The Happiest Lives Podcast
The Happiest Lives was designed for Christian women who want to stop being disappointed in their relationships and feel more loved and loving. Here you will learn to think better, feel better, and love better.
This podcast is hosted by Jill M. Lillard, MA LPC, a licensed counselor and Gottman Certified Couples Therapist. Jill has been helping people manage their minds, process their feelings, and have better relationships for over 25 years.
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The Happiest Lives Podcast
E137: Minister or Martyr? Learning the Difference
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In part two of our series, Loving Without Losing Your Real Self, we look at a pattern many of us fall into without noticing: serving from a place of fear, pressure, or over-responsibility. On the outside, it looks like love… but inside, it feels heavy and resentful.
In this episode, we explore the difference between ministering (showing up as the grounded, Spirit-led woman God formed you to be) and martyring (losing yourself in the name of keeping the peace). We talk about how the false self drives both over-involvement and avoidance, how people-pleasing differs from true self-denial, and why some of us feel responsible for things God never asked us to carry.
You’ll also hear practical and compassionate insight for those in harder relationships—places where someone’s behavior is genuinely harmful—and why loving well does not mean tolerating damage to your heart or home.
If you’ve ever wondered where healthy sacrifice ends and self-erasure begins, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a way back to your real, Jesus-anchored self.
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