When Life Says Not Today, Choose To Pivot And Open Your Heart

Episode with Elizabeth Kipp

When your carefully laid plans fall apart—apps fail, weekends vanish, the clock runs you instead of the other way—what story do you tell yourself? We explore how a week of tech troubles and family overload turned into an invitation to pivot with grace, listen for redirection, and build a home where emotions are safe, not silenced.

We start with the messy real life: a recording blocked by a glitch, a calendar packed with birthdays, and the tug to power through anyway. Instead of muscling past the friction, we name a gentler truth: delays can be guidance. That reframe opens into a larger shift at home, where we stop swallowing feelings and start modeling healthy release for our kids. Tears, deep breaths, and honest asks become normal. Hugs are medicine. Safety is something we create together, not a performance we fake alone.

The conversation deepens with insights from an ancestral cleansing session with Elizabeth Kipp. What began as a question about money blocks uncovered a quieter belief: it didn’t feel fully safe to be completely vulnerable, even in a loving marriage. That guarded stance—always ready to “walk alone”—echoed scarcity across life and finances. We unpack how emotional safety, intimacy, and prosperity are woven together, and how loosening control can unjam both love and money. Expect practical reflections, from simple silence practices to small acts of openness that build trust without abandoning boundaries.

If you’ve ever felt the pull to push harder when life says not today, this is your invitation to pivot, soften, and let support find you. Listen, share with a friend who needs a nudge toward gentler courage, and subscribe for more grounded conversations on healing, family, and sustainable success. Got a belief you’re ready to release? Tell us—we’re listening.

