah, man, that's that that was the um that was this morning session. It was heavy. It was so heavy, I took a nap, and I'm glad today we had off work because I needed that nap, man. I needed to to like decompress and also kind of digest some of these issues because therapy, man, I've been going consistently for um six years now, six and a half, almost seven. Every day is a new, every session is a new session, it's not the same. I learned something about myself, and there's never like a waste, and you really don't know how fucked up you are until you start unpacking some of those childhood traumas, deep, deep rooted childhood traumas, and that's what we've been focused on because I want to make sure that I'm the best version of myself and my future wife is getting the best version of me. Um, because the wedding is coming up quick, it's it's almost June. The wedding is in October. Lord, it's flying by. So that's what I'm working on, man. Um, and and along with that, I really had to put down some of like some of the old things that I was holding on

College Ego And A Public Mess

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to. Some things I haven't forgave myself, you know. Um, being in college, I can remember like being in college at the University of Kentucky. I transferred from Texas AM. I I thought it was I was pretty low-key. I didn't really know anybody. And then I remember the first the first girl, my first girlfriend there, um, and this is coming off of a serious relationship that I had at Texas AM. Um, I was with someone that I don't know, man. I I thought it could have been a lot, it could have gone a lot further than what it was, but in actuality, it was probably the first heartbreak. Because she was, you know, she was an it girl, she was a Texas cheerleader, Texas AM cheerleader, and she also um was on the Houston Rockets squad. So there was a lot of like off and on, up and down, and I think maybe I was just I was more like infatuated with the title of what she was like, oh, this person is everybody knows her, you know, and and I got the it girl. Fucking it girls come with it problems. So fast forward, you know, you transfer to a new school where you don't know anybody and you making friends by it. I wasn't Greek at this time, and um, you know, I met a young lady, we hit it off. It was very toxic, though. It was very toxic on both ends. Um, I think change things changed when I pledged. So up until then, nobody really knew me. You know, you may have seen my face, you may have known I was new and went to the track was on the track team, and and this, that, and the third. But I had a pretty quiet, nice life. But oh Lord, when you pledge a frat or sorority, you your name is not your name anymore. You are it was it went from you know my name to being like you know, it wasn't just K way, it was K way the IOTA, you know, or insert whatever D9 organization in your name. You're you're that. So I remember, man, I never forget this in my life at my probate, you know, when you do the unveiling and you and I and I was the tail, so I'm the last one. I take off my mask. It was like uh uh I had a few applause because some of my teammates came and supported me, but it was like, and I'm really not trying to toot my own horn, but literally it was a gasp of women that was like, who the fuck is that? And I kid you not, this is Facebook at its height. Maybe the next morning, I had about I don't know, 740 friend requests of people I didn't know to the point where it maxed out because I think they maxed you out at like 5,000. And I had already had a good amount from being, you know, at Texas AM or whatever. So mind you, I had a girlfriend at this time, and you know, everything was cool. Maybe like a day or two after you start getting that attention, you start getting that attention that you probably don't need, but I'm young, I'm in college, and some of the attention that I got were from uh upperclassmen, and I'll tell the story. Um the attention that I got that I entertained, meaning I stepped out on my then relationship, was from a TA. Not not really proud to, you know, and it still bothered. Well, I ain't gonna say it still bothers me, but it bothered me until I forgave myself and and she forgave me, you know. And it's a long story because we were toxic together, but anyway. Um, you know, you you you become that that frat person, and then double that with being on the track team, and then you know, at that time I wasn't medium ugly. So I had I did okay. I had a car, you know, so I was a normal, nice guy, and then it just turned into this ego thing. Um, and mind you, I had in high school, I had plenty, you know, plenty of women or girls, I could say it in high school. Um, but this was the first time where I was an adult making adult decisions because not only was she at TA, she was, you know, a grad student and older than me. And we're young adults. And man, I must have talked to her all night in uh like the um one of the student centers or whatever. And one thing led to another, and that thing led to another. And then um I think somehow it got back, got back to her, turned into a big blow-up argument. Me and the T, me and the me and the young lady, we going to dinner, right? I'm driving. I got super dark tents on my car. So she drives past me, my then girlfriend, and um my tents are so dark that I just act like I ain't see her. I just keep driving past. Went to this restaurant called Cheddar's. Get into Cheddar's, we eating, we cool, and this is all this is like this is off the campus. This is like way off campus. This is like Richmond Road area where the nice houses are. Go to Cheddar's. Guess who walks in? My then girlfriend. Oh Lord, man. She got up, she threw food at me, she cussed me out, plates was flying, it spilled in the parking lot. It was bad. It was like probably one, it was the worst date of my life, and I've been on some terrible dates, man, and I will talk about them, but it was bad. It was it was such such a bad date, and it was such a bad look. And that kind of stuff, it sticks with you because me being an empath, it's like Kendrick said, you know, I'm sensitive, I feel everything, I feel everybody. And it wasn't until probably uh maybe like my first few months of marriage where I was like, all right, I'm gonna let all of this go. Because I'm dragging these insecurities into you know my marriage. It just so happened, I was battling a whole bunch of other shit too, you know, with mom's passing and depression and all of that. And you know, I say all that to say we got so much like other shit to focus on that I don't have time to be worried about world issues and worldly issues that the masses

