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135 | Does Your Money Feel Like Love or Fear? Raising Your Money Frequency for More Abundance

• Erin Gray | Spiritual Wealth Coach, Former Certified Financial Planner and CFO

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What if money wasn’t something to chase, control, or fear and instead it is something that could feel like love?

In this episode, I unpack the energetic truth that changed everything in my own financial journey and that is: money operates on the frequency of love, not fear. After years of relating to money through scarcity, stress, and performance, I began to explore what it meant to build wealth from emotional safety, self-trust, and alignment.

When we relate to money as something outside of us, something to hoard, obsess over, or prove ourselves for, we perpetuate a nervous system state of lack. Money is energy, and energy responds to energy. 

In this episode, we'll explore:

  • Why your nervous system may be in a pattern of a fear-based money loop
  • The spiritual truth of money as an extension of Source energy
  • The difference between wanting more from fear vs. desiring more from wholeness
  • How to treat your money like someone you love and why that changes everything
  • What happens when you release the belief that money is hard, corrupt, or dangerous
  • Why money responds to the vibration you’re holding and how to shift it
  • Practical ways to make decisions from expansion, not fear
  • How to align your financial choices with your future self and heart's desires

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From my soul to yours,

Erin

Erin Gray:

Welcome back to your Money, your Rules podcast. Today I wanted to dive into the frequency of money. This has taken me some time to get to this place because for a long time I was on the frequency of fear when it came to money lack, limitation, scarcity, whatever way you want to describe it, just a lower vibration emotion and I feel like so many of us have a conflicted relationship with money. And once I was able to connect with money in this way, it truly has changed everything for me. And I believe that money is on the frequency of love, the vibration of love, not fear, not shame, not guilt, not anger or control or pressure or any other frequency that we have been conditioned to believe that money actually exists on. And the more that I have connected to this truth, the more peace and the more prosperity and the more clarity I have experienced. So I am going to share with you what most of us have been conditioned to believe that money is what I actually mean when I say money is on the frequency of love, and then how to get and stay on that frequency. Okay, so let's talk about the frequency that most of us have been conditioned to believe that money is on. And when I say frequency, let's just back up a little bit. Like vibration, like everything is energy. So energy is always in motion and it is never created or destroyed, right? So energy moves, it is a vibration. Think about particles moving back and forth that is vibration. But how fast they move or how slow they move, that is frequency. But how fast they move or how slow they move, that is frequency.

Erin Gray:

So many of us were raised to believe that money is or feels right, scarce, it's limited. Sometimes it might have even felt cold, it might be we've been conditioned to believe that it's hard to get, hard to come by, hard to keep. You have to work hard for it, like all of this hard energy around money, something that you have to earn and prove or perform for, not just receive. It might have even represented you know, in my family this is what for me was true is it represented fighting Some of my clients? It just was like non-existent, there was no talking about it, like almost ignoring money.

Erin Gray:

So, naturally, when we believe that about money, when we are in that vibration, when it comes to money, when we relate to it from a lower vibrational frequency, like the fear, the guilt, control or forcing, it becomes this thing that we are trying to chase Because we are in this lack and limitation, belief and frequency, then we think it's something that exists outside of us. So we're chasing it, we're hoarding it, we might obsess over it and then what ultimately we do is we never actually feel safe. So, because money is energy, like everything else in the world, it responds to the energy that you actually are. What are you vibrating on a consistent basis? Not what you want to have or be.

Erin Gray:

So when you think about you know when you're wanting more money, you're actually coming from the energy of not having money. Lack, right. And although desire is an amazing and wonderful thing, we want to desire it, but we want to desire it from a place of I have plenty already and I would love more, versus I don't have enough and I want more. Do you see the difference in energy from that place? So, as I mentioned previously, when our bodies feel threatened or when you think about fear, fear in the body feels like a threat. When you think about fear, fear in the body feels like a threat. When you feel that, when you ignore money, when you feel shame with money, it's going to mirror back the energy that you are emitting.