Transcript

Setting The Stage And March Chaos

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Hello everyone, this is Still Roses Podcast. This podcast was created for women by women to elevate women's voices. I am so flipping excited to be recording today for this episode because I desperately was trying to be proactive about a week ago and to get some recordings done. And the universe was like, no, not today. So I wanted to dive into that a little bit and talk about the pivot there. Very excited to be here. So a week ago, before we hit March, which happy March, I had really, again, leaning into the no Saturday work routine, February, March, and April are heavy duty months for me with my family because everyone's birthdays, my grandkids, my stepkids, my son-in-law, everyone's birthdays fall February, March, April. It is the craziest thing. So every other weekend, roughly, if not sometimes consecutive weekends, we're all together. I love it. It's actually one of my favorite times of the year is being able to see everyone so much, so close together. But at the same time, it is a little stressful because instead of having those weekends free where I'm home and just home and detoxing, we're on the road. So it gets quite hectic. So with that in mind, I said to myself, before this gets really out of control, let me go ahead and get my March recordings done. So you know, typically with podcasts, you will record in advance, which I always almost do. Actually, I always do it at this point because I sometimes in the moment just can't get to things. So I pretty much will always try to record in advance. I'm like, let me do this. I have this Sunday available. Like, let me just try to get these recordings done. And I was running errands and like, I'm gonna record from the car. I'm gonna multitask, multitask Queen today. Let's do this. The recording, the studio, the virtual studio app on my phone for Riverside just was not cooperating. So the multitasking was out the window, which is fine. I was like, you know what? I'll get to it later on tonight. Did not get to it later on that evening either. And I had to take a moment and just remind myself, which I always tell you guys, so I'm gonna say it out loud too. I often have to remind myself, you have to just go with the flow. You have to pivot. It's okay if it didn't work out for today. You can still get to this. It just didn't happen for you today. Now, I'm also of the mindset of sometimes you're just not meant to do what you plan to do. So I mean, have I'm sure we've all had those days where you have a plan. What is that phrase that they say? And if you're if you're Catholic, you probably heard it quite a bit, but God laughs when you when you make plans because it's like you're trying to supersede what is meant to happen for you. And for me, and for some of you who are not Catholic, what you would think about it if you're more spiritual is the universe just wasn't in alignment for that today. The creator did not align for me to do that today. There's a reason for it. So there's no need to get upset. If you missed your bus and you're late to work, there's a reason for it. Now I know it's gonna suck because you're gonna get to work late and you're probably gonna get in trouble, but there was a reason for it. Don't let it ruin your entire day. If the power went out in your house and you lost Wi-Fi and you work from home, don't freak out. It was not meant for you to log into work that day. Maybe for some reason you were supposed to slow down that day. And this is coming from a person who quite literally could potentially be defined as a workaholic. So you know, if I'm telling you, if your power is out, go with the flow, go with the flow, because I get it. I get the hectic work schedule and wanting to lean in, but sometimes you were just not meant to do what you're planning to do. Perhaps my recordings were not meant to be released last week or in the first week of March. Perhaps there was a reason for it. Perhaps one of you is meant to hear what I'm gonna get to next and you weren't gonna listen last week. There's a reason for everything. So the whole takeaway here is don't let shifts in your day, in your life, in your month throw you wildly off course because you are just being redirected to a different path that you might not have gotten to on your own. And the universe is giving you a nudge. The creator is giving you a nudge, God is giving you a nudge. Whomever you pray to and whomever you align with spiritually, they were giving you a nudge to get into a different space. That's all it is. So to take those moments as a sign that you were meant to go a different way. Do not take them in a bad way, do not let it ruin your whole day. Now, to the thing I want to talk about today. So I have actually talked quite a bit, and you guys all know me well enough at this point to know, due to my hectic schedule at work and my home life, I have occasional meltdown breakdowns. And you know what? I let it fly. Um, now I don't meltdown breakdown in a toxic, screaming way anymore. Now it's more of a I'm overwhelmed and I let the, I let the tears come. I just let it happen. Initially, I used to hide it with my kids. They were little, so they they didn't really know. But I would hide it, I would mask it, I would swallow it. I, if I was really having a crazy work week and I was just very overwhelmed, I would try to just swallow it and press on. And and it often would cause obviously implosions, but that's not healthy. That's not the that's not the path. And what am I showing and what am I modeling when I do that for my kids, right? I'm telling them it's not safe, it's not safe and it's not okay to show your emotions. I'm telling them you can't be everything that you are because you have to pretend that you're happy all the time when in reality you're not. And I'm telling them that your emotions don't count, especially to my girls. What am I showing them as a mother and as a wife? I'm telling them if I do that, I'm telling them your emotions and your feelings about X situation don't count. And I'm telling them it's not okay to get stressed out and upset. It's not okay to let your emotions out. And that's not the message that I want to send to them. So I let the tears come now. If I'm frustrated, I take a moment, I take some deep breaths, I tell the kids I need a hug, come give mommy a hug. In particular, my daughter Katleia, I tell her her hugs are healing. So if my husband or I and I are stressed out, or if I see that my husband is in a really bad mood, I'll tell her, like, oh, you know, Poppy needs a Katleia hug. Like, go get him. And so she'll go and give him a squeeze. And it does, it makes them feel better. So I do the same thing. I tell them, like, mommy needs a hug. I might cry a little bit, but they'll hold me. And it's the weirdest thing to talk about because they're my kids. But I flipped the script a little bit here and I'm making it more of a united family. I'm showing you that this is okay. It's okay to have emotions. It's okay