Outgrowing Friendships & Relationships

Hey y’all! 💗 In this week’s episode of The Inside Scoop with Mom & Me, we’re having a real and honest conversation about outgrowing friendships and relationships.

Sometimes growth brings change, and that can be really hard. People who once felt like forever don’t always walk with us into the next season of life. We talk about how these shifts can feel confusing, emotional, and even painful, but also how they can be a natural part of growing and becoming who God is calling you to be.

Seasons change, people grow, and sometimes paths go in different directions and that’s okay. 💗

If you’ve ever struggled with letting go, setting boundaries, or navigating friendships that feel different than they used to, this episode is for you.

Grab your coffee, sit with us, and let’s talk about it. 💗

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

I'm Deja Monet. And I'm Athena J.

SPEAKER_01 0:03

We are a mom and daughter duo who's been through trying and challenging preteen and teen years, identity issues, fear, guilt, shame, not knowing who we are or whose we are, but God, we now have a godly, strong, healthy mother and daughter relationship. So this is the Inside Scoop with Mom and Me. Hey y'all. Welcome back.

SPEAKER_00 0:35

We are so excited to be back with you guys. Yes, we are so excited about this topic. Deja, what is our topic?

SPEAKER_01 0:44

Yes, y'all. We are going to be discussing outgrowing friendships and relationships.

SPEAKER_00 0:49

This is going to get real good.

SPEAKER_01 0:51

Yes, it is, y'all. But before we get started, we're just going to kick it off with gratitude. Um, so for me, I'll just go first. So I'm just really grateful. Um, if you guys saw our most recent post, we were just talking about praise and worship, and we're just so delighted and we're just so excited. So I'm just really grateful.

SPEAKER_00 1:09

You know, I'm just grateful for uh another day. I'm grateful for life, health, and strength. I'm grateful to be able to have this platform. I am just truly grateful for all things, right? Give thanks unto the Lord.

SPEAKER_01 1:24

For he is good and his mercies endureth forever.

SPEAKER_00 1:27

Amen. Amen. Y'all, are y'all ready? Y'all, before we get started, you know, we wanted to kick this off because we thought this topic was something that was important. Outgrowing friendships, relationships. Anybody been there before?

SPEAKER_01 1:46

Yes, y'all. Oh my gosh. Like this whole topic, I feel like is so timely, especially what you said, just outgrowing our friendships and relationships, because sometimes we could just see it as a struggle. It's hard. And sometimes we're thinking, like, oh, it has to be such a big deal, and oh my gosh, we fell out and this, that and a third, but no, I mean, you just outgrow.

SPEAKER_00 2:07

Yeah, you know, one of the emotions that come with outgrowing a friendship or a relationship I've noticed, right? Because I've been there before too, right? Is guilt. Yes. When you do you know, I think that one of the most emotions that you feel when you outgrow a friendship or relationship or a friendship, you're like, oh, I feel guilty because is this supposed to be like this, or should I be fighting harder for the relationship?

SPEAKER_01 2:38

Yeah, and then you start asking yourself, like, oh, why does this not fit anymore? Why is this just not making sense? You know, and it hurts. But it's like you said, then you start to feel guilty. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:50

But guilty, you guilt, I should say, is something that I you struggle with. I think we struggle with, period, with anything in our life, right? Right. And so when we see something that is slowly going away from us, we don't know what happened. Exactly. And then you look at it sometimes when you talk to your friend on an everyday basis. Right. Right. And then you kind of see that friendship that you talk to them every two weeks. Whoa. Yeah, that stuff sucks. Yeah, you know, you know what I'm saying. And then obviously it sucks. You see that, oh man, I ain't talked to them in a month, right? Then you're feeling guilty about why, right? Right. And sometimes to me, you know, friendship does do that. And it kind of, you know, in relationships, and you don't even understand the why it happened. Exactly. But then you feel guilty because you're like, oh man, you know, uh, what why why did this happen? Why haven't I spoken to this person in a month or two? Okay, maybe I should just get on the phone, call them up really quick, and kind of salvage.

SPEAKER_01 3:55

Yeah, exactly. Start to salvage just like you start to try to, I don't know, perform, you know, for that um for that friendship or relationship. So you try to perform and like, oh, if I try even harder, then it'll work out. But sometimes it's okay if it doesn't, you know what I mean.