Erin Gray:

But then, when we begin to relate to money, through love and a partnership and expansion of who you already are, you know, I always tell clients, like we're just peeling back the onion to expose who you already are right, like we're revealing who you already are. Think of it as like putting all of these coats on you and all we're doing is just taking off the coats to show you and reveal to you who you truly are. Like we're not, we're not having to go do anything or become someone. We're letting go of all of that stuff that told us who we aren't, who we you know. So when you are thinking about who am I, what we're really doing is releasing all of those stories that have us believing something other than pure love and light and abundance and prosperity. So when you come from that energy of love, when you come from the energy of a partnership and expansion and prosperity and abundance, then you're ready to receive all that you can receive because you are in that higher vibration place.

Erin Gray:

You know we have so much evidence from other people, I think, that have used money as a weapon instead of a tool. You know we associate money, you know, instead of associating the person that might have a lower consciousness and they are in a lower vibration of fear or maybe greed. We're not looking at it from that lens or perception. We're looking at it as money is the bad thing, right, but money just is. Money just wants to connect.

Erin Gray:

I truly believe money wants to connect to us because it is an extension of source and it's going to vibrate, it's going to mirror back what energy you are emitting. So when I say that money is on the frequency of love, when I think about love and how that feels in my body, to me and this is something that you need to play with and ask yourself and really tap into your body but love to me feels expansive, it feels warm, it feels open, it feels curious in my body, it feels safe, it feels like giving, like it's God or whatever you want to use spirit source, like it's divine, it like I tear up thinking about, like what love? When you love someone, when you love something, it just feels pure and I truly believe that money is a spiritual idea because we if you can get on board that we all came from the same source, which means that you and I are connected and you and the next person are connected. We're all connected. We all came from God. Spirit source, like God, works within us, then the idea ultimately right Because we came from God. Then the idea is from God and God is on the frequency of love and, whatever you know, you want to use source universe, whatever it is, insert whatever feels good for you and your body that you can get behind. But all that God or spirit source or our creator wants to do is to give and give and give and give and we can only receive to the level that our vessel is open to and ready to receive. So when you have beliefs that money is bad or that you have evidence of money affecting your family or your friends, our perception about money, you know, when we start to look at money as the thing versus the human, with their consciousness and how they are using money, that's when we get I call it squirrely right like we start to. Our perception around money has has been maybe not necessarily of the highest vibration because we have associated that money is the thing that's good or bad versus money just is and and it's the person using the money as a tool or as a weapon. You know I think a lot about.

Erin Gray:

I've had clients on the I mean both partners right With divorce and you've had, I've had clients that have, you know, been paying alimony in child support. I've also had clients that have been paying alimony and child support. I've also had clients that have been receiving alimony and child support. And at least in the Western world, I think a lot of us have this idea around divorce that it's contentious and that you're fighting and you're fighting for money, right, and maybe you're haunting kids, and it's just this contentious, lower vibration circumstance that's happening. But I really think that when we look at circumstances, if we can look at it from the lens of the reason why that that is actually happening, is not because of the thing right, like divorce isn't good or bad, money isn't good or bad, those things just are.

Erin Gray:

But our consciousness as humans is what creates the experience. So when I talk about money being on the frequency of love, I'm talking about shifting our energy and our relationship with it to match the frequency that it actually is. So imagine money as a consciousness that responds like a friend or a partner or a lover. Would you know, when you speak to it with respect, when you pay attention to it, when you honor it when you trust that it's always going to be there for you because, like I said, it's ultimately coming. God is our supply, it's going to flow, it's going to come right. We're the ones that are at the fire hydrant or this. You know sprinkler turning it off or turning it. You know smaller stream, right. So, like, how can we increase the stream? Is we increase our consciousness, we let go of those limiting beliefs and those thoughts that we have and we let our abundance come forth and through us.

Erin Gray:

So I want you to think about, when you think about all the good that you could do with money, how do you actually feel in your body? Because I think a lot of us have a lot of examples from a lot of humans that have used money to pit each other against each other, I mean in estate planning. I have endless stories there, you know. You think about wars that have been started. You think about the way that diamonds have been mined. There's a lot of ways that we have evidence that money has been used as a weapon, but that doesn't make money bad. It is because of the people and their consciousness with money.