to break down and cry, but it's okay to turn to your family for support. That's the big message that they need to hear, right? It is okay to be vulnerable with your family, and it's a safe space for support. Now, the reason this has recently come up is because I most I did a spiritual cleansing, it's an ancestral cleansing with Elizabeth Kipp. Elizabeth is somebody that I interviewed on the podcast before. I'm going to link her episode into this description so you can listen to it. I highly encourage anybody, and I think I already mentioned it, that I engaged with her in April or February, February, sorry. I'm getting a little confused in my months, but I had engaged with her for an ancestral cleansing. So an ancestral cleansing is where, you know, you would engage with Elizabeth and she does a session with you where you start to explore your past and you explore pain points. Now, the exploration that I was embarking on with her was more focused on finances. Why, why do I have a gap? Why do I have a block? Why does it seem like no matter how much money I make, it doesn't enough? But the answer is that it is enough. What's the problem is that internally there's been messaging for years that is telling me that no matter what I do, it's not enough. And that is not accurate. So I went to Elizabeth for this cleansing. And we go through this process, and it's it was about an hour-long process. Really wonderful. I again highly encourage you if you have it, if you're struggling, if you feel like you're blocked. She's a wonderful person to engage with. And one of the things that came up when we were doing the cleansing is that at some point, due to my home life and my family life growing up, that I felt it was not okay and it is not safe to show your emotions with your family. And that you basically have to swallow your emotions. You have to suffer in silence. This message was ingrained in me deeply. And it didn't really, I didn't really understand it and I didn't recognize it until I engaged with Elizabeth. So it it cried, it bubbled all the way up to the top and became a turning point in how I'm addressing things and how I'm doing things now. Because before I would try to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders all the time. Now, leading up to this point, yes, I was doing meditation, yes, I was doing affirmations, I'm doing journaling, I'm doing all the things, right? But I hadn't recognized, and this is gonna sound crazy because my husband and I have been together now for 16 years, I hadn't recognized that there was still a part of me that was holding back. There was a part of me that hadn't really given it all over to my marriage and my relationship. It sounds nuts, but I want you all to think about it. I'm sharing this with you, and I realize this is a per very personal thing to share. But because of this messaging that it's not safe, and because of what I observed in my parents' separation, it's not safe to be vulnerable 100%. You always have to be able to walk away on your own. That of lack and scarcity and fear is the ultimate blocker for prosperity because I'm sitting here living my life afraid to wholly open up and make myself available and vulnerable to someone else. It was a bit of a shock because again, I've been married for 10 years and we've been together for 16 years, and you would think there is nothing there. There is no walls, and there isn't any walls. There aren't. He knows everything about me, I know everything about him. We obviously, you know, been married for all this time, living together for all this time. So we know everything about each other, but only in the past few years has the intimacy level really raised more and more. And I think because of what I've been through or what I observed when I was growing up, I think that I was reaching a part where I was scared to just let go because it was getting closer and closer to we're really, you know, in a great marriage here. And that's the next natural step is to completely fully let go. And I want to take a minute here to acknowledge everyone who's listening. Take a minute and really think about your relationship that you're in. Are you wholly open emotionally? I don't mean your words. Anyone can say words, anyone can share their past, you can share your history, but are you completely emotionally open to the point of this other person where there is nothing, there are no barriers, you are not holding anything back. And I'll admit, I've always held a little to the side in fear of what if he leaves? What if something happens? I need to be able to stand on my own. I need to be able to walk away solidly. And there it is. I always had this fear that I would have to go it alone at some point. And so I've always lived with this fear of scarcity, with this fear. And it's like the craziest thing because I never thought of it. I never truly thought of that as something that was going on, but it was. So working with Elizabeth brought this up to the surface. And I was like totally astounded. And so I'm taking measures and I'm taking steps for myself to really just open myself up and like to stop with being feeling like I still have to hold on to something, holding on to some sense of control for safety. I don't have to do that. That is a reaction to what I've observed in my life. And it's also the blocker for why things feel so much harder financially for me when I am doing very well. So it is all tied together in your energy. And I wanted to take a moment and bring this to the surface because now, outside of your relationships, take a further step back. Is there something? Is there a deep-seated rooted fear? Is there something that you observed and you have it's resonated with you and stuck with you that is actually hurting you? If you really take a minute to really reflect and be in silence with yourself, something will probably crop up. Being alone with yourself in silence is probably one of the scariest things for some people to do because it means that you are letting yourself listen to your inner voice and listen to the creator. And it is going to raise things to the surface that might feel uncomfortable. But if you're able to do it and get over that hurdle and to release some of this tension and anxiety and fear and lack and scarcity from your core, the weight is lifted like you would not believe. So I'm going to leave you with that for today. I want you to think about that. I want you to reflect about that. I'm gonna drop the link to the previous episode in the description here. And I think in that episode, there's links to contact Elizabeth and be able to engage with her. Elizabeth is also on LinkedIn if you have a profile on LinkedIn. Her last name is Kip K I P P. Again, she does um not just one on one sessions, but she does group workshops. She does things, and it is not expensive at all by any means. So it's definitely something I recommend trying out. Thank you all for hanging out with me today. I greatly appreciate all of you, and I will catch you on the next one. Take care.