The Happiest Lives Podcast

E110: You’re Not in Charge—and That’s a Good Thing

Jill M. Lillard, MA LPC Season 2025 Episode 110

This begins the new series: Loosening Your Grip.

What if the very thing you’re trying to control is what’s actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I’m sharing a really personal story. Years of chronic pain, self-reliance, and striving brought me face-to-face with a hard truth: I’m not in charge. And that’s a good thing. We’ll talk about why control feels so tempting, what happens when we hit our limit, and how real power begins when we stop white-knuckling life and start clinging to God. This is about loosening your grip, not giving up. You’ll walk away with a new perspective on what it means to trust and why the limp you’re walking with might just be the very evidence that God is blessing you.

Free Resource:

Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments.

👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan

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