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Your Money, Your Rules | Money Mindset, Money Management, Abundance Mindset, Budgeting, Spirituality
165 | Wanting More Isn’t Ungrateful: An Abundance Mindset Shift for Women
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In this episode you'll learn:
- Framing gratitude and desire as partners
- Building desire from sufficiency, not lack
- Holding dual states in the nervous system
- Nature as a model for ongoing expansion
- Filtering true desires from external noise
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Working with the Law by Raymond Holliwell
The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard
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From my soul to yours,
Erin
Welcome back to Your Money, Your Rules podcast with me, your host, Erin Gray. I'm so glad you're here. Today we're going to be talking about feeling grateful and never satisfied. I hear this from clients at times where they ask, like, well, how can I want more without feeling or with yeah, without feeling ungrateful for what I already have? And my answer is that gratitude and desire, they are the same coin. They are partners. So today we're going to be talking about why being grateful and never satisfied isn't a bad thing. It isn't a problem. It's actually part of the human spirit. It's what we came here to do. And it is part of expansion. So let's dive in. So I want to clarify that when I say let's feel grateful and not satisfied, what I mean is let's enjoy all that we have created and what God has blessed us with. And then let's keep going and desiring and expanding and wanting more. In the book, Working with the Law, Raymond Hollowell, I will put this in the show notes. I think I talked about this on the previous episode in a different chapter. But this chapter is in regards to the law of supply. And what he says is that man is never satisfied. This fact is deplored by many, but God did not intend that man should be forever satisfied. The law of his being is perpetual increase, meaning we are always meant to expand and to want more and desire more, more progress, more growth. So when one good is realized, another desire for a greater good will develop. And when a higher state is reached, another and more glorious state will unfold his vision and urge him on and on. Hence, the advancing life is the true life, the life that God intended man to live. And I know that, at least for me, growing up, and even sometimes when I talk to my dad now, like he'll say, like, well, how much is enough? And my answer is always, it's always enough and it's never enough. And what I mean by that is grateful, but never satisfied, right? It's always enough, as in you have to love where you are right now from an abundant place, right? Like what I think what most people try to do is they try to have more, uh, desire more, but from a place of lack. Like it's not good where I am. I want more, and then I'm gonna feel better, versus loving where you are right now, feeling so grateful for where you are right now, and desiring and can't like joyful anticipation of where you are going. Expanding, desiring, wanting more is our natural state. That that I always say this to clients is like the human spirit came here to grow and expand, which is why I call BS on like retiring at 65. Like the human spirit wants to create. And so that doesn't mean that as we are wanting and desiring more, that we are ungrateful for where we are. Gratitude is like it says, like, I love what I have. It's like in the feeling of having, like, that's the way gratitude feels in my body. It's like you're just so grateful and in love with what you have and where you are. And desire is like, and I would love and I'm ready for more. And from that place of sufficiency and wholeness and love and joy and abundance, like, yes, I want more. So I think women are taught so often that wanting more is greedy, or it's selfish, or you're not being grateful, or you're asking for too much. And so we've been conditioned to shrink ourselves, to shrink our desires, to try to, you know, avoid feeling judgment or rocking the boat or to not look or to feel too much, right? Like you're too much, or why do you keep asking for more? And it's a way that has that we've allowed ourselves to stay small. And we do this because we want to please others. And ultimately, what it comes back to is we don't want to feel the discomfort. There are feelings in our body that we are unwilling to feel as because we aren't wanting or desiring or actually going after what we are actually wanting. So, this false belief around, you know, if I want more, it means I'm ungrateful. I want you to just play with you can feel deep, deep gratitude for all of your income right now. And you can want more income. You can feel such immense gratitude for your spouse, and you can want deeper and more meaningful and more connection. You can love your business and think it's amazing, and you can want more growth, right? Like you can love the current home that you are currently in, and you can desire and want a bigger one. You can love the life that you have right now, everything about it. You can love it just right now, just as it is. Like that is the definition I think of sufficiency and pure just love, right? Gratitude. Gratitude to me is on the same frequency of love. And so when you feel just pure love for everything that you have, that everything that God has blessed you in your life, and you can have even a more expansive life, even a bigger life. Like