SPEAKER_00 4:11

But one of the things that I feel when we try to salvage, because you don't you can't understand that why. Exactly. Because nothing really happened.

SPEAKER_01 4:19

Exactly. And I feel like that's our human nature to start questioning things and starting trying to understand the why this happened. And when our brains cannot even comprehend like the why, it's kind of like then what is going on?

SPEAKER_00 4:30

Yeah, and you know, because one of the things I think about, because some of you know, because this happened to me on several occasions, uh, drifting apart from and outgrowing some of the friendships and relationships, right? Um, and it's like what the part of it is that's missing and sometimes missed for me is wait, we didn't even have an argument. Exactly. We didn't even have a disagreement. How is this possible? Exactly. Right. But as you grow, right? But it, you know, when I think about it, it's it's all about growth. Exactly. Right? Yeah. And seasons change.

SPEAKER_01 5:05

Yeah, and like, and honestly, like not everybody is supposed to go with you through the um next level. What did they say? We're supposed to go from glory to glory to glory. Sometimes your friends, the relationship just can't go to glory to glory, glory with you, you know?

SPEAKER_00 5:17

And it is, and and so when that does happen, or you kind of see that you're drifting away from someone, right, and you don't see an argument, right, or you haven't got an argument, you haven't talked to that friend in a couple weeks, I don't think that you should feel guilty for that, right? But I you have to take a step back and realize that you know what? Okay, I'm changing. I'm changing. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 5:41

So we have to look at ourselves like, okay, okay, if this friendship or this relationship is no longer, let's just say like hashtag not serving me. That's it. And we have to look at, okay, what is changing? Are my values changing? Are my priorities changing? What I like, what I was interested in before when this friendship used to work out. Maybe it's just my priorities changed. Um, emotional maturity, you know? Is it growing? Is it different? How do I feel about certain things now? Do you feel some type of way when somebody says certain things like you didn't used to before? So I think we have to take a look at ourselves too and be like, okay, why is this friendship changing? Oh, okay. Maybe it is me. And if it is me, okay, that's okay too, you know, because like you say, we're supposed to evolve, we're supposed to grow.

SPEAKER_00 6:24

And and that's the maturity. Right. And seasons change. Exactly. Period. Period. I I don't think that, you know, we got to make it up. I don't think that you need to feel guilty. And if you are that person, or if you're like me, um, and you get that guilty feeling, and then you want to kind of salvage something that no longer serves you, exactly, it's gonna be a disservice for you. Right. Well, that's good. Because it's gonna keep you stuck to where you're at and you're evolving, but it doesn't mean anything. Right. Right? And like, you know, one of the things you did mention, Dejes, is um values change.

SPEAKER_01 7:02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:03

You know, and those values is kind of, you know, where are you at today? Where were you at 20 years ago?

SPEAKER_01 7:11

Like, what is important to you now that wasn't really important then? Yeah, and it's in relationships too, right?

SPEAKER_00 7:17

Because the person you a person met you at your 20s, right? Right? In your 20s, you're no longer that per I'm no longer that same person today. Exactly. So everyone's not. And I think that's the thing. That's true.

SPEAKER_01 7:34

That's true. We're supposed to change. Yeah. Like, you know what I mean? I mean, God forbid, like, I'm the same person that I was 10 years ago. Like, okay, so I'm 27, acting like a 15-year-old. Like, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 7:46

Like, and and and but I think that that's what happens with us, right? You know, um, because I think that it's so I think sometimes it comes so quickly and we're not ready for it. Yeah. And I think that that's what we struggle with, and people in general, women in general. What we do is wait a minute, I remember Thina back then. Exactly. I remember Deja back then. And they try to hold you to that back then, right? But it's no longer me anymore. My values, I have changed, but it doesn't mean that I'm better than you either, right? Right. We cannot get stuck. And, you know, so it takes me back when I when I think about it to, you know, I was in a relationship for a long time. Two decades, right?

SPEAKER_01 8:39

Oh, that sounds so long, Mark. I know, right?