Erin Gray:

So, going back to you know, when you think about all the good that you actually could do with money and can do with money. How do you feel in your body? You know, I truly feel as women and also as men, because I do have men clients that we are in the most potent time. We get to show the world that you can use money for good instead of how it has been used, and we get to teach our precious children that money is abundant and that supply is never ending and that when we give, we receive. We don't have to hoard it, we don't have to be afraid of it, we don't have to pit it against anybody, like there's plenty enough for it to go around. You know, we can share it and we can expect it to be there for us and we can expect more to come and for it to continually increase.

Erin Gray:

Okay, so let's talk about how to actually align with the frequency of love when you are making money decisions. So instead of thinking thoughts like can I afford this or I can't afford this, or that's too expensive, you can ask is this aligned with who I am? And when I say who I am, I don't mean I mean on the one hand. It's like who we are is all that we are right now, but like your future self. That's who you're acting from Right. So think about from a future self place. Is this aligned with who I am in a future self place? And if it is yes, then making decisions from that place. Instead of asking questions like what is a safe option, you can ask what feels really expansive and true to me and like a heart's desire, instead of asking things like what's the ROI which we've been taught to do right? What's the return in energy, in joy and alignment.

Erin Gray:

I had a client recently, you know say that she used to think that love always meant saying yes and I said that's not what love is. Love is to me it's honoring yourself, it's honoring you and honoring that other person, and sometimes that looks like saying no. Sometimes that looks like you honoring yourself, which says means saying no to someone else, but not from a F you place, not from you know fear or anger, but it looks like saying no from a place of love for you and that other person. So sometimes love looks like saying no. Sometimes love looks like saying not right now, but not from, not from fear, not from anger, but from a place of love and expansion and discernment and a heart's desire and being really clear on that. When you think about love, it ultimately, I think, allows us, if we allow it, to circulate our money without guilt, allocate our money from a place of expansion and anticipation instead of a place of scarcity, you know, not from guilt, not from I feel obligated, but from a place of true desire.

Erin Gray:

So I want to invite you over the next week, to really start to ponder and reflect and like, and reflect and like okay, how am I going to redefine and redesign my relationship with money? So if you're sitting here thinking, yeah, yeah, yeah, erin, this sounds great, okay, but I don't actually feel that way about money. I don't love money. I don't think money is on the frequency of love. I want you to know that. That's okay. I didn't start here either. I started from scarcity and thinking, okay, sufficiency, like money can just be. Money isn't good or bad, money just is. So if that's where you are, it's totally fine.

Erin Gray:

But this is a practice. This is ultimately a remembering, a revealing, because anything that we have ever been taught has changed our view and our perception of money. Right, and if you're really getting honest with yourself, you probably could look and see where you do have bits and pieces of feeling like money is on the frequency of love and you do have bits and pieces, you know, on the frequency of fear and everything in between. Right, it's not one or the other, it's, it's a spectrum of of how we feel. But what I want to encourage you to do is to be on a more consistent basis of the energy of, or the frequency of, love. So you can just start as simple as asking yourself like how would it look like to treat my money, like someone that I love, that I care for? How would I speak to it? What would I? Would I trust it? Would I listen to it? Would I honor it? Like, what would I do with it?

Erin Gray:

You know, what's one step that you can take today to think about money from the energy of love versus the energy that you have previously thought about money, and I want to invite you that, if you are ready to deepen your relationship, to release the fear that you have around money, to embody more trust and expand your wealth consciousness from a place of love, I would love to support you.

Erin Gray:

You know, this is where we get to bring money back into our hearts and our nervous system so that we can continue to build the wealth from a place of, like, full self-expression. If we are a good fit, all you have to do is just click the link in the show notes and you can schedule a call. I truly believe that you know, money has been created for us to share and to circulate and to love on and to give from a place of love, and I think that, as women and men you know, we have such an opportunity to show that money can be a beautiful thing, that it can be an extension of who we are and the love that we have for one another, as opposed to what it has looked like for a lot of us. So, until next time, I want you to know that I believe in you and that I'm rooting for you and that I love you.