that, that is, I want to normalize that. That is what we came here to do. So wanting more doesn't mean that you're ungrateful. It means that you're alive. It means that your soul is here and to to expand and to grow. You know, desire, I believe, is the beginning of creation. Like in order to create something, we have to desire and want it first. So desire is how your soul communicates with you. It's desire is moving energy. Like we, when we start feeling, and I'm not saying this is the only reason why we start feeling depressed, right? But when we get to stagnation, when we stop dreaming, when we stop desiring, this is where, and I don't necessarily mean the literal depression, but like the feeling, the depressed feelings is because we aren't dreaming and desiring. So I want you to sit with and I want you to ponder what if I were allowed to feel grateful for everything that I have and I want and I desire more because I'm capable of that. You are allowed to feel grateful for what you have and everything that you have and love everything you have and desire more because you are capable of more. These things can coexist at the same time. This is like the duality, right? Like we get to hold several beliefs at the same time. They don't have to be competing beliefs. Your nervous system can hold appreciation for what you already have and can desire and have ambition for more. It can feel contentment for where you are and can and it can also go towards expansion. It can feel stable and enjoy. Like I had a client say, you know, like I just feel like I'm like, she kind of gave the like showed her hand like steady, right? And I said, that's such a beautiful thing. Like it's like that exhale before the next inhale, right? Like we can be stable, we can just be in and enjoy where we are, and we can also, you know, be moving towards growth as well. So this idea that like never satisfied is it's not a problem. It's just what have we been taught to believe that never satisfied? Because a lot of us have been taught that when you're never satisfied, it's coming from like a not enough, right? That that is coming from lack. We want things because we feel like where we are isn't enough. That isn't what I'm saying. I'm saying love where you are and desire more. Think about nature, you know, a tree doesn't stop. I'm like turning and looking out at my, you know, backyard. Like that tree, it doesn't stop growing because it's satisfied. Like nature, I think, is one of our most beautiful and best teachers because it's constantly expanding and growing. The ocean, it doesn't stop moving in and out, right? Because it's grateful for the waves. You know, you don't stop breathing because you're just so grateful for your last breath. So just think about how often are you stopping desires because you're thinking that you should feel grateful for what you have? And how can you start looking at it as I can feel grateful and I can also want and desire more from a place of complete sufficiency and love and joy of where I am and desiring more? So we are meant for expansion. We our desires are proof that that is what our soul came here to do, is to expand. And I always want to illuminate for you is to always check back in with your body and your nervous system, you know. Are you desiring more because someone else is saying that that's what you should want, or that's what you should do? Or, you know, that's we just have, I was just talking to my husband at lunch. It's like we have so much bombardment, like consumption of social media and YouTube and commercials and just all the things of people telling us what we should want. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking about what are your true heart's desires? What do you want for yourself, for your life, for your business, for your children, for your spouse and your relationships and your friendships, the impact that you want to leave on the world. That is what I'm asking you to ponder of like, what do you want and what feels good for you and loving where you are and then desiring more? And like I said, you can feel grateful for everything that you have and still desire and want more from a place of abundance and love and sufficiency. Okay, I will put this book in the show notes. Like I said, this book and the Neville Goddard book. There's probably a couple more, but um, I know there are a couple more that I have that I love that I read on a definitely a weekly basis. I kind of alternate them, but I will put his book in the show notes. That way you have it. I highly recommend getting it and reading it. And just ponder over the next week. What is it that I love and I'm so grateful for right now in my life? And what would I love more of? And this is also something that I told a client as well. It's like it's deeper. It gets like you think that think back years ago where you were just wanting to be where you are right now, you know, that that gratitude that you wanted to feel where you feel right now. And then you're gonna just feel more depths of gratitude, more depths of love and joy and abundance and um fun and experiences and play and all of those things. So sit with this, ponder where are you stopping yourself for wanting more? What are those beliefs that you might have that are coming up that are preventing you from even just writing them down in your journal and then um question it and challenge it. And you know, love where you are and yeah, write down some things that you really would love more of and work towards that. Okay, I will see you in the next episode.