SPEAKER_00 8:41

Is that like good gracious? Um and and you know, I brought it up to say, you know, yeah, when you met me in my 20s, right? I'm totally different now in my, let's leave that name number out. Um, but everybody know, you know, when you're mature in age. Right. Um not mature, mature, mature in age, that it was different, right? Right. And so what I noticed in that relationship is that there was no big beef, we didn't have no argument, there was nothing done differently. There was no kind of nothing like nothing, exactly best friends, best everything. We shared a lot of experiences. So much in common, right? And so we grew apart. That's it. I mean, it was not even like it was a you didn't even have to say anything. You kind of it just It just fades away. It drifts. Fades away. Like you're like, oh my gosh, how did this happen? I've been with a person for decades. Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 9:50

And I think that's what's shocking too. It's like how you can be friends or in a relationship with somebody so long. It's like, how is it possible that it changed like that? You know what I mean? Like without, like you said, nothing even happening. There was no discussion, there was no argument, there was no big rah-rah, woo-y-woo. No, nothing, but it just changes. But I think too, it's like, okay, things change, but sometimes it's like you're evolving, but the relationship or the friendship stays frozen. Oh, yeah, that is so true. Yeah, oh, I like that. It stays frozen, like it stays stuck in that time. Yeah. Oh man, I miss who Thina used to be. No, but I'm changing, I'm evolving. I've gotten old. I mean, uh-uh. I've got an older, I've matured. Don't come for me.

SPEAKER_00 10:35

But yeah, exactly. And it was, and and like I said, it was, yeah, people think that you need a big argument or you mean need a big disagreement. Um, we didn't even have that, but our values, everything, priorities shifted, and like you said, evolving and the relationship was frozen. In time. In time. Exactly. I love that because you don't even recognize that, but it's time to what? Move on. I mean, that's it. You move on, y'all. Exactly. Because you don't want to be stuck. I like that frozen in time. Yeah, like it is frozen.

SPEAKER_01 11:11

You know, like a time capsule.

SPEAKER_00 11:12

You try to keep it and make it stay where you need it to stay at a certain time period, but no. You know, but why do we fight for that? And why do we want to, you know, I I why do we do that?

SPEAKER_01 11:23

I think that's a good question because I think we're all we all like familiar, familiarity. Yeah, girl. Yeah. Familiarity, and just um, we like things that are comfortable. We don't like to be stretched a lot. Well, I know I don't. Yeah. I'm not complacent, but sometimes, you know, when things change, you like to feel comfortable. And I think when we get kind of outside of that, that's why we try to hold on so bad, you know. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:52

Yeah, I I get that because we do. And I think what the thing of it is is we don't want to feel like, you know, when you outgrow something or you know, priorities. Well, you don't want to be without us out. You don't want to be without that person. But sometimes you or a person. Or a person, right? And so you're like, man, because dad, I'm outgrowing and I'm changing, and I don't have nothing more in common with this person. Yes. Oh my God, my my priorities changing. And why? Why? Wait, wait a minute. I don't want to lose them because they did add something to me, and I don't want that part to go. It's just that missing piece. But sometimes that missing piece can keep you stuck.

SPEAKER_01 12:35

Oh, that's good.

SPEAKER_00 12:36

And it could keep you holding on to something. They can hold you back. Yeah, and you're not growing.

SPEAKER_01 12:41

Right, not going forward. So you have to choose who. You choose you, right? Yeah. And it's okay to choose you and put you first.

SPEAKER_00 12:48

It's always okay to choose yourself, right?

SPEAKER_01 12:51

Bet on yourself. Oh, I love that. Bet on yourself. Somebody had told us, like, you know, obviously trust God, but trust yourself. Yeah, because sometimes we don't trust our own self. Yeah, because we're always, oh gosh, I don't want to make the wrong decision. No, trust your instinct, trust your intuition. It's there for a reason. Trust your gut, trust your belly.

SPEAKER_00 13:07

Yeah, and and then it does not have to be a dramatic scene. It doesn't, you know, it doesn't. When outgrowing friendships and relationships, like I said, I know I've been through it, I experienced it. And I did leave there like, whoa.

SPEAKER_01 13:20

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 13:20

And like sad. Now you are sad, right? Be salty. You be sad about outgrowing this friendship and relationship because you can't believe that it came because you didn't see it 20 years ago. Exactly. But then when you see it and you walk through it, and then now I kind of get it, I do get it, right? Yeah. It's not that I had anything against the person, not anything for it, still, you know, wish all is well and still can pray and wish God's blessings upon them. Um, it's just was the season was over. That's it. It has come to an end.

