Help!... I Need to Feel Seen

When attention is conditioned by performance and noise, perseverance and patience are easy to miss. That blindness is not your burden to carry. The right people ask your story, learn your situation, and align with your intention. They add to your work rather than extract from it. 

SistahGirll, my prayer for you today is that you release the exhaustion of performing just to feel seen. You don’t have to decorate your pain or raise your volume to matter. Quiet strength is still strength. Choose rooms, spaces, and fields that recognize your value and not only your usefulness. Whether your field is a career, a home, a business, or a calling still forming, there are people already making room for you. Take one degree forward today: lead with vision, hold onto hope, act with intention, and let love fuel each step. 

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Chapters

• 0:00 A Call To Stop Proving
• 1:45 Ruth In The Field
• 3:05 Blind To Spirit Vs Seeing Purpose
• 4:45 Mentorship And Being Truly Seen
• 6:05 Your Field And The Right Eyes
• 7:10 Quiet Strength Over Loud Performance
• 8:15 Go Where Your Whole Self Is Valued

Transcript

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You're listening to One Degree to Victory, the space where stories, strategies, and soul connect. Together we take one small step each week toward the life you know you're called to live. I'm your hostess, Nalita Hollis, and today's story and conversation just might change your life. This is what I want for you. I want you to release the need to prove that you belong. Not because you've learned to silence yourself or disappear, but because you finally recognized that you don't have to fight for visibility in spaces that are too small to hold all of you. If you need to stop and rewind that part, please do. I want you to stop measuring your value by who calls your name, who gives you credit, or who finally decides you're enough. You are not unseen. It is their vision that is too limited, my God, to see what you carry. So this is not the episode where we shrink. This is the episode where we rise quietly, powerfully, and with intention. This is the story we need today. Ruth in the field. Ruth didn't show up in the fields for applause. She didn't come to be validated, photographed, or praised. She was keeping a promise to herself and to her family. Sister Girl, while she was bent low to the ground, gathering leftovers, someone was watching. Someone saw what she was doing and who she was while she was doing it. And that leads us to point one. Some people are blind to your spirit. They have scales over their eyes, and so they're blind to your purpose. If it's not on stage, in front of a camera, behind a mic, my God, they cannot see. They can't see beyond performance, so they don't know what perseverance, persistence, and patience look. And because they don't know what it looks like, they can't respond to it. Rewind that part too. Woo! Ruth could have asked, why doesn't anyone notice me? But instead, she said, Let me be faithful where I am. Let me honor what I have and who I am. I need you to get this mindset shift. Your worth isn't proved by being seen. It's revealed in your faithfulness to yourself, your goals, your whispered prayers, and your heart spoken desires. It's in your faithfulness to your family and your future. And for those who still don't recognize what you bring, they're not your audience and they're not your assignment. Point two, the right person sees you because Boaz saw her and he saw her heart, her resilience, and her intention. He didn't step in because she was pretty, he stepped in because she was purposeful. Most others saw her as a foreigner, a widow, a woman alone who'd lost everything except a mother-in-law who was content to let her stay. Come on. He asked about her story. He learned her situation. And then he aligned himself with her intention. Watch this. He told his workers, leave extra behind for her. Come on. Don't just let her gather from the scraps any longer. Give her some of the good grain. Sister girl, constant listener, beautiful soul, when the right person sees you, they don't just notice you, they cover you, they bless you. They don't take from your labor, they add to your harvest. My mentor, Mr. Larry Johnson, has done the same for me. I'll tell the longer story of how we met in another episode, but I knew I needed to meet the person who drove the semi-truck that I parked to next to every time I came into town. Y'all know where we used to park our trucks? Listen, at the edge, literally at the edge of a field. I was the one watching because he kept leveling up and I wanted to do what he was doing. When I finally had the opportunity to meet him, y'all, I seized upon it, smiles and joyful and jubilant as all get out. His friendship, his guidance, his mentorship has made all the difference in this journey where I'm planted. He did not have to befriend me. He did not have to take on the responsibility of making sure that my purpose and that my vision, right, that he also saw was carried out. He stared me in the right direction. Constant listener, your field may not be an actual field. I can't say it won't because dang mine was, right? But it may be your field of work. It may be your family. Wherever you find yourself, tilling, looking for a breakthrough, working, someone, the right one, sees you and knows without having to ask, they'll know your heart. Point three, the right ones see your spirit, not just your surface. Constant listener, the right people will see the strength in your softness, the purpose in your persistence, the intention in your presence, the wisdom behind your silence, the value in your survival. And hear, hear me clearly, you don't need to decorate your pain, come on, to be worthy of recognition. You don't need to shout, holler, and scream to the moon. I hate that phrase. Because first of all, there is enough noise, so why are you adding to the cacophony, right, of voices that are saying nothing? Consider the woman with the issue of blood. She didn't fight through the noise. She got low, she stayed quiet, she received her healing, and had a holy, life-changing encounter with Jesus Christ. And she kept it moving while everybody else was still hollering and screaming and scrambling. So again, you don't need to shout, holler, and scream. You just need to be in the rooms, places, and spaces where you are recognized for your value and not just your usefulness. And when their sight is too small for your spirit, it's your sign to get in rooms, places, and spaces where people are willing to see the whole of you. So here's what I want for you, sister girl. Not tomorrow, not next week, but right now, in this moment, I want you to release the exhaustion of performing for people so that you can feel seen. I'm gonna say that again. You don't even have to rewind. Release the exhaustion of performing for people, my God, so that you can feel seen. Find the fields where your labor is honored, where people see your heart before your hands, and know that those who are willing to pour into you, they're already watching. They're already making room. Now go. Oh, and I see you, and I love y'all too. One degree to victory is about progression, not perfection. And that involves choosing a life that works for you now in this season and building from there. And Sister Girl, it's going to take more than loving yourself. It's going to take vision for where you're going, hope to believe it's possible, action to make it real, and love for your family to fuel every step. Take one degree forward this week, and I'll see you in the next episode.