Stop Performing And Start Self-Work

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care about. I'm working on myself, man. I'm trying to be the best person of myself, I'm trying to, you know, get married and bring children into this world that I can and have values that I can instill into my legacy. And I just think that right now we're so distracted with all this other nonsense. Nobody cares about working on themselves, and I'm talking about both sides because yeah, it's one thing to stick up for what you believe in, but if you wake up every day arguing with the same people about the same things and sharing the same negativity and same propaganda, you know, it's like it's like what Kendrick said. Why argue with these clowns if the cell if the circus is is well at work? So I think for me, and just tying it all together from you know the therapy session, working through family trauma, um, dealing with uh being unfaithful in an early relationship where I probably shouldn't be, you know, having I shouldn't have held that over my head, but at the same time, I've you know I hurt somebody, and I don't like hurting people unless you know you deserve it. Um man, we all got stuff to work on, and we all are just a short fall from grace. I'm telling you, man, like clean up your own house, clean up your own skeletons before trying to impose values on other people, and that's what I've been trying to do, you know, even taking back my judgmental judgment, judgment, judgmental ways, because like, yeah, maybe you're wrong for listening to R. Kelly, and I'm letting you know that, but I'm not gonna give up on you as a family member, and I'm gonna still pray for you and love you from a distance, even if I can't do it in proximity. Because I've made some mistakes myself, and that was um, and that was one of them. But also, I think I'm grateful that um I kind of got that out of my system early. Well, not kind of, I got that out of my system early. Um the the duality of everything, all of this together, when it comes to me, when it comes to Kway, your host that you're listening to, is I have been the man for a very long time. Well, was I've had ups and downs. I've I've gone with, I've gone without. I've been on top of the world, I've been at the bottom of the barrel with the sticky shit. And balancing all of that, man, I've learned a lot, you know. Being on there's many stories like that with the TA. That happened to me in high school. It just so happened. I was so talented, I broke records, and everybody forgot about it. You know what I mean? And then when you're an adult and you bring some of these habits that you learn from your parents, and it contributes to the way that you are as a man or a woman or spouse, it could really like it could really mess you up until you go work on yourself. And I mean literally work on yourself. Don't go to therapy and lie to your therapist. If you if you leave from therapy every time, and it's like isn't I mean, I'm not saying it has to be heavy, but there needs to be some kind of accountability uh or discernment, you know. So I think that's what I'm learning. And I think we all just working through this, and I know everybody is is you know focused on the worldly issues, whether whether it's the Trump administration, whether it's Drake, whether it's um the war, you know, saying, um, or just the everyday gossip and everyday banter. Like, I think everybody just needs to take a look in the mirror and work on themselves, man. Because you can't pour from an empty cup, gotta make sure your cup is full first. So that's what I learned, and yeah, man. That's therapy notes for today.

Kway’s Gripes And A Value Society

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And I do have a gripe. So Kway's gripes, man. It's it's gonna be short today. I won't be before you long. So as the Moesha instrumental plays in the background, I just gotta say, we got the Hanna virus, it's spread to humans through rodent urine and feces, which is crazy. We got an Ebola outbreak, we got Jackson Dart, the quarterback of the New York Giants, introducing Trump at a rally. The same NFL that blackballed Colin Kaepernick for taking a knee because cops were killing us, and a host of other injustices. You got that going on, coupled with everybody still talking about this Iceman album, which doesn't fucking matter. It don't matter, man. Then you got gender wars, and you got the Cheyenne Bryant incident. Everybody is focused on so many things except themselves. Please put value in yourself, put value in each other, and we'll have a value society. Peace.