SPEAKER_01 13:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 13:54

You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 13:56

And I think another thing is too that you brought up like, oh, why do we try to hold on to these things? One, like in a relationship wise, I think because one, we don't want to be alone, we don't want to be single, that's the thing like that. And then two, when it comes to friendships, I think we always think about quantity over quality. Like we want to have like plenty different friends. Oh, oh, I have all these friends and these many people to choose from, and yada yada yada. But we always we don't look at the quality of the friendship sometimes either. So I think sometimes that's why we hold on to the quantity rather than the quality. Oh, I think we don't want to be alone, we'd rather be in a relationship than single.

SPEAKER_00 14:32

Yeah. And those seasons, you need every one of them. And who do you have at your table with you, right? Exactly. And that is when those seasons who can, and and that's a good point because I think quantity, I think that as you mature, yeah, and as you grow, and as you start to love on yourself, that quantity becomes, you know, I look for quality. Exactly. And what can you bring to me? And what am I bringing into? Like, what are you pouring into me? Correct.

SPEAKER_01 14:59

And then vice versa, how can I pour into you?

SPEAKER_00 15:01

How? It's a two-way street. It's a two-way street. And some people cannot do that. And it's okay. Right. You know, and I think that that's again that guilt. And and we want to kind of feel like, oh, we want them to come, come, come with us. But they can't. Exactly. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 15:19

Yeah. And I think we can, you know, look at the reasons of, you know, if we're like, okay, how do I even really know that these friendships are shifting and that I'm outgrowing these friendships? Um, I think from just experience, you know, your friendships start like your conversations just start to change. Um, they feel forced, they feel very like surface level. You can't really go deep and under the mask and nothing like that. It's just very like, oh, okay, yeah. Oh, great. You know, awkwardness, you know. Um you leave, you know, some of the hangouts where like the situation's feeling kind of like um drained or empty or feel like you've poured out so much that you don't feel like refreshed.

SPEAKER_00 16:00

Oh, yeah. So that's a couple good signs to know that the you're outgrowing that friendship. Yeah. Right? Or that relationship. You're outgrowing because when you can leave a whole interaction, yes, and feel drained and feel depleted. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you know, one of the things I feel too that I've experienced and I think you've experienced is you cannot fully be yourself anymore. Oh, that's so true. You know, when you in uh around people, exactly, um, you feel like, wait a minute, I'm trying to be something that I'm no longer I am. Yeah. It's not who I am anymore. Exactly. And you're trying to fit into that puzzle and it's just not fitting anymore. That's so good. Right? And so sometimes, you know, that's an easy sign to realize, whoa, let me go home, let me think about this, and let me figure out how to navigate through that. You don't even have to navigate through it, right?

SPEAKER_01 17:02

You just like, wait, why did it feel like I was pretending the entire time? Like, why couldn't I really feel being fully present in that conversation? Fully present. And I have nothing in common. I have nothing to say. This feels weird, this feels off. Again, like we said, trust yourself, trust your gut.

SPEAKER_00 17:19

Yeah, and that's one last thing as an example. I know we were talking about is shrinking yourself to feel connected.

SPEAKER_01 17:25

Ooh, that's so good. We kind of like that's a good point. We kind of like drum own selves down ourselves down to kind of fit in with the, I don't know, the conversation or um the environment or whatever the case may be. That's good.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Who has done that? Me. Me too. And you feel, but you know, when you have your friendships, when you have your your you know, you you're in the right friendship, you know, um, and you haven't outgrown it, you can say that you can be yourself fully yourself and you feel comfortable with yourself.

SPEAKER_01 17:59

Right.

SPEAKER_00 18:00

Um, you're able to show up and not have to drum yourself down to fit in, to feel connected. So if these couple signs, let's go through them again, because you know, somebody, I know I needed to hear them too, right? Um, what are those signs?

SPEAKER_01 18:16

When you will see a sign that you're outgrowing like friendships or relationships, you know, your conversations start to shift. They get kind of like, oh, this feels really forced. Um, like mom said, you can't even really fully be yourself.

SPEAKER_00 18:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:31

Um, your interaction, after you leave like certain interactions or conversations or hangouts, you feel depleted, you feel drained, you feel empty.

SPEAKER_00 18:40

Yeah, yeah. And the last one, um, like we said, shrinking to stay connected, yes, to fit into that environment. So when y'all start to feel like that, we've all been there. I know I have. Um the friendship is kind of you're outgrowing it. Yeah. Um, but you know what? One of the things that I kind of want to say too, um in this seasons or in the seasons that you're going through or outgrowing these friendships, it doesn't mean that you don't love that person or you don't care about that person. It's just that that season has changed and you're growing and you're evolving in maturity. And and you know, as we have been on this journey with our faith and growing closer to God, things have shifted for us, right? Absolutely. Um, and so those signs that we just said has happened. Do you know? It's is because the closer we have connected with God, yeah, some of the things that we used to do and have a great time doing, yeah, it no longer does. But it doesn't mean that I don't love that person, that person or care about that person. It I love them all. I love them, right?

SPEAKER_01 20:04

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 20:05

And it's like we don't even notice that it has drift, to tell you the truth. And that's how it's supposed to be designed. Right?

SPEAKER_01 20:10

You're like one minute, you'll just one day you'll just be like, oh, should I hung out with them in a long time? Oh, I ain't talked to him in a long time, or whatever it is, maybe. Yeah, you're like, oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 20:19

But nothing's happened. And if I see you, we still cool. Right? Does that make sense? But it doesn't mean that you don't love a person because I think what happens, and that's where the guilt comes from, is the part where we don't want a person to feel like we don't love them or care about them anymore.

SPEAKER_01 20:39

Or you know what another something else is they we don't want them to feel like we think that we are better than them either. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 20:49

Girl, I got to pause on that one.

SPEAKER_01 20:51

Because people be like, oh, you change, oh you different, you act in some type of way. No, I just I don't I don't feel connected anymore.

SPEAKER_00 20:59

So that is you know what? That is such a good point. People may feel that we feel that we're better than someone else, or other people may feel that way, or you may be, or women right now. Exactly. Y'all might feel like, oh my gosh, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 21:14

I am going to feel like, oh my gosh, I think that I'm better than them.

SPEAKER_00 21:18

And we don't. We don't. No. Um, I think, like we said, if you take a step back and we look at these signs and just things are happening because of your maturity. That's it. You're evolving, yeah, you're growing, yeah, and this friendship and relationship is no longer serving you. Exactly. And you are just moving on. That's it. It's not that I feel I, you know, I don't want anyone to feel like, oh, look at them.

SPEAKER_01 21:52

No, seriously, and I think I can really relate to that too, because for me, you know, in school, I was a really wild. Child just yeah, just wild.

SPEAKER_00 22:02

I think we all were, but go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 22:04

I was really wild. So that was not that I mean, how long ago was that now?

SPEAKER_00 22:08

Like I'll just say five years ago.

SPEAKER_01 22:09

Yeah, she acting like she is snow.

SPEAKER_00 22:12

Go ahead, but I get you. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_01 22:13

I think why I always feel that way is because like the Lord has taken me on like such a journey that it feels like it feels long, but obviously it's not that long, and I'm not old at all. But anyway, but yeah, so I used to party, do this, that, and the third. And you know, the friendships that I used to have, um, you know, we were doing all of that together, so it's great. However, the moment after I, you know, came to the Lord more so and really pursued my relationship with him, I just naturally started to change. Like, not, I don't know, you just change naturally. And I noticed like my friendships and everything, they started to like drift. And I feel like because I'll be like, oh no, I don't want to, you know, go out to the party or whatever the case may be, but like, oh, why are you acting so weird? Like, oh, you're lame, oh, you're a hermit, oh you're this, that, and the third. Yeah, but you know what I mean? Because they try to make you feel like, oh, well, you're different, you're changing, you're weird, or um you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 23:12

Yeah, because you know, they saw you as one person, yeah. And then when you start to say no, and that's that hard part, right?

SPEAKER_01 23:19

Right, is when you start saying no, because but I would just feel so uncomfortable because again, I felt like when I tried to do it, I started shrinking myself to think to that, you know, environment that just that it just wasn't me anymore.

SPEAKER_00 23:33

That's it, you know what I mean? And and you know, as we were navigating through that, and I think, you know, and from a mother looking at you and kind of seeing those uh in your child, right? Right, the differences and you navigating that, it was hard. You were you were you were sad, sad.

SPEAKER_01 23:51

Because I used to be like, oh my god, I miss being outside. Yeah, I miss doing this. But see, but and then the thing would be if I would go quote unquote outside, the conviction was so real. Wow. So I was like, oh, I can't even like you know when you feel that conviction that oh, I should not be doing this. I'm like, I don't even have time to deal with this. I just said no.

SPEAKER_00 24:10

Yeah, but it was hard at first. But no, it was hard. No, no, no. I ain't going. It was hard for you at first, and I saw you, and it hurt you to kind of have to, man, I want to go. I'm I'm young. I want to go out here and party. This is what I should be doing. Mom, why do I feel this way? And then you you and then one of the things we do though, when we don't know and we've outgrown these friendships, yeah, we start making excuses. Yeah, and so sometimes when you notice, you know, that's a good one that I we totally forgot. But when you've outgrown these friendships, guess what you start to do? First, and number one thing is you start doing excuses. Yeah. Because why? Is because you don't want them to not invite you. Exactly. You do want them to say, oh, she's still cool, right? Exactly. Um, so if I give an excuse, then I will be invited to the next one, then I can figure it out then.

SPEAKER_01 25:01

So when you start that is so real. Am I not so funny? Yes, yes. I used to be queen of excuses, like, yeah, I can't go because of whatever the case may be. But I noticed, like, you know, girl, like we talked about, maturing. Mature growing. That's correct. It's like there doesn't need to need to be one. There doesn't need to be an excuse.

SPEAKER_00 25:20

But it is that real because I've seen you navigate through it.

SPEAKER_01 25:23

Girl, you the first one I told Wait. There was this one time, like my um friend, she had like a party or something, and obviously I'm not going and I didn't want to go. Y'all, I made a whole excuse. I sent a screenshot and everything of this excuse. Y'all, you know how like fire. Backfire. Period. Because y'all know when y'all look at pictures, you can see, like when somebody sends you a picture, you can see in your photo album when this picture was taken. Girl, they seen that this picture was taken like over two years ago. So I got caught up from that point for I was like, oh, yep, I'm done making excuses. If I do not want to do something, I'm not doing it. No. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:05

It's a no. And and I laugh at that situation because I told everybody, I was so in my feelings, like, oh my gosh. But but again, you're making excuses for something that no longer serves you. That's it. And you've outgrown the friendship. And you're and it's not that you're cutting people off. No, it's not that you're not loving on them. It's not that you don't even still care about them.

SPEAKER_01 26:27

Right.

SPEAKER_00 26:27

You have matured, you have evolved. That's it. And when walking in this walk of uh, you know, with God, it can be lonely. It can, you know, um, things begin to shift, and then you're like, oh MG. I, you know, but guys, we could go on. On and on. No, but you know we talk about this all the time. Because, you know, it's a valid thing, and I think that we all deal with it, and you know, outgrowing friendships and relationships, we don't know what to do, and we get stuck and we we feel guilty. Then we they feel like we then want to kind of keep holding on to this friendship and relationship. You really sometimes don't have to do anything, it will drift away, it will do those things. Yes, you will feel lonely, but make sure when you see those signs we talked about, yes, that's when you kind of gotta say, Oh, maybe I am. And you know, whatever it is, you're okay.

SPEAKER_01 27:25

Yeah, and sometimes, y'all, we don't really even have to do anything. The Lord honestly just sheds, you know. He does, he sheds, but also too, which you could do if you kind of notice that or you see that just on your own. Yeah, um, you could like it, you know, uh not just cut people off, no, but you know, you can limit access, like limit the access that people have to you. Um so you're not always available. Um you establish like different boundaries and priorities. Um, you also create like a new version of the relationship or the friendship. Yeah, thank you. That's real good, Dave.

SPEAKER_00 28:03

You kept that for the last. I know that's right, right?

SPEAKER_01 28:06

I know because I think we sometimes think, like I said, you don't have to end it and it doesn't have to be so abrupt. You don't have to, it's not so dramatic. Sometimes it's just creating that space for you. I like creating a space between you and that person, you know what I mean?

SPEAKER_00 28:19

Yeah, and always remember, guys, I I like that limit them, right? Limit access, right, that they have to you and boundaries. And boundaries. Did I hear boundaries? Yep, that's important. But you know, y'all, with these things, God stretches us. Yeah, God is always stretching us to be the best version of ourselves, right? Know who you are in Christ. Yes, get your identity, get everything from God, stay in that word, y'all. Exactly. You know, we want to leave you with a scripture. Yes, this scripture is out of ecclesiastics three and one. There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens, and that's out of the new international version. Amen. Y'all, until next time, see ya bye.